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Question Driving Living 4: Trust Yourself Thursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: All right, my friends, welcome.
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Sweet Spot.
• 0:10
  Speaker 1: This is Dr Derek Sweet.
• 0:13
  Speaker 1: I am your host.
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  Speaker 1: As you know, I'm a board-certified psychiatrist and I specialize in high performance as well as sports psychiatry and, as you know, I love to help individuals live the life they dream of.
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: Boy, if only we could sit down and just talk in person and get this going, but we can't.
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: So guess what?
• 0:34
  Speaker 1: We have this sweet spot where we get to meet each other every single day of the week.
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: Yesterday, wouldn't it all?
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  Speaker 1: Wednesday we really went in on our topic, which is really about living a question-driven life, looking at questions and supposed to only looking for answers.
• 0:54
  Speaker 1: One of the things we said on Monday was that if you're only looking for answers and that's all you're doing, it can harden you, it can make you become very myopic, you can literally be rigid in just sort of thinking that, okay, well, this is the answer.
• 1:10
  Speaker 1: This must be the answer.
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  Speaker 1: What we're inviting everyone into this week is about asking more questions.
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  Speaker 1: So we find ourselves here in Trust Yourself Thursday, where science meets soul, where we're synthesizing science and soul.
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  Speaker 1: Here on the Sweet Spot and on Trust Yourself Thursday, we ask ourselves this question how many times have you had a gut feeling but ignored it?
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  Speaker 1: How often have you felt something deep down but talked yourself out of it, only to regret it later to say to yourself you know what?
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  Speaker 1: I knew it.
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  Speaker 1: I knew it, I knew it, but I didn't act on it.
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  Speaker 1: We live in a world, my friend, that constantly tells us to seek information and answers outside ourselves.
• 2:04
  Speaker 1: We live in a world that constantly tells us to seek outside validation.
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  Speaker 1: Google it.
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  Speaker 1: You know, google.
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  Speaker 1: It is the answer.
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  Speaker 1: Ask for advice, second guess.
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  Speaker 1: But what if all the wisdom you need is not in Google but inside of you?
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  Speaker 1: What if, instead of asking everyone else, you started asking and trusting yourself?
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  Speaker 1: Today's question, today's question, is what does my intuition ask?
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  Speaker 1: What does my spidey sense tell me?
• 2:48
  Speaker 1: What do my gut senses indicate to me?
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  Speaker 1: Today?
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  Speaker 1: Les Brown put it perfectly Don't let someone else's opinion of you become your reality, and that applies to decision making too.
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  Speaker 1: If you constantly let external voices override your internal knowing, guess what happens?
• 3:12
  Speaker 1: You lose trust in yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And without self-trust, well, you hesitate, you second guess and you miss the moments that could change everything.
• 3:30
  Speaker 1: You know that old saying he who hesitates is lost.
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  Speaker 1: It has real truth in that, but let's break it down in terms of the science.
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  Speaker 1: You know we love science here on the Sweet Spot.
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  Speaker 1: It's our thing.
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  Speaker 1: Your brain has two major systems for decision making.
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  Speaker 1: One is the prefrontal cortex you know the prefrontal cortex because we just discussed that yesterday the brain's logical analytical CEO.
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  Speaker 1: The other is the limbic system.
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  Speaker 1: You know where that fear monger, the amygdala, lives.
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  Speaker 1: It's not bad, it's just trying to protect us.
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  Speaker 1: So you have on one hand, the prefrontal cortex, the logical, analytical part of your brain, and then the other, the limbic system, which processes emotions, gut feelings and subconscious wisdom.
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  Speaker 1: Both parts of the brain are important.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the problem Most people over-rely on logic and ignore their intuition.
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  Speaker 1: You see, here's the wild part.
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  Speaker 1: Science proves intuition is real, even though people want to think that intuition is not a thing.
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  Speaker 1: Your brain processes over 11 million bits of information per second, according to science, but your conscious mind can only handle about 50.
• 4:52
  Speaker 1: 11 million think about that.
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  Speaker 1: 11 million bits of information per second, but you can only consciously handle about 50.
• 5:02
  Speaker 1: Handle about 50.
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  Speaker 1: That means your intuition is picking up on patterns, on energy and subtle cues, long before your rational mind that's working on the 50 can catch up, and that's why you sometimes just know something before you can explain it.
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  Speaker 1: And in sports it's so important to have this intuitive sense and to trust those gut feelings and that intuition and to really develop it.
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  Speaker 1: You know one of my favorite, favorite philosophers or motivational speakers, wayne Dyer he's no longer with us but he said if prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking to you.
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  Speaker 1: That means that intuition isn't just a feeling, it's a guidance system, it's a GPS designed to lead you towards your best decisions ever.
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  Speaker 1: But you have to get quiet enough to listen to it and access it To get to that deeper wisdom, to get to that thing inside of you that tells you what to do.
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  Speaker 1: Even scripture reminds us in Proverbs 3.5 that trust in the divine with all your heart and lead not to your mind, lead not to your own understanding.
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  Speaker 1: Notice it doesn't say in the ancient wisdom.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't say don't think.
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  Speaker 1: It just says don't overthink.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes the best decisions aren't the ones that you can explain, but the ones that you just have a feeling are right.
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  Speaker 1: You ever been there.
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  Speaker 1: You can't really explain it logically, but you have a feeling and you have an intuitive knowledge that it's correct.
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  Speaker 1: So here's what I want you to do today Instead of asking yourself what the right move is, I want you to sit with the question what does my intuition want?
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  Speaker 1: What is my intuition telling me?
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  Speaker 1: What are my spidey senses tingling about?
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  Speaker 1: What does my gut tell me?
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  Speaker 1: And then I want you to take a deep breath, get quiet and see what comes up, then write it down.
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  Speaker 1: Don't judge it, don't analyze it, just capture it.
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  Speaker 1: Be with the question what do I want, what does my intuition want?
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  Speaker 1: And then take a breath, get quiet and let the answer come to you.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're struggling with this, don't worry.
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  Speaker 1: It's really hard to do this because we're so driven to just go to the internet, pick up the phone and just get an answer.
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  Speaker 1: So if it's really hard, I want you to try this simple test.
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  Speaker 1: Think about a decision, close your eyes and ask yourself does this feel light or does it feel heavy?
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  Speaker 1: If it feels light, peaceful, energizing, that's your intuition giving you a green light right there.
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  Speaker 1: If it feels kind of weird, kind of heavy, kind of tight or draining, that's your intuition probably warning you to slow down and give this some more thought.
• 8:33
  Speaker 1: Tony Robbins says that it's in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.
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  Speaker 1: So today, trust yourself A little more.
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  Speaker 1: That's what Trust Yourself Thursday is about.
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  Speaker 1: Tune in and ask the right question today and let your intuition speak before your doubts do.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, keep questioning, keep listening and I'll see you tomorrow.
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: For Friday, not just any Friday, it's Finish Strong Friday All right now.
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  Speaker 1: So, look, I want you to just trust yourself today.
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  Speaker 1: Work on it, but don't just trust yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Ask yourself what is my intuition?
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  Speaker 1: Some people call it the Holy Spirit.
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  Speaker 1: What is the Holy Spirit telling me?
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  Speaker 1: Some people say it's my spidey senses.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, what are my spidey senses telling me?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, but just slow down enough to connect with that internal sense and knowledge driven by another part of the brain, that limbic part of the brain.
• 9:47
  Speaker 1: Sometimes the CEO does have to take a seat so you can process from a different space.
• 9:55
  Speaker 1: Okay, now, this is Dr Sweet.
• 9:57
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening.
• 9:59
  Speaker 1: I really appreciate the time you took to listen to this entire Trust Yourself Thursday episode and I really pray and hope that you will find a deeper sense of connection as you slow down to trust your intuition.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, look for me on LinkedIn, on Instagram, on X and on threads.
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  Speaker 1: I'll see you tomorrow, take care.