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Are You Tired- Or Is Your Life Boring To You? · My Sexy Menopause Body

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to MySexy Menopause Body.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Not just a podcast, but a movement.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: Menopause isn't something to dread.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's something to own with strength, confidence, and yes, sexiness.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: Because menopause doesn't mean fading into the background.
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  SPEAKER_00: It means stepping fully into who we are.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now here's your host, Kim Nicholson.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: Let's get started.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_01: Hey, it's Kim Nicholson and welcome back to my sexy menopause body.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_01: I want to ask you something, and I don't want you to answer too quickly, okay?
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_01: So when was the last time you did something for the first time?
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_01: Really?
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_01: When was it?
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_01: And if you're sitting there trying to remember, I have another question for you.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_01: Are you tired or is your life boring to you?
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_01: I know, I know.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_01: Sounds a little harsh, but stay with me because I think there are a lot of women walking around saying, I'm tired, I'm tired, I'm tired.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_01: But what they may also be feeling is something we don't talk about nearly enough.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_01: That their life has become painfully predictable.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_01: And before I go any further, I want to make one thing very clear.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_01: I am not talking about persistent or unexplained fatigue.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_01: If your energy has changed and you're ex and you're exhausted despite sleeping and you can't function the way you normally do, or something, I don't know, feels a little off, that deserves medical attention and not this podcast.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_01: So I just want to make sure we separate those two.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_01: All right.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_01: So fatigue can have real medical causes: sleep disorders, medication, nutritional deficiencies, thyroid issues, depression, uh, let's think hormonal changes will affect it.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_01: And there are other health conditions that also play a role, and that matters, but that is not the kind of tire I want to talk about today.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_01: I'm talking about the kind where your body may be technically be rested, but you are bored with your own routine.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_01: You wake up, you have coffee, you work, errands, pick something up, drop something off, take care of somebody, make dinner, watch TV, scroll, go to bed, then wake up and do it all over again.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_01: And here's what makes this complicated.
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_01: You may actually have a very good life.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, you love your family, you love your home, you may have a great marriage, you have people who you care about, you are grateful, uh, you and you can be grateful and still think, is this all I'm going to do with my life?
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_01: Those two things can exist at the same time.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to be miserable to want your life to feel more interesting.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes when we feel flat, we immediately, you know, make it into a health problem.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_01: You know, maybe I need to take another supplement, or maybe I need more sleep, or maybe I need to fix my hormones, or maybe I need to clean up my diet, or maybe I need another wellness routine, or maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe I need another vacation.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_01: Well, maybe.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_01: But sometimes the answer is much simpler than that.
• 3:18
  SPEAKER_01: You need something you cannot wait to do.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, that's what we're gonna talk about today.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, think about that phrase.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait.
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  SPEAKER_01: When was the last time you said it?
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait.
• 3:33
  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait for that trip.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait for dinner Saturday.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait to see her.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait for the concert.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait to take that class.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_01: I can't wait to try that restaurant, I can't wait to go there.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_01: There is a huge difference between being relieved and being excited.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_01: Thank goodness I don't have to work on Friday is relief.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_01: I cannot wait for Friday is anticipation.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_01: And anticipation changes something.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_01: The experience starts before the experience.
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  SPEAKER_01: You think about it, you plan it, you picture it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you decide what you're even gonna wear.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_01: You talk about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Then there is suddenly a point of light that that comes out in front of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think some of us have calendars with absolutely no points of light.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: We have efficient calendars, right?
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_01: We have responsible calendars, very adult calendars that say doctor, dentist, yeah, work, hair appointment, grocery store, take bomb somewhere, return something, pay something, clean something, fix something, pick up something.
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  SPEAKER_01: Every square is filled with something.
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  SPEAKER_01: And yet there is nothing there that makes you think, I cannot wait.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I want you to look at your calendar differently.
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  SPEAKER_01: Not how busy am I, not how productive am I.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ask, what is on here that I genuinely am looking forward to?
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, look at your calendar.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do you see anything right now that you cannot wait for?
• 5:10
  SPEAKER_01: Um, is there anything that you want to experience?
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_01: And if the answer is nothing, that is information for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, that's actually helpful information for you.
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_01: And this is where I think the whole longevity conversation gets really interesting because we're so obsessed with living longer.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_01: And listen, I'm in.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want the strong muscles, I want the healthy heart, I want the healthy brain, I want good bones, I want mobility, I want a good night's sleep, I want independence, I want all of it.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_01: But here's the question I keep coming back to.
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  SPEAKER_01: What are we trying to stay healthy for?
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_01: Seriously.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_01: If we're going to spend this much time talking about longevity, protein steps, heart health, bone health, metabolism, sleep, and every other piece of health, then I also want to know, where do you still want to go?
• 6:01
  SPEAKER_01: Where do you still want to learn?
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_01: Who do you want to spend more time with?
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_01: What do you want to create?
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  SPEAKER_01: What do you want to try?
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  SPEAKER_01: What story do you still want to be able to tell?
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_01: What do you still want to say?
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  SPEAKER_01: I did that because health is not the final destination.
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  SPEAKER_01: Health gives you access.
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  SPEAKER_01: It lets you get on the plane, walk the city, carry your luggage, take the stairs and dance, learn and travel and play and explore and stay independent.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_01: Say yes to things.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't want good health just so I can become really good at having good health.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want to use that good health.
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  SPEAKER_01: Which brings me back to one of my favorite questions.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_01: When was the last time you did something for the first time?
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_01: Not the last time you tried a different appetizer.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_01: I mean the last time you were actually new at something.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like the first dance lesson, or you tried pickleball for the first time, or you the first pottery class, or the you you picked up the first time you picked up a paintbrush, or the first time you traveled somewhere, maybe even alone, the first time you walked into a room where you didn't know anybody, or the first time you tried golf or piano or photography, or tried to learn Italian, or paddle boarding, um, taking a university course, something that made you think, I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing, but I'm here anyway.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_01: Do you remember how that feels when you have that feeling that I absolutely have no idea what I'm doing?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, you may feel awkward, but you are awake.
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  SPEAKER_01: You are paying attention, you can't run an autopilot because you don't know what happens next.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_01: You might be terrible at it, and that's good.
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  SPEAKER_01: You might laugh at yourself even better.
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  SPEAKER_01: You might decide after one class that you absolutely hate it.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_01: Fine.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or you might actually think, where has this been all my life?
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  SPEAKER_01: Either way, something happened, right?
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_01: You were engaged, you were curious, you were learning, you were alive inside that experience.
• 8:15
  SPEAKER_01: Think about it.
• 8:16
  SPEAKER_01: Our kids do this all day long.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_01: They are constantly bad at things.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_01: I hope my kids are listening, but they're adult kids and they'll get over it, but they'll also understand my point.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_01: They miss a ball.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_01: They fall off a bike, they play the wrong musical note, or they draw a dog that looks more like a potato.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_01: I still have that picture, by the way, it's hanging up inside our game closet.
• 8:42
  SPEAKER_01: They say the wrong word and they fall down and they try it again, and somewhere along the way we decide, I'm too old to look stupid.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_01: So guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: We stop being beginners, and then we wonder why our lives become so repetitive.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_01: Think about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: We eat where we know we're gonna like the food.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_01: I know I get stuck in that rut, and I always order the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: We drive the same streets, we see the same people, we do the activities we already know how to do.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_01: We stay inside our tiny, tiny little territory of competence because competence what feels safe, right?
• 9:21
  SPEAKER_01: But safe and interesting are not always the same thing.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe being a beginner is not embarrassing.
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe being a beginner is one of the ways that we stay, we stay interested in ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, so take a lesson, try the thing, be the worst person in the class.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_01: You'll survive.
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  SPEAKER_01: Look what you've survived so far in your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: So try it.
• 9:49
  SPEAKER_01: And while we're here, I want to talk about something that I think we have completely messed up.
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_01: That fun does not, does not have to accomplish anything.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_01: If we have turned everything into a performance review, if we exercise and we track it, if we cook and we photograph it, if we travel, we post it, if we paint, maybe we should sell it.
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_01: If we write, maybe we should publish it.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_01: If we learn something, maybe we need a certification and then to frame it.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_01: And if we love a hobby, someone says, oh, you should turn that into a business.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe I just like it.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_01: Why can't you learn Italian because you love the way it sounds when people speak Italian?
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_01: I know I do.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_01: Why can't you just take a watercolor class because the colors make you happy?
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_01: Why can't you grow tomatoes because there is something ridiculously satisfying about walking outside and finding that red tomato on the vine?
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_01: Why can't you just dance because music makes you want to move?
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_01: Who cares who's watching?
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_01: Why can't you just read a novel that teaches you absolutely nothing at all?
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_01: Why can't you just take a walk and have have no idea how many steps you just talk, you just took, you just wanted a walk?
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_01: Why can't dinner just be dinner?
• 11:16
  SPEAKER_01: Not everything needs to improve you, right?
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_01: Not everything needs to generate income.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_01: Not everything needs to be productive.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_01: Some things are allowed to make your life more enjoyable, period.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_01: I think that is one of the reasons why vacations wake us up.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know it did for me.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_01: It isn't only that we're away from work, everything is different when you're on vacation.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_01: There's a different street, there's a different view, different food, different people, different sounds, different smells.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_01: You notice things.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, that was another bright idea I had.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_01: You look around.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_01: Even breakfast is interesting because you're eating somewhere you've never eaten before.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_01: And then we come home.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_01: Go back to the same route, the same chair, the same restaurant, the same schedule, same shows, same handful of meals, and we think, I need another vacation.
• 12:03
  SPEAKER_01: No joke, that really does happen to me.
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe.
• 12:06
  SPEAKER_01: But maybe what we're craving isn't always the vacation.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you're craving the novelty, and that is different.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_01: And the good news is novelty doesn't require a passport, you know.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_01: You can go to a neighborhood you've never explored before, try that weird little restaurant that you keep driving past, go to a museum or go hear live music, walk through Dallas Botanical Gardens, or your botanical garden, attend a lecture, or drive to a nearby town that you haven't been to at all or in a while.
• 12:43
  SPEAKER_01: Take that cooking class.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_01: Sir Latab has some great cooking classes, by the way.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_01: Go to an art opening, try a farmer's market you've never visited, or invite someone you barely know to lunch, read a book you would normally never pick up, or listen to music completely outside your usual playlist.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to cross an ocean to remind yourself that the world is still interesting, right?
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_01: So now I can hear somebody saying out there, Ken, that sounds great, but I have responsibilities.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, so do I.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_01: Work, family, caregiving homes, appointments, bills, people who need us.
• 13:19
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not telling you to abandon your family and spend Tuesday nights learning flamenco dancing.
• 13:25
  SPEAKER_01: Although honestly, if that's something you want to do, I would I would like to see pictures.
• 13:31
  SPEAKER_01: I'm saying this responsibility cannot be the only thing on your calendar.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_01: If you need something that is yours, it doesn't have to be huge.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't have to cost a lot of money, it doesn't have to take 10 hours a week.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's a Tuesday evening pottery class or a Saturday morning going hiking somewhere, uh, maybe Thursday dinner with your friend, or once a month you and your husband try somewhere you've never been.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_01: Join a choir or a book club or a church group or a walking group or volunteer.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_01: Take one class.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to have 20 hobbies.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_01: You only need just one thing that gives you a spark each week.
• 14:11
  SPEAKER_01: And here's the question that you know that may make some of you uncomfortable.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_01: Do you have anything in your life right now that is completely yours?
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not talking about work or not talking about your husband or your children, your grandchildren, your mom, or caregiving.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_01: Not something you're doing because somebody else needs you, something that's truly yours.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_01: Something uh you like because you like it.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_01: Something you would still do if nobody complimented you, something you don't have to explain.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_01: Can you name anything?
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_01: If you can't, I don't want you to feel bad about that.
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_01: I just want you to notice it.
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe that's where you begin.
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_01: Because sometimes we we become so good at being useful to everybody else that we lose track of what makes us interesting to our own selves.
• 15:03
  SPEAKER_01: And while we're talking about, you know, about what makes life richer, let's talk about people.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes, you know, you don't need another activity.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_01: You maybe you don't, you maybe you need another relationship or another conversation or another person who knows a different version of you.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_01: You know, adult friendship can be weird.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when you're younger, people just appear, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: At school or college or work or activities or even in the neighborhood.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_01: And later you actually have to make an effort.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_01: You know, as you get an adult, you do have to make an effort.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_01: And you have to go somewhere repeatedly, and you have to talk to people.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_01: And then when you have something, you know, something, you know, terrifying, like, you know, would you like to go get coffee sometime?
• 15:49
  SPEAKER_01: Which sometimes feels like asking someone on a date.
• 15:53
  SPEAKER_01: But friendships usually do not materialize while you're sitting on your sofa hoping somebody interesting tracks you down.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_01: You have to create these opportunities, right?
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_01: You gotta join something, you gotta show up, you gotta talk to people, you gotta, you know, invite them to do things with you.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_01: And yes, sometimes they won't become your new best friend, and that's okay.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_01: You're building a life, not conducting auditions.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_01: And another thing I love is having a project, not work, not a side hustle, a project.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_01: Something that gives your brain somewhere interesting to go, like redo the garden, or trace your genealogy, create a photo book, or learn 20 Italian recipes, or train for a hiking trip, or restore a piece of older furniture, or read every book by one author.
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_01: I did that and that was really fun.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_01: Paint one picture every week.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_01: Here in Texas, I want to visit every single state park in Texas.
• 16:52
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, interview your parents or your grandparents and record some of your favorite stories, or um, I also did this create a butterfly garden or take a course or write a the first chapter of your book that you've been thinking about.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_01: Because here is something I know for sure.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_01: Daily maintenance will eat you, will eat up every minute you give it, and it will.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_01: You know, there's always another drawer, there's always another email to respond to, there's always another errand, or another little laundry, or cleaning out the refrigerator, or something to organize.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, your house can keep you busy until you're 104 years old.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_01: So leave the drawer.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_01: Go do something interesting.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_01: It will still be there tomorrow, I promise.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_01: And now what I want you to pay attention to is something this week.
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_01: Every time you hear yourself, I'm tired, ask one more question.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_01: What kind of tired?
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_01: Am I physically tired, sleep deprived?
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_01: Am I emotionally drained, burnt out, overwhelmed, or am I underwhelmed or understimulated?
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_01: Those are different problems.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_01: And different problems require different solutions.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_01: You can't fix genuine sleep deprivation with pottery, but you can't also you cannot necessarily fix your life with nothing you enjoy by sleeping another 30 minutes, right?
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_01: So this is what I always come back to.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_01: Name the problem before you hire the solution.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_01: So if you're truly exhausted, honor that.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_01: Get a good night rest, just rest and get evaluated when something changes.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_01: Reduce what you can in your load of responsibilities.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_01: Ask for help.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_01: But if you're really missing, you it if you're really missing it, maybe anticipation or curiosity or the connection or the novelty of something.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_01: And maybe the answer is not removing one more thing, but maybe you need to add something you want.
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_01: So let me give you five things I want you to actually do with this episode.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_01: Not just think and think, that was nice.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_01: Do something.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_01: First, put something you want on the calendar.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_01: Open up your calendar, look at the next four weeks.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_01: What are you genuinely looking forward to?
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_01: Not something you feel relieved to finish, something you really want to experience.
• 19:10
  SPEAKER_01: If the answer is nothing, then add one thing.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_01: Add a lunch with a friend or tickets, uh, a new restaurant, museum, a class, that cooking class at Sir Latab, something.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because we should do something sometime is not a plan.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_01: Saturday at two is a plan.
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  SPEAKER_01: Second of all, give yourself a first time.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_01: One, one new thing, one beginner skill, one new skill, one new place, one new conversation.
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_01: And the next time I ask you, when was the last time you did something for the first time?
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_01: Guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: You'll have an answer.
• 19:46
  SPEAKER_01: Third thing I want you to do is make a list of and call it things I'm curious about.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_01: These are not goals, these are not commitments, these are things you're actually curious about, like maybe Italy, pottery or photography, astronomy, gardening, writing, dancing, history, you know, whatever, then explore one of them.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_01: Curiosity does not need to be a five-year business plan.
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't.
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_01: It's easy to do.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_01: The fourth thing, find something that belongs to you.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_01: Something not connected to work or caregiving or errands or any of that household maintenance stuff.
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  SPEAKER_01: Something you enjoy because you enjoy it.
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_01: And if you cannot name one right now, maybe that becomes your assignment.
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_01: And fifth, let yourself want more even when your life is good.
• 20:37
  SPEAKER_01: And this matters.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_01: Gratitude and desire can sit at the same table.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_01: You can love your husband and want interests of your own.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_01: You can adore your children and want conversations that have nothing to do with them.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_01: You can be grateful for your house and still want to see the world.
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_01: And you can appreciate your life and still say, you know what, I want something new.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_01: That does not make you ungrateful.
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_01: It means you are still participating in that your own life.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_01: And if this is something that is connected perfectly to you, my last episode was what we do we talked about, what do you want to be when you grow up?
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_01: And I think that both of this podcast and the the last one kind of fit together because sometimes the thing that would wake you up, uh your wake your life up now is hidden in something that you left behind a long time ago.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_01: So maybe, like I said, if you go back and listen to that podcast, we talked about maybe you wanted to be an artist.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_01: So make something.
• 21:35
  SPEAKER_01: You wanted to be an explorer, well then go somewhere.
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_01: You wanted to teach, well then teach someone something.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_01: You wanted to perform, find somewhere to perform.
• 21:44
  SPEAKER_01: You wanted to learn, so go learn.
• 21:46
  SPEAKER_01: Not because you're trying to become eight years old again, but because some of these things that that little girl or that little boy wanted inside of you is truly you, is absolutely yours.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_01: So here is my Sunday night test.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_01: Sunday night, look at the week ahead and ask, is there anything I'm looking forward to this week?
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's it.
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_01: If the answer is yes, awesome! If the answer is no, don't panic, but pay attention.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe your week needs more than responsibilities.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe your mind needs something new, and maybe your marriage needs a new adventure, or maybe you need a project, or you maybe you need to meet that new friend, or maybe you need to become a beginner at something again.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_01: And maybe you need to stop waiting for somebody else to make your life more interesting.
• 22:37
  SPEAKER_01: We spend so much time talking about how many years we hope to live.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_01: I do, I want to talk more about what we're putting in those years.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_01: Like I said, I do want my strength, I want my energy, I want a healthy brain, I want mobility, I want my independence, but I want all those things because I intend to use them.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_01: I want to walk through the cities and carry my own luggage and learn things and cook and travel, love people and try things and change my mind.
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, that was another brilliant idea.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_01: And make plans and still have moments where I think I cannot wait.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_01: So when you finish this episode, do two things.
• 23:12
  SPEAKER_01: Put one thing you want to do in your calendar and give yourself one first time.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_01: It can be tiny, but go and do something again.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_01: And if somebody says, why are you doing that?
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_01: You already know what I'm going to say.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_01: Why not?
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_01: And before you go, send this episode to your friend who is always saying we need to get together.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_01: Then stop saying it.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_01: Pick the date, open the calendar, because the life we keep saying we want someday is actually built out of real Tuesdays and real Saturdays.
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_01: This is Kim, and you've been listening to my sexy menopause body.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_01: And I want to leave you with my question one more time.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_01: When was the last time you did something for the first time?
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_01: If it's been a while, change the answer this week.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_01: Remember, your choices add up, and your next one still matters.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_01: It is a cumulative effect that the choices that you make over time.
• 24:09
  SPEAKER_01: And those choices are not only what you eat or how you exercise or how you sleep, they are where you go, who you call them, and what you learn.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_01: So until next time, have a beautiful week, and I'll speak to you again soon.
• 24:29
  SPEAKER_00: Metapons isn't the end.
• 24:31
  SPEAKER_00: It's a whole new beginning.
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_00: This is your time to own your power.
• 24:36
  SPEAKER_00: Rewrite the rules and show up unapologetically because sexy doesn't expire.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_00: You define it.