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Why Premarital Coaching is a Non-Negotiable · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for May 9, 2026 Why Premarital Coaching is a Non-Negotiable,
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  Today's bonus post is something about which I feel very passionate.
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  Premarital Coaching. The best
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  way to deal with a problem is to address it before it becomes a problem.
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  Sometimes that can prevent the problem. Other times it means you're ready to
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  deal with the problem when it comes along.
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  Both are better than not seeing it coming and being slammed.
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  I realize I'm not talking to single folks here, but many of you have yet to
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  marry children, and you all know young couples moving that direction.
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  So I am begging you to encourage any couple who will listen to you to get good premarital coaching.
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  One very wise fellow contacted me about getting pre-premarital coaching.
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  He and the lady he was interested in were both single parents with a divorce behind them.
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  Neither wanted another bad marriage, and they decided to get help before they
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  had even decided they wanted to get married.
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  Pre-premarital turned into premarital and then a wedding, and because they had
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  gotten ahead of things, they didn't have nearly the difficulty most blended families experience.
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  Good premarital coaching is at least a half a dozen sessions over a number of weeks.
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  It should be tailored to the couple, not a one-size-fits-all book study.
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  Books can be helpful, but they can't replace face-to-face coaching.
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  Lori and I have used Prepare and Rich, and it's a huge help,
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  as it can point to potential problems.
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  I encourage you to look for someone using that tool. And very importantly,
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  good premarital must include discussions about sex.
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  You would be surprised how many premarital curriculums ignore the issue or touch
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  on it for just a few minutes Sex seems simple, but making it work can be complex
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  Couples given warnings and solutions before they have issues do much better Ideally,
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  a couple meets with someone who will be there for them after the marriage If
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  problems arise, they already have a relationship, making it easier to go for
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  and get help This is Paul, and premarital coaching makes doing marriage well far easier.