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You Are Not What Happened to You — Here's What to Do With It | EP 318 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  According
• 0:06
  to
• 0:06
  history,
• 0:07
  my
• 0:07
  life
• 0:07
  wasn't
• 0:08
  supposed
• 0:08
  to
• 0:08
  amount
• 0:08
  to
• 0:09
  much.
• 0:09
  I
• 0:09
  was
• 0:10
  divorced,
• 0:11
  a
• 0:11
  single
• 0:11
  mom
• 0:11
  raising
• 0:12
  two
• 0:12
  babies
• 0:12
  on
• 0:13
  my
• 0:13
  own,
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  and
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  then
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  I
• 0:14
  lost
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  my
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  two
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  anchors
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  in
• 0:16
  this
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  entire
• 0:17
  world.
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  And
• 0:18
  friend,
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  any
• 0:20
  one
• 0:20
  of
• 0:20
  those
• 0:20
  things
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  could
• 0:21
  have
• 0:21
  taken
• 0:21
  me
• 0:21
  smooth
• 0:22
  out
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  the
• 0:22
  game.
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  But
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  let
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  me
• 0:25
  tell
• 0:25
  you
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  about
• 0:26
  when
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  I
• 0:27
  realized
• 0:28
  what
• 0:29
  had
• 0:29
  happened
• 0:29
  to
• 0:29
  me
• 0:30
  was
• 0:30
  never
• 0:31
  meant
• 0:32
  to
• 0:32
  be
• 0:32
  my
• 0:32
  whole
• 0:33
  story,
• 0:34
  and
• 0:34
  the
• 0:34
  simple
• 0:34
  process
• 0:35
  that
• 0:35
  helped
• 0:35
  me
• 0:35
  step
• 0:36
  out
• 0:36
  of
• 0:36
  it,
• 0:37
  reclaim
• 0:37
  my
• 0:37
  power,
• 0:38
  and
• 0:38
  build
• 0:39
  something
• 0:39
  that
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  I
• 0:39
  am
• 0:40
  genuinely
• 0:41
  proud
• 0:42
  of
• 0:42
  from
• 0:43
  all
• 0:43
  of
• 0:43
  it.
• 0:44
  I
• 0:44
  am
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  in
• 0:45
  love
• 0:45
  with
• 0:45
  me
• 0:46
  and
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  my
• 0:46
  life,
• 0:46
  okay?
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  I
• 0:48
  did
• 0:48
  it,
• 0:48
  friend,
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  and
• 0:49
  you
• 0:49
  can
• 0:50
  do
• 0:50
  it,
• 0:50
  too.
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  So
• 0:51
  let's
• 0:52
  get
• 0:52
  into
• 0:52
  it
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  And
• 0:55
  where
• 0:55
  are
• 0:55
  my
• 0:55
  manners?
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  Welcome,
• 0:57
  welcome
• 0:57
  to
• 0:57
  Confident
• 0:58
  and
• 0:58
  Empowered
• 0:59
  Women.
• 0:59
  I'm
• 0:59
  your
• 0:59
  host,
• 1:00
  Letitia,
• 1:01
  and
• 1:01
  this
• 1:01
  is
• 1:01
  the
• 1:02
  space
• 1:02
  where
• 1:02
  we
• 1:03
  have
• 1:03
  the
• 1:03
  real
• 1:04
  conversations
• 1:05
  about
• 1:06
  falling
• 1:06
  in
• 1:06
  love
• 1:06
  with
• 1:07
  yourself,
• 1:07
  your
• 1:07
  days,
• 1:08
  and
• 1:08
  your
• 1:08
  life.
• 1:09
  And
• 1:09
  if
• 1:09
  you
• 1:10
  haven't
• 1:10
  yet,
• 1:10
  make
• 1:11
  sure
• 1:11
  you're
• 1:11
  subscribed
• 1:12
  so
• 1:12
  you
• 1:12
  never
• 1:13
  miss
• 1:13
  an
• 1:14
  episode.
• 1:14
  We
• 1:15
  are
• 1:15
  here
• 1:15
  every
• 1:16
  single
• 1:16
  Tuesday
• 1:16
  and
• 1:17
  Thursday,
• 1:18
  and
• 1:18
  I
• 1:18
  don't
• 1:18
  want
• 1:19
  you
• 1:19
  to
• 1:19
  miss
• 1:19
  a
• 1:19
  thing.
• 1:20
  Listen,
• 1:20
  I
• 1:20
  almost
• 1:21
  sung
• 1:21
  it
• 1:21
  for
• 1:21
  you
• 1:22
  in
• 1:22
  my
• 1:22
  Earl
• 1:22
  Smith
• 1:22
  voice,
• 1:23
  but
• 1:24
  I
• 1:24
  will
• 1:24
  save
• 1:24
  you
• 1:24
  that,
• 1:25
  friend.
• 1:26
  You're
• 1:27
  welcome.
• 1:29
  So
• 1:29
  get
• 1:29
  cozy
• 1:30
  Because
• 1:30
  we
• 1:31
  are
• 1:31
  getting
• 1:31
  all
• 1:31
  the
• 1:31
  way
• 1:32
  into
• 1:32
  it
• 1:35
  It's
• 1:35
  not
• 1:36
  what
• 1:36
  happened
• 1:36
  to
• 1:36
  you,
• 1:37
  it's
• 1:37
  what
• 1:38
  you
• 1:38
  decide
• 1:38
  to
• 1:39
  do
• 1:39
  with
• 1:39
  it.
• 1:39
  And
• 1:39
  friend,
• 1:40
  I
• 1:40
  know
• 1:41
  this
• 1:41
  can
• 1:41
  be
• 1:41
  hard
• 1:42
  to
• 1:42
  hear.
• 1:42
  You
• 1:43
  might
• 1:43
  even
• 1:43
  low-key
• 1:44
  be
• 1:44
  rolling
• 1:44
  your
• 1:45
  eyes
• 1:45
  right
• 1:45
  now
• 1:46
  as
• 1:46
  we
• 1:46
  speak
• 1:48
  because
• 1:49
  it
• 1:49
  is
• 1:49
  so
• 1:49
  easy
• 1:50
  to
• 1:50
  get
• 1:50
  caught
• 1:51
  up
• 1:51
  in
• 1:51
  the
• 1:51
  story
• 1:52
  of
• 1:52
  what
• 1:52
  happened
• 1:53
  that
• 1:54
  you
• 1:54
  allow
• 1:54
  it
• 1:54
  to
• 1:55
  define
• 1:55
  you.
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  But
• 1:56
  lean
• 1:57
  in
• 1:57
  with
• 1:58
  me
• 1:58
  because
• 1:58
  I'm
• 1:59
  gonna
• 1:59
  give
• 1:59
  you
• 2:00
  a
• 2:00
  simple
• 2:00
  process
• 2:01
  that's
• 2:01
  really
• 2:01
  gonna
• 2:01
  help
• 2:02
  you
• 2:02
  reclaim
• 2:02
  your
• 2:03
  power
• 2:04
  and
• 2:04
  your
• 2:05
  rightful
• 2:05
  position
• 2:06
  in
• 2:06
  it.
• 2:07
  Hear
• 2:08
  me
• 2:08
  with
• 2:08
  your
• 2:08
  whole
• 2:09
  heart
• 2:09
  when
• 2:09
  I
• 2:09
  say
• 2:10
  this.
• 2:11
  You
• 2:12
  are
• 2:12
  not
• 2:13
  what
• 2:13
  happened
• 2:13
  to
• 2:14
  you
• 2:15
  You
• 2:15
  are
• 2:15
  the
• 2:15
  one
• 2:16
  who
• 2:16
  gets
• 2:16
  to
• 2:16
  decide
• 2:17
  what
• 2:18
  you
• 2:18
  will
• 2:18
  do
• 2:19
  with
• 2:19
  it
• 2:20
  and
• 2:20
  what
• 2:20
  you're
• 2:21
  gonna
• 2:21
  build
• 2:22
  instead.
• 2:23
  Now
• 2:23
  friend,
• 2:24
  this
• 2:24
  is
• 2:24
  just
• 2:25
  like
• 2:25
  me
• 2:25
  talking
• 2:25
  to
• 2:26
  the
• 2:26
  old
• 2:26
  me
• 2:26
  right
• 2:27
  now,
• 2:27
  okay?
• 2:29
  Because
• 2:29
  it
• 2:29
  took
• 2:29
  me
• 2:30
  years
• 2:31
  of
• 2:31
  my
• 2:31
  life
• 2:32
  to
• 2:32
  realize
• 2:33
  this
• 2:34
  pattern.
• 2:35
  I
• 2:35
  had
• 2:35
  been
• 2:36
  stewing
• 2:36
  in
• 2:36
  what
• 2:37
  happened
• 2:38
  for
• 2:38
  way
• 2:38
  too
• 2:38
  long.
• 2:39
  I'm
• 2:39
  talking
• 2:40
  simmering
• 2:41
  crockpot
• 2:42
  all
• 2:42
  day,
• 2:42
  overnight
• 2:43
  friend,
• 2:44
  but
• 2:44
  on
• 2:44
  repeat.
• 2:48
  And
• 2:48
  that
• 2:48
  was
• 2:48
  me
• 2:49
  because
• 2:49
  Lord
• 2:50
  knows
• 2:50
  I
• 2:51
  could
• 2:51
  stew
• 2:51
  in
• 2:52
  something
• 2:52
  that
• 2:52
  happened
• 2:53
  like
• 2:53
  no
• 2:53
  other,
• 2:54
  okay?
• 2:55
  And
• 2:55
  I
• 2:55
  allowed
• 2:56
  it
• 2:56
  to
• 2:56
  go
• 2:56
  on
• 2:57
  for
• 2:57
  way
• 2:57
  too
• 2:58
  long,
• 2:58
  and
• 2:59
  it
• 2:59
  kept
• 2:59
  me
• 2:59
  stuck
• 3:00
  From
• 3:01
  asking
• 3:02
  why
• 3:03
  for
• 3:03
  years
• 3:04
  and
• 3:04
  constantly
• 3:05
  saying,
• 3:05
  "How
• 3:05
  dare
• 3:06
  you?"
• 3:09
  Heavy
• 3:09
  on
• 3:09
  the
• 3:09
  years,
• 3:10
  friend.
• 3:11
  And
• 3:11
  when
• 3:11
  you're
• 3:11
  in
• 3:11
  the
• 3:12
  thick
• 3:12
  of
• 3:12
  it,
• 3:12
  when
• 3:13
  the
• 3:13
  hurt,
• 3:13
  the
• 3:14
  anger,
• 3:14
  betrayal,
• 3:15
  embarrassment,
• 3:17
  the
• 3:17
  sheer
• 3:17
  audacity
• 3:18
  of
• 3:19
  it
• 3:19
  all,
• 3:19
  it's
• 3:20
  hard
• 3:20
  to
• 3:20
  separate
• 3:21
  what
• 3:21
  happened
• 3:22
  from
• 3:23
  you
• 3:23
  personally
• 3:24
  and
• 3:25
  not
• 3:25
  allow
• 3:25
  it
• 3:25
  to
• 3:26
  stake
• 3:26
  a
• 3:26
  claim
• 3:26
  over
• 3:27
  your
• 3:27
  future
• 3:28
  Here's
• 3:28
  what
• 3:29
  I
• 3:29
  know.
• 3:29
  The
• 3:30
  things
• 3:30
  that
• 3:30
  happen
• 3:31
  to
• 3:31
  us
• 3:32
  are
• 3:32
  completely
• 3:34
  outside
• 3:34
  of
• 3:34
  our
• 3:34
  control,
• 3:35
  but
• 3:36
  what
• 3:36
  you
• 3:36
  do
• 3:36
  with
• 3:37
  it,
• 3:37
  that
• 3:38
  part
• 3:38
  is
• 3:38
  yours.
• 3:39
  And
• 3:39
  when
• 3:39
  I
• 3:40
  reflect
• 3:40
  back
• 3:41
  on
• 3:41
  my
• 3:41
  life,
• 3:42
  the
• 3:43
  things
• 3:43
  that
• 3:43
  I've
• 3:43
  been
• 3:44
  through,
• 3:44
  the
• 3:44
  things
• 3:44
  that
• 3:45
  I've
• 3:45
  overcome,
• 3:46
  divorce,
• 3:47
  single
• 3:48
  mom
• 3:48
  raising
• 3:49
  two
• 3:49
  babies
• 3:49
  on
• 3:50
  her
• 3:50
  own,
• 3:51
  the
• 3:51
  loss
• 3:51
  of
• 3:51
  my
• 3:52
  granny
• 3:52
  and
• 3:52
  my
• 3:53
  mom,
• 3:53
  my
• 3:54
  two
• 3:54
  anchors
• 3:55
  in
• 3:55
  this
• 3:56
  world.
• 3:56
  To
• 3:57
  have
• 3:57
  gone
• 3:57
  through
• 3:57
  all
• 3:58
  of
• 3:58
  that
• 3:58
  and
• 3:59
  not
• 3:59
  allowed
• 3:59
  it
• 3:59
  to
• 4:00
  define
• 4:00
  me
• 4:01
  or
• 4:01
  my
• 4:02
  destiny,
• 4:03
  friend,
• 4:04
  that
• 4:04
  is
• 4:04
  a
• 4:04
  testimony
• 4:05
  within
• 4:06
  itself.
• 4:09
  Won't
• 4:10
  he
• 4:10
  do
• 4:10
  it?
• 4:10
  Won't
• 4:10
  he
• 4:10
  will.
• 4:13
  Because
• 4:14
  truthfully,
• 4:15
  any
• 4:15
  one
• 4:15
  of
• 4:15
  those
• 4:16
  things
• 4:16
  could
• 4:16
  have
• 4:17
  been
• 4:17
  a
• 4:17
  life
• 4:18
  sentence
• 4:19
  if
• 4:19
  I
• 4:19
  chose
• 4:19
  to
• 4:20
  live
• 4:20
  it
• 4:20
  that
• 4:20
  way.
• 4:21
  The
• 4:21
  one
• 4:21
  that
• 4:22
  almost
• 4:22
  did
• 4:23
  was
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  loss
• 4:24
  of
• 4:24
  my
• 4:24
  mom.
• 4:25
  When
• 4:25
  she
• 4:25
  made
• 4:25
  her
• 4:25
  transition
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  heaven,
• 4:27
  a
• 4:27
  part
• 4:27
  of
• 4:27
  me
• 4:28
  went
• 4:29
  with
• 4:29
  her,
• 4:30
  and
• 4:30
  I
• 4:30
  realize
• 4:31
  now
• 4:32
  that
• 4:32
  part
• 4:32
  of
• 4:33
  me
• 4:33
  had
• 4:34
  to
• 4:34
  go
• 4:35
  with
• 4:35
  her.
• 4:36
  It
• 4:36
  was
• 4:37
  an
• 4:37
  old
• 4:37
  version
• 4:38
  of
• 4:38
  me,
• 4:39
  the
• 4:39
  one
• 4:39
  who
• 4:39
  complained
• 4:40
  all
• 4:41
  the
• 4:41
  time,
• 4:42
  and
• 4:42
  I
• 4:43
  mean
• 4:43
  all
• 4:44
  the
• 4:44
  time.
• 4:46
  The
• 4:46
  one
• 4:46
  who
• 4:46
  didn't
• 4:47
  believe
• 4:47
  that
• 4:47
  love
• 4:48
  was
• 4:48
  possible
• 4:49
  for
• 4:49
  her,
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  one
• 4:50
  who
• 4:50
  constantly
• 4:51
  settled
• 4:52
  and
• 4:52
  let
• 4:52
  the
• 4:52
  labels
• 4:53
  that
• 4:53
  didn't
• 4:54
  fit
• 4:54
  form
• 4:55
  a
• 4:55
  callus
• 4:56
  over
• 4:56
  her
• 4:56
  life.
• 4:57
  That
• 4:58
  version
• 4:58
  of
• 4:58
  me,
• 4:59
  oh,
• 4:59
  she
• 4:59
  had
• 4:59
  to
• 4:59
  go,
• 5:00
  okay?
• 5:01
  Especially
• 5:02
  if
• 5:02
  I
• 5:02
  was
• 5:03
  going
• 5:03
  to
• 5:03
  have
• 5:04
  the
• 5:04
  life
• 5:04
  that
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  have
• 5:05
  now,
• 5:06
  those
• 5:06
  parts
• 5:07
  of
• 5:07
  me
• 5:08
  needed
• 5:09
  to
• 5:09
  go.
• 5:10
  And
• 5:10
  friend,
• 5:11
  I
• 5:11
  don't
• 5:11
  want
• 5:12
  what
• 5:12
  has
• 5:12
  happened
• 5:13
  to
• 5:13
  you
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  hold
• 5:14
  you
• 5:14
  back
• 5:15
  any
• 5:15
  longer
• 5:16
  than
• 5:16
  it
• 5:16
  already
• 5:17
  has.
• 5:18
  Going
• 5:18
  through
• 5:18
  my
• 5:19
  grief
• 5:19
  journey
• 5:19
  allowed
• 5:20
  me
• 5:20
  to
• 5:20
  shed
• 5:21
  things
• 5:21
  about
• 5:21
  myself
• 5:22
  that
• 5:23
  were
• 5:23
  no
• 5:23
  longer
• 5:23
  serving
• 5:24
  me
• 5:24
  because
• 5:25
  I
• 5:25
  had
• 5:25
  a
• 5:25
  real
• 5:26
  up
• 5:26
  close
• 5:27
  and
• 5:27
  personal
• 5:28
  view
• 5:29
  of
• 5:29
  just
• 5:29
  how
• 5:29
  short
• 5:30
  and
• 5:30
  precious
• 5:31
  life
• 5:31
  really
• 5:32
  are.
• 5:33
  That
• 5:33
  desire
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  complain
• 5:35
  about
• 5:35
  things
• 5:35
  that
• 5:35
  don't
• 5:36
  even
• 5:36
  matter
• 5:37
  evaporated.
• 5:39
  That
• 5:39
  old
• 5:40
  belief
• 5:40
  that
• 5:40
  love
• 5:41
  was
• 5:41
  not
• 5:41
  possible
• 5:42
  for
• 5:42
  me,
• 5:43
  I
• 5:43
  knew
• 5:43
  that
• 5:44
  was
• 5:44
  a
• 5:44
  lie.
• 5:45
  That
• 5:45
  was
• 5:45
  just
• 5:45
  fear,
• 5:46
  doubt,
• 5:46
  and
• 5:47
  impatience
• 5:48
  talking,
• 5:49
  honey.
• 5:49
  And
• 5:50
  that
• 5:50
  went
• 5:51
  away
• 5:51
  too,
• 5:52
  mainly
• 5:53
  because
• 5:53
  I
• 5:53
  started
• 5:54
  to
• 5:54
  fall
• 5:54
  in
• 5:55
  love
• 5:55
  with
• 5:55
  myself
• 5:56
  and
• 5:56
  in
• 5:56
  really
• 5:57
  appreciating
• 5:58
  my
• 5:58
  own
• 5:58
  self,
• 5:59
  seeing
• 6:00
  my
• 6:00
  own
• 6:00
  value,
• 6:01
  my
• 6:01
  own
• 6:01
  worth,
• 6:02
  and
• 6:03
  loving
• 6:03
  myself
• 6:04
  properly
• 6:05
  That
• 6:05
  is
• 6:06
  what
• 6:06
  opened
• 6:06
  up
• 6:06
  the
• 6:06
  door
• 6:07
  for
• 6:07
  everything
• 6:08
  else.
• 6:08
  Because
• 6:09
  what
• 6:09
  we
• 6:09
  don't
• 6:09
  realize
• 6:10
  is
• 6:11
  the
• 6:11
  more
• 6:11
  that
• 6:11
  we
• 6:11
  tell
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  same
• 6:12
  old
• 6:13
  story
• 6:14
  of
• 6:14
  what
• 6:14
  happened,
• 6:15
  the
• 6:15
  more
• 6:16
  it
• 6:16
  shapes
• 6:16
  our
• 6:17
  lived
• 6:17
  experience,
• 6:18
  the
• 6:19
  more
• 6:19
  that
• 6:19
  very
• 6:20
  thing
• 6:20
  is
• 6:20
  driving
• 6:21
  the
• 6:21
  future
• 6:21
  that
• 6:21
  we're
• 6:22
  building.
• 6:23
  And
• 6:23
  listen,
• 6:23
  you
• 6:24
  already
• 6:24
  know
• 6:24
  that's
• 6:24
  not
• 6:25
  the
• 6:25
  future
• 6:25
  that
• 6:25
  you
• 6:25
  want.
• 6:26
  It's
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  one
• 6:27
  that
• 6:27
  keeps
• 6:28
  you
• 6:28
  stuck
• 6:29
  and
• 6:29
  swirling
• 6:29
  in
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  how
• 6:30
  could
• 6:30
  theys
• 6:31
  and
• 6:31
  why
• 6:31
  of
• 6:32
  it
• 6:32
  all.
• 6:32
  But
• 6:33
  we're
• 6:33
  putting
• 6:33
  a
• 6:34
  stop
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  that
• 6:35
  today
• 6:36
  Friend,
• 6:36
  what
• 6:37
  happened,
• 6:38
  happened.
• 6:39
  The
• 6:39
  terrible,
• 6:40
  the
• 6:40
  horrific,
• 6:41
  the
• 6:41
  heartbreaking,
• 6:43
  it
• 6:43
  happened.
• 6:44
  Yes,
• 6:46
  give
• 6:46
  it
• 6:46
  its
• 6:46
  due
• 6:46
  process.
• 6:47
  I
• 6:48
  heard
• 6:48
  Chaz
• 6:49
  Palminteri
• 6:49
  say,
• 6:50
  "Nobody
• 6:51
  gets
• 6:51
  out
• 6:51
  of
• 6:52
  this
• 6:52
  life
• 6:52
  alive.
• 6:54
  No
• 6:54
  one
• 6:54
  gets
• 6:55
  out
• 6:55
  without
• 6:56
  pain."
• 6:57
  Friend,
• 6:58
  that
• 6:59
  hit
• 6:59
  me
• 6:59
  so
• 7:00
  hard
• 7:00
  because
• 7:00
  none
• 7:01
  of
• 7:01
  us
• 7:02
  are
• 7:02
  exempt.
• 7:03
  That
• 7:04
  doesn't
• 7:04
  excuse,
• 7:05
  minimize,
• 7:06
  or
• 7:06
  lessen
• 7:07
  what
• 7:07
  happened
• 7:08
  by
• 7:08
  any
• 7:09
  means.
• 7:09
  We
• 7:10
  have
• 7:10
  to
• 7:10
  know
• 7:11
  that
• 7:11
  this
• 7:12
  is
• 7:12
  a
• 7:12
  part
• 7:13
  of
• 7:13
  life.
• 7:13
  It
• 7:14
  just
• 7:14
  comes
• 7:14
  with
• 7:15
  it.
• 7:15
  It's
• 7:16
  a
• 7:16
  part
• 7:16
  of
• 7:16
  the
• 7:16
  human
• 7:17
  experience.
• 7:18
  The
• 7:18
  reason
• 7:19
  we
• 7:19
  all
• 7:19
  love
• 7:19
  the
• 7:20
  hero's
• 7:20
  journey
• 7:20
  so
• 7:21
  much
• 7:21
  is
• 7:22
  because
• 7:22
  of
• 7:22
  the
• 7:22
  respect
• 7:23
  we
• 7:23
  have
• 7:24
  for
• 7:24
  them
• 7:25
  because
• 7:25
  we've
• 7:25
  seen
• 7:26
  everything
• 7:26
  that
• 7:26
  they
• 7:27
  had
• 7:27
  to
• 7:27
  overcome
• 7:28
  when
• 7:28
  they
• 7:28
  had
• 7:29
  every
• 7:29
  reason
• 7:31
  not
• 7:31
  to.
• 7:32
  We
• 7:32
  all
• 7:33
  have
• 7:33
  that
• 7:33
  in
• 7:33
  common,
• 7:34
  friend,
• 7:35
  but
• 7:36
  it's
• 7:36
  a
• 7:36
  choice.
• 7:37
  It's
• 7:37
  an
• 7:38
  intention.
• 7:39
  Be
• 7:39
  willing
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  do
• 7:40
  what
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  need
• 7:41
  to
• 7:41
  do
• 7:42
  to
• 7:42
  heal.
• 7:43
  Just
• 7:43
  don't
• 7:43
  stay
• 7:44
  there.
• 7:44
  This
• 7:45
  is
• 7:45
  a
• 7:45
  trap
• 7:46
  so
• 7:46
  many
• 7:46
  of
• 7:47
  us
• 7:47
  fall
• 7:47
  into,
• 7:48
  and
• 7:48
  it's
• 7:49
  easy
• 7:49
  because
• 7:50
  it's
• 7:50
  justified.
• 7:52
  So
• 7:52
  much
• 7:52
  energy
• 7:53
  is
• 7:53
  given
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  what
• 7:54
  has
• 7:54
  happened
• 7:55
  When
• 7:55
  it
• 7:56
  was
• 7:56
  only
• 7:56
  meant
• 7:57
  to
• 7:57
  be
• 7:58
  a
• 7:58
  part
• 7:58
  of
• 7:58
  your
• 7:59
  before
• 7:59
  story,
• 8:00
  not
• 8:01
  the
• 8:01
  after.
• 8:02
  Give
• 8:02
  it
• 8:02
  its
• 8:02
  airtime,
• 8:03
  respect
• 8:04
  it,
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  Cast
• 8:05
  your
• 8:05
  sights
• 8:05
  on
• 8:06
  who
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  allow
• 8:07
  it
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  influence
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  become
• 8:10
  and
• 8:11
  what
• 8:11
  place
• 8:11
  it
• 8:12
  has
• 8:12
  in
• 8:12
  your
• 8:12
  future
• 8:13
  Will
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  allow
• 8:14
  the
• 8:14
  broken
• 8:14
  heart
• 8:15
  to
• 8:15
  harden
• 8:16
  your
• 8:16
  heart
• 8:17
  and
• 8:17
  never
• 8:18
  allow
• 8:18
  love
• 8:18
  a
• 8:18
  chance
• 8:19
  to
• 8:19
  come
• 8:19
  back
• 8:19
  in?
• 8:20
  Will
• 8:20
  you
• 8:21
  allow
• 8:21
  the
• 8:21
  mistreatment
• 8:22
  to
• 8:23
  harden
• 8:23
  you
• 8:24
  and
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  end
• 8:25
  up
• 8:25
  becoming
• 8:26
  cold,
• 8:27
  bitter,
• 8:27
  shut
• 8:27
  off,
• 8:28
  or
• 8:28
  disconnected?
• 8:29
  Will
• 8:30
  you
• 8:30
  allow
• 8:30
  that
• 8:31
  time
• 8:31
  in
• 8:31
  your
• 8:32
  life
• 8:32
  that
• 8:33
  hurt
• 8:33
  you
• 8:33
  the
• 8:34
  most
• 8:35
  to
• 8:35
  be
• 8:35
  the
• 8:35
  reason
• 8:36
  you
• 8:36
  become
• 8:37
  the
• 8:37
  exact
• 8:38
  opposite
• 8:39
  of
• 8:39
  who
• 8:40
  you
• 8:40
  truly
• 8:40
  are
• 8:41
  at
• 8:41
  your
• 8:41
  core?
• 8:42
  Or
• 8:43
  will
• 8:43
  you
• 8:43
  decide
• 8:44
  to
• 8:44
  use
• 8:44
  it
• 8:45
  for
• 8:45
  all
• 8:46
  of
• 8:46
  your
• 8:46
  good,
• 8:47
  just
• 8:47
  as
• 8:48
  God
• 8:48
  does
• 8:48
  for
• 8:49
  us?
• 8:49
  And
• 8:49
  if
• 8:50
  God
• 8:50
  is
• 8:50
  not
• 8:50
  your
• 8:51
  jam,
• 8:51
  feel
• 8:51
  free
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  insert
• 8:53
  the
• 8:53
  source
• 8:53
  universe
• 8:54
  or
• 8:54
  whom
• 8:55
  it
• 8:55
  is
• 8:56
  you
• 8:56
  believe
• 8:56
  in.
• 8:57
  Will
• 8:58
  you
• 8:58
  do
• 8:58
  your
• 8:58
  work?
• 8:59
  Will
• 9:00
  you
• 9:00
  heal
• 9:00
  what
• 9:01
  needs
• 9:01
  to
• 9:01
  be
• 9:01
  healed
• 9:02
  within
• 9:02
  you
• 9:03
  so
• 9:03
  that
• 9:03
  you
• 9:03
  can
• 9:03
  catapult
• 9:04
  to
• 9:04
  new
• 9:05
  heights,
• 9:05
  not
• 9:06
  just
• 9:06
  unlock
• 9:07
  a
• 9:07
  new
• 9:07
  level
• 9:07
  within
• 9:08
  you
• 9:08
  and
• 9:08
  become
• 9:09
  the
• 9:09
  next
• 9:09
  best
• 9:09
  version
• 9:10
  of
• 9:10
  yourself,
• 9:11
  but
• 9:11
  to
• 9:11
  love
• 9:12
  fully.
• 9:13
  Become
• 9:14
  the
• 9:14
  person
• 9:14
  who
• 9:14
  has
• 9:15
  more
• 9:15
  wisdom,
• 9:16
  discernment,
• 9:17
  and
• 9:17
  uses
• 9:18
  it.
• 9:18
  The
• 9:19
  one
• 9:19
  who
• 9:19
  no
• 9:19
  longer
• 9:20
  settles
• 9:20
  because
• 9:21
  she
• 9:21
  knows
• 9:22
  she
• 9:23
  deserves
• 9:24
  all
• 9:24
  the
• 9:24
  desires
• 9:25
  of
• 9:25
  her
• 9:25
  heart.
• 9:26
  The
• 9:26
  one
• 9:26
  who
• 9:27
  deeply
• 9:27
  loves,
• 9:28
  respects,
• 9:29
  cares,
• 9:30
  honors,
• 9:31
  trusts
• 9:31
  herself
• 9:32
  Who
• 9:33
  will
• 9:33
  you
• 9:33
  be,
• 9:33
  friend?
• 9:35
  Are
• 9:35
  you
• 9:35
  going
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  be
• 9:36
  the
• 9:36
  person
• 9:37
  who
• 9:38
  these
• 9:38
  things
• 9:39
  have
• 9:39
  happened
• 9:39
  to
• 9:40
  and
• 9:40
  you
• 9:40
  allowed
• 9:41
  it
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  power
• 9:42
  to
• 9:42
  dictate
• 9:43
  to
• 9:43
  you
• 9:44
  who
• 9:44
  you
• 9:44
  are
• 9:45
  or
• 9:45
  who
• 9:45
  you
• 9:46
  will
• 9:46
  become?
• 9:47
  Or
• 9:48
  will
• 9:48
  you
• 9:48
  take
• 9:48
  your
• 9:48
  power
• 9:49
  back
• 9:49
  from
• 9:50
  that
• 9:50
  too?
• 9:51
  Because
• 9:51
  who
• 9:51
  you
• 9:51
  become
• 9:52
  locks
• 9:53
  in
• 9:53
  your
• 9:53
  future.
• 9:54
  Staying
• 9:55
  stuck
• 9:55
  in
• 9:55
  what
• 9:55
  happened
• 9:56
  leads
• 9:57
  to
• 9:57
  a
• 9:57
  future
• 9:58
  of
• 9:58
  repeating
• 9:59
  lessons
• 9:59
  you
• 10:00
  were
• 10:00
  meant
• 10:00
  to
• 10:00
  have
• 10:00
  learned
• 10:01
  long
• 10:02
  ago,
• 10:03
  stuck
• 10:03
  in
• 10:03
  the
• 10:04
  cycles
• 10:04
  that
• 10:04
  have
• 10:04
  exhausted
• 10:06
  you
• 10:06
  to
• 10:06
  the
• 10:06
  very
• 10:07
  last
• 10:07
  compound.
• 10:08
  Or
• 10:09
  you
• 10:09
  can
• 10:09
  become
• 10:09
  the
• 10:09
  woman
• 10:10
  who
• 10:10
  lives
• 10:11
  the
• 10:11
  future
• 10:12
  of
• 10:12
  your
• 10:12
  dreams
• 10:14
  Listen,
• 10:14
  heaven
• 10:15
  and
• 10:15
  H-E-double
• 10:16
  hockey
• 10:16
  sticks
• 10:17
  is
• 10:17
  a
• 10:17
  real
• 10:17
  place.
• 10:19
  And
• 10:20
  it's
• 10:20
  not
• 10:20
  just
• 10:20
  some
• 10:21
  place
• 10:21
  you
• 10:21
  can
• 10:21
  go
• 10:21
  to
• 10:22
  in
• 10:22
  the
• 10:22
  afterlife.
• 10:23
  It
• 10:23
  exists
• 10:24
  right
• 10:25
  here
• 10:25
  on
• 10:25
  Earth,
• 10:26
  and
• 10:26
  you
• 10:26
  get
• 10:26
  to
• 10:27
  decide
• 10:27
  which
• 10:27
  experience
• 10:28
  you
• 10:29
  live.
• 10:29
  So
• 10:30
  what
• 10:31
  are
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  creating?
• 10:32
  Because
• 10:33
  it
• 10:33
  all
• 10:33
  starts
• 10:34
  in
• 10:34
  your
• 10:34
  mind.
• 10:35
  Your
• 10:36
  thoughts,
• 10:36
  your
• 10:36
  beliefs,
• 10:37
  and
• 10:37
  your
• 10:37
  behaviors
• 10:39
  are
• 10:39
  constantly
• 10:40
  creating
• 10:40
  your
• 10:41
  lived
• 10:41
  experience.
• 10:43
  so
• 10:43
  as
• 10:43
  your
• 10:43
  coach,
• 10:44
  I
• 10:44
  ask
• 10:45
  you
• 10:45
  again,
• 10:46
  what
• 10:46
  are
• 10:46
  you
• 10:46
  creating?
• 10:47
  And
• 10:48
  are
• 10:48
  you
• 10:48
  happy
• 10:49
  with
• 10:49
  it?
• 10:50
  Are
• 10:50
  you
• 10:50
  ready
• 10:50
  to
• 10:51
  create
• 10:51
  something
• 10:51
  new,
• 10:52
  or
• 10:53
  are
• 10:53
  you
• 10:53
  finally
• 10:54
  ready
• 10:54
  to
• 10:54
  stop
• 10:55
  running
• 10:56
  from
• 10:56
  your
• 10:56
  divine
• 10:57
  destiny
• 10:58
  and
• 10:58
  work
• 10:58
  your
• 10:59
  way
• 10:59
  to
• 10:59
  it,
• 11:00
  but
• 11:01
  for
• 11:01
  real
• 11:01
  this
• 11:01
  time?
• 11:05
  Ooh,
• 11:06
  friend,
• 11:06
  we
• 11:07
  gonna
• 11:07
  take
• 11:07
  a
• 11:07
  pause
• 11:08
  for
• 11:08
  the
• 11:08
  cause
• 11:08
  right
• 11:09
  here
• 11:10
  because
• 11:10
  this
• 11:11
  is
• 11:11
  the
• 11:11
  moment
• 11:11
  where
• 11:12
  most
• 11:12
  people
• 11:13
  say,
• 11:13
  "Okay,
• 11:14
  I'm
• 11:14
  ready
• 11:14
  to
• 11:15
  do
• 11:15
  this
• 11:15
  work,"
• 11:16
  and
• 11:16
  then
• 11:17
  they
• 11:17
  have
• 11:17
  absolutely
• 11:18
  no
• 11:18
  idea
• 11:19
  what
• 11:19
  to
• 11:20
  do
• 11:20
  next.
• 11:21
  And
• 11:21
  the
• 11:21
  how
• 11:22
  is
• 11:22
  actually
• 11:23
  the
• 11:23
  thing
• 11:23
  I
• 11:23
  get
• 11:24
  asked
• 11:24
  the
• 11:24
  most.
• 11:25
  And
• 11:26
  the
• 11:26
  answer
• 11:26
  is
• 11:27
  ask
• 11:27
  yourself
• 11:28
  better
• 11:28
  questions.
• 11:29
  And
• 11:30
  that's
• 11:30
  easy
• 11:31
  to
• 11:31
  say,
• 11:31
  but
• 11:31
  it
• 11:32
  still
• 11:32
  leaves
• 11:32
  you
• 11:32
  wondering,
• 11:33
  what
• 11:33
  questions
• 11:34
  am
• 11:34
  I
• 11:34
  supposed
• 11:35
  to
• 11:35
  even
• 11:36
  ask?
• 11:38
  Friend,
• 11:38
  that
• 11:39
  is
• 11:39
  the
• 11:39
  exact
• 11:40
  gap
• 11:40
  the
• 11:41
  Main
• 11:41
  Character
• 11:41
  Energy
• 11:42
  Journal
• 11:42
  Prompts
• 11:43
  fill
• 11:43
  for
• 11:44
  you.
• 11:44
  The
• 11:45
  ones
• 11:45
  that
• 11:45
  elevate
• 11:46
  you,
• 11:46
  that
• 11:46
  help
• 11:47
  you
• 11:47
  hear
• 11:47
  yourself
• 11:48
  again,
• 11:49
  or
• 11:50
  maybe
• 11:50
  for
• 11:50
  the
• 11:50
  first
• 11:51
  time
• 11:51
  ever,
• 11:52
  to
• 11:52
  connect
• 11:53
  you
• 11:53
  back
• 11:54
  to
• 11:54
  the
• 11:54
  best
• 11:55
  of
• 11:55
  who
• 11:56
  you
• 11:56
  are
• 11:56
  right
• 11:57
  now,
• 11:58
  so
• 11:58
  you
• 11:58
  can
• 11:59
  design
• 11:59
  your
• 11:59
  life
• 12:00
  from
• 12:00
  that
• 12:00
  place.
• 12:01
  Not
• 12:01
  the
• 12:02
  old
• 12:02
  story,
• 12:03
  not
• 12:03
  from
• 12:03
  fear,
• 12:04
  but
• 12:05
  from
• 12:06
  her.
• 12:07
  Consider
• 12:07
  this
• 12:08
  your
• 12:08
  introduction
• 12:09
  to
• 12:09
  this
• 12:10
  new
• 12:10
  version
• 12:10
  of
• 12:11
  you.
• 12:11
  This
• 12:12
  is
• 12:12
  how
• 12:13
  you
• 12:13
  make
• 12:13
  it
• 12:13
  real.
• 12:14
  The
• 12:14
  link
• 12:14
  is
• 12:14
  in
• 12:15
  the
• 12:15
  show
• 12:15
  notes,
• 12:15
  so
• 12:16
  grab
• 12:16
  it
• 12:16
  while
• 12:17
  you're
• 12:17
  in
• 12:17
  this
• 12:17
  space
• 12:18
  because,
• 12:18
  friend,
• 12:19
  this
• 12:20
  has
• 12:20
  your
• 12:20
  next
• 12:20
  step
• 12:21
  written
• 12:21
  all
• 12:22
  over
• 12:22
  it
• 12:24
  And
• 12:24
  now
• 12:25
  it's
• 12:25
  time
• 12:26
  for
• 12:26
  our
• 12:26
  favorite,
• 12:27
  the
• 12:27
  self-love
• 12:28
  two-step
• 12:29
  with
• 12:29
  the
• 12:29
  remix,
• 12:30
  because
• 12:31
  knowing
• 12:31
  is
• 12:32
  one
• 12:32
  thing,
• 12:32
  but
• 12:33
  we
• 12:33
  don't
• 12:33
  just
• 12:33
  talk
• 12:34
  about
• 12:34
  it
• 12:34
  around
• 12:34
  here,
• 12:35
  we
• 12:35
  actually
• 12:36
  be
• 12:37
  about
• 12:37
  it,
• 12:37
  okay?
• 12:39
  So
• 12:40
  step
• 12:40
  one,
• 12:41
  process
• 12:42
  and
• 12:43
  release.
• 12:44
  Honor
• 12:45
  the
• 12:45
  story.
• 12:46
  Do
• 12:47
  the
• 12:47
  work.
• 12:48
  Friend,
• 12:48
  there
• 12:49
  is
• 12:49
  no
• 12:49
  skipping
• 12:50
  over
• 12:50
  this
• 12:51
  because
• 12:51
  the
• 12:51
  more
• 12:52
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• 12:52
  you
• 12:52
  skip
• 12:53
  over
• 12:53
  it,
• 12:54
  the
• 12:54
  more
• 12:54
  it
• 12:54
  seeps
• 12:55
  into
• 12:56
  so
• 12:56
  many
• 12:57
  areas
• 12:57
  of
• 12:58
  your
• 12:58
  life.
• 12:59
  And
• 12:59
  friend,
• 13:00
  we
• 13:00
  are
• 13:00
  just
• 13:01
  not
• 13:01
  doing
• 13:02
  that
• 13:02
  anymore.
• 13:03
  Get
• 13:04
  whatever
• 13:04
  support
• 13:05
  you
• 13:05
  need
• 13:06
  to
• 13:06
  walk
• 13:07
  through
• 13:07
  it
• 13:08
  The
• 13:08
  Main
• 13:08
  Character
• 13:09
  Energy
• 13:09
  Journal
• 13:10
  Prompts
• 13:10
  are
• 13:10
  there
• 13:10
  for
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  if
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  want
• 13:12
  to
• 13:12
  do
• 13:13
  the
• 13:13
  work
• 13:13
  on
• 13:13
  your
• 13:14
  own,
• 13:14
  the
• 13:15
  self-paced
• 13:16
  questions
• 13:17
  to
• 13:17
  help
• 13:17
  you
• 13:18
  connect
• 13:18
  to
• 13:19
  the
• 13:19
  best
• 13:19
  of
• 13:19
  who
• 13:19
  you
• 13:19
  are
• 13:20
  right
• 13:20
  now.
• 13:21
  Or
• 13:21
  maybe
• 13:21
  it
• 13:21
  means
• 13:22
  to
• 13:22
  get
• 13:22
  a
• 13:22
  coach.
• 13:23
  There's
• 13:23
  a
• 13:23
  link
• 13:23
  for
• 13:23
  that
• 13:24
  in
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  show
• 13:24
  notes
• 13:24
  as
• 13:25
  well,
• 13:25
  friend,
• 13:25
  okay?
• 13:26
  I
• 13:26
  got
• 13:27
  you.
• 13:28
  You
• 13:28
  can
• 13:28
  get
• 13:28
  a
• 13:28
  counselor,
• 13:29
  a
• 13:29
  therapist,
• 13:30
  a
• 13:30
  doctor.
• 13:31
  You
• 13:31
  can
• 13:31
  get
• 13:31
  all
• 13:32
  of
• 13:32
  them,
• 13:32
  friend,
• 13:33
  okay?
• 13:33
  There
• 13:33
  is
• 13:33
  no
• 13:34
  limit
• 13:35
  to
• 13:35
  the
• 13:35
  support
• 13:36
  that
• 13:36
  you
• 13:36
  can
• 13:36
  have
• 13:37
  for
• 13:37
  yourself.
• 13:39
  Whatever
• 13:39
  positive
• 13:40
  resources
• 13:41
  you
• 13:41
  can
• 13:41
  use,
• 13:42
  utilize
• 13:43
  them.
• 13:44
  There
• 13:44
  is
• 13:44
  no
• 13:45
  shame
• 13:45
  in
• 13:46
  needing
• 13:46
  help
• 13:47
  or
• 13:47
  setting
• 13:47
  yourself
• 13:48
  up
• 13:49
  For
• 13:49
  success,
• 13:50
  that
• 13:51
  is
• 13:51
  wisdom,
• 13:51
  friend,
• 13:52
  not
• 13:52
  a
• 13:52
  weakness.
• 13:53
  But
• 13:54
  here's
• 13:54
  the
• 13:54
  downfall,
• 13:55
  because
• 13:56
  this
• 13:56
  is
• 13:57
  where
• 13:57
  people
• 13:58
  often
• 13:58
  stay.
• 14:00
  They
• 14:00
  stay
• 14:00
  stuck
• 14:01
  in
• 14:01
  the
• 14:01
  processing
• 14:02
  and
• 14:03
  never
• 14:03
  get
• 14:03
  to
• 14:04
  the
• 14:04
  release,
• 14:05
  the
• 14:05
  letting
• 14:06
  it
• 14:06
  go,
• 14:07
  the
• 14:07
  surrender.
• 14:09
  Open
• 14:09
  your
• 14:09
  hand
• 14:10
  and
• 14:10
  allow
• 14:11
  the
• 14:12
  release
• 14:13
  Because
• 14:13
  this
• 14:13
  is
• 14:14
  you
• 14:14
  making
• 14:15
  room
• 14:16
  for
• 14:17
  your
• 14:17
  blessings
• 14:18
  and
• 14:18
  miracles
• 14:19
  and
• 14:19
  all
• 14:19
  the
• 14:20
  amazing
• 14:20
  things
• 14:20
  that
• 14:20
  you
• 14:21
  are
• 14:21
  meant
• 14:21
  to
• 14:21
  have.
• 14:22
  This
• 14:22
  is
• 14:22
  you
• 14:23
  creating
• 14:23
  space
• 14:24
  for
• 14:24
  it
• 14:25
  all
• 14:25
  to
• 14:25
  land.
• 14:26
  So
• 14:27
  honor
• 14:27
  where
• 14:27
  you
• 14:28
  are,
• 14:28
  do
• 14:29
  your
• 14:29
  work,
• 14:30
  and
• 14:31
  be
• 14:31
  willing
• 14:31
  to
• 14:32
  move
• 14:32
  on
• 14:33
  to
• 14:33
  the
• 14:33
  next
• 14:34
  steps
• 14:35
  Step
• 14:35
  two
• 14:36
  is
• 14:36
  reclaim
• 14:37
  your
• 14:38
  power.
• 14:39
  You
• 14:40
  get
• 14:40
  to
• 14:40
  decide
• 14:41
  who
• 14:41
  you
• 14:42
  will
• 14:42
  be
• 14:43
  in
• 14:43
  spite
• 14:44
  of
• 14:44
  what
• 14:44
  happened
• 14:45
  to
• 14:45
  you
• 14:46
  or
• 14:46
  because
• 14:47
  of
• 14:47
  it.
• 14:48
  Don't
• 14:48
  let
• 14:48
  a
• 14:49
  season
• 14:49
  assign
• 14:50
  you
• 14:51
  a
• 14:51
  permanent
• 14:51
  label.
• 14:52
  That
• 14:53
  power
• 14:53
  belongs
• 14:54
  to
• 14:54
  you.
• 14:54
  Who
• 14:55
  are
• 14:55
  you
• 14:55
  going
• 14:56
  to
• 14:56
  be
• 14:56
  anyway?
• 14:58
  When
• 14:58
  I
• 14:58
  got
• 14:58
  a
• 14:58
  divorce,
• 14:59
  I
• 14:59
  had
• 14:59
  a
• 14:59
  choice.
• 15:01
  Was
• 15:01
  I
• 15:01
  going
• 15:01
  to
• 15:02
  live
• 15:02
  out
• 15:02
  that
• 15:02
  label
• 15:03
  of
• 15:03
  being
• 15:04
  divorced?
• 15:05
  No.
• 15:05
  I
• 15:06
  wanted
• 15:06
  to
• 15:06
  be
• 15:06
  remarried,
• 15:07
  so
• 15:07
  I
• 15:07
  own
• 15:08
  the
• 15:08
  fact
• 15:08
  that
• 15:09
  God
• 15:09
  made
• 15:09
  me
• 15:09
  a
• 15:10
  wife.
• 15:11
  So
• 15:11
  don't
• 15:11
  allow
• 15:12
  the
• 15:12
  labels
• 15:13
  of
• 15:13
  a
• 15:13
  season
• 15:14
  to
• 15:15
  dictate
• 15:15
  your
• 15:15
  lived
• 15:16
  out
• 15:16
  destiny.
• 15:17
  You
• 15:18
  get
• 15:18
  to
• 15:18
  decide
• 15:19
  who
• 15:19
  you're
• 15:19
  going
• 15:20
  to
• 15:20
  be.
• 15:20
  but
• 15:20
  don't
• 15:21
  allow
• 15:21
  what
• 15:21
  happened
• 15:23
  to
• 15:23
  be
• 15:23
  the
• 15:23
  end
• 15:24
  of
• 15:24
  your
• 15:24
  story.
• 15:25
  And
• 15:26
  step
• 15:26
  three,
• 15:27
  you
• 15:27
  get
• 15:27
  still,
• 15:28
  you
• 15:28
  get
• 15:28
  quiet,
• 15:29
  and
• 15:30
  you
• 15:30
  ask
• 15:30
  yourself,
• 15:31
  "What
• 15:31
  is
• 15:32
  my
• 15:32
  heart
• 15:32
  telling
• 15:33
  me
• 15:33
  to
• 15:33
  do
• 15:34
  next?"
• 15:35
  Because
• 15:35
  whatever
• 15:36
  comes
• 15:36
  up
• 15:36
  for
• 15:36
  you
• 15:37
  is
• 15:38
  your
• 15:38
  next
• 15:38
  right
• 15:38
  aligned
• 15:39
  step.
• 15:40
  You
• 15:40
  don't
• 15:40
  even
• 15:40
  need
• 15:40
  the
• 15:41
  whole
• 15:41
  plan,
• 15:42
  just
• 15:42
  the
• 15:42
  next
• 15:43
  move.
• 15:43
  Trust
• 15:44
  her,
• 15:44
  friend.
• 15:45
  She
• 15:45
  already
• 15:46
  knows
• 15:47
  And
• 15:47
  one
• 15:48
  reminder,
• 15:49
  because
• 15:50
  this
• 15:50
  is
• 15:50
  important.
• 15:52
  Please
• 15:52
  do
• 15:52
  not
• 15:53
  think
• 15:53
  that
• 15:53
  you
• 15:53
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• 15:53
  Amazon
• 15:54
  Prime
• 15:55
  your
• 15:55
  way
• 15:55
  through
• 15:55
  these
• 15:56
  steps,
• 15:56
  okay?
• 15:58
  There
• 15:58
  is
• 15:59
  no
• 15:59
  timeframe
• 16:00
  on
• 16:00
  when
• 16:00
  this
• 16:01
  has
• 16:01
  to
• 16:01
  be
• 16:01
  completed.
• 16:02
  Notice
• 16:03
  where
• 16:03
  you
• 16:03
  are
• 16:04
  in
• 16:04
  the
• 16:04
  process
• 16:05
  now.
• 16:05
  Honor
• 16:06
  that.
• 16:06
  There's
• 16:07
  no
• 16:07
  rush,
• 16:08
  And
• 16:08
  listen,
• 16:08
  you
• 16:09
  not
• 16:09
  gonna
• 16:09
  get
• 16:09
  extra
• 16:09
  credit
• 16:10
  for
• 16:10
  finishing
• 16:11
  in
• 16:11
  a
• 16:11
  certain
• 16:11
  time,
• 16:12
  Okay,
• 16:13
  overachiever.
• 16:15
  Yes,
• 16:15
  I
• 16:16
  gotta
• 16:16
  remind
• 16:16
  us
• 16:17
  of
• 16:17
  stuff
• 16:17
  like
• 16:17
  this
• 16:18
  because
• 16:18
  sometimes
• 16:19
  we
• 16:19
  get
• 16:19
  out
• 16:19
  of
• 16:20
  hand
• 16:20
  with
• 16:20
  it.
• 16:22
  The
• 16:22
  time
• 16:23
  is
• 16:23
  not
• 16:23
  what
• 16:23
  matters,
• 16:24
  so
• 16:24
  whatever
• 16:25
  timeline
• 16:25
  you
• 16:25
  have,
• 16:26
  leave
• 16:26
  it
• 16:27
  where
• 16:27
  it's
• 16:27
  at,
• 16:27
  okay?
• 16:28
  The
• 16:28
  steps
• 16:29
  are
• 16:29
  simple,
• 16:30
  but
• 16:30
  the
• 16:30
  process
• 16:31
  may
• 16:31
  not
• 16:31
  be.
• 16:32
  You
• 16:33
  already
• 16:33
  know
• 16:34
  how
• 16:34
  healing
• 16:35
  works,
• 16:35
  and
• 16:36
  that's
• 16:36
  exactly
• 16:37
  what
• 16:37
  we're
• 16:37
  doing.
• 16:38
  So
• 16:38
  grant
• 16:39
  yourself
• 16:39
  grace
• 16:40
  and
• 16:40
  allow
• 16:40
  yourself
• 16:41
  to
• 16:41
  move
• 16:42
  through
• 16:42
  the
• 16:42
  steps
• 16:43
  as
• 16:44
  you
• 16:44
  arrive
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  them.
• 16:45
  Now,
• 16:46
  let
• 16:46
  me
• 16:47
  pour
• 16:47
  into
• 16:47
  you
• 16:48
  real
• 16:48
  quick.
• 16:48
  Friend,
• 16:49
  I
• 16:49
  need
• 16:50
  you
• 16:50
  to
• 16:50
  hear
• 16:50
  this.
• 16:51
  Your
• 16:51
  story
• 16:52
  did
• 16:52
  not
• 16:53
  end
• 16:53
  with
• 16:54
  what
• 16:54
  happened
• 16:54
  to
• 16:54
  you.
• 16:55
  The
• 16:56
  story
• 16:56
  continues,
• 16:58
  and
• 16:58
  you
• 16:59
  have
• 16:59
  the
• 16:59
  pen
• 16:59
  in
• 16:59
  your
• 17:00
  hand
• 17:00
  because
• 17:01
  I
• 17:01
  know
• 17:02
  it
• 17:02
  can
• 17:02
  be
• 17:02
  so
• 17:03
  hard
• 17:03
  to
• 17:04
  lift
• 17:04
  your
• 17:04
  head
• 17:05
  up
• 17:05
  and
• 17:06
  look
• 17:06
  to
• 17:06
  the
• 17:06
  future.
• 17:07
  But
• 17:07
  friend,
• 17:08
  you
• 17:08
  still
• 17:09
  have
• 17:09
  one,
• 17:10
  and
• 17:10
  it
• 17:10
  is
• 17:10
  very
• 17:10
  much
• 17:11
  bright
• 17:12
  and
• 17:12
  alive.
• 17:13
  History
• 17:14
  does
• 17:15
  not
• 17:15
  get
• 17:15
  the
• 17:15
  final
• 17:16
  say.
• 17:16
  You
• 17:17
  do.
• 17:18
  And
• 17:18
  as
• 17:18
  your
• 17:18
  coach,
• 17:19
  I
• 17:19
  gotta
• 17:19
  ask
• 17:20
  you,
• 17:21
  what
• 17:21
  is
• 17:21
  the
• 17:21
  new
• 17:22
  story
• 17:23
  you
• 17:23
  wanna
• 17:23
  tell
• 17:24
  instead?
• 17:25
  What
• 17:25
  are
• 17:25
  the
• 17:25
  desires
• 17:26
  that
• 17:26
  are
• 17:26
  still
• 17:27
  very
• 17:28
  much
• 17:28
  alive
• 17:28
  in
• 17:28
  your
• 17:29
  heart?
• 17:29
  What
• 17:30
  do
• 17:30
  you
• 17:30
  want
• 17:30
  to
• 17:30
  write
• 17:31
  next?
• 17:31
  What
• 17:32
  are
• 17:32
  you
• 17:32
  looking
• 17:32
  forward
• 17:33
  to?
• 17:34
  You
• 17:34
  have
• 17:35
  a
• 17:35
  say,
• 17:35
  friend.
• 17:36
  You
• 17:37
  are
• 17:37
  the
• 17:37
  author,
• 17:37
  director,
• 17:38
  producer.
• 17:39
  You
• 17:39
  are
• 17:39
  the
• 17:39
  creator.
• 17:41
  You
• 17:41
  get
• 17:41
  to
• 17:41
  co-create
• 17:42
  what's
• 17:43
  next
• 17:43
  for
• 17:43
  you.
• 17:44
  You
• 17:44
  may
• 17:44
  not
• 17:45
  have
• 17:45
  had
• 17:45
  a
• 17:45
  say
• 17:46
  in
• 17:46
  what
• 17:46
  happened,
• 17:47
  but
• 17:48
  you
• 17:48
  do
• 17:48
  get
• 17:48
  a
• 17:49
  say
• 17:49
  in
• 17:50
  what
• 17:50
  happens
• 17:50
  next,
• 17:51
  who
• 17:52
  you
• 17:52
  will
• 17:52
  be.
• 17:53
  Claim
• 17:53
  that
• 17:54
  victory
• 17:54
  over
• 17:54
  yourself
• 17:55
  and
• 17:55
  over
• 17:56
  your
• 17:56
  life.
• 17:57
  What
• 17:57
  will
• 17:58
  your
• 17:58
  life
• 17:58
  look
• 17:59
  like?
• 17:59
  How
• 17:59
  much
• 18:00
  fun,
• 18:00
  love,
• 18:01
  and
• 18:01
  beautiful
• 18:02
  moments
• 18:02
  do
• 18:02
  you
• 18:03
  wanna
• 18:03
  experience?
• 18:04
  This
• 18:06
  is
• 18:06
  where
• 18:06
  you
• 18:06
  take
• 18:06
  your
• 18:07
  power
• 18:07
  back.
• 18:08
  For
• 18:08
  the
• 18:08
  amount
• 18:09
  of
• 18:09
  time
• 18:09
  that
• 18:09
  you
• 18:10
  spend
• 18:10
  in
• 18:10
  step
• 18:11
  one
• 18:11
  processing,
• 18:13
  spend
• 18:14
  equal
• 18:14
  or
• 18:14
  more
• 18:15
  time
• 18:16
  in
• 18:16
  the
• 18:17
  remaining
• 18:17
  steps,
• 18:18
  because
• 18:19
  those
• 18:19
  deserve
• 18:20
  just
• 18:21
  as
• 18:21
  much
• 18:21
  of
• 18:22
  your
• 18:22
  own
• 18:22
  special
• 18:23
  brew
• 18:23
  of
• 18:24
  tea,
• 18:24
  your
• 18:25
  time,
• 18:25
  your
• 18:26
  energy,
• 18:26
  your
• 18:27
  effort.
• 18:27
  Not
• 18:28
  just
• 18:28
  processing
• 18:29
  what
• 18:29
  happened
• 18:30
  in
• 18:30
  the
• 18:30
  past,
• 18:31
  but
• 18:31
  processing
• 18:33
  so
• 18:33
  you
• 18:33
  can
• 18:33
  stand
• 18:34
  firm
• 18:34
  in
• 18:35
  your
• 18:35
  present.
• 18:36
  Dream
• 18:37
  again
• 18:38
  of
• 18:38
  what
• 18:39
  your
• 18:39
  future
• 18:39
  holds,
• 18:40
  and
• 18:41
  move
• 18:41
  towards
• 18:42
  it.
• 18:42
  You
• 18:43
  are
• 18:43
  moving
• 18:43
  towards
• 18:44
  that
• 18:44
  desired
• 18:45
  future,
• 18:46
  friend,
• 18:47
  not
• 18:47
  holding
• 18:48
  onto
• 18:48
  the
• 18:48
  things
• 18:49
  of
• 18:49
  the
• 18:49
  past
• 18:50
  or
• 18:50
  allowing
• 18:51
  them
• 18:52
  to
• 18:52
  hold
• 18:52
  you
• 18:52
  back
• 18:53
  They
• 18:53
  don't
• 18:54
  have
• 18:54
  power
• 18:55
  over
• 18:55
  you.
• 18:56
  You
• 18:56
  do.
• 18:57
  This
• 18:58
  is
• 18:58
  you
• 18:59
  in
• 18:59
  your
• 19:00
  position
• 19:00
  of
• 19:01
  power
• 19:01
  right
• 19:02
  now.
• 19:03
  Ooh,
• 19:03
  I'm
• 19:03
  so
• 19:04
  proud
• 19:04
  of
• 19:04
  you,
• 19:04
  friend,
• 19:05
  for
• 19:05
  doing
• 19:05
  your
• 19:06
  work
• 19:06
  today.
• 19:08
  I
• 19:08
  hope
• 19:08
  you
• 19:09
  are
• 19:09
  just
• 19:10
  as
• 19:10
  proud
• 19:10
  of
• 19:11
  you
• 19:11
  too
• 19:15
  Friend,
• 19:16
  you
• 19:16
  deserve
• 19:17
  to
• 19:17
  fall
• 19:18
  in
• 19:18
  love
• 19:18
  with
• 19:19
  yourself,
• 19:19
  your
• 19:19
  days,
• 19:20
  and
• 19:20
  your
• 19:20
  life.
• 19:21
  Not
• 19:22
  someday,
• 19:23
  but
• 19:23
  right
• 19:23
  now.
• 19:24
  This
• 19:25
  conversation,
• 19:26
  this
• 19:26
  work
• 19:27
  that
• 19:27
  you
• 19:27
  showed
• 19:27
  up
• 19:27
  for,
• 19:28
  this
• 19:29
  is
• 19:29
  how
• 19:29
  it
• 19:30
  happens,
• 19:30
  one
• 19:31
  layer
• 19:31
  at
• 19:31
  a
• 19:31
  time.
• 19:32
  And
• 19:32
  I'm
• 19:33
  gonna
• 19:33
  keep
• 19:33
  showing
• 19:34
  up
• 19:34
  for
• 19:34
  you
• 19:35
  in
• 19:35
  your
• 19:35
  earbuds
• 19:36
  every
• 19:36
  single
• 19:36
  week
• 19:37
  until
• 19:38
  you
• 19:38
  believe
• 19:39
  that,
• 19:39
  and
• 19:40
  I
• 19:40
  do
• 19:41
  mean
• 19:41
  every
• 19:42
  week.
• 19:43
  So
• 19:44
  you
• 19:44
  might
• 19:44
  as
• 19:45
  well
• 19:45
  make
• 19:45
  sure
• 19:45
  that
• 19:45
  you're
• 19:46
  subscribed
• 19:46
  because,
• 19:46
  friend,
• 19:47
  I
• 19:47
  am
• 19:47
  cheering
• 19:48
  for
• 19:48
  you
• 19:49
  loud
• 19:49
  and
• 19:49
  obnoxiously
• 19:50
  always.
• 19:51
  And
• 19:52
  no
• 19:52
  matter
• 19:52
  what
• 19:53
  comes
• 19:53
  your
• 19:53
  way,
• 19:54
  together
• 19:54
  we
• 19:54
  can
• 19:55
  encourage
• 19:56
  over
• 19:57
  everything.
• 19:58
  And
• 19:58
  I'll
• 19:58
  see
• 19:59
  you
• 19:59
  in
• 19:59
  the
• 20:00
  next
• 20:00
  episode