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Break the Weekday Drinking Habit - Powerful Hypnosis for Control and Focus · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Have you found yourself getting into the habit of drinking most
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  days, weekdays, perhaps after work?
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  It's Adam here, and this hypnosis session is designed to
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  help you break that habit of habitual drinking.
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  And habitual drinking is very, very different from intentional
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  drinking. It's not a problem to drink
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  alcohol on special occasions or if you're deciding that that's
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  what you want to do. But a lot of people are
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  mindlessly drinking. And I think COVID had a big
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  impact on that. The pandemic kind of taught
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  everyone to get a load of alcohol and keep it in their
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  homes and then have it whenever they wanted it.
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  And quite often before that, a lot of people had boundaries.
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  They wouldn't have so much alcohol in their home and they
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  would go to a bar or a restaurant when they drunk
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  rather than having it there almost on demand.
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  And this client was like that. They had a habit of not drinking
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  during the weekday before the pandemic, but then after that,
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  they fell into that trap of habitually drinking,
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  particularly when preparing meals in the evenings.
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  What this does is it taps into the ethos of destroying the
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  narrative that alcohol helps them to relax because the memory
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  that this client had of them feeling most relaxed was lying
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  on a sun lounger on a holiday with no drink insight.
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  And that's irrefutable evidence that they can relax without
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  needing alcohol. Their past of not drinking on a
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  weekday was irrefutable evidence that they don't need to drink on
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  a weekday to de stress and unwind from work.
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  And then it has a lot of disassociated future pacing,
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  seeing different futures, different habits, different
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  standards, and seeing what would be the consequence of that.
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  This utilizes something called the Pareto Principle, also known
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  as the 8020 rule, and that is that this client didn't want to
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  eliminate all drinking, they just wanted to keep most of the
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  drinking that would actually give them genuine joy and
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  genuine connection. And this tended to be social
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  drinking. So drinking on a weekend, maybe
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  a Friday or Saturday evening with other people outside of
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  their home would ensure they get the majority of the fun and joy
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  from drinking, but without all of the downsides.
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  It wouldn't affect their next day at work because if they go
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  out on a Friday or a Saturday, they're not then working the day
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  after. So this is really about having
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  your cake and eating it. It's about keeping alcohol in
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  your life if you choose to do that, but without having that
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  element of the downsides. And this particular client felt
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  through their own experience that if they had a bottle of
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  wine on a weekday, they would feel a bit dull.
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  They would lose a bit of their sharpness and their focus the
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  following day. So I introduced an analogy of a
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  sore chopping down tree that gets more and more blunt with
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  every glass of wine so that they intuitively get a sense that
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  this is what's happening to them at work, that as they drink the
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  wine, it is blunting their effective capacity and
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  capabilities in the workplace. That's really important because
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  for them, that was an important thing that they wanted to get
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  good at and feel better AT. And in the past, when they
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  weren't drinking on the weekdays, they did feel that
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  they had that ability to be more sharp and more focused.
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  There's a lot going on here, but at its core, it is simply
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  increasing A boundary as to when it's OK to drink and when it
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  isn't. Not by saying that they can't
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  drink, but by saying that surely they don't want to unless it
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  meets certain criteria. And that criteria is it's on a
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  weekend and it's social or it's a special occasion.
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  And if it does that, then fine, why not?
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  But if it doesn't, then it isn't worth it.
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  And that element of it's not worth it.
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  Everyone has a price. There will be certain things
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  that you buy at a certain price, but if the person selling them
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  to you quadrupled the price, you would stop buying it.
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  And the way to think about alcohol is not to think of it in
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  terms of financial cost, but in terms of other costs.
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  If it makes you less focused, if it messes up your sleep, if it
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  causes arguments in your relationship, if it's giving you
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  excess body fat, that's the real cost of alcohol, not how much
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  you pay for that particular drink.
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  So there's a bit going on here. Obviously it was created for an
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  individual and therefore some of the suggestions are incredibly
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  tailored to the client that I was working with.
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  Ignore any suggestions that aren't right for you, hone into
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  the ones that are. And if you like the idea of a
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  bespoke session and you want to work with me directly, there
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  will be a link in the show notes, the description where you
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  can book a completely free consultation call to explore
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  working with me. I'll explain my process, the
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  costs, everything else and who knows, we may end up working
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  together. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath.
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  And as you exhale, release all the tension in your eyelids with
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  your eyes closed. Focus just on the sound of my
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  voice, breathing in relaxation, exhaling tension, each breath
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  taking you deeper and deeper. Relaxed.
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  The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel, and the more
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  relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I wonder if you could imagine an island there in the
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  Caribbean, and somewhere in that island there's a pool that
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  overlooks a Cove. And just allow your imagination
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  to take you on the side of that pool.
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  Maybe you can imagine a lounger, the sunshine perhaps sounds,
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  maybe the pool, maybe the waves, maybe the breeze on your skin.
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  And as you connect to that place, I want you to feel, feel
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  connected to a truth that you can enjoy yourself, you can
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  relax, you can feel at peace, you can unwind and not need any
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  alcohol to do so. This moment is irrefutable
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  evidence that there was a time that you used to think that you
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  needed alcohol to relax. And yet here, in this moment,
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  you simply know that it was never true.
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  It was never true then, and it isn't true now.
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  So breathe in and breathe out there on that lounger.
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  Feel connected to that feeling of peace, relaxation,
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  tranquility. Very soon I will count down from
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  5:00 to 1:00. I don't want you to imagine
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  drifting off into a dreamlike sleep because you can do
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  anything in your dreams. You can go back to the past and
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  think of the future that's in five Eyelids getting heavier and
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  heavier, jaw loosening, 4. Any tension around your neck or
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  your shoulders just melting away.
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  Three, arms feeling limp, loose and heavy.
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  And then two, all of your internal organs all the way down
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  to your gut releasing, relaxing now and then.
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  One, just feel your legs limp, loose and heavy, so your arms
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  and legs feel like the limbs of a puppet with no strings.
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  And connect with that feeling as you drift deeper and deeper
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  inwards to that place where new ideas form new beliefs and new
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  beliefs create new boundaries, new standards, new ways of
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  living. That's it.
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  I want you to get a sense as you step inside to a place.
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  A place that seems like your own private cinema.
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  But this is a three-dimensional cinema.
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  Instead of seeing a 2 dimensional screen, see a
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  hologram. And I want you to see a hologram
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  of your life when you already had a boundary that made sense
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  when it came to drinking. A time in your life when you
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  didn't drink on a Monday through to Thursday.
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  I wonder if you could observe that version of you.
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  Work still finished, You still found a way to relax, unwind,
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  destress, and yet you didn't need a beer or a glass of wine
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  to do it. So imagine being comfy in that
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  soft seat in the cinema, seeing that three-dimensional movie of
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  your past. Just extract all of the wisdom
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  evidence that you don't need alcohol to relax when you finish
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  working. There was a time you told
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  yourself that I needed to relax, I needed to unwind.
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  I've had a stressful day. But as you look at this memory,
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  that was also true. Then you had stressful days,
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  difficult times, and yet by not drinking alcohol during the
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  week, you were able to keep yourself sharp, focused, you
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  were sleeping better, and you were able to get more done more
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  efficiently. Like your brain was operating at
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  a higher processor speed. You were able to activate more
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  resources, and I want you to contrast that time in your life
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  with now as you reveal a hologram of your recent past.
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  These times where you felt you needed a glass of wine, that
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  beer to help you unwind. And you felt like that was true,
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  that it was helping you with the stress.
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  But by lowering and limiting your cognitive processing power,
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  all you were doing is creating more stress and requiring more
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  effort for the very next day. I want you to imagine there you
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  are in a forest with a saw, and I want you to imagine that saw
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  is sharp. And as you imagine cutting the
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  tree without sharp saw, feel that whatever effort you invest
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  leads directly to progress and results.
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  But just imagine, next to that tree there's a bottle of wine.
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  Imagine pouring that glass, drinking it, and as you look at
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  the blade of the saw, see it becoming dull and blunted.
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  And now when you try and continue soaring the tree, it
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  requires even more effort to make even less progress.
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  And you might be stressed at all of that work that you're doing
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  to chop down this tree. So you pour yourself another
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  glass of wine and then look at the teeth of that saw getting
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  blunter. Someone could chop down a tree
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  with an axe, but not with a spoon.
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  The less sharp you become, the more effort is required.
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  And if your unconscious understands that alcohol hasn't
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  been helping, it's been hindering, It's been the very
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  impediment to make things worse, let me know by nodding your head
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  to extract all of the wisdom from the past and imagine a
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  hologram now in that same cinema where you see yourself with a
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  new relationship with alcohol, a boundary.
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  You already have boundaries. Drink in the morning.
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  You don't drink while you're working.
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  I want you to imagine this hologram of your future is just
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  expanding boundaries that are already there.
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  Imagine that future version of you where your unconscious
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  boundary is that you don't drink during the week unless it's a
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  holiday, a flight, or a very special occasion.
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  You don't do it not because you can't, but because that future
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  version of you is choosing not to.
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  Not by using willpower and discipline, but by using
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  discernment. That future version of you just
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  doesn't want it. And if you could imagine that
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  future, returning home from work, maybe after a run or a
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  cycle ride, seeing yourself preparing a meal, but seeing
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  yourself perhaps pouring a glass of water with a slice of lemon
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  instead of that Chardonnay or that glass of beer.
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  I want you to see the version of you that is keeping yourself
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  sharp and focused and yet still enjoying your evening.
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  In fact, that version of you ends up having a better quality
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  of life because that version of you gets to make new plans
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  really intentionally enjoy your evenings, rather than falling
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  into the habit of sinking in front of the TV and watching
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  whatever's there or doom scrolling on your phone.
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  A version of you that is replaced wine with refreshing
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  water can drink. They're just choosing not to.
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  And if you can see that version of you with the perfect boundary
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  during the week that even if there is alcohol there in the
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  fridge or in the apartment, you just don't want it.
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  In fact, that version of you starts to believe that every
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  time you turn it down, you are voting on what version of you
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  you want to be sharp and focused or sluggish and blunt.
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  You vote with your choices. And once you've seen which
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  version of you you'd prefer, let me know by nodding your head.
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  Step into that hologram. Feel how it would feel perhaps
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  tomorrow or an upcoming day, bearing that meal and enjoying
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  pouring yourself a refreshing glass of water, slice of lemon
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  or lime. Feeling hydrated, refreshed,
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  feeling proud. Feeling aligned, feeling sharp
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  and yet still completely relaxed, drift back to that
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  chair in the cinema, observing this future hologram.
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  And then imagine seeing yourself on a weekend.
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  Maybe a Friday night, a Saturday night, even a Sunday lunchtime.
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  See yourself drinking in moderation, but only if it's
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  outside of the house or inside the house, but only if you have
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  guests, only if it's a special occasion.
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  And I want you to get a sense, get the sense that this keeps
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  that small part of alcohol that gives you the right level of
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  enjoyment, but without blunting your edge.
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  There's no downside, in fact, if your last drink is at lunchtime
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  on a Sunday, just in the same way that you wouldn't drink
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  caffeine late at night. Imagine not drinking alcohol the
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  night before you have work the following day.
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  If your unconscious feel that. This is a wonderful compromise,
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  A boundary that reduces mindless drinking and enables you to
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  enhance intentional social drinking.
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  Let me know about nodding your head, drift into the hologram
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  and then imagine being tested some Friday night, Saturday
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  night, and maybe, maybe it's your partner, maybe it's your
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  own in the dialogue that says why not, it's the weekend.
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  I don't want you to feel how you would handle that, to respect
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  your own boundary, because a boundary isn't where you set it,
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  a boundary is where you enforce it.
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  I want you to get a sand, then the boundary is what you do, not
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  what you say. And if you feel that you can
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  manoeuvre and establish that boundary where you only drink on
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  a weekend in your own home, if you have guests or it's an
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  occasion and that feels like a boundary that you can stick to,
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  let me know by nodding your head.
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  And then imagine you're out and about, maybe a restaurant, a bar
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  somewhere else, dinner party. And if it's Friday or a Saturday
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  evening, I want you to feel that you have the option, but without
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  the obligation. And every now and then, imagine
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  still having that glass of water, even on a Friday or a
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  Saturday, just to prove to yourself that you are the one in
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  control. You decide when you drink, what
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  you drink. And how much you drink.
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  And when it's intentional, it becomes more enjoyable.
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  But if it becomes habitual, your unconscious will give you an
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  emotional clue, like regret or shame or tiredness or fatigue.
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  And your job is to pay attention to how you feel.
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  Make us a nice glass of wine on a Friday or Saturday evening,
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  shared with others. We'll also give you clues.
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  You will enjoy the moment and feel no regret the following
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  day. When you are aligned with your
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  values, your boundaries, with your standards, there is no
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  emotional penalty. But if you do feel that regret,
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  that shame, that guilt, it doesn't mean you failed.
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  It's just feedback, like a line of code which creates a bug.
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  You don't wipe everything, you just amend that line of code.
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  You tweak it, refine it, and then it all works fine.
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  If your unconscious agrees, let me know by nodding your head.
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  I don't need to imagine one final hologram.
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  There in that cinema. Imagine on the left is you if
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  you continue on the path that you're on.
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  Blunt, sluggish if it means you've got to work harder, carry
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  more stress. But imagine that happening over
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  five years and then imagine that version of you with that ideal
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  relationship with alcohol five years from now.
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  Sharp on the ball, sleeping well, healthy, vibrant.
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  Because when you make one positive change, rarely does it
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  stop there. You've had the experience of
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  maybe decorating one room of the house, and when that room looks
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  great, you feel inspired, not obligated to improve the other
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  rooms. And once this new relationship
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  with alcohol becomes the new habit, don't be surprised if
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  you're inspired to make refinements to other areas of
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  your life too. Not because you have to, but
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  because you choose to. And then contrast two different
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  versions of you 5 years from now, The blunt, tired, stressed
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  version compared to the sharp, focused, intentional version,
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  and allow your body to float into whichever version of you
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  that you want to wake up tomorrow.
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  And when you've done that, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And this is your identity now. You will act like someone that
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  is kind of bored with alcohol. Kind of feels like that's what
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  you did in your late teens and 20s.
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  But if you never did that in your teens and 20s, would you
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  really start now? If the answer's no, then it
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  means all alcohol is just a choice, take it or leave it.
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  But when you decide to take it only on your terms, on a Friday,
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  Saturday night, on a special occasion, or on a weekday
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  evening while you're on vacation, that's not because you
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  have to. It's because you're choosing to.
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  And if at any point in the future that loses its appeal,
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  you reserve the right to expand your boundaries even more.
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  Allow your unconscious to consider only drinking only on
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  special occasions, and maybe that becomes a more desirable
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  place to get to. But that's something for your
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  unconscious to consider. For now, consider the new
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  boundary of choosing not to drink on a weekday.
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  It feels inspiring, feels like a challenge.
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  It feels like something all parts can get behind because
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  there's no downside. You keep the drinking that gives
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  you pleasure or joy and just end that mindless drinking that was
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  just habit anyway, before parts of your unconscious degree let
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  me know by nodding your head. Now it's time to float back.
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  Find yourself no longer in the cinema, but there on that
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  lounger by the pool, looking over a Cove.
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  And then imagine floating all the way back to your present,
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  but taking all of these new ideas, boundaries, standards and
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  changes with you. And when you wake up tomorrow,
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  it's this version of you that will awaken.
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  And when you return from work on a weekday, you will have no
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  desire to drink because you don't need it, don't want it,
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  and feel better when you don't have it.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your
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  toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now
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  count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count on 2/3 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes, open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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  Hypnotist. If you've enjoyed this episode
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