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All About Teens and How To Live A Stressful Life with Skip Shipp #10 · The Hotmomz Lifestyle Podcast

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  Speaker 4: We're going to, we're going to double this as a podcast, as a podcast, so welcome.
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  Speaker 4: Welcome.
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  Speaker 4: All right.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, and we have skip.
• 1:03
  Speaker 4: We have skip ship with us.
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  Speaker 4: Mr former MLB, mr mr baseball was for mr M.
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  Speaker 4: if you've ever seen Cesar Milan, how he, what does it, what does he say?
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  Speaker 4: I train dogs and rehabilitate owners, so skip, fuck it up every time.
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  Speaker 4: So what he does is I'm going to Edify him.
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  Speaker 4: He has worked with multiple families for how many years?
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  Speaker 4: 1919 years.
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  Speaker 4: He's an expert in his field.
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  Speaker 4: Um, the people that he's worked with, Oh my God.
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  Speaker 4: I mean they're all over the place.
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  Speaker 4: I mean anywhere from, you know, major league baseball players to multi multimillionaires, uh, owns companies to FBI agents, to kids that go to Harvard.
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  Speaker 4: I mean it's impressive, but what he does is mental coaching.
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  Speaker 4: He's very intuitive.
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  Speaker 4: So he brings in his gift of, uh, psychic abilities into what did you say you do with kids?
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  Speaker 4: Rehabilitate the kids and you train the parents cause really I don't know how you do what you do cause I fucking go crazy out.
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  Speaker 4: Thank God I get to work with adults because you know, I say fuck a lot and it is, the problem is with the adults and then it's just like mirrored in the kids and I hate to hear that.
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  Speaker 4: So anyway, we're going to go straight into the questions last week.
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  Speaker 4: If you're new.
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  Speaker 4: Last week I asked, I said, look, posts in the, uh, in the comments, what are your problems that you go through with teens?
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  Speaker 4: Because I have a lot of clients that have teenagers, skips, have teenagers, but the girls, they live with their moms, so we really don't, but he works with nothing but teenagers.
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  Speaker 4: Matter of fact, when he did a Johnson O'Connor tests where you going to pay thousands of dollars, you take all these tests to do your IQ and they tell you what you should do for a living.
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  Speaker 4: And his was PE teacher from middle school.
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  Speaker 4: So, but that's really the best age.
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  Speaker 4: A group of kids that he connects with them backwards.
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  Speaker 4: That's okay.
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  Speaker 4: Hang in there.
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  Speaker 4: We're almost there.
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  Speaker 4: Hang in there.
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  Speaker 4: So we were like, Oh my pace crooked.
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  Speaker 4: Look.
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  Speaker 4: So anyway, I asked the people what their issues was with their teenagers because clients will, that's one of the excuses is, Oh my teens gone crazy or we're doing this, I'm stressing out over, I'm losing sleep.
• 3:20
  Speaker 4: Casey, she's running me crazy.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, and it really is, they say that you get divorced in the first seven years of marriage.
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  Speaker 4: I did that or I will.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 3:30
  Speaker 4: Well you knew going in, you shouldn't get married.
• 3:33
  Speaker 4: I mean, that's just the truth.
• 3:35
  Speaker 4: But anyway, is the first seven years of marriage or when the kids are teenagers, that's the times that people get divorced.
• 3:42
  Speaker 4: So there's a reason.
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  Speaker 4: But anyway, I'm going to go through and read the questions just first off and let skip have the stage.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: First question, skip is from question.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: We've got Hannah Johnson, she asked at first and I was like, it's about you.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, daughter.
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  Speaker 4: So 14 year old girl, she's going through mood swings, acne, weight gain in the belly and with girls, if you don't know, we were very highly insecure and self-conscious at this age anyway.
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  Speaker 4: So how does she work with that?
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  Speaker 5: Well, first of all, the boys, they are too.
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  Speaker 5: Um, 13, 14, 15 girls sometimes a little bit earlier.
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  Speaker 5: Start 11 and 12.
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  Speaker 5: Um, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: You, you basically, they're both gonna be insecure, self-conscious and kind of like, it's a, it's a time where they still want mom and dad to do everything for them, but they don't want to act like they want mom and dad to do it.
• 4:36
  Speaker 4: Oh, like your baseball team, that 14 year old team, um, I call it a bunch of pussies.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, she did.
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  Speaker 5: Um, but anyway, it's, it's a thing where they're so vulnerable and then their behavior of trying to find themselves or find out where they fit in this world, wanting to get out of the house, wanting to get away from your parents, but all they want to be cuddled by their parents too,
• 4:57
  Speaker 4: masturbating all the time.
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  Speaker 4: They are, Oh, this is not mine.
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  Speaker 4: This is a closed group I can't get, and it's my podcast.
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  Speaker 4: If this goes on with[inaudible], cross up your Casey.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, keep going.
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  Speaker 5: Okay.
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  Speaker 5: Anyway, so yeah, you're at that vulnerable time and the mistake that parents make is, Oh my God, where did we screw up?
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  Speaker 5: Oh my God.
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  Speaker 5: But at what point that we stopped being good parents.
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  Speaker 5: It's a natural behavior that all the kids are going to have.
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  Speaker 5: My kids had it, all the kids that I work with have it and it just blindsides the parents.
• 5:33
  Speaker 5: Um, it's what, what they need, what they need.
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  Speaker 5: And what we usually try to set up as a Haven at home to where, yeah, they're gonna treat you like crap.
• 5:41
  Speaker 5: Is it okay?
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  Speaker 5: No, but instead of disciplining them immediately for their actions, you want to investigate, just go, you know, just talk to me.
• 5:51
  Speaker 5: You don't have to treat me like crap.
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  Speaker 5: Just talk to me and telling me what's going on.
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  Speaker 5: They shut down.
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  Speaker 5: You gotta open them up.
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  Speaker 5: That's the, that either the parent has to find a way to open them up so that they can discuss things or find somebody for them to talk to.
• 6:05
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: No, I'm not like a, you're crazy.
• 6:09
  Speaker 5: So you need to go see a counselor or just somebody.
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  Speaker 5: That's what I becoming a lot of these people's life, cause I'm a disguise does a hitting instructor.
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  Speaker 5: So it's a time I just am able to say, Hey, what's going on man?
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  Speaker 5: What's really, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And play therapy.
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  Speaker 5: And for the most part, not out of 10 of them.
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  Speaker 5: It's never the parents.
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  Speaker 5: It's never the parents.
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  Speaker 5: Parents just get beat up by the kid.
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  Speaker 5: So I got sidetracked.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: Here's the question.
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  Speaker 4: What do you do though when the girl, she's 14 acne gaining inner Valley, um,
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  Speaker 5: you know, tell stories about when it happened to you.
• 6:44
  Speaker 5: Tell me more about that.
• 6:46
  Speaker 5: Ah, man, shoot.
• 6:47
  Speaker 5: I think we have mom, well I got fat, got acne, got insecure, all that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 5: So it's, I'm able to use my stories to relate to them to get on their level to where at the time.
• 7:01
  Speaker 5: And I just kept growing.
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  Speaker 5: I mean w at the time I didn't think I had a problem.
• 7:05
  Speaker 5: The kids don't think that would probably tell them.
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  Speaker 5: Mom, see again why I keep saying
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  Speaker 4: like if we had a daughter or if the boys, cause you know, acne runs in my family really bad.
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  Speaker 4: If it gets to the point where I see
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  Speaker 5: so many good outcomes with teenagers and older, like 16 to 18 year olds, um, the, the, it's not a harmful thing.
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  Speaker 4: So there's an option if it's bad, bad, like cystic, and it's really affecting her, um, self esteem.
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  Speaker 4: I wish my mom
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  Speaker 5: put me on it instead of birth control.
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  Speaker 5: Then case he talks about it a lot.
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  Speaker 5: I mean that and they just, this energy, energetic,[inaudible] stuff, getting out of your body.
• 7:46
  Speaker 5: It's anger, it's all that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, there's a lot that goes into it where you can treat it emotionally and you know, wash your face and you know, all that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 5: But at washing your face,
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  Speaker 4: it's hormones.
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  Speaker 4: It's what it is.
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  Speaker 5: It's mainly hormones, conversations, hormones.
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  Speaker 5: How are we dealing with it?
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  Speaker 5: You know?
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I don't see that big a difference between my, I went through puberty, bad, bad.
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  Speaker 5: Like I would, I'm, I'm the kid who wanted to call my dad out and get in a fight with him and all this kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 5: But fricking 14 years old.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: So what you're saying though is Gittleman level
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  Speaker 5: and be a Haven.
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  Speaker 5: Like take the punches that give until they're[inaudible]
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  Speaker 4: Oh, here's a good one.
• 8:27
  Speaker 4: Here's a good one.
• 8:28
  Speaker 4: What does she say or this is maybe bad as maybe Casey's how, you know, you say Casey, you're not helping.
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  Speaker 5: Well the kids are always the number one error they have to shoot at you as a parent.
• 8:37
  Speaker 5: Is that you're a bad parent?
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 4: But you know how you said Casey, cause like if I had a daughter I would think, Oh my boys.
• 8:45
  Speaker 4: Hey, um, if you, I want to, how do you know that she's insecure about her?
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  Speaker 4: Billy, does she mention it?
• 8:51
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 8:51
  Speaker 4: If she's mentioning it, cause if she's not mentioning it, I wouldn't say anything cause I don't say anything to Anderson.
• 8:56
  Speaker 4: When I say Sila hang out her ass shorts.
• 8:58
  Speaker 4: Like what?
• 9:00
  Speaker 4: So, but if they're mentioning that they want to lose their belly or whatever, dude, if my mom was into fitness I'd be like, Liz Casey's got a meal plan out, let's do her workouts.
• 9:11
  Speaker 4: And that could be something that you connect together.
• 9:15
  Speaker 4: Like leading by example, Hey, Hey girl, I don't like my Billy either.
• 9:20
  Speaker 4: Let's do something about it.
• 9:22
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And I guess the final point, cause we can talk about this forever and bring up different scenarios is it's not a disciplinary action situation.
• 9:32
  Speaker 5: It's hormonal situation.
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  Speaker 5: It's gotta you gotta grow through it and develop through it both as parents and as kids and you know, restricting, punishing, um, dealing with the surface behavior in the words that they say and they're lethargic, sitting around mouth breathing.
• 9:50
  Speaker 5: I mean they're disgusting.
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  Speaker 5: Um, the, that, that the have disciplining them for those actions, it just makes it worse.
• 9:59
  Speaker 5: Just makes it worse.
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  Speaker 5: Okay,
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  Speaker 4: next one.
• 10:02
  Speaker 4: Well, so Ricky,
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  Speaker 5: I'm not saying don't get onto them.
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  Speaker 5: I mean,
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  Speaker 4: well that's what we're getting into.
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  Speaker 4: The next one, Amber says, my 18 year old boy, very negative attitude, pessimists, I feel like his negative energy really brings me down.
• 10:15
  Speaker 4: And no matter how I try to influence him in a positive way, he always just finds something shitty to say.
• 10:21
  Speaker 4: I have to just walk away a lot.
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  Speaker 4: But I'd love to know how to help him change his energy.
• 10:25
  Speaker 4: He's so insecure and worried about what everyone thinks, no matter what I do to try and change his outlook.
• 10:31
  Speaker 4: My 16 year old boy I really struggle with because he's super athletic, very popular.
• 10:36
  Speaker 4: He's been honest with me about the facts.
• 10:38
  Speaker 4: His friends sometimes drink.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like I'm never going to stop him.
• 10:42
  Speaker 4: I mean, I was crazy as a teenager.
• 10:44
  Speaker 4: My parents thought they stopped me, but I was just sneaky.
• 10:46
  Speaker 4: I feel like him being honest about doing it occasionally is way better than the alternative, but I have major guilt about it and my husband is the completely opposite.
• 10:56
  Speaker 4: He's complete opposite.
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  Speaker 4: He thinks he shouldn't be allowed to do anything.
• 11:00
  Speaker 4: So please be nice.
• 11:01
  Speaker 4: This is me being very vulnerable.
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  Speaker 4: I know drinking's very taboo and he's a kid, but also wanted to be honest with me.
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  Speaker 5: 16 drinks
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  Speaker 4: and 18.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, the 16 year old,
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  Speaker 5: the 18 year old.
• 11:15
  Speaker 5: Um, yeah.
• 11:18
  Speaker 5: Best miss mopey.
• 11:20
  Speaker 5: Um, when you try to be positive and try to be, uh, you know, racist spirits by being positive and say a nice thing.
• 11:28
  Speaker 5: So I mean, that's kind of fake.
• 11:29
  Speaker 5: So your option could you try and so your option really is, can you act more pessimistic than him and give him the opportunity to lighten the situation.
• 11:40
  Speaker 5: That doesn't, it doesn't technique.
• 11:42
  Speaker 5: Like if you, if you're gonna be real pessimistic to me, then I'm just going to be more pessimistic than you.
• 11:49
  Speaker 5: And we're either gonna
• 11:51
  Speaker 4: did she tell him about her problems or did she start bitching about her day?
• 11:54
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, about whatever he's bitching them out or it just, it's not only feel like he's bitching much.
• 12:00
  Speaker 5: I just feel like he's depressing.
• 12:01
  Speaker 4: Amber, if you're here, uh, Charmin.
• 12:05
  Speaker 5: Um, but the 16 year old and the drinking thing, um, they're set up pretty much right now to be good cop, bad cop, and just, just do that.
• 12:14
  Speaker 5: Like I, I would, I know that our boys were definitely gonna walk them to be honest with us and open and we're pretty open about stuff like that anyway, which
• 12:24
  Speaker 4: that sounds, I smoked a lot of pot.
• 12:26
  Speaker 4: I was your age and I highly recommend you don't, but I know you're probably going to me taste some sun.
• 12:31
  Speaker 4: If you them graze and your money's going away, we'll go 86 that weed you hear me as well.
• 12:36
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's, and that's very not normal.
• 12:39
  Speaker 5: So, but in the case that in this situation, the let the father be the strong arm and the mom, uh,
• 12:47
  Speaker 4: dear God.
• 12:48
  Speaker 4: And when my boys started drinking, we talked about this because in America it's fucked up about drinking over in wherever Europe wine is like bread, kids, kids drink wine.
• 12:59
  Speaker 4: So my kids, it's going to be like the way I was when I grew up.
• 13:03
  Speaker 4: I started drinking it.
• 13:04
  Speaker 4: I had my first one, like 12, but I would drink when I was on 14 he'll start having sex when I was almost 15 I was 14 so anyway,
• 13:12
  Speaker 5: and I was 19, almost 20 when I had sex and I was 22 when I had my first drink.
• 13:19
  Speaker 4: And you had the way at the worst fucking marriage, the worst baby MoMA shit.
• 13:23
  Speaker 4: The Bay.
• 13:23
  Speaker 4: It's just, it didn't make into one of us.
• 13:25
  Speaker 4: Who better than worse now.
• 13:28
  Speaker 4: Now, now what?
• 13:29
  Speaker 4: I have not had sex with some people because drinking does lower your inhibitions.
• 13:33
  Speaker 4: Maybe so it's probably, but anyway, I was just going to teach a look son.
• 13:37
  Speaker 4: Let me catch you driving or getting in a car with someone that has been drinking.
• 13:41
  Speaker 4: It's going to be bad.
• 13:42
  Speaker 4: Uber with Uber right now.
• 13:43
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 13:44
  Speaker 5: Our point here is just education.
• 13:45
  Speaker 5: Someone's gotta teach them and you'd rather teach them yourself then for their peers to teach them.
• 13:53
  Speaker 5: Because typically the kids drinking around them, their parents don't know their drinks
• 13:57
  Speaker 4: and the kids, I don't say this cause I was bad.
• 14:00
  Speaker 4: He was a good boy.
• 14:01
  Speaker 4: The kids that grew up and did not drink this one kid in particular, they'll go to college and guess who is blacking out doing stupid shit cause they don't know how to drink.
• 14:10
  Speaker 4: Those kids had never drank.
• 14:12
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 14:12
  Speaker 5: And that's the whole drinking age are supposed to be around responsibility.
• 14:15
  Speaker 5: But we all know that you've got to learn responsibility.
• 14:18
  Speaker 4: There's adults that I'm responsible anyway.
• 14:22
  Speaker 4: So, um, somebody the pessimistic.
• 14:24
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 14:24
  Speaker 5: And sit the 16 year old.
• 14:26
  Speaker 5: You got good cop, bad cop, 18 year old.
• 14:28
  Speaker 5: Just try some tricks with them and you know they're going to be pouty, pouty, Susie.
• 14:33
  Speaker 5: Well then just ignore them or be more[inaudible]
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: well hold on because something just popped in my head.
• 14:39
  Speaker 4: What about don't do not put them on SSRI police.
• 14:42
  Speaker 5: No, no drugs man.
• 14:43
  Speaker 5: This is normal shit man.
• 14:44
  Speaker 5: An 18 year old is moping around and he's got an athletic brother's 16.
• 14:49
  Speaker 5: Uh, there's like what?
• 14:52
  Speaker 5: That's a typical situation.
• 14:55
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 14:55
  Speaker 5: It's not, not
• 14:56
  Speaker 4: once again, it come back be really beneficial to have play therapy.
• 15:00
  Speaker 4: What does he like to do?
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: Somebody that's like skip that could maybe give you some insight.
• 15:05
  Speaker 4: [inaudible] 10 year old just wants more attention.
• 15:07
  Speaker 4: Right?
• 15:07
  Speaker 4: Cause you don't want, cause I don't want to push this off as he's being 18 and then he would commit suicide.
• 15:12
  Speaker 4: I'm not saying it's gonna happen, but I'm saying it's real
• 15:14
  Speaker 5: from 14, from 13 to 18 with both girls and boys.
• 15:18
  Speaker 5: The ones that are just depressing.
• 15:21
  Speaker 5: And this is, they just, they need attention and that's why they're, that's how they're striving together.
• 15:25
  Speaker 5: If they were little, there'd be cry.
• 15:27
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 15:27
  Speaker 5: So that's, we've seen it in Anderson.
• 15:30
  Speaker 5: Lauren.
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: Oh my God.
• 15:32
  Speaker 4: Duh.
• 15:33
  Speaker 4: Cause Amber, you've got freaking four, five, four kids.
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, she's got babies.
• 15:37
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 15:37
  Speaker 5: And they just can't cry for attention.
• 15:40
  Speaker 5: So they're just depressing for attention
• 15:41
  Speaker 4: and don't feel bad.
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: Don't give him mom guilt.
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: Don't be getting no mom guilt, but okay.
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: Well so will she, they just get something he likes
• 15:50
  Speaker 5: good cop, bad cop, but the young kid and then I'm going to ask questions, you know?
• 15:55
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 15:56
  Speaker 5: This is something, uh,
• 15:58
  Speaker 6: yeah.
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: Pleasant.
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 16:03
  Speaker 5: Mad.
• 16:03
  Speaker 5: I mean, we're just throwing some stuff out there and then maybe wouldn't follow up.
• 16:07
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 16:07
  Speaker 5: Just give some stuff and try it.
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 16:09
  Speaker 4: Uh, yeah, this is dealing with trying to pull out the best in them and encouraging them when they can't even stand talking to you.
• 16:17
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 16:18
  Speaker 5: I mean you can't force it at all.
• 16:22
  Speaker 5: Text them.
• 16:24
  Speaker 5: I'm sorry.
• 16:25
  Speaker 5: So I tell parents to text their kid.
• 16:28
  Speaker 5: There are a lot of times when they're in one place and the kid, and I'm not talking about like in a car and you're text and the person next to you.
• 16:34
  Speaker 5: I like maybe in two different places, kids will open up through text message and organize their thoughts.
• 16:41
  Speaker 5: Um, when parents, the same voice that usually, you know, dictate your, gets onto you or dictatorships, that type of thing.
• 16:48
  Speaker 5: Uh, when that voice comes out, immediate defense comes up.
• 16:51
  Speaker 5: But if it's text, yeah, they used to write notes to each other.
• 16:55
  Speaker 5: I read it as, I mean, that's
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: your, your people that comes in your, your people with right now this person came in and uh, the kid, this was an issue.
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: Just stereotype like you tapping into that, get it just where they do not.
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: Their parents are like, they're just, she don't, she won't talk to me.
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: She won't do this once.
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: Usually
• 17:19
  Speaker 5: a common fact.
• 17:21
  Speaker 5: There's another sibling getting all the attention.
• 17:25
  Speaker 5: Oh, when they're mopey, not talking, just not cooperative.
• 17:30
  Speaker 5: Uh, uh, it's the same way.
• 17:32
  Speaker 5: My daughter Anderson treats her mom with two little sisters and then her mom calls me and tells me how horrible Anderson is.
• 17:41
  Speaker 5: But really it's just because she's, well, she has to coparent her kids.
• 17:47
  Speaker 5: So there's many different.
• 17:49
  Speaker 5: But in this situation with just, you got to find a way to communicate and sometimes non verbal is good.
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: And then w had 10 minutes if your mind shuts down, doesn't want to talk or anything either.
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: But that we'll, we just went overhand and hopefully that helps where you're like you get on her level
• 18:06
  Speaker 5: about it.
• 18:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 18:07
  Speaker 5: I do that with Casey.
• 18:08
  Speaker 5: Do add text message between the two of us.
• 18:12
  Speaker 5: Way better than talking casing.
• 18:16
  Speaker 5: Say one thing to me and I start acting like your teenager.
• 18:19
  Speaker 5: I'm serious.
• 18:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: Nope.
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: Uh, Janice, Janice said 30 13 year old bed attitude at me.
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: Laziness.
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: Like a motivation for anything that doesn't involve football and basketball.
• 18:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's absolutely, I said age.
• 18:34
  Speaker 5: It's, it's, they're confused.
• 18:37
  Speaker 5: And what was our oldest, sir?
• 18:38
  Speaker 5: What do we do?
• 18:39
  Speaker 5: I D you don't force them one way or the other.
• 18:44
  Speaker 5: They just got to let, could grow through it.
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: I mean you, it's the same, make sure they're getting their shit done and yeah, man, I mean, and I, I'd read you say this, the main, because it's taboo for me to say it, but 13, 12, 13 and then 14, 15, 16 was guys, girls that lie.
• 19:04
  Speaker 5: It's like one big pre-menstrual period.
• 19:08
  Speaker 5: It's a hormone change that just throws you out.
• 19:11
  Speaker 5: So how you feel during those changes then that's how you treat them, addressing it.
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: I mean, I remember before you had a hysterectomy when I would say, Oh God, you're on your period.
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: I'm better have a fucking place to run.
• 19:28
  Speaker 5: But that's the same thing when a 13 year old walks in, you go, you know what's wrong with me or you don't do anything today, so what do we do?
• 19:36
  Speaker 5: So we just make sure, Hey son, I don't know.
• 19:39
  Speaker 5: What do you want people to do to you when you feel like that?
• 19:43
  Speaker 5: Leave them, leave you alone.
• 19:44
  Speaker 5: You can't leave them on.
• 19:46
  Speaker 5: Um,
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: depends though.
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: I would probably just say, look, I'm in a mood, I'm in a mood today.
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: I'm salty as fuck.
• 19:51
  Speaker 4: So there's that.
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: Don't want to be going around politics and kissing babies today.
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: So maybe if they were more aware of how they felt.
• 20:01
  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah.
• 20:02
  Speaker 5: Just, it's a, it's okay to feel shitty and it's okay for you to, it's okay for you to feel this way.
• 20:08
  Speaker 5: You're not sick.
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: You're not weird.
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: You're not crazy.
• 20:10
  Speaker 5: However, I have a problem with your attitude.
• 20:17
  Speaker 5: I, I'll have a problem with your emotions on our problem with you.
• 20:19
  Speaker 5: I just have a problem with how you're handling it because daughter, son, whichever it may be, as you grow older, you plan to handle this.
• 20:27
  Speaker 5: You're gonna feel like this in class.
• 20:28
  Speaker 5: You're going to feel like this at work.
• 20:30
  Speaker 5: You're going to feel like this around your friends.
• 20:32
  Speaker 5: You're going to lose friends because you feel this way.
• 20:35
  Speaker 5: All right, let's learn how to fill this way and get through it cause it just comes in waves.
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 20:40
  Speaker 5: Um, so education, back to education again.
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: Christy probably is loving this.
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: Heather says, girl.
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: So you wanted the shit.
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: Here you go.
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: 17 year old female procrastination, queen, daughter of divorced parents since age three, remarried when she was five and motivated anxiety and fearful.
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: Sounds like me, just disrespectful and bad attitude, extremely argumentative over everything.
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: Seems to have a fondness of learning the hard way when dad doesn't bail her out, which in turn causes drama with the stepfather cause I'm in the middle, puts one face on in public, but at home it's not so nice.
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: Skip in her stage to the right.
• 21:21
  Speaker 5: Hmm.
• 21:22
  Speaker 5: Um, that really is just like you, the I'm thinking be faithful for in this situation and this is because the face they put on their game face in public[inaudible] at time when
• 21:39
  Speaker 7: yeah,
• 21:42
  Speaker 5: your child's friends, parents drop your child back off at your house and they go, Oh my God, so and so is the greatest kid.
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: And you're like, you're talking about my kid.
• 21:53
  Speaker 5: Like that type of situation when they have the game face on in BubbleQ, man, it's fun.
• 22:00
  Speaker 5: I like, that's really what we all want anyway.
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: But it also shows that what you're seeing, that's not what everybody else is saying is they're trying so hard to be the way they should be in public, that they gotta have somewhere to let it out.
• 22:14
  Speaker 5: And unfortunately that comes out at home and it's, you can almost schedule, not scheduled but set up.
• 22:23
  Speaker 5: Okay, we're just going to blow all that out right here and then we'll be back to normal and treat it that way.
• 22:28
  Speaker 5: But the fact that they're fine in public, that's really our bottom line.
• 22:31
  Speaker 5: It'd be terrible if they're really good kids at home.
• 22:33
  Speaker 5: I work with these and they're a lot worse.
• 22:35
  Speaker 5: It's a lot worse situation.
• 22:37
  Speaker 5: Really awesome at home.
• 22:38
  Speaker 5: Really awesome with the parents and then just her buckets.
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: That's my family's though, right?
• 22:45
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 22:45
  Speaker 5: There's not one description, but in this, uh, yeah, and this 17 year olds situation that they've got the public, they know how to handle themselves in society.
• 22:58
  Speaker 5: They don't know how to handle themselves at home.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: I remember daddy used to go on you at like he, he'd say the girl's name.
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: Cause when I was around, so-and-so says that act a certain way.
• 23:09
  Speaker 5: [inaudible] and then we understand now that you would, because you pick up whoever you are hanging around and you start acting like them.
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: So um, that, that, that's one thing.
• 23:19
  Speaker 5: But the uh, the girl that we were just speaking of, she needs some, she's an obsessive type personality.
• 23:27
  Speaker 5: She needs to be obsessed at something.
• 23:30
  Speaker 5: She needs a hobby.
• 23:30
  Speaker 5: She needs something that is just her idea because she, in description, if Casey wasn't obsessed about work, obsessed about helping people, obsessed about fixing herself and every area that she feels deficient, if she wasn't obsessed with that stuff, she would act.
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: I was, I would need many SSRI.
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: I'm being addicted to Xanax and alcohol.
• 23:56
  Speaker 5: So there's some type personalities that act ultra lazy and procrastinating and everything, but it's only because they're not focused in active on something.
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: Hell yeah.
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: [inaudible]
• 24:08
  Speaker 5: it'd be sports, man.
• 24:09
  Speaker 5: Gosh.
• 24:09
  Speaker 5: Now a lot of be Mike of money.
• 24:10
  Speaker 5: Usually obsessive type personalities are best by getting rewarded by money.
• 24:15
  Speaker 5: So
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: let them gain baby.
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: There's ways to make money gaming.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: Now we've got some comments here.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: We get Sabrina what up mom here of my own and we have full custody of my stepson who will be the death of may.
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: Cancel, cancel, clear, clear.
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: While Jesus, he's 11 and little smart ass without knowing it cries and Christ and Christ hope this is a safe place, but he's not a tough guy at all.
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: He's scared of everything.
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: That's why.
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: And and crying is their way of punishing you man.
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: I think we can all agree.
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: I mean like do, I can't hit you but please don't tell him that boys don't cry.
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: Yeah,
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: I have to correct you.
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: Sometimes when we say stop, stop crying.
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: All you do is cry and all that stuff.
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: Cause I want my son and my boys to know that crying is very okay.
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: Uh, however we would just prefer you use it when you are hurt and sad or frustrated maybe.
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah ma'am.
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: Not use it as a tool, but yeah, he cries and the dead that use a smart ass.
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: He's a smart ass.
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 25:34
  Speaker 7: Hmm.
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: Smart ass
• 25:37
  Speaker 5: just chose it.
• 25:39
  Speaker 5: As I'm sitting here pause and thinking about it.
• 25:41
  Speaker 5: It's, I mean, we both are very familiar with being step parents and it's
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: just a tough situation.
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: She's had custody though.
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: This kid doesn't, doesn't matter.
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: I mean custody, that's legal, you know.
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: Well is it a mirror?
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: He may probably be in this morning.
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: No, it's just,
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: Oh, okay.
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: I got you.
• 26:07
  Speaker 5: Kids miss treating as teacher at school, but his teacher's also has legal mother.
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: Like it's an not, it's a weird situation because he doesn't see her as illegal as a
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: biological mother.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: He doesn't say Sabrina is above.
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: And even if he didn't know that she's not his mom, which I think in this situation he does.
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 26:30
  Speaker 5: Um, there's that, uh, it just about anybody has a relationship with their parents knows that there's such an emotional attachment deeper than a piece of paper that says we have the same last name.
• 26:40
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 26:41
  Speaker 5: Um, I adopted my oldest daughter so I can understand that.
• 26:47
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 26:47
  Speaker 5: And then Casey became the mother of my youngest daughter when she was three.
• 26:54
  Speaker 5: So we've kind of both gone through the raising someone else's kid and being mistreated by them.
• 27:01
  Speaker 5: Um, Casey's got some pretty good stories about my oldest daughter would sneak in and cut her bra straps and just do mean stuff to her.
• 27:12
  Speaker 5: Oh man.
• 27:13
  Speaker 5: Remember, I understand what you're not moving.
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: They get out of my family.
• 27:16
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 27:17
  Speaker 5: And that's, and my family out and all this kind of stuff and I mean we've been divorced a while, you know.
• 27:23
  Speaker 5: Um, so that, that's a tough situation.
• 27:26
  Speaker 5: But 11 year old acting like that.
• 27:28
  Speaker 5: Uh, man,
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: it's sad.
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: He's a truck is in trouble there.
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: Did you get after it?
• 27:34
  Speaker 5: Man?
• 27:34
  Speaker 5: I I'd get after his ass big time.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: So hope you discipline Sabrina.
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: She's Texas girl, but I'm pretty sure she does.
• 27:41
  Speaker 5: That's a fun.
• 27:43
  Speaker 5: It'll take less discipline.
• 27:44
  Speaker 5: That fits pretty aggressive to begin with.
• 27:48
  Speaker 5: A restriction
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: fuck restriction.
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: Come on.
• 27:51
  Speaker 5: No, this is going to be kind of, you get in an argument and you win that argue.
• 27:56
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 27:57
  Speaker 5: If anything, if it gets out of hand, then that's where the body, yeah, Bobby comes in and flips them upside down flips or ups or whatever.
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: The Zuora, you know, my dad, he threw a fucking computer into the wall when I didn't get off of it and time into the wall and the sheet rock
• 28:14
  Speaker 7: [inaudible]
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: many, come on.
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: You need to go.
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: Have they seen you flip your shit?
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: Zuora, I'd rather have my kids trust up at home and ask us if they can trust you.
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: It's like, yup.
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: So where I'm with you, that's what I do with my dad.
• 28:29
  Speaker 5: It's tough too because see, I, you know,
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: I don't want to get hammered with them or anything.
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: I just,
• 28:33
  Speaker 5: no, it's just education.
• 28:34
  Speaker 5: It's got gotta be a very educated scenario.
• 28:38
  Speaker 5: Very educated.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: Um,
• 28:42
  Speaker 5: yes, we're doing this for education.
• 28:43
  Speaker 5: We're not partying together cause I didn't, you should never seem like you want a party where your kids, even if you did, even if you do, don't act like you do.
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: I'm not going to party with them.
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: Amber said.
• 28:57
  Speaker 7: Okay.
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: Um, no he's not.
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: He's just insecure about being the big brother and not athletic, no friends was but super athletic.
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: So I would say, uh, what does he like to do?
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: How can she connect to him to where he gets that attention?
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: It's fun.
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: It's fun, you know, encourage him to find something that he enjoys doing, you know, that's comparable to athletics.
• 29:18
  Speaker 5: You
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: and then you give them attention on that.
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: If it's frickin gaming, if it's um, you know, legged go to Lego land or Goshen, I don't know what kids, what,
• 29:26
  Speaker 5: yeah.
• 29:26
  Speaker 5: And everybody, well not everybody, but a lot of people think so.
• 29:30
  Speaker 5: Sports as the answer all they need to be in sports, house sports, it just the easiest thing to get someone.
• 29:37
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 29:40
  Speaker 5: Um, sports is just the easiest thing to get someone into where there's a coach or a leader or somebody that can handle it and you don't have to do it yourself, so you just drop them off and pick them up.
• 29:50
  Speaker 5: And at least they're involved in something.
• 29:51
  Speaker 5: But typically it's not something that they passionately want to do that well.
• 29:56
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 29:56
  Speaker 5: So that's gets back to,
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: he does a lot of sports abuse and it's so sad.
• 30:02
  Speaker 5: Sports should be so I didn't want to play baseball.
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: His parents forced him in it because it was good for him and I was good at it.
• 30:09
  Speaker 4: So they have him on the hell would, wouldn't you want to do something you're good at wanting to get a space camp and he couldn't because his dad, did he tell you what, why he thought or he just that they just kinda like didn't care?
• 30:20
  Speaker 5: No, it was more like if I were, if I'd told my dad I wanted to be vegan, I would like, it was like, what the hell are you talking about?
• 30:29
  Speaker 5: You don't go to space com if you have money, what's up?
• 30:33
  Speaker 5: He couldn't even understand it.
• 30:34
  Speaker 5: And so when, if I was like, okay, I must be an idiot, you know, I wanted to be an ROTC cause they flew on helicopters, but you know, no, I couldn't do that because that wasn't cool.
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: My mom said, you know, it's just like last one.
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: We don't have our kids in sports right now.
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: I'm like, are you fucking kidding me right now?
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: He's four.
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: But yeah,
• 30:54
  Speaker 5: I mean there's a thing where being good, being a good four year old, it didn't, you, you just are better at doing whatever you have learned anything to be better at for like, I want him to get a little bit of that.
• 31:07
  Speaker 5: I finally, the best results in sports team sports and everything coming after an individual sport where it's dance karate, I'm in gymnastics racing just Sarge where they're pushing themselves and they can't blame it on somebody else.
• 31:21
  Speaker 5: And then 10 years old getting into team sports, it works out pretty well for those kids.
• 31:26
  Speaker 5: So that's what I'm choosing to do with my two boys.
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: Amber said.
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: That's the thing.
• 31:30
  Speaker 4: He loves sports.
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: He wants to be by zero ability men's right Baldor too.
• 31:37
  Speaker 5: No, no.
• 31:37
  Speaker 5: And that's the thing where, um, I've, I've tried to teach kids how to hit that were like that.
• 31:42
  Speaker 5: And I mean, they could, they, they could work for ESPN sports center right now because they know every player that plays right now here, they're a huge fan of the game.
• 31:54
  Speaker 5: Well, there's things that they can do that are awesome and they get to be fans of the game.
• 32:00
  Speaker 5: But that doesn't mean they have to play the game and mud.
• 32:03
  Speaker 5: Yeah, well there's, there's two different categories you've got.
• 32:06
  Speaker 5: Like I can play the sport, I don't like watching it and I, if you asked me, we live in Atlanta.
• 32:12
  Speaker 5: If you asked me he appraise lineup right now, I mean not and, but I like, I was good at playing it.
• 32:19
  Speaker 5: And then you got people who aren't very good at playing it and they know everything and they go to every game and all that kinda stuff.
• 32:24
  Speaker 5: And so there's two different scenarios and both are needed because without the fans you wouldn't have the players players without fans.
• 32:30
  Speaker 5: So there's a huge market and a huge thing.
• 32:33
  Speaker 5: Especially now there's stuff where there's programs where you can be sports announcers or YouTube channel and your kids watch each other and it's really cool.
• 32:45
  Speaker 5: So there's some really cool things.
• 32:47
  Speaker 5: But to me, I mean y'all has to be good at the sport to be involved in the sport.
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: [inaudible] at all.
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: None of us are active fitness models.
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: I mean counselor, but you know, we didn't hot moms.
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: I'm fans of hot moms.
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: Let me see.
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: Brett said two, two little six year old persons and skip, skip always brags on her ties Tyra, because you know why there's enough, there's a couple of them
• 33:23
  Speaker 5: and Brett and Brad, there's some experts in everything.
• 33:26
  Speaker 5: We're talking[inaudible]
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: because, let me tell you, let me just, let me just tee this one up for you.
• 33:31
  Speaker 4: Skip has other kids that come in that are ties HL is kind of seven Oh yes, six.
• 33:38
  Speaker 4: Um, and he will be like, Oh my God.
• 33:41
  Speaker 4: Like Dick Dick kids.
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: She has[inaudible] hormone and like the, it will be one way.
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: The mom smileys a little baby, but he's really, this waste bullshit they've taught comes in and he's like, he can look at adults not talking about language like, Oh, how would you describe him
• 33:57
  Speaker 5: now you just go like that.
• 33:59
  Speaker 5: Wait, we work out together for about 30 minutes and then I sit there wishing that he was my only lodge, the only client for the rest of the day.
• 34:05
  Speaker 5: I can play with him
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: and Brett and Brad, look, they have social life, they have fun, they have adults and they have even party ish around.
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: They don't hide things from their kids.
• 34:16
  Speaker 4: Zuora, she's another one.
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: Their kids are so fucking cold.
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: Uh, EEG came out with us to like a, an adult outing.
• 34:24
  Speaker 4: Cool as fuck.
• 34:25
  Speaker 5: There's a big difference between being a good parent in the sense of how you should, what makes, what should make you a good parent and just being
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: the parents.
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 34:35
  Speaker 5: Well it just be, you're the boss.
• 34:37
  Speaker 5: You're the parent.
• 34:38
  Speaker 5: You had them.
• 34:38
  Speaker 5: You don't take care of them until they're 18.
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: But there's something about the parents being honest versus appropriate.
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: Do you think he should do, because I'm talking about the kids game face and the one way and playing is on him.
• 34:49
  Speaker 4: I don't know man.
• 34:50
  Speaker 4: I like those parents.
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: Like, like a Brit.
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: They're just real, they're the way they're going to be.
• 34:54
  Speaker 4: And for the kid, the kid knows right from wrong and he's just to get kids.
• 34:57
  Speaker 4: Same way with Azores kids.
• 34:59
  Speaker 4: It's just a really cool, awesome kid.
• 35:01
  Speaker 4: And they're real parents.
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: They don't really hide a lot of shit from them, so yeah, there you go.
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: Cool.
• 35:08
  Speaker 4: Good.
• 35:09
  Speaker 4: I think that's it.
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: We'll see y'all next week.
• 35:13
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 35:14
  Speaker 4: Okay, bye.
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