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135. Un-distractible · Your Enriched Self

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You want to unlock good things in your life, you want to unlock great
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things to happen in your life. Start with gratitude. As I promised,
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I want to do gratitude checks with you, and this week is our gratitude
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check. And so before we get into this episode, I want to share
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with you what I've been grateful for these past couple of weeks, and that's
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been the weather. As a person who loves the outdoors, as a person
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who can't wait to be outside, enjoying the weather, walking running the weather
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has actually worked out really well these past couple of weeks. I've really enjoyed
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going out and running without a coat, going out and running without gloves,
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and most recently having the opportunity to run a race with a friend of mine.
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So those are the things that I'm grateful for. I hope that you
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can look back on your day, look back on your week, your weekend,
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and find something to be grateful for, because nothing new comes into your
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life until you are grateful for what you have. Now. Hello, my
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friends from all across the globe, and welcome to the Your Enriched Self Podcast.
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I am your host, Mylene Noir. I am a mindset coach and
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your mindset advocate. And what that means is I have curated a space and
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created time each and every week with you so that we can talk about the
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things that we must do to become more enriched. And so what we do
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on this podcast is we talk about mindset fusion topics, things like self care
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and soul care and intentional thinking, because everything you are going to do today
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is going to start with a thought and that thought will then inspire the words
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and the action and activity you participate in. And when you do that,
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you get to show up as the best version of yourself. But it takes
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making the time to do and participate in these enriched activities. But if you
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are new to this podcast, I want to welcome you. I want to
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thank you for being here. I know that you are brought here on purpose
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for a purpose, and if you are a repeat listener, I want to
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thank you. Because of you, we are celebrating and I say yes,
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we are celebrating episode one hundred and thirty five. That means for one hundred
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and thirty five weeks, you have shown up and we have participated in becoming
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more enriched about ourselves, about our thoughts and everything that has to do with
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our lives. So thank you for that. Now, if you know,
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you know, Before we get started with the episode, I start by making
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a deposit in the bank of you, and I do so by way of
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affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day and to command your
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morning. And this week's affirmation is I am in control of my productivity and
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I make effective use of my time. I am in control of my productivity
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and I make effective use of my time. I am in control of my
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productivity and I make effective use of my time. Now let's get ready for
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this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. In my daytime job,
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last year, I was volunteld to be part of a culture club. You
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can imagine. A culture club is exactly what it says, right, a
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group of people who get together and our intention, our goal is to instill
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and ensure that we manage the culture of our business. We manage the culture
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of the people in our business. Because I know if you work for a
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company or if you work for a small business, it doesn't matter. Your
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people drive your business. So you need people, mind, body, and
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spirit present for that to happen. In this culture club, I made a
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small recommendation, or I made a recommendation around making time for yourself. I
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called it the gift of twenty minutes because I'm a person who finds great value
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in that mind, body, spirit center balance, and I do so by
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looking at ways to find time for ourselves so we can take those mental breaks
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that are need did that oftentimes we neglect because we just keep going and grinding,
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or so that we can kind of unplug and get away and be like
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physically outside of the presence of our work environment. And ultimately, I just
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like having time for myself just to be brief and just to really do nothing
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for twenty minutes. And so that's what I called it, the gift of
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twenty minutes. And I have to admit, at first I thought people would
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think, oh, this is kind of airy fairy, but ultimately people started
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responding positively to this gift of twenty minutes. And I think the reason why
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that resonated with so many people is because we live in a world that's full
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of distractions, and when do we intentionally make time take time to get away
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from those distractions. And so I believe this exercise or this opportunity to get
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people to gift themselves twenty minutes to go for a walk. Right, That
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was the way I did it. Some people decided they wanted to read a
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book, some decided they wanted to listen to their favorite music, their favorite
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tunes, whatever it was, it was an opportunity to get away from all
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the things that forced us in that attention space and create attention spaces that would
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add value back to our lives. And recently, to add to this conversation,
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a friend of mine had mentioned something she heard or had seen somewhere in
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a social post and a person said, who would you be if you weren't
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distracted? And when she said that, I had to ask her to repeat
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herself because I thought that was a really big bold thing to say, a
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big bold thing to ask, and most importantly, a big bold thing for
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me to answer for myself. And it really hit home for me because I've
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been dealing with distractions and I'll just say this, Distractions rob you. Distractions
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take away from you. Distractions steal from you. It could be your time,
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it could be your creativity, it could be opportunities. When you are
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distracted, you are not able to give yourself away into a space or a
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place that you have prioritized, that you find value in that aligns with your
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goals, because the distraction ultimately is robbing that away from you, is stealing
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that away from you, and ultimately you're not able to execute, you're not
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able to complete. It hit home even further because guess what we are at
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the end of the month of February, and oh, by the way,
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two months in this new year have gone by. Now I don't want us
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to paint the doom and gloom picture because we still have a nice runway in
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twenty twenty four to get some things done. So I want us to stay
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focused there. But I also want us to be aware that there are detractors
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or distractors of your time and for you and maybe social media, for me,
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it maybe TV, it may be just life is happening right. Family
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things can be very distracting. If you have dealt with some family drama,
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if you have dealt with some family drama, trust me, I understand how
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your time can be pulled in directions outside of where you initially have planned.
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And so that's what I want to talk to you about this week, because
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if I'm being transparent, I have been distracted, and I want you,
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I want us to become undistracted. And I'm gonna tell you right now,
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it's not gonna be overnight. I don't have a magic bullet. I can't
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give you something to eat or drink or say on this podcast that's going to
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change your life. I would love to be able to say that I'm the
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guru of making you undistractable. But I'm definitely willing to talk about what we
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are doing and what we need to be doing and how we can go about
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doing it, because it's time to execute. We don't want to wait for
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another thirty one days, twenty nine days, or maybe thirty days in these
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upcoming months to go by without having accomplished the things that we set forward to
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accomplish in this year. Did I accomplish some of the things I planned on
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in the month of January and February? Yes, probably more so January than
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February. And I'm not going to blame the short month, because we actually
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got an extra day this year in the month of February. But I will
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say that I had some child lenges with being undestractable, and it wasn't until
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we were kind of winding down the month of February and I started looking at
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my goals and I'm like, wait a minute, these things have not been
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achieved yet, and I'm not sure with X amount of days left in this
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month if it will get done. So now some of these activities are going
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to move to March on top of what I had already carved out and curated
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for my March. But with this new awareness, I know that I can
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get it done, and I know that you can get it done, and
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I know that we can do it. So let's talk a little bit about
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it now. As I mentioned, these distractions are robbers. They're thieves,
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and one of the most important resource that you will ever have in this life
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is time. And if you've ever listened to the folks on Shark Tank,
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you'll hear them say things like they're bowing out of a project because they feel
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like that project is going to be a time waster. And those gurus,
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those sharks would rather spend money and lose money that they can make back up.
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But the way they see it is they can't make up the time.
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That's a mindset shift for many of us. It's certainly the way they think
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through investing in anything. They recognize that, yes, I may not make
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the money I thought I was gonna make. Yes I may lose some of
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the money that I'm gonna that I thought I was gonna make. And they're
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okay with that. What they're not okay with if you hear them, if
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you listen, they'll tell you they don't want to waste time because they can't
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make up the time. Time again, is a resource that we don't think
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about, but if we start to think about it like how we spend it,
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because you say you spend time like you spend money, and with money,
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you have this tangible awareness of it. With time, you don't.
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And I think that's why these distractions occur, because we don't have that tangible
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thought on time. But I think there are some things that we can do
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that you can do to be undistractable. I'm keeping it real simple this week,
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guys, because I'm also adopting this myself in full transparency. I'm struggling
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with distractions. I'm struggling with distractions like I've never struggled with distractions before,
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and so I recognize. I think the first step in all of this is
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to have a level of awareness that you are struggling in an area. That's
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the first thing is the awareness of it, and then it's time for action.
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It's time for action. Well, I'll say this awareness knowing what you
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do when the distractors come your way, and then now taking action that is
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probably contrary to what you do today because I think sometimes we just let things
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happen, and I think we have to make room for the thing to happen.
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So here are the two things I believe that if you incorporate into your
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daily routine, will help you become more undistractable, in other words, less
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distracted. The first thing I will say is attention management practice attention management,
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and what attention management is is to simply, this is a really simple thing.
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First of all, you want to focus on one thing at a time.
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I think that's kind of a given. But attention management is something I
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started doing. And the tangible side of that, the thing that you can
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actually go do so that you can start to see the results, is to
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set a period of time, for example, twenty five minutes thirty minutes,
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so that you can get some activity accomplished. And I started doing this recently.
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Right where I would set my personal assistant, I don't want to say
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her name because I know she's gonna activate on this podcast, but I'll call
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her. I'll ask her to set a timer for me. In that time.
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I am focused on one task because I know the other thing that gets
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us caught up is this whole idea of multitasking. I think that's where a
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lot of our problems them. But I'm not gonna psychoanalyze where our problems them.
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What I want us to do is walk away from this episode with tangible
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steps things that you can go do now to minimize the distractions that come up.
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I'm not saying the distractions aren't gonna come up. I'm not saying you're
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gonna eliminate them by doing this. I'm saying to you that if you want
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to be more, more accomplished, more completed, have more done in this
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year, it's going to require you to start with something as simple I say
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simple as attention management. You are now managing your attention. You are now
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being mindful of where your attention goes. You're being mindful of how you spend
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your attention the time, right, we talk about spending the time. So
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this is what this step or this process will help you do be more attentive
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about the time you spend. How do you do that? You do that
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by literally setting a period of time aside. When I say literally, I
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say set an actual reminder, an alarm, whatever it is that you need
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to do. The good news is you have these resources at your fingertips.
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Literally the cell phone that you're listening to this podcast on is now a tool
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to help you manage your time, be a better steward of time, and
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have an attention management plan. And that's what this is all about. So
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that's the first thing. You get this thing done, you take a short
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break, you go do the next thing. Now what I started doing is
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this thing. So runners do this thing called ladders. I don't know if
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anybody's ever done that. Essentially, think about an actual ladder, like you
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climb the first rung, or in this case, you run a distance,
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a really short distance, think about the first rung on the ladder, and
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then you come back to start, and then you go a longer distance,
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think about the second rung on the ladder, and then you go back to
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start, and so on and so forth. So by the time you get
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up to the top of the ladder, you're going to start to tear that
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activity down. You can do something that simple. Maybe you start with maybe
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a ten minute activity that you can get done and complete it in ten minutes.
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You take a break, then you go up to a tute activity,
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you get that completed, you take a break. Now you go up to
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an hour activity, you get that completed, you take a break, and
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you come back down and you do another twenty five minute activity, and so
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on and so forth. So you can do this however you want to,
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whatever works for you. Listen, I've done this in the past before where
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I did five minute uninterrupted breaks, no distractions. I've literally done it for
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five minutes. You can decide how you need to do it. The key
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is to get yourself trained, to get your mindset trained, to get your
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activity and your behaviors trained, so you can start doing a new thing.
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You start doing this thing new, you start doing this thing fresh, you
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start executing, you start completing, you start marking things off that list that
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we talked about. So that's number one. Like I said, I got
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two things for you. I want to keep it super duper simple. So
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the first one is attention management. The second and one super easy create a
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distraction free environment. Build a distraction free environment. Ensure you're working in a
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distraction free environment. That's it. Something as simple as turning off your notifications,
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especially on the socials. Especially on the socials, that can be a
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huge distractor. That can be a huge detractor to your goals. Right,
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it is counterproductive for you to want to get things done, but every five
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minutes you're getting pinged. The other thing may be something as simple as this,
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change your environment. I'll give you an example. Oftentimes, what I
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do when I get home is I just go upstairs. I start taking off
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the day, right, take off the workshoes and the work outfit and all
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that. And then I find myself like winding down for the night. Now,
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keep in mind, I got stuff to do, Like the nine to
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five is over, but I still got some work to do on the other
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side of my life. I stay up in my room, I start watching
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TV. I start getting distracted. Something as simple as get out of that
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room. I've created a habit. I've trained myself that when I get home,
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these are the things I'm doing. So it's time to start to untrain
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myself. It is something as simple as that, Right, Changing the environment
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that you're in So now what if I were to take my laptop and go
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downstairs and plug in and spend thirty minutes after work or thirty minutes after dinner
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every night in this room or in my office, that would significantly change me
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being in an environment where the TV's at and where all these other distractions that
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I've grown used to are. So it may be something as simple when you're
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creating a distraction free environment, removing yourself from one environment and going into a
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different environment where you don't have the levels of distractions that you have. I
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will say another thing that often we don't think about before we get into a
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thing. We think about it while we're in it is to establish boundaries.
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And when I say established boundaries, I mean with your coworkers, I mean
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with your family, because there are certain times of the day that you cannot
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afford to be distracted, especially when you're at work. I mean in any
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type of situation or an environment. You want to give yourself the best opportunity
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to win, the best opportunity to complete, the best opportunity to execute.
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So you're going to have to establish boundaries, Like listen, I'm not going
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to be able to do this between I mean this time and that time,
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and setting those boundaries early as opposed to while you're in it and now you
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have to explain yourself while you're trying to get things done. It doesn't help
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the fact that you're now distracted because now you have to explain yourself and you
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still aren't doing the things that you had planned to do in a certain time.
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So it's important to establish boundaries. Here's the thing about establishing boundaries that
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I'm going to caution you on. If you're going to create a boundary,
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I want you to maintain the boundary because what tends to happen to a lot
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of people, and it's happened to me before, is when you create a
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boundary and you don't maintain the boundary, you start to train people or teach
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people how to mistreat your boundaries because they're watching you treat your boundaries with no
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respect, no care, no thought, and they start to mimic the same
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they start to reciprocate. So you don't want that type of energy. So
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I would say, if you're going to create a boundary for your time,
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don't break in and say you know what, I'll go ahead and do it
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this time. Keep your especially your time, time and money boundaries. You
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better keep them because they will go very quickly. Those things go very quickly.
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So those are the two things that I want you to work on this
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week. Two things. That's it. I want you to become undistractable.
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As I mentioned before, it's going to require training. You're going to have
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to train yourself to be less distracted and more focus on the task at hand.
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The reality is I don't have to tell you. I think it goes
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without saying that. If you're listening to this, you have clear goals and
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you have priorities. I think those are given. But becoming less distracted is
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going to require a self awareness and having these behavioral strategies and environmental changes so
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that you can achieve and do the things that you must do to become more
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of your enrich self, to do the things that you must do to have
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long term success improving your ability to become undistracted. I hope you enjoyed this
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week's episode of the Urine Ritsub podcast. And the only way I'm gonna know
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sixty eight hours so that you can become more of your enriched self until we
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meet again.