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Would you rather… I can’t believe I answered that 😂💕 · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Apoday production.
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  Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the
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  Speaker 2: to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara.
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  Speaker 1: Hello everybody, We've got a fun funny episode coming up
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  Speaker 1: for you guys. Yeah, sit back and relax. But Share
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  Speaker 1: of the week, what's yours?
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to talk about this foundation but I've never
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  Speaker 2: ever tried before. It has been around for a very
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  Speaker 2: long time coming just take me the song to try
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  Speaker 2: it so loreal, true match. It literally goes on like
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  Speaker 2: water like, so easy to blend, move around. The coverage
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  Speaker 2: is nice and I just love it. It feels great
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  Speaker 2: on my skin. So yeah, that is my share of
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  Speaker 2: the week. New foundation, which is crazy.
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  Speaker 1: And when Kia was telling me about this, I've got
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  Speaker 1: the dupe of it, So the MC beauty tinted serum
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  Speaker 1: is apparently the dupe of that, and I love it.
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  Speaker 3: It's so good. I just got mine from like wool Worse.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really nice in the skin and it's got
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  Speaker 1: highly watery acid in it.
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  Speaker 3: It just feels really nice. Hey, it does.
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  Speaker 2: It's like the consistency everything else that I use watery
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  Speaker 2: or something. It's a bit more watery for sure, but
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  Speaker 2: it's really easy to work with. And I just layer
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  Speaker 2: a good thick like layer of moisturizer underneath first and then.
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  Speaker 3: Just like, oh, so nice.
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  Speaker 2: I just feel like it doesn't even feel like I'm
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  Speaker 2: wearing makeup.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I love it all.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to share something that I've been doing with Tala,
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  Speaker 1: and it's nightly affirmations. I'm going to play it just
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  Speaker 1: on here for you guys to hear because it's so
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  Speaker 1: freaking cute. She obviously can't talk free well because she's two,
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  Speaker 1: but this is what we do each other, and I
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  Speaker 1: just I've had people offer to send the affirmation cards,
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  Speaker 1: but I like saying them just as they come up
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  Speaker 1: for me more, I don't know, genuine and special to her.
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  Speaker 4: I am strong, I am loving, am I am curious,
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  Speaker 4: I give it. I am fantastic, I mean, I am caring.
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  Speaker 4: I am kind, gay, I am determined, I am incredible.
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  Speaker 4: I am gable, I am smart, I am alive.
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  Speaker 5: I am healthy, I mean healthy. I am a good dancer.
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  Speaker 5: I am full of love. No nice send the morning.
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  Speaker 2: Her little voice is the cutest thing I have ever heard.
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  Speaker 2: I am determined, So.
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  Speaker 1: She can't say it. She's trying to say in the tone.
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  Speaker 1: And if you watch me on Instagram stories and I
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  Speaker 1: uploaded it, I like, do different actions like I am loving,
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  Speaker 1: put it on my heart, I am incredible, lift my
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  Speaker 1: hands up. In the end, she does the exact same.
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  Speaker 1: I just think those first seven years. And apparently I've
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  Speaker 1: seen more videos lately because we follow somebody parenting pages.
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  Speaker 1: But age three to seven is really important. But age
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  Speaker 1: one to seven it's like where they get all of
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  Speaker 1: their belief systems from. So if you're constantly telling them
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  Speaker 1: how amazing they are, how smart they are, how capable
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  Speaker 1: they are, how incredible they are, they will grow up
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  Speaker 1: believing that their confidence will be through the roof. Whereas
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  Speaker 1: you're constantly putting your kids down and saying you're not
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  Speaker 1: doing that right, like you're bad for doing this. That
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  Speaker 1: becomes air belief. I'm not good enough, I'm not smart enough,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not capable, I'm always in trouble. I'm always letting
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  Speaker 1: my mom down. So important the language and words that
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  Speaker 1: we put into our kids' brains, they are little sponges.
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  Speaker 1: They really are. Well finishing the night night that with
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  Speaker 1: her just feeling so good about herself. Obviously she doesn't
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  Speaker 1: really know what a lot of them mean. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 1: I'd want that to be her normal where she speaks
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  Speaker 1: to herself with those words and those languages for anyone
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  Speaker 1: ever tried to tell her otherwise, she'd be like, I've.
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  Speaker 2: Been telling myself every day that on the opposite, so
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  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure, pretty.
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  Speaker 3: Sure I'm dumb. I'm smart as.
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  Speaker 1: I'm fantastic. Like can you imagine that was? I want
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  Speaker 1: her to giggle and be like, no, I'm fucking fantastic. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it bounces straight off me.
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  Speaker 2: Miller loves doing them. Yeah, we were doing the car
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  Speaker 2: on the way to school. But that's really special to
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  Speaker 2: do it before bed.
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  Speaker 1: Because it would bed with the goodbyes on.
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  Speaker 2: Their mind as well.
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  Speaker 1: When they're going to meditation I really like that, So
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  Speaker 1: we're actually good an episode. It's like would you rather,
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  Speaker 1: but more serious ones. But before we get into it,
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  Speaker 1: Kiara and I were having a conversation about star signs
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  Speaker 1: and I got up a little thing to see how
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  Speaker 1: compatible we are. Kiara, do just know about this?
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  Speaker 2: I'm so excited, I know.
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  Speaker 1: So I've just sent Kiara the article as well. We're
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  Speaker 1: going to read outs and pieces of it.
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  Speaker 2: So it says Virgo and Sagittarius friends can be incredibly
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  Speaker 2: helpful to each other. Virgo, due to their perfectionist nature,
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  Speaker 2: can involve themselves in numerous tasks. Sagittarius, due to their
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  Speaker 2: energetic nature, can always lift Virgo's mood and offer a
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  Speaker 2: helping hand whenever they can. Whether or not Virgo can
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  Speaker 2: trust their work is another matter. Both these signs also
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  Speaker 2: have a strong sense of conviction, even though they differ
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  Speaker 2: in their approaches. This gives them solidity, and their diverse
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  Speaker 2: personalities brings dynamism, which increases the Virgo and Sagittarius friendship capability.
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  Speaker 2: Virgo Sagittarius friendships can be weak at times when Virgo
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  Speaker 2: tries to direct Sagittarius actions too much. Sagittarius can be
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  Speaker 2: too assertive as well. But what matters is how both
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  Speaker 2: of them react to each other's suggestions. If both of
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  Speaker 2: them can offer suggestions and also give them the freedom
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  Speaker 2: to accept or reject those, Virgis Sagittarius friendships can last
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  Speaker 2: for a lifetime.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so similar to this part I'm reading. While Virgo
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  Speaker 1: and sad do have excellent potential to create a healthy
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  Speaker 1: and supportive relationship dynamic with that's romantic or platonic, which
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  Speaker 1: will probably menation to will not always be smooth sailing,
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  Speaker 1: which is in the case of any square aspect dynamic.
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  Speaker 1: For one thing, virger Is particular, Sagittarius is a lot
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  Speaker 1: more laid back, but sometimes to the point of tactlessness,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's differences and approaching chores, communications, or social grace,
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  Speaker 1: Virgo may find themselves frustrated with sagas disorderly antics. You
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  Speaker 1: have strengths that I don't have, and vice versa, and
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  Speaker 1: that's why the friendship works. And I've said it from
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  Speaker 1: the get go, I don't even know how to use
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  Speaker 1: fucking Google docs. But when you started doing these episode
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  Speaker 1: called these Google docs with these different topics and like organizing,
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  Speaker 1: and it's highlighted and read and we can both type
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  Speaker 1: at the same time.
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  Speaker 3: I was blown away.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, here I am being
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  Speaker 1: the laid back, like spontaneous person.
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  Speaker 3: I would have just rocked up to the studio and just.
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  Speaker 1: Like you know, winged it. But I love how organized
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  Speaker 1: you are.
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  Speaker 2: It's a good balance, such a good balance. It is
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  Speaker 2: a good balance because then you as well, you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: that's just like right now, let's just chuck this in there,
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  Speaker 2: and it makes it more interesting and fun.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you're organized and create a lot of certainty
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  Speaker 1: and we know we can get shit done. And then
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  Speaker 1: sometimes I feel like I bring the adventure of the
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  Speaker 1: risk taking and the playfulness.
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  Speaker 2: Definitely, it mixes so well. It does mix so well,
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  Speaker 2: especially with work. I feel like I'm quite analytical.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, and I'm not Yes, I'm not.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I do remember you saying you struggle if Kurt and
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  Speaker 1: I are more assertive yes, and like dominant yes. Whereas
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  Speaker 1: I think from what I've read of Sagittarians who we are,
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  Speaker 1: we can be quite leaders and try and take control
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  Speaker 1: and like organize everything with the social one the adventurous ones.
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  Speaker 3: So that's been something for me to like.
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  Speaker 1: It's good feedback to go, oh, just be cautious, to
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  Speaker 1: not be so dominant.
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  Speaker 2: It's so funny though, because I only find it in
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  Speaker 2: work wise, and maybe it's because as well, Like this
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  Speaker 2: could truly be because I've worked on my own for
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  Speaker 2: so long. You do everything your own way, and then
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  Speaker 2: when you got two people, you're like, oh, wow, now
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  Speaker 2: I need to consider how we do this and how
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  Speaker 2: we do that. Or like sometimes I'll write, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like something all the way out and then you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know about that, and they're like, oh shit.
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  Speaker 2: But because you're so used to being like doing stuff
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  Speaker 2: on your own, it's just getting used to it. But
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  Speaker 2: I feel like we do it pretty freaking.
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  Speaker 1: Well, definitely, and I get it. If I don't take control,
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  Speaker 1: then you will think I'm lazy.
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  Speaker 2: We honestly, honestly probably have both got a little bit ship.
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  Speaker 2: But then I feel like I've got that wounding too,
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  Speaker 2: because like you know, that's that masculine shield coming up.
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  Speaker 2: So when we're both in that masculine energy and one
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  Speaker 2: of us isn't kind of being more submissive, you clash
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  Speaker 2: because you need one being more the masculine, more the feminine,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't want.
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  Speaker 1: You to think like, oh, she just you've never done
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  Speaker 1: anything to make me feel like my own. But I
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  Speaker 1: get scared you'll be like, oh, she just expects me
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  Speaker 1: to do it all. So sometimes I'm like, I'll just
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  Speaker 1: jump in and get it done and then here can relax.
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  Speaker 2: I think we balance it perfectly right now. I feel
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  Speaker 2: like the last few months, the way we've been doing
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  Speaker 2: this has just been very easy.
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  Speaker 1: And it was also I think we're getting better at communicating,
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  Speaker 1: as in, like I remember when I was going through
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  Speaker 1: my stuff with Baseline, I was like, my brain's not on.
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  Speaker 1: I really need you to lead a lot of these conversations.
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  Speaker 1: And even though it still felt really even, I just
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  Speaker 1: felt like I could drop in and like you take control.
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  Speaker 1: And this time you were like, oh, I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I haven't had much time to prep, and I was like, cool.
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  Speaker 2: Go in me. I'm like I need a prep. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I was like sitting back and relax, like I've got this,
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  Speaker 1: like everything out, I'm feeling and confident. It's really flowy
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  Speaker 1: episodes like We've got this all, you know. So I
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  Speaker 1: think we've just gotten so much better at communicating. Whether
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  Speaker 1: we're ever bad, no, But when you have a friendship
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  Speaker 1: and you're entering a business and work dynamic. Things can
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  Speaker 1: change and you have to learn to be communicating. Wear
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  Speaker 1: both hats quite well. It is.
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  Speaker 2: It's the switch on switch off, isn't it?
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  Speaker 1: It really is so good, so good.
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  Speaker 2: Anyways, that was a well apparently our communication compatibility is
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  Speaker 2: sixty percent sixty They would be hoped to be higher
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  Speaker 2: than nothing. Fine, I think we're high.
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  Speaker 1: We're not.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, I think we I think there's not much. It
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  Speaker 2: goes like.
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  Speaker 1: Unsaid no, and it's always very respectful, yeah, and very
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  Speaker 1: kind and very loving.
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  Speaker 2: It's always us taking accountability. Yes, like all this has
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  Speaker 2: triggered me. I need to just see while this is
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  Speaker 2: my own share or even if something happens and you're
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  Speaker 2: like that upset me, Like, but that's my fault, it upset.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's not your Yes, we reassure each other.
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  Speaker 5: We do.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so true.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, we've got some would you rather so?
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  Speaker 3: Both Kiir and I.
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  Speaker 1: We want you guys to play along, so have a
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  Speaker 1: get out of pen and paper or just like have
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  Speaker 1: a think about what you do. Some are serious and
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  Speaker 1: some are silly. We really playful fun episode because we
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  Speaker 1: do this like in our friendship. So I thought, why
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  Speaker 1: not bring this to the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: I'm littly nervous. I read over a couple of years
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  Speaker 2: and I was like, I have no idea what I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to answer that.
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  Speaker 3: You got to answer?
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  Speaker 1: All right, I'll start, Okay, would you rather never have
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  Speaker 1: to worry about money again? But not have any really
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  Speaker 1: close friends or have a really beautiful friendships and always
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  Speaker 1: be worrying about money?
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  Speaker 4: Ah?
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  Speaker 2: Close friendships obviously, so you're always stressed about money. But
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  Speaker 2: then also that's a huge burden to always be stressed
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  Speaker 2: about money. But I would rather I think not having
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  Speaker 2: connection would be so much worse than not having I'm
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  Speaker 2: an agree with money stress. You just have less and.
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  Speaker 3: Let's do less.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it is still like, honestly, fucking hell, financial
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  Speaker 2: freedomould be a really nice feeling too.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, vircial burden is very consuming. Oh, it's like so.
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  Speaker 2: Bad for your nervous system, mental health.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, even a lot of relationships, I say, like most
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  Speaker 1: divorces end these days because of money stress. Yeah, it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't surprise me. Yes, Yeah, how about you of agreements?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Rather yeah, connections my high style you're not money, Yeah, definitely.
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  Speaker 2: What would you rather give up on social media, or
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  Speaker 2: eat the same dinner for the rest of your life.
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  Speaker 2: I know you're a foodie.
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  Speaker 1: I am a foodie, but I could easily have the
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  Speaker 1: same dish every night for dinner. Oh, he go, because
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  Speaker 1: I kind of eat the same dishes on rotation. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: Taco's one night's steak another night, speedy bolonnais another night,
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  Speaker 1: chicken and veg another night, like just because the kids
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  Speaker 1: and I.
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  Speaker 3: Enjoy those meals.
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  Speaker 2: What would you want?
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  Speaker 1: Meal be?
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  Speaker 3: Probably chicken, snitzeel and veggies.
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  Speaker 2: For the horrors of your life.
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  Speaker 3: That or speedy onance.
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  Speaker 2: So no more Asian fusion, no going out for dinner.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I could do that easily. Yeah, But was the
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  Speaker 1: other option not.
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  Speaker 3: Be on social media?
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  Speaker 2: Give up on social media?
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  Speaker 1: I would also love a life from those social you know.
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  Speaker 1: I think so either I could do Yeah, but I'd
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  Speaker 1: probably choose the meal because I get a lot of
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  Speaker 1: connection in my work and everything is on social media.
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  Speaker 1: But you yeah, I'd probably choose.
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  Speaker 2: To eat the same food as well for right now.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we're talking like this is actual. Would you rather
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  Speaker 1: never wear makeup or never wear fake tan?
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  Speaker 3: Again?
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  Speaker 2: Fake tan?
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  Speaker 3: You'd rather be pale?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Oh?
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  Speaker 3: I think I'm the opposite.
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  Speaker 2: I have got a bit of natural ten in me.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, so you'd rather not wear makeup ye again
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  Speaker 2: and have really because you're always mentionally always gonna be oh,
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  Speaker 2: look so pacy.
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  Speaker 1: We don't have it on.
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  Speaker 2: But I think you're just saying that. I don't feel
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  Speaker 2: like you actually.
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  Speaker 1: Would prefer without a fake don't babe. And I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to sun bake all the time, yeah, because my
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  Speaker 1: tan just fades so quick and mum's head skin cancer something.
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  Speaker 1: I've been the sun all the time. No, and I
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  Speaker 1: just I feel like it look sick. But I don't
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  Speaker 1: have fake tan on. Like there's always someone that say, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you're really tired, or like any okay, like there's just
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  Speaker 1: crushing on like, yeah, I'm just pisty.
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  Speaker 2: And then I guess like if you went make up free,
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  Speaker 2: you could get a lot of different work or things
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  Speaker 2: done on your face to make it happy the way
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  Speaker 2: you look. I could go try skinneedling for the first time.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, I think I would choose to get rid
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  Speaker 2: of the tam. Yeah, as much as I love my nice.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah you go.
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  Speaker 1: Brown on the sun, I do go browning.
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  Speaker 5: I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I go to barley for a week, and like
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  Speaker 1: one day I might be like, oh, a bit of color.
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  Speaker 3: The next day white.
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  Speaker 2: Oh do you peel?
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  Speaker 1: No, I don't peel good, but just white. Like Hi,
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  Speaker 1: you're going again.
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  Speaker 2: I think you've got to be like consistent, like when
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  Speaker 2: you go in the sun.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I also get like, all, my timmy, you've
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  Speaker 1: got so many moles and freckles from being in the sun.
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  Speaker 1: So if I'm just some bake all lay in the sun,
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  Speaker 1: but I'll have like three or more freckles pop up.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah I'm frankly too.
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  Speaker 1: I'm freckly. Yeah, me too. Tyler calls them on my belly,
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  Speaker 1: the bigger ones nipples, nipples. She's combined mole and nipple
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  Speaker 1: and mummy is big nipple. Oh that is she knows
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  Speaker 1: what a nipple is, and she knows what a mole is,
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  Speaker 1: and she's combined them. I'm like, my gosh, so funny.
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  Speaker 2: Would you rather know the date of your death or
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  Speaker 2: the cause of your death? You have to choose one date,
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  Speaker 2: the date so you know when you're going to die.
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  Speaker 2: Then remember I already know, yeah, yeah, rather the date, Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Then I know like how much time I've got, how
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to live my life. I feel like I
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  Speaker 1: could really live my life full out. I'd make the
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  Speaker 1: most of every moment. I'd book into my travel. I'd
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  Speaker 1: like take my kids where I want to take them.
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: I'd set up things that can help them have good
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: memories of me. I'd want to to date about you.
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: I find this one so hard. I just like all
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: this stuff to be a mystery.
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: But and it is a mystery.
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: It is a mystery.
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: I feel like, no, how because I feel like if
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: I knew the date, it would be really hard to
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: not fixate on it. So I think for my own
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: mental capacity, how but not no when? So it just
• 14:59
  Speaker 2: like happened.
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh the anxiety of wondering when it's going to
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: happen though, But we're.
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: All going to die one day anyway. Anxiety that.
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: Would you rather be in a job that you hate
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: but have the best, deeply connected marriage, or have a
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: job that fulfills you and pays amazing and your relationships
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: just mediocre?
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: First one job that I hate and a good relationship.
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of us have been there anyway,
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: Like been in a job that you hate, but.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: For me, fucking consuming being in a job you hate,
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: like I'm talking, you hate going you go nine to
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: five Monday to Friday, Like that's seventy percent of your life.
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but then when you're a tie, you gotta be
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: with that person every day too, if they're alive.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: Would you rather travel and experience the whole world but
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: live a shorter life or live a longer life but
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: only ever stay in the one place?
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: So like, how far can you travel? Like I couldn't
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: travel a shy or I could travel a show.
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: I can't travel to stay in your location where you live,
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: like the first the first one live a short a
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: little bit around the Gold Coast, live a shorter life
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: and traveling around. Yeah, yeah, me too, that's easy one
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: for me.
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: Flip a coin for the chance to win two hundred
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: thousand dollars or immediately get twenty thousand dollars.
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: Oh first one for a coin? Yeah yeah, grand, Like, yeah,
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: I know I can earn that that will come to me. Yeah,
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: but I'd rather take a chance. Take your chance if
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: you don't get the two under grand like you didn't
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: have anyways, So that's exactly right, you get it.
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: That's life changing.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I heard this story the other day. Actually,
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: it was in one of my courses about this, and
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: it was this lady who won the lottery. Thought it'd
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: be a fun, little interesting story to share while we're
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: on the topic. She won the lottery, right, and she
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: was over the moon. She was just so happy, so excited.
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: She'd won twelve million dollars, went in there to receive
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: the money. Oh no, what happened, and then found out
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: it's one amongst like ten of them. Oh, then she
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: got two million dollars. But by the time all the
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: taxes and everything came off, she got a million dollars.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: She fell into a deep depression, more depressed than she'd
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: ever been in her whole life. What yep, because she
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: thought she'd want all that money, and then she had
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: one only a million?
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: Only a million?
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: Yes, but you know the crazy thing, This is why
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: the mindset is so powerful. When she had one twelve
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: million but didn't physically have any extra money than she's
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: ever had, she was the happiest, most excited she'd been
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: in her entire life. And then when she had a
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: million dollars, the most money she's ever had in her
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: entire life, she was the most depressed she has ever
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: been and Yeah, I just thought that was a really
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: cool little mindset storyeho. Yep, and she physically actually had
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: the million dollars by that.
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: Point far out. That's crazy.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: Also, how nice would have been win a million dollars?
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Would you rather be okay at most things? Or
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: be an expert at one topic that you're passionate about?
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: Be okay at most things. I feel like to be
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: able to understand people more and have more knowledge around
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: more topics. I would rather that versus not knowing about
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: heats of other things and just knowing one thing. I
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: think you can relate to people more, more diverse, and
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: also learn way more about yourself if you're learning about
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: dabbling all different topics.
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: What about you?
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm the same, You're the same. Would you rather
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: work a high paying job that you hate or a
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: dream job with only enough money for necessities so you
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: couldn't travel it's not a necessity.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: But if you have the job you hate, you can
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: obviously get all the money in the world.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: High paying job you hate or a dream job with
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: only enough money for necessities.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: Probably ah, so hard, Probably the dream job. But then
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: with the job you hate, you can travel and like really.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: Look forward to your holiday so you can have your
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: fun and fulfillment from other areas or work dream job.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: But then also like, could you pick up a side gig?
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: Look at us bending the rules.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm in two minds about this one. I think
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: I'd go the dream job, but then I keep getting
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: pulled back to take the job I hate and get
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: my fun fulfilled elsewhere and use my money to create
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: more happiness everwhere else.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I'd do the same honestly.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: Even with more money, Like you can help more people,
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: which fulfills a massive need of mind like a love
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: making impact and contribution.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: H But then you can do that with the dream
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: job in other ways.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, But then to only have enough money to have
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: a necessities, like you couldn't buy a house, Yeah, you
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: could just putn't travel, you couldn't go out for dinners,
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: all those things. You know.
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: I do value a lot of that.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: I'll go the first one.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: I think I'll go the first one.
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: Okay, this is a funny one. Would you rather have
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: your mouth take for one year and not talk or
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: have your hands tied for one year and not be
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: able to use your hands?
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: Well, I need to get rid of my hands so
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: I can keep it on the podcast. Yeah, I think,
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: you know what, I'm pretty good at using my feet,
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: Like I can pick stuff up with my toes, like
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: I can walk past an eygrass likens, pick it up
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: my toes. There you go, and then I put it
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: in my hand mouth and even then, like how do
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: you eat? You know?
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: But I think about Bethany Hamilt from the girl that
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: like her arm got in by a shark. Yeah she changes.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: She has four kids, now she changes. You just get
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: used to it, wouldn't you still got one arm, but yeah,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: you would get used to it. Not talking it would
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: be really hard. But if you couldn't talk, you could
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: write what you wanted to say. I know how long
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: would that take?
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: And you feel so disconnected. I feel like I feel
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: so disconnected not talking, honestly, I feel like that's like, yeah, that.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: Would be really uncomfortable to sleep though.
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: I know, but like, can you imagine not doing to.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: Any like your kids are not hearing your voice?
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not shit, or even just like trying to
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: communicate something when you're like frustrate. It'd be so hard, Steve,
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: give me that.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, that makes sense which would you choose?
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: I think the same.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. Would you rather always be twenty
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: minutes late or two hours early?
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: Two hours early?
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: Pretty early in most things?
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: Two hours though, Yeah, because I.
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: Can put my time, I can read a book, I
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: can meditate and go for a walk.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: I think it's a laundromt lately because my washing machines broken.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: I walk in between the Washington drum or feel it? Okay,
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm changing. I feel like I was
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: always super early. I feel like I'm becoming an on timer.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: So I would say, if it's out of two hours
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: and twenty minutes, I'm taking the twenty minutes.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: But then you're gonna let your kids hang around at
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: school when no one else is around because you're twenty
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: minutes late to pick them up and there's strange danger
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: lever us.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: They'll be in their classroom.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: Still, what do they not come out to meet you? No,
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: to got into the classroom to pick them up?
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: Well, no, they know who is so you put in
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: you're picking them up the classroom. They all lot to
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: lead to you there.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: So tar does they all come out the front, Yeah,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: some of them do that. So you're doing okay, to
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: hold your teachers up twenty minutes every single day. Well,
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: they're there anyway.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: What if they want to go home and all the
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: kids have gone except for yours.
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: They're there till four o'clock. But yeah, I think if
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: I had shoes two hours early, that's so much time
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: out of.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: A dad, so much for yourself.
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: But you're there so like you're in your car.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: But you can go for a walk, you can meditate,
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: you can read, do all your emails, create Google docs, eat,
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: you can eat, you can eat eating, go get some GYG.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Chips, GYG chips home to honestly, can we can we please?
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna go twenty minutes you otherwise?
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: What am I doing?
• 22:10
  Speaker 5: I know?
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: Well, I used to always be that person too.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: We were both really early. You know what, I'm agreeing
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: with you.
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: I'm on time at the moment. I'm not super early.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: It's like we both have in but it's nice because
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: we're not.
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not one of us super It's uncomfortable though.
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: I don't like to be late.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, as long as the person knows so, like, I
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: will always say to you, like even this morning for example, right,
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: And she was gonna be at seven forty five, and
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: I said, I will leave my house around seven, so
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: I'll let you know like when i'm leaving, because it just.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: Depends, and I don't care if you're late.
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then she knows, She's like, sweet, I'll make
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: sure that I've got stuff there that I do, you
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: know what I mean, coffee. But I don't like when
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: people show up and don't let you know. Yes, I
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: feel like they're not respecting your time, because I would
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: call the school if I was going to be twenty minutes, like,
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: I'm so sorry, I'm going to be twenty mines late.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: But imagine having to that every day? How embarrassing? Not
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: like you?
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: How many excuses can you come up with?
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: My god, okay, last one that I've got if you
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: had to chew one, would you rather all of your
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: text messages leaked, every single one of.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Them, or all of your photos and videos text messages?
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: Really?
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I've got some deep conversations with you with everyone
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: them we do often redially. We actually taught all of
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: my friends to do the same thing.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, delete them off.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: Let's say we haven't.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Okay, so there's like our deepest like we're vulnerable.
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: But then there's also like my deepest things on photos and.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: Video sexy videos, Steve, I did not want that.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: I would choose text messages.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: I don't care about photos, to be honest, like, okay, cool,
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: you see my boobs whatever, Yeah, like anything else.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: But even like photos of like I've got photos of Kurt.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: It's like he's privacy. He's got cheeky one like we'vet
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: cheeky ones gets out of the shower like.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, I don't have those of Steve.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I think I choose text messages. Yeah, I
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: feel like a lot of my deepest conversations happen in
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: person anyway, or some low voice messages.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: With you, you know. Yeah, my friends, we've always messaged
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah, like me and Megsie, me and Deanie,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: me and Sarah me. Yeah, I think I'll go photos,
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: you go photos.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: But then there's I needed to deleat some videos, even
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: photos of like the kids nude and stuff I really
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: take better as my kids neuds like fro when they
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: were little, when they were younger, I've.
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: Always got nappies on.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, i feel like I've got ones from like when
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: our kids are really young. Like in the bath together.
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: And stuff like that.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: In the bar, yeah, in the bar, or like in
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: the pool because like we always like they will do
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: noody swims and stuff.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so much to think about.
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: Never have a home or never go outside? What so,
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: never have a home, so you have to like live
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: at other people's houses, like go places or never go outside?
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: Oh my friends okay for me to stay at their house.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: Well, they might tell you they are.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: I'd love to live with my friends. Yeah, oh I
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: think never have a home. Never have a home, yeah, yeah,
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: not being able to.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: Go outside, I know.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: I'd happily live with a couple of my girlfriends and
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: their families. Yeah, so you have to kind of just
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: move around.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right. And last one, be able to remember
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: everything you learn or remember clearly all of your most
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: fond memories, and able to relive them whenever you want.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: That last option, last option.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I can always relearn stuff, and some stuff
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: that I've learned I don't even need.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: The memories are way more special. Same with you. What
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: are you thinking, I'm thinking it's a hard one to answer.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm thinking it'd be really amazing to be
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: able to remember everything you can learn, because I feel
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: like you'd be able to, like fucking imagine the knowledge
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: you could have and the lessons you could teach others
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: and what you could bring to the.
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: World because you're learning so much at the moment too.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: Oh imagine you just read everything. I feel like I
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: literally like read a book, do an audiobook on it
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: as well, and then like listen to a few podcasts
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: on it, and then like, after like a year, I'm.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: Like, what was that about again?
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it's so hard to keep remembering info but
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: then living your fondest memories like Christmas mornings with the kids.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: As you get older than.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: Your children, I think I'd have to choose that I
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: would the pain.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: I don't want to experience it, but like I'd love
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: to birth.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: So you're not in the pain, it's just the memories
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: you're reliving it.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: So to birth your kids again, oh love to my gosh,
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: that'd be amazing. That'd be amazing.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: PS To attract better, you have to become better. You
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: can't do the same things and expect change. Transform your mindset,
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: upgrade your habits, think positive, be hopeful and consistent with
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: your evolution. It all starts with you and how you
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: feel about yourself.
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: That's beautiful.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: Ps, don't sabotage your future peace because familiar chaos is comfortable.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: Oh that's a good one.
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: So good.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: Guys.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: We'll see you on Wednesday.
• 26:53
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• 27:00
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• 27:02
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