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Hypnosis to Release Childhood Shame and Judgement · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this hypnosis session
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  that you're just about to listen to, you're going to be listening
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  to a habit change hypnosis session that was linked to shame
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  and judgement. And I was working with a client
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  that was very shy, very introverted as a child, had a
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  very moral upbringing with religious connotations about
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  what was right and what was wrong, and had an experience
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  around 11 years old that they associated with doing something
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  that they shouldn't, doing something wrong.
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  And because of that, they felt conflicted because a part of
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  them really wanted to do that thing and another part of them
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  felt that it was the wrong thing to do.
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  And for some people, the fact that something is off limits,
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  particularly for a child that's becoming a teenager, can make
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  the thing more appealing. I'm deliberately not saying what
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  The thing is, because it is the kind of thing that a lot of
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  people have value judgments about.
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  What's important here is that a seed of an idea was planted in a
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  young child, effectively 11 years old, that influenced
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  future decisions and became a form of escapism and a form of
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  mental distraction. It would help them deal with
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  things like frustration and boredom.
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  But it came from a good place. It came from a place of wanting
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  to have an outlet for connection and even joy.
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  But it's a synthetic version of that reality.
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  It's not reality itself. And the reason I'm being
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  ambiguous in this one is because if you're listening to this, I
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  want you to think about something that maybe you started
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  when you were younger, you have some kind of link to shame or
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  guilt or judgement to, and that you want to change something
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  about your life. And that way you can listen to
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  this without the blinkered lens of attributing it to something
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  and make it more valuable for you.
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  If this isn't quite right. For whatever habit or addiction
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  or thing that you want to change, there will be a link in
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  the descripcion that can enable you to book a free consultation
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  call to Exlore working with me directly.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  slow, long, relaxing breath. And as you exhale, just allow
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  any feelings of worry, stress, or tension to feel like it's
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  leaving your body in that outward breath.
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  Breathing and relaxation and exhaling that tension.
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  And notice breath by breath, how it almost feels like you're
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  drifting to a place of safety, calm and relaxation.
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  The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become, and the more
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  relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe.
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  Breathing in the resources you need and exhaling any emotions
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  feel like they're holding you back.
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  Feel that. Any shame?
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  Any judgement? It's starting to leave your body
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  in your outward breath. I want you to think of a colour
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  that represents acceptance. Pure distilled self acceptance.
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  Maybe that colour is blue or yellow or green.
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  And imagine breathing in that bright colour of self
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  acceptance, but as you exhale, feel that you are releasing any
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  shame or judgement. Almost like it's dark shadows
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  leaving your body in your outward breath.
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  Consider each breath part of a transfusion, breathing in that
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  self acceptance and exhaling any shame, any judgement.
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  Unless you breathe in that bright colour and exhale those
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  shadows. I want you to start thinking
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  about why someone would feel not good about themself.
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  Irritable, low self esteem. I want you to get a sense that
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  if someone judges themselves harshly, that they're not living
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  up to their high standards. They might be experiencing
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  something like disappointment. They might be ashamed that
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  they're not living up to those high standards, but what if that
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  shame, that judgment, is not justified?
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  As you breathe in and breathe out, I want you to think about
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  why shame and judgment exists in societies all the way back in
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  medieval England. If someone did something that
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  the community the village deemed to be not positive, they would
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  cover that individual in thick black tar and then force them to
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  roll around in feathers of chickens and geese.
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  That public humiliation was designed to do 2 things, a
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  punishment for the individual that fell below the standards of
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  the village or the community. But it was more a warning to the
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  rest of the villagers to let them know what is OK and not OK.
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  I want you to get a sense then. This happened in lots of
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  different communities and some of these communities were
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  religious but not all communities followed the same
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  religion. But the individual was tarred
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  and feathered anyway. Perhaps there was someone in a
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  Viking village, they didn't believe in Thor or Odin, and
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  they were tarred and feathered. People can experience the
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  punishment, even if the crime itself is subjective.
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  And as you hold that thought, I want you to breathe in and
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  breathe out and think of an old Fort, a den hidden somewhere in
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  trees or a forest. But I want you to go back to
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  that time as you currently are. And I want you to imagine
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  watching a younger version of you, perhaps just 11 years old,
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  being introduced to something for the very first time.
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  And I want you to imagine that you are an invisible observer.
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  The younger version of you can't see you, but you can see them.
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  And I want you to see the rich variety of emotions experienced
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  in that moment. Emotions like curiosity,
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  intrigue, fascination, novelty, stimulation, surprise, but
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  perhaps caution, a sense of danger that they were doing
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  something wrong. And I want you to imagine a seed
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  of an idea was planted in that young impressionable mind, a
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  seed of an idea that made something a forbidden fruit.
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  But what if the fact that it was forbidden, not allowed or not
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  available, the very thing that made it so desirable?
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  Breathe in and breathe out and just observe that interaction,
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  that memory, but not reliving the moment, observing the
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  moment. Your current age, watching you
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  as a child experience something for the very first time.
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  I don't want you to imagine seeing that younger version of
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  you when they're on their own. Imagine you're no longer
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  invisible, and I want you to tell that younger version of you
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  that you are them in the future. And of course, I want you to see
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  the face of disbelief, perhaps even trepidation, seeing this
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  older person that they don't know.
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  But I want you to share a secret with the younger version of you
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  that only you both would know, to convince that younger version
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  of you that you are indeed them from the future.
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  And when you've convinced that younger version of them that you
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  are them from the future, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And I want you to let them know
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  some important information to make this experience no longer a
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  forbidden fruit. You just want to make it
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  something that is a natural part of them growing up, but somehow
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  a stepping stone to real experiences.
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  Tell them it's not wrong, just not useful.
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  And maybe you use an analogy like fast food or candy.
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  It's not wrong to eat lots of candy, it's just not good for
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  your teeth or your health. It's not wrong to eat lots of
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  fast food, but again, not good for your waistline or your
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  health. I want you to communicate that
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  it's not wrong to do this, it's just not useful.
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  It's not the best use of time. If they want stimulation, they
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  can find real experiences. If they want escapism, a good
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  book or a movie will help them escape so much better.
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  And I want you to imagine giving them so much at that young age
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  before hormones had kicked in. Imagine giving that younger
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  version of you limitless amounts of that thing that they wanted
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  but couldn't have and see an opposite occur.
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  That because they can have it, they don't want it.
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  And instead of synthetic fake fantasies, I want you to see
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  that younger version of you craving real experiences.
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  And if you can see that younger version of you where you've
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  planted a new seed of an idea, the forbidden fruit idea has now
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  been replaced with a belief that life is for living and living is
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  real experiences. And if that younger version of
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  you accepts that idea, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to give this younger version of you with just
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  eleven years old a gift. A gift of your current levels of
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  confidence for the version of you back then.
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  So that shy version of you in childhood as the courage and the
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  confidence to seek out more real experiences.
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  And I want you to imagine this level of confidence as a glowing
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  ball of energy. Just imagine handing that
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  glowing ball of energy to that younger version of them and they
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  pull it close to their heart. They absorb all of that
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  confidence. Say goodbye and then go forwards
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  in time to when you're maybe 16 years old.
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  But I want you to see the consequence of five years of
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  confidence. What has five years of
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  confidence done to that 11 year old when they become 16?
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  So now be the observer, invisible at first of you as a
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  16 year old. Well, you're not quite so shy.
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  You've got more of that confidence, a willingness to
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  prioritize real experiences. And if that version of you with
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  all of that confidence is indeed seeking out more real
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  experiences and less synthetic experiences, let me know by
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  nodding your head. I want you to get a sense then.
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  What if you've been trading and substituting real moments for
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  synthetic escapism, and the consequence of that is that it
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  leads to the very frustration you want to avoid.
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  Imagine going forwards in time and see you in a a new country
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  at a time when you had constant variety stimulation of your
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  brain, your mind, and real human connections.
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  And see when that was the case, the desire for anything
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  synthetic was almost negligible. This becomes evidence.
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  Evidence that that's what you truly crave.
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  Real connection, real variety, real experiences.
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  I want you to get a sense, then a desire to escape.
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  Or self medicate with cheap dopamine is disappearing now.
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  And I want you to imagine all of that shame and judgement is also
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  disappearing. That what someone does in the
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  privacy of their own home is down to them.
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  As long as other people aren't being hurt, no harm is being
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  done. But just because something is
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  acceptable doesn't mean it's desirable.
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  And you might find that as the shame and judgement disappears,
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  so too does the desire. When you can have it whenever
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  you want, don't be surprised if you just don't want it anymore.
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  I want you to imagine drifting in and observing your present
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  self like you're a stranger. And I want you to see a version
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  of you that is prioritizing real experiences, real connection,
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  real moments of stimulation that stimulate you emotionally and
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  intellectually through real things.
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  I want you to think of that country that you got to know a
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  culture, a language, and the people, that if you read a
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  magazine or a book of the same thing, it wouldn't have been an
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  experience. And I wonder what real
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  experiences you'll find a craving for now in your future.
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  See yourself over the next few days and weeks where a desire
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  for something synthetic has been replaced with a desire for real
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  things. Maybe a shared experience with a
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  partner, or maybe the stimulation of your own
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  imagination. But nothing synthetic, nothing
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  experienced through a screen. The screen was only ever a
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  stepping stone to activate your imagination anyway.
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  I want you to get a sense. Then there is a control room in
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  your mind. Just imagine there are two
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  buttons, desire and then what you're desiring.
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  I want you to increase the button for desire and then
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  switch it from synthetic to real.
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  Your desire increases, but your increased desire is now linked
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  to anything real. Real music, real tastes, real
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  sensations. I want you to get a sense that
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  that is your new craving, and the highest craving of all is
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  real connection. Connection can be a
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  conversation, a hug, a kiss, being present and just
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  listening. And if your unconscious is
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  willing to agree that this is what you've been craving all
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  along anyway, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And then it's time to leave this place, this place in your
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  imagination. But you return with the true
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  version of you being awakened. You never wanted to escape.
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  You wanted to explore. And now you have permission to
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  do that. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now.
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  That's it. As I now count from 1:00 to
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  10:00 to awaken you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you for listening to The
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