Sexless Marriage: “I Love You… But I’m Not In Love With You”
A 47-year-old husband wrote to me after 17 years of marriage.
No big fights.
No confirmed cheating.
Just slow emotional drift.
Then one day she said:
“I love you… but I’m not in love with you.”
Their marriage isn’t completely dead — but it’s nearly sexless. Rare intimacy. No initiation. No spark.
I break down:
• What that phrase usually really means
• Why sexless marriages often slide into “roommate mode”
• The role of new relationship energy
• Why becoming “safer” makes things worse
• What a man must do if there’s any real chance of rebuilding desire
This is not about blaming women.
It’s…
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