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EP 40: The Midweek Reset: Count Your Votes · Healthy Boundaries for Moms| Christian Life Coach

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  So it's the middle of the week, friend, and I want to ask you a
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  question. What evidence have you created this week
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  of the woman you're becoming? Not did you have a perfect week,
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  or did you mark everything off the list that you had to get done,
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  but what evidence have you created? Because I think
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  so many of us are spending our time looking for the evidence that
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  we're failing when God is inviting us to notice the evidence
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  that he's still working in us.
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  If you're tired of people pleasing, caring too much,
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  and wondering why peace still feels so hard to hold
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  onto, you're in the right place. Hi, I'm Lori, mom,
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  former people pleaser, and your boundaries coach.
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  Here we talk about how to protect your peace, set healthier
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  boundaries, and get clear on what actually matters so that you can build
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  a life that feels lighter, calmer, and more satisfying.
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  So let's stop the chaos for a minute, moms, catch our breath, and get
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  into this next episode.
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  Hey friend, welcome back to Healthy Boundaries for Moms. This is
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  your midweek reset, and I'm your host, Lori Grimes,
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  and I am so glad that you're here. If you've been listening over
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  the last few weeks, we've been talking about lowering unrealistic
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  expectations adjusting our plans
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  when life changes, and recognizing that we
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  can't keep every area of our lives on high
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  all the time. Today I want to leave you with one simple mindset
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  shift that has really encouraged me.
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  So James Clear, in his book Atomic Habits,
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  says this: every action you take is a
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  vote. For the type of person you wish to become.
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  I love that idea because it reminds us that becoming the woman that God
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  is calling me to be isn't built on perfect weeks.
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  Have you ever just thought, if I could just have a perfect week,
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  then I know I'm doing it all right?
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  Instead, guys, it's built on the ordinary imperfect
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  days. So think about it. The woman you're becoming won't be shaped by 7
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  perfect days, Sunday through Saturday. She's going
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  to be shaped by hundreds and thousands of imperfect days where
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  you just kept casting that vote. Some days you'll get your
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  workout in and you casted a vote there, or some days you won't. Okay,
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  some days you're going to have a wonderful, peaceful, quiet time with
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  God, and other days you'll only have like a few minutes.
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  Some days you're going to respond patiently to your kids and
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  you're going to use all the kind words and be calm.
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  And other days you're going to lose your patience, you're going to lose your mind,
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  and you're going to need to apologize. But every
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  time you come back, friend, every time you choose kindness and
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  every time you choose forgiveness and
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  you make a healthy choice, or every time you
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  send an encouraging text or offer someone a genuine compliment—
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  I mean, even when you make dinner for your family when you're tired
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  or you really listen to someone's story, you're casting
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  another vote. Here's why I think this is
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  so encouraging. When you begin noticing those votes, you begin collecting evidence.
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  This is evidence that you're becoming more patient, or evidence
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  that you're becoming more intentional, or becoming healthier.
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  It's also telling you that you're becoming more compassionate,
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  or that you're becoming more like Christ. And that evidence
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  builds your confidence. Not, again,
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  because you've become perfect now, but because you've proven
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  to yourself that even when life gets hard, you're going to keep coming
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  back. You're going to keep choosing what matters and you're going to
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  keep casting your votes. That gives you the confidence to wake up
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  tomorrow and do it again. Then tomorrow becomes
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  another opportunity and another vote that you can cast.
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  And another and another. And one day you're going to look back
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  and you're going to realize you are not the same woman you were 6 months
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  ago. Again, not because you finally had a perfect
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  week, but because you just kept showing up through
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  the imperfect ones. Philippians 1:6 says,
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  and I am certain that God who began the good work within you will
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  continue his work until it's finally finished on the day when Christ
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  Jesus returns. I love that verse because it reminds
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  us that God is still working, friends.
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  He is not finished with us yet. Every small
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  faithful choice is part of the work that He is
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  doing in us. Not us doing it. He's doing it.
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  So here's your midweek reset, friends. Tonight,
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  before you think about everything you didn't get done,
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  you know what I mean, Before you replay all the mistakes that you
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  made, ask yourself this question instead,
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  okay? What evidence did I create today of
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  the woman I am becoming? Because maybe you apologized after
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  losing your patience, or maybe just praying instead of worrying.
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  Maybe you checked on a friend, or maybe it was saying no to
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  something you didn't have capacity for, or it could just be
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  simply getting back up After yesterday just did not go the
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  way that you had hoped or planned. Those are the votes, guys.
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  Those are the evidence. Don't overlook them. They are so
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  important. Friend, you do not become the woman God is calling
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  you to by being perfect. I know that's what we think we should
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  be doing. Instead, guys,
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  you become her by continuing to cast your votes,
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  especially on the imperfect perfect days. So this
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  week, don't just count your mistakes, because I know those are easy to
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  count, right? They just show right on up. Don't just
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  count what didn't get done. Count the votes. Count the evidence
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  before you. And let that evidence remind you that God
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  is faithfully transforming you, friend, just one
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  ordinary day at a time.
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  it helps more women find this podcast. Now go say no
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  to something that's stealing your peace and say yes to something you actually need.
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  And I'll meet you back here in the next episode.