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Beyond Anger: Reframing Your Relationship with God for Entrepreneurial Growth · Closing Sales in Nigeria - Sales For The Nigerian Business Person: The Sales and Marketing Blueprint

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Hello and welcome to the show. Apologies before begin because
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there's going to be some noise in the background and also
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because my, excuse me, my sore throat is getting worse.
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So yeah, there's that. So let's get straight into the
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topic for today. Now today I'm going to make a
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detour because yesterday and I think the day prior, we have
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been looking at objections that people give us in business.
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That's reasons that they give or not wanting to go ahead with the
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transaction, with the relationship, with whatever
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agenda that we're trying to push in business or in work.
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So we start started the conversation on what objections
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are, what is rejection, how do we cope with all these things.
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But I've been seeing some topics floating around in the
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Podcastosphere, and I figured, let me just make an episode real
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quick to address one of them. And one of these questions that
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I've seen some conversations going around in entrepreneurship
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is this whole thing of is God angry with me?
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Now it's obvious why some of these questions would be out
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there on the Internet amongst entrepreneurs because it's, you
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know what we do. It's a it's it's a high stress,
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it's a high stress environment. Whether you're trying to be a
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wedding photographer or you're trying to sell catfish or you're
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trying to build your consultancy practice or just trying to start
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a fintech, it's really high stress.
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And so because of that, issues of mental health, spiritual
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health, all these things, they these are questions that, well,
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everybody tackles these questions.
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But those of us who are in unique high stress environments,
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you know, like people in the military, 'cause that is really
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high stakes. You know, they see death all the
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time. You know, they kill folks, they
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see people die. And you know, what we do is not
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high stakes like military high stakes.
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Because I mean, let's face it, as a wedding photographer, if
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you do your job poorly, nobody dies.
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But still, as a wedding photographer, you don't.
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If you don't think you've done a good job, you know, to bring in
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the bacon, you know to bring in the war, the money, then there's
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going to be implications at home.
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You know, you and your wife being stressed out about money
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or the other way around. Maybe your husband feel like
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you're not pulling your weight in the house if he's the one
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that is, that is gainfully employed, has the 95, and then
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you know you and the lady are the one who is the
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entrepreneurial. 1 So there's high stress, people thinking
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about all kinds of things, and sometimes it's easy to feel as
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if God is angry with you or the universe is against you.
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So these are the reasons why these sorts of questions are
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topical in entrepreneurial circles.
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Now, this is not the focus of the podcast.
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That is why I don't talk about these sorts of things.
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But I want to talk about it today because some of these
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questions betray A misunderstanding about God.
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And I would like us to have the right perspectives of who God
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is, who he is, so that we do not fall into some of these errors
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or some of these negative ways of thinking.
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If we have the right ideas about God, then the chances are we're
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not going to fall into errors of thought about who he is and what
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he is capable of. Now, some of the questions that
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I want to address, specifically something that I saw in a
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particular podcast, was the question Is God trying to punish
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me? Is God trying to make me feel
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pain? Is God always angry with me?
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What did I do? What did I do wrong to get this
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anger? And is it OK for me to wander
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every 5 minutes? Is God thinking about me?
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I want to know what God is thinking about me.
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Those sorts of questions. So like I said, these questions
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betray A misunderstanding about God and who he is now.
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First off, OK, well, I like to define, so let me just continue
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with that same approach over here.
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So First off, let's clarify a couple of things.
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Let's define a couple of things, especially since now we have a
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there's a what's it called? Critical Critical Racial Theory.
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Critical Feminist theory. You know, all kinds of things
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going on about there that raise really important questions about
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God, his existence, and his relationship to us.
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So First off, let's define define a couple of things.
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When we talk about God as He, the reason why we talk about God
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as he is because traditionally it means something to be a man
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and it means something to be a woman.
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And God has chosen to reveal himself to us using those terms,
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not because he is a man, because God is neither man nor woman, He
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is spirit. So what makes a man is that a
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man is engendered and God is not gendered.
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So excuse my French, God does not have a PP.
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So in the philosophical, most technically precise sense, he's
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neither male nor female. We just say he because that is
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how he chose to reveal himself to us.
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And the reason why he chose to reveal himself to us is because
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he's trying to express certain things about his nature that the
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metaphor of man best conveys. Like some people have pointed
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out, some classical Christian thinkers have pointed out to be
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a man is to engender life out of yourself.
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And that is how God did create the world because he's the
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metaphysical source of everything that is real and
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everything that exists. And he did that out of himself.
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That is the reason why, one of the reasons why people
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speculate, he chose to reveal himself to us using masculine,
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gender, masculine pronoun because life was engendered
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outside of him. If we're going with the
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narrative, in Genesis, he spoke and then things came into
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existence, life was engendered outside of him.
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So he chooses to review himself as a man and is one of the
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reasons why. If you notice in traditional
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Christian circles, when people want to start talking about God
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as mother, people get apprehensive.
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The reason why they get apprehensive is because if we
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look at comparative religions all around the world, you will
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notice that religions where they speak of God as mother, usually
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they now fall into pantheism and it's obvious because a woman
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engenders life inside herself. So people who start thinking of
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God as mother fall into that whole thing of everything is
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God, nature is God, the universe is God, and those are the things
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that make Christians uncomfortable.
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So if you have a classical Christian thinker insisting on
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the metaphor of fatherhood and maleness for God, these are the
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reasons why. It's not because traditional
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Christian thinkers hate women. It's just because God chose that
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metaphor to reveal himself to us and is communicating something,
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beginning with the fact that he engendered life out of himself
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so he didn't engender life in him.
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So the universe is not God. It's one of the reasons why I
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take shots at, you know, you universe believers on this
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podcast. You know, the whole thing of the
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universe is calling out to me, you're manifesting the universe
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and blah, blah, blah and all of that.
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You know, philosophically, it's not sound.
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The universe is contingent. The universe didn't have to be.
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The universe is contingent on other factors.
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So the universe cannot be self-sustaining.
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The universe cannot be a God or a deity of some sort.
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So first thing that I wanted to clarify because there's going to
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be lots of he talk in this episode when I say God, and I'm
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speaking to God as if he was a man, I'm not trying to put down
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woman, I'm just being consistent with the revelation that we have
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received so far. But remember, God is neither
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male nor female. He is spirit.
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So God does not have APP, God does not have testosterone.
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God does not talk with baritone. So he's neither male nor female.
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He is spirit. OK, just wanted to get that out
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of the way. So some of these misconceptions,
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some of these questions, is God always angry with me?
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Is he trying to punish me? It's because we don't properly
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understand the nature of God. We assume that God is a person
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like us. So it's part of the divine
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revelation that God is a person. Because let's face it, it is
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only people who create entities that are non personal.
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Don't create. Your exercise bike is not going
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to create anything because your exercise bike is a being is an
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entity, but it's not a personal being.
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A stoned outside your house is a is an entity, but it's a non
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personal entity so it's not going to create anything.
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So personal entities like us, we create stuff.
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I'm creating a podcast because I'm a personal entity.
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So the ultimate entity that we call God that is responsible for
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everything that exists in the universe.
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Obviously he's a personal being, but because we speak of him as a
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person, some people think he's like us.
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But no, God is not like us. If we think that God is like us,
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what we end up with is a bigger version of ourselves, a super
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version of ourselves. What we end up with is Superman
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or Thor or Thanos or those big creatures that were responsible
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for creating the universe in in the, what's it called, this
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Marvel thing? The Elementals.
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Yeah, and all that. But that is not what God is.
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That is not who God is. So a lot of times people are
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thinking about God, but they're just thinking about a person
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like me and you, but just a bigger version.
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A bigger version is just Thanos or Odin or Superman.
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So traditional classical ideas about God say that even though
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God is a person, he's not like us.
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So we should stop trying to think about God the same way
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that we think about ourselves. One way that we think about God
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traditionally. I know this is 10 minutes, but
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I'm getting somewhere. I'm just trying to lay the
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foundation. One way that we think about God
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traditionally in the classical sense is to say that we speak
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about him having attributes, and one of those attributes is
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impossibility. And that is one thing that the
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modern Christian finds hard to deal with, because the idea
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behind impossibility is to say that God does not experience
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emotions. I repeat that impossibility is
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the idea that God does not experience emotions.
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At the very least, he is not experiencing emotions the same
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way that human beings experience emotions.
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Because remember, God is a person.
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But that doesn't mean that he is like us, just the bigger version
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of us. The reason why traditionally we
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say God is impassible, that he doesn't experience emotions.
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At least he doesn't experience emotions the way that we do.
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It's because emotions require you to have change in you and
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everybody knows every Nigerian anyway, that right from the days
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when we've been tiny in primary or nursery school, we are taught
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that there is no change in God. In Nigeria.
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There's an expression that we used to say, we used to say God
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the same yesterday, today, tomorrow, forever.
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Well, something like that I haven't heard in years.
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Anyway, now if there is no change in God, then he can't
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experience emotions the same way we do.
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Let's look at the emotion in question Today we are talking
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about anger. Somebody feels, some people feel
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that maybe God is angry with them and that's the reason why
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business is not working out. Things are not working in your
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favor. Things seem to be falling apart
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left, right and center. Anger requires surprise or lack
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of knowledge. I have two boys and so because
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of this, it's something I can speak to very well.
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When I get angry with my boys is because I expected that both of
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them should do this, which is the right thing.
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But as young boys do, they go and do the opposite.
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And I'm caught off guard and it makes me angry and it makes me
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disappointed and then I unleash, I'm not saying you should
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unleash and, you know, beat your kids.
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I'm just saying that this is the dynamic about anger.
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So because I have a lack of foreknowledge, I'm caught by
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surprise. Because I'm caught by surprise,
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there's anger and there's disappointment.
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But let's think about it. Traditionally, we know that God
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is the source of all knowledge, and he knows everything past,
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present and future. For a being who knows
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everything, how can we say that that being gets surprised when
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you do something that is wrong? God already knew, even before
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you were born, that whatever it is that you did wrong or
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whatever setbacks that you're going through or your successes
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or whatever, God knows everything, So he knew it even
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before he was born. Sometimes I want to mess with my
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boys, and so I tell them that you know, God knows everything.
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And I make I I point out that when my great, great, great
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grandfather was a boy, God knew me.
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God knew who I was going to be. He knew everything.
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My joys, my trials, my successes, my everything.
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Even when there was no remote chance of me being born, I'm
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talking about my great, great, great, great, great great
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grandfather. So God cannot be surprised in
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that sense. And because of that, he can't
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fall into anger like we do. When your earthly father falls
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into anger, it's because your earthly father expected, like I
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expect of my sons, that you should do this, you should do
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that. But then you did the wrong
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thing. And then I get angry and it
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makes sense because I don't know.
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Everything but God has is a source of all knowledge.
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He is all knowledge itself. He has four knowledge of
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everything. So he can't be surprised.
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Because he can't be surprised, he can't be angry.
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And because he can't be angry, he can't unleash the way that we
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humans unleash. Now, there are some passages in
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the Old Testament, but we can get to that later.
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You know, that's beyond the scope of the podcast for today.
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And this is meant to be a business podcast.
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Now, even though God cannot be surprised or angry, it doesn't
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mean that he doesn't have disapproval of some things.
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But just remember that God's disapproval is not the same as
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us for your earthly father. Your earthly father disapproves
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of something. He will shout.
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He will quarrel. He will knock you on the head.
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He will flog you. Sorry, For those of you who are
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not Nigerians, I know hearing some of this stuff might be
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crude or horrific or whatever, but that's just how we run
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things in this part of the world.
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By the way, I'm not saying I'm not endorsing child abuse
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anyway, that's the topic for another day.
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But I'm not saying that this is how earthly fathers react, even
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for those of you in the West. You know you guys go through it.
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So your father might not shout at you if you're American or if
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you're from the UK, but you can tell when your healthy earthly
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father is disappointed because he expected you to be a doctor
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but now you're doing drop shipping over Amazon.
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Your earthly father is thinking I pay thousands of pounds for
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you to go to Oxford, only for you to do this.
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You should have just stayed at home and been been drop shipping
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from day one and save me all that money.
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So God has disapproval, yes, but not the same way as your earthly
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father does. Because he doesn't experience
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disapproval and shame and anger and all these things like we do.
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He is not going to play games with us and punish us daily.
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So for an earthly father like me and my son who lied to
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yesterday, if I told me one big lie a while back I was shocked.
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I didn't know that children are capable of such lies, but many.
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He's a good kid. He just thought that if he told
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the truth, was going into trouble.
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So he told one lie to cover another lie and another lie to
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cover another lie. And my wife told me that, look,
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this boy is lying. I was like, no, no, no, no, no.
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My son would not lie to me. And it turns out my wife was
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right. So another father caught in this
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kind of loop my punish you daily I get into all these games,
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punish you yesterday, wake up today and say I can't believe
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you told me what you did. You told this lie, blah blah,
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come here, give you a few strokes and then maybe tomorrow
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wake up again and say, hey, I can't believe that you did that,
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that I had faith in you. Something, something.
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Go and kneel down. So God is not going to play all
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these games with us and punish us daily.
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So the answer to the question is God trying to make you feel
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pain? For those of you who are going
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through all these feelings, stuff is not working out.
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Business is not moving. Marriage.
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You're quarrelling with your wife.
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You're quarrelling with your husband.
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Let's see what else. At home in the village, things
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are not things are not aligning properly.
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You know, it's God trying to make you feel pain.
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The answer is no. The reason why you're feeling
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pain sometimes it's just part of fallen nature issues in the
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village. They can arise because of all
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kinds of things. Maybe your father was not cool
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with some people. Some people were angry with your
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father. Even though your father is now
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dead. Some of that anger and
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misfortune has now carried on to you.
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Sometimes it's that simple, you know, It's not God.
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It's just part of fallen nature. It's also part of fallen nature
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that you do your best. You put all your best into your
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business. You try to be ethical and above
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board, but then you run into an idiot and the idiot is trying to
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cheat you. It's just part of fallen nature.
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It's not God trying to make you feel pain.
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Well, there's some free will that's involved and it's a
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consequences of mistakes. There are times that I have done
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things that by time my eye cleared, I wondered what was I
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doing there in the first place. You now start suffering
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consequences as a result. It's not God that's trying to
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make you feel pain. You have free will.
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You now chose to wacker where you're not supposed to put your
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leg and then you now go and hang.
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And it has nothing to do with God has free will, it's
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consequences of mistakes. And then sometimes you're
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feeling pain because you don't understand God's consequent
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will. The fact that God allows bad
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things to happen, He allows everything to happen.
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That is not something that we're going to understand on this side
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of the veil. When we die and we face final
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judgement or universal judgement, we will now
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understand. It will now become clear.
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And on this I can speak particularly to some of you,
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especially those of us in Nigeria.
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We know, we know the issues that we face.
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Sorry those of you who are foreign listeners because over
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half of you that listen are American.
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So some of these I say my shock, some of you, but let me just say
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it anyway. And my father died because he
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was shot in the, you know, trying to remember these things.
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But like, he was shot in the shoulder.
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I think a bullet got into the neck.
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Was it the ear? But as in was was bloody, sure,
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was real bloody. And at the time, I was very
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angry. Luckily for me, before my father
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passed, when I was a young boy, my father had told me something.
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I don't know why. It's a conversation I had
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remembered. My father told me, you know,
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it's good to live a good life, live clean the whole thing.
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Because if you live with a clean mind, you will have no enemies.
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But if you have no enemies, nothing, nothing bad will happen
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to you. And my father told me, look,
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I've tried to live a good life and I know I have no enemies,
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Nobody means me bad. But then he added something.
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He said even if somebody means me bad, nobody can do me
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anything that will harm me except if God permits.
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So anybody who thinks that he's trying to harm me is wasting his
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time, because if God doesn't permit it, it will not happen.
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And if God permits it, then, Oh, well, for some reason that
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conversation struck him, stayed in my mind.
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And so when my father passed the way that he did, that whole
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thing of doubting God and getting angry at him and all of
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that, I guess he didn't come up for me because we had had that
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conversation while he was alive and when I was a small boy.
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So why God allows these things to happen?
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I have no idea. You know what I preferred when
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my father would have lived to an ripe old age and passed, you
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know, the same way that, you know, most dad passed, you know,
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old age. I don't know if I don't know
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it's any way of dying that is good.
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So what I'm just trying to say is God's consequent will
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allowing things to happen. We have no idea at the universal
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judgment. I will now understand why one or
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two things happened. But summary Is God always angry
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with you? The answer is no.
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If God was angry with you, let's face it, you'll be dead.
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Because when I'm angry with my boys, they quake.
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They tremble. Now just imagine that if God
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truly was like one of us. Imagine if God was Superman or
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Thanos. If Superman was angry with you.
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If Thanos was angry with you, would you be alive?
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I mean, in The Avengers movie, what the Thanos do?
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Thanos snapped his finger. And then half of all life in
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all, the cosmos disappeared. So God is not angry with you.
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If it was not angry with you, you'd be dead.
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You wouldn't be able to sustain that kind of anger.
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Imagine if I was angry with an aunt or a cockroach.
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A cockroach. The aunt would be dead.
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Apart from that, God sustains all things.
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That is the classical idea of God.
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And God is love. If you're being sustained right
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now, if you're alive right now, then God loves you.
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No, but he's not angry with you. Does God disapprove of sin?
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The answer is yes. Does he desire reconciliation
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with us? That is the whole point of his
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revelation and the Bible and Jesus Christ coming and dying
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for us. The reason why I'm Speaking of
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all these things from a Christian context is because the
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person who raised these questions is a Christian.
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So if I was talking to a Muslim who raised all these questions,
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the conversation philosophically will be the same.
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The details will be slightly different, but you get where I'm
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coming from. So God disapproves of sin, yes,
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but he desires reconciliation. And now the final question.
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What does God think of me? Rather, what does God think of
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you, especially if you're one of these people who is going
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through all these feelings right now?
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You don't have to think that hard.
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You don't have to wake up every day and every 5 minutes praying
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and asking God, God, what do you think of me?
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He has made His revelation abundantly clear in the
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Scripture and in the Church. That's the source of His
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revelation. And He has revealed that He
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loves us. He has revealed that he wants to
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be reconciled with us, that all men might be drawn to him.
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And by the way, in this case, when we say all men are speaking
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about, we're using the word man in the universal sense.
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OK, let me rephrase. Just so I don't get into
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trouble, he desires that all of creation be reconciled to
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himself, and there's a universal call to holiness.
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So as a businessman, I am called to holiness.
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As a father, I am called to holiness.
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As a mother, as a sister, whoever you are listening to
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this podcast right now, you are called to holiness according to
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your station in life. If you're listening to.
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This podcast. Maybe you're on 18 because their
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few 18 year olds are listening to the podcast.
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According to the Starts, you're thinking of being involved in
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business. Soon you're not in business yet.
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You're trying to enter uni. You are called to holiness
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according to your state in life. So according to your state in
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life right now, an 18 year old girl who is writing jump getting
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ready to enter into UNILAG, you have a call to holiness.
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It is different for me who is a few decades older and who is a
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father trying to build a business, But we are still
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called to holiness all the same. Now the way forward, if you are
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experienced experiencing any of these things because we all go
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through it, that's also another thing.
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Don't feel like you're alone in this thing.
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You're not alone. It's just that we wake up every
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day and we package ourselves and we continue going forward.
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But The thing is you you don't know what everybody is suffering
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that sometimes that some people talk, I hear their own and I'm
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like, wow, like I hope my own issues were bad.
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I'm like, I know this guy. This guy deserves some prayer.
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We should be praying for him. I hear some people stories.
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I'm like, man, my own is a walk in the park.
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Like my own is easy. So everybody is going through
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stuff. Everybody is going through.
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Some stuff. So don't feel like.
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It's you. You're not alone the way
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forward. There's a whole bunch of stuff
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that you need to discern. For Catholics.
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We have the Sacrament of Reconciliation.
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Go. And talk to the priest.
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For those of you who. Have Pentecostals.
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You don't have the sacrament of reconciliation.
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There's a whole bunch of stuff that you should be descending
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with your pastor, or with your Deacon, or with your
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deaconesses. There are plenty of.
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Conversations that we need to have here.
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So all these questions are valid questions, but these are not
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questions that we just push out into the Internet and then keep
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talking and talking and talking and we end up wallowing in
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misery and then make ourselves even more upset.
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Because when we start asking all these questions on the Internet,
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and we're pushing that on the Internet, we're creating a
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certain kind of echo chamber That doesn't help, that doesn't
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help us. Let's go to the.
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Place where we know that we can see we can get some answers and
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we can engage critically with all the issues.
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So it's the process of discernment in the church.
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Talk to your family members too. If you're in good standing with
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Mumsy or Popsy, talk, call Popsy and say, hey Popsy, what's up?
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Are you at home? OK, no problem.
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I'm going to be passing through in 5 minutes.
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I just want to holler at you small and then you go and sit
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down and then you guys have a conversation.
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So talk to your. Loved ones, Talk to your
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pastors. And I've been saying this a lot
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on the podcast, This whole thing about mental health.
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Luckily in. Niger, we're beginning to catch
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up. In Abuja.
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In a General Hospital in area 8, 'cause I ran into trouble with
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Rd. safety one time, so they seized my car.
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And don't mind those idiots, any small thing, just looking for
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money. So they seized my car.
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The order that I should go for psychiatric evaluation Can't
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imagine. Unfortunately for me that day,
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yeah, I just dropped my kids in school so I was dressed like a
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you don't know, as in the the clothes I had worn the day
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before I was on camps. My plan was to come back home
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and I have a bath. So as I was going for this like
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this psych evaluation, I was even thinking that the the
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doctor, the shrink would look at me and say this guy is truly a
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madman. But I didn't know that we had
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psychiatrist in our general hospitals We do at the time.
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I don't know how much now. Registering at era eight was
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only 8000 naira. I don't know how much it is now,
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you know, with the price of stuff going up and all that, but
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I registered for AK. The consultation was open for
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two weeks. I spoke to the shrink.
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We spoke about, you know, all kinds of things.
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Luckily the guy didn't declare that I was a madman, so I was
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able to pay my fine and collect my car without having my license
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suspended or anything like that. But we got to.
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Talk generally, and from what he made me understand, they're here
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in Nigeria. They exist then your General
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Hospital. They might not be in every
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single hospital in your village or something like that, but at
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least I can. I know for sure.
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If you're in Abuja and you get to Area 8 General Hospital, the
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one that is close to the Catholic Cathedral and close to
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UTC, if you go there, they're there.
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They're on staff. 8K. Get registered.
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The consultation is open for two weeks, so you can go and talk to
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the guy now. If you guys talk.
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Plenty. You don't finish, you can still
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go and come back tomorrow. Like I said, the consultation is
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going to be open for two weeks so that AK means you can come
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Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and next week
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Monday, Tuesday. You know, so you pay AK.
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You can go and talk to him for 10 times.
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So go and talk about all your issues, mental health.
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So seriously, we have professionals available now.
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They're not many. But they're available.
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So let's take our mental health, import important Pay attention
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to our mental health, pay attention to our spiritual
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health. But just know you're going
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through all these issues. You're not alone.
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And I just want you guys to know God is not angry with you.
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The reason why you might think God is angry with you is because
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you think that God is a bigger version of your earthly father.
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We earthly fathers, we are not perfect.
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In fact, it's my prayer that God is and his Holy Spirit on all
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fathers and mothers so that we can stop creating hang ups in
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our children. So you may have gone through
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issues with your with your with your earthly father.
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Your earthly father is not like me.
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Your earthly father is sorry. Your your, your heavenly Father
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is not like me, and he's not like your dad.
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So God is not angry with you. He disapproves when we are
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straying from the path, and He desires for us to be reconciled.
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And that's the. Reason why we have the church
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and the Bible. So I said my bid.
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The rest is up to you. Go see your pastor.
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Talk to your family members. Talk to your wife.
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Let your wife know that this how I'm feeling.
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Talk to your husband. Let your husband know that this
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how I'm feeling that you know, my dear, I've been trying to run
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this thing. Sometimes business is up,
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sometimes business is down. But when you look at me
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sometimes and you say this, I'm feeling like maybe because the
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business is not working, you're feeling like I'm a dream.
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I'm a burden on the household or something.
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That's how you're feeling. Tell your husband.
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You guys have the. Conversation.
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Anyway, 30 minutes, so let me bring it to a close.
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So connect with me the usual channels.
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WhatsApp. The number is 08064662140.
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The country code is +234. Is there any connecting me with
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me? Let's stay on topic, alright?
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I know I've spoken up plenty about God and spiritual stuff
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today, but I'm not a pastor. I'm a business growth.
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Consultant. I'm a business development
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consultant and that's what I do. So yeah, we talk about personal
31:27
stuff, no problem. But let's just stay on topic if
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this is your first time listening to the podcast.
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This is not a religious podcast. It's not a philosophical
31:34
podcast. So don't be surprised when you
31:36
come tomorrow, you play another episode and then while talking
31:38
money, money, money. I'm a greedy man.
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I want to make money. So that's the focus on the
31:42
podcast. Then also connect with me on
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LinkedIn. My name is Tavishima Ayede.
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I'm the host of the show. You can confirm the spelling of
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my name from the link. We're currently listening to
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this episode, so thank you very much for your time and
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attention. Tomorrow we're going to be back
31:55
on topic, talking about objections, the reasons that
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people give for not wanting to do business with us when people
32:02
reject us in business and. How to go?
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Beyond that, So tomorrow we'll be back on topic.
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But for now, just know that when it's when you're dealing with
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God, there is no objection, There is no rejection.
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He's just waiting. He's waiting for your head to
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kick into gear. So you can start.
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Making the right decisions and he provides the grace and
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everything is going to be well at the end of the day.
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So I'll catch you guys tomorrow. And this is your fake Pastor
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Tavish, a man signing out?