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Surviving the Season: Knowing When to Adapt in Marriage · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for September 21, 2026 Surviving the season Knowing when
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  to adapt in marriage Our doctor recently prescribed a milkshake for my wife. Really?
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  Her ongoing medical issues have caused an unhealthy level of weight loss.
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  He prescribed a drug to help her be better able to eat and said to go get the
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  most calorie bang for her buck that she could.
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  I said, a milkshake? He said, exactly.
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  Clearly this is not normal medical advice. It was what was best under the circumstances.
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  We are working to get her the calories she needs in a better way.
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  But for the moment, the doctor was more concerned with calories than nutrition.
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  Sometimes what is normally best practice is not the way to go under the circumstances.
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  This is true for all aspects of life, including our marriages.
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  If Lori decided to live on milkshakes, that would be a problem.
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  When the medical issue is resolved, she needs to return to getting good nutrition.
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  What we are doing now is unusual and only a good choice because of the circumstances.
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  There will be times in your marriage when you can't do what would normally be
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  best There will be times when what is normally expected would be harmful,
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  The trick to dealing with these is twofold First, you have to see the unusual
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  circumstances, what they mean, and how to adapt Second, you have to see when
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  the circumstances have passed So you can return to something more appropriate for most of the time,
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  Some open discussion will help you do this well,
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  My wife has not done any housework for several weeks.
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  That is right, and I'd stop her if she tried. But when this is all over,
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  it would be wrong for her to leave me doing everything.
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  That's not who she is, but new habits form, and she will need to be intentional
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  to return to her old habits.
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  Think about your marriage. Is there an unusual circumstance in your marriage
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  that would benefit from doing something that would normally not be a good idea?
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  Did this happen in the past, but you didn't get back or all the way back to
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  normal when the circumstance passed? I'll give some examples the rest of the
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  week, but I wanted you all to think about your marriage first.
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  This is Paul, and accommodating is doing marriage well.