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Let’s Talk about Emotional Exhaustion · RiseUp - Live Joy Your Way

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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, let's start the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rise up, live joy your way.
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  SPEAKER_00: From emotional intelligence through cognitive distortions, certified life and wellness coach Comedy Wood is on a mission to help people see the magnificence of their own unique human spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through these small bites of self-visualization and self-confidence, you can have healthy relationships, success in business and career, and live the life you want to live.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rise up, live joy your way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hi there and welcome to another episode of Rise Up, Live Joy Your Way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Whether it's morning, afternoon, or evening when you have chosen to tune in, I just want to say thank you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for taking some time out of your day to spend with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: At the time of this recording, there is a lot happening in Ukraine.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I know that I personally have been feeling a lot of emotions around what has been happening, what I've been seeing on the news, the images, the stories that are coming out.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I wanted to spend a little bit of time of what do we do when we're feeling emotionally drained.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we all have days when we feel distressed and worn out.
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  SPEAKER_01: There are those days when it's really hard to just feel like we want to get out of bed or find meaning in our work or our job, and we just we might just feel overwhelmed by the everyday tasks.
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  SPEAKER_01: Even the smallest ones might feel just emotionally, mental, physically just draining, draining of all energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And honestly, the best part is that most often this feeling doesn't last for a long period of time.
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  SPEAKER_01: However, if you do feel like every day is a bad day or you constantly feel exhausted, irritable, depressed, it might be a sign that you are emotionally drained.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when you do think that it has lasted for a long period of time, it is important to talk to your doctor about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: But many factors can trigger emotional exhaustion.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I just wanted, like I said, wanted to spend just a few minutes today talking about, you know, what does it mean to be emotionally drained and just signs that you that it might be something that you are dealing with.
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  SPEAKER_01: So the state of feeling emotionally drained or depleted is known as emotional exhaustion.
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  SPEAKER_01: And emotional exhaustion will typically result from accumulated stress from everyday life.
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  SPEAKER_01: So again, stress, we all have it, there's considered the good stress which keeps us going.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then, of course, when we have a long duration of stress, that's when our our emotional state and our physical state can take a toll.
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  SPEAKER_01: When personal or work-related stress becomes overwhelming, it does it, well, it does not always, but it can lead to this uh emotional exhaustion.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when you do feel this extreme tiredness, it doesn't go away, it doesn't feel like you can ever really sleep enough or um turn off the mind, that could be uh emotional exhaustion.
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  SPEAKER_01: And there are plenty of really reasons why you may be feeling emotionally drained.
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  SPEAKER_01: That cumulative stress from you know just everyday living, from sometimes uh those of us who have financial stress might or strain might feel it, work overload, unemployment, the demands of the new normal given the pandemic, um, that could contribute to it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then as I mentioned right now at the time of this recording, there's a lot happening in the world.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and it can be it can definitely lead to emotional, emotional overwhelm and exhaustion.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, what are some signs that you might be emotionally drained?
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  SPEAKER_01: Feeling tired all the time, sleep problems.
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  SPEAKER_01: That includes oversleeping and sleeplessness, changes in your appetite, whether it be up or down, um headaches and migraines, lack of energy, anxiety, just feeling overall depressed, irritability, a diminished sense of pleasure in the activities that you used to find joy in, feeling overwhelmed or hopeless, um, low self-esteem, maybe there's an increased in uh increased abil increased inability, excuse me, to focus, uh, keeping yourself away from social interactions maybe that you used to enjoy, daydreaming, but not daydreaming um just in terms of daydreaming for fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's more daydreaming to escape your everyday life, uh finding that your productivity has come down, or maybe you're noticing that you're self-medicating uh or turning to substances or addictive behaviors to try and cope with what's happening around you.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's important to learn the difference between just an off day and emotional drain.
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  SPEAKER_01: So emotional exhaustion can happen when there are a lot of unexpected challenges that come up or high stress, again, that are high stress that's present for a longer duration of time.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you're constantly feeling tired, anxious, apathetic, irritable, sad, this could be emotional burnout, which can affect your physical health, your emotional well-being, your executive function, which includes like just planning, organizing, organizing, problem solving, and then of course, emotional burnout can also have an adverse effect on your relationships.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, of course, when you're having an off day, normally you can bounce back on your own.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can find constructive ways to cope.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh, the stress is not a long, a long um duration.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's you know, acute stress, we have it, we work through it, and then we're okay on the other end of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, but with emotional drain, uh the ability to bounce back, that resiliency seems to dissipate and we feel stuck and feel like there's no energy to come on out of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, what are some things that you can do if you are noticing that maybe you are starting to feel emotionally drained?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, number one, like I said, if you definitely are noticing real adverse effects, do not hesitate to talk to your physician or your medical professional that can maybe help uh understand what's happening for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: But sometimes little changes can help as well, like for instance, changing up your routine.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes getting into the routine, the feelings of doing the same thing, being very rigid with it, can actually contribute to our emotional exhaustion because it almost feels like we're trapped or stuck.
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  SPEAKER_01: So just changing up the daily routine in little tiny ways, just can even if you change, for instance, your morning routine, it can create a boost of energy in the morning.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, so maybe instead, if you have a certain morning routine, instead you throw in a quick workout or you throw in some type of um gratitude practice or something that you haven't done before, or maybe you change up your afternoon afternoon routine and you add in um a 20-minute meditation or 20-minute mindfulness practice at lunch, or maybe if you've been at your desk all day long, you get up and take a walk, or in the evening, you create a new evening routine for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: Again, just changing up that everyday routine.
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  SPEAKER_01: Another thing that we can do when we feel emotionally drained is learn to say no, learn to set boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_01: Setting boundaries is definitely an integral part of self-care.
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  SPEAKER_01: And self-care, I have said this oftentimes, it is not selfish, it is a self-ful activity.
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  SPEAKER_01: So learning to say no to improve your resilience or to boost your self-esteem or just increase your self-compassion is really, really important.
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  SPEAKER_01: Learning to eat well and to make sure that not only are you eating well and having a balanced uh nutritional diet, but that you have the right amounts of vitamins in your diet.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then, of course, staying active.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, while we're emotionally drained, a lot of times we don't feel like being active, but there's so much science behind just adding a little bit of activity can have the natural endorphin release, and we're able to help ourselves from an emotional perspective.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then, of course, sleep.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ensure that you're getting enough sleep and then it's restful sleep.
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  SPEAKER_01: So taking time to come up with a routine when it's time to go to bed, making sure that you're turning off those electronics, so you're limiting that screen screen time right before going to sleep, but establishing that that nightly routine that allows your not just your physical body but your emotional sense to realize that it's time to go to sleep.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you find yourself waking up at night, making sure that again, either you talk to your your doctor about that or you start to take action to allow your mind to release all that's on it.
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  SPEAKER_01: So a great uh tool that many of my clients will use is journaling or brain dumping right before bed or a little bit before bed to get everything that was in their mind out, written out, pen to paper, allow the brain that output channel, get it out there so that when it's time to go to sleep, it's no longer circulating in their in their minds.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then a lot of times, you know, we have a really hard time uh doing nothing.
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  SPEAKER_01: But sometimes when you're emotionally drained, it's about allowing ourselves to just be, be present, learn how to practice mindfulness, be in this moment right here and right now, allowing some quiet time.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's um, you know, time to do some artwork, paint, draw, uh, read a book, do something without a specific purpose of needing to create or accomplish something, but it's merely just to be present.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh, because oftentimes when we're emotionally drained, it's really that we need to replenish ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: So those are just some quick examples of what we can do when we're feeling emotionally drained.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you are feeling that you, that feeling of being trapped or stuck, or just you know, what's the greater purpose?
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  SPEAKER_01: A lot of times what I end up doing with my clients is we coach through that.
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  SPEAKER_01: We start talking through what could be missing or what is the thing limiting yourself from moving forward.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because emotional burnout sometimes is rooted in feeling like you're not living into exactly, you know, who you're meant to be or what you want to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you want to discuss any of that or something else is coming up and you want to chat, feel free to book a time with chatwithcomedy.com.
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  SPEAKER_01: And until next time, stay well.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to Rise Up, Live Joy Your Way.
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  SPEAKER_00: For more information, book a chat with comedy at www.chatwithcomedy.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or visit her website at www.comedywood.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening.