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199. Pruned but still Promised · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: I can't help but reminisce on this time last year
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  Speaker 1: when the podcast celebrated the one hundred and fiftieth episode,
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  Speaker 1: and in that episode, we talked about the power of
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  Speaker 1: persistence and the power of persistence. One of the conversations
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  Speaker 1: I had with my special guests at the time was
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  Speaker 1: the importance of growing roots. That season of growth, when
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  Speaker 1: you are getting rooted, is a very dark season. It
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  Speaker 1: feels lonely, it feels isolated. It's really hard to even
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  Speaker 1: see where you're going or what's next because it's such
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  Speaker 1: a dark season figuratively, literally, and all of the things.
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  Speaker 1: And when I think about that, I found a quote
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  Speaker 1: that I feel fits so perfectly, and it's an African
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  Speaker 1: proverb and it goes, when the roots are deep, there
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  Speaker 1: is no reason to fear the wind. We know that
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  Speaker 1: life is going to bring storms, and storms typically include winds,
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  Speaker 1: heavy wind gusts. And when you look around after a
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  Speaker 1: major storm we had one here in Georgia a few
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  Speaker 1: weeks ago, there was a lot of debris on the ground.
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  Speaker 1: There was actually even some outages because some trees had
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  Speaker 1: fallen on a power node and it had knocked out
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  Speaker 1: power for you know, thousands of people in the county,
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  Speaker 1: and again across the state there were other impacts to
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  Speaker 1: you know, homes and businesses. Is it can be very devastating.
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  Speaker 1: But I like this African proper because it reminds me
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  Speaker 1: the importance of the roots. Even in that season when
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  Speaker 1: things are the darkest, when you just cannot see the light,
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  Speaker 1: you are not able to come up for ear. It
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  Speaker 1: almost seems like you're drowning. Those seasons are important, and
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  Speaker 1: those seasons are relevant, and those seasons are impactful because
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  Speaker 1: you need those seasons to have those deep roots so
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  Speaker 1: that when the winds and the rains and the storms come,
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  Speaker 1: you don't have to have fear. You know that you're
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  Speaker 1: deeply rooted that you cannot be moved, you cannot be shaken,
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  Speaker 1: you cannot be uprooted. And so I'm gonna encourage each
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  Speaker 1: of you to know not to think, not to try
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  Speaker 1: to understand, but to know that your roots are your lifeline.
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  Speaker 1: Your roots are going to keep you steady when everything
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  Speaker 1: else is moving about. Your roots will keep you steady
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  Speaker 1: and grounded. And so as I think about this practically
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  Speaker 1: a year ago, a big celebration last year for episode
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  Speaker 1: one hundred and fifty and it was around the power
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  Speaker 1: of persistence. I want to remind you to be persistent.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to remind you that the promises are
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  Speaker 1: still there for you, but you have to trust the process.
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  Speaker 1: You have to trust the process of the growth, which
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  Speaker 1: starts with the root system. And one of the most
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  Speaker 1: fascinating things I think I've learned about growth is that
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  Speaker 1: you have to plant down before you plant up, or
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  Speaker 1: you have to grow down. This is how rooting systems work.
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  Speaker 1: They grow down first before they grow up. And I
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  Speaker 1: think we forget that, and you might forget that because
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  Speaker 1: oftentimes all you're seeing is what's on the surface, not
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  Speaker 1: realizing the time, the consistent growing down that had to
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  Speaker 1: happen so that we could see the beauty of what's
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  Speaker 1: going on on the upside. And what's interesting about growth.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to think about this. What's interesting about
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  Speaker 1: growth is that it's a process that we recognize. It's
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  Speaker 1: a process that we understand, but it's hard to see
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  Speaker 1: that within yourself. Here's what I mean by that. The
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  Speaker 1: growth process is easy to look around in nature and
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  Speaker 1: again looking at the springtime, right, we see that in
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  Speaker 1: the spring, flowers are gonna brooom, bloom, you know, after
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  Speaker 1: its rains, and then we'll see all the trees grow
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  Speaker 1: their leaves and you know they're budding after that season
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  Speaker 1: of shedding leaves, right that we saw in the fall
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  Speaker 1: and in the winter where all the leaves were down,
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  Speaker 1: And we're watching this unfold, We're watching nature tell us
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  Speaker 1: the story of how it really happens, not just sometimes
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  Speaker 1: every time, year after year, we see this blueprint. Yet
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to your own life, when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to your season, when your leaves have shed off the
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  Speaker 1: tree of your life, you cannot understand that you will
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  Speaker 1: again grow, that you will again bud after your season
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  Speaker 1: of shedding. We question our growth, You question your growth,
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  Speaker 1: just like nature is going through its own pruning season,
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  Speaker 1: its own natural season in the fall, where the leaves
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  Speaker 1: just literally fall off the trees. Even though we see
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  Speaker 1: an example in nature of how this happens, and how
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  Speaker 1: painful it is to watch these beautiful trees lose everything.
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  Speaker 1: It's painful. It's a quiet time, right. There are times
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  Speaker 1: in the forward it's a crisp morning and the leaves
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  Speaker 1: have fallen, and the only thing you can hear is
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  Speaker 1: the crunching of the leaves as you walk on them.
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  Speaker 1: But other than that is quiet. It's such a humbling
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  Speaker 1: moment because for me, prior to that, when I look
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  Speaker 1: out and I see all the different color leaves on
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  Speaker 1: the various trees, it gives those trees identity. And then
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  Speaker 1: there comes a time where everything is the same. When
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  Speaker 1: winter comes, you see no color, no identity. All you
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  Speaker 1: see is bark and branches that are empty and vacant.
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  Speaker 1: So much has been cut away just through the natural
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  Speaker 1: progression of things. And then that brings us to spring,
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  Speaker 1: where the rain falls and the flowers bloom, and it
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  Speaker 1: brings us to summer where we get to be outside
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  Speaker 1: to enjoy all this, and then we go through the
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  Speaker 1: same process of pruning again, that natural pruning in the
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  Speaker 1: fall and the winter. But somehow, when it comes to you,
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to your pruning season, when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to things happening in your life and it's not progression,
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  Speaker 1: you tend to think that that quiet, that painful season
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  Speaker 1: means not that it's cutting away at the things that
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  Speaker 1: you know longer need to use. But you feel like
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  Speaker 1: your time is up, You feel like the door won't open,
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  Speaker 1: You feel like this dream that you have is not
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  Speaker 1: in bloom. Why do you see your life so differently
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  Speaker 1: from the natural progression of growth. It happens every year,
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  Speaker 1: every season, we see the same level of pruning, the loss,
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  Speaker 1: the painful loss of those leaves, only to see the
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  Speaker 1: bloom come back, only to see the green come back.
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  Speaker 1: But you see it as an end state. You see
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  Speaker 1: see it as nothing is going your way. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: here to let you know today that you might be pruned,
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  Speaker 1: but there is still a promise for you, and you
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  Speaker 1: must trust the process of growth. Think of a rose bush.
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  Speaker 1: You've heard it once, you've heard it twice. It needs
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  Speaker 1: to be prune. If not, it'll grow wildly, and more
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  Speaker 1: than likely it's not going to be focused on giving
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  Speaker 1: the best flowers, the best bloom. And so that's why
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  Speaker 1: the pruning process is important. And although we understand that
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  Speaker 1: in nature, we see that after we prune the rose bush,
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  Speaker 1: and after we prune the plant, they grow back better
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  Speaker 1: and they row back much more vibrantly. But when that
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  Speaker 1: shift happens in your life, you don't see it as
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  Speaker 1: an opportunity that will lead to your strengthening, an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: that will lead to your growth in a new direction,
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  Speaker 1: a bigger direction. You see it as a cutback. As
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  Speaker 1: a way to rob you of the thing that you wanted,
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  Speaker 1: when really it's setting you up for a capacity to
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  Speaker 1: experience something greater. I'm going to encourage you to appreciate
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  Speaker 1: the season of pruning because we know that pruning, and
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  Speaker 1: we experience pruning like a lo but I encourage you
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  Speaker 1: to recognize that pruning leads to strength, to things growing stronger.
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  Speaker 1: So think about it right now in your life, right now,
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  Speaker 1: in this season, what type of loss have you experienced
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  Speaker 1: or are you experiencing to make room, make space for
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  Speaker 1: something greater. And if you haven't thought about it like that,
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  Speaker 1: I encourage you to start to shift your perspective to
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  Speaker 1: see it in this way, because more than likely there's
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  Speaker 1: something better in store for you, something newer, better, stronger
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  Speaker 1: on the horizon for you. The other thing I want
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  Speaker 1: you to know when we think about growing down is
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  Speaker 1: that your growth happens in dirt. So guess what. Dirt
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  Speaker 1: is gonna be messy. It's not going to be prim
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  Speaker 1: and proper and polished and perfect in every way. It's
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  Speaker 1: gonna happen in not so perfect conditions. But what needs
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  Speaker 1: to be there for you to nurture it is your mindset,
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  Speaker 1: your habits and the people and the things you surround
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  Speaker 1: yourself with, those are gonna be the nutrients. Those are
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  Speaker 1: gonna be what you need to stay rooted in that
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  Speaker 1: dirt because you need that dirt. And it doesn't need
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  Speaker 1: to be perfect. You just need to be present. And
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  Speaker 1: I want you to know that you will not be
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  Speaker 1: able to grow in an environment that chokes out your
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  Speaker 1: faith and drains your energy. So if you are doing
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  Speaker 1: something today that is draining your energy, that is choking
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  Speaker 1: out your faith, not allowing you to believe bigger and
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  Speaker 1: believe for more in your life, and feeling stunted. Again,
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be perfect, but you cannot allow
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  Speaker 1: the things to rob you of the nutrients that you
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  Speaker 1: need to stay rooted. So my question for you is
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  Speaker 1: do you have or are you in the enriched environments
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  Speaker 1: you need to be in so you can grow emotionally
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  Speaker 1: and spiritually. And if the answer is no, you need
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  Speaker 1: to reevaluate where you are physically, spiritually, emotionally and if
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  Speaker 1: there's a person, a place, or a thing that triggers
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  Speaker 1: you outside. And again, you don't have to get to
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  Speaker 1: perfect soil, you just need good soil. The conditions aren't
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  Speaker 1: going to be perfect, but the soil has to be
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  Speaker 1: good so that you can grow in those spaces, the
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  Speaker 1: mental space, the emotional space, the spiritual space, so you
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  Speaker 1: can grow in those spaces. The last thing I want
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  Speaker 1: you to recognize because we hear it every day, we
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  Speaker 1: see it every day on social media. Everybody is doing
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  Speaker 1: something and that makes you feel like what you are
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  Speaker 1: doing is not equating to anything, and that makes you
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  Speaker 1: feel less than and that makes you feel insignificant. And
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  Speaker 1: all of the feels, none of which are good, none
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  Speaker 1: of which are healthy, none of which are nurturing. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to know this. All growth isn't loud. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't have it to be loud for you to be
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  Speaker 1: proud of it. If you're growing, that's something to be
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  Speaker 1: proud of. When you think about mother Nature and you
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  Speaker 1: think about the seasons that we talk about, nothing happens
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  Speaker 1: with loudness. Nature grows in her silence. She doesn't tell
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  Speaker 1: you I'm gonna grow today. I have a Japanese flower
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  Speaker 1: blossom tree in my yard and it's so fascinating. It's
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  Speaker 1: almost like a two and a half three week period
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  Speaker 1: where it goes from these tiny little green leaves and
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  Speaker 1: then eventually you see a tiny little white flower that
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  Speaker 1: starts to bud, and eventually those tiny flowers grow into
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  Speaker 1: little beautiful petals across the whole tree. It almost feels
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  Speaker 1: like it happens overnight, but it's every day. There's a
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  Speaker 1: level of growth that happens every season with this tree.
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  Speaker 1: And if you blink too long, you might miss the
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  Speaker 1: show that this tree puts on for you. And it
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  Speaker 1: puts on a beautiful show before it finally loses all
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  Speaker 1: those beautiful petals. It is a sea of white flowers
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  Speaker 1: all throughout this tree. Every branch, every inch of branch
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  Speaker 1: on this tree is covered with beautiful white blossoms of flowers.
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  Speaker 1: And then one day it all falls down and it
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  Speaker 1: looks like a snowstorm hit the tree, and all at
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  Speaker 1: the bottom of the tree on the ground is all
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  Speaker 1: these beautiful white petals everywhere. It is actually really pretty
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  Speaker 1: to watch. But my tree never tells me what it's doing.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't scream and yell at me about this. It
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  Speaker 1: all happens in silence. And that's what happens with your roots.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why that African proverb that reminds us about
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  Speaker 1: the importance of our roots is that it has to
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  Speaker 1: deepen before those branches will rise. And might I tell you,
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  Speaker 1: Might I share with you, May I remind you that
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  Speaker 1: sometimes in your life, when your greatest transformation happens, no
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  Speaker 1: one claps. There's no one around. Sometimes when some of
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  Speaker 1: your greatest transformative moments occur, but you get to make
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  Speaker 1: the decision to get up and go do it again.
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  Speaker 1: Get up and believe again in yourself, Get up to
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  Speaker 1: try again in yourself. Get up and love again. The
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  Speaker 1: truth of the matter is not everything that matters has
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  Speaker 1: to be seen or can be seen. Some things have
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  Speaker 1: to be done in private, but it can be felt.
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  Speaker 1: I saw a beautiful story the other day on social
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  Speaker 1: media of a guy that bought or sold his wife's ring.
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  Speaker 1: They made a decision to sell her ring that was
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  Speaker 1: a family heirloom because they had run into some financial challenges.
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  Speaker 1: And fast forward, the couple that they had sold a
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  Speaker 1: ring to ended up having a divorce. You know again,
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  Speaker 1: years had passed by. He kept in contact with the
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  Speaker 1: guy and you know, the bride at the time, and
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  Speaker 1: fast forward they were he was able to as one
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  Speaker 1: of the gifts that he had for his wife or
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  Speaker 1: I think there maybe thirteen year anniversary was he wanted
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  Speaker 1: to buy back that ring again. The significance of this
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  Speaker 1: ring is they sold it at a time where they
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  Speaker 1: were in dire and desperate needs, and now they're in
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  Speaker 1: a much better financial situation. And he had told this
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  Speaker 1: story so beautifully. I'm not even giving it the benefit
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  Speaker 1: that he had planned as a part two to the
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  Speaker 1: story to present it to his wife again after he
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  Speaker 1: had purchased it, repurchased it at their thirteen year anniversary
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  Speaker 1: dinner as a celebration. And what was interesting, even as
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  Speaker 1: somebody who was following the part two people were asking,
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  Speaker 1: where's the video of her receiving the ring? And he
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  Speaker 1: simply said, I couldn't. It was one of those moments
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  Speaker 1: that had to be in the moment. I couldn't take
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  Speaker 1: away from the moment by filming it. That doesn't mean
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  Speaker 1: that that moment didn't happen. That doesn't mean that they
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  Speaker 1: did not have this wonderful, transformative experience because it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: seen by the masses. And that's why I want you
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  Speaker 1: to be focused on the moments you're in and that
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  Speaker 1: not everything that matters has to be seen or can
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  Speaker 1: be seen. I just want to remind you don't rush
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  Speaker 1: your blooming season. Don't rush your season of becoming. You
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  Speaker 1: are still becoming even if it's quiet. You are still growing,
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  Speaker 1: even if it's messy, and you can be pruned because
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  Speaker 1: there's something that's coming next that's going to be greater,
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  Speaker 1: and you are part of that next. You are part
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  Speaker 1: of the season of your greater and don't you ever
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