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5 Min Pocket Pep Talk: Listen When You're Giving Your Energy to the Wrong Things · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to another 5-Minute Pocket Pep Talk.
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  I'm your host, Nadia, and I'm so glad you're here with me today.
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  Because today's episode is for the moments when you feel overwhelmed,
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  and I know that there's a lot of you feeling overwhelmed,
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  when everyone around you want a piece of you, if you know what I mean,
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  when you're replaying old conversations in your head or you're carrying extra
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  stress that don't belong to you anymore.
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  If that is you today, this episode is for you.
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  Before we dive in, please take a moment to take one deep breath with me.
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  And here's your reminder, not everything deserves your energy.
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  Somewhere along the way in life, especially as we get older, if you are a parent
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  and you have a lot of responsibilities, we start believing that we have to respond
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  to everything immediately, every
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  text immediately, that we have to fix everything, that we have to defend every
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  opinion or fix everybody else's problems or explain every decisions that we make,
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  even carry other people's emotions with us.
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  But here's the truth. And here's why I'm recording this podcast right now.
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  Just because something asks for your attention, it doesn't mean it deserves
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  it. Ha! Maybe that's the writer downer for today.
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  Just because something asks for your attention, it doesn't mean it deserves it.
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  And what I mean by that is that your energy is limited. Every minute you spend
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  worrying about somebody else's opinion is a minute that you're taking away from
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  your own goals, from your own joy, from your own peace.
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  One of the healthiest question you can start asking yourself today is,
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  does this deserve my energy?
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  Not, oh, can I handle this? Or should I respond, simply, does this deserve my energy?
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  Because sometimes the strongest thing you can do is, drumroll, nothing. That's right.
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  You don't have to answer every criticism coming your way. You don't have to
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  convince people to understand your choices.
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  You certainly don't have to carry someone else's bad mood throughout the rest of your day.
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  And what is really freeing is understanding that protecting your peace isn't
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  about avoiding life. Life is going to happen. Shit's going to go down.
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  It's just about becoming intentional, intentional with where your energy goes.
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  All right. Think of your energy like money.
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  If you gave away, I don't know, $20 every single time that someone criticizes
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  you or interrupts your day or had a bad attitude or said no to you,
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  you'd probably go broke pretty quickly.
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  Yet, that's exactly what we do with our emotions. That's what we do emotionally.
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  We hand out our energy all day long without even realizing how expensive it is.
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  So today, I want you to become more aware and a little bit more protective of it.
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  I want you to pause before you react. I want you to pause before replying and
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  maybe pause before saying yes, when really you mean no.
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  And remember one thing, every time you protect your peace, you're making more
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  room for things that actually matters to you.
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  Your family, your dreams, your health, your purpose, and the people that are
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  there who truly add value to your life, all right? So here's the challenge today.
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  The next time that something frustrates you, before you react,
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  ask yourself, does this deserve my peace?
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  And if the answer is no, just smile, take a breath and let it go.
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  Because your peace isn't something you find one day. It's something that you
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  choose over and over again, one decision at the time. All right.
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  So protect your peace, guard your energy.
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  And remember one thing, not everything deserves access to you.
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  Thanks for spending these few minutes with me. You've got this.
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  I'll catch you in the next episode.