Latest / Confident and Empowered Women / You're Not Attracting the Wrong People — You're Tolerating Them | EP 281

Transcript

You're Not Attracting the Wrong People — You're Tolerating Them | EP 281 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Okay,
• 0:06
  friend,
• 0:06
  real
• 0:07
  talk
• 0:07
  for
• 0:07
  a
• 0:07
  second.
• 0:08
  That
• 0:08
  person
• 0:09
  in
• 0:09
  your
• 0:09
  life
• 0:10
  right
• 0:10
  now,
• 0:11
  the
• 0:11
  one
• 0:11
  who
• 0:11
  drains
• 0:12
  you,
• 0:12
  disappoints
• 0:13
  you,
• 0:14
  or
• 0:14
  keeps
• 0:14
  showing
• 0:15
  up
• 0:15
  as
• 0:15
  a
• 0:15
  lesson
• 0:16
  you
• 0:16
  deserve,
• 0:17
  you
• 0:17
  already
• 0:17
  know.
• 0:18
  You
• 0:19
  know,
• 0:19
  early
• 0:20
  your
• 0:20
  gut
• 0:21
  sent
• 0:21
  you
• 0:21
  a
• 0:22
  banner
• 0:22
  alert
• 0:22
  with
• 0:23
  sound
• 0:23
  and
• 0:24
  you
• 0:24
  swiped
• 0:25
  it
• 0:25
  away.
• 0:25
  Here's
• 0:26
  what
• 0:26
  I
• 0:26
  need
• 0:27
  you
• 0:27
  to
• 0:27
  hear
• 0:27
  today.
• 0:29
  You
• 0:29
  don't
• 0:29
  have
• 0:29
  a
• 0:29
  people
• 0:30
  problem,
• 0:30
  you
• 0:31
  have
• 0:31
  a
• 0:31
  settling
• 0:32
  problem,
• 0:33
  and
• 0:33
  today
• 0:34
  we
• 0:34
  are
• 0:34
  gonna
• 0:34
  talk
• 0:35
  about
• 0:35
  why
• 0:35
  you
• 0:35
  settled
• 0:36
  and
• 0:37
  exactly
• 0:38
  how
• 0:38
  to
• 0:38
  stop.
• 0:39
  This
• 0:39
  episode
• 0:40
  right
• 0:40
  here
• 0:41
  is
• 0:41
  about
• 0:41
  to
• 0:42
  set
• 0:42
  some
• 0:42
  things
• 0:43
  free.
• 0:45
  Okay,
• 0:45
  babe,
• 0:46
  before
• 0:46
  we
• 0:46
  move
• 0:46
  on,
• 0:47
  make
• 0:47
  sure
• 0:48
  you're
• 0:48
  subscribed.
• 0:49
  These
• 0:49
  episodes
• 0:50
  are
• 0:50
  designed
• 0:51
  to
• 0:51
  work
• 0:51
  together,
• 0:52
  and
• 0:52
  if
• 0:52
  you're
• 0:52
  ready
• 0:53
  to
• 0:53
  move
• 0:53
  differently
• 0:54
  this
• 0:54
  season,
• 0:54
  you'll
• 0:55
  want
• 0:55
  access
• 0:56
  to
• 0:56
  all
• 0:56
  of
• 0:56
  them.
• 0:57
  Okay.
• 0:58
  Let's
• 0:58
  get
• 0:58
  into
• 0:59
  it.
• 1:02
  Welcome
• 1:02
  back
• 1:02
  to
• 1:03
  the
• 1:03
  series,
• 1:04
  Unavailable
• 1:05
  for
• 1:05
  Self
• 1:05
  Abandonment,
• 1:06
  a
• 1:07
  series
• 1:07
  for
• 1:07
  women
• 1:07
  who
• 1:08
  are
• 1:08
  done
• 1:09
  negotiating
• 1:10
  with
• 1:11
  themselves.
• 1:12
  This
• 1:12
  is
• 1:12
  for
• 1:12
  the
• 1:13
  woman
• 1:13
  who's
• 1:13
  confident
• 1:14
  enough
• 1:14
  to
• 1:14
  disappoint
• 1:15
  because
• 1:16
  self-trust
• 1:16
  is
• 1:17
  now
• 1:17
  the
• 1:17
  new
• 1:18
  standard
• 1:19
  here.
• 1:20
  Confidence
• 1:20
  is
• 1:20
  more
• 1:21
  than
• 1:21
  a
• 1:21
  feeling.
• 1:22
  It's
• 1:22
  a
• 1:22
  belief
• 1:23
  formed
• 1:24
  through
• 1:24
  action,
• 1:25
  practice,
• 1:25
  and
• 1:26
  repetition.
• 1:27
  It's
• 1:27
  what
• 1:27
  you
• 1:27
  do
• 1:27
  when
• 1:28
  it
• 1:28
  would
• 1:28
  be
• 1:28
  easier
• 1:29
  to
• 1:29
  explain
• 1:30
  yourself,
• 1:31
  perform
• 1:32
  or
• 1:32
  betray
• 1:33
  what
• 1:34
  you
• 1:34
  already
• 1:34
  know
• 1:35
  is
• 1:35
  true
• 1:36
  for
• 1:36
  you.
• 1:37
  So
• 1:37
  if
• 1:37
  you
• 1:37
  are
• 1:37
  ready
• 1:38
  to
• 1:38
  stop
• 1:38
  abandoning
• 1:39
  yourself,
• 1:40
  just
• 1:40
  to
• 1:40
  keep
• 1:40
  the
• 1:40
  peace
• 1:41
  you
• 1:42
  are
• 1:42
  in
• 1:42
  the
• 1:43
  right
• 1:43
  place.
• 1:46
  Hey,
• 1:46
  hey,
• 1:47
  hey
• 1:47
  friend.
• 1:47
  Oh,
• 1:48
  welcome
• 1:48
  back.
• 1:49
  If
• 1:49
  you
• 1:49
  are
• 1:49
  new
• 1:50
  here,
• 1:50
  I'm.
• 1:50
  So
• 1:51
  glad
• 1:51
  you
• 1:52
  found
• 1:52
  us,
• 1:52
  and
• 1:53
  I
• 1:53
  need
• 1:53
  you
• 1:53
  to
• 1:53
  know
• 1:54
  you
• 1:54
  did
• 1:54
  not
• 1:55
  stumble
• 1:55
  here
• 1:56
  by
• 1:56
  accident.
• 1:57
  This
• 1:58
  is
• 1:58
  exactly
• 1:59
  where
• 1:59
  you're
• 1:59
  supposed
• 2:00
  to
• 2:00
  be
• 2:00
  right
• 2:01
  now.
• 2:01
  And
• 2:02
  if
• 2:02
  you've
• 2:02
  been
• 2:02
  rocking
• 2:03
  with
• 2:03
  me,
• 2:03
  you
• 2:03
  already
• 2:04
  know
• 2:04
  what
• 2:04
  we
• 2:04
  do
• 2:04
  here.
• 2:05
  We
• 2:05
  tell
• 2:05
  the
• 2:06
  truth,
• 2:06
  we
• 2:06
  do
• 2:07
  the
• 2:07
  work,
• 2:07
  and
• 2:08
  we
• 2:08
  show
• 2:09
  up
• 2:09
  as
• 2:09
  the
• 2:09
  main
• 2:10
  character
• 2:11
  in
• 2:12
  our
• 2:12
  own
• 2:12
  lives,
• 2:13
  not
• 2:14
  the
• 2:14
  supporting
• 2:14
  cast,
• 2:15
  not
• 2:15
  the
• 2:16
  background
• 2:16
  extra.
• 2:17
  Certainly
• 2:18
  not
• 2:18
  in
• 2:18
  the
• 2:18
  fine
• 2:19
  print
• 2:20
  we
• 2:20
  are.
• 2:21
  You
• 2:21
  are
• 2:22
  the
• 2:22
  main
• 2:23
  character,
• 2:24
  so
• 2:25
  grab
• 2:25
  whatever
• 2:26
  it
• 2:26
  is
• 2:26
  that
• 2:27
  you're
• 2:27
  sipping
• 2:27
  on
• 2:27
  because
• 2:28
  this
• 2:28
  episode,
• 2:29
  we
• 2:30
  are
• 2:30
  really
• 2:30
  getting
• 2:30
  into
• 2:31
  it
• 2:31
  today.
• 2:32
  You
• 2:32
  are
• 2:32
  not
• 2:33
  attracting
• 2:33
  the
• 2:33
  wrong
• 2:34
  people,
• 2:35
  you
• 2:35
  are
• 2:35
  tolerating
• 2:36
  them.
• 2:37
  Ooh,
• 2:37
  I
• 2:37
  said
• 2:37
  what
• 2:38
  I
• 2:38
  said
• 2:39
  in
• 2:39
  my
• 2:39
  Nene
• 2:39
  Leak's
• 2:40
  voice.
• 2:42
  And
• 2:43
  before
• 2:43
  you
• 2:43
  close
• 2:44
  the
• 2:44
  app,
• 2:45
  just
• 2:46
  hear
• 2:46
  me
• 2:46
  out.
• 2:46
  Because
• 2:47
  this
• 2:47
  episode,
• 2:48
  it's
• 2:48
  not
• 2:49
  about
• 2:49
  blame
• 2:49
  or
• 2:50
  shame.
• 2:50
  You
• 2:51
  know,
• 2:51
  we
• 2:51
  don't
• 2:51
  do
• 2:52
  that
• 2:52
  around
• 2:52
  here.
• 2:53
  It
• 2:53
  is
• 2:53
  about
• 2:54
  awareness
• 2:55
  and
• 2:56
  self-leadership.
• 2:57
  It
• 2:57
  is
• 2:57
  about
• 2:58
  finally
• 2:59
  seeing
• 3:00
  the
• 3:00
  pattern
• 3:00
  clearly
• 3:01
  enough.
• 3:01
  To
• 3:02
  break
• 3:02
  it
• 3:03
  because
• 3:03
  you
• 3:03
  can't
• 3:04
  change
• 3:04
  what
• 3:05
  you
• 3:05
  refuse
• 3:06
  to
• 3:06
  see.
• 3:06
  Here's
• 3:07
  how
• 3:08
  we're
• 3:08
  breaking
• 3:08
  this
• 3:09
  all
• 3:09
  the
• 3:09
  way
• 3:09
  down
• 3:10
  today.
• 3:10
  First
• 3:11
  we're
• 3:11
  gonna
• 3:11
  talk
• 3:11
  about
• 3:12
  why
• 3:13
  we
• 3:13
  settle,
• 3:14
  and
• 3:14
  I've
• 3:14
  got
• 3:15
  a
• 3:15
  framework
• 3:15
  to
• 3:16
  break
• 3:16
  it
• 3:16
  on
• 3:16
  down,
• 3:17
  and
• 3:17
  it's
• 3:17
  gonna
• 3:17
  be
• 3:18
  a
• 3:18
  whole
• 3:18
  mirror
• 3:19
  moment.
• 3:19
  Then
• 3:20
  we're
• 3:20
  talking
• 3:20
  about
• 3:21
  what
• 3:21
  to
• 3:22
  do
• 3:23
  about
• 3:23
  it
• 3:23
  with
• 3:24
  own
• 3:25
  It,
• 3:25
  which
• 3:25
  is
• 3:26
  five
• 3:26
  steps
• 3:26
  back
• 3:27
  to
• 3:27
  your
• 3:27
  full
• 3:28
  price
• 3:28
  self.
• 3:29
  And
• 3:29
  finally,
• 3:30
  I'm
• 3:30
  gonna
• 3:30
  give
• 3:30
  you
• 3:30
  a
• 3:31
  self-love,
• 3:31
  two
• 3:31
  step,
• 3:32
  two
• 3:32
  things
• 3:33
  you
• 3:33
  can
• 3:33
  do
• 3:33
  today
• 3:34
  to
• 3:35
  start
• 3:35
  applying
• 3:36
  everything
• 3:36
  we
• 3:36
  talk
• 3:37
  about.
• 3:37
  Okay,
• 3:38
  friend?
• 3:38
  Oh,
• 3:39
  let's
• 3:39
  get
• 3:39
  into
• 3:39
  it.
• 3:40
  I
• 3:40
  want
• 3:40
  you
• 3:40
  to
• 3:41
  think
• 3:41
  about
• 3:41
  somebody
• 3:42
  in
• 3:42
  your
• 3:42
  life
• 3:43
  right
• 3:43
  now.
• 3:44
  It
• 3:44
  could
• 3:45
  be
• 3:45
  a
• 3:45
  romantic
• 3:46
  partner,
• 3:46
  a
• 3:46
  friend,
• 3:47
  a
• 3:47
  colleague,
• 3:48
  even
• 3:48
  a
• 3:48
  family
• 3:49
  member,
• 3:50
  someone
• 3:50
  who
• 3:51
  consistently,
• 3:52
  and
• 3:52
  I
• 3:52
  mean
• 3:53
  consistently.
• 3:55
  Shows
• 3:56
  up
• 3:56
  less
• 3:58
  than
• 3:58
  you
• 3:58
  deserve.
• 3:59
  They
• 4:00
  drain
• 4:00
  your
• 4:00
  energy.
• 4:01
  They
• 4:02
  take
• 4:02
  more
• 4:03
  than
• 4:03
  they
• 4:03
  give.
• 4:04
  They
• 4:04
  make
• 4:04
  you
• 4:05
  feel
• 4:05
  small
• 4:06
  in
• 4:06
  rooms
• 4:06
  where
• 4:07
  you
• 4:07
  should
• 4:07
  feel
• 4:07
  celebrated.
• 4:08
  They're
• 4:09
  fully
• 4:09
  present,
• 4:10
  when
• 4:10
  they
• 4:10
  need
• 4:10
  something
• 4:11
  and
• 4:11
  they
• 4:12
  ghost
• 4:12
  you
• 4:13
  the
• 4:13
  minute
• 4:13
  you
• 4:14
  need
• 4:14
  something
• 4:14
  back.
• 4:15
  And
• 4:15
  here's
• 4:16
  the
• 4:16
  part
• 4:16
  that
• 4:16
  gets
• 4:16
  me
• 4:17
  every
• 4:17
  time.
• 4:18
  You
• 4:18
  already
• 4:18
  knew.
• 4:19
  You
• 4:19
  knew
• 4:20
  early.
• 4:20
  You
• 4:21
  had
• 4:21
  that
• 4:22
  feeling.
• 4:23
  Your
• 4:23
  gut
• 4:24
  was
• 4:24
  allowed
• 4:25
  about
• 4:25
  it,
• 4:26
  but
• 4:26
  you
• 4:26
  stayed.
• 4:27
  Trust
• 4:28
  me.
• 4:28
  Been
• 4:28
  there,
• 4:29
  done
• 4:29
  that.
• 4:29
  Have
• 4:30
  several
• 4:30
  t-shirts,
• 4:31
  okay.
• 4:33
  So
• 4:34
  I'm
• 4:34
  talking
• 4:34
  to
• 4:34
  the
• 4:34
  old
• 4:35
  me
• 4:35
  here
• 4:36
  too.
• 4:36
  So
• 4:37
  I'm
• 4:37
  not
• 4:37
  asking
• 4:38
  you
• 4:38
  why
• 4:39
  you
• 4:39
  stay
• 4:40
  to
• 4:40
  make
• 4:40
  you
• 4:40
  feel
• 4:40
  bad.
• 4:41
  I'm
• 4:41
  asking
• 4:42
  because
• 4:42
  understanding
• 4:44
  why
• 4:44
  is
• 4:45
  the
• 4:45
  first
• 4:45
  step
• 4:46
  to
• 4:46
  never
• 4:46
  ending
• 4:47
  up
• 4:47
  there
• 4:48
  again.
• 4:49
  You
• 4:49
  know
• 4:49
  that
• 4:49
  line
• 4:50
  from
• 4:50
  the
• 4:50
  perks
• 4:51
  of
• 4:51
  being
• 4:51
  a
• 4:51
  wallflower.
• 4:52
  We
• 4:53
  accept
• 4:53
  the
• 4:54
  love,
• 4:54
  we
• 4:54
  think
• 4:54
  we
• 4:54
  deserve,
• 4:56
  woo,
• 4:56
  friend.
• 4:57
  We
• 4:57
  also
• 4:58
  accept
• 4:59
  the
• 4:59
  energy
• 5:00
  we
• 5:01
  think
• 5:01
  we
• 5:02
  deserve.
• 5:03
  The
• 5:03
  friendships,
• 5:04
  the
• 5:04
  treatment,
• 5:04
  the
• 5:05
  access
• 5:05
  to
• 5:06
  us,
• 5:07
  and
• 5:07
  today
• 5:08
  we
• 5:08
  are
• 5:08
  raising
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  standard
• 5:09
  on
• 5:10
  all
• 5:10
  of
• 5:10
  it.
• 5:11
  So
• 5:12
  let's
• 5:12
  walk
• 5:12
  through
• 5:12
  this
• 5:13
  settle
• 5:13
  framework
• 5:14
  so
• 5:14
  you
• 5:14
  can
• 5:15
  understand
• 5:16
  why
• 5:16
  you've
• 5:16
  been
• 5:16
  accepting
• 5:17
  less
• 5:18
  than
• 5:18
  you
• 5:18
  deserve.
• 5:19
  This
• 5:19
  really
• 5:19
  gets
• 5:20
  into
• 5:20
  the.
• 5:21
  Six
• 5:22
  root
• 5:22
  causes
• 5:23
  that
• 5:23
  really
• 5:23
  explain
• 5:24
  why
• 5:25
  we
• 5:26
  stay
• 5:26
  when
• 5:27
  we
• 5:27
  know
• 5:28
  we
• 5:28
  should
• 5:28
  be
• 5:28
  gone.
• 5:30
  The
• 5:30
  S
• 5:31
  in
• 5:31
  settle
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  for
• 5:33
  scared
• 5:33
  to
• 5:33
  be
• 5:33
  alone.
• 5:34
  This
• 5:35
  is
• 5:35
  the
• 5:35
  one
• 5:36
  that
• 5:36
  nobody
• 5:36
  wants
• 5:37
  to
• 5:37
  admit,
• 5:38
  but
• 5:38
  everybody
• 5:39
  feels
• 5:39
  fear
• 5:40
  of
• 5:40
  loneliness
• 5:41
  will
• 5:41
  have
• 5:42
  you
• 5:42
  holding
• 5:43
  onto
• 5:43
  the
• 5:44
  wrong
• 5:44
  person
• 5:45
  like
• 5:45
  they
• 5:45
  are
• 5:46
  a
• 5:46
  life
• 5:46
  raft
• 5:47
  when
• 5:47
  really
• 5:48
  they're
• 5:48
  the
• 5:49
  reason
• 5:49
  you're
• 5:49
  drowning
• 5:50
  in
• 5:50
  the
• 5:50
  first
• 5:50
  place.
• 5:52
  But
• 5:53
  here's
• 5:53
  what
• 5:53
  I've
• 5:54
  learned.
• 5:54
  A
• 5:55
  room
• 5:55
  full
• 5:55
  of
• 5:55
  the
• 5:56
  wrong
• 5:56
  people
• 5:57
  is
• 5:57
  lonelier
• 5:58
  than
• 5:58
  an
• 5:58
  empty
• 5:59
  room.
• 5:59
  You
• 6:00
  can
• 6:00
  be
• 6:00
  in
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  relationship
• 6:02
  and
• 6:02
  still
• 6:02
  feel
• 6:03
  completely
• 6:03
  un.
• 6:05
  Seen,
• 6:06
  you
• 6:06
  can
• 6:06
  have
• 6:07
  a
• 6:07
  full
• 6:07
  friend
• 6:08
  group
• 6:08
  and
• 6:08
  not
• 6:08
  one
• 6:09
  person
• 6:09
  who
• 6:10
  actually
• 6:11
  knows
• 6:11
  you.
• 6:12
  That
• 6:13
  kinda
• 6:13
  lonely
• 6:14
  is
• 6:14
  worse
• 6:15
  because
• 6:16
  at
• 6:16
  least
• 6:17
  when
• 6:17
  the
• 6:17
  room
• 6:17
  is
• 6:18
  empty,
• 6:18
  you
• 6:19
  know
• 6:19
  why
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  feel
• 6:20
  alone.
• 6:21
  So
• 6:21
  friend,
• 6:22
  choose
• 6:22
  quality
• 6:23
  over
• 6:23
  company
• 6:25
  every
• 6:25
  single
• 6:26
  time.
• 6:28
  The
• 6:28
  E
• 6:28
  is
• 6:29
  for
• 6:29
  excusing
• 6:30
  their
• 6:30
  behavior
• 6:32
  as
• 6:32
  potential.
• 6:34
  Ooh,
• 6:34
  friend.
• 6:35
  We
• 6:35
  could
• 6:35
  do
• 6:36
  a
• 6:36
  whole
• 6:36
  episode
• 6:37
  just
• 6:37
  on
• 6:38
  this,
• 6:40
  and
• 6:41
  this
• 6:41
  one
• 6:41
  really
• 6:42
  got
• 6:42
  me
• 6:42
  personally,
• 6:43
  so
• 6:43
  I
• 6:43
  really
• 6:44
  need
• 6:44
  you
• 6:44
  to
• 6:44
  receive
• 6:44
  this.
• 6:45
  We
• 6:46
  are
• 6:46
  masterful
• 6:47
  at
• 6:48
  seeing
• 6:48
  potential.
• 6:49
  We
• 6:50
  look
• 6:50
  at
• 6:50
  someone
• 6:50
  showing
• 6:51
  us
• 6:51
  exactly
• 6:52
  who
• 6:52
  they
• 6:52
  are,
• 6:53
  inconsistent,
• 6:54
  unavailable,
• 6:55
  self-centered,
• 6:56
  and
• 6:57
  instead
• 6:57
  of
• 6:57
  seeing
• 6:58
  the
• 6:58
  reality,
• 6:59
  we
• 6:59
  see
• 7:00
  the
• 7:00
  possibility.
• 7:02
  But
• 7:03
  they
• 7:03
  could
• 7:03
  be
• 7:03
  so
• 7:03
  great
• 7:04
  if
• 7:04
  they
• 7:04
  just,
• 7:05
  oh,
• 7:06
  deep
• 7:06
  down
• 7:07
  they
• 7:07
  are
• 7:07
  really,
• 7:08
  oh,
• 7:08
  no,
• 7:08
  no,
• 7:08
  no.
• 7:09
  Wait.
• 7:09
  I
• 7:09
  can
• 7:10
  see
• 7:10
  who
• 7:10
  they
• 7:11
  are
• 7:11
  becoming.
• 7:12
  Friend
• 7:12
  Maya
• 7:13
  Angelou
• 7:13
  told
• 7:14
  us,
• 7:14
  when
• 7:14
  someone
• 7:15
  shows
• 7:15
  you
• 7:15
  who
• 7:16
  they
• 7:16
  are,
• 7:17
  believe
• 7:17
  them.
• 7:18
  The
• 7:18
  first
• 7:19
  time.
• 7:19
  Potential
• 7:20
  is
• 7:21
  not.
• 7:21
  Personality
• 7:22
  and
• 7:23
  potential
• 7:23
  is
• 7:24
  definitely
• 7:24
  not
• 7:25
  a
• 7:25
  reason
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  abandon
• 7:26
  your
• 7:28
  standards.
• 7:28
  See
• 7:29
  people
• 7:29
  for
• 7:29
  who
• 7:30
  they
• 7:30
  are,
• 7:31
  not
• 7:31
  for
• 7:32
  who
• 7:32
  you
• 7:32
  wish
• 7:33
  they'd
• 7:33
  become.
• 7:34
  The
• 7:35
  T
• 7:35
  is
• 7:36
  trained
• 7:36
  to
• 7:37
  put
• 7:37
  others
• 7:38
  first.
• 7:39
  A
• 7:39
  lot
• 7:39
  of
• 7:39
  us
• 7:39
  were
• 7:40
  literally
• 7:40
  trained
• 7:41
  from
• 7:41
  childhood
• 7:41
  to
• 7:42
  put
• 7:42
  everyone
• 7:42
  else's
• 7:43
  needs
• 7:44
  above
• 7:44
  our
• 7:44
  own
• 7:45
  women.
• 7:46
  Ooh,
• 7:47
  this
• 7:47
  was
• 7:48
  like
• 7:48
  the
• 7:49
  foundation,
• 7:50
  okay.
• 7:50
  Of
• 7:51
  learning
• 7:51
  what
• 7:52
  womanhood
• 7:52
  was
• 7:52
  all
• 7:53
  about.
• 7:53
  Being
• 7:54
  the
• 7:54
  peacekeeper,
• 7:55
  don't
• 7:55
  rock
• 7:56
  the
• 7:56
  boat,
• 7:56
  but
• 7:56
  be
• 7:56
  the
• 7:57
  strong
• 7:57
  one.
• 7:57
  And
• 7:58
  those
• 7:58
  lessons
• 7:59
  all
• 8:00
  well-meaning
• 8:01
  as
• 8:01
  they
• 8:02
  sometimes
• 8:02
  were
• 8:03
  taught
• 8:03
  us
• 8:04
  that
• 8:04
  our
• 8:04
  needs
• 8:05
  come.
• 8:06
  That
• 8:07
  speaking
• 8:07
  up
• 8:07
  is
• 8:07
  selfish,
• 8:08
  that
• 8:09
  keeping
• 8:09
  the
• 8:09
  peace
• 8:10
  matters
• 8:10
  more
• 8:11
  than
• 8:11
  telling
• 8:11
  the
• 8:11
  truth.
• 8:12
  So
• 8:12
  we
• 8:13
  carry
• 8:13
  all
• 8:13
  of
• 8:14
  that
• 8:14
  into
• 8:14
  every
• 8:15
  relationship
• 8:16
  we
• 8:16
  build,
• 8:16
  and
• 8:17
  then
• 8:18
  we
• 8:18
  wonder
• 8:18
  why
• 8:19
  we
• 8:19
  end
• 8:19
  up
• 8:19
  surrounded
• 8:20
  by
• 8:20
  people
• 8:21
  who
• 8:21
  expect
• 8:22
  us
• 8:22
  to
• 8:22
  keep
• 8:23
  erasing
• 8:23
  ourselves.
• 8:25
  The
• 8:25
  pattern
• 8:25
  started
• 8:26
  before
• 8:26
  them.
• 8:27
  It
• 8:27
  started
• 8:28
  with
• 8:28
  what
• 8:29
  you
• 8:29
  were
• 8:29
  taught
• 8:29
  about
• 8:30
  your
• 8:30
  own
• 8:31
  worth.
• 8:32
  The
• 8:32
  second
• 8:33
  T
• 8:34
  is
• 8:34
  for
• 8:34
  tolerating
• 8:35
  familiar
• 8:36
  over
• 8:36
  fulfilling.
• 8:37
  This
• 8:38
  one
• 8:38
  is
• 8:38
  sneaky
• 8:38
  because
• 8:39
  it
• 8:39
  doesn't
• 8:39
  always
• 8:40
  feel
• 8:40
  like
• 8:40
  a
• 8:40
  problem.
• 8:41
  It
• 8:41
  feels
• 8:42
  like
• 8:42
  loyalty.
• 8:43
  Our
• 8:43
  nervous
• 8:44
  system,
• 8:45
  bless
• 8:45
  its
• 8:45
  heart,
• 8:46
  often
• 8:47
  mistakes
• 8:47
  familiar.
• 8:49
  For
• 8:49
  safe,
• 8:50
  even
• 8:50
  when
• 8:51
  familiar
• 8:51
  is
• 8:52
  actually
• 8:52
  harmful.
• 8:53
  You
• 8:54
  know
• 8:54
  that
• 8:54
  friend
• 8:55
  who's
• 8:55
  been
• 8:55
  in
• 8:55
  your
• 8:55
  life
• 8:56
  for
• 8:56
  15
• 8:57
  plus
• 8:57
  years,
• 8:58
  but
• 8:58
  has
• 8:58
  never
• 8:59
  once
• 8:59
  celebrated
• 9:00
  a
• 9:00
  win
• 9:01
  without
• 9:01
  making
• 9:02
  it
• 9:02
  about
• 9:02
  herself,
• 9:03
  but
• 9:03
  you
• 9:03
  keep
• 9:04
  her
• 9:04
  around,
• 9:04
  not
• 9:05
  because
• 9:05
  she's
• 9:05
  good
• 9:06
  for
• 9:06
  you,
• 9:07
  but
• 9:07
  because
• 9:08
  she's
• 9:08
  been
• 9:09
  here.
• 9:09
  For
• 9:10
  all
• 9:10
  these
• 9:10
  years,
• 9:11
  familiar
• 9:12
  is
• 9:12
  not
• 9:13
  the
• 9:13
  same
• 9:13
  as
• 9:14
  fulfilling.
• 9:15
  Comfortable
• 9:16
  is
• 9:16
  not
• 9:16
  the
• 9:16
  same
• 9:17
  as
• 9:18
  aligned.
• 9:19
  Don't
• 9:20
  let
• 9:20
  history
• 9:21
  be
• 9:21
  the
• 9:21
  only
• 9:21
  reason
• 9:22
  someone
• 9:23
  still
• 9:23
  has
• 9:24
  access
• 9:25
  to
• 9:25
  your
• 9:25
  future.
• 9:26
  The
• 9:26
  L
• 9:27
  is
• 9:27
  for
• 9:27
  lowered
• 9:28
  your
• 9:28
  worth
• 9:29
  over
• 9:30
  time.
• 9:30
  This
• 9:31
  is
• 9:31
  the
• 9:31
  one
• 9:31
  nobody
• 9:32
  wants
• 9:32
  to
• 9:32
  talk
• 9:32
  about,
• 9:33
  but
• 9:33
  everybody
• 9:33
  needs
• 9:34
  to
• 9:34
  hear.
• 9:34
  When
• 9:35
  we're
• 9:35
  consistently
• 9:36
  in
• 9:36
  relationships
• 9:38
  that
• 9:38
  don't
• 9:38
  honor
• 9:39
  us,
• 9:40
  we
• 9:40
  start
• 9:40
  to
• 9:40
  adjust
• 9:41
  downward.
• 9:42
  We
• 9:42
  don't
• 9:42
  just
• 9:43
  tolerate.
• 9:44
  We
• 9:44
  start
• 9:45
  to
• 9:45
  expect
• 9:46
  less,
• 9:47
  we
• 9:47
  start
• 9:47
  to
• 9:48
  believe
• 9:48
  less
• 9:49
  is
• 9:49
  what
• 9:49
  we
• 9:49
  deserve.
• 9:50
  It's
• 9:51
  that
• 9:51
  Macy's
• 9:51
  clearance
• 9:52
  rack
• 9:52
  energy
• 9:53
  we
• 9:53
  get
• 9:53
  used
• 9:54
  to
• 9:54
  being
• 9:54
  the
• 9:55
  markdown
• 9:56
  that
• 9:56
  we
• 9:56
  forget
• 9:57
  we
• 9:57
  were
• 9:57
  never
• 9:57
  supposed
• 9:58
  to
• 9:58
  be
• 9:58
  on
• 9:58
  sale
• 9:59
  in
• 9:59
  the
• 9:59
  first
• 10:00
  place.
• 10:01
  You
• 10:01
  start
• 10:01
  thinking,
• 10:02
  maybe
• 10:02
  I
• 10:03
  am
• 10:03
  too
• 10:03
  much.
• 10:04
  Maybe
• 10:04
  I
• 10:05
  do
• 10:05
  expect
• 10:05
  too
• 10:06
  much.
• 10:06
  Maybe
• 10:07
  this
• 10:07
  is
• 10:07
  just
• 10:07
  what
• 10:08
  relationships
• 10:09
  look
• 10:09
  like.
• 10:09
  Friend.
• 10:10
  No.
• 10:11
  No,
• 10:11
  and
• 10:11
  absolutely
• 10:13
  not.
• 10:14
  You
• 10:14
  have
• 10:15
  not
• 10:15
  become
• 10:16
  too
• 10:16
  much.
• 10:16
  Your
• 10:17
  standards
• 10:18
  haven't
• 10:18
  become
• 10:18
  unreasonable.
• 10:20
  You've
• 10:20
  just
• 10:20
  been
• 10:21
  around
• 10:21
  the
• 10:21
  wrong
• 10:22
  people
• 10:22
  for
• 10:23
  way
• 10:23
  too
• 10:24
  long.
• 10:24
  And
• 10:25
  finally
• 10:25
  the
• 10:26
  E
• 10:26
  exhausted
• 10:27
  from
• 10:28
  starting
• 10:28
  over.
• 10:29
  This
• 10:30
  one
• 10:30
  keeps
• 10:30
  so
• 10:30
  many
• 10:31
  women
• 10:31
  stuck
• 10:31
  longer
• 10:32
  than
• 10:32
  anything
• 10:33
  else
• 10:34
  because
• 10:34
  starting
• 10:34
  over
• 10:35
  is
• 10:35
  hard.
• 10:37
  The
• 10:37
  idea
• 10:38
  of
• 10:38
  rebuilding
• 10:39
  new
• 10:39
  friends,
• 10:40
  new
• 10:40
  partner,
• 10:41
  new
• 10:41
  dynamics
• 10:42
  feels
• 10:43
  exhausting
• 10:44
  when
• 10:45
  you
• 10:45
  are
• 10:45
  already
• 10:46
  running
• 10:47
  on
• 10:47
  empty.
• 10:48
  So
• 10:48
  you.
• 10:49
  Stay.
• 10:49
  Not
• 10:50
  because
• 10:50
  it's
• 10:50
  right,
• 10:51
  but
• 10:51
  because
• 10:51
  you
• 10:51
  are
• 10:52
  too
• 10:52
  tired
• 10:52
  to
• 10:53
  leave.
• 10:54
  But
• 10:54
  here's
• 10:54
  the
• 10:55
  truth,
• 10:55
  I
• 10:56
  really
• 10:56
  need
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  to
• 10:56
  sit
• 10:57
  with
• 10:57
  staying
• 10:58
  in
• 10:58
  something
• 10:59
  that
• 10:59
  drains
• 11:00
  you
• 11:00
  will
• 11:01
  never
• 11:01
  give
• 11:01
  you
• 11:02
  the
• 11:02
  energy
• 11:03
  to
• 11:03
  leave
• 11:03
  it.
• 11:04
  You
• 11:04
  have
• 11:04
  to
• 11:05
  decide
• 11:06
  to
• 11:06
  go
• 11:07
  before
• 11:07
  you
• 11:07
  feel
• 11:08
  ready,
• 11:09
  because
• 11:09
  ready
• 11:10
  never
• 11:10
  comes
• 11:10
  first.
• 11:11
  Courage
• 11:12
  does.
• 11:13
  So
• 11:13
  before
• 11:14
  we
• 11:14
  get
• 11:14
  into
• 11:15
  the
• 11:15
  solution,
• 11:16
  I
• 11:16
  really
• 11:17
  wanna
• 11:17
  give
• 11:17
  you
• 11:18
  a
• 11:18
  question
• 11:19
  to
• 11:19
  carry
• 11:20
  with
• 11:20
  you
• 11:20
  always
• 11:22
  ask
• 11:22
  this
• 11:23
  about
• 11:23
  every
• 11:24
  single
• 11:24
  significant
• 11:25
  relationship
• 11:26
  in
• 11:27
  your
• 11:27
  life.
• 11:28
  If
• 11:28
  this
• 11:29
  person
• 11:29
  never
• 11:30
  changed,
• 11:31
  would
• 11:32
  I
• 11:32
  still
• 11:32
  want
• 11:33
  them
• 11:33
  here?
• 11:34
  Not
• 11:34
  who
• 11:35
  would
• 11:35
  they
• 11:35
  be?
• 11:36
  Not
• 11:37
  who
• 11:37
  they
• 11:37
  used
• 11:37
  to
• 11:37
  be,
• 11:38
  not
• 11:39
  who
• 11:39
  you're
• 11:39
  hoping
• 11:40
  they'll
• 11:40
  become
• 11:41
  who
• 11:42
  they
• 11:42
  are
• 11:43
  right
• 11:43
  now
• 11:44
  today,
• 11:46
  if
• 11:46
  the
• 11:46
  answer
• 11:47
  is
• 11:47
  yes.
• 11:48
  Okay.
• 11:48
  Invest.
• 11:50
  If
• 11:50
  the
• 11:50
  answer
• 11:50
  is
• 11:51
  no,
• 11:51
  you
• 11:52
  already
• 11:52
  know
• 11:52
  the
• 11:52
  answer.
• 11:53
  You've
• 11:54
  probably
• 11:54
  had
• 11:54
  it
• 11:54
  for
• 11:55
  a
• 11:55
  while.
• 11:56
  You
• 11:56
  were
• 11:56
  just
• 11:56
  waiting
• 11:57
  for
• 11:57
  permission
• 11:58
  to
• 11:58
  actually
• 11:59
  act
• 11:59
  on
• 11:59
  it.
• 11:59
  So
• 12:00
  consider
• 12:01
  this
• 12:01
  your
• 12:02
  official
• 12:02
  permission.
• 12:05
  One
• 12:05
  little
• 12:05
  quick
• 12:05
  note
• 12:06
  I
• 12:06
  wanna
• 12:06
  make
• 12:06
  here,
• 12:07
  because
• 12:07
  I
• 12:07
  know
• 12:08
  this
• 12:08
  can
• 12:09
  feel
• 12:09
  like
• 12:09
  I'm
• 12:10
  telling
• 12:10
  you
• 12:10
  to
• 12:11
  blow
• 12:11
  up
• 12:11
  your
• 12:12
  life.
• 12:12
  This
• 12:13
  can
• 12:13
  feel
• 12:13
  like
• 12:13
  I'm
• 12:14
  saying.
• 12:15
  Dump
• 12:15
  all
• 12:15
  your
• 12:16
  friends,
• 12:18
  cut
• 12:18
  off
• 12:18
  all
• 12:18
  your
• 12:18
  family
• 12:19
  and
• 12:19
  start
• 12:19
  over.
• 12:23
  But
• 12:23
  what
• 12:23
  I
• 12:23
  really
• 12:23
  encourage
• 12:24
  all
• 12:24
  of
• 12:24
  my
• 12:25
  clients
• 12:25
  to
• 12:25
  do
• 12:26
  and
• 12:26
  to
• 12:26
  do
• 12:27
  this
• 12:27
  regularly,
• 12:28
  is
• 12:28
  to
• 12:29
  really
• 12:29
  evaluate
• 12:30
  who
• 12:30
  has
• 12:31
  access
• 12:31
  in
• 12:31
  your
• 12:32
  life
• 12:32
  and
• 12:33
  what
• 12:33
  level
• 12:34
  of
• 12:34
  access
• 12:35
  they
• 12:35
  have
• 12:36
  to
• 12:36
  you.
• 12:36
  Because
• 12:37
  everyone
• 12:38
  who
• 12:38
  is
• 12:38
  in
• 12:38
  your
• 12:39
  VIP
• 12:39
  section,
• 12:40
  do
• 12:41
  they
• 12:41
  really
• 12:41
  belong
• 12:42
  to
• 12:42
  have
• 12:42
  front
• 12:43
  row
• 12:43
  seats
• 12:44
  or.
• 12:45
  Do
• 12:45
  they
• 12:45
  need
• 12:46
  to
• 12:46
  be
• 12:47
  up
• 12:47
  in
• 12:47
  the
• 12:47
  cheap
• 12:47
  seats
• 12:48
  or
• 12:49
  do
• 12:49
  they
• 12:50
  just
• 12:50
  need
• 12:50
  to
• 12:50
  be
• 12:50
  outside
• 12:51
  the
• 12:51
  club?
• 12:51
  Okay.
• 12:52
  Because
• 12:52
  you
• 12:52
  know
• 12:52
  Chris
• 12:52
  Brown,
• 12:53
  he
• 12:53
  told
• 12:53
  us
• 12:54
  how
• 12:54
  you
• 12:54
  gonna
• 12:54
  hate
• 12:55
  from
• 12:55
  outside
• 12:55
  the
• 12:55
  club
• 12:56
  and
• 12:56
  you
• 12:56
  can't
• 12:56
  even
• 12:57
  get
• 12:57
  in.
• 13:00
  Some
• 13:01
  people
• 13:01
  who
• 13:01
  once
• 13:02
  had
• 13:02
  VIP
• 13:02
  access,
• 13:04
  they
• 13:04
  do
• 13:05
  belong
• 13:05
  outside
• 13:07
  of
• 13:07
  the
• 13:07
  venue
• 13:08
  at
• 13:08
  this
• 13:08
  particular
• 13:09
  time.
• 13:10
  Access
• 13:11
  is
• 13:11
  something
• 13:12
  that
• 13:12
  you
• 13:12
  have
• 13:13
  a
• 13:13
  right.
• 13:14
  And
• 13:14
  a
• 13:15
  duty
• 13:15
  to
• 13:15
  yourself
• 13:16
  to
• 13:17
  evaluate
• 13:17
  regularly
• 13:18
  and
• 13:19
  change
• 13:19
  as
• 13:20
  you
• 13:20
  see
• 13:21
  fit.
• 13:22
  Friend.
• 13:23
  You
• 13:23
  do
• 13:23
  not
• 13:24
  want
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  haters
• 13:25
  to
• 13:25
  have
• 13:25
  the
• 13:25
  VIP
• 13:26
  access.
• 13:27
  You
• 13:27
  want
• 13:28
  the
• 13:28
  VIP
• 13:28
  access
• 13:29
  to
• 13:29
  be
• 13:30
  your.
• 13:30
  Biggest
• 13:31
  fans,
• 13:32
  the
• 13:32
  ones
• 13:32
  who
• 13:33
  really
• 13:33
  enrich
• 13:34
  your
• 13:34
  soil
• 13:36
  right
• 13:36
  along
• 13:36
  with
• 13:37
  you,
• 13:37
  the
• 13:37
  ones
• 13:38
  who
• 13:39
  give
• 13:39
  you
• 13:40
  the
• 13:40
  same
• 13:40
  mutual
• 13:41
  love,
• 13:41
  respect,
• 13:42
  and
• 13:43
  showing
• 13:43
  upness
• 13:44
  that
• 13:44
  you
• 13:45
  give
• 13:45
  to
• 13:45
  them.
• 13:46
  So
• 13:47
  make
• 13:47
  sure
• 13:47
  that
• 13:48
  the
• 13:48
  people
• 13:48
  who
• 13:49
  have
• 13:49
  access
• 13:50
  to
• 13:50
  you
• 13:50
  in
• 13:50
  your
• 13:51
  life,
• 13:51
  that
• 13:52
  they
• 13:52
  have
• 13:52
  the
• 13:52
  proper
• 13:53
  access
• 13:54
  that
• 13:54
  they
• 13:54
  deserve.
• 13:56
  Okay,
• 13:56
  now
• 13:56
  let's
• 13:57
  get
• 13:57
  into
• 13:58
  the
• 13:58
  solution.
• 13:59
  Okay,
• 13:59
  friend,
• 14:00
  we
• 14:00
  have
• 14:01
  got
• 14:01
  five
• 14:01
  steps
• 14:02
  back
• 14:02
  to
• 14:02
  your
• 14:02
  full
• 14:03
  price
• 14:03
  self.
• 14:04
  This,
• 14:04
  I'm
• 14:05
  calling
• 14:05
  Own
• 14:06
  it.
• 14:06
  Okay.
• 14:07
  Because
• 14:07
  awareness
• 14:08
  without
• 14:08
  action,
• 14:09
  it
• 14:09
  is
• 14:09
  just
• 14:10
  really
• 14:10
  an
• 14:10
  emotional
• 14:11
  therapy
• 14:11
  session.
• 14:14
  And
• 14:15
  that
• 14:15
  is
• 14:15
  not
• 14:15
  what
• 14:15
  we
• 14:16
  do.
• 14:16
  We
• 14:16
  are
• 14:16
  not
• 14:16
  leaving
• 14:17
  here
• 14:17
  without
• 14:18
  a
• 14:18
  plan.
• 14:18
  This
• 14:19
  is
• 14:20
  own
• 14:20
  it.
• 14:20
  The
• 14:20
  five
• 14:21
  steps
• 14:21
  to
• 14:21
  stop
• 14:22
  settling
• 14:23
  and
• 14:23
  start
• 14:24
  choosing
• 14:25
  the
• 14:25
  O
• 14:26
  is
• 14:26
  own
• 14:27
  what
• 14:27
  you've
• 14:27
  been
• 14:27
  accepting
• 14:29
  without
• 14:30
  shame.
• 14:31
  Heavy
• 14:32
  on
• 14:32
  the
• 14:32
  without
• 14:32
  shame,
• 14:33
  friend.
• 14:33
  The
• 14:34
  O
• 14:34
  is
• 14:34
  where
• 14:34
  we
• 14:35
  start,
• 14:35
  and
• 14:36
  it
• 14:36
  starts
• 14:36
  with
• 14:36
  radical
• 14:37
  honesty
• 14:38
  and
• 14:38
  radical
• 14:39
  compassion
• 14:40
  all
• 14:40
  at
• 14:40
  the
• 14:40
  same
• 14:41
  time.
• 14:41
  You
• 14:42
  have
• 14:42
  to
• 14:42
  look
• 14:42
  at
• 14:43
  what
• 14:43
  you've
• 14:43
  been
• 14:43
  accepting
• 14:45
  clearly,
• 14:46
  honestly,
• 14:47
  without
• 14:47
  flinching
• 14:48
  and
• 14:49
  without
• 14:50
  beating
• 14:50
  yourself
• 14:51
  up
• 14:51
  about
• 14:52
  it.
• 14:53
  Just
• 14:53
  own
• 14:54
  it.
• 14:54
  Not
• 14:55
  as
• 14:55
  failure,
• 14:56
  but
• 14:56
  as
• 14:56
  information
• 14:57
  a.
• 14:58
  I
• 14:58
  accepted
• 14:59
  less
• 14:59
  than
• 14:59
  I
• 15:00
  deserve
• 15:00
  and
• 15:01
  I
• 15:01
  know
• 15:01
  why,
• 15:02
  and
• 15:02
  now
• 15:03
  I'm
• 15:03
  choosing
• 15:04
  differently.
• 15:05
  That's
• 15:05
  the
• 15:06
  vibe,
• 15:06
  friend.
• 15:07
  No
• 15:07
  shame
• 15:08
  spiral,
• 15:08
  no
• 15:09
  self
• 15:09
  punishment,
• 15:10
  just
• 15:10
  clear
• 15:11
  eyes
• 15:11
  and
• 15:11
  a
• 15:12
  mind
• 15:12
  made
• 15:13
  up.
• 15:13
  You
• 15:14
  cannot
• 15:15
  course
• 15:15
  correct
• 15:16
  from
• 15:16
  a
• 15:16
  place
• 15:17
  of
• 15:17
  self
• 15:17
  shame.
• 15:18
  You
• 15:18
  can
• 15:18
  only
• 15:19
  move
• 15:19
  forward
• 15:19
  from
• 15:20
  a
• 15:20
  place
• 15:20
  of
• 15:20
  self-awareness.
• 15:22
  Own
• 15:22
  it,
• 15:23
  all
• 15:23
  of
• 15:23
  it,
• 15:24
  and
• 15:24
  let
• 15:24
  it
• 15:25
  be
• 15:25
  the
• 15:25
  last
• 15:26
  chapter
• 15:27
  and
• 15:27
  not
• 15:27
  the
• 15:27
  whole
• 15:28
  story.
• 15:28
  The
• 15:29
  W
• 15:29
  is
• 15:30
  worth
• 15:31
  is
• 15:31
  non-negotiable.
• 15:32
  So
• 15:33
  reset
• 15:33
  the
• 15:33
  standard.
• 15:34
  The
• 15:34
  W
• 15:35
  is
• 15:35
  where
• 15:36
  you
• 15:36
  draw
• 15:36
  the
• 15:36
  line
• 15:37
  and
• 15:37
  really
• 15:38
  mean
• 15:38
  it
• 15:38
  this
• 15:38
  time,
• 15:39
  not
• 15:39
  the
• 15:39
  line
• 15:40
  you
• 15:40
  draw
• 15:40
  and
• 15:41
  then
• 15:41
  quietly
• 15:42
  move
• 15:42
  when
• 15:43
  somebody
• 15:43
  pushes
• 15:43
  back.
• 15:44
  No,
• 15:45
  I
• 15:45
  mean
• 15:45
  the
• 15:46
  line,
• 15:47
  the
• 15:47
  one
• 15:47
  that
• 15:48
  exists.
• 15:49
  Because
• 15:49
  you
• 15:50
  finally
• 15:50
  understand
• 15:51
  that
• 15:52
  your
• 15:52
  worth
• 15:52
  is
• 15:53
  not
• 15:53
  up
• 15:53
  for
• 15:53
  debate.
• 15:54
  What
• 15:55
  do
• 15:55
  you
• 15:55
  actually
• 15:56
  need
• 15:56
  from
• 15:57
  the
• 15:57
  people
• 15:57
  in
• 15:58
  your
• 15:58
  life?
• 15:59
  Consistency,
• 16:01
  reciprocity,
• 16:02
  celebration,
• 16:03
  safety,
• 16:04
  honesty.
• 16:05
  Write
• 16:06
  it
• 16:06
  down.
• 16:06
  Get
• 16:07
  specific,
• 16:08
  because
• 16:08
  a
• 16:08
  standard
• 16:09
  you
• 16:10
  can't
• 16:10
  articulate
• 16:11
  is
• 16:12
  a
• 16:12
  standard
• 16:13
  you
• 16:13
  can't
• 16:13
  enforce.
• 16:14
  Friend,
• 16:15
  you
• 16:15
  are
• 16:16
  the
• 16:16
  Versace
• 16:17
  of
• 16:17
  she
• 16:18
  okay,
• 16:19
  and
• 16:19
  either
• 16:20
  they
• 16:20
  can
• 16:20
  afford
• 16:21
  you
• 16:22
  or
• 16:22
  they
• 16:22
  can't,
• 16:23
  but
• 16:23
  it
• 16:23
  is
• 16:24
  a
• 16:24
  full
• 16:24
  price
• 16:24
  tag
• 16:25
  or
• 16:25
  nothing.
• 16:26
  No
• 16:26
  markdowns,
• 16:27
  no
• 16:28
  clearance
• 16:28
  rack,
• 16:29
  and
• 16:29
  no
• 16:30
  apologies.
• 16:31
  The
• 16:32
  N
• 16:32
  is
• 16:32
  nourish
• 16:33
  yourself
• 16:34
  always.
• 16:36
  The
• 16:36
  N
• 16:36
  is
• 16:37
  the
• 16:37
  one
• 16:37
  we
• 16:38
  skip
• 16:38
  the
• 16:38
  most,
• 16:39
  and
• 16:39
  it
• 16:39
  might
• 16:40
  be
• 16:40
  the
• 16:40
  most
• 16:40
  important
• 16:41
  before
• 16:42
  you
• 16:42
  pour
• 16:42
  into
• 16:43
  anyone
• 16:44
  else,
• 16:45
  pour
• 16:45
  into
• 16:46
  yourself.
• 16:47
  This
• 16:47
  is
• 16:47
  not
• 16:48
  selfish
• 16:49
  or
• 16:49
  survival.
• 16:50
  This
• 16:51
  is
• 16:51
  strategy
• 16:52
  and
• 16:52
  it's
• 16:53
  required
• 16:54
  because
• 16:54
  a
• 16:55
  woman
• 16:55
  who
• 16:55
  is
• 16:55
  full,
• 16:56
  genuinely,
• 16:58
  deeply,
• 16:58
  soul,
• 16:59
  a
• 16:59
  level.
• 17:00
  Does
• 17:01
  not
• 17:01
  accept
• 17:02
  scraps
• 17:03
  because
• 17:03
  she
• 17:03
  doesn't
• 17:04
  have
• 17:04
  to.
• 17:05
  She's
• 17:05
  already
• 17:06
  nourished,
• 17:07
  but
• 17:07
  a
• 17:07
  woman
• 17:08
  running
• 17:08
  on
• 17:08
  empty,
• 17:09
  she'll
• 17:10
  take
• 17:10
  whatever
• 17:11
  is
• 17:11
  offered
• 17:11
  to
• 17:11
  her
• 17:12
  just
• 17:13
  to
• 17:13
  feel
• 17:13
  something.
• 17:14
  Nourish
• 17:15
  yourself
• 17:15
  first,
• 17:16
  not
• 17:17
  after
• 17:17
  everyone
• 17:18
  else
• 17:18
  is
• 17:19
  already
• 17:19
  taken
• 17:19
  care
• 17:20
  of.
• 17:20
  Friend,
• 17:21
  this
• 17:21
  is
• 17:21
  so
• 17:21
  important.
• 17:22
  Do
• 17:23
  not,
• 17:23
  and
• 17:23
  I
• 17:24
  mean,
• 17:24
  do
• 17:24
  not.
• 17:25
  Just
• 17:26
  leave
• 17:26
  yourself
• 17:27
  with
• 17:27
  whatever
• 17:28
  is
• 17:28
  left
• 17:28
  over
• 17:29
  first.
• 17:31
  Nourish
• 17:31
  yourself
• 17:33
  always
• 17:34
  first.
• 17:35
  Always,
• 17:35
  always,
• 17:36
  always
• 17:37
  heavy
• 17:38
  on
• 17:38
  the,
• 17:38
  always
• 17:39
  the
• 17:40
  I
• 17:40
  is
• 17:41
  invite
• 17:41
  only.
• 17:42
  What
• 17:42
  matches
• 17:43
  your
• 17:43
  worth?
• 17:44
  This
• 17:45
  is
• 17:45
  where
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  become
• 17:46
  intentional
• 17:47
  about
• 17:48
  who.
• 17:49
  And
• 17:49
  the
• 17:49
  what
• 17:50
  you
• 17:50
  allow
• 17:50
  in
• 17:51
  this
• 17:52
  isn't
• 17:52
  about
• 17:53
  building
• 17:53
  walls.
• 17:54
  It's
• 17:55
  about
• 17:55
  building
• 17:56
  a
• 17:56
  door
• 17:57
  with
• 17:57
  a
• 17:57
  standard.
• 17:58
  This
• 17:58
  is
• 17:58
  your
• 17:59
  official
• 18:00
  bouncer
• 18:00
  because
• 18:01
  not
• 18:01
  everybody
• 18:01
  gets
• 18:02
  in.
• 18:02
  Not
• 18:03
  everybody
• 18:03
  gets
• 18:04
  a
• 18:04
  front
• 18:04
  row
• 18:04
  seat
• 18:05
  to
• 18:05
  your
• 18:05
  life,
• 18:06
  to
• 18:06
  your
• 18:07
  energy,
• 18:07
  to
• 18:07
  your
• 18:08
  heart.
• 18:09
  And
• 18:09
  the
• 18:09
  ones
• 18:10
  who
• 18:10
  do
• 18:10
  get
• 18:11
  in,
• 18:11
  They
• 18:12
  are
• 18:12
  worthy.
• 18:13
  They've
• 18:13
  shown
• 18:13
  it
• 18:13
  through
• 18:14
  consistency,
• 18:15
  through
• 18:15
  reciprocity,
• 18:17
  through
• 18:17
  showing
• 18:17
  up.
• 18:18
  Not
• 18:18
  just
• 18:19
  when
• 18:19
  it's
• 18:19
  convenient,
• 18:20
  but
• 18:20
  when
• 18:20
  it
• 18:21
  counts.
• 18:22
  You
• 18:22
  are
• 18:22
  not
• 18:23
  a
• 18:23
  revolving
• 18:24
  door.
• 18:25
  You
• 18:25
  are
• 18:25
  a
• 18:26
  curated
• 18:27
  experience.
• 18:28
  Act
• 18:28
  accordingly.
• 18:29
  The
• 18:30
  T
• 18:30
  is
• 18:30
  trust
• 18:31
  the
• 18:32
  discomfort.
• 18:33
  Trust
• 18:33
  yourself,
• 18:34
  and
• 18:35
  trust
• 18:35
  that
• 18:36
  aligned.
• 18:37
  It
• 18:37
  feels
• 18:37
  unfamiliar
• 18:38
  at
• 18:39
  first.
• 18:40
  This
• 18:40
  is
• 18:40
  three
• 18:41
  truths
• 18:42
  all
• 18:42
  in
• 18:42
  one
• 18:42
  letter.
• 18:43
  Trust
• 18:43
  the
• 18:44
  discomfort
• 18:44
  because
• 18:45
  growth
• 18:45
  is
• 18:45
  not
• 18:46
  supposed
• 18:46
  to
• 18:46
  feel
• 18:47
  comfortable.
• 18:47
  If
• 18:48
  choosing
• 18:48
  yourself
• 18:49
  felt
• 18:49
  easy,
• 18:50
  you
• 18:50
  would've
• 18:51
  done
• 18:51
  it
• 18:51
  a
• 18:51
  long
• 18:51
  time
• 18:52
  ago.
• 18:52
  The
• 18:53
  discomfort
• 18:53
  means
• 18:54
  you
• 18:54
  are
• 18:55
  doing
• 18:55
  something
• 18:56
  new,
• 18:56
  something
• 18:57
  real,
• 18:58
  something
• 18:59
  that
• 18:59
  matters.
• 19:00
  And
• 19:00
  repetition
• 19:01
  is
• 19:02
  what
• 19:02
  teaches
• 19:03
  your
• 19:03
  nervous
• 19:03
  system
• 19:04
  that
• 19:04
  this
• 19:04
  is.
• 19:07
  Trust
• 19:07
  yourself
• 19:08
  to
• 19:08
  act
• 19:09
  on
• 19:09
  what
• 19:09
  you
• 19:09
  already
• 19:11
  know.
• 19:11
  Friend
• 19:12
  whole
• 19:12
  time
• 19:13
  your
• 19:13
  gut
• 19:14
  was
• 19:14
  right.
• 19:14
  You
• 19:15
  just
• 19:15
  needed
• 19:15
  to
• 19:16
  start
• 19:16
  listening
• 19:17
  to
• 19:17
  it
• 19:17
  before
• 19:18
  the
• 19:18
  situation
• 19:19
  confirms
• 19:20
  what
• 19:20
  you
• 19:21
  already
• 19:21
  felt
• 19:22
  and
• 19:22
  trust
• 19:23
  that
• 19:23
  aligned.
• 19:24
  It's
• 19:25
  gonna
• 19:25
  feel
• 19:25
  unfamiliar
• 19:26
  at
• 19:26
  first
• 19:27
  because
• 19:27
  it
• 19:27
  will
• 19:28
  when
• 19:28
  somebody
• 19:29
  actually
• 19:29
  shows
• 19:30
  up
• 19:30
  consistently,
• 19:31
  when
• 19:31
  someone
• 19:32
  actually
• 19:33
  chooses
• 19:33
  you
• 19:34
  back.
• 19:35
  When
• 19:35
  a
• 19:35
  friendship.
• 19:36
  Actually
• 19:36
  feels
• 19:37
  reciprocal.
• 19:38
  It
• 19:39
  might
• 19:39
  feel
• 19:39
  strange
• 19:40
  at
• 19:40
  first.
• 19:41
  Let
• 19:41
  it,
• 19:42
  that's
• 19:42
  not
• 19:42
  a
• 19:43
  red
• 19:43
  flag.
• 19:44
  That's
• 19:44
  what
• 19:44
  right
• 19:45
  actually
• 19:46
  feels
• 19:46
  like.
• 19:47
  You've
• 19:47
  just
• 19:47
  been
• 19:47
  so
• 19:48
  used
• 19:48
  to
• 19:48
  wrong.
• 19:49
  That,
• 19:49
  right
• 19:50
  feels
• 19:50
  foreign.
• 19:51
  So
• 19:51
  give
• 19:51
  yourself
• 19:52
  time
• 19:52
  to
• 19:53
  adjust
• 19:54
  to
• 19:54
  being
• 19:54
  treated
• 19:55
  the
• 19:55
  way
• 19:56
  you
• 19:56
  always
• 19:57
  deserved.
• 20:01
  Relief
• 20:02
  is
• 20:02
  real,
• 20:03
  but
• 20:03
  relief
• 20:04
  alone
• 20:05
  doesn't
• 20:05
  create
• 20:06
  change.
• 20:07
  What
• 20:07
  most
• 20:07
  women
• 20:08
  notice
• 20:08
  is
• 20:08
  that
• 20:09
  without
• 20:09
  a
• 20:10
  system
• 20:10
  to
• 20:10
  return
• 20:11
  to
• 20:12
  those
• 20:12
  old
• 20:12
  patterns
• 20:13
  resurface
• 20:14
  and
• 20:15
  self-doubt
• 20:16
  starts
• 20:16
  running
• 20:17
  the
• 20:17
  show
• 20:17
  again.
• 20:18
  The
• 20:18
  Main
• 20:18
  Character
• 20:19
  Momentum
• 20:19
  Builder
• 20:20
  was
• 20:20
  created
• 20:21
  for
• 20:21
  that
• 20:21
  exact
• 20:22
  gap.
• 20:23
  It
• 20:23
  helps
• 20:23
  you
• 20:23
  to
• 20:23
  build
• 20:24
  momentum
• 20:25
  from
• 20:25
  self-love,
• 20:27
  not
• 20:27
  pressure,
• 20:28
  so
• 20:28
  alignment
• 20:29
  becomes
• 20:29
  something
• 20:30
  you
• 20:30
  live
• 20:30
  by
• 20:31
  day.
• 20:32
  By
• 20:32
  day.
• 20:33
  This
• 20:33
  is
• 20:33
  for
• 20:34
  the
• 20:34
  woman
• 20:34
  who
• 20:34
  wants
• 20:35
  to
• 20:35
  stop
• 20:36
  relying
• 20:37
  on
• 20:37
  motivation
• 20:38
  alone
• 20:38
  and
• 20:39
  start
• 20:39
  moving
• 20:40
  with
• 20:40
  steadiness.
• 20:41
  If
• 20:41
  this
• 20:42
  sounds
• 20:42
  like
• 20:42
  you,
• 20:43
  the
• 20:43
  Main
• 20:43
  Character
• 20:44
  Momentum
• 20:44
  Builder
• 20:45
  is
• 20:45
  waiting
• 20:46
  for
• 20:46
  you
• 20:46
  below.
• 20:49
  Okay,
• 20:50
  friend.
• 20:50
  This
• 20:51
  is
• 20:51
  our
• 20:51
  favorite
• 20:51
  part
• 20:52
  because
• 20:52
  this
• 20:53
  is
• 20:53
  where
• 20:54
  we
• 20:54
  do
• 20:54
  ourself
• 20:55
  love.
• 20:55
  Two
• 20:56
  step.
• 20:56
  Why?
• 20:57
  Because
• 20:58
  it's
• 20:58
  simple.
• 20:59
  Everybody
• 20:59
  can
• 21:00
  do
• 21:00
  it,
• 21:00
  and
• 21:00
  it
• 21:01
  always
• 21:01
  gets
• 21:02
  the
• 21:02
  party
• 21:02
  started.
• 21:03
  And
• 21:03
  this
• 21:03
  is
• 21:03
  where
• 21:03
  we
• 21:04
  take
• 21:04
  everything
• 21:05
  we
• 21:05
  just
• 21:05
  talked
• 21:06
  about
• 21:06
  and
• 21:07
  turn
• 21:07
  it
• 21:07
  into
• 21:07
  something
• 21:08
  simple
• 21:08
  you
• 21:09
  can
• 21:09
  actually
• 21:10
  do
• 21:10
  today.
• 21:11
  Step
• 21:12
  one,
• 21:12
  the
• 21:12
  mirror.
• 21:13
  Move
• 21:14
  tonight.
• 21:15
  Just
• 21:15
  tonight,
• 21:16
  I
• 21:16
  want
• 21:16
  you
• 21:17
  to
• 21:17
  sit
• 21:17
  quietly
• 21:18
  and
• 21:18
  ask
• 21:19
  yourself
• 21:19
  the
• 21:20
  signature
• 21:20
  question
• 21:21
  about
• 21:22
  the
• 21:22
  top
• 21:23
  three
• 21:23
  relationships
• 21:24
  in
• 21:24
  your
• 21:25
  life
• 21:25
  right
• 21:26
  now.
• 21:27
  If
• 21:27
  this
• 21:27
  person
• 21:28
  never
• 21:28
  changed,
• 21:29
  would
• 21:30
  I
• 21:30
  still
• 21:31
  want
• 21:31
  them
• 21:31
  here?
• 21:32
  Write
• 21:33
  down
• 21:33
  the
• 21:33
  names.
• 21:34
  Write
• 21:34
  down
• 21:35
  the
• 21:35
  honest
• 21:36
  answers.
• 21:37
  No
• 21:37
  editing,
• 21:38
  no
• 21:38
  softening,
• 21:40
  just
• 21:40
  the
• 21:40
  truth.
• 21:41
  This
• 21:42
  is
• 21:42
  not
• 21:42
  about
• 21:43
  making
• 21:43
  any
• 21:44
  decisions
• 21:44
  tonight.
• 21:45
  This
• 21:46
  is
• 21:46
  just
• 21:46
  about
• 21:46
  seeing
• 21:47
  clearly
• 21:48
  because
• 21:48
  clarity
• 21:49
  is
• 21:50
  a
• 21:50
  definite
• 21:51
  party
• 21:51
  starter
• 21:52
  to
• 21:52
  transformation.
• 21:53
  You
• 21:53
  cannot
• 21:54
  choose
• 21:54
  better
• 21:55
  until
• 21:55
  you
• 21:55
  see
• 21:56
  what
• 21:56
  you've
• 21:57
  been
• 21:57
  choosing.
• 21:58
  The
• 21:58
  mirror
• 21:58
  move
• 21:59
  is
• 21:59
  how
• 21:59
  you
• 22:00
  see
• 22:00
  it.
• 22:00
  Step
• 22:01
  two
• 22:01
  is
• 22:02
  the
• 22:02
  love
• 22:03
  deposit
• 22:04
  after
• 22:04
  the
• 22:04
  mere
• 22:05
  move.
• 22:06
  Immediately
• 22:07
  do
• 22:07
  one
• 22:08
  thing
• 22:08
  that
• 22:09
  is
• 22:09
  purely,
• 22:10
  completely
• 22:11
  unapologetically
• 22:13
  For
• 22:13
  you
• 22:14
  not
• 22:15
  productive,
• 22:15
  you,
• 22:16
  not
• 22:16
  helpful,
• 22:17
  you
• 22:18
  just
• 22:18
  you
• 22:19
  a
• 22:19
  walk,
• 22:20
  a
• 22:20
  bath,
• 22:21
  your
• 22:21
  favorite
• 22:22
  meal,
• 22:22
  a
• 22:22
  song
• 22:23
  that
• 22:23
  makes
• 22:23
  you
• 22:24
  feel
• 22:24
  like
• 22:25
  a
• 22:25
  main
• 22:25
  character,
• 22:26
  a
• 22:26
  chapter
• 22:27
  of
• 22:27
  a
• 22:27
  book
• 22:27
  you've
• 22:27
  been
• 22:28
  putting
• 22:28
  off
• 22:29
  a
• 22:29
  nap
• 22:30
  with
• 22:30
  zero
• 22:31
  guilt,
• 22:31
  just
• 22:32
  one
• 22:33
  love
• 22:33
  deposit
• 22:34
  straight
• 22:35
  into
• 22:35
  your
• 22:36
  account.
• 22:36
  Because
• 22:37
  here's
• 22:37
  the
• 22:37
  thing,
• 22:38
  every
• 22:38
  time
• 22:38
  you
• 22:39
  choose
• 22:39
  yourself,
• 22:40
  even
• 22:41
  in
• 22:41
  a
• 22:41
  small
• 22:42
  way,
• 22:42
  you
• 22:43
  are
• 22:43
  sending
• 22:43
  your
• 22:44
  soul
• 22:44
  a
• 22:44
  message.
• 22:45
  I
• 22:46
  matter.
• 22:47
  I
• 22:47
  come
• 22:47
  first.
• 22:48
  I
• 22:49
  am
• 22:49
  worth
• 22:50
  taking
• 22:50
  care
• 22:51
  of
• 22:51
  and
• 22:52
  the
• 22:52
  more
• 22:52
  you
• 22:52
  send
• 22:53
  the
• 22:53
  message,
• 22:54
  the
• 22:54
  less
• 22:54
  you
• 22:55
  accept
• 22:55
  from
• 22:56
  people
• 22:56
  who
• 22:57
  don't
• 22:57
  believe
• 22:57
  it.
• 22:58
  To
• 22:58
  the
• 22:58
  mirror
• 22:59
  move
• 22:59
  plus
• 23:00
  the
• 23:00
  love
• 23:00
  deposit.
• 23:01
  That's
• 23:02
  the
• 23:02
  simple
• 23:03
  self-love
• 23:04
  two
• 23:04
  step.
• 23:05
  Very
• 23:05
  simple,
• 23:06
  very
• 23:06
  powerful.
• 23:07
  But
• 23:07
  the
• 23:07
  next
• 23:08
  important
• 23:08
  step
• 23:09
  just
• 23:10
  might
• 23:10
  be
• 23:10
  the
• 23:11
  most
• 23:11
  important
• 23:12
  of
• 23:12
  them
• 23:13
  all,
• 23:13
  and
• 23:14
  that
• 23:14
  is
• 23:15
  the
• 23:15
  next
• 23:16
  aligned
• 23:17
  step
• 23:18
  you
• 23:18
  decide
• 23:19
  to
• 23:19
  take.
• 23:20
  After
• 23:20
  that,
• 23:22
  do
• 23:22
  it
• 23:22
  today,
• 23:22
  friend.
• 23:23
  Now
• 23:23
  lemme
• 23:24
  pour
• 23:24
  into
• 23:24
  you
• 23:24
  real
• 23:24
  quick.
• 23:25
  Okay.
• 23:26
  Before
• 23:26
  we
• 23:27
  close,
• 23:27
  I
• 23:27
  need
• 23:28
  you
• 23:28
  to
• 23:28
  stop
• 23:28
  whatever
• 23:29
  it
• 23:29
  is
• 23:29
  that
• 23:29
  you're
• 23:29
  doing
• 23:30
  for
• 23:30
  just
• 23:30
  a
• 23:30
  second.
• 23:31
  Put
• 23:31
  the
• 23:31
  phone
• 23:32
  down
• 23:32
  if
• 23:32
  you're
• 23:33
  scrolling.
• 23:34
  If
• 23:34
  you're
• 23:34
  driving,
• 23:35
  please
• 23:35
  be
• 23:35
  extra
• 23:36
  careful.
• 23:37
  If
• 23:37
  you
• 23:37
  are
• 23:37
  in
• 23:37
  a
• 23:37
  safe
• 23:38
  space
• 23:39
  to
• 23:39
  just
• 23:39
  pause,
• 23:40
  please
• 23:40
  do
• 23:41
  just
• 23:42
  pause
• 23:43
  and
• 23:43
  receive
• 23:44
  because
• 23:45
  what
• 23:45
  I'm
• 23:45
  about
• 23:45
  to
• 23:45
  say,
• 23:46
  I
• 23:46
  really
• 23:47
  need
• 23:47
  it
• 23:48
  to
• 23:48
  land.
• 23:49
  Friend,
• 23:50
  I
• 23:50
  see
• 23:50
  you.
• 23:51
  Not
• 23:51
  the
• 23:51
  version
• 23:52
  of
• 23:52
  you
• 23:52
  that's
• 23:53
  holding
• 23:53
  it
• 23:53
  all
• 23:53
  together
• 23:54
  for
• 23:54
  everybody
• 23:55
  else.
• 23:55
  Not
• 23:56
  the
• 23:56
  version
• 23:57
  that
• 23:57
  smiles
• 23:57
  through
• 23:58
  it
• 23:58
  and
• 23:58
  figures
• 23:59
  it
• 23:59
  out
• 23:59
  and
• 24:00
  shows
• 24:00
  up
• 24:00
  anyway.
• 24:01
  The
• 24:01
  real
• 24:02
  you.
• 24:03
  The
• 24:03
  one
• 24:04
  who's
• 24:04
  a
• 24:04
  little
• 24:04
  tired,
• 24:05
  the
• 24:06
  one
• 24:06
  who's
• 24:06
  been
• 24:06
  giving
• 24:07
  and
• 24:07
  giving,
• 24:08
  and
• 24:08
  quietly
• 24:09
  wondering
• 24:10
  when
• 24:10
  it's
• 24:10
  going
• 24:11
  to
• 24:11
  be
• 24:11
  your
• 24:11
  turn.
• 24:12
  This.
• 24:13
  Is
• 24:13
  your
• 24:14
  turn.
• 24:14
  You
• 24:15
  did
• 24:15
  not
• 24:15
  end
• 24:16
  up
• 24:16
  tolerating
• 24:16
  the
• 24:17
  wrong
• 24:17
  people
• 24:18
  because
• 24:18
  you
• 24:18
  were
• 24:19
  weak.
• 24:19
  You
• 24:20
  ended
• 24:20
  up
• 24:20
  here
• 24:21
  because
• 24:22
  somewhere
• 24:22
  along
• 24:23
  the
• 24:23
  way,
• 24:24
  somebody
• 24:24
  convinced
• 24:25
  you
• 24:25
  that
• 24:26
  your
• 24:26
  needs
• 24:27
  were
• 24:27
  negotiable,
• 24:29
  that
• 24:29
  your
• 24:29
  feelings
• 24:30
  were
• 24:30
  too
• 24:30
  much,
• 24:31
  that
• 24:32
  love
• 24:32
  meant
• 24:33
  shrinking,
• 24:34
  and
• 24:34
  you
• 24:34
  believe
• 24:35
  them
• 24:35
  because
• 24:36
  you
• 24:36
  were
• 24:37
  doing
• 24:37
  the
• 24:37
  best
• 24:38
  you
• 24:38
  could
• 24:38
  do
• 24:39
  with
• 24:39
  what
• 24:39
  you
• 24:40
  knew.
• 24:41
  And
• 24:41
  you
• 24:42
  have
• 24:42
  better
• 24:42
  awareness
• 24:43
  now,
• 24:44
  and
• 24:44
  knowing
• 24:44
  better,
• 24:45
  that's
• 24:46
  not
• 24:46
  a
• 24:46
  burden.
• 24:46
  It's
• 24:47
  a
• 24:47
  blessing.
• 24:48
  You
• 24:48
  are
• 24:48
  not
• 24:48
  behind
• 24:49
  or
• 24:49
  broken.
• 24:50
  You
• 24:51
  are
• 24:51
  not
• 24:51
  too
• 24:52
  far
• 24:52
  gone
• 24:53
  to
• 24:53
  choose
• 24:53
  differently.
• 24:55
  You
• 24:55
  are
• 24:55
  exactly
• 24:57
  where
• 24:57
  you
• 24:57
  need
• 24:57
  to
• 24:58
  be
• 24:58
  standing
• 24:59
  at
• 24:59
  the
• 24:59
  door
• 25:00
  of
• 25:00
  a
• 25:00
  version
• 25:00
  of
• 25:01
  your
• 25:01
  life
• 25:02
  that
• 25:02
  finally
• 25:02
  has
• 25:03
  room
• 25:03
  for
• 25:04
  you.
• 25:05
  So
• 25:06
  I
• 25:06
  need
• 25:06
  you
• 25:06
  to
• 25:07
  hear
• 25:07
  this
• 25:08
  like
• 25:08
  it's
• 25:08
  the
• 25:09
  only
• 25:09
  thing
• 25:09
  that
• 25:09
  matters
• 25:10
  today.
• 25:11
  You
• 25:11
  are
• 25:12
  worthy
• 25:12
  of
• 25:12
  people
• 25:13
  who
• 25:13
  show
• 25:14
  up.
• 25:14
  You
• 25:15
  are
• 25:15
  worthy
• 25:16
  of
• 25:16
  love.
• 25:17
  That
• 25:17
  doesn't
• 25:17
  cost
• 25:18
  you
• 25:18
  your
• 25:19
  peace.
• 25:19
  You
• 25:20
  are
• 25:20
  worthy
• 25:21
  of
• 25:21
  friendships
• 25:22
  and
• 25:22
  relationships
• 25:24
  that
• 25:24
  feel
• 25:25
  like.
• 25:26
  Home
• 25:27
  you
• 25:27
  are
• 25:27
  worthy
• 25:28
  of
• 25:28
  a
• 25:28
  table
• 25:29
  where
• 25:29
  your
• 25:30
  seat
• 25:30
  was
• 25:31
  saved
• 25:31
  and
• 25:32
  not
• 25:32
  pulled
• 25:32
  away.
• 25:33
  Not
• 25:33
  someday,
• 25:34
  not
• 25:35
  when
• 25:35
  you're
• 25:35
  further
• 25:35
  along,
• 25:36
  not
• 25:37
  when
• 25:37
  you've
• 25:37
  healed
• 25:38
  enough
• 25:38
  or
• 25:38
  grown
• 25:39
  enough,
• 25:39
  or
• 25:40
  even
• 25:40
  proven
• 25:41
  enough
• 25:42
  right
• 25:43
  now
• 25:44
  as
• 25:44
  you
• 25:44
  are
• 25:45
  today.
• 25:46
  So
• 25:47
  stop
• 25:47
  waiting
• 25:48
  for
• 25:48
  someone
• 25:48
  to
• 25:48
  recognize
• 25:49
  your
• 25:49
  worth
• 25:50
  and
• 25:51
  recognize
• 25:51
  it
• 25:52
  yourself.
• 25:53
  First,
• 25:54
  this
• 25:54
  is
• 25:54
  where
• 25:55
  everything
• 25:55
  changes.
• 25:57
  This
• 25:57
  is
• 25:57
  where
• 25:58
  your
• 25:59
  story
• 25:59
  changes.
• 26:01
  I
• 26:01
  love
• 26:01
  you,
• 26:02
  friend.
• 26:02
  Now
• 26:03
  let's
• 26:03
  close
• 26:03
  this
• 26:04
  out
• 26:04
  the
• 26:04
  right
• 26:04
  way.
• 26:05
  Here's
• 26:06
  your
• 26:06
  assignment.
• 26:07
  Do
• 26:07
  the
• 26:08
  Self-Love
• 26:08
  two
• 26:09
  step
• 26:09
  today,
• 26:10
  the
• 26:10
  mirror
• 26:11
  move
• 26:11
  where
• 26:11
  you
• 26:12
  ask
• 26:12
  your
• 26:12
  signature
• 26:13
  question
• 26:14
  about
• 26:14
  your
• 26:14
  top
• 26:15
  three
• 26:15
  relationships
• 26:16
  and
• 26:16
  write
• 26:17
  down
• 26:17
  the
• 26:17
  honest
• 26:18
  answers,
• 26:19
  the
• 26:20
  love
• 26:20
  deposit.
• 26:21
  Do
• 26:21
  one
• 26:22
  thing
• 26:22
  immediately
• 26:23
  after
• 26:24
  that
• 26:25
  that
• 26:25
  is
• 26:25
  purely
• 26:26
  for
• 26:27
  you,
• 26:28
  And
• 26:28
  that's
• 26:28
  it.
• 26:28
  Two
• 26:29
  steps.
• 26:29
  Start
• 26:30
  there
• 26:31
  and
• 26:31
  then
• 26:32
  take
• 26:32
  the
• 26:32
  next
• 26:33
  best
• 26:34
  aligned
• 26:34
  action
• 26:35
  for
• 26:36
  you.
• 26:37
  And
• 26:37
  if
• 26:37
  you
• 26:38
  want
• 26:38
  ongoing
• 26:38
  support
• 26:39
  doing
• 26:39
  this
• 26:40
  work,
• 26:40
  the
• 26:40
  main
• 26:41
  character
• 26:41
  momentum
• 26:42
  builder
• 26:42
  is
• 26:42
  linked
• 26:43
  in
• 26:43
  the
• 26:43
  show
• 26:43
  notes
• 26:44
  because
• 26:44
  this
• 26:45
  kind
• 26:45
  of
• 26:45
  standard
• 26:46
  setting
• 26:47
  takes
• 26:47
  practice
• 26:48
  and
• 26:49
  I
• 26:49
  wanna
• 26:49
  be
• 26:49
  in
• 26:49
  your
• 26:49
  corner
• 26:50
  while
• 26:50
  you
• 26:51
  build
• 26:51
  it.
• 26:51
  Make
• 26:52
  sure
• 26:52
  you
• 26:52
  are
• 26:52
  subscribed
• 26:53
  so
• 26:53
  you
• 26:54
  never
• 26:54
  miss
• 26:54
  an
• 26:54
  episode.
• 26:55
  And
• 26:55
  please
• 26:56
  a
• 26:56
  leave
• 26:56
  a
• 26:57
  review,
• 26:57
  especially
• 26:58
  if
• 26:58
  this
• 26:58
  hit
• 26:58
  home.
• 26:59
  It
• 26:59
  helps
• 27:00
  more
• 27:00
  women
• 27:01
  find
• 27:01
  this
• 27:02
  show,
• 27:02
  and
• 27:03
  that
• 27:03
  is
• 27:03
  literally
• 27:04
  the
• 27:04
  mission.
• 27:05
  It
• 27:06
  is
• 27:06
  for
• 27:06
  women
• 27:06
  to
• 27:07
  step
• 27:07
  into
• 27:07
  their
• 27:08
  Main
• 27:08
  Character
• 27:09
  Energy
• 27:10
  and
• 27:11
  feel
• 27:11
  free
• 27:11
  to
• 27:11
  drop
• 27:12
  some
• 27:12
  comments
• 27:13
  or
• 27:13
  even
• 27:13
  DM
• 27:14
  me.
• 27:14
  Which
• 27:15
  letter
• 27:15
  of
• 27:16
  settle
• 27:17
  hit
• 27:17
  closest
• 27:18
  to
• 27:18
  home
• 27:18
  for
• 27:18
  you?
• 27:19
  Trust
• 27:19
  me,
• 27:20
  I
• 27:20
  read
• 27:20
  every
• 27:21
  single
• 27:21
  one
• 27:21
  and
• 27:22
  I
• 27:22
  genuinely
• 27:23
  wanna
• 27:23
  know.
• 27:23
  Friend,
• 27:24
  stop
• 27:25
  settling.
• 27:25
  Own
• 27:26
  your
• 27:27
  worth
• 27:27
  and
• 27:28
  choose
• 27:28
  people
• 27:29
  who
• 27:29
  choose
• 27:30
  you
• 27:30
  back.
• 27:31
  Stay
• 27:31
  aligned,
• 27:32
  stay
• 27:32
  selective,
• 27:33
  and
• 27:34
  stay
• 27:34
  center
• 27:35
  stage
• 27:36
  because
• 27:36
  you
• 27:37
  were
• 27:37
  never
• 27:37
  meant
• 27:38
  to
• 27:38
  be
• 27:38
  hidden.
• 27:39
  You
• 27:39
  are
• 27:40
  the
• 27:40
  moment.
• 27:43
  And
• 27:44
  remember,
• 27:44
  being
• 27:45
  confident
• 27:45
  enough
• 27:46
  to
• 27:46
  disappoint
• 27:47
  might
• 27:48
  be
• 27:48
  one
• 27:48
  of
• 27:49
  the
• 27:49
  most
• 27:49
  loving
• 27:49
  things
• 27:50
  you
• 27:50
  ever
• 27:51
  do
• 27:51
  because
• 27:52
  every
• 27:52
  time
• 27:53
  you
• 27:53
  choose
• 27:53
  alignment
• 27:54
  over
• 27:55
  attachment,
• 27:56
  you
• 27:56
  strengthen
• 27:57
  the
• 27:57
  belief
• 27:58
  that
• 27:58
  you
• 27:59
  can
• 27:59
  trust
• 27:59
  yourself.
• 28:00
  The
• 28:00
  moment
• 28:01
  you
• 28:01
  reconnect
• 28:02
  to
• 28:02
  your
• 28:03
  standard
• 28:04
  self-trust
• 28:05
  deepens.
• 28:06
  Stay
• 28:07
  unavailable
• 28:08
  for
• 28:09
  self
• 28:09
  abandonment,
• 28:10
  and
• 28:11
  I
• 28:11
  can't
• 28:11
  wait
• 28:11
  to
• 28:12
  see
• 28:12
  you
• 28:12
  in
• 28:12
  the
• 28:12
  next
• 28:13
  episode.