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Hypnosis to Release Historical Trauma and Justified Anger · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi. It's Adam here, and in today's
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  episode of The Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a
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  hypnosis session designed to help you release any historical
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  trauma or feelings of anger. And I was working with a client
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  that would quite often get angry and fly off the handle or speak
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  their mind. And it seemed to me that a lot
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  of the reason for. This.
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  Is that they had suppressed anger from historical events
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  that were quite frankly wrong. They were completely
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  unjustified. And some people can get angry
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  about little things and you can almost wonder like, why are they
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  so angry about it? But in this case, we're talking
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  about sexual assault, abuse, you know, physical violence, things
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  that, again, happening to a child or a teenager that just
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  absolutely abhorrent. And at that time, they couldn't
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  express their rage, their anger. So going through their life,
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  they either felt that they weren't allowed to have a voice.
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  They weren't meant to be in certain places that they were.
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  Less valuable or less? Worthy than other people.
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  And because of that, every now and then they would blow a bit
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  of a gasket and that pressure cooker would explode and they
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  would suddenly release all of these emotions that were inside.
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  So this is about releasing some of these historical moments of
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  trauma and justified anger. Not all anger is irrational, and
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  it's very easy for people to paint other people that get
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  aggressive or angry is somehow unreasonable.
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  But some anger is completely justified.
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  And if you think of some of the humanitarians and some of the
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  people that have had the biggest impact in the world, you know,
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  their anger was completely justified.
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  If you look at as well, like Nelson Mandela, for example,
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  went through horrible injustice. And many people have also
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  experienced horrible injustice, but they try and harness it in a
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  positive way. And that element of being angry
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  that something isn't right can lead to very empowering change.
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  This particular client could think of moments from their
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  childhood and their teenage years and even early adult
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  years. That was just.
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  Completely wrong. So there's an element here of
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  going back to those moments to make it the way they would want
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  it to be, to make it feel liberating and freeing for them.
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  So if you feel like you get easily triggered into anger, you
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  might benefit from this session. And what I would encourage you
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  to do is to think of an early memory that made you feel angry
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  or upset, or maybe you on the receiving end of something
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  unjustified, unfair, just something that is unacceptable.
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  And maybe you can release some of the trauma and anger
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  connected to that. Some of the references though
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  will be very specific to the client I was working with.
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  And therefore just. Ignore anything irrelevant and
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  if you do like the idea of a bespoke session created for you
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  if you click more details or more information next to this.
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  Podcast. You'll see the show notes and in
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  the show notes there will be a link to the ability to book a
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  free consultation call to explore working with me.
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  If that appeals, do that, and if it doesn't, don't and just
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  listen to the session now. And to get the most out of this
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  session, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you exhale, just allow your
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  eyelids to close. That's it.
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  Position your body in a way where you can feel comfortable,
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  feel relaxed, and just notice that when you breathe in, you
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  can allow yourself to breathe in slightly deeper than you
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  normally would. And as you exhale, allow that
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  outward breath to go on a little bit longer, emptying your lungs
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  so that the next breath in is slightly deeper than the last.
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  And just imagine that you're breathing in a feeling of
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  relaxation on the inward breath. And imagine that you're
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  breathing out tension or stress in the outward breath, breathing
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  in what you need, and exhaling what you don't.
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  And as you breathe in and breathe out, do a mental scan of
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  your body to look for any clues of tension or stress.
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  And sometimes you can find that tension in the tiny muscles of
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  the forehead, around the jaw, sometimes in the neck or the
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  shoulders. So as you breathe in that
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  feeling of resourceful relaxation, imagine it melting
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  away that tension. And then imagine the tension
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  that has melted away is leaving your body in that outward
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  breath. Maybe you see it as a grey or
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  dark colour leaving your body as you breathe out.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I wonder if you could imagine walking through the
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  woods. I want you to imagine the sounds
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  you would hear walking through the woods.
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  Maybe you would hear leaves gently rustling in a breeze,
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  maybe the sound of twigs breaking under your feet.
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  Maybe other sounds. Maybe there's a smell connected
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  to those woods. The smell of nature, the
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  coolness of a breeze. I want you to get a sense that
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  with each step you take through these woods enables you to feel
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  more and more relaxed. I don't want you to set yourself
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  an intention. You're making your way to a
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  squirrel hide there in the woods.
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  You know the location of it and maybe there's a well worn path
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  that leads to that hide. And normally the hide would be a
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  great place to see the animals of the woods.
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  But the hide in your imagination now will be a portal and we can
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  say it's a portal to a deeper part of your subconscious mind.
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  I'm going to count down from 12:50 and when I arrive at one I
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  want you to imagine that you have arrived in the hide.
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  With each descending number, just imagine your body getting
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  deeper and deeper, relaxed. 10, just releasing any tension in
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  your face. 9, Feeling that any tightness in the jaw, it's just
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  melting away. 8 breathing and relaxation, exhaling tension.
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  And then seven, Just focus now on your neck and your shoulders.
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  Some people think of the neck and the shoulders as the bank
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  account of stress. Imagine stress just like
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  crystals of ice fused in your muscle tissue.
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  And as you breathe in that relaxation, imagine it melting
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  away. Seven becomes 6, and just feel
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  that relaxation spreading down into your arms as you imagine
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  how it would feel for your arms to feel limp, loose and heavy,
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  just like the limbs of a puppet with no strings.
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  That's it. And then six becomes 5.
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  And now focus on your internal organs, your lungs, stomach,
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  they all relax at exactly the same time.
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  Your heart relaxes and then feel that five becomes four and your
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  gut relaxes. I want you to get a sense that
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  when people feel angry alone, there's more cortisol in their
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  blood. There's more cortisol in the
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  blood that can feel tightness there in the gut.
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  So as you breathe in this relaxation, just allow that
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  tightness to be released as you feel like you're now relaxing
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  from within. And then three down into your
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  legs. Your legs now feel limp, loose,
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  relaxed, and then two. And then just maybe by now
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  you're already approaching the hide.
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  But I want you to imagine there is something in the hide, the
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  most comfortable chair that you've ever experienced inside
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  the hide. Even if it defies the laws of
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  physics, that's fine. This is just your imagination. 2
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  becomes one. Feel that ripple of relaxation
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  from your toes up to the top of your head, down to the tips of
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  your fingers as you're now in the hide with a strange
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  addition, a very comfortable chair.
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  And imagine placing yourself on that chair, feeling so relaxed.
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  No need to look at the nature beyond.
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  Just imagine how good it would feel to go back and not change
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  the past. Give a different meaning to the
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  past. You are wiser now than you've
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  ever been, but you didn't have that wisdom when you were a
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  child. So as you imagine relaxing on
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  that chair, in that hide in those woods, I want you to
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  imagine going back. Back in time at your current age
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  to some old stables, and I want you to imagine seeing 2 ponies.
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  Maybe you can remember the names of those ponies.
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  I want you to get a sense then you're seeing them as they were
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  seeing them. And remember how you felt
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  spending all of that time with these ponies.
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  Fearless sense of safety. Here.
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  The ponies don't judge, don't punish, don't criticize, don't
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  yell. It's no surprise that you felt
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  so good here in these stables. You were accepted exactly as you
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  were, as you feel relaxed in these stables.
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  I want you to imagine seeing a childlike version of you
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  entering the stables, maybe 12 or 13 years old.
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  See yourself as you were back then, and maybe they're
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  surprised to see you there in the Staples.
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  But I want you to tell this child that you are them from the
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  future and see that confused, disbelieving expression on their
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  face. They don't buy this for a
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  moment, which is why you're going to convince them by
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  telling them something only they would know.
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  Maybe it's a secret they had when they were a few years
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  younger, maybe 11 or 12. Maybe it's a memory that only
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  they know they're experienced. But this is how you'll convince
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  them that you are them from the future, by telling them
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  something only they would know. And when you've done that and
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  they believe that you are them from the future, let me know by
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  nodding your head. That's it.
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  And to begin with, I just want you to listen.
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  No judgement, no criticism, no suggestions.
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  Ask them what life is like for them, what's good, what's bad,
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  and just listen. No judgement, just acceptance.
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  And maybe there's certain things that they say that just make it
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  natural for you to want to hug them, to let them know that you
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  understand, which of course you do, because you are them.
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  I want you to tell them all the things that you wished someone
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  told you. Tell this little girl that she
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  is worthy, she is kind, she's smart, capable, and maybe these
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  are things she hasn't heard. So it would be like a wilted
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  flower getting sunshine and rainwater when they haven't had
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  it for so long. Tell them that you believe in
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  them. I want you to get a sense then.
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  They are already shifting their facial expressions, their body
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  language. And then I want you to give,
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  give this child something that you wish you had back then, a
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  particular resource. And maybe this is a resource of
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  assertiveness, confidence, worthiness.
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  I want you to imagine that you're giving this young girl a
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  glowing ball of energy that represents the resource that you
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  needed most back then. See the colour of that glowing
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  ball of energy and see that she accepts it, places it to her
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  chest and absorbs that quality. So now you know she had that
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  quality back then when she needed it.
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  But I want you to get a sense that this is a reciprocal
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  exchange. I want you to think of the
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  quality that you had back then that would be most useful for
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  you now. Maybe back then there was more
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  creativity, more understanding, or something else.
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  Remember back then of 1 positive quality that you had in
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  abundance and you don't have to know exactly what it is, just
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  feel that there was something you had back then that would be
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  useful for you now. And see that girl provide you
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  with that glowing ball of energy, a different color to the
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  one you gave her. But just know that this is going
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  to help you for this time in your life.
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  As she hands it to you, feel that you're placing it to your
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  chest and absorbing that quality, and notice that when
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  you absorb that quality, a lot of historical anger and baggage
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  feels like it's melting away. The past is the past.
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  You can't change it, but you can learn from it.
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  Become wiser for it. I want you to get a sense that
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  some of the beliefs that you had back then as a child came from
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  unique experiences that weren't fair, weren't right, but just
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  were. And an emotion that was
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  justified back then may not be useful for you now.
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  Those you feel that you have this new resource, feel that you
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  can leave something behind in these stables that isn't serving
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  you. Now.
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  I want you to get a sense that you're about to leave these
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  stables, but tell this younger version of you that she is
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  loved, she is worthy, that she does belong, that the right
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  people will welcome her with open arms.
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  She just needs to find her people.
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  You give her a hug and say goodbye.
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  And then imagine travelling through time to a moment when
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  you were 19 years old, but to a time before something unpleasant
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  happened. I want you to meet that 19 year
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  old version of you an hour a day before that unpleasant thing
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  happened. She remembers you from the
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  stables. I want you to ask how she is.
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  Just listen again without judgement.
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  Give her a hug, tell her what is about to happen in the near
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  future, and I want you to tell her she has the ability to set
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  and enforce a boundary. It is her, right?
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  I want you to tell her exactly what happens if she doesn't have
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  that boundary, and how empowered she would feel the moment she
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  does. She might feel confused,
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  daunted, but I want you to get a sense that you may not be able
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  to change the past, but you can give it a different meaning.
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  And hindsight is just what you would do differently in the past
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  with what you now know in the present.
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  So we're going to change a memory to introduce hindsight.
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  You at your most confident, assertive, clear in what is OK
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  and not OK. But instead of her experiencing
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  that you're going to do this as a team.
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  Step into her body, her youth and energy, your wisdom and
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  experience. The two of you find yourself in
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  a particular place, but before this unpleasant thing happens,
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  you realize that you can set boundaries, clearly communicate
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  what is OK and not OK. No need for anger, no need for
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  aggression. Clear, confident communication.
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  And I want you to relive this moment the way you want it to
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  be, not just for then, but to ripple through time all the way
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  up to the present. That you are worthy.
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  You're worthy of respect. Your boundaries need to be
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  respected. And I want you to play around
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  with maybe 2-3, four different scenarios, But in every
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  scenario, you feel confident. You are clear in your boundaries
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  and you avoid the unpleasant thing that happened and in doing
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  so communicate a line in the sand that shall not be crossed.
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  And when you found the one that feels like it is the most
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  empowering, let me know by nodding your head.
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  I want you to get a sense then this is now creating a ripple
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  through space and time from that moment all the way to your
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  present. When people feel worthy in
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  expressing their desires, opinions, boundaries and
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  standards in a calm, reasonable way, a lot of anger just isn't
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  necessary. Anger is the ejector seat
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  boundaries is avoiding the very cause of the thing that would
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  mean that you need to use the ejector seat.
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  So now that you have these empowered feelings, don't be
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  surprised if anger goes down and calm, clear, reasonable
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  communication feels easier in some way.
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  You are not your past. It does not define you, but it
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  does shape you. It could shape you to become
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  angry and feel unworthy, or it could shape you to feel
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  confident, empowered, calm and reasonable.
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  And you get to decide what meaning you give to your past
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  and your present. It's time to leave that memory,
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  but leave the memory at a time where it's just you and that 19
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  year old version of you, and tell her she is loved, she is
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  capable, she is worthy, that she also belongs, she is welcome.
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  See her updating certain thoughts, beliefs and ideas and
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  feel that those two are rippling through time.
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  Give her a hug and say goodbye, telling her that you are now a
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  guardian Angel to your past, that you can visit any moment in
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  the past and help shift it to an empowering meaning for you.
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  You leave that past moment and find yourself back there in a
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  comfortable chair in a squirrel hide in the woods.
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  But somehow you feel lighter, freer, more empowered, worthy.
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  So leave that squirrel hide and find yourself walking back
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  through the woods, back to your present body in the present
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  moment, feeling that this is a journey in your imagination that
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  can lead to complete transformation or subtle changes
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  that take your life in a positive direction.
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  It's time to leave this thought. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect fully into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00
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  to 10:00 to awaken you. Starting to count on 2/3 waking
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  up 456 more alert 7-8 open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes. 910 wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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