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Episode 653: What Are The Chances My Ex Will Come Back? · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Two of the top three questions my clients always ask me is
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  whether I think they will hear from their ex and what the
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  chances are that they will get their ex back.
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  Well, those are the questions I will answer for you today, but
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  OK, so I finally have some statistics on what the chances
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  are that an X comes back and what raises those chances.
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  So I have a short comment here from a woman that I'm going to
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  go through and make comments and then I will give you the stats,
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  which I know you're very interested in hearing.
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  OK, so she says I got a call today after 110 days of no
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  contact. I ignored his texts and calls
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  four times. Good for you.
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  And he last contacted me on day 63, so he contacted her on day
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  63 and then 47 more days passed until he contacted her again.
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  So that fits within the 45 to 60 days that I talk about in the
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  video about the 60 day no contact rule and I will put that
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  link in the upper right hand corner on YouTube.
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  I honestly had given up and I got a call.
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  I answered because it was a different number and I was
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  usually expecting. I was actually expecting a call
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  from work. Again, why I say when you're in
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  no contact, do not answer calls unless you absolutely know who
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  it is. But then you're expecting a
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  call, you think it's them and then the other someone else
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  calling and then all of a sudden it's your ex.
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  But OK, he just said he wants to know how I was doing.
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  Sure, sure he did. After 110 days.
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  I'm just wondering how you're doing.
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  No, you're not. But OK, we'll we'll go with
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  that. No contact works.
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  Oh my God, I still can't believe he called after being ignored 4
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  times. OK, well I can't believe that
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  you can't believe that no contact works.
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  I've done a million videos on it and people still say I got Oh my
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  God, I can't believe it worked. Can someone explain to me why
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  people are in such disbelief that no contact will work?
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  And then she says after being ignored 4 times, Yeah, because
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  it's counter intuitive. We're dealing with the emotions.
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  Don't use logic to try to figure out what people are going to do
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  because you're going to make the wrong decision every time.
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  You're getting to their ego. When you ignore them, they're
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  not making a logical decision. They're making a decision based
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  on feelings, not facts. Feelings don't have an IQ, so
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  you're thinking logically. Oh my God, if I ignored them,
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  they'll never call me again. OK, so if everyone always
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  behaved logically, yes, they would never contact you again if
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  you ignored them. But luckily for people trying to
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  get their ex back, ignore away and you'll probably hear from
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  them. And finally she finishes with
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  he's really stubborn and this shocked me.
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  No, he's not stubborn. It's all about interest level.
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  OK? Everyone says the same thing.
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  My ex is stubborn. My ex will never contact me, my
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  ex is stubborn. And Oh my God, I can't believe
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  you contacted me. Yeah, it's about interest level.
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  OK, so I don't know if they actually got back together.
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  She didn't say, she just said she heard from him.
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  So if if that person could write back and let us know actually
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  what happened, I would be glad to give you an update at some
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  point. So, all right, So you know, 90%
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  of people will hear from their ex.
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  OK. So don't be surprised, as I've
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  said before, in fact, be expecting it.
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  And every day when you wake up, say, hey, this might be the day,
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  this might be the day, I don't want you to get to get caught
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  off guard because you are going to be emotional when you get
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  that text or see that phone call.
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  So every day, expect that you're going to hear from them. 90% of
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  you will hear from them. However, how many of you are
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  actually going to get them back? All right, here are the
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  statistics you've been waiting for.
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  And this is from a site called psychmechanics.com and they were
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  updated in November of 2022. And by the way, if you're
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  finding this video helpful, please give it a like so that
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  the YouTube algorithm will think, Gee, a lot of people like
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  this video, it must be good. Let me recommend it to more
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  people. And then that way more people
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  can find out if they're going to get their ex back or not.
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  OK, so according to this site, 60% of people are willing to get
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  back with their ex after being dumped. 14% of people who got
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  back together broke up again. So people that got back
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  together, 14% broke up again, probably because they didn't ask
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  the six questions that I talk about in my video, 6 questions
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  to ask your ex if they want you back and I'll put the link up in
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  the right hand corner. However, 15% of people who got
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  back together stayed together. OK, so if everyone who got back
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  together now about to tell you how many people get back
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  together, only 15% stayed together.
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  Now, I don't know what that means.
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  They stayed together forever. Did they stay together for a
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  year or two year? Don't know.
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  Men regret breaking up 45% of the time, and women regret
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  breaking up only 30% of the time.
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  And then finally, here is the stat you really want.
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  People who did not actually get back together is 70%, which
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  means that 30% of people who break up get back together.
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  And I don't know. Again, we don't have the
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  information like how many people that got their ex back, did they
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  have help from someone from a coach or whatever?
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  Because if the 30% that got their ex back, if none of them
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  had help from a coach, I would say that statistic would go up a
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  lot more. If you're dealing with someone
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  who knows how to help you get your ex back.
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  And here are some factors which contribute to getting an ex
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  back. And I've already mentioned some
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  of these in prior videos being age 50 or above.
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  So if you're above 50, then your chances of getting your ex back.
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  Getting back together are higher.
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  Probably because you're just too tired to look for someone else.
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  Like all right, let's get back together.
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  I'm too tired. Length and quality of the prior
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  relationship. So the longer you'd been
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  together and the better it was as a relationship overall, the
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  higher your chances of getting back together, getting back
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  together within six months of the breakup.
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  So for those of you who freak out because you didn't hear from
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  your ex within that 45 to 60 day window, don't worry, there's
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  still time. I mean, listen, even beyond six
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  months, people haven't heard from their ex.
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  But generally if you don't hear from them within days 45 to 60,
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  you're good for at least another six months after that.
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  Well, well, contact me after that commitment level.
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  So the more commitment there was, the more likely you are to
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  get back together. And of course interest level,
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  which I talk about constantly, which I believe ultimately
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  Trump's everything. And Doc Love, who first talked
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  about interest level. He's the one who says that that
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  interest level Trump's everything.
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  And you should check out his book if you want to find out
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  more about interest level. The link is underneath every
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  single video and podcast. So hopefully these statistics
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  have given you some hope that you'll get your ex back.
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  And if you don't, that you'll at least hear from them, right?
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  So now I want to hear from you. You want to hear from your ex
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  and I want to hear from you. How long have you been broken
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  up? Put that down in the comments
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  below and in the meantime, if you would like my help to get
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  your ex back, contact me at theartoflove.net and we will
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  send you the rates. The direct link is below every
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  single video and podcast. They are not on the site.
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