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Body Language (5/7):Practice Your Pause & Stick the Landing: Finish Strong Friday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Well, you made it.
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: You made it to finish strong Friday here on the Sweet Spot.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: I'm proud of you and I'm delighted that you're here with me to finish strong here on the Sweet Spot with me, dr Derek Sweet, your host.
• 0:22
  Speaker 1: All week long, my friends, we've been talking about the power of body language.
• 0:28
  Speaker 1: Let's rewind a week.
• 0:30
  Speaker 1: Monday, you learned to own the room before saying a word.
• 0:34
  Speaker 1: On Tuesday, you let your body lead your mind and Wednesday you dialed in micro-movements that shape how you are perceived.
• 0:45
  Speaker 1: Thursday, we turned inward to read our signals and regain our calm.
• 0:52
  Speaker 1: And now, well, it's time to finish strong.
• 0:56
  Speaker 1: Whether it's a conversation, a meeting, a workout or the entire week, how you end, how you end something leaves a deeper impression than how you started.
• 1:11
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking of these gymnasts and how, when they're finishing a routine, they want to stick the landing right.
• 1:22
  Speaker 1: You can have the best routine ever, but if you don't nail the landing, the finish, and you don't stick that landing perfectly or close to perfect, it gets a little wobbly there and points are shaved off.
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: So that's where command, presence, not control, not ego, just calm, rooted confidence that you are going to finish strong.
• 1:50
  Speaker 1: And okay, maybe we're not gymnasts, we're not on the horse or the rings, or we're not doing floor exercises right?
• 1:59
  Speaker 1: Well, in life there'll be these moments where you have to end something, and what I'm sharing with you as a board certified psychiatrist somebody who works with performers is always know when to use a pause.
• 2:14
  Speaker 1: A pause is a wonderful way to signal that you're coming to an end.
• 2:19
  Speaker 1: It could be in a conversation, it could be an activity.
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  Speaker 1: You could be finishing up a speech.
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  Speaker 1: Before you leave the room, you pause Before you finish the sentence.
• 2:31
  Speaker 1: Pause.
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  Speaker 1: You know, science shows that purposeful pauses increase your authority.
• 2:39
  Speaker 1: They allow your message to land and they create a space for trust.
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: They allow your message to land and they create a space for trust.
• 2:48
  Speaker 1: You see, I just paused, and that's the power of using the pause.
• 2:53
  Speaker 1: It brings a certain authority to whatever it is that you're doing.
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: The second thing I would say to you on Finish Strong Friday here is use your eye contact, but not just any eye contact.
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  Speaker 1: Hold your eye contact with warmth, not intensity.
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  Speaker 1: You're not trying to stare somebody down.
• 3:15
  Speaker 1: You want to be warm.
• 3:16
  Speaker 1: You want to have that Duchenne-type smile a little bit, where the little wrinkles by your eyes are showing.
• 3:23
  Speaker 1: You're smiling with your eyes, just enough.
• 3:26
  Speaker 1: Let your gaze say I am grounded, I'm clear, I'm confident and I'm done.
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  Speaker 1: Together these two simple acts finding the pause and using strategic eye contact they will save more than a long-winded speech ever could.
• 3:49
  Speaker 1: Ancient wisdom puts it this way.
• 3:50
  Speaker 1: You know, I love the ancient wisdom Proverbs 17, verse 28.
• 3:54
  Speaker 1: Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent and discerning if they hold their tongues.
• 4:02
  Speaker 1: Hmm, interesting, that's not about saying nothing.
• 4:08
  Speaker 1: It's about knowing when to let your silence speak for you, and that's presence and that's leadership.
• 4:17
  Speaker 1: You don't always have to be talking and saying things over and over.
• 4:23
  Speaker 1: Sometimes a bit of silence really works.
• 4:26
  Speaker 1: So here's the challenge for you on Finish Strong Friday.
• 4:31
  Speaker 1: It's about being intentional about your endings.
• 4:33
  Speaker 1: Finish your next meeting, your next conversation or your day with a pause.
• 4:41
  Speaker 1: Find a way to put a pause in Practice it and then hold your eye contact, smile softly and then walk away without a rush.
• 4:51
  Speaker 1: Let the moment echo your strength.
• 4:56
  Speaker 1: Today, my friend, I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
• 5:00
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening all week about this entire program around the idea of your body language.
• 5:09
  Speaker 1: And tomorrow, tomorrow is self-care Saturday.
• 5:11
  Speaker 1: And listen, this one is not soft because we're talking about self-care.
• 5:15
  Speaker 1: We're talking about recovery as a strategy body language that restores, because strong finishers know when to rest like they mean it.
• 5:26
  Speaker 1: So catch me tomorrow right here on the sweet spot, and until then, finish strong.
• 5:35
  Speaker 1: I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
• 5:36
  Speaker 1: If you liked what you heard all week long, I would invite you to subscribe to this YouTube channel and, more than that, share it with a friend who could use a message about the power of body language.
• 5:50
  Speaker 1: It is, after all, the silent signal that speaks so loudly.
• 5:55
  Speaker 1: Love and blessings.
• 5:56
  Speaker 1: Bye-bye, thank you.