it was never all or nothing — how to ruin a meal and mean it

insyed; cozy psychology · Jun 18, 2026 · 4m · transcript

I tried making fried vermicelli noodles for the first time and ended up with porridge. What surprised me wasn't the failure — it was how quickly I let it mean everything. In this episode, I explore all-or-nothing thinking, what the physics of energy has to do with resilience, and why ruining something is sometimes the only way to make it.

Source: Understanding and Overcoming All-or-Nothing Thinking