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Unconditional Love For Yourself To Live Your Best Life · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And on today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  on the theme of self love, self acceptance, but mainly.
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  This ability to. Reframe the past where perhaps
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  in the past you were either taught or conditioned to not
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  have a positive self-image or even like yourself.
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  And I was working with a client that had a very harsh father,
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  and the father probably had their own traumas in their
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  upbringing. And you tend to have these kind
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  of cycles that repeat over generations.
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  But it meant as a child, the client that I was working with
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  was very harshly treated, criticized a lot, couldn't do
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  anything right. And that became a voice that
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  then became in their own head. So they would be very self
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  critical and very harsh in themselves and beat themselves
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  up because that's what they had experienced as a child
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  throughout most of their childhood.
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  This particular client had a specific time in their life
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  where they were working in the ski resort that they felt full
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  of self acceptance. They they liked who they were,
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  what they were doing, how they were doing it, and the self
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  esteem was very high. So this uses an element of
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  regression to reactivate those elements of self esteem and a
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  form of inner child work or stage disassociation.
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  So they get to see how their father treated them and what
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  they would do different. Now with that high self esteem
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  and high self-image and high self worth and realizing that
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  they could still establish high standards, which is normally the
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  underlying intention of being critical, is to have high
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  standards, but from a place of love and kindness and
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  encouragement rather than harsh criticism and beating someone
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  down. And you'll hear that over three
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  different themes of memories at different times in their life, a
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  childhood memory, an adolescent memory, and a young adult
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  memory. But what's interesting is the
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  young adult memory was themselves being critical to
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  themselves. And instead they get to be
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  supportive and encouraging in the same thing.
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  It's deliberately ambiguous because I wanted the client to
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  re listen to the recording and choose different memories each
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  time. So they could really have this
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  element of what would it be like to have this positive self-image
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  in high self worth and would it give them more of the life that
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  they would actually want? Because you get this fascinating
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  thing with low confidence and low self-image, and that is that
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  it creates a self fulfilling prophecy because if you don't
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  like yourself very much, you don't tend to treat yourself
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  very well. And if you don't have
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  confidence, you don't try things as much.
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  And that can give you more evidence that you know your
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  feelings about yourself are true.
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  But this cycle can be broken and it can be broken by believing
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  that actually what if your conditioning, your programming
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  was false code? It was it was inappropriate
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  belief systems that were never true.
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  And if you treat yourself well and believe yourself to be
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  worthy and good and capable and competent and act as if that's
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  true, then you find the evidence to support it all along.
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  So if you'd like to have a higher feeling of kind of
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  confident self esteem or self worth and you might benefit from
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  this session. Some of the references perhaps
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  to father, son, relationship or the skiing element might not map
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  across to you because it was created for a specific client.
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  Ignore what's irrelevant, focus on what's relevant for you.
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  Like anything I I, I consider hypnosis like a large buffet.
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  Take the bits you like and leave anything behind that you don't
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  like. But at the same time, if you do
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  want something which is crafted and created.
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  Specifically for you. There will be a link in the show
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  notes that you can either book a free consultation call with me
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  or even actually just book a recording.
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  It's a lower rate to book a recording and you just send me
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  all your notes and I create a recording.
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  Most of my clients actually, they're working with me live and
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  the recording is what was recorded from a real interactive
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  session. But the other option is
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  available too. So bear that in mind.
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  But for now, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  slow, long, resourceful breath of relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel a wonderful sense of release that
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  you're able to let go, to release any tension, any
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  worries, and just allow it to leave your body in your outward
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  breath, breathing in relaxation and exhaling tension, enabling
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  you to feel deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  I want to use the power of your imagination to imagine the snow
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  globe of those little ornaments, the kind of snow globe that when
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  you shake, it looks like snow is falling.
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  I want you to imagine that in that snow globe are things that
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  are familiar from a particular time in your life.
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  Maybe a mountain shape that you recognize, maybe a resort or a
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  ski shop or something else. Imagine it all in the snow globe
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  and just imagine shaking that snow globe.
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  And as the snow settles, imagine what it would be like to become
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  someone inside the snow globe. And I want you to imagine
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  observing yourself at a particular age A.
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  Particular age. Where your definition of being
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  good enough was matched. See that version of you with sky
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  high confidence, insatiable self esteem as you realise that that
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  version of you at that time in your life when you compared your
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  ideal self with your current self, they were one and the
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  same. So you already know what it
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  feels like to have high confidence, high self worth and
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  a self-image that is brimming with confidence.
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  And perhaps you can remember a particular moment that
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  exemplifies and represents the essence of that feeling.
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  And when you can witness that memory, let me know by nodding
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  your head. And then step into that version
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  of you remembering what it was like to feel.
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  But when you looked at yourself in the mirror, you loved who you
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  saw. That version of you wouldn't
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  have wanted to be anyone else. That version of you made
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  evaluations that showed you in your most positive light, and
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  notice how your life at that time reflected those
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  evaluations. You held yourself in high esteem
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  and people around you acted accordingly.
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  You already know what it feels like to accept yourself like
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  yourself and to admire who you see.
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  When you look in the mirror, feel that you are awakening that
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  part as you can. Recall that when you felt that
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  good, the harsh criticism wasn't there, aggressive moodiness, low
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  self esteem was absent. I want you to get a sense that
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  you are at your best when you see yourself as you really are.
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  When you make evaluations that you're competent, able, in the
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  right place at the right time. None of those things seem to be
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  there and therefore you have evidence that you are at your
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  best not when you're harsh with yourself, but when you're kind,
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  loving, and accepting of yourself.
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  Feel that you are awakening all of those feelings of high
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  confidence, high self esteem, high self worth and find a full
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  length mirror and feel all of those things within you when you
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  look back and see yourself at your current age.
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  Maybe even hear yourself with your own dialogue.
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  Damn, I look great and know that it is true.
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  And the more you think about it, the truer it becomes.
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  How many people of your age can do what you can do?
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  You get a sense that you're successful, athletic, smart,
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  kind, caring, full of self-awareness, a loving person.
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  I want you to get a sense that this mirror is not just a
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  mirror, but a portal into the past.
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  And imagine stepping through into that mirror with all of
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  that confidence and self esteem and seeing yourself as a 10 year
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  old boy helping your father. I want you to see a boy that
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  just wanted to help, wanted to do the right thing.
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  And I want you to witness as that boy was harshly criticized,
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  yelled at, not maliciously, but it just came from someone that
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  had never resolved their own issues.
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  And I want you to see that boy wounded, emotionally wounded,
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  hurt. And then just imagine, the
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  father goes away and you become a father to that boy.
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  Give that boy a hug. Tell them that you did nothing
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  wrong. Tell them that they are good,
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  they are worthy, they are kind. And I want you to imagine
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  continuing to work, perhaps on that thing, but doing it in an
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  encouraging, supportive, loving way that if a mistake gets made,
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  it's understood, accepted, acknowledged, the mistake gets
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  made, it happens, no big deal. Let's try again.
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  Give yourself the encouragement, acceptance, and support and love
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  that you wanted back then because you deserve it.
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  And see how that boy changes from that same situation.
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  The same mistakes were made, but it was handled differently.
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  Love, empathy, encouragement, not belittling, criticizing, and
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  attacking. See how the encouragement can
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  lead to even higher standards. Give that younger version of you
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  words of encouragement. Tell them they are destined for
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  great things and know that that is true.
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  And then visit a different memory, perhaps your teenage
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  years. Observe at how your father
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  perhaps thought you weren't meeting high enough standards.
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  Maybe there was mocking, maybe there was criticism trying to
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  dent your ego. Your pride came from a good
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  place. He wanted you to be your very
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  best. But notice how you took it.
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  Notice how that teenage version of you wanted to be aggressive,
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  to punch, to lash out. Your father was training that
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  dog inside you to be aggressive rather than well trained and
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  loyal. As you see your father, leave
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  that memory step in your current age but brimming with self
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  worth, self-confidence, self esteem.
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  Coach that younger version of you.
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  Show them how to be better. Tell them they've got a gift for
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  it, a knack for it. They're capable of doing better
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  than they've ever done before. And notice how that unleashes
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  more motivation, more hunger. You always wanted to make your
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  father proud and he wanted to be proud.
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  He just used the wrong vehicle. So imagine doing things the way
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  you wanted it. Encouragement, support, belief.
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  Tell that younger version of you how good looking you are, how
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  kind you are, how strong you are, how athletic you are.
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  Tell that younger version of you all the things you wanted to
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  believe and deep down secretly knew were true.
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  Give yourself a hug and tell that younger version of you that
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  you will be unstoppable. Say goodbye and.
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  Then go forward. To one final memory, perhaps in
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  the aftermath of a relationship not working out for whatever
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  reason. But I want you to see yourself
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  being harshly critical with yourself, either saying out loud
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  or thinking not smart enough, not successful enough, not good
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  enough, not good looking enough. But when you see that version of
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  you really emotionally beating yourself, sneak up and surprise
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  them. The kind of surprise that makes
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  people jump out of their skin. Shock them and then say I know
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  what you're doing and none of it's true.
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  I want you to tell that young adult version of you exactly
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  what you were thinking and then break it down why none of it is
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  true, and perhaps in many cases the exact opposite is true.
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  Hear the words leaving your mouth.
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  Tell that younger version of you that you are desirable, women
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  want you. You are worthy of a
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  relationship. You can have whatever you want,
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  Tell that younger version of you the truth because it is, and see
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  the posture change. That self loathing turns to self
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  love. The self criticism turns to self
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  acceptance. The harsh words turn to kind,
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  encouraging words. Start to hear you're own in a
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  dialogue. Notice how it changes some of
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  those harsh words. Maybe even have profanities and
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  just notice how they dissolve. No big deal, who cares, I'll
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  find someone better and notice. When it's kind and loving and
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  full of confidence. You feel better and that gives
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  you a spring in your step and that leads to chance encounters
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  and conversations, which in turn gives you more experiences that
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  prove that you were right all along.
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  You are worthy. You are good enough.
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  You are 100% the person you want to be and imagine being that age
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  again and realizing how much strength you have, how much
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  energy you have, how much passion for life you have.
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  You would do anything to be that age again, and you wouldn't be
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  harsh to yourself. You would make the most of being
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  that age. And just as you will never be
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  that age again, you will never be your age right now again.
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  Wouldn't it be a shame to realize that you were wrong 29
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  years in the future without the ability to go back and change
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  it? The ancient Chinese had a
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  proverb the best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago, and the
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  second best time is right now. The best time to make a change
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  would have been back then, but the next best time is right now.
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  And if your unconscious is willing to make that change, to
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  like yourself, accept yourself, to be kind to yourself, let me
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  know about nodding your head. So as you step backwards through
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  that mirror, back in that snow globe world, feel that all of
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  those changes from the past and rippled all the way to the
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  present. As you look at yourself in that
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  full length mirror, you see someone awesome, worthy, worthy
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  of everything you deserve and more knowing it's true.
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  In fact, you can't look at yourself without liking what you
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  see because there's too many good qualities to connect to it.
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  And this is the version that you will bring back the here and
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  now. And over the next few days and
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  weeks, don't be surprised when you catch a glimpse of yourself
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  in a reflection in a mirror or glass window.
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  Increasingly, you will like, admire, respect and love who you
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  see reflecting back and that will give you even more
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  confidence that will lead to even more good things happening.
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  It's time to leave the snow globe world.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Start to calibrate with the here
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  and now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you, and you
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  will awaken feeling that the best way of giving a gift to
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  yourself is not with criticism, it's with kindness.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456.
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  More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes. 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you for listening to The
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