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E 356: Tammy's Takes #38: Healing Doesn't Always Start with Talking · Adult Child of Dysfunction

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  hello, everybody.
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  Welcome back to another episode of Tammy's Takes, where we take powerful conversations and turn them into practical strategies you can use right here, right now.
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  So today's episode is about a conversation that I had with a most amazing young man, Michael Tafari, yesterday.
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  And I wanna tell you, he does poetry, but today's episode really isn't about poetry.
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  It's about something much bigger than that.
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  It's about finally giving up your pain somewhere to go, and giving it somewhere to go.
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  One of the things Michael said during our conversation that really stayed with me, not because it was so profound or dramatic, but because it was honest.
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  He found healing through poetry.
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  Now, maybe poetry isn't your thing.
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  Maybe you've never written a poem in your life, but that's not really the important part.
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  The point is expression.
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  As adult children of dysfunction, so many of us learn very early on that it's not to- safe to speak up or express what we're thinking.
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  We learn to stay so quiet.
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  We learn to swallow our feelings.
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  We learn to keep the peace, and every feeling we never expressed didn't disappear.
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  It got stored in our bodies, in our nervous systems, in our relationships, sometimes even in our health.
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  The opposite of suppression isn't perfection, my friends, it's expression.
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  That expression might be writing, it might be journaling, it might be painting, it might be music, it might be prayer.
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  It might be speaking to a trusted friend or a therapist, or it might even just be crying for the first time in so many years.
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  It's not the method that matters nearly as much as the fact that you are finally allowing what's inside of you to have a voice.
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  One thing I loved about today's conversation was watching someone who experienced bullying choose compassion instead of bitterness.
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  That doesn't erase what happened to him, but it shows us something important about painful experiences, and that is painful experiences can actually shape us without having to define us.
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  So here is today's challenge.
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  Spend just 10 minutes today expressing something you've been carrying.
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  Don't edit it.
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  Don't judge it.
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  Don't try to make it sound or look pretty.
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  Just let it come out, because healing often begins the moment your pain no longer has to stay hidden.
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  So if today's episode resonated with you, I'd love to help you discover what patterns your nervous system might still be holding onto.
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  Book a call, either a complimentary clarity and calm call, or let's book a voice scan.
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  And remember, you are not what happened to you.
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  You are who you became after you decided to heal.
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  Thank you so much, guys, and I will see you back next time.
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  Love you all.