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Feel Sexy Again In Bed and In Your Own Skin with Rebecca Whitman · Libido Lounge

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I have been romantically challenged up until this marriage for my whole life.
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Rebecca Whitman, the
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abundance mentor and international best selling author graduated with honors from Princeton
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University.
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She received the award of Mindset Coach of the Decade and the award Empowered Woman of the
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Year by International Association of Top Professionals.
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USA Today rated her in the top five entrepreneurs to watch in 2024.
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She's the host of the top 1% globally ranked balanced beautiful and abundant podcast that
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won the positive change award.
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Her philosophy divides life into seven pillars of abundance which includes spiritual,
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physical, emotional, romantic, mental, social and financial.
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She coaches people to achieve alignment within these seven areas so they can experience a life
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of joy and freedom.
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I had a habit of picking unavailable narcissistic men and actually using my
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sexuality to over give to get them to fall in love with me and it didn't work.
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I was an anxious attached personality type going for the emotionally avoidant trying to
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like chase them and it was just an exhausting hobby.
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For the first time in my life, talk about freedom because I've been romantically obsessed
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my whole life and the most painful area which is usually romance or finance, maybe sometimes
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health, people have a limited belief or a story that they tell over and over again.
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I think it's about true freedom is letting go of controlling the outcomes.
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Don't be perfect, be present.
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Hey, everybody.
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Welcome back to the lounge.
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I'm your host, doctor Diane, board certified sexologist, and I have a special treat for you
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today.
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I had the privilege of meeting Rebecca Whitman on her podcast recently and just loved my
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conversation with her and absolutely love what she is doing because she really has grasped so
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greatly this idea of how abundance is not just about finances.
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How it is about finances, but it's about so much more and part of having an abundant
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lifestyle is your relationship, is your intimate life, is your sex life, and all of the
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juicy things that we talk about on the show.
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So she has a real unique approach to looking at this and a real amazing way at combining all of
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these different pillars so that you can really achieve and live truly an abundant life.
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So I am just so pleased, Rebecca, that you came on to chat with me today.
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So welcome to the lounge.
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It is a pleasure to have you.
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It's so great to see you, Doctor.
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Diane.
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You were so brilliant on the Balanced Beautiful and Abundance show.
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I'm getting so many great feet, so many comments on your interview and it's a delight
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to continue talking to you.
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Same, same.
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I'm so glad it has amazing feedback and and reviews and all of that.
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And and something I guess to start with today is I love in your bio how you relate all of
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this and all of your work to kind of that achievement of freedom because that's sort of
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what I feel personally from like a value standpoint for like for me is all of these
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things really bring us to this core of what is it like to feel completely free in life.
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And that is free to have the most amazing relationship, that is free to have the best
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social life, that is free to have the best sex.
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So I'm super curious to start with your own story.
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I know you had mentioned offline that you are with your soulmate, that this is your, you
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know, second main partner in life, and I wanna hear a little bit about like that journey for
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you as well as how you began to put together these seven pillars because I think a lot of
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people when they think of abundance, they really are just focused solely on like the
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monetary, you know, side of things.
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Yeah.
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Well, I have been romantically challenged up until this marriage for my whole life.
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So a lot of people set intentions or goals in the beginning of the year around their health
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or their finances, but I always set intentions in these seven key areas, which are
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spirituality, fitness, emotions, romance, mental, social, and financial, and I find that
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they're all spokes on the same bicycle wheel.
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And because I had a habit of picking emotionally unavailable narcissistic men and
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actually using my sexuality to overgive to get them to fall in love with me, and it didn't
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work.
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I mean, maybe they would get physically addicted, but they did not fall in love with
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me, and I felt very rejected and abandoned a lot of the time.
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So I'm sure you talk about attachment theory on your show.
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I was an anxious attached personality type going for the emotionally avoidant, trying to,
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like, chase them, and it was just an exhausting hobby.
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So I decided to marry someone like that, and it was he was very sexually withdrawn and kinda,
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like, used sex as a way to feel, more powerful than me because it was more important to me
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than it was to him, so he would like hold that over me.
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And after that relationship, I was so broken emotionally.
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I was like, I don't care if I ever have a relationship or sex again.
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I just wanna be around high vibe loving people.
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And when I finally did a ninety day dating detox, I was like, I'm not gonna talk about
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men.
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I'm not gonna talk to men.
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I'm not gonna worry about it.
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For the first time in my life, talk about freedom because I've been romantically obsessed
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my whole life.
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I'm just gonna focus on launching my book, which is where I describe the seven pillars of
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book called How to Make a Six Figure Income Working Part Time, and I'm not gonna worry
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about it.
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So the weekend before I go to launch my book at a book launch party, I go to a party in a
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backyard.
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I meet my soul mate, Ben.
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He shows up the next weekend at the book launch, buys a book, asks me out, and we've
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been together ever since.
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So great.
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And I love I wanna say that I love how you were even introducing this as, like, romantically
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challenged just because I think so many times we can, like, use linguistic words to almost,
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like, self sabotage or to, like, shame ourself and that sort of thing.
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So romantically challenged, I think, is just such a it's just such a soft way of saying,
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like, hey.
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This is just an area that I need to work on.
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This is an area that is just an area where maybe it's not my strongest suit.
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It I feel like it takes, like, the shame out of that.
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Like, what do you see in, like, your work with these seven pillars?
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Like, are there, like, like, fundamental things that people, like, often sometimes do, like
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self shame or self sabotage?
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Like, what are some of the things that you find that are key things that get in the way of
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people having success in these seven pillars?
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Well, there's usually at least one or two areas where people are crushing, and there's a couple
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areas that need support.
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And in the most painful area, which is usually romance or finance, maybe sometimes health,
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people have a limited belief or a story that they tell over and over again.
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For example, me, you know, I'm great at making money, but I'm unlucky in love.
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So I kept choosing partners that didn't treat me right and or I would choose partners that
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were like lower companions that there was something that wasn't quite right about them
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that I knew going in, so I would have a exit strategy.
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So I had this limiting belief that I'm unlucky in love, and I teach my clients something
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called the four a's of transformation.
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So we all have a limiting belief, whatever it is.
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I know people who love your show are interested in having better sex and better romance.
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So it could be like me, I'm unlucky in love.
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No matter what Diane teaches me about sex, I gotta have a partner or, you know, maybe not.
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I could use a vibrator.
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No, I'm kidding.
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So the limiting belief is I'm unlucky in love.
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That's the first a, awareness.
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The second a is acceptance.
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Like you just said, no blame, no shame, no self judgment, no self criticism.
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I listen to Diane's podcast.
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I know not to shame myself, none of that if you're listening to that.
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Just accept it.
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The third a is an affirmation.
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So what is the opposite of I'm unlucky in love?
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It's like, I magically and this is in my book.
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You get 21 affirmations.
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By the way, listen to the end of the podcast.
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You guys are gonna get the book at the end.
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But one of the affirmations is I'm magically and passionately in love with my soulmate.
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I I feel love everywhere I go.
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So that would be an an example of an affirmation.
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Let's just go with I'm magically passionate and live in love with my soulmate.
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And then the opposite of I'm unlucky in love, well, you would want to be at home and alone
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and, like, just eat Netflix or watch Netflix by yourself.
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I would say the contrary action would be to go on one date a week.
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It could be a fix up, a swiping app, someone you have a crush on at work, whatever, but go
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on one coffee date a week.
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So that's an example of how to get unstuck using the four a's of transformation.
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That's amazing.
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And I'm, like, even wondering how it can apply both, like, from, like, that chronic thing
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around, like, okay.
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Well, maybe I've been saying I'm unlucky in love for, you know, twenty years.
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Right?
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But then I also think, especially when it comes to sex and performance, there's things that
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like can happen seeing acutely, right, where it's like, okay, with erectile imbalances, a
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man can't get it up, you know, one time or a woman, experiencing vaginal dryness for the
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first time in her life and she read some blog labeling it as all dried up or something
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horrible like that.
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And then all of a sudden there's that voice in the back of the head.
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Some of those things as far as like your A's with that, the four A's of transformation, do
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they change at all when it's, say, like, more of, like, an acute thing and it hasn't met Oh,
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no.
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They they work with performance anxiety.
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You know?
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Let's say the the limiting belief is I can't get it up to be blunt.
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So that would be the limiting belief.
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Accept that you have that limiting belief affirmation.
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You know, why am I so, like, potent and virile?
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Why why do I have, like, so much, like, you know, strength in my penis or whatever?
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And then the fourth a is to take a contrary action.
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If you're worried about not being able to get it up, do your best to like psych yourself up.
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I mean that that to me is a lot of performance anxiety and I know there's also supplements and
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drugs and things that can help, but you wanna get yourself feeling empowered like you
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absolutely can get it up.
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So in thinking about the four a's, I imagine there's challenges with each one of them as
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they come up.
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Right?
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And when it comes to the first one of acceptance, I think it's hard sometimes to
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accept things that maybe we need to grow in, you know, accept areas we need to grow in.
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So if we're realizing, like in your example of like, unlucky in love, in, you know, in
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accepting that, sometimes I think there can be challenges with like admitting that we're not
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perfect or self shame that comes around it and that sort of thing.
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So what advice do you have for people around?
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How do we begin to accept these things and these things we're telling us and the impact
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they have on our lives?
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How do we begin to accept it even if accepting it is hard?
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I think acceptance is the key to being happy because all we can do is the effort and I don't
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know how spiritual your listeners, but then the universe, God, whatever you wanna call it,
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nature, they are in the results business.
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So if I know that I am only responsible for the effort and I can only do the best I can do, I
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am in the effort business, God, universe, whatever you wanna call it, is in the results
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business, and I can keep learning and getting better on how I'm I'm implying the effort.
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But I think it's about true freedom is letting go of controlling the outcomes.
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And when I let go of control, that means better sex.
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That means being happier.
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I like to say I'm a recovering perfectionist.
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So what I'm doing now is I'm striving for imperfection, which I'm great at, And I also
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love the information, the affirmation, don't be perfect, be present.
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I love the
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Got it.
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When you stop
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the pressure of trying to be perfect and know that we're all just human beings, and we're all
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unique and messy and weird and we're all gonna die anyway, so let's just have fun while we're
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here.
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Yeah.
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I love that striving for imperfectionism.
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I think that's a really great frame that allows for a lot of just forgiveness and compassion
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and self care.
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Okay.
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So that was the first A, acceptance.
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The second one was what again?
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Say the second one again?
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The second A is awareness.
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Awareness.
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Yep.
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Second a is acceptance.
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And then the third was?
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Affirmation.
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And the fourth is action.
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So then the affirmation with that one, my question on that is how do you recommend people
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do affirmations?
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So many people teach affirmations online.
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And in my, you know, in my opinion, it's like one of the challenges that I think sometimes
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with affirmations is when people, you know, they close their eyes and they're just thinking
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like, I'm lucky in love.
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I'm lucky in love.
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I'm lucky in love.
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And we say it 10 times, and we're not really feeling it.
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We're not really embodying it.
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And then it's like, why does affirmation not work?
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And sometimes I think affirmations, like, so many people combine it or adult combine it with
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your fourth A of action, and that's like a really important component.
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But what do you recommend from an affirmation perspective around like, is it thinking them?
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Is it writing them?
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How do you get your mind to believe them?
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What are you recommending there?
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Well, I do recommend writing them.
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I also recommend having them on a note card, and people learn different.
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Some people learn through writing.
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Some people learn through reading.
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I really like audio affirmations and putting them in your own voice.
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And if there's an affirmation that is so outlandish, your subconscious is gonna be,
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yeah, right.
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That's never gonna happen.
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So it's good to go more general.
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So if your affirmation is I have like hot married sex five times a night with my soulmate
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and we're just obsessed with each other and texting twenty four seven, I mean, and you
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haven't had a date in ten years.
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Your subconscious is gonna be like, yeah, right.
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So I would go more general and just say that I embody love wherever I go because we actually
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attract what we are and what we're embodying and you don't wanna track through a deficit
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because if you're feeling like you need love or you need sex to be complete, then you're in a
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poverty or scarcity mindset and you're always gonna be just like, oh my god, I need this, and
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it's pushing it away.
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But if you embody love or embody sexuality, you know, you could have the sexiest, most
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confident attitude whether you have a lover or not.
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And you can also get very sensual with fabric, with food, with with scent.
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I mean, there's so many ways that you can have the affirmation like, my life is so full of
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sensuality.
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Again, that's very general.
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So what about if somebody,
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you know, in thinking about relationships, so, you know, thinking about sex and the things
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that we talk about on this show most often, I'm wondering if, like, if something is coming up
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for a couple and it's a belief and they form the, you know, the awareness of the belief and
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the belief is my wife or my husband is not interested in sex with me.
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Right?
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And that's what we need to start to reform.
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So how does somebody go about this if they're say like another person?
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Because I, you know, what you're saying around, I think you said something about like control
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earlier, like, you know, we can control ourselves.
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We can control our own thoughts actions and those sorts of things.
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So how do we work with the four a's in this scenario where it's like, oh, I have a belief
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that my partner's not interested in me.
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What do we do then?
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We become interested in ourselves and we get so happy and excited about our lives and magnetic
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that they're like, wait, you look really cute today.
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Like, because when we're happy I like what Audrey Hepburn said, happy girls are the
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prettiest.
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And we can only control what's in our own hula hoop.
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And we know that we wanna have sex, we wanna live our best lives, we wanna be happy.
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And if somebody is outside of our hula hoop and our partner has an idea that they don't wanna
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have sex, they're probably not very happy with their life anyway.
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They're probably depressed or anxious or not feeling fulfilled by their work or maybe
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they're feeling lonely for friends.
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So don't take it personally, you know?
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There's only two kinds of business, my business and none of my business.
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And if it's not in that hula hoop of things that I can control, their sexuality and what
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they do or do not want from me is none of my business, but I can control my thoughts.
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I can control showing up sensually and being sexually just vibrant.
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I don't care if it is with masturbation.
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You don't have to let your partner stop you from being happy, and maybe you will become
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more attractive to them when you become happier.
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That's what my answer is.
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Yeah.
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I love it.
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I mean, there's that, locus of control thing, right, that we talk about in psychology around
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do we have an externalized locus of control, which is reacting to the world around us and
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like, oh, well, I'm happy if, if, if, if, if, versus the internalized locus of control is
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like, I make myself happy and here are the ways that I do that.
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Right?
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So I think that's some of what you're speaking to.
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What about though, you can just take it back to your four a's.
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So I hear you on like, okay, well internalize that locus of control, put that happiness in.
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Now if somebody's realizing like that, they had that affirmation of like my wife is not
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interested in me, how would they Well
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that's not an affirmation, that's a limiting belief.
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Okay, that's good.
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That's a good thing to differentiate.
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So I guess that's the, see what I mean?
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It's the belief and the awareness of the belief.
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Right.
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So how would they, my question is then, how would they take that belief and limiting belief
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and while they're internalizing the locus of control and we're talking about just saying, I
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don't know, it's practical for people, right?
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Because you talked about, okay, we wanna make these things, maybe like some of these
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affirmations, less specific and broader to include more capacity, your example around
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love.
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So if we have this awareness, we're gonna turn this locus of control inside.
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We're gonna say I'm gonna focus on me, but I have this limiting belief.
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What am I gonna do from what would somebody do from an affirmation standpoint with that sort
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of limiting belief to turn that into a more positive affirmation?
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Like what affirmation as an example would they be Right.
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There that still be true and like you said, believable.
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Right?
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Because I think that's a challenge to take because that's how to make it believable.
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Right?
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It's a tough question.
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First of all, there's the three c's.
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You didn't cause your wife to be not sexually interested in you.
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You can't cure it, and you can't control it.
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Yeah.
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Those are good.
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Mhmm.
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So take that pressure off yourself.
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So the affirmation, you can't control in somebody else's reality.
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That doesn't work.
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Affirmations are only about your personal viewpoint and your approach.
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So I would say the affirmation is I am irresistibly sexy.
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Yeah.
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Yep.
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I love it.
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You know, anything you say after I am shows up and chases you down.
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So I'm irresistibly sexy.
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I am I am so hot.
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Like, why is, why are so many people smiling at me today?
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I mean, just pop yourself up because you're really powerless over somebody's, lack of
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desire for you, but you can feel desirable yourself.
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Again, it goes back to what I was saying, doctor Diane, of don't come from a scarcity of
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I need my wife to want to have sex with me to be happy.
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Embody somebody who is hot and handsome and sexy.
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Yeah.
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So we can probably apply the same thing.
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Was just trying to make it practical for our listeners and thinking about common, you know,
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problems that come up.
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And so we can probably apply the same thing, for example, if somebody has erectile
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imbalances, right, if they're having hard time maintaining an erection or those kind of
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things, we can probably say same thing, like, okay, well we could change that if like there's
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a awareness around like, oh, this thing is happening.
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I don't like it.
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Then we can change that to say, you know, work on the similar type affirmation of I am
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irresistibly sexy.
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Right?
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That could be applied, pieces like that.
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In your your book, and I know you're an amazing gift for our listeners here when we wrap up
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today, but in your book and in your work and how you give people affirmations, do you have a
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process that you take people through of how to best like create them for themselves?
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Is there a process around that?
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There is.
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I use three prompts.
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I am I have I am able to just as a basis of affirmations and then I have them look at all
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seven pillars of abundance, ask themselves what do I wanna experience in this area?
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What is the limiting belief that's blocking me?
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And then the affirmation is usually worded in the opposite of the limiting belief or in what
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they want to experience.
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And then it's I am, I have, I am able to.
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So like I said, I'm gifting you guys with a few things.
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One of them is the digital copy of my book.
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You'll get 21 customized affirmations, three for each pillar of abundance.
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Well, not customized because they're in the book, but you'll get 21 affirmations and you'll
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see my, signature format, I am, I have, and I am able to.
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So then how many of these, because in like thinking about these seven pillars, right, it's
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like there's a lot that people have to work with, you know, all at once times.
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And, you know, I do believe personally in the idea of, like, we have multiple different
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pillars that we work on, and it's almost like cross training.
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Right?
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So, you know, we are working on improving our brain over here.
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We're working on improving our health over prayer.
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We're working on improving our, relationship over here.
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And all of them intertwine.
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That being said, I also know in my work and I imagine in yours too that sometimes it's like,
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oh my goodness, there's so much to, work on, and we get, like, the analysis by paralysis
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thing that happens where there's, like, so much and then it's like, I throw in the towel, and
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it's like, I don't work on any.
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So how what have you seen in, the, you know, the people that you have mentored and coached?
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Like, do you tend to work on all seven pillars simultaneously?
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Do you
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tend to say let's pick one or two?
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Like, how do people best work with this process and like say, okay, well this is applicable,
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yes, in their sex life, but also in all these other areas at once.
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How how do you really help them to work with it in a way where they're addressing all the
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things but not becoming overwhelmed by them?
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I like to go at the pace of one pillar a month and just have a lot of awareness around that
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pillar.
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So I have a group mastermind called the Magnetic Woman Mastermind, and we start with
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spirituality and then we work our way through all seven pillars.
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And you can jump into this mastermind at any point because it's revolving and we each each
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group is a specific to one pillar.
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So you don't miss anything.
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You just follow-up with the other pillars that you missed at a later time.
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But, yes, I think one pillar a month to really do a deep dive and listen to podcasts and just
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deepen whatever practices or overcome any limiting beliefs in that area is the best way
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to go and not get overwhelmed.
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Yeah.
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That's helpful.
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That's helpful.
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And my personal feeling for people is, like, start with either which one you're like, this
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is the one that's, like, you know, making me the most frustrated in my life, or start with
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the one that you're just like, wow.
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This is the one that's gonna bring me the most joy to change so I can get a quick win and and
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continue on.
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Would you say the same as far as where to start, or how do you guide people there?
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What helped me, like I said at the beginning of the interview, I was romantically challenged.
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I had a coach, and he said, well, which of the seven pillars are you crushing it in?
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I was like, financial, and it was a sales job, an all commission sales job.
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And he said, well, what is your attitude when somebody don't doesn't buy your product?
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I'm like, oh, well, they're lost.
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And he's like, can you take your confidence and your posture and your attitude from your
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financial pillar and bring it to your love life and not get into, oh my god, fight or flight if
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somebody doesn't respond to my text and just be like, oh, well, they're lost.
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So I think if you look at the seven pillars, again, there's spiritual, physical, emotional,
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romantic, mental, social, and financial, and you look at an area where you are crushing it,
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and you apply the same principles to an area where you're needing support, you will be able
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to go to the next level.
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I love that, taking success from one area of life and applying it to another.
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And I think, you know, I think that's a great thing that happens when we are confident in an
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area is it does send the brain a signal that says, I can be successful.
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And so if we continue to remind that our brain that and our body that ourselves that, it
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continues to allow the body to have the motivation to continue.
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So I think that's absolutely beautiful.
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What if we not said we're gonna tell people how to get your your amazing giveaway, which is
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your Balanced Beautiful bundle here in a moment, and what includes is a really stacked
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full gift that Rebecca's giving us everybody.
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So we're gonna talk about it in a moment.
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But before we do, is there anything else in this conversation that we have not said today
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that you're like, we have to say?
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I will tell you this.
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I have to schedule things, not necessarily schedule sex, but I have an awareness that I
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wanna have one intimate interlude, at least one a week with my husband.
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And I also give myself forgiveness because this week I did not get to do it because I had some
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paperwork and things that I was getting together.
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But at the same time, I'm aware.
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I'm like, okay, I missed a week.
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So I really wanna make sure that this week, I have the romantic interlude with my husband.
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And I do that with the social pillar.
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I wanna have at least one coffee or lunch date with a friend, and I do that with spirituality.
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I have a morning practice that involves this abundance journal that has completely changed
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my life, which you guys are about to get in the gift that we're gonna talk about.
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But yes, I say to have this framework to know like time blocking, which things do you wanna
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do every day, which for me are spirituality and fitness, which things do you wanna do once a
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week, but they all are connected and form each other.
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Yeah.
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And super perfect and so actionable for people.
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So thank you so much for that and tell us about your bundle.
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Yeah.
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So it's called the Balanced Beautiful Bundle.
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I met a woman when I was 19.
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I was at a 12 step meeting and she gave me some life changing journal prompts.
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Her name was Janet.
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I never saw her again, but every day for thirty six years, I've been answering the same journal
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prompts, and it has really taken my negative, self critical, perfectionistic thinking to be
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positive and abundance minded and growth minded.
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So I'm gonna give you guys, this this abundance journal.
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I'm gonna give you guys a digital copy of my book which describes all seven pillars
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including 21 affirmations, how to make a 6 figure income, working part time.
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You're gonna get ageless beauty tips, which work for men or women, so we can all be ageless
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and beautiful and handsome.
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And you're also gonna get the elegant warrior manifesto, which is basically a very empowering
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poem on how to live life to be empowered and to embody love and sexuality and to not get caught
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up in what other people are doing or not doing.
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That is so generous.
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I know I'm gonna get my copy of my bundle as soon as we get off this show, so I hope you
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guys will all download that as well.
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And then tell us a little bit about, like, your mentorship and what it's like working with you.
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Sure.
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So I have the Magnetic Woman Mastermind, like I mentioned, where each month we do a deep dive
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into one of the seven pillars of abundance, and I give you tips, tools, and strategies to get
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that area of your life to a level 10 or above.
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Even if you're crushing it, you can always do better.
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I also do one on one coaching, very limited right now.
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I'm pretty full with one on ones, but I am offering a wait list for one on one clients.
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And in the one on one coaching, I have a couple different programs.
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One is called manifest your soulmate in midlife.
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I have seven pillars of attraction on exactly what I did to manifest my soulmate.
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And I also have create your 6 figure side hustle for people who feel stuck in a dead end
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job and wanna start expanding their selves and take their passion to a profitable side
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business.
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So those are some of the different ways that I work with people.
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Okay.
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Perfect.
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And we're gonna have that in the show net as far as links you guys of how to work with
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Rebecca, her book, her giveaways, and so much more.
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So make sure you check all of that out, and I hope you will all apply the seven pillars to
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your life.
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Apply the four a's to your life, to your sex life, to your intimacy with especially with
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yourself.
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Remember the three c's like Rebecca talked about, and remember that you are in control of
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your own life.
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And I look forward to seeing you all on another episode of the Lounge soon.
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