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100. Can You Stand the Rain · Your Enriched Self

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  Up to see the sunshine, you have to weather the storm. Well,
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  I'm going to say to you in another way, because back in nineteen eighty
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  eight, New Additions said it to us like this. They said, on
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  a perfect day, I know that I can count on you. When that's
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  not possible, tell me, can you weather the storm? It goes on
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  to say sunny days, everybody loves them, but tell me can you stand
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  the rain? Storms will come? This we know for sure, but can
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  you stand the rain? I had to understand the creative process around this music
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  that we got back in nineteen eighty eight. Yes, I'm a fan of
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  New Addition, and what I learned was, or what the tea is,
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  is that these men as they were touring, we're growing from city to city,
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  and these relationships were not able to weather the storm of all the things
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  that would come about right when they had to leave that city and go on
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  another tour. So it was a conversation about relationships, as I'm sure the
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  fans that are listening to this can attest to. But we definitely need to
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  talk about this because I'm not getting into your relationship business, but I'm going
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  to find out from you today. Can you stand the ring. Hello,
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  my friends from all across the globe and welcome. Welcome to the urin Retel
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  podcast. I am your host, Miley Noir. I am a mindset coach
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  and your mindset advocate, and I'm excited. Today is a special day.
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  If you are a new listener, welcome, You are in for a treat.
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  If you're a repeat listener, I'm grateful to have you here. Because
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  of you, we are on episode one hundred. Yes, we have arrived
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  at the one hundred episode of the Your Enrichselb podcasts. And I could not
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  have done it without each and every one of you, including my new listeners,
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  So welcome to everyone. This is an exciting show. I am grateful
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  for this moment, but I'm grateful for every moment that led up to this,
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  and that's what we talk about here on the podcast, not just the
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  things that we need to celebrate, but all the steps that it took for
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  us to get to this moment. And I promise you and you know this,
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  those steps are not always pretty. Not all of those moments are going
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  to be great, but there are things in those moments to be grateful for,
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  and that's what we talk about here on this podcast. I am your
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  host, and I want to walk it out with you, and I want
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  to talk it out with you because I know if you are listening to this
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  episode, if you are listening to this podcast, you want to be You
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  want to show up in the world as the best version of yourself. And
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  that's the work that I'm committed to doing. And after a hundred episodes,
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  I am more than committed to doing it. I'm so excited. Can you
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  tell? Can you tell the excitement that is in the air. I hope
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  you can feel the energy of that, because I want you to take what
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  you can from this episode and I want you to become more of your in
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  rid self and it starts in this moment. That's why each week I curate
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  the podcast for a moment like this so we can have celebration and exhilaration,
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  because that's what I am feeling pumping through my blood right now. That's what
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  I can feel pumping through my body. And it feels good. It really
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  does. Now if you know, you know before we dive into this week's
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  episode, because it's a jew see, happy, wonderful, It's everything,
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  It's all the things that you can imagine that you want for yourself and all
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  the things I want for you. But before we get into the episode,
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  if you know, you know I always make a deposit. I've been making
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  deposits in the bank of you for a hundred weeks, for a hundred episodes.
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  I've been making a deposit in the bank of you, and I'm not
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  going to stop now. So let's get into this week's affirmation. Affirmations are
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  a great way to start your day and to command your morning, And this
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  week's affirmation is I trust there is a way through this, even if I
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  don't see it right now. I trust there is a way through this.
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  Even if I don't see it right now. I trust there is a way
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  through this, even if I don't see it right now. Now, get
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  ready for episode one hundred of the Your and rich Self Podcast. According to
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  whether dot Gov, there are actual ingredients for a storm, believe it or
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  not, So I wanted to share that with you since we're talking about weathering
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  storms and all of that today. So one of the ingredients is dampness.
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  And you know me, I'm going to look up the definition because I want
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  to make sure we know what we're talking about and we have good reference points.
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  So dampness is to diminish the activity or intensity of that's ingredient number one.
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  Ingredient number two is instability, and instability is lack of emotional or mental
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  stability. Lifting. Ingredient number three is lifting to take out of a normal
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  setting, take out of a normal setting. And the last ingredient and you
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  might have already guessed this wind and wind is a destructive force or influence.
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  Now, wait a minute, doesn't that sound like life the last few days?
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  Doesn't that sound like life the last few years, or maybe the last
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  week, or maybe even last season. Life be life in that's all shirt
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  like that, And it's so true, and it really has a mysterious way
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  of just throwing these curveballs at us. And they come with destructive force.
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  They come and present you with emotional and mental instability. They come to thrust
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  you out of your normal setting, and you're left overwhelmed. If I know
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  you, you're exhausted. But I want us to do what we don't get
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  to do out there in the world. This is our safe space. And
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  so I want you to spend some time in your thoughts today, because the
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  easy way out is to stop, to surrender to the curveballs to stop and
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  allow the overwhelmed to take over. It's tempting, but I promise you there's
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  light, there's a fight that you need to go into, that you need
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  to step into that arena. Don't fall into the temptation of stopping, because
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  I've been there. I've been the stop girl and then restart girl, and
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  then stop girl and restart girl. And I know if you're listening, you've
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  dealt with that. You've dealt with that frustration, and all it does is
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  it makes you feel bad about yourself and it leaves you overwhelmed. Today,
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  we stay in the fight, we are standing in and through this storm,
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  whatever it is that you're going through, because when you get out of this,
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  not even when you get out of it. While you're going through it,
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  you are building you. You are building you the next version of you.
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  And just like your iPhone and the technology in your house, your TV,
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  whatever it is that you have, that thing's gonna need to be upgraded.
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  That thing is gonna need to at the next software update or be enhanced
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  in some type of way. And that is exactly what's happening to you right
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  now. And it may not look like that because I don't know about you,
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  but sitting through that software update means I can't receive calls, I can't
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  make calls, text messages, I can't get on social media. I can't.
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  I can't, I can't. There's a lot of pausing that has to
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  happen. But it's okay because on the other side of it, you have
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  all the enhancements, plus the bonus things that you need even expect that you
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  were going to get. Oh and by the way, the bugs, those
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  things get rectified. So yes, at the end of this, your character
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  is going to be grander. You are at the birthplace of resilience in the
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  midst of the chaos, in the midst of all of it, you got
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  to find the strength that you need to persevere and thrive and stand in the
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  ring. But my question to you today is where do you find a strength?
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  Where have you traditionally gone to find that strength? And perhaps do you
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  need to change course, do you need to pivot, do you need to
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  go elsewhere into a new circle? What do you need to do to find
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  the strength that you need to push through and stay in the fight. It's
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  important to get to that point because you're fighting for your personal growth. You're
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  fighting for your success, your definition of success, not to be confused with
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  what the world says, but what you know to be success for you.
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  And ultimately, you want a fulfilling life. You want a more fulfilling life,
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  and that's why you are here to identify these things so you can come
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  out on the other side with those experiences of personal growth, success and a
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  more fulfilling life. So what do you do? What do you need to
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  do to be able to get through this moment, to get through this season,
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  to get through this storm. The first thing you're going to need to
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  do is embrace the chaos. And I know that sounds kind of productive.
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  People often say when you're going through a storm, the only thing you can
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  go is through it. You don't want to stay in it. You don't
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  want to go back because you're eventually going to have to face that thing.
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  And so it's important to embrace that thing because you're going to have to face
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  it. And so that means you're embracing the fear of it. And you
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  must because what you resist. If you decide to resist this thing, it's
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  going to stay on your radar, it's going to persist, and this is
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  your opportunity for growth. And so what that basically means is that you need
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  to accept the unpredictability that life is going to bring. Remember the curveballs we
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  talked about. It's gonna send those curveballs. So it's important for you to
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  understand that when the curveballs come, you can use that ball to play in
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  another game of life that's gonna come up, because there's going to be a
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  moment where that ball can go back into play. There's going to be a
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  moment that you learn the skill set of catching the ball that was thrown your
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  way. And that's what it's all about, because now you're being pushed outside
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  of your comfort zone. Now you're learning a new skill. Now you have
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  new insights and understanding, and it's all because you got thrown that curveball.
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  Who knew you could catch that thing? And that's what this is all about.
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  Open up your mind and be willing to adapt because it's going to come
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  about. Be willing to play a different sport. I know you like basketball,
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  but there's gonna come a time in life where you're gonna have to play
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  football or know how to play the game, know the rules of the engagement
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  of playing that game and that's what it's going to be. That's what it's
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  going to take, So embrace the chaos. The next thing you gotta do
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  is cultivate resilience. I know those are two fancy words thrown together. Let
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  me let me break it all the way down for you. Let's get real
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  practical. Prepare, Prepare, Prepare for the difficulties. Prepare by being flexible,
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  by being adaptable. In other words, when the curveball is thrown at
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  you, make sure you have a myth. You might be able to catch
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  it without the myth, but I don't know about you have played softball,
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  baseball back in the day, and when you don't have a mint and you
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  try to catch a ball coming with the speed and the velocity and all of
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  the elements that come along with it, it can sting, it can hurt,
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  and so you want to be prepared. And that's what cultivating resistance is
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  all about. There's going to be different aspects of your life that you're going
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  to have to prepare for, because preparing for that means you're building up your
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  resistance, and that is the cornerstone for you to stay in the fight.
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  Again, I can catch the ball without a myth. But if I do
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  that, I might have to go get some help. I might have to
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  go to the doctor to ensure that I can use that hand. Again,
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  I want to make sure you're able to use your hand. I want to
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  make sure that you're comfortable. I want to make sure that you're ready for
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  the next curveball that's going to be throwing your way. Because while you're out
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  there mending yourself, if you're not prepared, you may miss the other opportunity
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  that comes along. So stay in the fight and cultivate resistance because that's going
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  to involve you developing a growth mindset. And growth mindset doesn't just mean that
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  all things are going well. It means that you need to be able to
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  acknowledge that setbacks will be a part of the story. And I want you
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  to develop a mindset that setbacks are part of the story. But here's the
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  thing about setbacks. Setbacks are temporary. I'm going to say it again.
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  Setbacks are temporary. And you know me, I'm going to dig in and
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  dive to make sure you understand what it means to have a setback. A
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  setback means it's an obstruction. It means it's a glitch, a hiccup,
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  a hold up, or hindrance. None of those words, none of those
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  words define. None of those words say permanent. None of those words mean
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  you can't keep going. It simply means there was a moment, there was
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  a situation, there was an experience where things were temporarily delayed, and when
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  you hit play, you can get right back into that game. You can
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  get right back into it because now you have under your belt these wonderful,
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  valuable life and learning experiences, and you can use that. That's the thing
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  about it. You can use that to do something even greater. You can
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  do something with that because that's going to help you develop more resilience muscles.
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  And one thing about resilience is that it inspires confidence because once you know what
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  you can endure, once you know that you can get back from a set
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  back, your resilience level is just elevated. So I want you to believe
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  in yourself. I want you to know that you got this. The next
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  one I want to talk about is to prioritize and simplify, and I'm gonna
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  break this one all the way down. For me, what that means is
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  being confident in my nose that's right being guilt free for people and for me.
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  We talked about this in a previous episode. Because it's so easy for
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  us to say it's important to say no. There's power in the word no,
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  and you need to tell people no. There are sometimes like to tell
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  myself no because if I tell myself no, that means I'm stopping myself from
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  getting into misalignment with something I said was a priority. And I think that's
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  the worst position to be in. If you established priorities for yourself and you
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  decide to go against your own grain. This isn't an outside force coming in
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  saying hey, I need you to do this that In the third this is
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  you. This is your prioritizing something temporary and you're going to miss out on
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  the permanent success because if it's not aligning with your time. It's important to
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  be willing to say no, but not just to others, to yourself.
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  Take a step back, assess what truly matters to you, and identify are
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  these actions aligned with my core values? Are the actions I'm taking or not
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  taking aligned with where it is I want to go the destination that I created
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  for myself. Are these actions in alignment with the navigation steps that I need
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  to take to get to my final destination. And one of the things I've
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  learned along the way, being able to arrive at a hundred episodes or being
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  able to arrive at a hundred anything do you got to seek support their mentors.
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  There are coaches, there are cheerleaders. Whatever you need in your circle,
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  whatever you need in your environment, whatever you need to fuel you.
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  You need to make sure those things are around you. You need to make
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  sure those resources are around you, those people are around you, because hectic
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  times will come and like new Additions said, storms will come. This we
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  know for sure. This we know for sure. But can you stand the
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  rain? And so having people around you, supportive, positive people who can
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  encourage you and give you advice, even those that are good listeners, will
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  serve you well in this season, will serve you well in this life because
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  you'll be able to share challenges with them. You're going to be able to
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  seek guidance when needed, and you don't have to do it alone. So
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  many of you right now are dealing with trying to catch those curveballs, and
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  you don't even know where you need to be on the field. You don't
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  even know what sport you're playing or the rules of engagement for that sport.
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  Get in a circle, get with some people, identify your resources, and
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  together you can find strength. You can find inspiration to stay in the fight.
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  So I have a question for you. Can you stand the ring?
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  Are you willing to stay in the fight? Because if you are, you
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  will find new levels of understanding, self awareness, new insights, and you're
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  going to discover that inner bad ass, the strength that you need. You
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  are going to unleash your greatness. And if you answered yes to the question
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  can you stand the ring? I can't wait to see you emerge, stronger,
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  wiser, and more resilient than ever before. I hope you enjoyed episode
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  one hundred of the urin rid Self podcast. Please share your feedback. Feedback
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  bearing good self. And take what you can from this episode and do what
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  you must in the next one hundred and sixty eight hours to become more of
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  your enriched self until we meet again