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Master the Mind 3/7 : The Mind That Wins First: “You never win the game you already lost in your mind.” #WinItAllWednesday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know about you, but I'm sure glad it's Wednesday, and not just any Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Win It All Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now come on now, you can say that with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Come on, say it with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Win It All Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, you're listening to the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yes, I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yes, it is well with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is well with your family.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is well with the work of your hands.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is well with your soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, the old folks used to say that, and I never quite understood it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you go through life and you get to something like hump day, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where you have to get over the hump, where life is throwing so much at you, it is sometimes all you can do but say, it is well, it is well, it is well, it is well with my soul today on With It All Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, alright, sweet spotters, we are in a wonderful series here where we're talking about mastering the mind, and we're looking at a book, a wonderful book written by James Allen.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an older book.
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  SPEAKER_00: James Allen, I think, wrote this in the early 1900s, perhaps.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it was called the book is called As a Man Thinketh.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Monday, we set the mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Tuesday, you did the work beneath the work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember that?
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  SPEAKER_00: So we find ourselves here on Winter Law Wednesday, Wednesday being the middle of the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: The middle is where most people negotiate with themselves, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they don't quite we don't quite quit on Monday, and we don't always quit on Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: What we do is we let go of the rope on Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the day that we let go of the rope.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gently, quietly, we kind of sort of ease off of the gas kind of thing, but not today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not today, not today, because this is Win It All Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, a board certified psychiatrist.
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  SPEAKER_00: I work in elite performance, but more than that, I enjoy being your teammate here in the game of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what do we have today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, the author James Allen puts it this way: The winner is built before the win.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, and I'll quote what he says: he says that the vision that you glorify in your mind, the ideal that you enthrone in your heart, that is what you will build your life by.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is what you will become.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the trophy doesn't make you a champion, the champion is what makes the trophy possible.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you're holding in your mind on Wednesday morning when nobody's watching this morning, if this is the time you're listening to me, that is the real competition.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, yeah, you are up against you.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times we're up against ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: So a lot of it is about really understanding what they say in Buddhism, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: In Buddhism, they teach this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um they see that what you think you become, what you feel you attract, and what you imagine you create.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the win that you're looking for on Windows Wednesday starts inside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: The win is being constructed invisibly in the middle days.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what is your vision?
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta pull that up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not your task, not not your list of things to do, not where you would like to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is your vision of you and for you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Figure that out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before you open the emails, before you respond to people, before you get going, take a second, chill out, relax, take a breath, yeah, and remind your nervous system what is my winning formula look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I strong?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I anchored in courage today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're not, then it's gonna be hard to actually win.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you see, winning requires certain sacrifices.
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  SPEAKER_00: The author, James Allen of this book, as a man thinker, wrote this, and I'm quoting him.
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  SPEAKER_00: The person who would accomplish little must sacrifice little.
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  SPEAKER_00: The person who would achieve much must sacrifice much.
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  SPEAKER_00: The person who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice.
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  SPEAKER_00: It appears a lot in this quote that I just read.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hmm.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what it's telling me is that winning is not always by addition.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's subtraction first.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's getting rid of things that don't help you and don't support you and don't serve you.
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  SPEAKER_00: The habits that don't serve the vision, you gotta cut them out.
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  SPEAKER_00: That includes conversations that drain you, that don't deposit anything in you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It includes certain people that drain your energy, certain habits and behaviors that only you know shouldn't be a part of your get down, for lack of a better term.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So the commitments that you make out of guilt instead of out of really what you really are supposed to be doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, it's you can't serve two masters, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's in the ancient wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the ancient wisdom, it said, I think Jesus said this, literally, the Jesus said this, that you no one can serve two masters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Either you're gonna hate one and love the other, or you'll be devoted to one and despise the other.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, what I think they're saying there in Matthew 6, verse 24, in the ancient wisdom is this two masters means divided energy, whatever your two masters are, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So divided energy is not great because divided energy means half results on a full-time schedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: Does that make sense?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's why the Stoics put it this way, and you know I love the Stoics because they just blunt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Marcus Aurelius just put it, it's time you realize that you've something in you more powerful and more miraculous than the things that you're allowing to affect you and make you dance like a puppet.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, that's not me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't say that.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's Marcus Aurelius.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's time you realize that you have something in you more powerful and miraculous than the things that you're allowing to affect you, and the things that you're allowing to make you dance like a puppet.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's what's making you dance like a puppet?
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  SPEAKER_00: Huh.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you're not obligated to answer the bell every time that doorbell rings, if you know what I mean.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not obligated to every single pull.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta know who you are, you gotta know your identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talked about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Drake on nothing was the same, puts it this way: know yourself, know your worth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because Drake gets it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Drake gets it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Knowing your worth means knowing what you will not trade it for.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's important because once you know your identity, you're already a winner.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's not gonna change whether you quote unquote win or lose a game.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're stable.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the thing: you gotta do some cleanup.
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  SPEAKER_00: Identify one thing this win and all Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Identify one thing on this week's list that does not belong in your vision, your your winning formula vision.
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  SPEAKER_00: This person, this activity, this action, this habit, this thing doesn't belong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not to eliminate it today.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not asking you to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want you to name it clearly and understand it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have clarity about what you're carrying.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh that's the first step to really being a true winner.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the key.
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  SPEAKER_00: And don't a big part of winning is not dwelling in the past.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like people will they've lost games or they things didn't work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Staying there doesn't help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't dwell in the past, don't dream of the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: Concentrate in the right here, right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what we teach here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was about to say the full circle, which is our practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what we teach here on the sweet spot, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That you stay in the present.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which of you could add anything to your key to your stature by by by putting on a worry or an anxiety about the future?
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  SPEAKER_00: We can't control the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, we gotta learn how to be happy with whatever we got.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today's the day God has made.
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  SPEAKER_00: Figure out how to rejoice, how to be happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, in the ancient wisdom in Philip Philippians, they say it's uh Paul was in prison.
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  SPEAKER_00: This dude was in prison and wrote, I have learned in whatsoever state I'm in, to be content.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know about you, but I'm still learning that.
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  SPEAKER_00: How to be content, how to be a winner, even if I'm not in a winning situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nipsey Hussle put it this way, you know how Nipsey is.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm in a I'm from a place where you either win or learn, but you never lose.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know why that works?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because your and my identity as winners, that's got to stay intact.
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  SPEAKER_00: The minute you say I'm a loser, it's over.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because what is this series about this week?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about the mind mastering the mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we cannot allow the mind to tell us a story about what's not working and losing and dwell there.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, no, no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, because that real competition is always internal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, the battle, the work under the work is on us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And James Allen, the author of this book, As a Man Thinketh, wrote this.
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  SPEAKER_00: The person who has conquered themselves has conquered the universe.
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  SPEAKER_00: The person who master the people who master themselves are greater than those who take a city.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, the opponent is not across the table.
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  SPEAKER_00: The opponent is not in the standings, it's not in the audience.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know where the opponent is?
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  SPEAKER_00: I know you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the mirror.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Wednesday morning, it's Wednesday afternoon, it's Wendy, it's Wednesday evening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where whatever time you listen to this, it's in the mirror.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the opponent.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the one that you have to fight and get under control.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, Michael Jackson put it, I'm asking the man in the I'm starting with the man in the mirror.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm asking him to change his ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think no question or something like that could have been any clearer.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to make this world a better place, take a look at yourself and make a change.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bong bong.
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  SPEAKER_00: A hundred.
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  SPEAKER_00: That makes so much sense to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So much sense to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because ultimately, it's about control, it's about self-control.
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  SPEAKER_00: Better a patient person than a warrior, the ancient wisdom says.
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  SPEAKER_00: One with self-control, right, has more power than one who takes a whole city.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's in Proverbs.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, you know, here's the thing: the author and the and Solomon, James Allen and King Solomon are in complete agreement.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's amazing to me how the ancient wisdom and and current writers, uh, contemporary writers are saying the same thing 25 centuries apart, and they come to the same conclusion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even Epictetus, the Stoic, says it too.
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  SPEAKER_00: No man is free who is not a master of himself.
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  SPEAKER_00: No person is free.
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  SPEAKER_00: None is free that can't master themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look, you don't have to be perfect, you just have to be in the game.
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  SPEAKER_00: Winning is about staying in the fight no matter how bad it looks.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're perfect, you're not perfect, whether you're tall or short, whatever it is, the issue is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kendrick, Kendrick, put it this way, and to uh this is Pimper Butterfly.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm the closest thing to crazy you've seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm the furthest thing from perfect that you've seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm still here.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Still here is a win.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're still here?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're winning.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're still in it, you're winning.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're still competing with full intentionality?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a win on Win It All Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: So name, here's the Win It All Wednesday task, and we're out.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta name your internal opponent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Forget the the the ones that are annoying you on the outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the internal opponent on the inside?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's who you have to conquer, the stoics say.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's who you have to conquer, the ancient wisdom says.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's who you have to conquer what Michael Jackson said it, Kendrick Lamar said it, Nipsey Hustle.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, come on now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jay-Z, everybody's saying it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're saying it.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the pattern?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the doubt?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the distraction?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the fear?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's your internal opponent?
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  SPEAKER_00: And let's name it so that it cannot run you and cannot start uh putting making you uh fade to the back.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is not happening because this is Win It All Wednesday, and you're gonna renew your strength.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what it's all about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening to me today on Win It All Wednesday for science, for soul, and for success here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, if you know someone who would benefit from a Win It All Wednesday attitude, share it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the sweet spot, and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: For trust yourself Thursday.