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From Financial Fog to Financial Confidence After Divorce · Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Divorce | Post Divorce Life

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Heartbreak and trauma may feel like the end of your story, but here it's the beginning of a bold new chapter.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Coach Deborah Griffiths, and this is the space where women rise, rebuild, and rediscover their purpose.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Remember this truth.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: You are bent, not broken.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to this bent, not broken bonus coaching session.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: If you just listened to my conversation with Linda Grizzly, I want to take a few moments to help you integrate what you heard.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: Because information alone doesn't create change.
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  SPEAKER_00: Awareness plus action does.
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  SPEAKER_00: Divorce doesn't just break hearts, it disrupts identity, safety, confidence, and very often our relationship with money.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: And for many women, money becomes the last thing they want to look at because it's wrapped up in fear, shame, grief, and overwhelm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's slow this down together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one, the financial emotional connection.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: One of the most powerful things Linda shared is this.
• 1:24
  SPEAKER_00: Financial stress doesn't live in a vacuum.
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  SPEAKER_00: It impacts confidence, decision making, self-trust, and even self-worth.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: If you're thinking I should be further along by now, or I don't even know where to start, or perhaps I'm afraid of what I'll see if I look, please hear this clearly.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: Nothing is wrong with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've been surviving.
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  SPEAKER_00: And survival mode doesn't leave room for strategy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number two, why looking is power and not punishment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Avoiding your numbers doesn't protect you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just delays relief.
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  SPEAKER_00: Checking your bank accounts, looking at your credit, understanding your cash flow.
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  SPEAKER_00: These aren't punishments.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are acts of self-trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need to fix everything today.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just need to see clearly where you are.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: Clarity creates calm, and calm creates better decisions.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_00: Here's a coaching moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: One small step this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's your doable step.
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  SPEAKER_00: No spreadsheets, no pressure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just pick one account, say your checking account.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: Review the last 30 days.
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  SPEAKER_00: And don't judge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just notice.
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  SPEAKER_00: But ask yourself, what surprised me?
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  SPEAKER_00: What didn't I realize I was spending?
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  SPEAKER_00: And where might I want to redirect money instead of restricting myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: This is awareness, not austerity.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_00: Number three, reframing the me money.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love Linda's concept of me money because it aligns perfectly with healing after divorce.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: So many women leave marriages having sacrificed themselves for years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Financial healing includes permission to matter again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Me money isn't reckless, it's intentional self-respect.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you consciously choose how to spend money on yourself, you stop leaking it unconsciously through guilt, avoidance, or even impulse.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_00: Number four, you don't have to do this alone.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: Just like I shared with Linda, you need a team after divorce, an attorney for the legal side, a financial guide for clarity and confidence, and emotional support, coaching or therapy to rebuild your trust with yourself.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_00: Healing isn't linear, neither is rebuilding your financial life.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_00: But step by step, you can move from financial fog to financial confidence.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_00: If this episode resonated with you, I encourage you to listen to the full conversation again.
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_00: This time through the lens of compassion instead of fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you are not behind.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are becoming informed.
• 4:27
  SPEAKER_00: And that is powerful.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you in the next episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to today's episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_00: I hope that this episode reminded you that even through life's toughest moments, you are bent not broken.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: If this message inspired you, please share, rate, review, and subscribe, as it helps us reach more women who are ready to rise and rebuild.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_00: And until next time, keep living bold and walking in your purpose.