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98. The Principle of Reverse · Your Enriched Self

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  I don't know if I've ever shared this on the podcast, but in my
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  former life, I was a cheerleader. Yes, when I was in college,
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  I was a Florida Panther cheerleader. And I can't remember how I got
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  roped into the whole assignment of becoming a cheerleader, but I will say this,
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  those additional credits helped me to graduate, right because you know, sometimes
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  you need some extra credits. Those extra credits being a cheerleader certainly came in
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  handy. But I recall that I had early morning practices and a lot of
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  post game huddles and things of that nature. But one of the things that
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  I recall is that when everyone got to kind of relax from the game for
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  halftime, that's when we showed up. And so I know, right now,
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  for some of you, it is halftime, and for some of us,
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  who were the entertainment helping to entertain the spectators, we were on task
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  at halftime. And for some of you, you may be on task for
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  halftime right now. While some people are resting and refreshing, you are out
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  there performing. You are out there putting yourself and stamping yourself out in this
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  here economy of the world, and I want to tell you that's okay.
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  No matter where you find yourself in this moment, this halftime moment, which
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  is the halfway point between your destination, I want you to get refocused.
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  If you have to put in work, make sure you are at one hundred
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  percent minimum. This is no time to be putting in half asked work.
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  This is no time to be sort of doing it. If you got to
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  go out there and perform, you better be better than your last performance because
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  your standards have got to be high at this point and you may be person
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  performing right now. I want you to give it your all, and if
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  you can give more than a hundred, go ahead and give it. And
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  if you are the performer that is finally taking a rest in this halftime,
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  I want you to take that time seriously too. Just like the basketball players,
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  what they do in that time was a little bit different from what we
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  did when we went up for halftime. They were resting, they were refreshing,
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  they were revisiting the playbook. They were checking in and checking up on
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  the plays, seeing what they had done and seeing where they can fill the
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  gap. They were going to their best resource, best resources to make and
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  get to that win. And as this is your season of halftime, I
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  want you to assess what type of halftime person you are. Are you the
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  person that's getting ready to go on or you're the person gets getting ready to
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  go off. Either way, this is a critical time because it is a
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  period of time indicating completion, indicating that some of the activity has happened.
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  An additional activity has to happen so that you can get to your destination.
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  Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to the Urine
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  Rits of podcast. I am your host, Miley Noir. I am a
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  mindset coach and your mindset advocate. And I know it is halftime people,
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  it is halftime season, and this is a reason for you to take a
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  moment to pause, to breathe, to refresh, to come up for air,
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  and to recognize where you are. And that's what this podcast is all
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  about. I want you to become more of your own rid self. And
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  I know if you are listening, you are too busy and sometimes even too
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  tired to make it happen for yourself. That's where I come in and I
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  make sure each and every week I curate a space like this to help you
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  navigate all the things that I know that you're navigating. Even now, I
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  know the power of our minds. I understand that thoughts become things. Everything,
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  everything you do in this life starts with a thought, and that thought
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  inspires your words, and those words inspire your actions and ultimately how you show
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  up in the world. And if you're listening to this podcast, I know
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  that you want to be the best version of yourself. And that's what this
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  is all about. We talk about mindset fusion topics here, self care,
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  so care. I want to make sure that you have intentional thoughts and activity
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  each and every day so that you can become more of your and rid self.
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  So welcome aboard. If you are new, I am so glad that
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  you are here. I'm glad that you get to do this with me and
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  I get to do it with you. So welcome aboard. And if you're
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  a repeat listener, we are rocking on episode ninety eight. It's because of
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  you, your listenership, your participation, that's why we are here each and
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  every week. You have helped to create this legacy of the Your and rid
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  Self podcasts, and I am ever so grateful and indebted to you for that.
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  So thank you for writing through this with me, and thank you for
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  being a day one. For some of you listening to this podcast, I
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  appreciate you now. If you know you know, each and every week I
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  make a deposit in the bank of you because I don't want you are here
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  bankrupt, and I do so by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great
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  way to start your day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation
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  is things will always work out even if they don't feel like it. Things
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  will always work out even if they don't feel like it. Things will always
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  work out even if they don't feel like it. Now let's get ready for
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  this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Things will always work out
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  even if they don't feel like it. I want you to own that affirmation
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  this week. I think it's so important to where that affirmation, like when
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  you're putting on your clothes. So many of us are going back to work
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  in the office, so make the affirmation part of your outfit. Make sure
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  you have an affirmation, like you got the pair of shoes and the purse
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  and whatever else that you have as an accessory, because you are going to
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  need it walking out there in the world. You're going to need to be
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  equipped and ready, and there's going to be a lot of things that you
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  may not physically be ready for. And so your mentality has to be in
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  a place where you have almost a callous mind that nothing can permeate and penetrate
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  it. Because there's so much happening in the world, and I know if
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  you're listening, there's so much happening in your world. And so I want
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  to kick this off with a scripture. I really think we need some soul
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  care this week, because it's getting heavy out here. This is moving season,
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  this is transition season. There's been a lot of graduates that are now
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  out in a marketplace, whether it's high school graduates or college graduates. This
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  marketplace is saturated. There's a lot of activity. There's a lot of activity,
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  there's a lot of movement, there's a lot of transition. And sometimes
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  when you look out in the world, I want you to picture yourself looking
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  out into the world and there's so many things happening, and I want you
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  to put this scripture into focus. I want you to see the scripture as
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  you look out into the window to your world, and that scripture is Romans
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  eight twenty eight. All things work together for the good of them that love
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  the Lord, and to them who are called according to His purpose. I
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  want you to understand what that is saying to you, and I want you
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  to allow that to feed your soul, because I'm telling you right now,
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  the physical nature of life can only get you so far. If you are
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  going out intoday's world, which is very different from yesterday's world, and the
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  world before that, and the world before that. Our world is changing right
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  before our eyes. You must start to make the changes in your life.
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  And for so many of us, we're so used to taking care of our
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  physical selves that we can't see the needs of the spirit man. And I'm
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  telling you right now, you've got to put food on the table for your
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  spirit man. I know that a lot of people are familiar with Romans A
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  twenty eight, so I had to bring in a new flavor into the scripture
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  today, and it is Romans five, verses three through five, and it
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  reads we can rejoice too when we run into problems and trials, for we
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  know that they help us develop endurance, and endurance develops strength of character,
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  and character strengthens our confident hope and salvation, and this hope will not lead
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  to disappointment, for we know how dearly God loves us, because he has
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  given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with love. I know that
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  saying a lot, but I want you to go back to the very beginning
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  of that scripture. You're going to run into trials and problems. That's not
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  something that I gotta tell you. I know that you're probably getting over a
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  problem, walking into a problem, or walking out of a problem, and
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  let's not talk about these trials that just keep coming and going. So this
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  is the endurance. So what's happening is as these things happen, rejoice.
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  And I know that sounds ludicrous, right, Luda, because you're thinking,
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  how am I supposed to rejoice when I got problems and trials. You're developing
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  endurance and you're gonna need that because guess what's going to happen next season and
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  the next halftime season, and the next moment and the next year. You're
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  gonna run into those things. So you've got to develop that thing, and
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  it develops the character of who you are, and then it strengthens your confidence
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  in who God made you to be So I wanted you to get that development
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  there because it's so important to feed your soul. Man. And so this
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  week I want to talk about the principle of reverse because so many of you
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  are going through things. I'm going through a thing right now, to be
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  honest with you, and I'm telling you you're going to need to understand this
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  principle of reverse. So the principle of reverse is anything that works against you
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  can also work for you. So think about that something that's working against you
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  can also work for you. And your understanding of this principle of reverse is
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  going to help you have a different perspective on life. We talked about looking
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  through that window. When you look through that window, you're going to see
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  things differently, and when you see things differently, you experience life differently.
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  Think about your growth and how you might have looked at someone growing up,
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  maybe your parents as an example, and you thought they were being unfair,
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  and you thought all of these things, and then when you get to hear
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  their story. I can speak for my mom because as I've grown up,
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  she's begun to share things about her childhood that explained a whole lot about why
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  she was overprotective or she was a certain type of way or a different type
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  of disciplinary than maybe my friend's moms or whatever. It explains a lot.
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  And at the time it felt as though she was working against me, but
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  all of those protective measures she put in place actually worked for my good.
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  And that's what the principle of reverse is here to teach you. That's why
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  I bring these concepts to you. And I'm not going to take credit for
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  this, because this is basically a concept that Maya Angelo explored in her coming
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  of age autobiography Why the Cage Birds Sing, And if you haven't read it,
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  go and read it. It's a great summaryad, it's a great read
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  period. It talks about all of her unique journeys in life and how she
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  had to take some of the most egregious, inhumane things that happened to her
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  and identify where those things also worked for her. And I want you to
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  start looking into your life right now. Go out and look at through that
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  window and look at some of the challenges, the trials, the problems,
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  that issues, whatever you want to call it. I call them challenging opportunities
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  for this very reason, because it's an opportunity to grow character, to build
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  endurance, just like we heard in that scripture in that verse. So the
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  first thing about the principle of reverse that it teaches as it teaches you how
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  to understand that you can productively, productively use the odds that are against you
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  by overturning them for your growth. And I remember last year when I was
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  preparing for the event, the Show Up Now Summit. Many of you have
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  heard me refer to it. It was my coming of age moment. It
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  was my inaugural event. And there was a period in there, almost like
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  my half time period, that I felt like the odds were against me,
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  and mostly the time odds right, like we always run out or don't have
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  enough time. I had a conversation with my husband at the time and he
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  said, you're doing too much, but he gave some good constructive criticism with
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  that, to say, what is it that you can hand off to someone
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  else? At the time, my mentor had the very same conversation with me.
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  It was as though those two had gotten on a phone call and said
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  do you see this? Do you see that? And they were comparing notes
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  which they had not. But I was able to take what was against me
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  in this case, it was time, it was certainly not them, and
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  productively start overturning that for my growth. And what I recognize was, although
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  I talk about it on the podcast, although I coach about it, I
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  am not good at asking for help. And they both sent to me lovingly
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  but sternly, and they challenged me to ask for help. And it was
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  at that moment where I had the principle of verse to say, Okay,
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  I know that I'm on a time crunch, but where can I start to
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  hand things over. Where can I start to overturn this to get more of
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  that character that says, hey, when you're ever in this position in the
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  future, start reaching out, don't wait until the last minute. And thank
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  god I didn't. I was able to get craft services, and I was
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  able to get someone to take care of managing my social media, and I
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  got someone to take care of being my time keeper and all of the things
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  that at the time I was trying to manage them all on my own.
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  And so this is a very powerful tool, this principle of reverse, because
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  I'm going to ask that you start using it immediately, because you're gonna need
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  to if you're gonna get through this halftime and you're gonna get through this halftime
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  moment this season, You're gonna need this to help move you through it.
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  The principle of reverse also means being able to change the channel to reshape the
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  way you see things by reshaping your thought patterns, essentially thinking about things in
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  a different way. I always say, if you don't like what you see,
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  change the picture. You might be looking out of your window right now
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  and thinking I don't want to live here anymore. You get to make that
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  experience different. You get to make the call to the realtor or check out
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  a new city if that's what you want. You get to choose how you
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  want to live. You are not confined. I always tell my kids you
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  are not a tree. You can move. And so if you don't like
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  what you see, if you don't like where you are, get up and
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  go. If you don't like the people you're around. If you don't like
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  your circle, find a new circle. If you don't like the things you
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  have been reading, some of us are unlearning some of the things that we
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  thought was the truth about life. Find a new book, or write a
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  book, because I'm sure you have a story to tell. The whole point
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  is if you don't like what you're seeing in your life, you get to
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  change the channel. You get to reshape your point of view by where you
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  are, where you go, what you see, who you're with. All
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  of those things are going to help you identify that seeing things in reverse will
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  help you to acknowledge the benefits and make the necessary mindset shift. And you're
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  going to have to do that because the world is ever changing, and so
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  you need to continue to make the mindset shifts so that you can get to
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  the place that you want to go in life. Yes, you're going to
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  have the trials and tribulations, but what this reverse principle in saying that you're
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  not failing, You're getting lessons, and you don't want to dwell on the
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  failure. You want to identify the lesson and keep applying it until it starts
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  to make a difference, until it's time to apply the next new lesson,
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  because that's what you're going to need to keep up with all the changes that
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  are happening in and around your world. How many of you feel like you
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  are repeating the same lesson over and over again. I've been in classes where
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  we didn't do so well on a particular lesson, and we had to as
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  a class repeat the lesson. The purpose of you repeating that lesson is not
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  to learn what's has the surface, is to go a little bit deeper to
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  get to another layer of understanding. So if you find yourself and you feel
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  like you're in this stop and restart cycle, or you're in this cycle of
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  frustration, it is because there is a different way, a different point that
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  you need to seek so you can get better answers about who you are,
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  about where you are, and about the things that you need to do differently
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  in your life. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode of the You're in
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  notes. Lots of good information in there, including the Affirmation of the week,
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  which is your accessory that you need to start your day with and wear
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  it all day because you need it out there in this world. And check
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  out all the details in the show notes where I also have my journal and
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  notebook. Again, if you're going back to work, make sure you are
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  polished with the Show Up Everyday notebook and get those journal prompts in the Show
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  Up Everyday Journal. I believe those are all the announcements. I want you
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  to take what you can from this episode and do what you must in the
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  next one hundred and sixty eight hours to become more of your enriched self until
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  we meet again.