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The Hotline: Wedding Regrets, Layoffs, Taylor Swift's Lip Color, And a Fish Fry Incident · Hey Hana

0:04
SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, welcome into Hey Hannah.
0:06
SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Hannah Ostopcha Krauss.
0:08
SPEAKER_00: I don't know why I say that every time.
0:09
SPEAKER_00: Like, hello, obviously, I'm Hannah.
0:11
SPEAKER_00: Hi, welcome.
0:13
SPEAKER_00: Me saying I'm your host, it sounds so official, but it just sort of rolls out the tongue.
0:18
SPEAKER_00: So it's what I say.
0:19
SPEAKER_00: Anyways, how's everyone doing on this lovely mid-June week?
0:23
SPEAKER_00: Is it mid-June?
0:24
SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
0:25
SPEAKER_00: It's not July yet, but like the summer months frickin' fly, you guys.
0:29
SPEAKER_00: And I don't like it.
0:30
SPEAKER_00: I don't like it at all.
0:31
SPEAKER_00: I need time to slow down.
0:33
SPEAKER_00: I need to enjoy these really long days while they're happening.
0:37
SPEAKER_00: If you've been listening to the podcast for a while, you know that daylight savings to me is pretty much a national holiday.
0:43
SPEAKER_00: And I need to embrace it.
0:44
SPEAKER_00: I just need to embrace these long days.
0:46
SPEAKER_00: Like, oh my god.
0:46
SPEAKER_00: I sometimes I'll just like sit in the dark thought of the fact that we'll eventually have to go back to the sun setting at like 4 p.m.
0:55
SPEAKER_00: Why do I think that?
0:56
SPEAKER_00: Why do I do that to myself?
0:57
SPEAKER_00: I have no idea.
0:58
SPEAKER_00: But alas, it's almost like me telling myself I need to embrace the days and slow the heck down.
1:06
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if anyone feels me on that, but my oh my time is flying.
1:10
SPEAKER_00: I have family coming into town for the 4th of July, and I'm so excited.
1:15
SPEAKER_00: My cousin, who's like my best friend, is coming into town, my brother, um, and then my cousin is bringing her kids and her husband with her.
1:22
SPEAKER_00: And I'm I'm just like so pumped.
1:24
SPEAKER_00: None of these people have met my child yet.
1:26
SPEAKER_00: And that's just like one of the weird things that happens.
1:28
SPEAKER_00: You know, when you have a child in another state and all of your friends and family are elsewhere, they just have to come to you.
1:34
SPEAKER_00: So I'm embracing the season of having a uh rotating door, if you will.
1:40
SPEAKER_00: We've had quite the array of visitors on my side.
1:43
SPEAKER_00: And that's just the way the cookie crumbles.
1:45
SPEAKER_00: Again, most of Peter's family is here in the Midwest.
1:48
SPEAKER_00: So, like, they've all met Andy, and my family has to come to me.
1:51
SPEAKER_00: So, you know, it is what it is.
1:54
SPEAKER_00: I hope everyone had a really great Father's Day.
1:56
SPEAKER_00: If you celebrate Father's Day to any new dads out there, it was Peter's first Father's Day, and thank goodness everything went swimmingly for him.
2:06
SPEAKER_00: I didn't mean that to be a dramatic pause, but you know, I wanted him to have a good day, and he did.
2:11
SPEAKER_00: He had a good day.
2:12
SPEAKER_00: Thank goodness.
2:12
SPEAKER_00: The gifts were fine, everything worked out.
2:16
SPEAKER_00: We were with family all weekend, and it was it was a really fun weekend away.
2:20
SPEAKER_00: We went to this place called Sand Valley, which is a few hours north of where we live, and it was just a perfect little getaway.
2:28
SPEAKER_00: We had my mom and stepdad there, and then Peter's parents were with us, and we all stayed at a house together, and it was a golfing weekend for the guys, and even though it was mostly Peter golfing, and it was a relaxing weekend for the girls.
2:40
SPEAKER_00: You know, it's hard to relax with a three-month-old, almost four-month-old.
2:45
SPEAKER_00: She's heading into what everyone calls like the great regression, right?
2:50
SPEAKER_00: The sleep regression that happens in four months.
2:53
SPEAKER_00: And like, I don't know if anyone has a three-month-old that's similar to mine, but like I haven't slept.
3:00
SPEAKER_00: Period.
3:00
SPEAKER_00: End of story.
3:01
SPEAKER_00: Full stop.
3:03
SPEAKER_00: I have not had a consistent amount of sleep in three months, probably more like four, because you know, the end of pregnancy is weird too.
3:10
SPEAKER_00: With that being said, everybody's talking about, oh, just wait till four months, wait till four months.
3:14
SPEAKER_00: That's when your baby really starts to not sleep.
3:17
SPEAKER_00: And I'm at this phase of like, did I hit it yet?
3:19
SPEAKER_00: I don't even know.
3:20
SPEAKER_00: I think I might just like skim the surface of this four-month-old regression thing that everyone talks about because she's already not sleeping.
3:28
SPEAKER_00: How do I decipher if this is the regression happening or if this is just my girl on a Tuesday?
3:34
SPEAKER_00: Because I think this is just how she's been and this is just, you know, how she wants to be in life right now.
3:39
SPEAKER_00: So I'm in this weird in-between where I'm like sort of bracing myself for things to get a little bit worse with the sleep, but at the same time, knowing that I think we've had it like not great in the sleep department for the past few months.
3:53
SPEAKER_00: Compared to a lot of things I see on the internet.
3:55
SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
3:56
SPEAKER_00: I mean, like you either have a good sleep or a bad sleeper, right?
3:59
SPEAKER_00: Like, who knows?
3:59
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if I totally relaxed, relaxed, but I was able to, you know, when you're home and you're in your routine, it's just like good to get out of it.
4:07
SPEAKER_00: It's good to leave and it's good to come back.
4:09
SPEAKER_00: My grandma always said that.
4:11
SPEAKER_00: It's like the most obvious, ridiculous statement, but it's so true.
4:15
SPEAKER_00: It's good to go and it's good to come back because you get that feeling of like, okay, I gotta go.
4:20
SPEAKER_00: It'll be nice to leave.
4:21
SPEAKER_00: And then when you come home, you're like, oh, okay, it's good to be home.
4:24
SPEAKER_00: And that sort of feeling is the energy I was looking for, which we did.
4:28
SPEAKER_00: Weekend started a little wonky though.
4:32
SPEAKER_00: And I just have to tell the story because, like, to any new moms out there, oh my gosh, I wanted to send out like a life alert text to anyone I knew who was a mom and be like, have you been through this?
4:42
SPEAKER_00: Because I felt crazy.
4:44
SPEAKER_00: So Friday night, this was the day that we traveled.
4:47
SPEAKER_00: So we traveled two hours to the destination.
4:51
SPEAKER_00: And then we got there, we relaxed for like an hour and a half, unpacked, had a snack, and then we all got in the car and we went to a fish fry, a Friday fish fry.
5:01
SPEAKER_00: It was a cute little spot.
5:02
SPEAKER_00: We sat somewhere outside.
5:03
SPEAKER_00: It was great.
5:04
SPEAKER_00: And I knew it was a long time for Andy to be in the car.
5:07
SPEAKER_00: Two hours is a lot for a three-month-old.
5:09
SPEAKER_00: She does not love the car.
5:10
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if any mobs can relate to that, but it's tough times when your kid doesn't love the car.
5:14
SPEAKER_00: But she did okay in two hours.
5:16
SPEAKER_00: And then we put her back in the car.
5:18
SPEAKER_00: She's like, okay, I'm distracting, distracting, distracting, trying to get her not to cry.
5:22
SPEAKER_00: We get to the destination.
5:23
SPEAKER_00: She's totally fine.
5:24
SPEAKER_00: She falls asleep on my chest.
5:26
SPEAKER_00: She's in a little carrier.
5:27
SPEAKER_00: And then suddenly something hits her sideways.
5:32
SPEAKER_00: And she popped all the way off.
5:35
SPEAKER_00: Like, all the way off, would not stop.
5:38
SPEAKER_00: I mean, we had ordered food and it was probably like 30 minutes.
5:41
SPEAKER_00: When this like episode began, I could see from like the distance that our food was arriving.
5:46
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
5:47
SPEAKER_00: Peter and I immediately like take her.
5:49
SPEAKER_00: We're trying to like consult her.
5:50
SPEAKER_00: And you know, you do that thing where you line a quiet corner and bounce up and down.
5:54
SPEAKER_00: You're like talking to the baby.
5:55
SPEAKER_00: You're like, it's okay, it's okay.
5:56
SPEAKER_00: And then that quiet corner wasn't working.
5:58
SPEAKER_00: So we go like across the street.
5:59
SPEAKER_00: Across the street isn't working.
6:00
SPEAKER_00: Oh my God, we go back to the car.
6:02
SPEAKER_00: We're like, let's change her, see if she needs anything.
6:05
SPEAKER_00: Trying to consult her at the car.
6:07
SPEAKER_00: At that point, we had been gone for like 40 minutes, just trying to get her to chill.
6:11
SPEAKER_00: And my mom comes out with our food into go boxes like a saint.
6:15
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much, mom.
6:16
SPEAKER_00: And she's like, just go, go home.
6:18
SPEAKER_00: It had been a long travel day, whatever.
6:19
SPEAKER_00: But can I tell you the craziest thing that happened while we're standing out there?
6:23
SPEAKER_00: People are just like bellying out of this fish fry, right?
6:27
SPEAKER_00: Taking their time, walking slowly to the parking lot, like just mosing on by.
6:34
SPEAKER_00: When, you know, Peter and I have a screaming child.
6:36
SPEAKER_00: I'm trying to not disrupt anyone and to just obviously get her to like calm down.
6:41
SPEAKER_00: And she just decided, I'm done.
6:43
SPEAKER_00: It's bedtime.
6:44
SPEAKER_00: Like it was past her bedtime at that point.
6:45
SPEAKER_00: She was just tired.
6:46
SPEAKER_00: She wasn't having it.
6:47
SPEAKER_00: But I was trying to get her like quiet enough or like chill enough to just put her in the car seat.
6:51
SPEAKER_00: So while she's screaming, this couple bellies up to us very slowly.
6:57
SPEAKER_00: They're just like walking.
6:58
SPEAKER_00: I don't know how to say it, but they're like they're dragging their feet type energy.
7:02
SPEAKER_00: And they clearly had a few drinks.
7:04
SPEAKER_00: And they're just slowly walking up to us.
7:06
SPEAKER_00: And we have our trunk open and like our changing pad there and everything, like diapers astray, and obviously still a screamy child.
7:17
SPEAKER_00: And the guy just starts saying, It's this is a man or a woman.
7:20
SPEAKER_00: And the guy just starts saying, Isn't it just beautiful?
7:24
SPEAKER_00: Isn't it lovely?
7:26
SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, what?
7:27
SPEAKER_00: I can't even hear him over Andy's antics at this point.
7:30
SPEAKER_00: And then while he's saying whatever the heck he's saying and just repeating himself, repeating himself, the woman starts putting her hands out, like she's gonna take my kid.
7:40
SPEAKER_00: I freak out.
7:42
SPEAKER_00: And not actually, I mean she couldn't tell, but like mentally, I'm doing somersaults.
7:45
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, are these people walking towards us?
7:47
SPEAKER_00: They're not walking towards us.
7:48
SPEAKER_00: No, they can't be.
7:48
SPEAKER_00: Oh my God, they are walking towards us.
7:50
SPEAKER_00: Oh, this is gonna be so annoying.
7:51
SPEAKER_00: No, they're actually freaking me out.
7:52
SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, this woman's arms are out.
7:54
SPEAKER_00: What is she doing?
7:55
SPEAKER_00: 911.
7:56
SPEAKER_00: And Peter just immediately stands up and stands between us and he's like, absolutely not, guys, absolutely not.
8:01
SPEAKER_00: Like we need, we need a minute.
8:02
SPEAKER_00: Because then the woman starts saying, Can I hold her?
8:05
SPEAKER_00: Can I take her for you?
8:06
SPEAKER_00: Let me hold her.
8:08
SPEAKER_00: Oh my God.
8:09
SPEAKER_00: I just like, if I have ever had the thought of being like, let me help you with your child, it's been in one place only.
8:18
SPEAKER_00: And that is in the women's bathroom at an airport.
8:22
SPEAKER_00: Because if you've been in that bathroom and you've seen a woman traveling alone with a baby, with a bag, with a changing table, with a suitcase and the backpack and all of this stuff, maybe a coffee in her hand and a water bottle and some toys that are hanging on for dear life.
8:37
SPEAKER_00: You've seen it all, right?
8:39
SPEAKER_00: I so badly in those moments want to say, oh my God, I will stand right here.
8:43
SPEAKER_00: Let me hold something.
8:44
SPEAKER_00: I will not leave.
8:45
SPEAKER_00: Like I promise I'm a normal person.
8:46
SPEAKER_00: Go in the bathroom and do your business.
8:48
SPEAKER_00: I'll stand right here.
8:49
SPEAKER_00: Like, watch my feet.
8:50
SPEAKER_00: I promise I will not leave.
8:51
SPEAKER_00: Something like that.
8:52
SPEAKER_00: Like I've I've thought about how I would conduct this.
8:54
SPEAKER_00: Now, have I ever done it?
8:56
SPEAKER_00: No.
8:56
SPEAKER_00: Because I feel like who in their right mind would let me watch their suitcase or their child?
9:01
SPEAKER_00: They're probably just like in fight or flight mode, and they're like, no, I'm gonna do everything myself because they're committed, right?
9:07
SPEAKER_00: So okay, so that's my thought as a normal person.
9:11
SPEAKER_00: Like as a normal person, I think the only time I would ask someone to really help them is in those moments of like absolute distress, which immediately flags to me in a women's airport bathroom when they're juggling all of it.
9:25
SPEAKER_00: Not in a normal public parking lot outside of a bar when it's pouring rain, didn't mention that, didn't mention that.
9:34
SPEAKER_00: It's pouring rain, and there's two adults, like two adults per child.
9:39
SPEAKER_00: Like it's not even man on man.
9:41
SPEAKER_00: Whatever.
9:42
SPEAKER_00: I just thought these people were Looney Tunes Central Station, like absolute craziness.
9:47
SPEAKER_00: And maybe I just moved here from New York City, and maybe that's why I think that that's crazy.
9:51
SPEAKER_00: And maybe it's people just being so kind in the Midwest.
9:55
SPEAKER_00: And like I know that their intentions were pure.
9:57
SPEAKER_00: They were seemingly normal, cool, fine, lovely people.
10:02
SPEAKER_00: But you know, it was a bar and it was Friday after happy hour time.
10:07
SPEAKER_00: So I assumed the worst.
10:09
SPEAKER_00: I did.
10:09
SPEAKER_00: Anyways, after that, everything was fine, honestly.
10:12
SPEAKER_00: Not to sound dramatic, but like she had a crazy freakout, lasted about 45 minutes.
10:17
SPEAKER_00: We get home, totally wiped, done, tired, slept all night.
10:21
SPEAKER_00: Okay, not all night, but you know what I mean.
10:23
SPEAKER_00: She had a normal night sleep for what's normal for her.
10:26
SPEAKER_00: And then the rest of our weekend was great.
10:28
SPEAKER_00: No major freakouts.
10:29
SPEAKER_00: But yes, it was one of those moments where I just wanted to call all my friends and be like, has your child ever done this?
10:34
SPEAKER_00: Was something wrong?
10:35
SPEAKER_00: Am I doing something wrong?
10:36
SPEAKER_00: And I mean, Peter and I had to just, we're like, you know what?
10:39
SPEAKER_00: She just decided she's tired.
10:40
SPEAKER_00: She wants to go to bed.
10:41
SPEAKER_00: And that's it.
10:42
SPEAKER_00: She wasn't gonna stop freaking out until she knew it was bedtime, like that we were getting her into bed.
10:49
SPEAKER_00: And that was it.
10:50
SPEAKER_00: That was a learning lesson for us.
10:52
SPEAKER_00: A very humbling moment.
10:53
SPEAKER_00: Okay, wow.
10:54
SPEAKER_00: That story took way longer than I thought it would.
10:56
SPEAKER_00: But so for today's episode, I really wanted to do a quick catch-up, a QA.
11:02
SPEAKER_00: I posted something on Instagram and had some of you guys write in some questions.
11:05
SPEAKER_00: So I am going to just dive into those and let's chat.
11:08
SPEAKER_00: Let's chat about all the things.
11:09
SPEAKER_00: All right, I'm just gonna read these in like any order that they came in.
11:12
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
11:12
SPEAKER_00: First question here: how has being married changed your life or career goals?
11:18
SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, I have to think about this.
11:19
SPEAKER_00: Being married, I think changed nothing, if I'm being completely honest.
11:24
SPEAKER_00: In fact, in my mind, the act of getting married actually just enhances my life and career goals because I feel like I have someone to do the things with, you know?
11:35
SPEAKER_00: Obviously, do life with, but help with my career in the weirdest way.
11:39
SPEAKER_00: Not that I think that like I'm married because I could have help with my career, just that I think that the concept of marriage should always elevate your life or at least have you feel that way.
11:50
SPEAKER_00: Now, obviously, you have seasons in life and you have to pause and shift and do all that.
11:55
SPEAKER_00: I think with babies, it actually shifts way more.
11:59
SPEAKER_00: With marriage, I mean, like, look, I had to make a sacrifice.
12:02
SPEAKER_00: I had to move out of New York City, right?
12:04
SPEAKER_00: I had to leave the opportunities I had there and move to the Midwest.
12:08
SPEAKER_00: And in my relationship that led to marriage, that was inevitable for me.
12:13
SPEAKER_00: So fair.
12:14
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
12:14
SPEAKER_00: It's so it so it did change my career goals in that sense.
12:17
SPEAKER_00: Okay, so all right, I just answered my own question by just talking about it.
12:20
SPEAKER_00: So thank you for your patience on that one.
12:22
SPEAKER_00: You do have to make some sacrifices, but I'm a believer that those sacrifices will circle back, you know?
12:28
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if they will.
12:30
SPEAKER_00: But I you do the sacrifice now, thinking later, maybe I can do something and it'll be their turn to sacrifice something.
12:38
SPEAKER_00: And I'm not holding anyone to that, nor do I think anyone should.
12:43
SPEAKER_00: But it's something that sort of simplifies it in my mind.
12:45
SPEAKER_00: Like hopefully this will come out in the wash.
12:48
SPEAKER_00: And if it doesn't, it doesn't.
12:49
SPEAKER_00: I'm sure it'll come out in other ways and not directly in the way that I just said.
12:53
SPEAKER_00: Okay, the question is: how has being married changed your lifeslash career goals?
12:57
SPEAKER_00: Again, I think my life goals are only enhanced now in a marriage, just in a partnership, having someone to do life with.
13:04
SPEAKER_00: I mean, my life goals for so long were to get married and have kids.
13:08
SPEAKER_00: So having someone to live that version of life with is the best.
13:13
SPEAKER_00: Career goals though, I think I always knew that I would have a season of life that slowed down.
13:19
SPEAKER_00: I didn't know that it would come so quickly in my marriage, because obviously we had a baby so soon.
13:26
SPEAKER_00: I think the answer is that I don't think my marriage changed my career goals as much as it changed how I think about success.
13:33
SPEAKER_00: Like before, a lot of my goals were so individual, right?
13:36
SPEAKER_00: Like, what can I build?
13:38
SPEAKER_00: What can I accomplish?
13:40
SPEAKER_00: You know, like what can I achieve?
13:41
SPEAKER_00: And now I think of it more as like we're building something together.
13:45
SPEAKER_00: Um, obviously, career is still important to me.
13:47
SPEAKER_00: It always has been, and doing my own thing is always important to me.
13:52
SPEAKER_00: But it's definitely become one piece of a much bigger picture that includes making a family, building a life together, creating a home together, and having the flexibility and the time to do all of that and to create a life that supports all of that.
14:06
SPEAKER_00: So to answer your question, I don't think it's changed my ambition, but I think in life, like your priorities are just gonna shift and change.
14:13
SPEAKER_00: And right now, my priority is not being at the top of my career.
14:18
SPEAKER_00: It's just not.
14:18
SPEAKER_00: I still want to build a business and pursue big opportunities, but every decision now gets filtered through like, oh, is this a good time for my family to do this?
14:29
SPEAKER_00: You know, it's not just me now, it's me and family.
14:32
SPEAKER_00: But I think that that'll change.
14:33
SPEAKER_00: I think that there's gonna be another season in life where it's like, oh, this actually is a good time for my family if I pursued X, Y, and Z.
14:40
SPEAKER_00: It just has to feel good for everyone, you know?
14:42
SPEAKER_00: Okay, sorry.
14:42
SPEAKER_00: I hope I answered that one okay.
14:44
SPEAKER_00: I started in one place and ended up in a totally different one, but that was good.
14:47
SPEAKER_00: Needed to talk through it.
14:48
SPEAKER_00: Okay, another one.
14:50
SPEAKER_00: How do you like living in the Midwest?
14:52
SPEAKER_00: My partner is from NYC and I'm from Wisconsin.
14:56
SPEAKER_00: He dislikes.
14:57
SPEAKER_00: Ooh, um, uh, I'm sad that he dislikes it.
15:02
SPEAKER_00: Listen, New York City is a crazy place.
15:04
SPEAKER_00: It's a crazy place.
15:06
SPEAKER_00: Your partner being from New York City is tough.
15:10
SPEAKER_00: The people who are from, like born and raised in New York City, have just a different way of doing things.
15:16
SPEAKER_00: They really do.
15:17
SPEAKER_00: I was actually just saying this to my mom.
15:19
SPEAKER_00: The art of doing something quickly in the Midwest doesn't exist.
15:23
SPEAKER_00: It really doesn't.
15:24
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I naturally am so focused on only efficiency.
15:28
SPEAKER_00: Like I'm going to get a coffee and I'm doing it so I can get somewhere else.
15:31
SPEAKER_00: I'm not just going to get a coffee.
15:33
SPEAKER_00: So sometimes the chat about like, how are you?
15:36
SPEAKER_00: What do you like?
15:37
SPEAKER_00: And then like telling me about everything about the coffee or talking about whatever, I'm like, okay, chop chop.
15:43
SPEAKER_00: I asked to be polite not to hear the answer, which is terrible, truly terrible.
15:49
SPEAKER_00: And living in the Midwest has made me slow down.
15:52
SPEAKER_00: And honestly, my husband, who is by nature much slower than me in a very beautiful way, has also made me slow down.
15:59
SPEAKER_00: So I love living in the Midwest.
16:02
SPEAKER_00: I think that it's challenged these parts of me that I think were a little rough around the edges and that needed some nurturing and some like Midwestern love.
16:11
SPEAKER_00: Truly, that's what I think.
16:12
SPEAKER_00: But are there times where I just want to move quickly and do the thing that I need to do and not speak to anyone and like not feel like I'm gonna run into anyone?
16:20
SPEAKER_00: A hundred percent.
16:22
SPEAKER_00: The best part about New York City, and like I'm sure your partner agrees with me on this.
16:25
SPEAKER_00: The best part about New York City is knowing that you'll never see anyone ever again, at all times.
16:33
SPEAKER_00: Like you could stand in the middle of the street and scream, and then nobody's gonna care or look at you weird.
16:38
SPEAKER_00: And it's not gonna be like, did you see that girl scream?
16:41
SPEAKER_00: Like, oh, Hannah, by the way, I saw you two weeks ago.
16:43
SPEAKER_00: You were standing in the middle of the street screaming.
16:45
SPEAKER_00: That's so weird.
16:45
SPEAKER_00: That's what would happen if I did that here.
16:47
SPEAKER_00: Whereas in New York, I would never see any of the people that I just passed again, you know.
16:53
SPEAKER_00: You have this sort of power in being completely anonymous.
16:57
SPEAKER_00: But I have to remind myself that there was sadness that came with that as well in that time of my life.
17:03
SPEAKER_00: Like, there's something so Gilmore girls about knowing people everywhere you go and having the same grocery store and the same routine and the small town farm country life that is here in the Midwest.
17:16
SPEAKER_00: But I'm sad that your partner dislikes the Midwest.
17:18
SPEAKER_00: I basically came to a point where I realized, like, when I was living in New York City, I used to leave almost every weekend.
17:24
SPEAKER_00: Okay, not every weekend, that's dramatic.
17:25
SPEAKER_00: But I would plan my life around, like, oh, I need a break from the city, I need to get out.
17:29
SPEAKER_00: And I would go to a friend's place in upstate.
17:32
SPEAKER_00: It wasn't really upstate.
17:33
SPEAKER_00: She'd get mad at me for saying that.
17:34
SPEAKER_00: That's such a thing, the line of the upstate.
17:36
SPEAKER_00: I don't know where the line is.
17:37
SPEAKER_00: It wasn't all the way upstate.
17:39
SPEAKER_00: I would take the train to like Katona, if anyone knows where that is.
17:42
SPEAKER_00: I'd get off at Katona and I'd go to Walkabuck.
17:45
SPEAKER_00: A really beautiful small town that's just like a small metro ride away.
17:51
SPEAKER_00: But I would go there all the time.
17:52
SPEAKER_00: Anytime she invited me, I'd be like, Oh, my chance to leave the city?
17:55
SPEAKER_00: Sayonara, I'm going.
17:56
SPEAKER_00: My brother lives in Rhode Island.
17:58
SPEAKER_00: He'd be like, Hey, do you want to come visit me this weekend?
18:00
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, let me spend$300 on a freaking train ticket.
18:02
SPEAKER_00: But yeah, sure.
18:04
SPEAKER_00: Let me do it because I need fresh air and I need to get out of the city.
18:07
SPEAKER_00: So in that phase of life, I met Peter and I realized how much I was craving the like slow, wide open spaces, Midwestern feel of things without ever knowing what the Midwest really felt like.
18:19
SPEAKER_00: I say, Yeah, I don't know.
18:20
SPEAKER_00: I wish I had some ideas for your partner to like get the New York City fix, but there really is not a good way of doing it here.
18:27
SPEAKER_00: But I am gonna defend him because New Yorkers get a bad rep and I really think they are the most supportive people.
18:33
SPEAKER_00: Like every time I carry my stroller up a flight of stairs or down a flight of stairs, or even like up and down a curb, I think about how many times I witnessed someone doing that in the New York City subway without ever glancing at the person they were helping.
18:45
SPEAKER_00: People just grab an end of a stroller getting off of a subway with their headphones on, not even turn around, pick it up, drop it, so everything is seamless for the other person driving the stroller, and then they just carry on.
18:57
SPEAKER_00: I I will always think that's the coolest thing.
18:59
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you remind your partner of that, that like that cool, supportive part of New York is still here in the Midwest.
19:05
SPEAKER_00: It's just a little friendlier, you know?
19:08
SPEAKER_00: Okay, next question.
19:09
SPEAKER_00: What is the best career advice you have?
19:12
SPEAKER_00: Hoi.
19:13
SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, the first thing that comes to my mind is how often people give you advice in your career.
19:22
SPEAKER_00: And of course, this is me giving you advice, but I'm gonna like zoom out here.
19:25
SPEAKER_00: People will tell you what to do, especially in your industry.
19:28
SPEAKER_00: Like they will direct you and tell you what they think is best.
19:32
SPEAKER_00: In your gut, you know whether or not to listen to them.
19:35
SPEAKER_00: And I think early on in my TV career, I learned the art of like shaking my head yes, being like, oh yeah, that's a great idea.
19:45
SPEAKER_00: Okay, yep.
19:45
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
19:46
SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
19:47
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for your advice.
19:48
SPEAKER_00: And then knowing full blown in my mind, I was like, no, abort, terrible idea, never gonna do that.
19:55
SPEAKER_00: Tomato, tomato, tomato, trash.
19:57
SPEAKER_00: Like, not listening to this person.
19:59
SPEAKER_00: What I'm trying to say is my best career advice is to listen to yourself, listen to your gut.
20:04
SPEAKER_00: Because you know at the end of the day what you want and your what your goals are.
20:08
SPEAKER_00: You also know what your strengths and your core weaknesses are, without all of the like bullshit resume stuff.
20:16
SPEAKER_00: I'm talking like you know who you are and you know what you're good at.
20:19
SPEAKER_00: So when somebody says, this is what you need to do to get to X, Y, and Z, you need to change this or tweak that, or you need to be a little bit better at that.
20:27
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's very constructive advice.
20:29
SPEAKER_00: Like sometimes it's like, oh my God, thank you for saying that.
20:31
SPEAKER_00: I need to remember that or I need to work on that.
20:34
SPEAKER_00: Other times it's just advice that that person knows and it's not for you.
20:39
SPEAKER_00: And I found that to be so evident in my career, especially early on, trying to get a name for myself in television.
20:47
SPEAKER_00: So many people would watch reels all day.
20:49
SPEAKER_00: This is like before Instagram reels exist.
20:51
SPEAKER_00: Oh my God.
20:51
SPEAKER_00: This I'm talking about, like when you make a hosting reel, like I have to put together a montage of everything I've done on air and send it to different agencies when I wanted an agent.
21:00
SPEAKER_00: I did that whole thing, and then sending it to different networks when you want a new job.
21:03
SPEAKER_00: And so many people give their opinion on your reel when they watch it.
21:06
SPEAKER_00: They say, Your reel is good, but and I'm talking about the montage I make.
21:10
SPEAKER_00: Your reel is good, but you have too many of these clips and you need a little bit more of those.
21:15
SPEAKER_00: The advice would be something like, I see you doing too much of in studio and you need to do a little bit more on the field, or make sure you have it, looks like you're having too much fun in your reel.
21:25
SPEAKER_00: You need to make sure you could be taken seriously too.
21:26
SPEAKER_00: Like that was what I heard all the time.
21:28
SPEAKER_00: And I never listened to them.
21:30
SPEAKER_00: So funny.
21:30
SPEAKER_00: Like I never changed my reel to be more serious because I'm like, I don't want those jobs.
21:35
SPEAKER_00: Shoot, I don't want to sit there and be like a talking serious head.
21:37
SPEAKER_00: That's so not me.
21:38
SPEAKER_00: It's just not me.
21:39
SPEAKER_00: I needed to do like personality driven content, you know, which is so funny because that's like the majority of what exists now.
21:44
SPEAKER_00: But, anyways, I digress.
21:46
SPEAKER_00: My best career advice is to listen to your gut when people give you advice and to be so polite and to tell them, thank you so much.
21:53
SPEAKER_00: I appreciate that.
21:54
SPEAKER_00: You're right, blah, blah, blah.
21:56
SPEAKER_00: Whatever you need to say to appease them, and then digest it before you fully accept.
22:00
SPEAKER_00: That advice.
22:01
SPEAKER_00: Is this for me?
22:02
SPEAKER_00: Should I be doing that?
22:03
SPEAKER_00: Is this person just saying this?
22:04
SPEAKER_00: Not everyone's advice is worth following.
22:08
SPEAKER_00: Maybe even this one.
22:10
SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're listening to this and you're like, no, no, thanks.
22:13
SPEAKER_00: Tomato, tomato, tomato, trash.
22:14
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna do something else.
22:15
SPEAKER_00: Totally fine.
22:16
SPEAKER_00: Do you?
22:16
SPEAKER_00: Okay, next one.
22:17
SPEAKER_00: Um, wedding advice.
22:19
SPEAKER_00: Ooh, any wedding drama or stressful parts?
22:21
SPEAKER_00: How do I navigate it?
22:22
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
22:22
SPEAKER_00: In hindsight, looking back at my wedding, I made a few grave errors, like bad errors that truly keep me awake at night.
22:31
SPEAKER_00: Um, one of them is that I did not invite very critical people in my life, thinking that I was doing them a favor by not inviting them, because I was trying to keep my wedding really small.
22:41
SPEAKER_00: My wedding was around the holidays, so it was expensive to travel.
22:43
SPEAKER_00: And I just like didn't want to burden people with the idea of coming to my wedding, which is not the greatest way to think about your own wedding.
22:53
SPEAKER_00: I don't know why I do that.
22:54
SPEAKER_00: I think it's because I got married later in life.
22:56
SPEAKER_00: I spent so many years going to weddings in my 20s and early 30s and always feeling this like burden of having to go and be like raw-rah for my friends.
23:04
SPEAKER_00: The bachelorettes, the showers, the everything.
23:07
SPEAKER_00: So like I didn't invite people thinking I was doing them a solid because that's how I felt about life events, which is kind of backwards, but whatever.
23:15
SPEAKER_00: So if I could go back, I would invite the like four people I'm thinking of that I'm like, why did I, why, why did I do that?
23:22
SPEAKER_00: And honestly, I think they even know who they are.
23:24
SPEAKER_00: Like, I I feel I like I feel stupid that I did that.
23:27
SPEAKER_00: I was pregnant, I wasn't thinking right.
23:30
SPEAKER_00: I felt I so many moving parts, like so many moving parts.
23:34
SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh.
23:34
SPEAKER_00: So yeah, that is stressful for me in the aftermath.
23:37
SPEAKER_00: Stressful in the moment.
23:38
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if there was really anything that I found super stressful, just like getting everything done in time.
23:42
SPEAKER_00: Like, I feel like I sent my invitations out pretty last minute.
23:46
SPEAKER_00: I ended up doing a save the date by mail, and then I did my invitation actually online and it made it so much easier.
23:55
SPEAKER_00: And people will be like, you have to do the full presentation of the invitation.
23:59
SPEAKER_00: No, you don't.
24:00
SPEAKER_00: You don't.
24:01
SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter.
24:02
SPEAKER_00: People throw it away, anyways.
24:03
SPEAKER_00: It's a piece of paper.
24:04
SPEAKER_00: If you want it to be perfect and have butterflies fly out, like that's great, and you should do that.
24:09
SPEAKER_00: Like, if that's where you want to put your money and if you've always visualized it looking a certain way, then like go do it.
24:14
SPEAKER_00: But there's a lot of like, you have to do this by the book and whatever.
24:17
SPEAKER_00: And like, just remember you don't.
24:19
SPEAKER_00: You can do anything you want, like, truly anything you want.
24:21
SPEAKER_00: You can walk down that aisle wearing purple.
24:23
SPEAKER_00: It's whatever you want.
24:24
SPEAKER_00: Outside of that weird thing that I did by not inviting people, I don't know if there was anything that was super stressful leading up to it.
24:30
SPEAKER_00: You know, families are gonna be crazy.
24:32
SPEAKER_00: Like, just maybe tell yourself that.
24:34
SPEAKER_00: My mom, as a therapist, has always told me that the places where chaos ensues is where family gatherings exist.
24:43
SPEAKER_00: So, funerals, weddings, baptisms, all of it.
24:47
SPEAKER_00: Like, you're there's gonna be drama, there's gonna be some weird story.
24:50
SPEAKER_00: It's all just gonna be a part of the stories that you look back on and kind of laugh and kind of cringe and whatever, but it happens to everyone.
24:57
SPEAKER_00: We just don't see it when everyone's posting their like beautiful pictures on Instagram.
25:00
SPEAKER_00: But I promise everybody has awkward family situations or like weird bridesmaid situations.
25:06
SPEAKER_00: I don't know if you have bridesmaids.
25:07
SPEAKER_00: That was something that one of my friends said that was her regret was like not including, like she could only have three bridesmaids.
25:13
SPEAKER_00: And she was like, I really should have just added the one person I didn't have in there because I was trying to abide by the rule that I needed three, like stuff like that.
25:22
SPEAKER_00: I know that that was a regret for people.
25:24
SPEAKER_00: And that's similar to mine, right?
25:26
SPEAKER_00: Like, just like include everyone, just do it, include everyone because feelings get hurt.
25:29
SPEAKER_00: But I uh I didn't have bridesmaids, so I can't totally relate to that one.
25:34
SPEAKER_00: But it's like, but it's pretty much the same thing.
25:36
SPEAKER_00: My biggest piece of wedding advice is to not let anything or anyone for that matter stop you from feeling like the most joyful childhood version of yourself.
25:48
SPEAKER_00: I always said this.
25:49
SPEAKER_00: I wanted to be like laughing my way down the aisle.
25:51
SPEAKER_00: I just think that you should be feeling like no weird technical error or you know, attitude from your great uncle, like no weird thing should get in the way of you feeling like that version of you that's always dreamed of that day, you know?
26:05
SPEAKER_00: So just sort of keep telling yourself that.
26:07
SPEAKER_00: Also, it's one day, and it's like the best part about a wedding is the fact that you're now married and being married is so much fun.
26:15
SPEAKER_00: So, like, remember that there's a lot of energy about the actual day, and like the day has to be perfect, and like it doesn't, it's actually totally fine if it's not, and your life will be so much fun.
26:24
SPEAKER_00: So it really doesn't matter.
26:25
SPEAKER_00: It's like one day that you're gonna tell your kids about and have so much fun reliving and so much fun in it.
26:31
SPEAKER_00: But if it's not perfect, it's just gonna be a part of the stories you tell and the rest of your life is gonna be so much fun with that person, you know?
26:38
SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'm gonna do a couple more questions.
26:40
SPEAKER_00: I'm now holding Andy, by the way.
26:42
SPEAKER_00: If you hear her, we had to pause.
26:45
SPEAKER_00: Okay, another one.
26:46
SPEAKER_00: Tips on layoffs and taking the leap to pivot from being in sports after so many years.
26:50
SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, I totally understand this one.
26:54
SPEAKER_00: Pivoting away from sports for me was like a weird personality change.
26:58
SPEAKER_00: In fact, it took me so many years to do it.
27:00
SPEAKER_00: I said that I was gonna leave sports like almost a decade ago, and fully tried to get into entertainment because you know, I love talking all pop culture, everything.
27:09
SPEAKER_00: And I didn't do it.
27:10
SPEAKER_00: It's actually like I started in sports, my resume was in sports.
27:14
SPEAKER_00: It was easier to just stay in sports.
27:15
SPEAKER_00: Um, and then COVID happened, and you know, I was like, you know what?
27:17
SPEAKER_00: I'll take anything I can get, which happened to be in sports.
27:21
SPEAKER_00: So I fully understand the leap.
27:22
SPEAKER_00: It is like a daunting, weird leap to leave sports.
27:25
SPEAKER_00: I'm really trying to put myself back in that position because I remember even doing morning news, and I'd always dreamed of doing morning news.
27:31
SPEAKER_00: And then I did it, and I was like, part of me kind of missed sports, which was crazy.
27:35
SPEAKER_00: But it's just like it's the weirdest industry, and it's such a giant bubble, and it feels really hard to leave.
27:41
SPEAKER_00: Honestly, my best advice in this situation is, and this is my like spiritual side coming out, is that God will provide where he guides.
27:49
SPEAKER_00: I always think that.
27:50
SPEAKER_00: So, no, wait, what am I trying to say?
27:52
SPEAKER_00: Did I say that backwards?
27:53
SPEAKER_00: God will provide where he guides.
27:55
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, okay.
27:55
SPEAKER_00: Go where you feel guided.
27:57
SPEAKER_00: Go where you feel like the opportunity exists, even if you're unsure of whether or not it's where you always saw yourself.
28:03
SPEAKER_00: I think there's a lot to be said about being a big fish in a little pond.
28:08
SPEAKER_00: I think sometimes in the sports world, it's so easy to be like caught up in the name of the company that you work for.
28:15
SPEAKER_00: Cause that was a thing for me.
28:16
SPEAKER_00: I'm just speaking for myself.
28:17
SPEAKER_00: Like I always wanted to work for the big brands, you know.
28:20
SPEAKER_00: Like if you're not at some of the top-tier networks in sports, it's sort of like, ugh, what am I doing?
28:25
SPEAKER_00: Anyone, does anyone even watch this?
28:27
SPEAKER_00: Like, do you know what I mean?
28:28
SPEAKER_00: It's sort of feels like it sort of feels competitive.
28:31
SPEAKER_00: And then when you leave it, you just have to remember that like everything that you thought was important in the sports world isn't anywhere else.
28:41
SPEAKER_00: You know?
28:42
SPEAKER_00: I think the biggest lesson in leaving sports is remembering that your skills translate in so many different ways.
28:48
SPEAKER_00: And you're not like starting over somewhere else.
28:50
SPEAKER_00: There's so much of like storytelling and branding and production and interviewing and management that you can apply in a completely different way.
28:59
SPEAKER_00: And that's why I'm saying like go where you feel guided, because it may not be the most logical transition.
29:04
SPEAKER_00: I mean, I know people who left sports and went into real estate.
29:06
SPEAKER_00: Like, I think you can really do anything.
29:09
SPEAKER_00: It's just a matter of where you feel like, okay, where do I see myself?
29:12
SPEAKER_00: Where do I feel like I could be fulfilled?
29:16
SPEAKER_00: I also think, by the way, sports is a grind.
29:18
SPEAKER_00: It is such a grind.
29:19
SPEAKER_00: Like the hours are crazy.
29:21
SPEAKER_00: You work holidays because that's the peak time when sports are happening, you know?
29:26
SPEAKER_00: Christmas and Thanksgiving don't ever get a break.
29:29
SPEAKER_00: And I remember the first time I had like Christmas off in a few years.
29:31
SPEAKER_00: And I was like, oh my God, I forgot what it's like to not be running around over the holidays to actually embrace it, like to actually have five days off for Christmas, you know?
29:41
SPEAKER_00: So, like embrace that side of it, embrace the side that is a little bit more work-life balance and a little bit more flexible.
29:49
SPEAKER_00: Honestly, just like the only thing you can do is like dive in wholeheartedly to a place where you feel guided.
29:54
SPEAKER_00: If I was ever in this situation, like if I'm ever in this situation, I just pray that God will show me where to go and to sort of like give me signs on where I'm supposed to be.
30:04
SPEAKER_00: You know, it's kind of cheesy, but it works.
30:07
SPEAKER_00: Like just pray about it and just know that you'll find your rhythm elsewhere.
30:10
SPEAKER_00: And suddenly you're gonna be like, wow, how did I ever do that?
30:13
SPEAKER_00: How did I ever do that sports grind?
30:15
SPEAKER_00: I hope that was an okay answer, but I I do think when you zoom out of the sports bubble, you realize how competitive and sometimes phony baloney it could really be.
30:26
SPEAKER_00: Um, okay, I'm gonna run through some of the next some of these next ones.
30:28
SPEAKER_00: How do you deal with sleep deprivation?
30:30
SPEAKER_00: You seem to go just like normal.
30:31
SPEAKER_00: Oh my God, girl.
30:33
SPEAKER_00: I do not, I do not.
30:36
SPEAKER_00: Sleep deprivation is so real.
30:38
SPEAKER_00: I would say, I told you guys, I think I was like, I experience sleep deprivation in like forms of anger.
30:45
SPEAKER_00: Like, really, truly, that's my reaction.
30:47
SPEAKER_00: I will get like angry at nothing.
30:49
SPEAKER_00: And so that's how I handle it.
30:50
SPEAKER_00: And I try not to, but that's why I try to work out.
30:52
SPEAKER_00: Oh my God, working out is the only thing that keeps me sane.
30:55
SPEAKER_00: Most days I don't have time.
30:57
SPEAKER_00: Going for a walk helps, but like, I don't know, the sleep deprivation is so hard.
31:01
SPEAKER_00: And I really think we all are just doing our best.
31:04
SPEAKER_00: Like, just give yourself grace.
31:06
SPEAKER_00: You're doing your best.
31:07
SPEAKER_00: Maybe find like one little thing to do for yourself every day that you look forward to that's like your thing.
31:12
SPEAKER_00: Even if it's like watching your show or listening to your podcast, even if you're doing it while you're nursing or nap-trapped, like anything, just like try to find a little moment where you're like, ah, okay, I chose this today.
31:24
SPEAKER_00: That's what helps me.
31:25
SPEAKER_00: I say that, and like I still haven't watched the most recent episode of Summer House, which is all I've wanted to do for the past week.
31:32
SPEAKER_00: Next question: how's Andy doing in her crib?
31:34
SPEAKER_00: She's doing okay.
31:35
SPEAKER_00: She we just moved her to a crib a few nights ago.
31:38
SPEAKER_00: And it's crazy how big she is in this little crib.
31:41
SPEAKER_00: Like, oh my goodness.
31:43
SPEAKER_00: It made me sad, but the crib is still very close to me.
31:45
SPEAKER_00: Like, I don't know why I say that.
31:46
SPEAKER_00: It's like in our room.
31:47
SPEAKER_00: But she's doing okay.
31:48
SPEAKER_00: She's she actually is enjoying it.
31:50
SPEAKER_00: It seems to be going good for now.
31:52
SPEAKER_00: But if I could just get her sleep pattern on point, that would be my next goal.
31:57
SPEAKER_00: Okay, just a few more.
31:58
SPEAKER_00: How did you handle having visitors once you got home with Andy?
32:02
SPEAKER_00: Ooh, this is tough because as I said in the beginning of the episode, I have had a rotation of visitors.
32:09
SPEAKER_00: Looking back, I honestly wish I said no to like a lot more visitors though.
32:13
SPEAKER_00: And I'm not even talking about like my family or anything.
32:15
SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about like people just stopping by.
32:17
SPEAKER_00: There's certain people who you feel like you can turn off with and they can stop by, but there's other people where you feel like you need to just sort of be on and they want to visit and like they want to help.
32:27
SPEAKER_00: There's some people, it's like you're just not mentally there.
32:32
SPEAKER_00: I heard someone else say this on a podcast and they were like, if you love me, don't talk to me for three months.
32:38
SPEAKER_00: Maybe just tell your best friends and family that.
32:40
SPEAKER_00: Like, I love you, but I just had a baby and um I can't.
32:44
SPEAKER_00: I can't like call me in three months.
32:46
SPEAKER_00: Oh, one of my best friends was like, I'm so sorry, I haven't talked to you.
32:49
SPEAKER_00: And I was like, No, no, I love you.
32:50
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for not talking to me, like for not texting me saying, Hello, I haven't seen you, give me pictures, da-da-da-da.
32:57
SPEAKER_00: Like, cause you're just sort of out of your mind for those, especially that first month, those first few weeks.
33:02
SPEAKER_00: But people want to stop over and visit.
33:04
SPEAKER_00: And if they want to bring something over, just like tell them that you'll be upstairs or that she's going down for a nap, even if they're not.
33:11
SPEAKER_00: Just like, if you need to avoid the conversation, just avoid it.
33:16
SPEAKER_00: There's really nothing wrong with being like, I'm so sorry I can't visit today.
33:19
SPEAKER_00: You know, maybe we could do this another time, or maybe we could do this sometime soon.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for thinking of me.
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SPEAKER_00: And just call it like it is.
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SPEAKER_00: Because at the end of the day, people are just showing you love and they want to meet your new baby and they are so excited for you.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's such a beautiful time, but it's like it's hard.
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SPEAKER_00: It's it really is hard.
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SPEAKER_00: So yeah, again, maybe just tell your closest people like, I love you, don't call me.
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SPEAKER_00: I love you, don't come over.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, last one.
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SPEAKER_00: This is so funny.
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SPEAKER_00: What do we think of Taylor and Travis's MSG wedding?
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SPEAKER_00: This is so fun.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, I thought it was a lie.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't believe it's a lie anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: I believe it's happening.
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SPEAKER_00: I think that we all see MSG as one thing, and MSG is really gonna be like another beautiful thing.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's a it's a great place for a couple like that.
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SPEAKER_00: They're gonna have a huge wedding.
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SPEAKER_00: They're both incredibly comfortable in giant arenas and stadiums.
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SPEAKER_00: The security will be top-notch there.
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SPEAKER_00: I actually think it's like the more I think about it, the more I'm like, that's a great idea.
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SPEAKER_00: The only thing that's lacking is like natural light.
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SPEAKER_00: Like that part makes me sad.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, everybody gets married when it's like the sun is setting and da-da-da-da-da.
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SPEAKER_00: Like, they won't have that, but I'm sure they will like be able to mock it with like beautiful lighting in some way.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm more interested in what her outfit will be.
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SPEAKER_00: Like, honestly, I cannot wait to see what she looks like as a bride.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know if if and when we're ever gonna see those photos, but I'll be upset if she does a red lip.
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SPEAKER_00: It really will.
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SPEAKER_00: Like, I don't want her to do her classic red lip, and that's my biggest concern.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm crazy.
34:46
SPEAKER_00: I know.
34:47
SPEAKER_00: I don't know why, I don't know why I think of these things.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, wow, so this was much longer of an episode than I thought it would be.
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SPEAKER_00: I was like, oh, I'll hop on for a quick 15 minutes.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you guys so much for writing in your questions, I really appreciate it.
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SPEAKER_00: And hopefully, I'll get to more of them next time.
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SPEAKER_00: Always feel free to DM me, Ribey Questions, advice, all of it.
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SPEAKER_00: I love talking about it.
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SPEAKER_00: I love hearing what you guys are watching on TV.
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SPEAKER_00: All the fun things.
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SPEAKER_00: Like, please distract me.
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SPEAKER_00: But I hope everyone has a great week.
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SPEAKER_00: Talk to you soon.
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SPEAKER_00: Bye for now.