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163. Reprogram Your Beliefs · Your Enriched Self

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Speaker 1: It's important to schedule time to meet with yourself to
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Speaker 1: think through things that you otherwise kind of pass off
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Speaker 1: or put off or never ever address. And with that
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Speaker 1: comes some hard questions and the hard question I have
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Speaker 1: for you, what am I really living out? And is
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Speaker 1: it aligned with the future I want to create? Yeah,
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Speaker 1: it's a hard question. You may have to come back
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Speaker 1: to this intro to put some time into this. I
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Speaker 1: encourage you actually to come back and listen for the
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Speaker 1: question and search your heart, search your mind for what
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Speaker 1: you are doing right now. The next time you have
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Speaker 1: that meeting with yourself, and you know what, if you
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Speaker 1: don't have a meeting with yourself, I challenge you to
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Speaker 1: schedule one. Put it on your calendar. Listen, you put
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Speaker 1: time on the calendar for everybody else. Your work calendar
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Speaker 1: already has appointments that are pre scheduled. There are things
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Speaker 1: that you need to walk through, talk through, manage through,
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Speaker 1: work through, understand get new insights. And that's because you're
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Speaker 1: putting time aside or setting time aside to get that,
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Speaker 1: to nurture that part of you and think about the
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Speaker 1: person that matters the most in this whole stage, this
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Speaker 1: story of your life, and that is you, and so
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Speaker 1: if you're not making time for you, I encourage you
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Speaker 1: to do that. I don't care if it's ten, fifteen, twenty,
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Speaker 1: whatever it is. I promise if you start off with
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Speaker 1: ten minutes, you're gonna it's gonna advance. Right, You're gonna
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Speaker 1: be having these meetings where they're a little bit more
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Speaker 1: long form, but that's okay. The importance is to get started,
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Speaker 1: and so I'm gonna encourage you to get started, and
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Speaker 1: you might as well get started today. Once you get
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Speaker 1: off this episode, have a quick meeting, a check in
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Speaker 1: with yourself. Hello, my friends from all across the globe,
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Speaker 1: and welcome to the Yoursilve podcast. I am your host,
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Speaker 1: my Lee Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach,
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Speaker 1: I don't make sure that you are doing everything you
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Speaker 1: we want it to happen. You have to be intentional.
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Speaker 1: You will have to choose today to be intentional about
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Speaker 1: your life. And so that's what this podcast, this platform
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Speaker 1: is all about, is putting time, setting time aside for
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Speaker 1: you to make those intentional thoughts, to be in this
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Speaker 1: conversation intentionally, and to show up for yourself on purpose.
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Speaker 1: Send your feedback. I appreciate you, and I want to
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Speaker 1: thank you from the bottom of my heart. Now, before
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Speaker 1: we get into this week's episode, if you know you know,
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Speaker 1: one of the things that I do is I make
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Speaker 1: a deposit into the bank of you, and I do
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Speaker 1: that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way
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Speaker 1: to start your day and to command your morning. And
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Speaker 1: this week's affirmation is I have the power to change
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Speaker 1: my life. I have the power to change my life.
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Speaker 1: I have the power to change my life. Now let's
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Speaker 1: get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched
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Speaker 1: Self podcast. I want this episode to take on the
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Speaker 1: process of self evaluation, and so I want you to
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Speaker 1: dig deep into your mind, into your space, into what
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Speaker 1: you do or what you're not doing, thinking, feeling, because
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Speaker 1: this episode is about helping you to reprogram your beliefs.
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Speaker 1: We're just a few weeks away from starting the last
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Speaker 1: quarter of the year, and I know that that's when
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Speaker 1: a lot of closeouts and activities and we start kind
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Speaker 1: of getting in our heads a lot about the things
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Speaker 1: we didn't do. And I don't want us to talk
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Speaker 1: about that just yet. I think it's important to establish
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Speaker 1: a foundation for why we may not be where we
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Speaker 1: think we should be. I'm a firm believer that your
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Speaker 1: belief systems are literally going to be the vehicle that
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Speaker 1: you need to drive yourself to navigate through your life's journey,
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Speaker 1: because your belief systems are why you are where you
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Speaker 1: are right now. You believed your way into your current situation.
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Speaker 1: You believed your way into your job, you believed your
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Speaker 1: way into your skills, you believed your way into your education,
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Speaker 1: your relationship. You did that. So I think right now
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Speaker 1: is a good time to do some self evaluation on
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Speaker 1: your beliefs. Oftentimes we align our beliefs of exactly what
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Speaker 1: we see. And I think that's the easy answer, right,
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Speaker 1: That's the open book test of your life is you
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Speaker 1: believe what you see in front of you. But if
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Speaker 1: we are going to live beyond our wildest dreams, achieve
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Speaker 1: the big things, live in this world where we want
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Speaker 1: to achieve more, we want to do more, we want
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Speaker 1: to be more, we've got to believe bigger. We've got
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Speaker 1: to believe more. And that's going to require you to
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Speaker 1: visualize beyond what you see. If you're only living for
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Speaker 1: or experiencing light from just what's in front of you
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Speaker 1: and not thinking beyond what you see, you are in
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Speaker 1: fact living or you have a limited belief system that
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Speaker 1: you are kind of in a dome with and I
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Speaker 1: need you to kind of break that, break yourself out
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Speaker 1: of that. If you're listening to this, I know that
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Speaker 1: you want more for your life. I know you want
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Speaker 1: to be more of your enriched self. I know you
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Speaker 1: want to perhaps enrich the life of others around you,
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Speaker 1: your family, your friends, your community where you work, and
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Speaker 1: your system, your internal system, which is your belief system,
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Speaker 1: is going to be the way you get to do that.
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Speaker 1: But you have to kind of break through this first
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Speaker 1: barrier that I can only believe what I see or
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Speaker 1: seeing is believing. I challenge you to understand that seeing
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Speaker 1: is not believing what you see is what you see,
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Speaker 1: but believing is having faith to go beyond what you
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Speaker 1: see see. That was one of the fallacies as I
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Speaker 1: was growing up. I remember hearing that language, hearing those
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Speaker 1: words put together that seeing is believing. So I started
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Speaker 1: to build a framework without even knowing right these things
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Speaker 1: are happening kind of auto programmed that we're building these
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Speaker 1: frameworks based on the environment that we're in, the things
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Speaker 1: we're listening to, the people who are pouring into us.
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Speaker 1: And so that's why these things, just as they were
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Speaker 1: important when you were growing up and you were being reared,
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Speaker 1: they're equally and probably more so important now than ever before, because,
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Speaker 1: for one, you've got to reprogram what you were taught
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Speaker 1: by some people that loved you, that would probably do
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Speaker 1: anything for you. But one of the things that they
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Speaker 1: did in error or they did without any intention, is
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Speaker 1: they shared things. They said, things, they showed you, things
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Speaker 1: that perhaps created a system of belief. And that system
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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, and you probably know this because you're
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Speaker 1: living the life right now where there's you get to
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Speaker 1: a certain points and then you're kind of stopped. That
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Speaker 1: system has limitations built into it, So that means your
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Speaker 1: belief system is flawed because it can't align with where
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Speaker 1: you say you want to go. Like again, it goes
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Speaker 1: back to the question at the top of the podcast,
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Speaker 1: where I'm saying, are you really living out and aligned
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Speaker 1: with the future that you want to create? And if
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Speaker 1: you have a system, an internal belief system that has
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Speaker 1: limits on it, how are you aligned with the future
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Speaker 1: that you want to create. You haven't seen the future yet, yes,
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Speaker 1: but there are things that you have hopefully visioned for yourself,
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Speaker 1: dreamt for yourself, and want for you And in order
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Speaker 1: to step into that, there's got to be some limits
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Speaker 1: pulled off your life. And so that's what I really
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Speaker 1: want to get into this week is really reprogramming your beliefs.
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Speaker 1: And so the first thing I want you to be
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Speaker 1: aware of is that your belief shapes your visions and
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Speaker 1: your actions. And I think you probably got that from
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Speaker 1: what we were just kind of talking about. True growth
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Speaker 1: in your belief system in your life is believing beyond
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Speaker 1: or believing bigger than what you see. For so many
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Speaker 1: of you, you've lived a life of limits, because you
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Speaker 1: can only believe as far as you can see. So
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Speaker 1: if you've never seen that thing before, you don't know
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Speaker 1: that it can exist for you. You might see it
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Speaker 1: for someone else, but you're not seeing it for you.
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Speaker 1: And you've got to be able to reflect on where
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Speaker 1: you're going and not so much as to what you're seeing.
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Speaker 1: And I know that sounds kind of productive, because we
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Speaker 1: live in a world and the things of now are
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Speaker 1: brought before us, and those are the things that get
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Speaker 1: our attention. Your belief systems absolutely are shaping your visions
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Speaker 1: and your actions, and that's why it's important to go
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Speaker 1: beyond what you see to align to the future of
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Speaker 1: what you are having faith for in your life. The
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Speaker 1: other thing I will say is your behaviors today reflect
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Speaker 1: your belief system the way you behave right if you're
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Speaker 1: speaking negatively about your future or you're acting contradictory to
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Speaker 1: your goals, and examine that right now, let me ask
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Speaker 1: you this, are you speaking negatively about your future? Think
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Speaker 1: about the things you've said this week. It is likely
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Speaker 1: because they're There are some behavioral things that you need
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Speaker 1: to adjust, and it starts with language. Language is gonna
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Speaker 1: be the biggest one I did an episode called Killing Ants,
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Speaker 1: one of my favorite episodes because it talks about the
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Speaker 1: negative thoughts that we have all throughout the day. Right,
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Speaker 1: automatic negative thoughts, Right, killing ants. You have to be
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Speaker 1: intentional about what you say, because you could be feeding
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Speaker 1: these ants. You could be putting things down for these
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Speaker 1: ants just to come in and take over. I don't
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Speaker 1: know if any of you have ever been at a
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Speaker 1: picnic or been outdoors and somebody left a piece of
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Speaker 1: food or something out, and how just over a short
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Speaker 1: period of time, you see a community, an army of
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Speaker 1: ants that would take over that piece of bread or
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Speaker 1: lettuce or whatever, And it is phenomenal to watch how
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Speaker 1: they work, and your thoughts do the same thing. All
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Speaker 1: you need is a feed of negativity, and then everything
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Speaker 1: crowds to that thought. We have approximately eighty thousand thoughts
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Speaker 1: a day, and I think eighty percent of those thoughts
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Speaker 1: are negative. So automatic negative thoughts, right, we just kind
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Speaker 1: of go in. We're kind of pro again, goes back
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Speaker 1: to programming. How we've seen life and how people have
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Speaker 1: explained to things to us, and how we've experiencing we
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Speaker 1: tend to go to the negative first. In the Bible,
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Speaker 1: there's a scripture that says that death and life are
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Speaker 1: in the power of the tongue, and I've heard people
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Speaker 1: say that the opposite way. They say life and death
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Speaker 1: are in the power of the tongue. It's actually written
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Speaker 1: as death and life because we tend to speak death
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Speaker 1: over our situation before we start speaking life. I mean,
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Speaker 1: think about times when you can get a hold of
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Speaker 1: somebody or you hadn't heard from someone in a while.
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Speaker 1: You don't think, oh, maybe they are, you know, handling
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Speaker 1: some business. You know, maybe there's signing that big contract
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Speaker 1: that they said they were going. You automatically think something
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Speaker 1: must be wrong, this happened to this person. We go
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Speaker 1: down this path of negativity first, and you're not the
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Speaker 1: only one that does it. Again, eighty percent of your
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Speaker 1: thoughts are negative. But because we now have that information,
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Speaker 1: we have that insight, we can make the changes. And
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Speaker 1: those behavioral changes start with your language, because if you're
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Speaker 1: speaking negatively about your future and you're acting in ways
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Speaker 1: that are contradicting where you want to go, you've got
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Speaker 1: to go down to the root system, which is the
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Speaker 1: belief system, and you've got to make time to examine
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Speaker 1: what you've been doing, what you've been saying, and whatever
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Speaker 1: other habits as a result of what you do and
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Speaker 1: what you say, or what you've done and what you've
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Speaker 1: been saying, because those habits are going to reveal where
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Speaker 1: you need to make the fix. Anything done all over
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Speaker 1: a period of time, repetitively over a period of time,
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Speaker 1: is going to build your belief systems. If for the
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Speaker 1: last month you've come home and you're like, I'm tired.
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Speaker 1: I'm tired. Every time I get home, I'm tired. Your
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Speaker 1: belief system is that you're nine to five is tiring
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Speaker 1: you out. So you are starting to believe that you
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Speaker 1: can't do anything after five or after whatever. You are
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Speaker 1: just tired, You are spent. You cannot be creative, you
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Speaker 1: cannot be innovative. You are now creating a belief system
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Speaker 1: based on the words you say, the words you're speaking
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Speaker 1: over your life. Remember, death and life are in the
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Speaker 1: power of the tongue. That's where that comes from. That
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Speaker 1: means you got to change the words that you're speaking.
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Speaker 1: You got to change your habits. Maybe instead of getting
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Speaker 1: home and laying in the bed, you get home, you
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Speaker 1: put on your shoes, you go for a five minute walk,
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Speaker 1: a ten minute walk, you don't have to do a
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Speaker 1: lot to make these changes. And I think a lot
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Speaker 1: of times it feels overwhelming to do. The reprogramming sounds
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Speaker 1: like a lot, but it can just be a small thing.
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Speaker 1: I mean, when you think about reprogramming, Apple does it
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Speaker 1: what once a month? It feels like there's always a
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Speaker 1: reprogramming of the phone because there's something that needs to
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Speaker 1: change so that the experience can be better. And you
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Speaker 1: need to change so that your experience in this life
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Speaker 1: can be better. Right, all in all, reprogramming requires an
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Speaker 1: intentional app If we use an Apple example, they are
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Speaker 1: very intentional about what the reprogram is going to do,
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Speaker 1: what's going to solve for what is going to fix
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Speaker 1: the bugs, the different things like that, And perhaps you
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Speaker 1: don't know exactly what that's going to fix. And that's
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Speaker 1: why I recommend that you do a self evaluation. Let's
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Speaker 1: think about it this way. If you believe that you
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Speaker 1: want better health for yourself, but your actions are you
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Speaker 1: don't set any time aside in a day to go
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Speaker 1: for a walk, You're not drinking enough water. I don't
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Speaker 1: know what it is that you want to do. Maybe
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Speaker 1: it's your savings. You want to have a certain amount
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Speaker 1: saved by a time of the year, maybe before the
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Speaker 1: end of year or the start of the next year.
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Speaker 1: Those types of intentional activities are gonna require you to participate.
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Speaker 1: You can't blame it on anybody else. You've got to
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Speaker 1: create that schedule for yourself. You've got to create what
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Speaker 1: you want to see in the future. So it is
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Speaker 1: time for your reset. Whatever you are doing is nurture
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Speaker 1: in your belief So if you don't believe that you
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Speaker 1: can save the money, you're gonna nurture that by making
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Speaker 1: a bad choice, making a bad financial choice, or spending
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Speaker 1: outside of this is your season to be intentional about
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Speaker 1: your choices. It's your season to watch the environment you're in, because, yes,
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Speaker 1: you are at the core of this, and you are,
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Speaker 1: as I always say, the common denominator of your life.
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Speaker 1: But what are you listening to? Who are you listening to?
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Speaker 1: What environment are you in? Because all of those things
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Speaker 1: are going to impact your ability to be successful at
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Speaker 1: reprogramming your beliefs. Reprogram your beliefs ultimately help you reprogram
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Speaker 1: your life and get you back on track. The bottom
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Speaker 1: line is this, you can have a whole bunch of
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Speaker 1: goals and I know that a lot of you have goals,
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Speaker 1: and that is important. You should have a goal, you
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Speaker 1: should have something that you're striving for. But what's frustrating
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Speaker 1: is to get from week to week, month to month
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Speaker 1: and not a acomplishing those goals. And if you are
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Speaker 1: in that space right now, I know it's frustrating. It
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Speaker 1: feels frustrating. I have done that to myself around my
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Speaker 1: weight goals or my health goals. For a number of years.
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Speaker 1: The challenge for me was there were activities that weren't
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Speaker 1: in alignment with where I wanted to be. And this
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Speaker 1: is the first time because of community, because of consistency,
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Speaker 1: because I'm no longer focused on motivation to get me through,
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Speaker 1: I am going back to my why. There's a lot
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Speaker 1: of things I've had to adopt as part of my
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Speaker 1: belief system to help me get there, and so I
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Speaker 1: want you to get there. I know you've been frustrated.
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Speaker 1: I know you're probably frustrated now, but I promise you
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Speaker 1: there is light at the end of the tunnel. I
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Speaker 1: promise you that you can overcome this. You can achieve
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Speaker 1: the life that you want, but it starts with sustaining
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Speaker 1: the actions that are rooted in your beliefs or rooting
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Speaker 1: out the actions that won't help you get to where
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Speaker 1: you need to go. It's worth your time. It's worth
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Speaker 1: your time to reprogram your beliefs so that you can
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Speaker 1: get back on track. So the self evaluation, I want
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Speaker 1: you to take some time. This is your homework, right.
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Speaker 1: Like I said, becoming your rich self is not just
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Speaker 1: listening to a podcast, is going back after the episode
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Speaker 1: or even throughout the episode and really digging deep into
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Speaker 1: what it is that you need to do, taking kind
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Speaker 1: of putting yourself in the focal point, the center point
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Speaker 1: of your life. If you haven't done that, because a
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Speaker 1: lot of you take yourself out and you put somebody
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Speaker 1: else in. I want you to get back in the center.
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Speaker 1: And I want you to look around and see how
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Speaker 1: the different parts of your life are operating. And I
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Speaker 1: promise you, if something is operating outside of alignment, outside
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Speaker 1: of where you want to be, where you want to
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Speaker 1: go future you, it starts with your belief systems, and
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Speaker 1: it starts with you doing the work to live beyond
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