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Forgiveness Without Surrender - A Hypnosis Session to Set Yourself Free · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here, and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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  session that is all about releasing anger.
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  In order. To release chronic pain and I
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  was working with a client that had very severe chronic.
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  Pain. Lots of fatigue.
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  It was even affecting their. Cognitive Processes.
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  Like memory. And they've been holding on to
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  this for a very long time. And some of it related to an
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  incident in their past with a family member that was.
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  Lying. Betraying them.
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  Doing very horrible. Things and even.
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  You know, 16 years later, they were still angry about that
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  event. And to some extent, they were
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  still attached to the event, to that individual, even though
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  they weren't talking to them anymore.
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  And that can happen as a way of still having an attachment, a
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  connection to someone. Even if it's not a good
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  connection, it's still a connection.
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  And there is this quote misattributed to Buddha, that
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  anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person
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  to die. And it really felt like that was
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  the case with this client, that all of this anger, all of this
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  resentment, all of this emotional pain that they were
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  holding in wasn't harming the person that they'd fallen out
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  with. It was harming themself.
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  And it was. Causing a lot of.
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  Emotional. Toxicity to use.
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  A metaphor. This uses forgiveness and some
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  people feel, quite rightly, that they shouldn't forgive someone
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  that has done them harm. But the.
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  Point of forgiveness is not for the other person, it's for the
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  individual and you don't have to forgive that person.
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  In reality, I've worked with a lot of people that have had a
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  lot of anger at someone that may have.
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  Been deceased. How do you close that loop if
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  you can't actually forgive the person in reality because
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  they're dead? But you can certainly do it
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  symbolically. And one of the best symbols of
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  forgiveness is a letter. And the great thing about
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  writing a letter is you don't have to condone the actions of
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  anyone else in order to forgive them.
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  In fact, you can hold them even more to account.
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  You could say, right, this is the pain that you've caused.
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  This is the consequences of your behavior.
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  I don't contain what you've done.
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  It doesn't let you off the hook, but I forgive you.
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  And the forgiveness is really the release of all of the
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  emotional weight and trauma connected to that event.
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  Now, this uses a letter as a metaphor.
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  And why I like that is there is something cathartic about
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  getting emotions onto a page, but then it gives one level of
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  disassociation because if all of that release is on paper, then
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  it means it's no longer inside you or the client that I was
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  working with. There's a lot going on here.
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  I think those that would benefit most are those holding on to
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  anger, holding on to resentment, holding on to some kind of pain
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  and might be reluctant to forgive someone else because it
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  lets them off the hook without realizing that then on the hook
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  you are. And once you realize that, and
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  that forgiveness is a way of accepting and releasing what
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  you're holding on to, things can change pretty quick.
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  So if you can relate to any of that, you might get some value
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  from this session. But just be aware that it was
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  created for an individual. Some of the references were
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  highly relevant to the client I was working with.
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  They might not be quite. Right for you.
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  So just ignore any suggestions that don't quite fit your
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  circumstances and your situation, and just hone in on
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  those that do. And if you do like the idea of
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  working with me directly, there will be a link in the
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  description and the show notes where you can schedule a
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  completely free consultation call.
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  We'll have a chat and who knows, I might end up being your
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  hypnotherapist. Rather than the.
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  Guy that you listen to on a podcast.
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  So for now though, you might get some value from this session.
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  So find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  feeling of calm relaxation and as you exhale, feel a wonderful
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  feeling of release. You've been holding onto a lot,
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  and just imagine, every time you breathe out, you're letting a
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  tiny bit of all that you've been holding on to to be released.
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  And as you exhale, feel that release.
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  And then on the next inward breath, breathe in a feeling of
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  acceptance. You can accept things that you
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  don't like. You can accept things that
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  aren't helpful. You might not like it that
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  there's people in the world dying of hunger.
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  And yet you can accept that that happens, and you can accept that
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  wonderful things can happen too. Every day there is someone with
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  pain that wakes up without pain. There is someone that's been
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  holding on to hate or anger resentment for years.
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  And then one day let's it go. You can accept that a
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  Caterpillar can and does indeed turn into a butterfly.
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  Therefore, you can accept that change is not just possible,
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  it's inevitable. It's almost impossible for
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  anything to stay exactly the same.
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  Things change, people change, things move on.
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  Some people think that Einstein once said that the definition of
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  insanity is doing the same things and expecting a different
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  result. And I want you to think about
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  what you've been doing for the last 12 years.
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  What's 1 consistent thing you've done throughout that whole time
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  that might be the cause of something you want to change?
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  And it stands to reason that there's a high probability that
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  if that one thing changes, then certain things can alleviate, be
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  released, let go. So continue to breathe in
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  resourceful relaxation and continue to breathe out any
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  feelings of stress, worry, or tension releasing in every
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  outward breath. And maybe your outward breath
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  gets longer each and every time. Breathing out for longer and
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  breathing in nice and deep. That's it.
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  With every outward breath, the muscles in your face and around
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  your jaw relaxes, the shoulders let go of any tension, and the
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  whole body begins to shift out of old patterns of rigidity,
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  high alert, and into something calmer, something steadier,
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  something safer. And you may notice a sense of
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  drifting, as if the mind is slowly loosening its grip on the
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  outside world and turning inward toward a calmer place within.
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  I want you to imagine now a small quiet room, maybe a
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  candlelight or one of those lamps with just enough light, a
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  comfortable chair, a desk, and just imagine some sheets of
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  paper, maybe a notebook and a pen resting beside it.
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  This room belongs to you, a place where no one else can
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  enter and no one else can judge and no one else can influence,
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  because this is a room where you do things for yourself and not
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  for anyone else. And as you imagine sitting down
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  in that chair, you may feel the chair hold you support you sink
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  your body into that chair as though it understands just how
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  much emotion you've been carrying.
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  And with every breath, you sink deeper and deeper into the calm
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  relaxation of that chair in that room next to that desk without
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  paper, and see a pen by the paper and just know, know that a
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  wonderful change is about to happen.
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  And as you sit in that chair, you notice.
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  That the paper. In front of you.
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  It isn't for the world to see, it isn't even for an individual,
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  and it isn't for forgiveness in the way people misunderstand
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  that word. This is something else.
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  This is a release, a severing of an old connection that has
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  trained you for far too long. A way of taking your energy
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  back, your peace back, your power back.
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  And you can hold on to all of your truths and you can hold on
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  to your boundaries and you can hold on to your clarity about
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  right and wrong. None of that changes because
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  this person, person you've been thinking about, you are not
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  letting them off the hook. You are letting yourself off the
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  hook of carrying pain that was meant to be temporary and
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  belonged to the past. If your unconscious agrees, let
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  me know by nodding your head. And when you're ready, imagine
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  your hand lifting the pen and writing the very first words.
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  This is not for you. This is for me and I want you to
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  imagine the hand moves, the pen writes and you don't have to
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  know what's being written, but just feel that you are writing
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  truth. You are releasing emotion with
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  every letter and every word. Share the pain that you felt,
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  sorrow, grief, anger. Write it all down.
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  Things that have been real, that you've kept inside.
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  And you don't have to dilute anything.
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  You don't have to excuse anything.
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  You don't have to approve of anything.
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  But maybe you write words like I'm done carrying the weight of
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  what you did. I want you to get a sense then.
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  Holding on to anger is like drawing drinking poison and
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  expecting the other person to get sick or die.
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  All of this anger didn't punish him, it punished you, and you
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  deserve better than that. And as you imagine your hand
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  continuing writing whatever comes to mind, maybe you imagine
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  words like I release the anger because I won't let it injure me
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  anymore, and I release the resentment because it keeps me
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  tied to a moment that is long since gone.
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  I release the hurt because I am ready to heal.
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  You are free to carry your own consequences, but I no longer
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  consent in my suffering. Write whatever comes up for you
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  first in the mind, then in reality.
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  And with every sentence you may feel something shifting.
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  Maybe it's a sensation that comes up, a feeling, a tightness
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  that releases a quiet unraveling of tight knots deep, deep
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  inside. And you are not forgiving the
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  past, you are extracting yourself from it.
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  You are not excusing anything. You are reclaiming your life
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  force. This anger has been like a
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  parasite, draining your energy, draining your cognitive
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  facilities, giving you pain as a side effect.
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  And as you write the letter, you are freeing yourself from the
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  parasite of anger. I want you to get a sense that
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  they were never on the hook. So you're not letting them off
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  the hook. You are stepping off their hook.
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  It's you that was hooked and you are detaching yourself from the
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  hook. I want you to imagine a sharp
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  hook, the kind of hook you use to catch fish, and imagine it
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  there, maybe in your jaw, your tongue, your mouth.
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  All of that pain in your mouth was the hook attached to you.
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  Just imagine as you continue to write that the hook is detaching
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  from you, especially around your mouth, so you can live freely
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  again, no longer attached, no longer connected.
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  And now notice where in your body that old anger or
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  resentment used to live. For some people it's the jaw,
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  the chest, the throat, the stomach.
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  And as your mind writes the words on the page, your body
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  writes its own message. Imagine releasing tension from
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  those places. As you imagine writing, certain
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  sensations change. Tension turns to relaxation.
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  Tightness softens contractions or restrictions open feels maybe
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  like you're letting movement return to what once felt frozen.
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  Feel the exhale flow through these places, as if each breath
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  is sweeping out the old debris of a story that no longer needs
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  to live inside you. This is your body and your
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  nervous system unhooking itself from the trauma of the past.
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  And when the letter is finished, you place the pen down and let
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  me know by nodding your head as you read the words, not as a
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  message to them, but as a message to yourself.
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  Maybe you read words like. I choose my healing over my
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  anger. I choose my peace over my pain.
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  I choose my future over the past.
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  Maybe see certain words connected to feelings that
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  aren't in you anymore. They're on the page.
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  And then you fold the letter. And you don't need to send it.
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  You don't even need to share it. You simply take the folded paper
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  and place it into a box in that quiet room.
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  A box that seals itself when something no longer belongs
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  inside you. Your pain, your trauma is no
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  longer in you. It's in the letter, in the box.
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  And that box is sealed. As the lid closes, the emotional
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  tether that once held you so tightly releases, dissolves,
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  disconnects. You are not the same person who
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  went into that room. Imagine leaving the room,
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  walking out, like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders,
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  like a tightness has been opened, like your body and your
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  mind has permission to rejuvenate, to heal.
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  If a fish was tethered to a hook for weeks or months, the healing
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  can't take place while the hook is inside them.
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  Only when the hook is released can the healing truly begin.
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  If you're unconscious, can reach a point of forgiveness, not for
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  them, but for you, real forgiveness.
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  And the clue is that that anger inside turns to something else.
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  Maybe acceptance, maybe compassion, or maybe just
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  understanding. But no longer anger, because
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  anger is the poison that's been harming you.
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  Imagine leaving the room and returning to your physical body.
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  We get a sense that the anger is missing now.
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  It's in that letter, in that box and has evolved into
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  forgiveness. Very soon I will count from 1:00
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  to 10:00 and you will return to the here and the now, taking
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  back a wonderful sense of freedom with you.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your
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  toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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  you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes, 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you.
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