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Episode 89: Holy Spirit = the cheat sheet to habits that self help doesn't have · The Habit Lab

• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: We all have areas in our life we might feel stuck or overwhelmed.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: So join me, Jenna Zint, habit coach, teacher, and follower of Jesus, as we go after little bits of better by building offensively small habits that create big impact.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: This is the Habit Lab Podcast.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_00: My name is Jenna Zint.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a life coach.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_00: If you're looking for some help, whether it's redesigning some areas of your life, habit-wise, logistics systems, I love doing that.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: I love people seeing breakthrough, like simple breakthrough for things they felt were insurmountable.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: And then the other half of my client coaching is working through emotional, relational pain points, patterns.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: And it's interesting because I think people think of them separate, but there's so much overlap because oftentimes the relational and emotional pain patterns are actually, I think of them just as like habits of relationships and some emotional pain patterns and thoughts.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: So a lot of the crossover of the tools of like getting to the root of it.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: What do you believe that supports this pattern?
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: Why is it there?
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: When does it pop up the most?
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_00: What information?
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_00: And getting like curious about it instead of contempt for both the really logistic habits and also the emotion habits that are up and running in your life.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: And then going backwards, be like, okay, letting Holy Spirit kind of minister to some of those roots, and then actually making some really tiny action steps to interrupt the pattern to start getting different results.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: But going back to my strategy, I think you all know that I listened to Atomic Habits like four or five years ago, and then my mind was blown that I had been approaching change the wrong way.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: And then it led me, oh gosh, I have listened to probably two dozen books written on behavior science after that.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but really just to oversimplify it, most of us try to do dramatic overhauls in areas of our life that we want different results, like whether they're pain or you're stuck or you're overwhelmed.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: But the idea of little bits of better, it is shocking to me.
• 3:11
  SPEAKER_00: I actually was um, oh, I feel teary.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: Last night there's just a bunch of breakthrough with my kids with some like having their own relationships with the Lord and tenderness and encounters with God.
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_00: And that was one area that I would have qualified as maybe relational pain of like, man, I don't know how to instill this in a core value where it comes from a heart spot versus a task on their list, you know?
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: So I've been pondering and kind of avoiding that I was like, okay, I need to use my same concepts with like habits with this.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: So just up and running, had a couple, like I've been working on some God habits, which I actually have an episode, a podcast called Kids God Habits, and I'll go ahead and link it in the show notes.
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna make a note to myself to do that.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but anyways, I would recommend listening to that if you're like, oh yeah, I can relate to that pain point.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, anyways, but last night I just had stunning, like got to experience the fruit of some stuff with my son.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: And then my middle daughter Rosie had just like such a sweet time in the in her bed with the Lord yesterday and organically started worshiping together, which does not happen, y'all.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like this is not, you know how you hear some of those families.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: This is like one of three times, you know.
• 4:24
  SPEAKER_00: But it was, and then Audrey, some she's reading um Imagine Heaven.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's no gosh, Heaven is for Real.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's a book, it's an autobiographic book about a little boy that died and went to heaven, and it just tells this story.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: So it's kind of like a written encounter.
• 4:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, anyways, and then her zeal and talking about heaven, and as I left bedtime last night, I actually getting back to the idea of little bits better, I was like teary with the Holy Spirit.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'll I won't forget it.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: I was like closing Audrey's door and I just thought about the the fruit I just tasted from each of them, and so aware of like, wow, God, you took my 50 cents of effort in in some of these spiritual habits with my kids.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's the difference of trying these overhauls in our life areas is that it's in our own power out of striving versus it's so self-sufficient.
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_00: We don't realize it.
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_00: We like we pray and we invite the Lord, but the quantity of effort we think it's gonna require from us to to get different results is so us focused.
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's most of the time it's not a heart issue.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: We actually want it to be God-led, but the part of uh, the the quantity we think we're responsible for is so different.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: And it almost feels, I call little bits a better offensively small starts because it actually feels offensive.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like if I think of the different things I've done, God habit-wise, with my kids.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like one of the breakthrough testimonies, y'all, is that Wesley's excited about children's church, and part of it was that I um bought him a Bible bag, which you're gonna laugh, but it's um, and then helped him pack it and talk about why we bring our Bible, and it's just been this two-week process, but for years, the rest of us like church enough, but he would be, he didn't enjoy it.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: So the idea of offensively small that like it was like Holy Spirit um told me one time a couple of weeks ago, and I was like, man, what's a key like to get some breakthrough here?
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_00: And that's kind of how I see habits is keys for breakthrough.
• 6:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and a lot of times I think the difference between I kind of tease people are like, Do you just teach James Clear stuff?
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, no, because all the secular self-help stuff doesn't have the Holy Spirit, and it feels like a cheat sheet that we have the Holy Spirit because we don't have to guess.
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_00: Ooh, I have the Holy Spirit.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we don't have to guess at what the keys for breakthrough we could actually pray.
• 6:44
  SPEAKER_00: And some of you know, I'm not saying all of my habits have been divine encounters that then led to mystical, magical, miraculous, instant fruit.
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's not it.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: It like the pace of little bits of better is slow over time.
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_00: We've Aaron and I have started dubbing it like these really small habits, little bits of better, that their investments into the people we're becoming or the kids we're raising or the family we want to have.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: But the idea of the little bits, the pace of it, is a slow miracle.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I think in a culture, and if you have Holy Spirit, we have this supernatural mindset of I don't think we realize how often that supernatural mindset can creep into quick fixes for our character or our heart.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: And absolutely, we believe the Lord does that.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_00: I call him and suddenlies.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: He does and suddenlies.
• 7:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like in the Bible, you see both.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: But then also you watch um how the Lord chose quote-unquote slow miracles in the formation with his disciples.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: It was a witness and they didn't get it.
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: They were there for all the miraculous, and then they're their car talk afterwards.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: One of my friends says, like, after you leave and you process, like, I felt like I was a little weird, or did I talk too much, or um, you know, did I feel uh pushy when I suggested that we really consider the alternative?
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: You know, that's a car talk, it's a tete a la tete afterwards.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: So when I think of um Jesus having these big moments with the crowds, and then afterwards he and his disciples are debriefing, I think of them as like car talk moments.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times the questions they ask show that they don't get it.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: They don't understand his strategy, they don't get the fullness of who he is or how he's gonna be the king.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you can think of a hundred not a hundred.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: I probably can think of three examples, one of which is, you know, um almost when they're like, when are you gonna come in a white horse and you know, like take over like the righteous king?
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: Or the other one would be like, Hey, when you get to heaven, can I get one of those honor spots?
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: Can I be at your left or right hand?
• 8:33
  SPEAKER_00: Or, you know, just kind of moments like that.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh, they don't get it.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: But my point would be that Jesus was fully capable of the and suddenly.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_00: Like oftentimes those tete a la tete talks with a disciple, disciples would be after a ton of miraculous and suddenly moments, you know?
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: But then in character formation, we see him be okay with them slowly getting formed over time.
• 8:54
  SPEAKER_00: He didn't miraculously pray for them to get it, you know?
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like he could have, they probably could have got instantly it if he chose to give it that way.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_00: But I think that both and like God uses and suddenlies, and he also uses the Holy Spirit for slow formation over time.
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like I think that's almost more discipleship, you know?
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_00: So that's been that's been what's changed my perspective on habits so dramatically from more self-help movement where it's like me fueled, my effort, where it's like, oh, we have the Holy Spirit.
• 9:25
  SPEAKER_00: We don't actually have to be self-reliant in what we're picking to start or how we're doing it.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: So whenever I'm looking at building a habit in an area that I I think of habits as honestly like antidotes for pain points in my life, which is such an obscure way.
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_00: Most people don't think of habits, but I've just watched it work.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: So anytime that I feel like, oh, this is not working or not liking this or this is so painful, I'm like, oh, I probably need a habit here.
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_00: And what it feels like, it's it's I'm gonna pray and ask the Holy Spirit for strategy.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna think of something offensively small, and I'm just gonna be really diligent in that 50 cent investment for a while.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: And some of the, like I said, that moment, that um culmination last night after I put my kids back to bed or to bed and I had, I was reflecting on the fruit of their little relationships with the Lord for all of them, I was like, oh, these are all, this is all fruits from 50 cents worth of investment, which what I mean by that is offensively small habits.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like I think of buying Wesley a Bible bag, an offensively small habit to invest in his relationship with the Lord.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_00: And if you had asked me in the natural, I probably would not have thought of that as a key.
• 10:31
  SPEAKER_00: But when I've, you know, in my prayer times with the Lord asking for strategies of little habits that I can invest in him, that was one of the thoughts.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_00: So partly I felt like Holy Spirit was like, if you could have him excited and almost have him have an identity that's his own, some level of like a buy-in to the culture and some like just even his own ownership, it will help shift it from I'm tag my parents are dragging me to this is what I do too, and this is how I show up.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: So it was really cute.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_00: We got a fun little uh Amazon has so many great Bible bags.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna go, I'm gonna link, I'm gonna add that note, the Bible bag to um, what do you call it in the show notes?
• 11:10
  SPEAKER_00: They're like$16 and they have a strap.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_00: But what I found is one, my kids get excited about bringing their Bible and they just have um again, it's like the offensively small.
• 11:20
  SPEAKER_00: Is it worth us dragging our Bibles for when they highlight maybe one scripture in Sunday school?
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: But I would say yes, because we're carving a pathway of where people who carry our Bibles and we interact with the word.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_00: And even if it's offensively small now, that Bible bag is like a tool to help, to help facilitate what I want to grow here eventually.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: But this is my offensively small starting spot.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: So fast forward, got the Bible bag, he picked it out.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_00: As I'm doing it now, every step feels like intentional where I'm investing in this.
• 11:49
  SPEAKER_00: So I had him talk look at the Bible bags and explain, you know, Audrey got to share her excitement.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_00: So he caught the vision of I'm getting something cool that the older kids have.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_00: And then um he got to pick it out.
• 11:59
  SPEAKER_00: And then when it came, I made a really big deal and he like opened it, and then we talked about all the things he could put in it, and I got some special highlighters and I showed him how to put it, and then he was like, What can I put in this pocket?
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: And what could I put in this pocket?
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: And part of me, if I didn't, if I hadn't so bought into offensively small and everything's an investment, I might have been annoyed about these bits because I would have thought, oh, they don't matter.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_00: But what has totally shifted in my mindset of little bits of better, you know, like growing, I think of it as growing at the pace of grace, is that all of those moments are invitations for me to if I value it rightly and see his enthusiasm as something to be fostered and nurtured, I'm actually making a nickel investment into the jar of Wesley's relationship with the Lord, where I would have missed it.
• 12:47
  SPEAKER_00: I would have thought this is too little, it doesn't actually matter, it's inconsequential.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_00: But as you shift your perspective of like, wow, every little bit of scrap of time or energy I give is never wasted.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: I think of that, that one scripture, like, none of it is wasted ever.
• 13:02
  SPEAKER_00: And I know it goes to like tears or you know, effort towards the Lord, but I think of like this counts.
• 13:06
  SPEAKER_00: This is a little bit of effort, and you have a promise.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_00: I think of some of those promises from the Lord, and I like almost enact them.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, what as I sacrifice this little bit of time and energy and not just jump to the next task and I steward his excitement and heart, Lord, multiply it.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: And that's the part that I think, man, we also get to benefit from as not just self-help culture.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: I think of it as Holy Spirit plus habits is really where I would love for the world to catch on because um that's where we get that's different from the gospel or from the world is that we get a multiplication factor.
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_00: And I think back to Old Testament, how often they would talk about um when the godly families would plant and they would get a 10x, a 20x, a 30x, whatever it was, on what they planted.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like they're the seed they planted, the harvest they got does not math.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't math, but that's the multiplication factor that we have access to because we're in the kingdom.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_00: So when I'm not trying to overhaul my own life, I one, ask Holy Spirit for strategy for where I'm starting.
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_00: So like give me some keys, really simple, basic things.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: And then the second is, and then as I'm doing it, I kind of have this subtle heart prayer.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, hey God, notice my nickel of effort.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_00: And would you in your goodness, oh I feel so tear.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, in your goodness and your kindness, would you multiply this?
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_00: Would this not not count?
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_00: Would um you take this little bit of effort and sow and water and um what is it, fertilize Wesley's tenderness to having his own identity as a lover of Jesus?
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh, I could see I would almost scorn this, but you say you don't scorn anything that I do with a heart posture of offering.
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_00: So would you notice my nickel and would you multiply it in his heart?
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like, let my ROI not math, because that's who you say you are.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm taking your promises to the bank.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: So I know it sounds silly, but I would say that's the next supernatural portion of what we have access to.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I do, I would just encourage you as you're doing these little bits, because it's so easy for what's the point?
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: This is not enough, it's never gonna compound, this is gonna take forever.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: It's like hopelessness tries to be the louder, what's the point?
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: Like the loudest voice in what's the point.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: And that's where I actually have I came up with this prayer of multiply it, Lord, because I needed something to compound the hopeless.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, you don't get to be the loudest voice, but I can't just mute you.
• 15:34
  SPEAKER_00: I need a uh almost an antidote, what's the word, retort to counter the what's the point.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: So I actually have started inviting the Lord into multiplying my efforts.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: So getting back to the practicals when Wesley was like, What but what could go in this pocket?
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, I noticed it as a moment of like, am I gonna keep being um efficient or doing my task, or will I lean into his excitement and help him build this out?
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_00: So it was really cute.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_00: We just went around the house and found little things, like we had a little other notebook, and I was like, Do you want this one?
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: And we went to the birthday box, and they never I have a box in my garage of generic$15 presents that the kids just get to pick and um give to their classmates.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_00: We don't usually go to stores to buy presents individually.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_00: I have two bins and they get to choose.
• 16:24
  SPEAKER_00: One of them's a bin of clearance from Claire's that we add on to it, and then the other one's assorted$10 and$15, and I buy multiples.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so my point is that's a little freebie with my birthday habit hack.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: It just takes out the urgency for birthday parties and it makes it more budget friendly.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: And the kids still feel like they get to pick, but um, it just helps it not be stressful, like birthday parties to be stressful.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: Back to the script.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: So I let him pick a little notebook that we had on hand to from the birthday box.
• 16:52
  SPEAKER_00: So he thought that was really special.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_00: And then I gave him one of my special highlighters and I showed him, it was really cute.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: I showed him how the pin clips, um, you know, on pins, how there's a little clip, how that's meant to slide and hold the pin up because he'd put them in backwards, and it like blew his mind.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_00: But I felt as I was doing it, I felt the like the spirit, just low-key being like, Yes, this is our this is a small habit of investing that you give me his attention, that he's gonna like it, it matters.
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_00: You're highlighting it, it's like you're circling it a few times versus just moving on, and then he wore his his Bible bag the whole weekend, which was so cute.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_00: Like it didn't have to go.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: And part of me wanted to be practical.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: You might you guys might not struggle with this as much, but I'm like, I don't need to shut him down, but also he's probably gonna leave it places and are we gonna lose it before we get there?
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_00: And I just felt like the Lord was like, Again, I love having the Holy Spirit insights as we do these things.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: He was like, nope, let this happen.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: This is gonna nurture ownership for him, and then he's gonna have more buy-in.
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, okay.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: And then um, anyways, and then it was so cute.
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_00: He was really excited about what Bible we picked, and he was we looked through all of our Bibles and our options of the sisters and the ones we have, and he picked one out, and he's been asking when it comes in, and he's really excited.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_00: So the point is, fast forward last night, that was his that was his part of the fruit that I was like celebrating with the Lord, but it has shifted his excitement for church, and then Rosie's was the little worship moment, and we've been just um she just naturally has a heart that likes music.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: So I've been without trying to control, because I grew up a in the 90s charismatic where all secular music was from the devil.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_00: So I had a little fear and it was really intense, so it kind of made me rebel secretly because it was so controlled, so which I get why my parents did, but I've been trying to find with Holy Spirit like what's the middle ground of not making everything off limit, but also knowing the value of what we put into our heads and meditate on matters.
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: So that being said, I've just been trying to encourage and help her make little playlists for her Lexa to do God stuff, and then being like, okay, you can have if you listen to two God songs, you could switch to your little playlist.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: And of course it's stuff I've curated, so I know it's okay.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_00: But just kind of making it both and versus never or always.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: Does that make sense?
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_00: So it feels less controlling.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: So, anyways, the fruit of that was that Rosie's really fallen in love with this one worship song.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, and then last night after I had already put her in to bed, I heard it playing on her Alexa.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_00: So I came in and she was worshiping and like praying, and then I I again it's these moments of noticing Holy Spirit when he's like, Oh, lean in, like this is a a nickel investment, that'll be worth it.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I asked her, I was like, Hey, could I enjoy in your worship?
• 19:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I feel the presence of the Lord so strong.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: And she was like, Oh, please, mom.
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_00: And she made space and then we just quietly kind of worshiped together.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's it was pretty sacred, so I'm I don't I'm not gonna unpack that more.
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_00: But then Audrey, with this reading this biography of the God book, part of that has been she loves reading.
• 19:45
  SPEAKER_00: She doesn't want to just read God books, but I've been trying to um add like at least like one a month, subtly have them around so that she chooses them versus being forced.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: But I also will strategically know that we're out of library books, so like she's read them all, so she's looking for something to read.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_00: So then I'll suggest that's when my my Christian option that wasn't appealing at the beginning of the month now looks appealing, but then she gets into them and she loves them, and then she's talking about all these things, and I'm hearing compassion in her voice and um even seeing the fruit because we've been I've been doing this with her for a bit.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, when we were on our Mexico missions trip, she referenced some of the missionary stories she had read and how they relate to what we're doing now.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, oh, these are the fruit.
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_00: So my encouragement for you is that anything in your life that feels powerless, unstuck, you get to simply partner with the Holy Spirit and ask him, like, what are some keys and strategies?
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's not instant, but it's gonna be offensively small, a small start.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: But then the beautiful part, the second portion of the supernatural aspect of habit building with the Holy Spirit, um, is that you can ask for a multiplication as you if you give your meager offering, this I you are so good and that faithful that I can reap what I haven't sowed is what I think about it.
• 21:02
  SPEAKER_00: And see, like slowly over time, watch the fruit of a slow miracle as you partner with Holy Spirit and let him.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_00: I always there's that one scripture that's like everything is from you, which I imagine.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: I think of it.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: Do you guys remember the water cycle growing up?
• 21:17
  SPEAKER_00: Like precipitation, condensation.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I said that backwards, condensation, precipitation, evaporation.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_00: I'm imagining some of my friends who know me well giggling that I actually sang that.
• 21:30
  SPEAKER_00: That was um our water cycle song, circa second grade.
• 21:35
  SPEAKER_00: But it's like this idea that it's all recycled, you know?
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_00: So um there's a scripture that says everything's from him, and I think of that as the precipitation part.
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_00: It all comes from heaven, and then anything that's grown is by him.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: So it's from him and then grown by him, which is like kind of the evaporation and then part of the life cycle, and then it's for his glory.
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_00: So it's from him, grown by him for his glory, and I think of the for his glory like the condensation, like it's going back to heaven.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I want when I when I do my little habits of little 50 cents of investment.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, okay, Holy Spirit, this was from you with your idea.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna grow by you for the multiplication, and I'm gonna give you the glory when I see the fruit of it.
• 22:17
  SPEAKER_00: And last night, that's when I was like a completing that life cycle of like as I was like just kind of tasting the fruit, the little bits of fruit and all of their breakthroughs and subtle shifts in their relationship with the Lord.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, thank you.
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_00: You are so faithful to finish what you start.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_00: It feels like cheating because it was your idea and then you did the work and multiplying it, but I will for sure give you the glory when I taste the fruit.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope wherever you're at, this isn't exclusive to kids.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's just how big picture how I think of like building habits with the Holy Spirit for pain points in my area or areas that I feel overwhelmed.
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes, if you feel super overwhelmed, I just have to start by reminding myself it's never hopeless and actually go after hopelessness in that area before I start to build because your thought habits will absolutely be toxic to whatever you try to build if you don't deal with them first.
• 23:04
  SPEAKER_00: So I have to sometimes my first step is.
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I think you for there's hope for my kids' relationships.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: I think you that there's hope that Wesley will be tender towards you in love, church.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_00: And I just cast hope to change the ecosystem before I actually build.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe that's a prep step, depending on how stuck or helpless you feel in that area.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I hope that helps.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: And if you'd like more strategic, personalized help, book a coaching with me.
• 23:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I have one hour slots.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: My link is in my bio, and I will talk with you guys soon.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.