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CEO's/Entrepreneurs: What Unique Relationship Issues Do They Have? · The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

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  Hi everybody, and welcome to this episode of the doctor.
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  Psych mom show today, I'm going to be talking about the unique
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  relationship issues of CEOs, / entrepreneurs.
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  I've written a lot about self-made, men and talked about
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  that. So there's going to be some
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  overlap with that. But there's a specific kind of
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  personality type that I'm going to talk about today before I get
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  to that, please do subscribe, my most recent subscriber episode
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  was women, hate argue hours but I think God only Remembers but
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  tomorrow's or in two days it's going to be unique relationship
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  issues of doctors. So I'm going to do CEO /,
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  entrepreneurs, doctors and lawyers.
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  And then potentially I'm going to do other ones, you know, that
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  comprise a large percent of my clients because that's, you
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  know, who's relevant to me and who comes to see me.
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  All right? So anyway let's Dive Right In.
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  So what I'm talking about here is not so much like the
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  corporate CEO type as like the guy who come up with his own
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  product and basically made his own idea into a company and I
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  work with a lot of these guys and in this I'm going to be
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  talking about men who do this because that's the majority of
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  the people I see in this situation and their marriages,
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  they marry a kind of specific kind of woman so it can give you
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  some, you know, like a little window into the fact, if you are
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  in this situation on either side, Either the wife or the guy
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  that you're not alone and that there are specific ways that
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  this relationship usually goes and specific challenges.
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  Okay? So let's look at the personality
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  type. If you're the kind of person
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  who's going to come up with your own idea and build it into a
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  company, you're kind of an unusual person.
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  Right? You're very unique and the most
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  the biggest difference between these guys on other successful
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  intelligent clients that I have. Is not in the successful or the
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  intelligent. It's in the don't give a shit
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  part like what I call the honey badger.
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  Remember the honey badger on YouTube.
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  Just Honey, Badger. Don't give a shit.
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  You can Google this. You don't need to.
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  It's really not that you don't need to.
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  But anyway, there's a little honey badger, we go around being
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  narrated and it was like Honey Badger.
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  Don't give a shit honey badger. See something he wants.
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  He just does it. Okay, that's like this
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  entrepreneur guy. He just don't give a shit.
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  Shit. And usually he has lower levels
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  of fear and lower levels of rejection sensitivity than the
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  average person. Which is why he was able to take
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  what many people questioned being a good idea because people
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  question every idea that isn't successful yet and he don't give
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  a shit. So he was able to power through
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  anyway. These guys on the positives,
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  well first we'll do the positive so the don't give a shit.
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  Obviously could go either way on the positive.
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  They're very coachable. These are the people where they
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  just love therapy. Oh my God.
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  Love it. Like they love therapy.
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  They love coaching and particular.
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  They've had coaches before both fit in terms of sports because
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  these guys are often have been athletic, and I'll get to why
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  that is in a bit. That's my next big thing but
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  they've been coached before, they have no rejection
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  sensitivity. So these guys are like you tell
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  him something. You'd be like oh you know you
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  could do this better they're like so happy.
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  But first I'll question you like 15 times.
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  Why why could I do it better? Why is the way I'm doing it now?
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  Not working because of the way I'm doing it.
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  It does this, this this, what are you saying to me?
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  And basically, if you, if you build a strong case, then they
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  will literally switch. But they're doing that's
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  unusual. It's unusual for somebody to not
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  be very personally tied to a behavior and that is good.
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  It can be linked to narcissism, right?
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  Just like kind of thinking, everything kind of that, you're
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  just such a great guy anyway that it like doesn't even matter
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  any individual Behavior can be changed and you're still like a
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  great guy so it can be linked to that, but that's also For better
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  and For Worse doesn't have to necessarily be linked to that
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  you know. And I'll talk about that as a
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  potential issue being too self-absorbed.
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  Right. But but in its best form, these
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  people are just like the most coachable people ever because
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  they just hate inefficiency. They love to be productive.
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  So if they're going to have a 45-minute session, I'm going to
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  tell them bullet points a through, you know, Jay to work
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  on. They're going to fucking work on
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  them. The ones that make sense to
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  them. Are going to really work on, you
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  know, and they'll work on it with the next thing that I'm
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  going to talk about which is extremely high energy.
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  So my friend dad starting over, I think I saw did a little video
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  on this with somebody about like what's the secret behind
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  successful men? They're very high energy.
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  Well, that's true behind successful people in general but
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  no more. Do you see this?
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  No greater example is in the CEO entrepreneur guy.
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  This guy usually sleeps very little, you know, and does it?
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  Need to sleep more and just is unusually high energy.
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  So that's why usually they were athletic.
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  When they were young, they had like so much energy as a teenage
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  boy that they needed in a best-case scenario.
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  They got it out in sports, in a worst case.
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  They got it out in delinquency, you know?
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  But in a best case, they were on the football team and the
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  basketball team and the baseball team, I like all the teams, you
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  know, and that's just because it's a very high Baseline level
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  of energy. So so far, we got that they're
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  coachable and there's Smart obviously successful and
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  high-energy what's not to love, right?
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  So now let's go into what's not to love.
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  What are their wives? Usually say they got low empathy
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  you know, while they may be very personable guys and some of them
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  are not, some of them have created their own businesses
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  because they cannot get along with with other people.
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  Particularly if they have ADHD or something, entrepreneurs
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  often have ADHD and so like they just can't do anything boring
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  and they don't really like Authority.
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  So you know, like they I do their own thing and so.
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  But anyway, so the, the high energy and coachable - and all
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  of these things are great. But then, they don't have
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  empathy for people who aren't like that, because they're so
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  unusual on certain domains that they just cannot even really
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  imagine what it's like to be a low-energy and secure person.
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  And what am I describing many women?
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  Honestly you know my it's it's I talk constantly about there are
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  very high rates of depression And anxiety diagnosed in women
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  and forget about what's not diagnosed, you know, because
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  most people don't get anything diagnosed.
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  So they're very high rates of depression, anxiety, and women,
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  and both of these things. Make people rejection sensitive
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  insecure and low energy anxiety. You don't always have to be low
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  energy, depression, you certainly are as a woman.
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  I've written about this all the time, atypical depression,
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  Google it or look it up on my show but it anyway.
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  So what happens is, I see this all the time.
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  The man is in his 20s or 30s. He marries a woman that's at
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  really Apex of her mental and physical health.
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  That's not had any children that is just floored and adoring, you
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  know, floored by him so impressed by him and adoring,
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  and her libido is artificially inflated as I've discussed in
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  the honeymoon, stage is this little era where your libido is
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  at its Max. Now, these guys between their
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  high energy and the fact that they, you know, can create a
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  schedule where they can work out multiple times and days of dyes
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  their libido. Also stays very, very high.
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  Hi. Usually the entrepreneur guys.
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  Like this are very high libido. So finally, they met their match
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  or maybe close to their match. They think in bed and she's also
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  does sports. Or it goes least goes to the
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  gym. And she's up for anything, and
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  she's adorable, and beautiful great.
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  They get married. So what happens?
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  Obviously they have children and her any latent mental, or
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  physical, health issues, that you was going to have come out
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  with the stress and with the hormonal changes on the
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  biological changes and Just literally does not understand,
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  literally, he doesn't understand at all, and he thinks she's
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  bullshitting because in his mind, the only way, like, even
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  with the flu, these men usually go to the office or they at
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  least are answering their emails.
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  So they're unusually high energy, unusually high like a
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  freak energy, you know, and I'll admit it, you know what they
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  laugh, you know, if you say that but the women are normal and
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  within normal. So within So before let's say
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  they, they got married and everything.
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  They were, let's say, at the, in the plus one standard deviation
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  for energy and now they're in the minus one standard
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  deviation. So there's still an average, but
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  they're on the, the, the opposite side of the mean,
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  right? The guy just literally doesn't
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  understand. He doesn't understand low libido
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  because he's never had it. He doesn't understand low energy
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  because he's never had it, and he doesn't understand rejection
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  sensitivity, because truly he's never had it.
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  So now, he feels like he's walking on eggshells around.
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  Somebody that he frequently feels must have bait and switch
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  to him because he cannot possibly understand because
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  these guys don't have ups and downs there.
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  I read something once called the hypomanic American entrepreneur.
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  Was the title. That's the truth.
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  You know, a lot of these entrepreneurs CEO guys are in a
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  constant state of hypomania, you know, and hypomania is little
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  Mania. So, like a manic episode.
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  For example, is when you gamble away all your life savings and
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  you, you know, start a business and it fails.
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  As and you sleep with, you know, 30 prostitutes, that's like a
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  manic phase for a guy with bipolar disorder.
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  Let's say hypomania, it doesn't have to be in context of bipolar
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  disorder can be kind of almost a constant state and that's what
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  this article was saying that many entrepreneurs have.
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  And that's what I think too. Is there in this lower level of
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  mania? We're just, they have so much
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  energy. They do build businesses, but
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  they don't have the impeded judgment that you have it, a
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  full-blown manic. Episode.
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  So the business is work, the ideas work, everything works,
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  you need less sleep, but you always need less sleep.
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  So they're basically all the ways a little bit Manic and
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  then, the wife, if she turns out to be depressed or anxious,
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  she's like, on the opposite side of the spectrum.
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  They literally cannot understand.
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  They think she's lying, like, who would need nine hours of
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  sleep? Well, a depressed person would,
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  or a person who just needs a lot of sleep, but they've never
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  needed nine hours of sleep in their life.
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  These are people that tell me I didn't sleep last night and they
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  They look the same, like they present the same in the session.
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  So, you know, it's very hard to empathize with something that
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  you've never experienced the average man.
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  Although has more physical energy than the average woman,
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  still has felt felled by episodes of depression, or low
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  energy, or physical illness, or things like that.
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  I'm not saying these guys don't get sick, they're not like, you
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  know, superhuman but think the sickness is not doesn't come out
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  the same way because of naturally, super elevated,
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  energy levels, So, they just cannot understand.
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  And so, and the rejection sensitivity.
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  So this is how usually goes. We have a session, I say, you
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  got to work on this. This this, this they say, okay,
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  fine and I turn to the wife and if I were to use the same tone,
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  she would burst into tears so I don't use the same.
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  Do you know? And I say maybe you could work
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  on this one thing, right? And so then sometimes he'll be
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  like we're why do I get like three things to work on?
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  She gets one thing to work on well because she's a like a more
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  normal person that would, you know, be overwhelmed.
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  I'd buy the idea of three things to work on it one.
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  So of course we're going to get there over time, but instead,
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  you got to look at yourself as a non normative person.
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  That'll be like, oh yeah, you don't like these three things
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  about my personality. I'm gonna think about that.
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  All right, well, maybe I'll try, why not?
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  Let's not like an average way to respond.
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  It's the way to respond. That is characteristic of
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  somebody with no fear and this is like for better and For
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  Worse. No fear is is endemic to this
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  character when else can this Relationship, go awry, another
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  area related to lack of empathy is if this guy has a sensitive
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  child particularly sensitive son then he's going to be like what
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  in the fuck, you know, because this kid is nothing like him.
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  And this kid is more like the mother in that, they are
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  rejection sensitive and they may cry and like let's say they do
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  bad at baseball. So the dad is this entrepreneur,
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  CEO guys. Like alright, you did bad at
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  baseball so you're not so good at baseball.
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  I'm gonna get you a coach right? And then you're going to get
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  better at Baseball and the mothers like he hates baseball,
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  he cried the whole season because he's so shady, a
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  baseball. Why does he have to do baseball,
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  you know, and so the father cannot really empathize with how
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  the average person especially or sensitive person in particular
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  would feel about being so bad at baseball for an entire season.
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  They cannot really imagine that level of humiliation because
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  they don't really get that feeling the same way so they can
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  get it. And so then it turns into a
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  conflict where the mother thinks.
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  The father's being a huge asshole and she becomes a mama
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  bear and comes out and protect her kids against him and it
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  becomes me versus you in the marriage.
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  Visa Vie parenting. And that's another very big
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  conflict area that I work with couples on.
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  And now the last one, of course, goes a long with, you know, the
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  very nature of a large change in in financial station.
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  And I've talked about this, a lot with the have an episode
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  called camp, Buy Me Love. So a lot of these guys are
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  obviously making a lot of money and sometimes that happens very
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  quickly. And anything, any change that
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  happens, very quickly is destabilizing to the person and
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  to the relationship. So that what that means is that
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  this guy's very, very happy makes a lot of money and the
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  wife may not be so happy like. Yeah, okay.
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  But like it's nice but she doesn't necessarily want
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  whatever the hell is going to come with that.
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  She liked it more when he was starting out and they were like
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  more normal. But as the money gets more and
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  more frequently, the wife, despite what you know, the
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  manosphere says about women being gold diggers, the wife
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  gets very uncomfortable and she feels like now all the things
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  he's forcing her to do. She has like, no excuse, not to
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  do. So, he'll want a like you let's
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  say, oh, why don't we go on Safari?
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  That'd be like a cool family vacation, why don't we?
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  You know, take the kids out of school, which is going to go
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  around on a boat. We're gonna do World schooling
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  or like, you know because these are outside the box thinkers.
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  So they'll be outside, the box was parenting.
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  They'll be outside the box with do the kids really need to go to
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  school. They'll be outside the box with
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  everything and the woman is like, I don't want to go on
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  Safari. I barely want to get on a plane
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  at all, you know, I I'm tired, we got these children, they have
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  their activities. I want a nice normal life, so
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  this guy doesn't want a normal life.
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  He's never wanted a normal life. He doesn't really have a desire
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  to fit in that much, you know, so they can come into conflict
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  over this. Particularly when the money
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  makes these problems. Relevant.
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  So the guy in the man's mind. He'll say.
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  All right. Fine.
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  I want to take the kids out of school for your, I'll hire
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  tutors. Now, you don't have anything to
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  say and she doesn't have anything to say also because
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  she's the personality type, that was so wowed by him in the
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  beginning, was somebody who had nothing to say, you know, whose
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  struggles with expressing herself and being assertive that
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  person is drawn to the entrepreneur CEO guy like a moth
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  to a flame. She's so fascinated by him and
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  she'll also deal with what does as I alluded to earlier.
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  Times come out as pretty narcissistic traits, you know.
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  So she'll deal with that because he's so amazing.
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  She's never seen anybody that can exert themselves and move
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  through life like a hot knife through butter.
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  But then when he says no here, I'm going to give you like this
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  PowerPoint of reasons why we can do whatever I want now because I
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  have made it so we can afford it.
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  Then she frequently doesn't know how to say but I don't want that
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  I've never wanted that. I just wanted really like a nice
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  happy family life with it, kind of alpha.
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  Husband. But now it's gone beyond that
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  into where he's out earned, any boundary in his mind or any
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  social construct, he doesn't have to play Within the, the Box
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  anymore. So he's very mad that she still
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  wants to. Now where else, of course, does
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  this, you know, where is this relevant with the sex life?
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  So Can't Buy Me. Love as I talked about not
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  podcast when men make a lot of money and it doesn't have to be
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  all at once or in this, you know, amazing.
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  Amazing way or you know, whatever that I'm saying with
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  these specific guys who have this idea and then it you know
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  turns into a reality or that's a unique situation.
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  But with anybody makes a lot of money, any man who makes a lot
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  of money or any woman, but for the women it's really not
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  usually about sex. It's about other things like
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  deeper fulfillment. As I discussed in the podcast,
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  the wife who wants more and her annoyingly satisfied husband
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  that Dynamic amplifies when there's more money as well.
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  But in this specific case when the man has so much Money.
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  But he wants to be, not only so much money by the way, but also
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  an outside the box thinker in every way he wants to have the
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  love life. Commensurate with this with
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  this. I ideology of I can do anything,
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  I want. If I just try hard enough and
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  then frequently, he still can't get laid for shit with his wife.
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  The woman that he loves with whom.
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  He wanted to build this loving relationship because obviously,
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  any man can cheat, but, you know, who cares?
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  Like they don't want to cheat, you know. 80% of men don't
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  cheat. So therefore it doesn't really
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  make a difference that they can, it just makes it seem more
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  unfair that the woman will not sleep with them or be
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  affectionate to them or be happy with them or whatever the case
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  may be. Because in every other aspect of
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  their life they get what they want.
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  And so that can that the end and sometimes you know, before
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  therapy they can actually say things like this.
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  Basically, like you are the only person that that acts like this.
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  With me, you are the only person.
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  I can't convince of anything. You are the only person who
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  actively dislikes me, you know that may not be true.
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  You know what a certain point you just surround yourself with
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  zika fans and therefore everybody likes you because
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  everybody's working for you, you know but but still it feels to
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  the man like she is the only bottleneck in his life and
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  particularly sexually which is the most important thing.
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  Even for these guys, you know, that are coming up with their
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  own ideas and do all these things and living you know this
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  wonderful life, it others would think they could still be
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  extraordinary. Narrowly miserable if they're
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  not having sex. And, and as I've discussed so
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  many times, not just about sex. It's what sex means.
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  Now for these guys, it doesn't just mean love, it means it does
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  mean, it means play too, but it also means like, outside the box
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  like thinking, so they don't just want sex.
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  They're always very high, libido least when they're younger, but
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  they want like Like an interesting exciting sex life
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  that is in a ratio with the how they view everything they want.
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  An interesting exciting, exciting outside the box version
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  of everything. So the sex life is no different,
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  you know? And so, if not only are they
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  stopped from getting this interesting outside the box, sex
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  life, you know, where they're engaging in fantasy play and and
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  whatever else, you know, whatever their Kink is, or
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  explore and Kings, or whatever. Not only are they stopped from
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  doing that, which they feel they were We're in for, but they're
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  not even having sex at all. It can seem extremely unfair and
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  not understandable and they get kind of matter than the average
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  person. Because usually they're used to
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  things going their way even when things are hard.
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  So, these are the guys who really try to hack their wife's
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  sex drive, who are reading everything under the sun, the
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  same, as they would do, Infinity research to create a new widget
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  in their business. They do Infinity.
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  Research about their wife sex drive, and how to be a better
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  lover. And how did this?
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  And how to that and HRT and everything.
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  And the more that they research it, of course, she feels like
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  she's, you know, I always say like, a Sudoku puzzle that he's
• 20:16
  trying to solve. She feels more and more
• 20:18
  emotionally distant from him. He doesn't listen to her about
• 20:21
  the fact that some more empathy would go a long way or that,
• 20:24
  maybe they should just stay home for a weekend, or that she
• 20:27
  doesn't want to go do World schooling or like, whatever the
• 20:30
  case may be, you know, And they just use World School accessible
• 20:34
  on a TV show. I don't yet have any clients
• 20:36
  that want to do World schooling but this is when you travel
• 20:40
  around and the children learn from every place you go to about
• 20:43
  the world. Are you stabbing?
• 20:43
  Sounds cool. In theory, if you have Infinity
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  energy, which egg is exactly my point.
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  That women usually don't have and these men, especially do.
• 20:52
  But anyway, so the wife is like, why are you researching ways to
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  give me, multiple orgasms. I would just like to kind of
• 21:01
  cuddle and hang out. Out and talk as a first step.
• 21:04
  And he is so through Ward. It Feels So thwarted, and
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  restrained, and constricted that it's like almost impossible for
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  him to see, you know, that her perspective.
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  And this is, of course, what couples counseling can help
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  with. And again, these guys are very
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  responsive to therapy as long as they click with the therapist.
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  Because as you may be able to tell from what I'm saying, they
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  don't click with everybody, all right?
• 21:28
  So if you are in this situation, uniquely, this is a podcast that
• 21:32
  I would anybody in this situation should share it with
• 21:35
  their spouse, either the wife or the husband.
• 21:37
  Because, as I said, these guys uniquely like to hear feedback
• 21:40
  about themselves and the woman feels understood by what I've
• 21:44
  said about what his problems are.
• 21:46
  So this is one that, you know, usually I say listen, don't
• 21:49
  share my stuff. If they don't want to hear it,
• 21:50
  just summarize it. But this is one, I can't
• 21:53
  imagine. Anybody would really take
• 21:54
  offense to because I think it's really fairly straightforward
• 21:58
  and unbiased on both sides of the positives and negatives.
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  And in this Dynamic but I mean, who knows maybe.
• 22:05
  Yeah, maybe I'm wrong. And if your wife says listen I
• 22:07
  really don't want to hear you ever suggest another podcast by
• 22:10
  this fuck ever again. Then, although she said this
• 22:14
  fuck, she would probably like the podcast.
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  But if she says that woman or something, just don't send them.
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  Listen to them and process them. And talk about the ideas that
• 22:24
  will do more for your relationship than anything.
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  All right? Hopefully you found this
• 22:27
  interesting and I'll talk to you all soon.
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