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EP 16: Less Is the Abundant Life, Living on Purpose (Midweek Reset) · Healthy Boundaries for Moms| Christian Life Coach

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  When you think about the abundant life, what do you picture?
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  Is it more?
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  More money?
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  More things?
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  More options?
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  What if it's not more at all?
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  What if abundance is actually found in less?
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  If you're tired of people pleasing, caring too much, and wondering why peace still feels
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  so hard to hold on to, you're in the right place.
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  Hi, I'm Lori, mom, former people pleaser, and Your Boundaries coach.
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  Here we talk about how to protect your peace, set healthier boundaries, and get clear on
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  what actually matters so that you can build a life that feels lighter, calmer, and more
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  satisfying.
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  So let's stop the chaos for a minute, moms, catch our breath, and get into this next episode.
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  Welcome back, friend, to Healthy Boundaries for Moms.
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  This is your midweek reset.
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  And I talked about this idea on the last podcast, and we really did unpack the idea of less
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  being more and what the abundant life is.
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  But I want to unpack it a little further, and I want to relate it to where we are in
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  the middle of our week, okay?
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  The first thing I want to do is read this excerpt out of Present Over Perfect, written
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  by Shauna Ningquist.
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  What I ache for these days is space, silence, stillness, Sabbath.
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  I want to clear away space and noise and things to do and things to manage.
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  I want less of everything, less stuff, less rushing, less proving and pushing, less hustle,
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  less snapping at my kids so they'll get themselves into the car faster, so we can go buy more
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  stuff that we're going to throw away.
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  Less consumption, less feeling like my mind is fragmented, and my stomach is bloated,
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  and my life is out of control.
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  And I don't know about you guys, but I hear that and I feel it.
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  That ache for less, because let's be honest, by the middle of the week, life really starts
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  to feel like that, right?
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  Too much to do, too much to manage, too much coming at you from every which way.
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  And somewhere along the way, we stop experiencing our life, and really we just start to manage
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  our lives.
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  So I want to reset that right here today, right now, and I just want you to pause for
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  a second.
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  Relax your shoulders, unclench your jaw, and just take one deep breath in, and slowly let
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  it out.
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  Because most of the time, we don't actually need more.
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  We just need a moment to come back to ourselves.
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  So Jesus says in Matthew 11, 28,
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  Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
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  Not more pressure, not more to do, rest.
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  And if you really think about it, I bet you, you really yearn for rest.
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  Because what I think we're missing in the middle of the week is we need a minute to
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  step out of all the rushing and the hurrying, the constant taking in of whatever we have
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  available.
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  And instead, we need to slow down long enough to ask, what do I actually need right now?
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  And what is my soul need in this moment?
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  What would make this day feel rich and fulfilling?
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  So step one, I want you to start there.
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  Think about it.
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  What feels like too much for you right now?
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  Not everything, just what feels heavy.
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  And step two, I want you to ask yourself, where do I need less?
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  Less rushing, less saying yes, less noise, less pressure on yourself.
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  Because you don't need more to fix this week.
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  You need less.
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  First Corinthians 14, 33 says, For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace,
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  as in all churches of the saints.
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  So if your life is chaotic, friend, I'm giving you this invitation back into peace.
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  So step three, what's one thing you can remove or say no to?
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  And to simplify for the rest of this week, I want you to look at your calendar and find
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  out how can you simplify and cut back just one.
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  And here's a simple way to think about it.
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  If you're creating less, you're also creating space for something.
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  So ask yourself, what do I actually need more of right now?
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  Is it rest?
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  Is it connection?
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  Is it quiet?
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  Is it joy?
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  Is it movement?
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  You don't actually need all of it.
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  Just pick one.
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  Because we're always waiting for the big moments, the vacation, the time off.
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  We need that break.
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  And those are great.
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  But what if you didn't have to wait for those to feel present and happy in your life?
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  What if you started building in little mini vacations into your normal everyday life right
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  here in the middle, smack dab of the week?
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  And it doesn't have to be anything big.
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  It doesn't have to be this whole planned out amazing moment.
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  Y'all, sometimes we're just needing to have a candlelit bath with quiet music, read a
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  book.
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  You could take a walk instead of just turning on Netflix and binging a whole season.
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  Let's just choose one movie and actually sit down, make popcorn, watch it with your family.
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  Or maybe you just need to grab coffee and go sit on your porch, watch the sun go down.
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  Or take your coffee to go and go for a walk.
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  This is a way better choice and is way more filling, guys, than the things that we allow
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  in our lives to get us through the week.
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  Because these moments are what make life feel rich, make it feel abundant.
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  Not the binging, not the rushing, but actually just experiencing it.
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  And Psalm 46 10, it says, be still and know that I am God.
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  So guys, stillness isn't wasted time.
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  This is where we go to reconnect with ourselves and with God and with others.
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  And less isn't deprivation.
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  Less is what makes room in your life.
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  You don't need a different life.
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  Guys, we need to just actually choose the items that we want.
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  And we need space to actually be present and feel the moment of the life that we're living
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  now.
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  So this is your reset.
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  We are going to rush less.
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  We are going to have less noise and less pressure.
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  And we're going to make one intentional choice to make the rest of your week feel better.
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  You've got this.
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  Let's finish the week with a little more space and a lot more intention.
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  Hey friend, I hope this episode helped you.
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  If so, come join us in the Healthy Boundaries for Moms Facebook group.
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  That's where we go deeper, share what's working, and support each other in real life.
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  And if you haven't already, hit follow and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts.
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  It helps more moms find this message.
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  Now friend, go say no to what's stealing your peace and say yes to something that you really
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  need.
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  And I'll meet you back here in the next episode.