Latest / The Promotion Memo with Fexingo: Getting Visibility, Sponsors, and Executive Presence / The Silent Tax Of Good Work
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- Lucas: There is a quiet tragedy that happens to thousands of smart professionals every single year. They do the work, they hit the targets, they stay late when it matters, and yet when promotion season comes around, they get passed over for someone who seems to have done less heavy lifting but somehow occupied more space in the room. Luna: Right, and the frustrating part is that the person doing the heavy lifting often believes their results should speak for themselves. They assume meritocracy is a guarantee rather than a hope. Lucas: Exactly. And that assumption is what we are calling the visibility tax today. It is the invisible cost you pay when you operate efficiently but invisibly. If we have helped you think through a career move or decision like this, honestly, if today was worth a coffee to you, that is the link — buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. It keeps this show ad-free and helps us keep digging into these structural issues rather than just surface-level hacks. Luna: Yeah, support is what lets us spend time on the messy, real stuff instead of generic advice. So, let us talk about Elena. You mentioned her earlier as the anchor for this conversation. Lucas: Elena is a senior product manager at a mid-sized fintech firm. She has been there for four years. Her quarterly scores are consistently top ten percent. She leads a team of six people who all report back saying she is supportive and clear. On paper, she is a director candidate. In practice, she is still a senior manager. Luna: So where did the visibility break down? Did she miss a key meeting or fail to communicate her wins? Lucas: It was subtler than that. Elena worked primarily through async channels and small group workshops. She avoided the large cross-functional town halls because she found them inefficient. She also never asked for feedback from the VP of Product until the annual review cycle. She assumed that since her direct manager advocated for her, the upper leadership already had a complete picture of her impact. Luna: That is a classic trap. She outsourced her visibility to her manager, who probably had fifty other direct reports to manage. Lucas: Precisely. The VP of Product knew Elena was good. But he could not articulate exactly how she had changed the strategic direction of the division. He could cite her efficiency, but he could not point to a moment where she shifted the business trajectory. That distinction matters immensely at the executive level. Luna: So efficiency is a maintenance metric, but strategic shift is a promotion metric. Is that the core difference here? Lucas: That is one way to frame it. Executives promote people who make their own jobs easier by removing uncertainty or creating new revenue streams. Elena kept the engine running beautifully, but she did not redesign the engine. The person who got the promotion had taken a risk on a new market segment that failed initially, but then pivoted successfully. Luna: I see. So the narrative wasn't just about success, it was about agency and ownership of outcomes beyond the immediate scope. Lucas: Yes. And Elena had zero presence in those narratives because she stayed in her lane. She viewed staying in her lane as professional discipline. The organization viewed it as a lack of ambition or readiness for broader responsibility. Luna: This feels unfair to some degree. Shouldn't we reward reliability above all else? Lucas: Reliability is the baseline. You cannot get promoted without it. But reliability is expected at the current level. To move up, you have to demonstrate capacity for the next level. That requires showing that you can handle ambiguity and drive change, not just maintain order. Luna: So how does Elena fix this now that she has been passed over once? Does she go back to the VP and complain? Lucas: No, that would be fatal. She needs to reframe her relationship with her sponsor. A mentor gives you advice. A sponsor takes a political risk on your behalf. Elena needed a sponsor, but she only had a mentor-like manager. Luna: What is the practical step to convert a manager into a sponsor or find a new one? Lucas: She started bringing problems to the VP before they were solved. Not complaining, but presenting options. She wrote a brief memo outlining three approaches to a sticky client issue and asked for his perspective on which aligns best with the company's long-term goals. That forced a strategic conversation rather than an operational update. Luna: That shifts the dynamic from subordinate reporting to peer-level consulting. It makes her visible as a thinker, not just a doer. Lucas: Exactly. And she documented that interaction. She followed up with an email summarizing his advice and noting how she would implement it. Now there is a paper trail of strategic alignment. It reminds the VP that she is thinking at a higher level. Luna: Is that documentation visible to anyone else besides the VP? Lucas: If she sends it to the wider team, yes. But even if it stays between them, it changes the mental model the VP holds of her. When promotion discussions happen, he will recall that specific interaction where she demonstrated strategic judgment. Luna: So visibility is about curating the memories that decision-makers hold about you. Lucas: It is about ensuring that when they reach for a name to fill a director role, the first association is not just 'she gets things done,' but 'she thinks like a leader.' Those are two very different associations. Luna: How do you measure if this strategy is working? Can you track visibility? Lucas: You can track invitation rates. Are you being invited to meetings outside your direct chain of command? Are you being asked to present to broader groups? These are leading indicators of perceived value. If those numbers are flat, your visibility is stagnant regardless of your output. Luna: That is a useful metric. I always focus on the work itself, but the invitations tell you where you stand in the informal hierarchy. Lucas: The informal hierarchy is where promotions actually happen. The formal process just ratifies what the informal consensus has already decided. If you are not in the informal network, you are invisible to the ratification mechanism. Luna: Does this mean introverts are at a disadvantage in corporate structures? Lucas: Not necessarily. It means they have to be intentional about their channel. Extroverts might naturally broadcast their ideas in meetings. Introverts can achieve the same effect through well-crafted written memos, structured one-on-ones, or targeted emails to specific stakeholders. Luna: So the medium doesn't matter as much as the intentionality behind it. Lucas: Correct. The goal is not to become a louder version of yourself. The goal is to ensure your signal reaches the receivers who matter. If you write clearly and distribute strategically, you can be quiet and still be highly visible. Luna: What about the fear of looking like you are bragging? That stops a lot of people from sharing their wins. Lucas: Bragging is about self-aggrandizement. Sharing context is about organizational clarity. When you share a win, frame it as a lesson learned or a process improved. Say 'here is what we discovered' rather than 'look what I achieved.' It invites others in rather than putting them down. Luna: That reframing makes it collaborative. It positions you as a knowledge sharer, which is a valuable trait at any level. Lucas: It does. And it reduces the social friction. People respect competence shared generously. They resent competence hoarded or arrogance displayed openly. Elena was hoarding her insights because she thought they weren't ready for prime time. Luna: And they were. Her analysis was sharp, but it sat in private documents for months. Lucas: Until they were used by someone else who took credit for them. That is the ultimate risk of low visibility. Your intellectual property gets absorbed by the person who knows how to present it. Luna: Ouch. So protecting your IP requires broadcasting it. Lucas: In a corporate environment, yes. You have to claim your authorship explicitly. 'Based on my research last quarter...' or 'As we discussed in our last sync...' Small linguistic markers that anchor the idea to you. Luna: It sounds like emotional labor. Managing how you are perceived takes energy away from the actual work. Lucas: It does. And that is why we call it a tax. You are paying with time and emotional bandwidth to secure your advancement. But the alternative is stagnation. The question is whether the tax is worth the destination. Luna: For most people aiming for leadership, I would say yes. The marginal gain is significant. Lucas: Agreed. Especially in the current economic climate where headcount is tight. Companies are promoting internally more than hiring externally. That means internal competition is fiercer. Visibility becomes a competitive advantage. Luna: So silence is no longer a virtue. It is a liability. Lucas: Silence is a luxury for those who are already secure. For those climbing, it is a drag coefficient. You need to reduce the friction between your output and its recognition. Luna: If Elena wants to get promoted next cycle, what is her immediate next move? Lucas: She schedules a monthly thirty-minute sync with the VP. No agenda required initially. Just a check-in on strategic priorities. This builds the habit of regular contact. Then she starts bringing one strategic insight per month to that conversation. Luna: Consistency over intensity. Building a pattern of strategic engagement rather than one big pitch. Lucas: Exactly. Patterns are harder to ignore than events. If you show up once with a great idea, you are lucky. If you show up monthly with calibrated insights, you are becoming indispensable. Luna: It changes the perception from 'capable employee' to 'future leader.' That is the distinction we have been circling all episode. Lucas: It is. And it requires a shift in mindset. You are not asking for permission to be seen. You are providing evidence of your capacity to serve at a higher level. It is a service to the organization, not just a plea for personal advancement. Luna: That framing makes it much easier to execute. It removes the ego from the equation and replaces it with utility. Lucas: Utility is the currency of promotion. If you can prove you increase the utility of your leaders, they will fight to put you in the seat. If you just do your job quietly, they will assume the seat is fine where it is. Luna: So the lesson is: stop waiting to be discovered. Start designing your discovery. Lucas: Design your discovery. Map out who needs to know what about you, and create the touchpoints to deliver that information reliably. Make it easy for them to champion you. Luna: Because when they have the evidence in hand, they don't have to guess if you are ready. They just have to decide if they want you. Lucas: Right. Remove the doubt. That is the whole game. Once the doubt is gone, the rest is just logistics.