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E 294: Tammy's Take #10: You Don't Have A Food Problem, You Have A Coping Problem · Adult Child of Dysfunction

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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  Tammy's
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  Takes,
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  where
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  we
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  turn
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  powerful
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  conversations
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  into
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  practical
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  strategies
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  you
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  can
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  use
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  right
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  here,
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  right
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  now.
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  my
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  last
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  episode,
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  which
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  I
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  highly
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  encourage
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  you
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  to
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  go
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  back
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  and
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  listen
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  to,
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  I
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  sat
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  down
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  with
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  Christine
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  Trim
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  and
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  we
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  talked
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  about
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  something
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  that
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  so
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  many
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  people
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  struggle
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  with,
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  cravings,
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  food,
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  sugar,
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  and
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  the
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  cycles
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  that
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  keep
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  you
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  stuck.
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  But
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  what
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  really
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  stood
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  out
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  to
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  me
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  wasn't
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  just
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  the
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  food.
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  It
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  was
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  what
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  the
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  food
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  was
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  doing
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  for
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  you,
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  not
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  to
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  you,
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  for
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  you.
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  And
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  that
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  is
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  what
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  I
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  wanna
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  break
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  down
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  today,
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  because
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  let's
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  be
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  honest,
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  you
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  already
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  know
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  what
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  to
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  eat.
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  Christine
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  said
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  it
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  very
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  well
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  when
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  she
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  said,
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  you
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  don't
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  need
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  another
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  meal
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  plan.
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  You
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  need
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  to
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  get
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  to
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  the
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  root.
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  You
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  don't
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  need
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  the
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  other
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  meal
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  plan.
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  You
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  don't
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  need
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  a
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  list
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  of
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  good
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  foods
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  and
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  bad
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  foods.
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  So
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  if
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  you
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  know
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  what
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  to
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  do,
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  why
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  aren't
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  you
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  doing
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  it?
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  because
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  this
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  isn't
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  about
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  food.
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  This
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  is
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  about
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  coping.
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  For
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  many
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  people,
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  food
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  became
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  comfort,
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  distraction,
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  protecting,
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  and
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  numbing.
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  I
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  can
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  remember
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  as
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  a
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  little
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  child,
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  when
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  my
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  parents
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  would
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  fight,
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  I
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  would
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  grab
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  a
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  sleeve
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  of
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  Oreo
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  cookies
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  and
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  go
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  hide
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  in
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  a
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  drainage
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  ditch.
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  I
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  know
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  many,
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  many
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  people
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  that
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  get
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  anxious
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  at
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  a
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  party
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  and
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  they
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  go
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  and
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  they
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  stand
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  in
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  the
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  corner
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  with
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  cookies
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  or
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  cake
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  or
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  whatever
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  it
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  is,
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  just
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  to
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  avoid
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  a
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  confrontation.
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  I
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  know
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  so
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  many
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  people
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  that
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  just
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  reach
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  for
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  food.
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  So
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  many
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  of
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  you
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  that
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  are
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  listening.
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  This
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  started
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  way
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  before
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  you
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  even
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  realized
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  it.
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  Christine
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  shared.
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  These
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  patterns
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  are
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  tied
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  to
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  way
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  deeper
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  emotional
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  experiences.
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  But
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  what
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  we
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  can
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  do
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  about
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  it,
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  maybe
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  just
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  maybe
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  instead
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  of
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  asking,
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  why
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  can't
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  I
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  stop
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  eating
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  this?
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  Ask
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  yourself,
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  what
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  is
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  this
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  helping
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  me
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  avoid,
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  feel,
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  or
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  cope
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  with?
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  Because
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  that's
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  where
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  your
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  power
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  lies.
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  So
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  the
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  next
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  time
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  you
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  feel
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  the
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  urge,
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  not
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  the
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  hunger,
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  the
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  urge
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  to
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  eat,
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  I
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  want
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  you
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  to
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  try
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  something
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  different.
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  Four
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  little
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  steps.
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  simple
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  steps.
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  Number
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  one,
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  catch
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  it.
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  Pause
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  and
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  ask
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  yourself,
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  what
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  am
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  I
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  feeling
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  right
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  now?
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  Is
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  it
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  stress?
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  Is
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  it
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  loneliness?
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  Is
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  it
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  boredom?
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  Is
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  it
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  overwhelm?
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  Is
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  it
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  anger?
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  Is
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  it
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  frustration?
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  Whatever
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  it
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  is,
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  figure
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  out
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  what
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  you're
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  feeling.
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  Now,
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  bring
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  it
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  into
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  your
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  body.
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  Where
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  am
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  I
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  feeling
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  this?
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  My
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  chest,
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  my
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  stomach,
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  my
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  shoulders.
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  Put
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  your
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  hand
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  there.
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  Take
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  one
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  breath,
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  one
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  deep
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  breath.
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  Now
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  ask
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  yourself,
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  what
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  do
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  I
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  actually
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  need
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  right
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  now?
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  Do
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  you
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  need
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  a
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  rest,
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  A
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  break,
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  a
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  better
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  connection?
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  Some
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  movement.
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  need
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  to
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  breathe
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  because
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  food
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  might
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  just
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  be
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  the
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  habit,
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  but
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  it's
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  not
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  the
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  need.
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  So
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  today
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  you're
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  gonna
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  do
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  one
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  thing
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  different.
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  This
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  is
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  the
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  part
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  that
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  changes
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  absolutely
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  everything
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  because
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  yes,
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  awareness
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  is
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  powerful.
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  Action
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  is
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  what
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  creates
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  change.
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  So
• 2:39
  after
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  those
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  three
• 2:40
  steps,
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  I
• 2:41
  want
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  you
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  to
• 2:41
  do
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  one
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  small
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  thing
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  differently.
• 2:44
  Drink
• 2:44
  a
• 2:44
  glass
• 2:44
  of
• 2:44
  water.
• 2:45
  Go
• 2:45
  outside
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  and
• 2:46
  walk
• 2:46
  around
• 2:46
  for
• 2:46
  two
• 2:46
  minutes.
• 2:47
  Take
• 2:47
  a
• 2:47
  few
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  deep
• 2:48
  breaths.
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  Text
• 2:49
  someone,
• 2:50
  walk
• 2:50
  around
• 2:51
  the
• 2:51
  room,
• 2:51
  dance,
• 2:52
  shake,
• 2:53
  listen
• 2:53
  to
• 2:53
  a
• 2:53
  song.
• 2:54
  But
• 2:54
  wait
• 2:55
  10
• 2:55
  minutes
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  before
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  eating.
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  Not
• 2:57
  10
• 2:58
  things,
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  not
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  perfectly,
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  just
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  one
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  little
• 3:02
  shift.
• 3:02
  Just
• 3:03
  wait
• 3:03
  that
• 3:03
  10
• 3:04
  minutes.
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  you
• 3:06
  don't
• 3:06
  break
• 3:06
  patterns
• 3:06
  by
• 3:07
  thinking
• 3:07
  differently.
• 3:08
  You
• 3:08
  break
• 3:08
  them
• 3:09
  by
• 3:09
  responding
• 3:09
  differently.
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  So
• 3:11
  let's
• 3:11
  just
• 3:11
  say
• 3:11
  you
• 3:12
  just
• 3:12
  had
• 3:12
  a
• 3:12
  stressful
• 3:12
  conversation
• 3:13
  with
• 3:13
  someone,
• 3:13
  and
• 3:13
  now
• 3:13
  you're
• 3:14
  standing
• 3:14
  in
• 3:14
  the
• 3:14
  kitchen,
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  what's
• 3:15
  the
• 3:15
  old
• 3:15
  pattern?
• 3:16
  Grab
• 3:16
  the
• 3:16
  chips,
• 3:17
  grab
• 3:17
  something
• 3:17
  quick,
• 3:18
  eat
• 3:18
  a
• 3:18
  cookie,
• 3:18
  grab
• 3:19
  a
• 3:19
  glass
• 3:19
  of
• 3:19
  milk.
• 3:21
  What
• 3:21
  should
• 3:21
  the
• 3:21
  new
• 3:21
  pattern
• 3:22
  be?
• 3:23
  We're
• 3:23
  gonna
• 3:23
  pause.
• 3:24
  We're
• 3:24
  gonna
• 3:24
  say,
• 3:25
  what
• 3:25
  am
• 3:25
  I
• 3:25
  feeling?
• 3:26
  Maybe
• 3:26
  it's
• 3:26
  overwhelm.
• 3:27
  Where
• 3:27
  do
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  feel
• 3:28
  it
• 3:29
  tighten
• 3:29
  my
• 3:29
  chest?
• 3:31
  One
• 3:31
  deep
• 3:31
  breath.
• 3:32
  What
• 3:32
  do
• 3:32
  I
• 3:32
  need?
• 3:33
  I
• 3:33
  just
• 3:34
  need
• 3:34
  a
• 3:34
  moment.
• 3:35
  Then
• 3:35
  you
• 3:35
  take
• 3:36
  a
• 3:36
  breath,
• 3:37
  you
• 3:37
  step
• 3:37
  outside,
• 3:39
  and
• 3:39
  that
• 3:39
  moment
• 3:40
  right
• 3:40
  there,
• 3:41
  that's
• 3:41
  where
• 3:41
  the
• 3:41
  pattern
• 3:42
  starts
• 3:42
  to
• 3:42
  break.
• 3:44
  Christine
• 3:45
  talked.
• 3:46
  A
• 3:46
  lot
• 3:47
  about
• 3:47
  how
• 3:47
  it's
• 3:47
  not
• 3:47
  just
• 3:48
  physical,
• 3:48
  it's
• 3:48
  emotional,
• 3:49
  it's
• 3:49
  spiritual,
• 3:50
  it's
• 3:50
  deeply
• 3:50
  rooted
• 3:50
  in
• 3:51
  patterns
• 3:51
  that
• 3:51
  we've
• 3:51
  been
• 3:51
  caring
• 3:52
  for
• 3:52
  years.
• 3:53
  And
• 3:53
  she
• 3:54
  also
• 3:54
  said
• 3:54
  something
• 3:55
  so
• 3:55
  powerful.
• 3:57
  This
• 3:57
  is
• 3:57
  not
• 3:57
  your
• 3:58
  fault,
• 3:59
  but
• 3:59
  it
• 3:59
  is
• 3:59
  your
• 3:59
  responsibility.
• 4:02
  That's
• 4:02
  where
• 4:02
  your
• 4:03
  power
• 4:03
  comes
• 4:03
  in,
• 4:04
  and
• 4:04
  that's
• 4:04
  where
• 4:04
  you're
• 4:04
  gonna
• 4:04
  start
• 4:05
  to
• 4:05
  make
• 4:05
  the
• 4:05
  shifts.
• 4:06
  I'm
• 4:06
  gonna
• 4:06
  take
• 4:06
  it
• 4:06
  one
• 4:06
  step,
• 4:07
  deeper,
• 4:07
  because
• 4:08
  this
• 4:08
  is
• 4:08
  where
• 4:08
  my
• 4:08
  work
• 4:09
  comes
• 4:09
  in.
• 4:10
  Those
• 4:10
  cravings,
• 4:11
  they're
• 4:11
  not
• 4:11
  random.
• 4:12
  They
• 4:12
  are
• 4:12
  patterns
• 4:13
  in
• 4:13
  your
• 4:13
  system,
• 4:14
  patterns
• 4:14
  in
• 4:14
  your
• 4:14
  nervous
• 4:15
  system,
• 4:15
  patterns
• 4:16
  in
• 4:16
  your
• 4:16
  energy,
• 4:16
  and
• 4:16
  if
• 4:16
  you
• 4:17
  don't
• 4:17
  see
• 4:17
  them,
• 4:18
  you
• 4:18
  keep
• 4:18
  repeating
• 4:19
  them.
• 4:20
  And
• 4:20
  this
• 4:20
  is
• 4:20
  exactly
• 4:21
  why
• 4:21
  I
• 4:21
  do
• 4:21
  bio
• 4:21
  frequency
• 4:22
  voice
• 4:22
  scans
• 4:22
  with
• 4:23
  anybody
• 4:24
  that
• 4:24
  wants
• 4:24
  them.
• 4:25
  Because
• 4:25
  instead
• 4:25
  of
• 4:25
  guessing,
• 4:26
  instead
• 4:26
  of
• 4:26
  trying
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  figure
• 4:27
  it
• 4:27
  out
• 4:27
  in
• 4:27
  your
• 4:27
  head,
• 4:28
  we
• 4:28
  can
• 4:28
  actually
• 4:28
  see
• 4:29
  what
• 4:29
  your
• 4:29
  body
• 4:29
  is
• 4:30
  holding,
• 4:30
  the
• 4:30
  stress,
• 4:31
  the
• 4:31
  imbalances,
• 4:32
  the
• 4:32
  patterns.
• 4:33
  And
• 4:33
  once
• 4:33
  you
• 4:33
  see
• 4:34
  it,
• 4:34
  everything
• 4:35
  starts
• 4:35
  to
• 4:35
  make
• 4:36
  sense.
• 4:36
  If
• 4:37
  this
• 4:37
  hit
• 4:37
  home,
• 4:38
  if
• 4:38
  you're
• 4:38
  realizing
• 4:38
  this
• 4:39
  isn't
• 4:39
  about
• 4:39
  food,
• 4:40
  this
• 4:40
  is
• 4:40
  about
• 4:40
  something
• 4:41
  much
• 4:41
  deeper,
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  want
• 4:42
  to
• 4:42
  invite
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  to
• 4:43
  try
• 4:43
  it.
• 4:44
  Book
• 4:44
  your
• 4:44
  complimentary
• 4:45
  scan
• 4:45
  in
• 4:45
  the
• 4:45
  link
• 4:46
  below,
• 4:46
  or
• 4:46
  actually
• 4:47
  just
• 4:47
  text
• 4:47
  me
• 4:48
  and
• 4:48
  find
• 4:48
  out
• 4:48
  when
• 4:48
  you
• 4:48
  can
• 4:49
  come
• 4:49
  watch
• 4:49
  one
• 4:49
  live.
• 4:51
  you
• 4:51
  don't
• 4:51
  have
• 4:51
  a
• 4:51
  food
• 4:52
  problem.
• 4:53
  You
• 4:53
  have
• 4:53
  a
• 4:53
  pattern
• 4:53
  your
• 4:53
  body
• 4:54
  to
• 4:54
  survive,
• 4:55
  and
• 4:55
  once
• 4:55
  you
• 4:56
  understand
• 4:56
  that,
• 4:56
  you
• 4:56
  can
• 4:57
  finally
• 4:57
  start
• 4:58
  changing
• 4:58
  it.
• 5:00
  Well,
• 5:00
  good
• 5:00
  luck.
• 5:01
  I
• 5:01
  love
• 5:02
  you
• 5:02
  guys.
• 5:02
  I
• 5:02
  will
• 5:02
  see
• 5:03
  you
• 5:03
  back
• 5:03
  and
• 5:03
  I
• 5:04
  hope
• 5:04
  somebody
• 5:04
  can
• 5:05
  try
• 5:05
  this
• 5:05
  four
• 5:05
  step
• 5:05
  process
• 5:06
  and
• 5:06
  let
• 5:06
  me
• 5:06
  know
• 5:07
  how
• 5:07
  it
• 5:07
  goes.
• 5:08
  Have
• 5:08
  a
• 5:08
  great
• 5:09
  day.