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Gratitude Unlocked 4/7: Your doubt is loud, but your history is louder. Here’s how to tap back into it. #TrustYourselfThursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Greetings and welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a board certified psychiatrist.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you know, I love working with high performers, but I love working more with you, you and me working together through this thing we call life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying to be the best versions of ourselves, and also figuring out how to live a life we love.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been in a series called Gratitude Unlocked.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been exploring the benefits, the hidden benefits of gratitude, and there are so many.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me ask you something today on Trust Yourself Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why is it that trusting ourselves is harder than trusting other people?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why is it that trusting other people feels easy?
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  SPEAKER_00: But trusting yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's kind of where everything suddenly gets a bit complicated for some of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can be solid for everybody else.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when it's your decision, your next step, your moment to act, sometimes you just kind of hesitate.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like your brain is running a quiet kind of background investigation for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: That ever happened to you, like you feel like you're weighing 16,000 different options.
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  SPEAKER_00: Goodness, I'm guilty of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what's actually happening from a neurological perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember we talked about the ACC, the brain's anterior cingulate cortex?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a part of the brain that's really good at detecting errors and conflict.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the error detection portion of the brain, the ACC.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, all of us have this ACC in us, and it's constantly scanning for mistakes, for contradictions, for anything that might be uncertain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this is great for survival, but terrible, a real problem when you're just kind of trying to believe in your own thinking and judgment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the biggest problem is the ACC is standing in the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: So where does gratitude fit into all of this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the thing that nobody taught you.
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  SPEAKER_00: They didn't teach me for sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: That gratitude isn't just a word, it isn't just an emotion, it isn't just a pleasant thing to have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when you pause and you say, Hold up, something in my life is actually working right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Especially when things don't look like they're working.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can say that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you can say something like, hey, I've been here before and I didn't buckle and I didn't fold.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or gratuit could be saying something like, Hey, let me look at what's still working, what's steady, even when everything else feels kind of loud, what's quietly there.
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  SPEAKER_00: These statements, these are the moments when you shift your entire nervous system just by what you think.
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  SPEAKER_00: You go from panic to perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how gratitude changes things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude steps in, reorients how you think about things, helps you find the one thing that's steady that you can still be thankful and grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when it steps in like that, your brain responds immediately, according to the science.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's another portion of your brain called the insula.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that also looks for errors and issues, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It pays attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, when you're practicing gratitude, what happens to the insula?
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  SPEAKER_00: It stops treating your attention like danger.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that ACC, the error detector, it starts to cool off.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you stop second guessing so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's another region of the brain involved in memory called the hippocampus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, it keeps receipts of everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you're practicing gratitude, what the hippocampus is going to do is pull the real receipts, the real ones of your resilience, of times you conquered things, of times you got through things, and you become grateful for that, and man, things begin to change in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just trying to show you how the brain has all these various parts in it that gratitude is affecting the vagal nerve.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember we talked about the vagus nerve?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a part of your parasympathetic nervous system, and that's involved in resting, digesting, relaxing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a nerve that runs from your brain all the way down into your body, and it really calms you down, it affects your heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you know what happens when you practice gratitude?
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  SPEAKER_00: Your vagal system, your vagal break, your vagal nerve starts softening your heart rate, slowing down your breathing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this thing we called the default mode network, the overthinking loop in your brain, calms down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And gratitude is behind it all.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you would only practice it, if you would only take a step back and begin to implement gratitude in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what gratitude looks like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Real talk, not candles, not journaling, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, this those are important.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should have you should have a gratitude journal.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should burn a candle that doesn't have like toxins in it, that kind of thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm talking about gratitude as a force.
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  SPEAKER_00: Taking a moment to notice what's still steady, what's holding true, and letting your nervous system reset around the truth that you purposely chose to remember in the middle of a stressful moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And spiritually, this all lines up.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know the ancient wisdom is always a part of the sweet spot here.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're about science, we're about soul and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And spiritually, the ancient wisdom tells us, it reminds us that God is faithful, and that greater is that which is in you than what's in the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that you've been carried through many dangers, toils, and snares.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've already come.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things that were meant to destroy you did not destroy you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remembering these things, that's gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you start remembering the times you got through, the times you were delivered, your self-trust, it grows.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's your trust yourself Thursday reminder.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can trust yourself, not because you're perfect, but because you've been shaped, strengthened, seasoned by the Most High.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: You've earned a right to trust your own judgment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the lift I want to leave you with.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not waiting to become the kind of person who knows what to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You already are.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've done it before.
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  SPEAKER_00: You make an error, you correct it, you fix it, you get back up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fall down seven, get up eight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude just helps you remember that by quieting the noise, steadying your body, taking a moment to bring back into view the things that you're grateful for, especially when it worked.
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  SPEAKER_00: That you got this, that you can do this, that you can rebuild, that you can regenerate, that you can restart, you can restore, you can refresh.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's real.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's what gratitude does.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can turn your chaos into order.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can take a meal and make it a feast.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can take a stranger and make that stranger a friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the power of gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright now, this is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this Trust Yourself Thursday discussion about the power of gratitude and how it could help shift your confidence, helped you today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't just subscribe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Share this with someone who's in the process of rebuilding their lives or someone who needs a boost of confidence, a reminder of who they are, and to be grateful and use the power of gratitude today as we keep unlocking it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you tomorrow for Finish Strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, we're going in.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going in on gratitude this month, and we're not stopping until we get it all.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm thankful for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm grateful for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, the Sweet Spot.