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5 things that shifted our mindsets or perspectives 🧐 · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: A pod Shape production.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome back, guys, Welcome back.
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  Speaker 1: Got a very uplifting, positive, like feel good moving episode.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, five things that have really shifted our mindset or
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  Speaker 3: our perspective.
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  Speaker 1: Things can really help shift yours as well. Before we
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  Speaker 1: get into the episode, As always our Monday episodes, we
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  Speaker 1: have the Share of the Week. I wish them would
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  Speaker 1: actually like write up a document of all of our
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  Speaker 1: shares of the week.
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  Speaker 3: Remember that one girl did it in the forum that time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah she did too. Yes, good shares I know, but
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  Speaker 1: mine at the moment is beef tallow. I was telling
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  Speaker 1: Kia about this on the way up. So I love
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  Speaker 1: cooking at the moment and now I'm not working as much.
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  Speaker 1: It's just a way that I just look after my
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  Speaker 1: family and I love cooking a beautiful meal for Steve.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm obsessed with steak at the moment. It's all
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  Speaker 1: my body wants to eat.
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  Speaker 3: How good do you feel like the next day after
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  Speaker 3: having a steak for dinner? Too?
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  Speaker 1: So good? That's feel good with like meat in general,
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  Speaker 1: high protein diet, my body thrives. I was just looking
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  Speaker 1: at different oils and I had a tub of like
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  Speaker 1: ghee in the cup and I started cooking with that,
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  Speaker 1: and then I saw a random video pop up a
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  Speaker 1: beef tallow, and I thought I'll get some to try.
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  Speaker 1: It is so tasty. And the good thing about beef
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  Speaker 1: tallow same with coconut oil and olive oil to a
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  Speaker 1: certain degree. But when you heat up save vegetable oil
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  Speaker 1: or canola oil or sunflower oil, any kind of vegetable
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  Speaker 1: when it eats, it destroys all the good components to it,
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  Speaker 1: and it's really inflammatory for your body. With coconut oil
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  Speaker 1: doesn't get damage when it's heated. Olive oil doesn't to
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  Speaker 1: a certain degree, but if it gets really hot, it
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  Speaker 1: will beef tallow does not. It stays you're good saturated
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  Speaker 1: fats because you don't want to have unsaturated fats, so
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  Speaker 1: it stays stable for you. And it's just delicious. And
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  Speaker 1: another thing that I've been seeing all over my TikTok
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  Speaker 1: now is how good it is for your skin to
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  Speaker 1: put on your skin. Oh apparently, I've only used it
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  Speaker 1: for like three days in my skin, but it makes
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  Speaker 1: your skin feel so hydrated. And the transformations I've seen
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  Speaker 1: online girls fully cleared up their acne. It just looks
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  Speaker 1: so plumped, so hydrated, so glowy. It's incredible and it
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  Speaker 1: just feels so good in your skin. And I message
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  Speaker 1: leave By this morning asking him about it, just because
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  Speaker 1: we love talking about all things health. He's like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I've put that on my skin for years. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: why don't you tell me about but he said, like
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  Speaker 1: that an avocado oil and coconut oil, Like yeah, definitely
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  Speaker 1: the top three, like fats and oils to cook with.
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  Speaker 1: So just have a look in your cupboard if you
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  Speaker 1: have vegetable oils and canola oil, like it's really inflammatory
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  Speaker 1: to your body if you can swap it to beeg tallow.
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  Speaker 1: And on top of that, for me coming out of
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  Speaker 1: hospital and just like really more so wanting to focus
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  Speaker 1: on my health. Was I feel best when I'm eating
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  Speaker 1: like more of a paleo way of eating. And someone
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  Speaker 1: asked me the other day, like, what does that look
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  Speaker 1: like to you? And I said, it's just more natural.
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  Speaker 1: Anything that's packaged just probably not paleo. It's your meats, fruits, nuts, vegetables, seeds,
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  Speaker 1: lots of water. I'm eighty twenty, so I have a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of cheese, I have my protein powders, my
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  Speaker 1: clean treats, but other than that, it's mainly just really
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  Speaker 1: natural foods. And I'm not ainly streaked. But I feel
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  Speaker 1: better when I'm just on a high protein diet and
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  Speaker 1: it's made up of natural sauces and I always try
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  Speaker 1: to buy organic, grass fed meat, pasteurize eggs. Like, so yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's my recommendation to just bring it. If you're not
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  Speaker 1: feeling healthy and you're not thriving, you got brain fog,
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  Speaker 1: bring it back to the basics. Even my bread rice
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  Speaker 1: and pass like, I love it, but I feel better
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  Speaker 1: when I don't eat it. I was eating pasts like
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  Speaker 1: multiple times a week, having toast every single morning for breakfast. Rice.
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  Speaker 1: We're a big rides Tarla's favorite food.
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  Speaker 3: She calls it rah rah.
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  Speaker 1: We have that multiple times a night. I love it
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  Speaker 1: and I don't feel shit off it, but I feel
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  Speaker 1: even better when I don't have it.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm just like pulling back listening to your body.
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  Speaker 1: Chin, Yeah I am.
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  Speaker 3: I've started eating a lot more eggs again lately.
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  Speaker 1: Actually off them many.
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  Speaker 3: How funny that we do this stuff. We don't talk
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  Speaker 3: about it because we were doing all about other brakis,
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  Speaker 3: And lately I've just been like, I'm just craving more
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  Speaker 3: like eggs.
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  Speaker 1: Bacon and eggs now, and I do get with avocado too.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes I have a sprinkle of cheese, but yeah, bacon,
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  Speaker 1: eggs satisfying breakfast.
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  Speaker 3: I can't believe that we're both in that's And.
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  Speaker 1: The avocado is just perfect like cherry on top the
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  Speaker 1: healthy fats, and it keeps.
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  Speaker 3: Just so fullward it does, it really does.
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  Speaker 1: And you know what I noticed too, If I have
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  Speaker 1: sweet for breakfast, like the overnight weepings, which I love,
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  Speaker 1: all my oats whatever, or a protein sometimes smoothing depending
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  Speaker 1: on it. Because I've had that taste of sweet, I
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  Speaker 1: want more.
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  Speaker 3: Sweet, more sweet throughout the day.
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  Speaker 1: Honestly, that's true, savory, I don't crave as much sweet. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so yeah, that's something to try as well. Anyways, that
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  Speaker 1: was like a ten minute share.
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  Speaker 3: It was always going to be worth it, ye true.
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  Speaker 3: What's yours so mine? Is actually a video that I
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  Speaker 3: came across on Instagram and I was just like Wow.
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  Speaker 3: It's basically this lady talking about sitting and how much
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  Speaker 3: it affects our health and even people in their job
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  Speaker 3: like it might make them be like, oh, I want
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  Speaker 3: to get up and move a little bit more. Even me,
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  Speaker 3: it is my job, like I sit down in edit,
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  Speaker 3: phages on the computer a lot, you know, emailing supplies
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  Speaker 3: and stuff like that.
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  Speaker 1: Just have a listener.
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  Speaker 3: That's you ready.
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  Speaker 4: As you may have heard in pop culture, sitting is
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  Speaker 4: the new smoking. The science shows that sitting. It's not
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  Speaker 4: just that exercise is good for you and moving is
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  Speaker 4: good for you for your stress, anxiety, burnout. It's that
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  Speaker 4: sitting is actually bad for you and it can increase
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  Speaker 4: your sense of anxiety, stress, and burnout.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: There was a study of eight hundred people and the
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  Speaker 4: ones who sat the most. This is like knock your
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  Speaker 4: sock soft data. The people who sat the most had
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  Speaker 4: a one hundred and twelve percent higher risk of diabetes,
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  Speaker 4: one hundred and forty seven percent higher risk of heart disease,
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  Speaker 4: a ninety percent higher risk of death from heart disease,
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  Speaker 4: any fifty percent higher risk from death overall. All to
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  Speaker 4: say that sitting is actually bad for our health, are
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  Speaker 4: well being and as it turns out, your stress and burnout.
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  Speaker 3: Ting. Is that so interesting?
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  Speaker 1: So HARDOD like, I move a lot, but I feel
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  Speaker 1: so bad people that are at a death job.
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  Speaker 3: I know. But then is this not a great study
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  Speaker 3: and thing that's been done to be like, can we
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  Speaker 3: do something about this? Can we have every ten minutes
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  Speaker 3: get up and walk around and do something on I
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  Speaker 3: don't know, do something else. We're moving around a bit
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  Speaker 3: more because I just like heard that and I was like, wow.
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  Speaker 1: Even if you get up and go toilet, go to
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  Speaker 1: like a further away toilet, like.
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  Speaker 3: Walk around the block a toilet break. Yeah, I did
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  Speaker 3: not think that with such huge effects from literally sitting shit.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 1: Interesting, Hey, I'm definitely not sitting as much now. I
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  Speaker 1: don't have baseline, like I go into the office Monday, Tuesday,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes Wednesday, but even then I'm filming a lot and
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  Speaker 1: like doing marketing some like up talking a gallon over here,
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  Speaker 1: and I go see Steve in the office here and
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  Speaker 1: go down to the warehouse and chat with them down
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  Speaker 1: there some moving he's more.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's good.
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  Speaker 1: That makes me feel better. But Steve is at a
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  Speaker 1: desk like all day every day. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: want to get one of those walking desks.
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  Speaker 3: But reckons you'd fall on it, cause I don't think
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  Speaker 3: I could today. How do people do that?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? I think I'd be Okay, you just had got
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  Speaker 1: a slow pace.
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  Speaker 3: You need to got to slow pace, but at least
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  Speaker 3: you're moving your body or even a standing.
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  Speaker 1: Desk, I reckon, if I did standing, I would like
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  Speaker 1: hunch over, go on one side of the hip, like
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be balancing up right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, And that's the another thing she could like,
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  Speaker 3: if this was something that was really important to you
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  Speaker 3: could go to your boss and be like, hey, do
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  Speaker 3: you mind if I get myself desks?
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  Speaker 1: The workplaces are supporting that anyway for them, Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: would get my stuff on if they want to one
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  Speaker 1: I reckon. Yeah, yeah, so cool. Listen to the episode.
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  Speaker 1: So we're just one from one, we've both got one each.
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  Speaker 1: Do you want to go first? Sure?
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  Speaker 3: Sure, sure? So the first one is that our brains
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  Speaker 3: are always looking for the most negative outcome. That's just
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  Speaker 3: the way we are wired to keep ourselves safe, to
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  Speaker 3: protect ourselves, to protect ourselves. So we really have to
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  Speaker 3: remind ourselves all of the time that what our body
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  Speaker 3: is naturally trying to think is the thing that makes
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  Speaker 3: us feel the worst. This is why it's so important
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  Speaker 3: to be consciously questioning yourself. So whenever you're feeling unsafe,
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  Speaker 3: going like okay, like this is my body's way of
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  Speaker 3: protecting me. I am safe, I'm fine, I'm okay. But
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  Speaker 3: your brain is wired to just always go to the
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  Speaker 3: negative worst.
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  Speaker 1: Case Smorry, isn't it.
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  Speaker 3: It's really hard because if you're just going along life
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  Speaker 3: and you're not somebody who's listening to this podcast that's
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  Speaker 3: consciously trying to become more aware of themselves, you would
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  Speaker 3: be feeling in vital flight a lot of the time.
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  Speaker 1: The world's going to kill you.
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  Speaker 3: All the time. Well, a lot of us do feel
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  Speaker 3: like that. Stress, Yeah, stress happening or different situations going on,
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  Speaker 3: and yeah, it's literally just our natural response to try
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  Speaker 3: to keep ourselves safe.
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  Speaker 1: It makes so much sense.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, if you live, you're right.
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  Speaker 1: If you're not aware of it, you just think the
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  Speaker 1: world's against you, everyone's against you. Things are always going to
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  Speaker 1: go wrong. Like that would become your language, Yeah, that
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  Speaker 1: become your beliefs and your thoughts. Yeah, that would then
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  Speaker 1: affect the rational frequency that you're on, So you're going
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  Speaker 1: to attract more of that. That's it, and your life
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  Speaker 1: probably wouldn't be feeling too good.
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  Speaker 3: Definitely, And when you know this information, you start to
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  Speaker 3: find things that you can do to switch that as well.
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  Speaker 3: Because whenever I'm in a negative, like a little bit
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  Speaker 3: of a more negative mindset, yesterday I had a bit
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  Speaker 3: of a flat day and right before my period, there's
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  Speaker 3: just been some stuff going on, and I pulled back
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  Speaker 3: out that book You Can Be Happy no Matter What,
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  Speaker 3: And that's my go to whenever I find myself going
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  Speaker 3: back into the realm of negative thinking. So I have
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  Speaker 3: like different books for each seasonal thing I can feel
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  Speaker 3: myself leaning into where I'm kind of like needy top
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  Speaker 3: myself countab Yeah, if I feel myself not trusting the universe.
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  Speaker 3: I'll go pick up like the Secret or the Universe
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  Speaker 3: has my Back or one of those books. But when
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  Speaker 3: this is happening for me, first thing I do is
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  Speaker 3: I chuck in my handbag. You can be happy no
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  Speaker 3: matter what. And it just reiterates to you the whole
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  Speaker 3: way through the book how your thought process works and
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  Speaker 3: helps me kind of go, okay, this is just a
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  Speaker 3: part of my natural response, like you know, and it's
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  Speaker 3: just such a nice little reminder that it's normal too.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like sometimes when we have negative thoughts come up,
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  Speaker 3: we might feel like, oh, yes, but it's normal, it's okay, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: it's all right. Yeah you can say hello, and then
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  Speaker 3: you know, thank.
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  Speaker 1: You for the message. Yeah I am actually safe all
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  Speaker 1: about this. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's my number one. What's your number one?
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  Speaker 1: So I've got down here we wrote down our own
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  Speaker 1: notes that your past does not have to equal your future.
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  Speaker 1: It can be a part of your story, but it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't have to be your whole story. And you can
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  Speaker 1: create and change your future with so many conscious choices.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to say the victim to the negative
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  Speaker 1: or hard things that life has thrown you.
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  Speaker 3: That's a really good one.
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  Speaker 1: It is, and I think we can all relate it
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  Speaker 1: back to our childhood or something that's happened when we're younger,
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  Speaker 1: and we retell this story and we're it like a
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  Speaker 1: badge of honor. But it does not have to define
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  Speaker 1: your next chapter, your next season of life. And you know,
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  Speaker 1: I've been very open about my childhood and my stepfather
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  Speaker 1: and the things that happened and things I had to navigate,
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  Speaker 1: and being at a home when I was really young
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  Speaker 1: and never feeling like I was loved or enough or
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  Speaker 1: even want it. Yeah, but does that mean that I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to feel like that for the rest of my life.
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  Speaker 1: Hell no, I'm going to choose a partner the opposite
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  Speaker 1: of my stepfather. I'm going to show up for my
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  Speaker 1: kids way differently. I'm going to build and create really strong,
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  Speaker 1: deeply connected friendships where I am loved, supported, encouraged. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I have my cheerleaders. I'm going to look after my
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  Speaker 1: body in a way that feels really good to me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to make so many different choices so that
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  Speaker 1: my future does not look like my past. My past
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  Speaker 1: is a part of my story that I'm really proud of.
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  Speaker 1: And if I didn't have all that stuff happen, I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't be here today sitting across from you, talking to
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  Speaker 1: all of you. I love everyone's past and run stories
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  Speaker 1: and the mistakes we've made and the hurdles we've gotten through.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, it does not have to equal your future.
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  Speaker 1: I can't heard that. It would have changed my life
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  Speaker 1: when I heard it, probably back when I was like
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  Speaker 1: twenty or something. Yeah, it's something I always like to
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  Speaker 1: retell because I feel like just someone listening that's got
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  Speaker 1: a land for you right now, I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Like, yeah, And I think we can all reflect every
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  Speaker 3: six months and be like, what's not feeling right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: You know? What can I shift? Could be small things,
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  Speaker 3: small habits that you've picked up and be like, you know,
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  Speaker 3: is this aligned with the person that I want to be?
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  Speaker 1: Don't have to keep doing that?
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  Speaker 3: Oh?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I don't.
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  Speaker 3: Have to keep living that way?
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  Speaker 1: So good?
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  Speaker 3: Okay? That our thoughts of voluntary, and because we think
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  Speaker 3: of thought, we don't have to believe it. We can
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  Speaker 3: think it and then choose to let it go. This
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  Speaker 3: has helped me a lot with overthinking things. Just because
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  Speaker 3: this story in my mind feels real doesn't mean that
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  Speaker 3: it is. I feel like, when situations happen in life,
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  Speaker 3: we can really fixate on them, and we fixate on
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  Speaker 3: them so much that we believe our own minds, whatever
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  Speaker 3: we give meaning to it, we wholeheartedly trust ourselves. So
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  Speaker 3: we're like, we are so right. We believe that this
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  Speaker 3: is exactly what's happened, this is exactly why, and this
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  Speaker 3: is exactly what's happened here. But I think that learning
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  Speaker 3: that for me has just been a huge light bulb
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  Speaker 3: moment where I've been like, yeah, yeah, I'll just get
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  Speaker 3: out of your head for a second. Like, you know,
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  Speaker 3: not everything revolves around you. I have said that before
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  Speaker 3: on the podcast, but in our own world we do
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  Speaker 3: feel like the universe revolves around us at times. I
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  Speaker 3: think just remembering that just because you think something m
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  Speaker 3: hmmm doesn't mean.
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  Speaker 1: That it's actually a fact. And sometimes you could say
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  Speaker 1: something or even say something about someone else and then go, oh,
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  Speaker 1: hang on a second, what does that actually mean? What's
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  Speaker 1: that saying about me? Why do I reject that? Why
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  Speaker 1: did I judge that person? Or why did I have
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  Speaker 1: that initial thought? Holy shit? That activated something in me,
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  Speaker 1: and it's getting curious and asking those questions again.
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  Speaker 3: Definitely, I even actually I'll chat about this a tiny
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  Speaker 3: bit on the podcast, because I've spoke to you about
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  Speaker 3: it fully yet. I told Ashley I was doing this
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  Speaker 3: shadow work task, and in it it's said to pick
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  Speaker 3: someone that you really really dislike, and then you do
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  Speaker 3: after that, you write down all the things that you
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  Speaker 3: really don't like about them, and then you work out
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  Speaker 3: that all the things you don't like about them is
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  Speaker 3: because you're lacking that in your life. So it's like
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  Speaker 3: this one person that I wrote down, I was like,
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  Speaker 3: because they're just like so like rude, they don't talk much,
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  Speaker 3: they just sit to themselves. And I'm like, but is
• 14:22
  Speaker 3: that because I don't feel like I can do that?
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: Is that because I feel like I have to be
• 14:25
  Speaker 3: overly happy and overly nice to everyone I meet? Is
• 14:28
  Speaker 3: that actually your security.
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: More well it's front or something.
• 14:32
  Speaker 3: No, not necessarily more upfront, but maybe not always feel
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: like I have to put in so much energy with
• 14:37
  Speaker 3: people that don't align. I feel like if I see
• 14:39
  Speaker 3: someone and it's like a neighbor down the road and
• 14:41
  Speaker 3: I haven't seen them for a few months, I still
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: be like, Hey, how you going, how's little Benny doing? Like,
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: but maybe I actually can just be like, hey, yeah,
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: there's reasons why we do everything. You've judged it to
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: be rude, Yeah, just because I don't do it that way.
• 14:53
  Speaker 3: But she probably doesn't have the energy.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 14:56
  Speaker 3: Maybe on days when I don't have the energy, I
• 14:57
  Speaker 3: wish I could do more of that, but I don't
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: because I think in my mind that that's not the
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: right way to do things. I think it's always to
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: acknowledge people, ackowledge people, be friendly.
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like you've got this invisible rule book. Yeah,
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: as to what's right, what's wrong, what's good, what's bad,
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: what's okay? You get so fixated on your rule book
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: forgetting that everyone else has their own rule book based
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: upon their experiences, their culture, how they've been brought up,
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: you know, things that have happened in their life. So
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: it's cool to sometimes open.
• 15:26
  Speaker 3: That rule book and be like conditioning.
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that doesn't actually have to be like that.
• 15:31
  Speaker 3: No, And yeah on days where I only have a
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: small capacity, Yeah, I'm not that energized with my husband.
• 15:38
  Speaker 3: I am not that energized with my friends. And it's like,
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: why with the stranger on the street, do I feel
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: like I need to have a big chat?
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: When I was like good morningred percent. I kind of
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: feel like that would like school events, Yes, I don't know.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: I just feel like at the end of the day,
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: when there's all these invites to outside school activities and stuff,
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: if Taj really wants to go, I one hundred percent
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: would take him, But he never really mentions them. I
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: think he would rather be at home with us or
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: like his close friends. But I think that to myself too.
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I would rather go and see my friends
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: that I don't get to see much anymore because we're
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: all busy all with kids, running businesses or whatever. I'm
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: gonna go hang out with people that I don't even
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: have a relationship with, the need to build new relationships.
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: But I used to feel bad about it, and I
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: kind of was like, oh, I wish I was one
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: of those mums. It was like involved with everything and
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: so social that I'm like, no, why do you feel bad?
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: Very involved the school stuff either.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: But I've told myself a story that that makes a
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: good active mom. Yeah, I'm like, no, I'm active and
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: present with my kids where they need me to be
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: at home doing our own thing. I don't have to
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: go to every patents of class they.
• 16:35
  Speaker 3: Have every week, I know, and that's even as well.
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: Like another one that I had was going away from
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: my kids. The story that I was always shown and
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: told was that mom doesn't leave the child. Yes, you're
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: always with them when they need you. You are there constantly,
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: no matter how much you might feel like you need
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: a break or you need to look after yourself or
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: do anything. That's your job. And that's why it's meant
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: to be. And it's been really cool obviously surrounding myself
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: with so many people and hearing so many different stories
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: and knowing the way that you know the first seventy
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: to be life impacts so much and we're just wired
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: to pretty much do the same thing that my parents
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: have done. You've got to change things. I feels uncomfortable,
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: but now look at me, like went away on the
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: weekend with Curdie, brought my kids back there too, but
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: then come up here and I don't get that guilt
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: surround going anymore. But yeah, it was hard work. At
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: the start I were talking to you about it, I
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: was like crying because I was like, it just feels
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: so wrong. Yeah wrong, Yeah, I felt wrong. It's not wrong.
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: It's just the story that I told myself.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's crazy. That's a really good one. I
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: love that the life is literally happening for you. I
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: know I've said this moon time, so I'm sorry for
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: sound like a broken record, but I just can't not
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: be spoken about because it really did shift so much
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: for me, and it still does. Every time something happens.
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: I just know it's for a bigger reason. And if
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: I don't know what it is right now, I know
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: that I'll figure it out later on. It's happening for
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: a higher purpose. It's a bigger reason. It's there to
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: teach you, expand you, and one day, if you choose,
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: because it's always a choice, you'll be so grateful for
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: all all of your past make you who you are today.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: So make sure you choose to let all of your
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: pass and everything you're going through make it something meaningful
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: and empowering.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: Oh I love that.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we get a choice to decide what happens to us,
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: how it's going to impact our future in a positive way.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: And even with my second surgery that I need to
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: go through, like, I don't quite know what that's teaching
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: me yet, but I know there'll be something I look
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: back on and be like, that's why I had to
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: go through that. Yeah, it might just be to help
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: one other person. I don't know what it'll be, but
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: I just know I would do anything not to have
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: to go through that surgery again. But I know it's
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: happening for me. What's happening to save my life at
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: the end of the day, that's a big reason. But
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: just yeah, whenever you get stuck or go through something
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: really hard, just have that trust that you know this
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: is happening.
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: And the universe always pulls through, doesn't It always pulls through.
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: No matter what we have gone through, things will just
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: pop up at it go around. I'm like, ah, always.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: Has your back, always has your back, and we've got
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: so much evidence that it has our back because you
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: look back on your past and it's always worked out,
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: always hard. Maybe it wasn't the way that you planned,
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: maybe it looked a little bit different. Maybe you haven't
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: found the lesson yet, maybe you're still in the thick
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: of it right now, but it's worked out. Yeah, you're okay,
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: you're alive, you got through. So yeah, that's just one
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: that's been so life changing, so true.
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: And when you can think from that place too, it's
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: such a nice, pleasant place to be and isn't it Yeah,
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: living out a gratefulness gratitude.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I think I heard that from him when
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: I was like nineteen. It's just stuck with me ever since.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: One of his best quotes I reckon, yeah, yeah, life
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: happens for you, not to you. That's his one. Yeah.
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, amen. Learning that everyone is doing the best that
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: they can with the tools that they have. When you
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: come from compassion and understanding, rather than getting annoyed at
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: them for not meeting you where you are at, life
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: feels a lot nicer. So true, that was a hard
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: one for me. I feel like once I shifted that
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: and I went from like, oh wow, I can see
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: why they're that way because of this, or why are
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: they feeling like that? Like, rather than being annoyed questioning
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: it compassion, more understanding, and just low expectations for the
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: way other people react. I guess to a point. We
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: always talk about this for sure, boundaries too. Yeah, But
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: then that's the thing. You can still hold compassion and
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: understanding for people from afar, yes, and still have your
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: boundaries in place, but you don't have to be annoyed.
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: You don't have to let it rock you.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: I was telling you about a conversation Levi and I had.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: I think it was about someone that takes recreational drugs,
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: and we were talking how it's not an alignment with
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: our way of living. I suppose yes, But the way
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: leave I worded this, I thought was just really really beautiful.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: Because I have someone in my life who uses recreational
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: drugs quite often. I see the negative effect it has
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: on their life. However I still love on them. And
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I had another friend be like, I don't know why
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: you still hang out with that person. They're really not
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: aligned with you and your values and your health and
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: like all that kind of stuff. I said, yeah, I know,
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: but I still really love that person. And I see
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: they're struggling, they don't have the tools, they're not ready
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: to change it. But doesn't mean I don't have to
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: love them. And yeah, it's not the person I choose
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: to spend all of my time with, but I will
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: always have their back and I always love them. From
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: Afart and he was saying the same thing. He was like, yeah,
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: they can be doing things that you would never ever do,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: but you can still love that person. You just when
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: you have that compassion for where they're at. And you
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: don't expect people to be where you are at, or
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: doing the work that you're doing, or beat the level
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: that you are. You can still have beautiful connections. You
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: can still have a beautiful, solid friendship. Yeah, and they
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: need to love the most they really do. They need
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: the support, they need the love, and especially they need
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: no judgment. Have they ever not loved on you? No,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: This one person has always shown up for me, always
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: supports me, even the little things like one of the
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: first people that she always comments and likes and shares
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: my stuff, like just little things like that. She's just
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: such a solid friend. So just because she makes different
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: choices to me, it doesn't mean I love her any less.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: It just kind of ties into it, you said nicely.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Just to always have an understanding, compassionate way of viewing
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: people and being there for them. Yeah. The stories you
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: tell yourself are not always true. In fact, a lot
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: of them are actually bullshit. The stories that you've been
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: told how you've been conditioned or you haven't explored other
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: ways to be or do things. So now you've attached
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: yourself to that story. And like you were saying before,
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: some stories we tell we just tell it. So often
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: we've been told since we're a little girl, it becomes
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: our truth. You fully, wholeheartedly believe it. That someone tries
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: to challenge you on it, you might get activated or
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: like treat you from it, and you're like, no, this
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: is how it was because of X y Z. But
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: then when if you can get centered and actually like
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: unpack it, you're like, hm, is that actually the truth?
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: And this story also may be there to keep you safe,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: and it might also be helping you justify something. Yeah.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: And Myles's story was that I'm just really, really dumb,
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: and anytime I got a new opportunity, I got offered
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: a new job, I saw a job I want to
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: apply for, even like going for my manual license, I
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: didn't know it from my automatic because I had a
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: story I was too dumb. Was that the truth? Definitely not?
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: Am I slower learner than others? Probably it's like there's
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: always someone rich, smarter, prettier than you. Doesn't mean I
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: wasn't capable of doing it. If I actually put my
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: mind to it and studied hard, I'm sure I could
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: have done it. But I let that story become my truth.
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: So I said no to things without even giving them
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: a go. Yeah. So it's just so cool to be
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: aware of what you're telling yourself and say to yourself, like,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: is that actually the truth? Because a lot of the
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: time it's not.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: And when you start to actually like do this and
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: question things more or like say, something activates or triggers
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: you and you start to unpack it, it's like every single
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: thing you can start to see from so many different angles. Yes,
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: but it's so funny because it's like tunnel vision initially,
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: like ton of vision, and then you start like questioning
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: different things and you're like, oh oh ah. It's like
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: all these little moments of like oh wow, I never
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: would have looked at it from that perspective if I
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: didn't just like take a second to be like, hang on,
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: it's just the pause.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: Hey. Yes, And it's funny with that story too, that
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: I'm too dumb one. My mom's like, it's actually interesting
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: now you've said that, Like, I don't think you're dumb.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: I think you're not interested. Just like the subjects that
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: you were interested in you passed with flying color. The
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: subjects that you didn't pass, which was like science, mass,
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: like biology, all that kind of stuff, because you had
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: no interest in it, But the ones that you were
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: really interested in, you wanted to, like study, you did
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: really well. So when you say I'm not dumb, try
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: changing that language to be I'm not interested. That's very true.
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: That's really cool language.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And then sometimes I have to catch myself out
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: from being lazy. If Steve's like, hey, can you like
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: do these documents and read this, I'm like, oh no,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: paye Iro'm too dumb. Can't you just do it? And
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: he's like too dumb or can't be bothered? I'm like,
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: I can't be bothered. He's like, you are more than
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: capable of reading what that's about, you just don't want to.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah. So sometimes I'm like, okay, what's the
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: actual truth behind this? I can't be fuck doing that.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: I'm not interested in it. I don't want to learn
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: about that. No, Like, there's the truth.
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: And when you're really passionate about something, you want to
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: learn everything about it. Yeah, get honest with yourself now.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: I'll literally be honest and say to Steve like, I
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: don't want to learn that, I'm not interested in it.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: Just talk to me something about space. I used to
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: say it I'm too dumb. I can't absorb that information.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: Now your language up too, Tom.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: But now, but it's a compound. Now I'm saying, Babe,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: I'm not interested in the space. I don't want to
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: learn about what's happening up there, have no plans, are
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: going to the moon? Talk about this with someone else,
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: or I'll listen to you. But I'm like, I have
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: no interest in learning it. Yes, because you're trying to
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: get me to watch something, I'm like, oh.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: Some of that stuff can be very boring to watch. Yeah,
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: it's like rocket ship over my head.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: It's like me getting you to watch something on contouring.
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: You're going to be like, yeah, watch, so language ships
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: so important? But yeah, are the stories that you're telling
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: yourself actually the truth or is there a way to
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: like shift it and break that story because a lot
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: of the times it's not going to be serving you,
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: and it's absolute bullshare that someone else has probably told
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: you along the way. And I look at the person
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: that told me as well, and I'm just like, that's
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: my stepdad. I have zero respect for him. I don't
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: like who he is, how he treats people, what he's
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: done in his life. Would I listen to you and
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: take that on board. Yeah, oh thank you.
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: That two people can live through the exact same event
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: and have two completely different stories attached to it. So
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: stop trying to understand how or why someone doesn't understand
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: you your values, your beliefs and standards. Our values, beliefs
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: and standards change with every scenario for each of us.
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: What someone thinks is totally fine and okay, another person
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: would never let someone else do to them. But that's
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: also what makes life interesting, everyone having their own opinions
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: and personalities. Nothing is right or wrong.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: Just what we think it is, oh so well said.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: Even you know, going through the exact same situation, Like
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: you know, how you spoke about when your mom came
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: on with your brothers and your childhood and how all
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: of your perspectives and how you felt was so different
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: because that's been the different experience because you had experienced
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: a lot of the heat.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: And we interpreted things differently too, that's it. Yeah, And
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: we take information to make up our own stories and
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: attach different things to it.
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: Definitely, and like even you know, when different things happen,
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: or like saving if her friend acts a certain way,
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: like another friend might be like oh I didn't really
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: notice that.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: What's she like that?
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: And you're like, like she was so oft today or
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: she was so true.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I thought that was really rude. Ah, like, yeah.
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: That's so true.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: That's such a good example. I feel like my next
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: one's gonna ruffle a few feathers. And I kind of
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: contradict myself a little bit because sometimes I do say
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: I'm lucky or I feel lucky to have good friends
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: or whatever, but no one is lucky. I don't believe
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: in luck. I think it's a cop out word a
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: lot of people use because they can't be bother doing
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: the hard work to be successful. This is obviously like
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: in different situations. There's so many layers to this, and
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: I'm sure someone will argue that if someone means a
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: million dollars that they are lucky. But I'm generally speaking
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: day to day, when you see someone doing well or
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: having all the things like a solid relationship, healthy shiny things, holidays,
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: deep connections, fun, meaningful friendships, that it's not luck. It's
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: actually taken time, energy, effort, resources, sacrifice. And I do
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: believe that so true. It's like that quote the grass
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: is greener where you water it.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's so true. It's like it's not greener
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: on the other side when you look someone else is like,
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: are you doing the things that they're doing? How are
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: you worrying your grass the same way they're watering their
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: grass to get greener.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: I have people say not as much anymore. But I
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: used to have people say, oh, my gosh, you're so
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: lucky that you could launch a business because you have
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: such a big following, And I'm like, yes, that helps,
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: for sure, but don't forget the last ten to fifteen
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: years I have spent building that. Following last ten to
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: fifteen years, I've been negatively placed in the media that
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: I've had trolls, that I've had people turn up to
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: my house, that I've had death threats, that I've had
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: all this stuff happen, Like, that's not luck. There's been
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: so much time and sacrifice and money and effort put
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: into building the trust and building the numbers up. Yeah,
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: but it's like I get it all the time. With friendships,
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: I do have so many beautiful friends. We're so lucky
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: you have those friends. I do feel so lucky every
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: single day that I'm like, but I still pour so
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: much into my friendships and I always have at the moment.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: Steve doesn't have a lot of close friends, but he's
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: like I also put no effort into them. He's like
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: my work, I'm with my family and I'm content with that.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: He's like you, you know, since you're a little girl,
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: friendships have always been high on your priority list, and
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: you put so much into them because I genuinely value
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: it and I love it, so you can relate it
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: to anything in your life, and like where you're putting
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: your energy, it'll keep growing.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: Do you know something I always say instead of like
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: I'm so lucky, I always say I'm so blessed, blessed. Yeah,
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: because it's like with the kids and that I'm like,
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: I'm so blessed to have them, I'm so blessed to
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: have the job I have. I haven't because it's not
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: like saying it was easy to get there, but I'm
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: so blessed I've got it. Yes, I really like that
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: instead of lucky, Like when people message me and go, oh,
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: you're so blessed to your life, like yeah, I am, yes, Yeah,
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: it doesn't take away from any of the hard work
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: you might have done or anything else, but it's still
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: finding gratitude for what you've got.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: I'm guilty. I've definitely caught myself out sometimes where I thought, oh,
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: they're lucky they've got this. I'm like, oh, hang on,
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: why are you saying that? Yeah, and I'll unpacking and like, yeah,
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: catch myself out in it.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm jealous about something it could arise, but I
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: catch myself pretty quickly. So just yeah, be aware when
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: you say that next time, Like you probably haven't seen
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: what's gone on behind the scenes for them to get
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: that thing that you're wanting.
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and we all naturally have those thought processes. Yes,
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: like we're all going to actually have like things or
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: feelings or things like you know, but.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: It's it's doing too even if you're jealous, it's just
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: highlighting what you feel like you're lacking or what you
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: would like more of. Yeah. So whenever I feel a
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: jealous feeling come up, and I don't like feeling jealous,
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: but I'm like, ah, you're wanting more of that, Yeah,
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: how can you get that?
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: Or are you prepared to do.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: What it takes to get that? That's it and wanting
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: to sacrifice that to have that, And then sometimes it
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: like diminishes that feeling, so I'm like, no, I don't
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: actually want that, So I don't want to have to
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: do that to get that.
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: No, that's it when you think about the hard work. Yeah,
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: someone has like, actually not.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: You can have that internal I still have moments where
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: I see people with an active read business and I
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: might get the slight feeling of like, oh, just in
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: my gut, and then I'm like, no, I don't want
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: that anymore. I decided I didn't want that, and I
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: love my life without the stress of that. So it's
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: normal for those feelings and emotions to come up. You've
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: gotta have so many internal conversations with yourself. Honestly, I
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: talk to myself all the time. Sometimes I'm like, someone's
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: to see me in my car and I'm full on
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: having a conversation. But I think it's really cool to
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: do that.
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this ain't she We'll just sit you on your
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: phone things in there. Yeah that's true.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: Actually, who cares what they think anyway? Yeah, that's it.
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: I probably not even think about your probably will life
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: does not revolve around you. Actually, Okay, my last one,
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: this is kind of similar to yours, only you can
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: do the work. I think I heard this a lot,
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: but have really felt it. With the inner work of
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: learning to slow down and tapping into my feminine energy more,
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: only you can force yourself to create more space and
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: stop the things that are no longer serving you. Hard
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: truth but also one hundred percent correct.
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: Ah, so good.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: Any area of life, whatever doesn't feel aligned, whatever it's
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: not feeling right, You're.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: The only one image you.
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: Can change it.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: As much as we want to have a night in
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: shiving armor, come and save us.
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: You got to do the work you do, really do.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: You can put the support around you, but you still
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: have to like dig deep and do the hard tap reaction,
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: take the action, make the changes conscious. Yeah, that's beautiful.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: We've sold a story that once you commit or decide
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: to do something, that you have to stick with it
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: and see it through, push through, and like, don't give up.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: This has been so relevant to all the conversations has
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: been having lately. But I fully disagree. I just don't
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: think you have to do that anymore. I don't know
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: where along the way we got sold that story. I
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: don't know if it's in school. It's like you go
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: to school and you study, and you go to university
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: and you pick that one subject and you do your degree,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: and like, see if that this whole physio degree is it?
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: You knowed for five years? He went them on the
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: job for a week and went, I don't like this, and.
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: I love when I find out for a I didn't
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: imagine if he felt like I'm stuck now because I've
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: done that, I'm so cool that he went like, oh,
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: I don't want to.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: He's got this big debt to pay. But he's like, no,
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: I actually can't see myself doing this when I did
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: a PT coorse and behaving PT.
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: Wow, physio would have been handy for PT though, too right, Yeah, true, yeah,
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: And it's such letting me be so good.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: At massage when I've got a sort neck or something.
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: I'm like, but like, you can change your mind in work,
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: in career, in business and friendships and relationships and what
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: you wear, what perfume you like, how you look, what
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: your opinions are, things like you can change your mind
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: and you should be Yeah. I look back at myself
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: five years ago and like, I don't want to say
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: cringe and put myself down because it's doing the best
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: I could. But I look back and I've changed so much. Yeah,
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: changed my whole life. My outlook, the way I've done things,
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: the way I think, the way I dress, Like, everything
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: has changed.
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: I didn't think year of growing Glow. We would listen
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: back and we'd disagree with a lot of the things
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: because I feel like we were more like work hard, hustle.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well that was a season we were in. Yeah,
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: it all like, yes, we could do it all, but
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: could we do it well? And we're we happy we
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: were regulated when.
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: We exhausted, we were running off adrenaline.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: One hundred and ten percent. Makes you always say that
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: to me because I said, since I've closed down baseline,
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: I've slowed down. I've never felt more tired, and I
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: expected to come out feeling so energized because I wasn't
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: working as much. She's like, yeah, but you've been running
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: off adrenaline, Like that's how you've run for the last
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: fifteen years. Now that you've actually stopped one, you're training
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: your body to feel safe to slow down. But like
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: it kind of all catches up on you. Yeah, it
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: was like that's so true. Yeah, so yeah, it is
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: okay to change your mind, get rid of that story
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: that you have to stick it out because you really don't,
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: and what are you sticking it out for?
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: What?
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: To prove a point to who, to mom and dad,
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: to your social media following, to yourself for what. Yeah,
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: you don't get a gold medal at the end of
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: a million bucks saying congratulations you've finished. You only go done.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: You were unhappy for five years if you're life, but
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: good on you for pushing through. It's like, nah, no,
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: thank you. You want to get to your end your
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: life and know that you chose yourself and chose happiness.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: I want to show my kids too, that they can
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: change their mind, Like I will constantly be encouraging my
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: children if they do not feel happy, that they can
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: switch up. Yeah, definitely. I hope they try a million
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: different things to figure out what they love. Because even
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: like the jobs you did when you were younger, like
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: whether it was you know, I was a checkout girl
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: for so many years. I love that. I love talking
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: to people. I learned a lot, I gained valuable life skills,
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: like nobody want to do forever. But like imagine if
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: I just was scared to try something else and stay
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: there just to be safe. Definitely, like I'm so glad
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: I've got to do everything I've got to do that's
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: led me to be exactly where I am right now.
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and it does feel scary each time you change.
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: Each has change.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: A job no racking, yeah, and a relationship and the
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: friendship yeah, so scary, so uncomfortable. But it's like that
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: will choose your hard that's it. Is it harder to
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: stay in a job or a relationship to you absolutely
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: hate and it's making you miserable. It was it harder
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: to be uncomfortable for the first initial period and then
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: come out and like some change your life. Yeah, you
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: have to be brave at the end of the day.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: It is not easy to make those big calls. It
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: really rattles your whole world, like you feel like you're
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: in turbulence. Yeah, but it smooths out. It does hang
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: on for the ride. PS. I want you to ask
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: you how you can turn your pain into power, passion,
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: or purpose. I really love p words. If you can't
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: tell this is actually going to be when I usiness, sorry,
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: well yeah I don't really killed my moments, so, oh
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: my goodness. Funny backstory when I was coming up with
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: the name basline. Whenever I'm trying to come up with
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: a new name. We call it a whiteboard meeting. Steve's
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: come up with this and we'll get a whiteboard and
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: just check up all words that like feel good to us,
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: that we feel like would fit. And before I came
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: out with the baseline, I wanted to have P four oh,
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: and have four P words that I really really loved. Passion, purpose, power,
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: and persistence. Yeah, but then there was P nation that
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: looked too similar, okay, and then my girlfriend Shane had
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: an active red brand and hers was called I think
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: P three, and then there was P something recovery around
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: the corner from me. I know, there was just too
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: many p's, But before baseline, I wanted to call it
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: P four active wear and then like those four words
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: would be how I storytell and like just gave the
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: brand so much like depth and so yeah, just I
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: want you to ask yourself how you can really turn
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: this difficult time into something amazing and how the darkness
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: can be turned into light. I think through all about pain,
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: we can find more purpose, more passion, be more empowered.
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, definitely. PS Trauma says I have to over
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: explain myself to be understood and accepted. He says, I'm
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: learning to trust my own voice and be comfortable with
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: being misunderstood. My value is not determined by others perceptions
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: of me.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: So good. That's a hard one. I've definitely been over
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: explained in my whole life. Yeah, I feel like I
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: don't Yeah, I don't understand. Or if I just tell
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: them the details and they won't be angry. Yeah, Yeah,
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: that's a tough one. That's a good one. It's good.
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: Hay ye.
• 37:28
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• 37:29
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• 37:37
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• 37:39
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