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Episode 599: THIS Person Will Stop You From Getting Your Ex Back! · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lee Chi Hoon. With the art of love, I'm a
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  dating and relationship. Experts specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex this week.
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  I want to talk about the person that is going to prevent you
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  from getting your ex back. Yes.
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  Who is this evil person? Well, stay tuned and you'll find
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  out. But first, I want to welcome
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  back my beautiful. No contact Army.
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  Have you been a good little soldier or a bad?
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  Little soldier? I have not said that phrase in a
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  no contact, secrets.com, where you can read to free chapters
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  before purchasing the book. Okay, so who is this terrible
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  person who's going to prevent you from getting your ex back?
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  Now, I've previously done a video on On therapists.
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  And I've talked about how you should not listen to a therapist
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  in terms of getting an ex back and I'll put the link in the
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  upper right hand corner. But we're not talking about
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  therapists today. We are talking about well if you
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  have a mirror nearby goes down in front of it you know who's
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  going to stop you from getting your ex back.
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  The person staring back at you in the mirror.
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  That would be you. Yes.
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  You. Because when the Moment of Truth
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  arrives, when you finally hear from your ex, Many of you are
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  going to do the wrong thing and then you're going to end up
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  beating yourself up because you knew what to do.
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  If you've been listening to my videos, but you panicked or you
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  Letty, go take over your Le emotion, take over because we
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  already have a blueprint of how most exes act after a breakup.
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  If you leave them alone but not everyone can follow the rules.
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  And in fact, I have two clients that did the same thing in one.
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  Week. So, I want to briefly tell you
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  about their situation without giving too much information
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  away. Because I don't want this to
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  happen to you because right now, they are not very happy with
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  themselves. Because of what they did.
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  So, one of my clients she had been in no contact for 60 days.
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  So, she did a full 60 days and what do you know, the X popped
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  up with what a breadcrumb? Yes, A breadcrumb as I always
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  say and she was mad that he sent a photo with no message.
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  Well, if you listen to me, you know, that's what you're going
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  to get. You're going to get a
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  breadcrumb. So, don't be surprised if you
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  just get a photo and don't let your ego take over.
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  And so instead of laughing and going ha ha ha.
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  Yeah, she was right there, right on time 60 days.
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  There's the bread crumb. Nope, she let her ego.
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  Take over, took take over and so she engaged with him.
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  She engaged with the Enemy, so to speak.
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  And not only that, she engage with him, she taught she
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  mentioned getting together, which goes a against everything.
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  Thing, I preach. And of course, what do you think
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  happened? That's right.
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  He turned her down. Now, she's beating herself up.
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  So for one moment of letting the ego, get in the way, now she's
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  going to be mad at herself for the next few weeks months.
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  I don't know how long. So now it's back in no contact.
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  So she had a great chance, but she stood in her own way because
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  she didn't listen to what I've been telling her.
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  She wasn't listening to me. Yeah, she did a session with me,
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  she knew better but she thought, well, I'm going to take all, you
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  know, I'm going to I don't know what she was thinking.
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  Oh, I know what she was thinking.
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  She told me, she said, well, I heard that if you get a
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  breadcrumb, you should either ignore it or just call them out.
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  Heard that from where from who, not from me?
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  I have never said to call them out for a breadcrumb because
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  you're just basically saying that you are so interested in
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  them that you're upset that they sent you a breadcrumb that.
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  Now you're going to take the time out to call them out Noah.
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  So I don't know where some of you are getting your
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  information. From or you think you're just
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  going to make up your own rules and it's going to work out.
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  It's not going to work out. I eat drink sleep and breathe
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  helping people get their ex back.
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  And you think you're just going to come along and just make your
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  own rule. All of a sudden it's going to
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  work out. I know what is going to happen
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  99% of the time. That's why it's so frustrating
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  because I'm trying to help you get your ex back and people make
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  their own rules or they think while doesn't apply to me.
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  Yeah, it probably does it probably does.
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  Was and my other client after only 30 days of no contact,
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  thought he would just take matters into its own hands and
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  contact his ex because he had gone into therapy and she didn't
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  know. And so I said, listen, you just
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  do your therapy. Let's just see what happens at
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  some point. We'll let her know that you're
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  in therapy. Now is not the time, but no, he
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  couldn't. Wait, he could not wait to let
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  her know. He was in there.
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  Be like that was going to change anything after only 30 days and
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  he to ask to see her and it took her a week to respond and then
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  she finally said no, So he says, can you help me?
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  I said, I can't, I can't help. How can I help you if you do the
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  exact opposite of what I tell you, and he thought I was
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  dropping him as a client. No, I wasn't.
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  But if you refuse to do what you need to do then, how can I help
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  you? It's like a doctor says, okay,
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  you need to take this medicine. Otherwise, you're not going to
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  get better and then you don't take it in your like doctor.
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  Can you help me? No, you didn't take the medicine
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  or an attorney gives you legal advice and you do the opposite.
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  And then you go. Well can you help me now?
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  No you did the opposite of what I told you.
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  You can't just go Veer off on your own.
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  Do any old thing and then think that is always going to be able
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  to be fixed. Sometimes it's it's not going to
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  be able to be fixed. That's the frustrating thing.
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  It's because you, yes, you prevented yourself from getting
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  your ex back because you couldn't control yourself.
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  So, this is about learning to control your ego and it's about
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  impulse control. And, of course, if you have
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  anxiety as many people do, who And to me, you're trying to get
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  their ex back then deal with that anxiety, because if it's
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  stopping you from having great relationships or for getting an
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  ex back, why wouldn't you deal with it?
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  Thank God, I don't have an action status attachment style
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  but I know if I did, I would be in therapy so fast.
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  I would not let something like that mess up my life, so many
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  times if there's a chance to get your ex back, if they're not
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  totally done and you don't, it's because you messed up.
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  That's why you need to listen to the video.
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  Adios well not just listen to them but do what they say and
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  people always say, well I just thought like no no no, it's not
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  your job to think. It's my job to think and it's
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  your job to follow directions and do what I say because like I
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  said, this is my passion. This is what I think about every
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  single day. Sometimes I'm walking around
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  doing podcasts in my head. I wish you could hear them, but
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  there's no way you can. This is what I know.
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  I know how to get an ex back. So don't think, don't think that
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  you're just going to come in and all of a sudden know what to do.
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  I've seen many people get back together.
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  I've helped many people get back together.
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  I know what I'm doing. So, please do not sabotage
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  things for yourself by just veering off.
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  Course, like these people did. Okay.
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  So now I want to hear from you. Are you going to listen to what
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  I say? Or are you going to Veer off
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  course? And what do you think about the
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  two examples? Do you think they're going to
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  get? Rex is back.
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  I don't know. We'll see.
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  And in the meantime if you would like my help to get your ex
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  back, you can contact me at the art of love dotnet and we will
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