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How Your Relationship With Yourself Directly Shapes Every Other Relationship in Your Life · Stacked Intent: Your Guide to Authentic, Intentional Living

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to the Stacked Intent Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are going to discuss and drop the tips on how you can intentionally stack your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Becca Stackhouse Morrison, the CEO and founder of Stacked Intent, and I look forward to having you join us each week during our episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stack Intent is a family life education business that is resonating with individuals who aspire to rediscover or discover their most authentic version of themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Too often our society beautifies a relationship via romantic family or friendship, but that doesn't teach the true meaning of healthy relationship boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: This little passion to share with individuals through each transition that it is truly possible to live an understanding that is healthy and it's possible when you understand your most authentic version of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: From a place of pain, of losing friendships, becoming one-directional friendships, or simply these two were temporary along life's roads.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is important to know and practice the keys to creating well-balanced and healthy relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are relationship breakups and choosing to be single with much reflection to develop of the authentic person of self.
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  SPEAKER_00: From all these places, stacked intent was created to provide these researchers, resources through research-based information.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to look at the ways that you can be your most authentic self and be intentional with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll laugh, you'll cry, and you're going to finish each episode being motivated to live your life more authentically.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be with it, but with each episode, we're going to have a special co-host, and I'm going to let her introduce herself.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hi, I'm Sarah Bradley, a licensed marriage and family therapist and owner of Hope Grove Therapy and Consultation.
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  SPEAKER_01: My practice is located in beautiful downtown Wakamka, Alabama.
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  SPEAKER_01: I grew up in rural Alabama, and my passion is investing in my community by investing in its people.
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  SPEAKER_01: At Hope Grove, we seek to do this by working to help people improve the health of their relationships, their families, their businesses, and themselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: In addition to talk therapy, we offer consultation services to organizations like churches and businesses to help them improve their organizational health through workshops, conferences, and intensives.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm really excited to be here today and looking forward to talking about some of the most common issues that come up in my therapy session.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Stack In Pimp Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we are going to talk about how that self-relationship that we have talked about on our other two relationship segments in season 10, how that affects your relationship with others.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so as we dive into today's episode, I want you to reflect on how your relationship with yourself has influenced those around you because it does.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about does it have an impact?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever drawn energy from someone else?
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  SPEAKER_00: So this occurs when we're not fully aware of our own self-relationship sometimes and how that might be affecting others or how their relationship with themselves might be affecting us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that's why it is essential to nurture your connection with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: It will ultimately shape that relationship that you do have with others in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as you explore your self-relationship, it is important to avoid letting yourself vanish.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we'll dig into what that means a little bit more from yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's taking time to truly reflect on the person that you are aspiring to be and how you want to focus on creating that space that aligns with the vision that you're wanting to live in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we hope that in this episode, you will look at the insights of what a relationship is and how that has a blueprint for your relationship with others.
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  SPEAKER_00: We also hope that you will explore the ripple effects in your relationship and how that affects what you have with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we also hope that you are able to look at the various strategies that help you enhance both the relationship with yourself and your connection with others simultaneously.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, topic one, it's that self-relationship as the blueprint.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how does this affect us?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do we kind of look at a self-relationship blueprint?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, it's it's found it's foundational.
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  SPEAKER_01: It is the foundation of how we interact with the world, how we view other people, and how we interact with other people and respond to what other people.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you believe that you are not worthy of respect, for example, or that you have a low self-worth and self-value, then if other people treat you with disrespect, you're going to be more willing to accept it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um contradictorily.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the other, on the other hand, on the other hand, if you view yourself as a generally good person who is worthy of respect and has value intrinsically because of your humanity, and someone treats you with disrespect, you're going to be much less inclined to tolerate that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you're going to demand respect from your relationship partners romantically, friendship, family-wise, um, and professionally.
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_01: And you're going to be more inclined to, because you're confident in yourself and what you deserve, you're more inclined to hold others to uh abide by that boundary as well.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_01: So if you view yourself as not trustworthy, then you're more likely to project that onto other people as well.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't trust you because I believe or think or am afraid that I myself am not trustworthy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you're not trustworthy, you're not, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's something that we have to think about.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we think one of the things that we see sometimes is that people who are cheating on their partners, for example, are much less inclined to trust their partners or other people because they know that they themselves are doing something that's not trustworthy.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when the way you view yourself, the way you interact with your own identity and your values directly is correlated to how you interact with the people around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's so true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we put on what we see and what we're doing is what somebody else is doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's knowing that the relationship you have with yourself is one of the most important that you have in life because this is the foundation to how you see everything else in the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's important of how you develop that self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's one that we've talked about before of this is one that a lot of times we start to learn through our parents, through siblings, families, peers, other adults that influence us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's developed in our early stages of life of what we how we shape, we how we see ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like the parent that is always expecting you to perform at this high level in your athletics.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't do perfect, they don't really talk to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that's where some of your self-relationship starts.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so growing up, it's how you're treated, this development of self-relationship it comes from the adults that are in your house and how they may have met their own needs as they were becoming parents and as they were parenting, and how they handled that is where some of this blueprint of how your self-relationship is comes from.
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: As a family therapist, this is something that I work with every single day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and it are as much as we may not want to be associated with that life or family that we were born into, they are definitely the ones that influence where we might be sitting today.
• 7:53
  SPEAKER_01: That's right.
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  SPEAKER_01: It always comes up.
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  SPEAKER_01: If I've got an individual person sitting on my couch, we're talking about relationships and family and childhood and adult relationships.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's it's so very important to who we become.
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  SPEAKER_00: And who we maintain as ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's looking at how you see your treat yourself because it's gonna set the tone for even how others interact with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: How does that affect us?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, it's you know, we talked in another the other episode about the self-friendship concept of do you treat yourself the way you treat your own friends, or is it worse?
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  SPEAKER_01: And typically we are our own worst critics.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, if we're if we're, you know, not a narcissistic personality disorder or you know, we've got some kind of personality disorder, but typically we're we're gonna say stuff to ourselves that we would never say to anybody else.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you are, but if you're a kind friend to yourself, then you're much more likely to bounce back when things are hard for you because you're not beating yourself down and condemning yourself for making a mistake.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is the most intimate relationship that we have.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're the only one who has access to the inner thoughts in our mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: No one else can speak instead of no one else can supplant those voices that we hear in our own head.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, however, if we associate with or we are forced to associate with people over time, those voices can slowly over time become our own.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I hear that all the time, especially with regards to parents or maybe ex-spouses, ex-partners.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, they they would tell us negative things about ourselves so often that finally we started to believe it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And now we hear those words and in our own voice inside of our head.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and sometimes it's not about what they say, it's about how they act.
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  SPEAKER_01: They say, I'm gonna be there for you, I'm gonna show up for you, and they're never home.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or, you know, I I know you had a hard time, but you need to kind of get over it.
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  SPEAKER_01: So do I do I believe that my emotions and my experience actually has value?
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  SPEAKER_01: They're saying that it does, but they're not acting like it does.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and those are very powerful in the way we form our own self-dialogue over time.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_01: And a lot of times some of the work that I do is okay, you're hearing this message in your head.
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  SPEAKER_01: Whose voice is that?
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, well, it's my own voice.
• 10:11
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, well, where did that come from?
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_01: Who said that to you?
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, well, it was my mom, or it was a coach I had in high school.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, okay, well, is that a is that something that we want to keep?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or is that something we need to challenge?
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  SPEAKER_01: And, you know, we're we're speaking about this in a negative sense, but plenty of times there's something positive that happened, somebody who spoke something really positive that has continued to resound in our head over the decades of our lives.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that can be really helpful too.
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  SPEAKER_01: That can that can impact the way you view and talk to yourself.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_01: And that I think we need to make sure we pay attention to both of those things.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're specific speaking here specifically about negative kind of self-relationship and improving that, but let's look at the positive stuff too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is there something positive that we want to emphasize and highlight and put in a little glass case lit up with spotlights in our heads so we don't damage it and it stays prominent over time?
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, I think those things are really powerful too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, they're both so powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it influences that self-worth that you have of yourself, which influences the boundary setting and communication that we're able to have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it it overall that emotional regulation comes from how you view that relationship and how it's been created.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, one thing that I did when I started Snacked Intent, I asked a question to the effect of how do you not let yourself vanish in relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so people took it in all kinds of different ways, and what came out of it was six different key areas to really focus on of not letting yourself vanish.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so there's a workbook that you can go get, and I'll link it in the show notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: But ultimately, it's looking at creating that open self-communication with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you are important in creating that environment that honors your free thought and ideas, and so you can ask yourself questions like, can I tell myself the truth?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I able to communicate in a new way?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, what's one way I can am open with myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's also looking at that focusing on what makes you unique because we all have things that make us unique.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's remembering that what makes us unique is what makes us important, and it's what makes us designed in the way that we were designed, and so it's looking at that aspect.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it may be hobbies, it may be your learning, it may be having a self-care date with yourself once a month, it may be giving yourself grace, which I'm not great at that one, so it's it might be working on that one, or it may be creating alone time, and it can also look like creating your financial independence, and so it's looking at that aspect of all of us have differences, but creating what your freedom looks like within finances, maintaining healthy boundaries, and that's one that I've learned over the years through workshops and conversations and clients that not everybody sees boundaries as a good word, but boundaries are there and set to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's being able to pause and look at what those look like.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's thinking, are you okay with your own boundaries?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're not okay with your own boundaries, nobody's gonna be okay with your own boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then looking at loving your own company.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_00: This is one that I found really interesting of learning to protect your alone time and help invest in yourself and doing things through small actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's how do you discover this with yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you overcome feeling gloomy and discomforted?
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  SPEAKER_00: And last, it's looking at that respect of being rude, accepting nothing from if you're rude, it's not good for anybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's learning the importance of being respectful to yourself and those around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So being able to ask yourself yourself the question of was I wrong?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I remaining respectful?
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  SPEAKER_00: Personal fostering care of that respectful, how do I handle situations that disrespect comes across if one of my boundaries got crossed?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so those are six areas that came from that question of really looking at how you don't let yourself vanish within these relationships and being able to spark what can help you transition your life of really focusing on when I maintain these things, I maintain who I am in them.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: So, how did those affect us within what the ripple effect of a relationship can look like?
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, the way we view ourselves and the our the ability, our connectedness to ourself directly impacts our ability to interact in a healthy or unhealthy way with the world around us.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_01: So if we if we're feeling connected to ourselves, if we know our own identity, and our identity is constantly shifting and changing as we grow and experience new things.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you may not ever have 100%, I know who I am, right?
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_01: And that part of that is the ability to be flexible and adapt to that change.
• 15:21
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but but having a good sense of groundedness and knowing, knowing what you believe and knowing who you want to be and how you want to respond in certain situations and relationships directly impacts your ability to show up well in your connection with other people.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you don't know who you are, if you feel off-kilter and off balance and someone comes up and lightly touches you with their finger, you might fall over.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that is true in our relationships as well.
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  SPEAKER_01: If we're not taking care of ourselves and if we're not being kind and aware of what we need, then someone asks us for help and we don't have anything to give.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or someone shows up and challenges us in a certain way, and we're feeling so insecure that we respond in a way that we are not proud of, either by withdrawing and disconnecting and severing the relationship, or we become really volatile and reactive.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's when when we're when we're not aware of what's going on for ourselves and we're not uh nourishing that self-relationship, then our relationship, the relationships we have with those around us are going to start to crumble very quickly.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and so it's important.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's one of those when I saw this in the writing of the ripple effect, it's like if you think about a raindrop in a pond, it doesn't just stay in its little spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times it ripples all the way to reaching the shoreline.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's what relationships do, that's what relationships with others do, and that's how your self-relationship is too, is if you're not in that healthy space with yourself, it's gonna ripple and it's gonna affect every other part of your life.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely, and and these things are intergenerational as well.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_01: If, you know, I see all the time intergenerational transmission of things like abuse and violence, and not just abuser to abuser to abuser, but victim to victim to victim.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, I I if I'm if I'm coming from the abuser's perspective, you know, I I see my my father who got what he wanted by force and coercion.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that was the way he encountered the world.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_01: He didn't trust the world and he had an insecurity to a certain extent that necessitated him taking control and managing someone else.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's how he felt in control.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's how he felt like he could get by and survive, and he enjoyed the power and the sense of um control that that gave him.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I see that, and now I'm gonna repeat that pattern because no one taught me anything different.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then maybe my child does the same, maybe their child does the same.
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  SPEAKER_01: Conversely, from the victim's perspective, I saw, we'll just say my mom.
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  SPEAKER_01: I saw my mom get um abused by my father.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_01: And I was taught to expect that obedience is required for someone to love me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Obedience is required for safety, except that obedience was actually an arbitrary ruling handed down by the abuser, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: It didn't actually have any meaning and value, in fact.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I think that the best way I can survive is by keeping quiet and not rocking the boat.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I learned to expect as my normal that abuse will occur.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when I come time to choose my romantic partner, I choose someone who looks a lot like my dad.
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  SPEAKER_01: And maybe my daughter does the same, maybe her daughter does the same.
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  SPEAKER_01: So we we have such, you know, I don't view myself as worthy of respect.
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  SPEAKER_01: And therefore I'm willing to, I'm willing to endure disrespect and abuse on a regular basis.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's that's what I'm that's the message of passing on to my kids and their kids and their kids.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_01: And breaking that intergenerational pattern is a lot of, you know, that's that's work that I, it's hard work and it's work that I do in my office all the time, and it can be very, very rewarding.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so many people wake up and they go, it stops with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not passing this on to my kids.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_01: And so how can I, how can I change this and how can I change it now?
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_01: And one of the first things we do is work on what what is your relationship with yourself?
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  SPEAKER_01: What are you willing to tolerate?
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  SPEAKER_01: What are you going to demand?
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  SPEAKER_01: What does your self need?
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_01: How can we love you by insisting on those behaviors in your close partnerships?
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_01: And it can be hugely powerful work.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's what's really important is sometimes in this, you have to recognize when you're looking at whether a ripple effect is, is it maybe things you don't even know that you learned.
• 19:46
  SPEAKER_00: It may be something that you learned and you didn't find out until later.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: And so that plays right into when you begin to strengthen your self-relationship, you in turn start to strengthen other relationships.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: And so this is healing yourself, and you might have to heal some external bonds um and find what the balance of that looks like.
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  SPEAKER_00: So why is it important to heal in a self-relationship?
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_01: Because, you know, the imagery we used earlier with regards to the cracked foundation holds here.
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  SPEAKER_01: If if our foundation remains cracked, everything we try to build on it is going to be unstable.
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_01: And so, if, you know, we might can build a shelter over time, but it's not going to last.
• 20:33
  SPEAKER_01: So if I don't go back and repair that fracture, if I don't go back and strengthen and stabilize the way I talked to myself and the way that I take care of myself, then eventually the effects are going to be undeniable.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_01: If I am working on caring for my children, or if I'm working on caring for an infirm parent or a friend, and I haven't slept well in weeks, and I don't eat well, and I haven't bathed in a few days, and I'm just sort of I'm scraping by, I'm not brushing my teeth, then I can do that for a minute.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_01: That works until it doesn't.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_01: And then eventually I'm not thinking clearly anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: And what if I make a poor decision that that seriously affects someone else's care?
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_01: That's kind of a big deal.
• 21:13
  SPEAKER_01: What if I can't nourish my relationships?
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't nourish my kids because I'm not taking care of myself and my relationship with them starts to falter, and then their own self-relationship starts to falter.
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_01: If they see me as, you know, well, mama doesn't really take care of me, then maybe I'm not really worth taking care of.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe people aren't going to take care of me and I'm gonna only be able to rely on myself.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, what kind of impact is that gonna have on their relationships down the line?
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  SPEAKER_01: It ripples very, very clearly.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: And it's so important of understanding how that affects that healthy relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what are some practical integrations in strengthening the relationship?
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  SPEAKER_01: Then taking a moment to do an assessment, do a self-assessment.
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  SPEAKER_01: And some of the easiest ways to see how this is showing up for us is in looking in our interactions with other people.
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  SPEAKER_01: Our relationships can be excellent mirrors.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, okay, in my relationship with my mom, I behave this way.
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  SPEAKER_01: In my relationship with my dad, I behave this way, with my son, with my daughter, with my husband, with my friend, I do these things.
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  SPEAKER_01: And what about that?
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  SPEAKER_01: Do I think is great?
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_01: What are the strengths that I exhibit in these relationships?
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_01: And what are areas where I don't think it's good?
• 22:25
  SPEAKER_01: Do I always shut down in my conversations with this friend?
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, well, if I do, why is that?
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_01: Is that is that a message that I'm sending myself?
• 22:34
  SPEAKER_01: Is that you know I don't feel confident in my conversation with her, and so I don't speak up.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_01: Um, or I don't, I think that our relationship harmony is more important than my ability to speak up when she says something that upsets me.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_01: So I just keep silent.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, what what am I telling myself here?
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_01: And what do I need to tell myself different in order to make this better?
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_00: Which in that situation, you're kind of telling yourself that your voice is not important, correct?
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_00: It's finding that inner dialogue, it's going back to that inner self of what's important.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: And so as we wrap up today's episode of how your self-relationship affects others, so that might be you have to look at what you are in that relationship, not just what other people are.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_00: But it's I hope that you gained a relationship blueprint idea and looking at the resources of how you don't let yourself vanish.
• 23:28
  SPEAKER_00: And we shared how that rippling effect affects other relationships.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so as you walk away, I hope that you've had some of those tools that added to your toolbox.
• 23:37
  SPEAKER_00: And if you want to go further in some of those toolboxes, head over to thestackedintent.com.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_00: And that vanishing guide is one that you can download.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what would our call to action from today's conversation be for those listeners?
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  SPEAKER_01: So I would challenge listeners today to look at the way that your self-treatment has affected and shaped your relationships.
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  SPEAKER_01: Look back over the last week and highlight moments that they didn't go so well and highlights moments that did, and go, okay, how how can I see my self-relationship shining through in these moments?
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  SPEAKER_01: What is the pattern that I want to keep and what is the pattern I want to change?
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  SPEAKER_01: And how it is, what is one way I can do that today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And make sure that you've listened to all the podcasts this season as we are really focusing on what that self-relationship is and how you can be helpful each way.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: That brings us to the end of this episode of Stacked and Pin.
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_00: If you loved this episode as much as I did, head on over and rate and subscribe so you will never miss an episode.
• 24:46
  SPEAKER_00: New episodes are going to be dropped on Thursdays.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then, this is Becca and don't forget, enrich real life by being.
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  SPEAKER_00: This podcast was created, produced, and recorded and edited by Staff Dent.