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Bonus: Inspiration Is Not the Goal: How to Make a Talk, Workshop, or Retreat Actually Change You · Stacked Intent: Your Guide to Authentic, Intentional Living

• 0:02
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Hello all and welcome to the Stack ed Intent Podcast.
• 0:05
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I am Becca Stackhouse Morson and I look forward to having you join us as we go along with relationships, finance, and nutrition.
• 0:13
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: We're gonna look at the DNA of how you can take those life and dreams that maybe stuck scattered and help give you some resources for mapping out a plan.
• 0:25
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: My background is social sciences and I have a certification for family life education.
• 0:30
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So I look forward to sharing those with you throughout the podcast.
• 0:34
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: We're gonna have lots of fun.
• 0:36
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: As you tune in each week to become authentically you, you're gonna look at the ways that you can be your authentic self and be intentional with yourself.
• 0:47
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: You'll laugh, you'll cry, and you're gonna finish each episode being motivated to live your life more authentically.
• 0:54
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: But in these specific episodes, we are gonna have a special co-host, and we're going to let her introduce herself.
• 1:03
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Hey, my name is Ashleigh Geurin, and I'm the Family & Consumer Sciences County Extension Agent at the University of Georgia serving Candler and Evans Counties.
• 1:13
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I'm excited to be here today, and I'm kind of background and nutrition from an education standpoint, and also from a community standpoint.
• 1:21
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And this is something I'm super passionate about, and I'm excited to work with Bethesda to talk more about being intentional and the things that you independently put into your body.
• 1:32
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Welcome back to an extra episode of Stacked Intent.
• 1:36
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I am joined by Ashleigh and this one we hope is inspirational for you.
• 1:43
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: We are gonna be talking about workshops, conferences, professional development, and retreats and how they actually can change and help you.
• 1:54
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so who would you call on the day you at your most breaking?
• 2:01
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: That's kind of where this podcast is breaking.
• 2:05
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Three years ago, I sat in a wing at a women's conference that was called great.
• 2:09
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: It was put on my What's up with the chamber?
• 2:12
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: But they brought in a keynote speaker.
• 2:15
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And the speaker asked that question.
• 2:18
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And it's one of those that I've not forgotten, and I haven't forgotten every year.
• 2:22
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Even when I'm gonna write a book, and it's just really been one of those that's helped me.
• 2:27
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So today we're gonna talk about some of why those moments stick with us for years, and why some of them are gone before the next day.
• 2:37
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So I'm gonna give you some simple practices as we talk and why retreats, talks, podcasts are actually all things that can change you.
• 2:48
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So welcome back to the Stacked Intent Podcast.
• 2:53
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I'm Becca Stackhouse Morson.
• 2:56
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And I'm Ashley Geurin.
• 2:58
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So what are we what why do you find conferences and professional development important, Ashleigh?
• 3:07
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I love conferences and I love getting to have professional development opportunities because I feel like it helps to kind of reignite the the flame of why you do what why you chose to do what you do.
• 3:19
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So when you get to go to conferences and workshops and professional development opportunities, you have the the chance to connect with other professionals that are passionate about some of the same things that you are, and they also help you to see the work that you do sometimes from or in a different lens.
• 3:38
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So I am a huge proponent of professional development opportunities, like going to conferences and workshops and things like that.
• 3:46
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Yeah, so it's one of those things that I find so important too, between retreats, workshops, conferences, keynote speakers.
• 3:55
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Last week I was with my dad at one of his conferences, and you know, somebody looked at me and said, Well, I'm just so sorry you have to be with him.
• 4:03
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I just have to be with him.
• 4:05
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I had chosen, I'd said, Hey dad, I want to go with you and just go.
• 4:09
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Because all my life I've kind of done that, popped in and sat with him during sessions and stuff like that.
• 4:15
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And it's just one of those things that it helps.
• 4:19
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: It's personal growth, leadership growth, self-love growth, building a healthy relationship, um, the others grow in faith.
• 4:27
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: There's so there's all kinds of ways that conferences, keynotes, professional development really help you.
• 4:36
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so it's one of those, if you know me well, I really don't read for I guess what most people call fun.
• 4:43
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I don't like nonfiction.
• 4:44
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I like things that are gonna help me grow in one way or another.
• 4:50
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I love that for you because I am the complete opposite.
• 4:53
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um I would prefer to read a nonfiction book over a book that is gonna help me grow as a person.
• 5:01
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And I just I don't know.
• 5:03
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I know that those books are they're so helpful.
• 5:06
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And when I have read them, I'm like, man, I really should read more of these.
• 5:09
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: But um, I do have to be a little more intentional about when I'm reading a book that is more on like the leadership and growth side or personal growth side.
• 5:20
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um and there's there's there's so many good ones out there, so I feel like I limit myself when I feel like, oh, I'm not gonna enjoy this because that's not true.
• 5:29
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, but I'm also really curious, and this is a sidebar, but you're talking about you go into conferences and stuff with your dad.
• 5:37
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So would those conferences not necessarily be like they're are they leadership conferences or are they more of like his job-specific conferences?
• 5:47
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: A lot of them are job specific, but woven in with leadership aspects, or like last week, the sessions that I really set in with him on were ones that were talking about AI and why why understanding AI was important and it was specific to the energy industry because that is what you were at, that is the conference that you were at, but it was still applicable because it was just interesting to see how he was weaving it into why it was important for them to understand with their customers and why their members and why it was important for them to understand how incorporating it or if it's being utilized throughout their employees, why it was important to have a policy.
• 6:36
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so it's it's varied throughout the years of what they are.
• 6:40
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Some of them are specific leadership, some of them are policy, some of them are.
• 6:45
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I mean, like when he goes to DC, it's more focused on your politics.
• 6:49
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So they've really just varied all my life, but I am the one of the three of us that's which we all like to go sit in and listen, but I am the one that's like, sure, I'll go sit in those meetings.
• 7:02
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Yeah.
• 7:02
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: But when you're talking about reading in books, my husband looked at me one night because I was sitting there reading one of the self-help, self-development books, and I think this is when he was rereading Harry Potter.
• 7:16
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And he looks at me and he goes, I don't understand how you read that stuff and then roll over and go to bed.
• 7:22
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: He's like, it would have me up all night thinking about that question, and I'm just like, Oh, I just answered the question, and then I'm like, Okay, good night.
• 7:32
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Yeah, it's just always read just how our our brains work so differently, too.
• 7:39
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um but yeah, and I feel like even the books that your dad has given us before, those are um I and I love those books, and I will be the first one to confess and say that I have not read all of them all the way through.
• 7:57
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um but I don't know.
• 8:01
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I I love the way that your dad presents books to say, like, you know, these are all different and they all have different concepts, and it helps you to, or I've I felt like when he's presented us with books before, to say, like, you know, there are different approaches to leadership.
• 8:15
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And here's a couple of different books that may not necessarily reflect the the one way that I that I look at leadership, but but it he encourages us to look at different different perspectives, um, regardless of if you agree with them or not.
• 8:33
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So I don't know.
• 8:35
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I feel I feel like that's that was such an inspirational thing to me when you can look at you can read somebody else's thoughts and and have a little bit of better understanding of maybe where they're coming from.
• 8:49
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um and so that way it just kind of prepares you to deal with more people and different people in a liter in a leadership sector that may feel differently or look look differently or approach things differently than the way that you do.
• 9:03
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: But if you're not willing to do the work to learn a little bit about kind of where they're coming from or why they believe what they do, then you're just gonna come to an impasse, you know, on a lot of things.
• 9:17
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: You know, that's interesting because I've not read through every single book my dad's ever mentioned, but I've read through a lot of them, and for years they're and still today they can be my Christmas presents sometimes.
• 9:30
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: But the books he uh has always presented them in the way of you may not completely agree with the whole book, but you definitely can always get a concept out of the book, yes, or you can see why your counterpart might function in a different way than you.
• 9:48
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: It helps you to maybe understand better the way somebody else is working, and so that's it, that's really what all of these things do, in my opinion, is they help you understand and not just stay in your small bubble, they help you go outside of your bubble and see how different people are interacting in their worlds, and so that's the books have always done that, and that that's probably why I read some of them the way I do, is because for years when we were traveling, we would listen to a story as a family, but we would also have the other side of it of he'd listen to his educational courses and stuff like that sometimes.
• 10:38
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so it's understanding that it can come from anywhere.
• 10:43
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: The when I when I was where this came from, and when I was really looking back at some of it is I've gotten a lot out of books over years, lots out of books, but there are keynote speaks, speakers, workshops, conferences, retreats that I've been to that have had some big turning points too, and they stand out and I remember them.
• 11:09
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so there's you were just talking about coming back from a conference.
• 11:14
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I mean, I can think about conferences where I came back with an idea that was able to help me implement a big program or been able to develop something of like, okay, I need to remove this part because it doesn't, it's not applicable to the majority of the population.
• 11:35
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: What was what was one of or can you think about one of those keynote speakers or maybe those events or conferences that you've been to that has had a big impact on you?
• 11:48
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I would say in the last five years, the grit women's conference with Rachel um Joy because the way that she engaged with everybody, and I've we've had interactions with her since.
• 12:06
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: She's been on the Stacked Keys podcast a couple times, and then just talking to her, and just the way she engaged was just so encouraging, and it was right towards the beginning of when I was starting Stacked Intent.
• 12:18
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: It also came at the beginning of when I had some friend shifts and changes, and so those two to three to five people, it's shifted over the years, but that keynote has kind of left me with the permission to let that shift, let those people kind of prune away and come and go and shape.
• 12:40
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: That's a big one that's been one, and then I just knowing that they're I may not remember exactly the keynote speaker's name anymore or which conference things went to, but just sitting there and listening to them and the ones that have made the biggest impact to me are the ones that understand the audience they're talking to and make their presentation known for that.
• 13:12
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Those those have been the two big things because when I sit there and you know they don't know the audience they're even talking to, I have trouble with that because it's like, wait, you're sitting here talking to a bunch of XYZ and you're referring to something that's completely not applicable.
• 13:29
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So for me, they have to address that.
• 13:32
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: But then the conferences, I don't know, the conferences that you just came back from the NEACS, those were some of the ones that I really enjoyed because you had the keynote, but then you had the sessions and you were learning from peers all across everywhere.
• 13:50
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Yeah, I don't know if you got to to look at any of the stuff for NEAFCS, but the um keynote speaker was actually former Miss Tennessee, and she spoke about volunteerism.
• 14:01
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So we were in Tennessee, and of course they're the volunteer state.
• 14:04
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So her I was very pleasantly surprised um at her approach, and she was just talking about basically like volunteerism is is kind of it's in all of us for one.
• 14:22
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, but two, it also has to be kind of groomed and you have to look for opportunities to volunteer.
• 14:28
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And it doesn't have to be like, oh, I'm gonna schedule this on a Saturday and gonna go volunteer to serve food at the soup kitchen for eight hours or whatever, and that's my volunteer checkoff for for the month.
• 14:39
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um volunteerism is just a spirit that lives in you, and when you see an opportunity to help somebody else, you take it.
• 14:46
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And also whenever they other people may not know that they need help, but you're still you still show up.
• 14:54
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um and sometimes that's all it that's all it is, is just just having the spirit of being willing to show up, no matter what what you get out of it, what comes out of it.
• 15:04
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, if anything.
• 15:06
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So I don't know.
• 15:08
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I I really, really enjoyed her.
• 15:09
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And I looked up, I looked her up afterwards just to kind of to see, just to follow her platform, um, and to keep in touch.
• 15:17
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: But I read that was an impactful, and I felt so bad for her because honestly, we were fixing to go to Dollywood.
• 15:23
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And so she knew that she was standing in the way of uh they put her in a rough position, but she made the best of it to be between the end of the conference session for the day and everybody loading the buses to go to Dollywood.
• 15:35
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So not ideal for her.
• 15:36
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um and she made several jokes.
• 15:38
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: She made several jokes about it, and she knew that um if it was between her and Dollywood, she said that she'd be thinking about Dollywood too.
• 15:47
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: But um, you know, but I really enjoyed her.
• 15:50
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: That sounded like a really interesting one.
• 15:53
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And I think that's what bringing that's what going to conferences, retreats, workshops, really reading the books, it's to give you something to think about.
• 16:04
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: It's to give you a piece.
• 16:05
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: You may not walk away with a ton, but it's to give you a piece of something to walk away with that you can change, that you can make a change for a positive impact in your life.
• 16:20
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So that's that's fun.
• 16:22
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: That is a hard place to be, though, between the fun part of the day and the last person to speak.
• 16:30
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Yeah, yeah, exactly.
• 16:31
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So it's like being the speaker that they put between uh you and Lynch.
• 16:36
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um but I also think too about conferences, retreats, workshops, like I feel like you get out of it what you put into it.
• 16:46
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So if you're going with the mindset of, I don't really want to be here, this is taking time, energy, effort away from X, Y, Z, like and you're not you're not allowing yourself to be present.
• 16:57
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, I think that it can be really difficult to get a or to feel like you're having a positive experience.
• 17:03
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, so I think you have to go into those experiences open-minded and ready to learn.
• 17:11
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um and sometimes you may not always learn what you expect to or experience what you expect to.
• 17:18
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um I think I was kind of thinking about that with with the stagnant retreat too.
• 17:23
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I didn't really know what the expectations were um as far as like what I had hoped to get out of it as a participant.
• 17:30
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um but and then also like helping to lead some of the sessions, but gosh, what a what an experience for sure.
• 17:39
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Oh yeah.
• 17:40
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: That's and now that I've been to a retreat and been a so been a participant in a retreat, but also led a retreat, you you get out of it both places, and you get out of it how you choose to show up.
• 17:55
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: If you choose to keep yourself preoccupied with everything else, you're not gonna get out of it.
• 18:02
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Like when we went on the ear retreats, the art of living well to Greece, and I went with my mom and my sister, and it was really right before my whole world shifted, because my world had shifted from being single for so long to being married, and then my world shift was about to shift again without me knowing, from the single to married to now being a mom, and that trip came after some hard seasons, some friendship loss, some a miscarriage, the transitions.
• 18:38
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Let's how many things can you do at one time is kind of what's happened in my life.
• 18:42
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: But that retreat allowed me to find the spaces to sit there and reflect.
• 18:49
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Find the spaces of okay, how do I really want my life to be designed?
• 18:55
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And how do I want our life to show up as, even if things aren't what you thought they'd be when you got to that point?
• 19:06
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: How do I want them to look?
• 19:08
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so that retreat kind of helped feed back into me some words that had been hurtful, like the creative, the different, the determined, thoughtful.
• 19:18
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so I had been called and flexible, difficult, and too particular.
• 19:24
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so those people without even knowing it on that retreat kind of helped refeed some of those things that had damaged.
• 19:32
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so that retreat, I was there completely as a participant.
• 19:37
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: You told me to be somewhere, we were gonna do it.
• 19:40
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So we're getting up to go do yoga, okay.
• 19:43
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I'm up a few hours before because one, I've switched my body to where I get up early most times, and so I'm gonna go do my journal and my reflection, sitting in the middle of the olive groves, which was really kind of fun to go do, and then go and do the things throughout the day and be with.
• 20:05
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I mean, I knew my mom and sister, I've obviously known them my whole life, but everybody else, the other people on the retreat, first time we ever met, except the one of the leaders because and we had never met her, but I had come across her on social media and kind of watched and communicated and been a part of her for a few years and then took the job.
• 20:29
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And then doing the retreat as the leader, I still got a lot out of it because of the style and the way that I love to do workshops and teach and have speeches.
• 20:40
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: It still got a lot out of it because you still have the people and people have experience.
• 20:46
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: We all have different life experience, and so having the topic and a focus provides the conversation that still gives growth on both sides.
• 20:58
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Like I came away from the rediscover your intelligence self retreat with that we co-led with just as much as I think I would have as a participant in something.
• 21:10
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Yeah, I feel like, and even like part of that retreat, leading the community cooking part, it was it was fun.
• 21:21
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I think I was a little intimidated by it just because I wasn't sure how other people were gonna receive that.
• 21:26
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, and I was so concerned about like my my teaching ability or my ability to engage the participants, but truthfully, like that all happened.
• 21:35
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I didn't have to really do anything for that to happen.
• 21:38
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So I thought it was cool to create a space for us to do community cooking.
• 21:45
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And yes, there was opportunity for learning just from my content expertise, but I also learned a lot from others too.
• 21:52
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, I learned that not everybody does baked potatoes the same way, and You know, it's a conversation every time a mom goes to bake a big table now.
• 22:03
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Yes.
• 22:04
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And I also learned that people have different thought processes for why they why they do things a certain way.
• 22:10
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, you know, well, I've always done it this way, or I've never thought about doing it that way, or that makes so much more sense.
• 22:17
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So or I think sometimes you can just recognize that people just do things differently.
• 22:22
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, you know, some people like me are particular about measurements.
• 22:27
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Some people, your mom, not so particular about measurements.
• 22:31
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: But I think in those, I mean, those are things that you get to learn about or ways that you get to learn about people in a new, a new light that, you know, we've never that one never would have come up in conversation about how do you cook your baked potato, why do you do it that way, or you know, whatever.
• 22:49
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, but that was that was one of my favorite parts.
• 22:52
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And then who knew that one of our participants would have would have said that out of that experience it it fed their dehydrated soul.
• 23:01
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So it could have just been the experience, and we don't really know.
• 23:04
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: We didn't we didn't dive into why they said that, but um but I felt like it was probably creating a positive experience around food and cooking and community in the kitchen, because not everybody has grown up like that, um, and not everybody has those positive experiences in the kitchen, and being able to nourish your body and other people too, but then also providing like a emotional and spiritual um nourishment too.
• 23:35
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Yeah, and it's it is interesting of how that happens.
• 23:40
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: It is interesting of how leading a retreat, participating in a retreat, that you're gonna get things.
• 23:48
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I mean, it's like my dad, Tom Sackhouse, came and he was our leadership keynote for this weekend because when the workshop started coming together and the participants participants we had, it was like, hey, I really think for some of them, because we had some that were business owners, and so it was like, I really think for some of them this would be beneficial because I mean my dad has a 42-year-long career working in leadership, and he's really done things developmental on leadership, and so it was one of those parts of like, hey, I really think this would be helpful, and so having him come in, and even though I have heard my dad talk about the same topic all life, there were still ways that he said it differently because of the way the conversations happen, because of the questions that some of y'all asked, and so it's even something that you've heard your whole life, you may hear it in a different light because of a different setting.
• 24:57
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So workshops, retreats, professional development opportunities after you leave and you go home and you have all these wonderful notes.
• 25:06
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, either, either if you took them on a notepad, maybe you jotted some things down on your phone, maybe you just made a mental note.
• 25:13
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: How do we how do we make those concepts, feelings, thoughts, how do we make those stick long after we return home and get back to our daily lives?
• 25:26
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: You need a one-line or a one-step.
• 25:29
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So it works for the conference, it works for the retreat, it works for the lunch and learn you go to, it works for a church event, a podcast, it works for your books, even your audiobooks or whatever.
• 25:43
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so there's parts to it.
• 25:45
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So part one is before you even start it, set one intention.
• 25:51
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So before you walk in, finish the sentence of I'm hoping to walk away with blank.
• 25:57
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Maybe it's how to stay calm when your kids push back, or it's how to stop losing yourself in a busy season or a transition, or maybe it's how you show up best for yourself.
• 26:13
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So it's going in with the question that gives your mind something to listen for.
• 26:18
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So you're listening, listening for it because you've set an intention.
• 26:25
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: It makes me think about going grocery shopping when you have a list versus wondering that I was hungry.
• 26:31
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: So you know what you're going in there looking for, and you are you may pick up a few little treats along the way um that you weren't expecting or that were not on your list initially, but you do go in with a plan.
• 26:44
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 26:45
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Going into the me and my mom have gone into Costco hungry, that's a huge mistake with hungry and no list, because we've done it hungry with a list, and you come out a lot better.
• 26:57
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So that is exactly right.
• 27:00
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: The second step is dearing, you want to capture one lie, and it might not even be a lie, but you're listening for the sentence that stopped you, that you feel it, that you lean into it, and your your signs, and it's what's true for you.
• 27:20
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So you write that down word for word, and next to it, you write why it hit you.
• 27:27
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And then the third one is within 48 hours, take one step.
• 27:32
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So take something you can finish in that 10 minutes or less, send the text, have the conversation, write out the boundary.
• 27:40
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Then you want to stick it on something that you already do every day.
• 27:46
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So is it with your morning coffee?
• 27:48
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Is it while you're at school drop off?
• 27:51
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Is it during your lunch break?
• 27:53
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So that you've given that thing, that task, a place to do.
• 27:58
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So if it's writing out your boundary, are you journaling at some point in your day?
• 28:03
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Add a few minutes to write out that boundary onto your journal.
• 28:07
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And then the last one is at 30 days, check in with yourself.
• 28:12
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So put a reminder on your calendar, whether it's a written calendar or whether it's a digital reminder with your one line written out.
• 28:21
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So when it pops up, you ask yourself, did I use this?
• 28:25
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: What changed?
• 28:27
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: What needs adjusting?
• 28:29
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so it's taking these and it's going into that conference, that retreat, that workshop with that intention of looking for something that's going to benefit you.
• 28:43
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So did you have a one line from grit?
• 28:49
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So from the grit was no your writer dies.
• 28:53
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so it was that action of texting someone on that list and writing them down.
• 29:00
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And now I did it at that conference that day, but kind of like I shared in the blog, there's three of them that have stayed the same.
• 29:09
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Me and my mom and my sister, they haven't changed and they won't.
• 29:14
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And then my husband's there, but some of the others have shifted, they've shifted from that inner ride or die to really the outer loop.
• 29:22
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so it's it's knowing that even that one liner, what it was back in 2023, I believe, is when that workshop was three years, is it's different today.
• 29:35
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So it's being able to come back and readdress it.
• 29:39
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Love that so as far as what the so we talk about a lot what the speaker gives the audience, and even going into speaking engagements or taking a class or teaching a class.
• 29:54
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um I think as an instructor, oftentimes I think about what are my what are my objectives, what do I got, what do I want people to take away from this?
• 30:05
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Um, but if we flip that, what about what the audience can give the speaker?
• 30:12
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: How do you feel about that?
• 30:15
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I think the speaker can get just as much from the audience.
• 30:18
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So I think it's something that I mean, hosting my retreat that we co-led, hosting workshops that I've done throughout the year, even just like conversations that happen.
• 30:31
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I think as a participant, you can give back to that leader just as much as they can give to you.
• 30:38
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And the question our participants can ask, I mean, it was like with my dad, I saw things in a way I'd never seen of.
• 30:45
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so there can be an honesty that makes a whole room brave by just asking that question that you have in your mind because the leader or the person that's been with that leader, or there may be something that you ask that nobody else has ever heard before.
• 31:07
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I think part of that too is also um being willing to tell the person who is the speaker, workshop leader, etc., um, if something's stuck with you to let them know, or if you got if you got something out of it to let that person know too.
• 31:21
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: Because I know, again, from my experience, when when somebody has told me I never thought about it that way, or um, you know, this is what I I really got something out of this.
• 31:33
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: I mean, it sticks with me too.
• 31:36
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Well, and it sticks with you, and so it's send the message, leave the review, tell them what your worn line was because you have no idea how much that person stood out up there, and you it might be the reason of what they needed of showing up, it might be that encouragement that you were placed to give back to that speaker or that leader or that whoever it is, it's some and sometimes that's just all we need.
• 32:04
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Sometimes the person leading the negative is what gets louder in the world, and so sometimes you can just be that positive.
• 32:13
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So what and when we go back to workshops real quick, because the one thing that I have had in workshops and just being sometimes is creative workshops.
• 32:24
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so when I worked in Extension, there was a lady named Bonnie who started Lillipad Designs, and when she started it, she was pretty new in what she was doing, and so she was doing a lot of paint workshops, and so I committed to myself that whether I talked to people or not, it was when she did a workshop, I went to the workshop because it wasn't that much out of my budget, it gave me a place to be creative and I could talk to people if I wanted, or I didn't have to, but it made me walk away from my desk, it made me stop working, it made me go, nope, I can't do that work tonight because I have this commitment already.
• 33:13
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so, I mean, I have endless door hangers now, and Ashley can tell you that she knew that I was moving because there wasn't a door hanger on my door.
• 33:25
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: True story.
• 33:27
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so, workshops don't have to be these big things that give you something big, and so those were simply painting, they were just being creative.
• 33:38
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: My door hangers never look like what anybody else's did, but it gave me this time to not look at a screen, to get to be creative, to get to have fun with it.
• 33:51
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And then the other creative workshop that I found while we were living in Georgia was Gather and Bloom, which has now turned into a collaboration.
• 33:59
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And so with Warren, I'm doing four workshops a year, but I've always had a love for flowers.
• 34:07
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: My granny taught me about roses because she loved rose gardens, and she after my grandfather passed away and she ended up moving into a retirement home, she lived on an inn building and she asked them if she could plant one rose bush outside her window.
• 34:26
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: My granny planted 20.
• 34:29
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And she had this full out rose garden outside of her window that had some beautiful blooms, but she taught us how to love those roses, and so finding the workshops that Gather and Bloom offered, it was this floral design meet creativity, and so those became the workshops for my self-love of just getting to go and be creative, and those had the fun of just like the door hangers, I got to see them over and over.
• 35:02
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I mean, they were they lived, and I kind of throughout the year in the workshops learned how to make them last a little longer or how to pick the flowers that were kind of at the beginning of their life at the workshop, and so those flowers would last in the vase longer because they weren't ready fully bloomed.
• 35:21
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Whereas, like some of them, if you picked them and they were fully bloomed the night of the workshop, they'd only last a couple days.
• 35:27
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: But if you picked them when they were at the beginning of their life, they'd last like two or three weeks, and so I mean, those workshops became important that since my little man was five weeks early, I had a workshop that I went to when he was five days out of the NICU, and then I went um right when I found out I was pregnant, and it was just it gave workshops for me.
• 35:55
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: When you find ones that are creative, when you find ones that you're learning, when you find ones that you find a one-liner that you're looking for, for me, all of those give your mind a specific task.
• 36:10
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So those two creative workshops, I'm there to be creative and not think about anything else for the duration of this class.
• 36:20
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And most of those were about two hours long, and so it's finding what that space has to be, and and so it's finding what you need and what you need it for.
• 36:30
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I mean, the conference you just came from, that was professional development.
• 36:34
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I'm sure there there was fun in it because the way those conferences are designed, they design it to have outings and fun.
• 36:41
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So that's just, I think finding a space that gives back to you is important.
• 36:48
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: I love that.
• 36:50
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So what's our challenge for this week?
• 36:52
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So before the next time you attend or listen, whether it's a conference, a sermon, a podcast, a book, a workshop, write down your intentions.
• 37:03
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And before you walk in those doors, what is the capture of your one line and take one step within 48 hours?
• 37:14
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And we would love to know what that one line is.
• 37:16
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: You can DM us on Instagram, we'd love to read them and learn a little bit from you and your experience too.
• 37:23
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So, and if this episode is your one line, I want you to take a minute today, write it down, give your three to five router dies, and text them.
• 37:33
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Say thank you to them.
• 37:34
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: We didn't even care why they are on that part of your line.
• 37:39
  Ashleigh Geurin, MS, CNWE: And if you want to experience what we were talking about in person, that go on to tell them about the retreat.
• 37:46
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So we'll have another rediscover your intentional self-retreat.
• 37:50
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: There's not a date or time on the schedule yet, but it is a three-night, four-day retreat, and there's a certification for family life education CEUs that we're able to put on as credits that are available for the retreat.
• 38:07
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: But you can join the interest list by going to stackintent.com.
• 38:12
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And if you would like a retreat or a keynote that is specific for your church, team, organization, whatever it might be, go back over to StackPint.com and I would love to connect with you.
• 38:28
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: You can also read a little more in depth if you want to read on the blog about this episode as well.
• 38:35
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So thank you guys for joining us.
• 38:38
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: So go in with an intention and come home with your one line and your one step.
• 38:47
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: And remember, it's about the journey, not necessarily your destination.
• 38:52
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: That brings us to the end of this episode of Stacked Intent.
• 38:58
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• 39:06
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: New episodes are gonna be dropped on Thursdays.
• 39:09
  Becca Stackhouse-Morson, MS, CFLE: Until then, this is Becca, and don't forget, enrich your life by being intentional.
• 39:16
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