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Episode 49: Aligning with Your True Path for Joy With Charlotte Pridmore · Heal Yourself Podcast

• 0:03
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Heal Yourself Podcast, where we dive deep into all things healing.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Denise, a speech-language pathologist and a self-love coach for adults and teens.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm Kira, a traditional naturopath and functional nutritionist, and we are here to guide you through the transformative process of healing your body, mind and soul.
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  Speaker 1: From the latest in functional medicine to nurturing your relationship with yourself, healing trauma and even transforming your money story.
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  Speaker 1: We're here to empower you with the knowledge and tools to create lasting change.
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  Speaker 2: So, whether you're looking to heal physically, emotionally or spiritually, join us as we explore the many paths to wholeness and wellness.
• 0:54
  Speaker 3: Hello everyone, welcome back to another episode of Heal Yourself Podcast.
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  Speaker 3: It is Kira today, and I am joined by special guest Charlotte Pridmore, who I'm really excited to chat with.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to introduce her to you guys and then I'm going to have her tell us a little bit more about herself.
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  Speaker 3: So Charlotte is a self-mastery coach and human design expert, obsessed with the internal journey of the entrepreneurial woman with a vision.
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  Speaker 3: She works from three directions mental, emotional and the energetic, all of which create the action that we take, which produces the results we desire.
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  Speaker 3: You guys should know that she has a one foot on the ground, one foot in the universe approach and essentially wants to help women make it happen whatever it is for them.
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  Speaker 2: So, charlotte, welcome to the podcast well done for the podcast.
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  Speaker 3: Tell us a little bit about yourself besides the bio.
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  Speaker 3: You know everyone's got the bio, but it's like how did you get into this journey?
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  Speaker 4: okay, the the short version, because we really haven't the short version is um, I'm well, I'm 46, I'm married.
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  Speaker 4: I have two sons, 12 and nearly 18.
• 2:01
  Speaker 4: I worked corporate all my early 20s.
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  Speaker 4: I moved to London when I was 19, lived there for 10 years, got the relationship, the house, the job, and then had my son and then left my uh, his father, six months after having him moved back home, which is near Sherwood Forest in Nottinghamshire, moved back in with my mum and dad at 30, um, I had to start life again.
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  Speaker 4: So I was in a very, very low place at that time.
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  Speaker 4: Um, I just had a baby.
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  Speaker 4: I was massively overweight, um, and I just thought, god, this can't be it.
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  Speaker 4: Like I cannot believe I'm here.
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  Speaker 4: And so, from 30, you know, the last 16 years have been a journey of evolution and growth and business.
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  Speaker 4: And I started my own business, um, when I was, yeah, about 2012, and that just introduced me to personal growth and I just got obsessed with it and I just thought, and I all the people I was listening to and it was inspiring me and you know I was growing from.
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  Speaker 4: I was just like I want to be one of those.
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  Speaker 4: Like, how do I do that?
• 3:04
  Speaker 4: Like I want to do that, how do.
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  Speaker 4: I do that, so that's it's just been an exploration from there and done NLP and timeline therapy and rapid emotional release therapy and loads of different modalities, and my belief is I'm human design now and obviously but my belief is is that there is no one modality that fits all, suits all and sometimes it well.
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  Speaker 4: It has to be a very unique breadcrumb that you follow that feels good to you on your healing journey.
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  Speaker 3: That's why yeah, I'm with you and I sound like you.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like I have this modality.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a hypnotherapist, I do some.
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  Speaker 3: German medicines.
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  Speaker 3: But yeah, you get obsessed and you get on your own healing journey and realize, gosh, this is taking me somewhere and this is taking me somewhere.
• 3:51
  Speaker 3: And one of the things Denise and I have basically said on every episode is healing is a journey and it's ongoing, like there's not a final destination and thank God.
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  Speaker 4: Right and thank god, right, like I don't want it to end.
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  Speaker 2: yes, I, I'm obsessed with aha moments I adore like reading something going.
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  Speaker 4: Oh my god, like I I have them on a weekly date, sometimes daily basis, and I hope that never ends, because the that, that feeling of expansion and growth, I, I love that.
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  Speaker 4: Like like that's what makes me feel alive.
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  Speaker 4: So I think, yeah, keep it coming.
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  Speaker 4: I was talking to my son on the way home from school just now and he was saying like when I'm old, I want to be on one of them.
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  Speaker 4: It's like a mobility scooter going past and I was like when you're 50, I'll be 95.
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  Speaker 4: And he was like you had me too late.
• 4:42
  Speaker 4: Why did you have me too late?
• 4:43
  Speaker 4: I was like, don't worry, I fully plan on living to a hundred.
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  Speaker 4: I hope on my dying day I am still reading a book or listening to a podcast and having a growth moment.
• 4:53
  Speaker 4: I hope that.
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  Speaker 3: And that's such a lovely way of looking at it, because I think so many get focused on that destination which doesn't even exist.
• 5:02
  Speaker 3: And I know physical healing is slightly different, right, no one enjoys being chronically ill or dealing with ongoing symptoms, but there are still lessons in there.
• 5:12
  Speaker 3: There are still moments where you can go aha, I learned something about myself, and I fully believe that every aspect of healing, there is growth we have to look for for the lessons, but we get so focused on.
• 5:26
  Speaker 4: I'm miserable, I hate this and that's it, yeah um, really something that just came to mind then was, um, I lost a really good friend of mine, um, about seven years ago now, to breast cancer.
• 5:38
  Speaker 4: She was only 40 and, um, my absolute connection to gratitude, that's the gift losing her gave me.
• 5:47
  Speaker 4: And you know, there's a story that I won't tell because I can't tell it without crying, but the highlight of it was that she was literally talking about how grateful she was for every breath and we were just in a pub garden and she was talking and she was breathing in and out and just saying this this is what life is like.
• 6:02
  Speaker 4: And I was just in, she was breathing in and out and just saying this this is what life is like.
• 6:05
  Speaker 4: And I was just in awe of her in that moment and and the the terrible grief I felt because I've never lost anybody.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't have any grandparents because they were all there before I was born.
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  Speaker 4: So I'd never experienced grief really at all, apart from an animal, and it really really affected me.
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  Speaker 4: But but the thing that came out of it when people say you know, how can you take something out and I was like she taught me gratitude.
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  Speaker 4: Like I never take anything for granted, I I really do hone in on the little things, like the, you know, feeling my son's cheek or or just getting up in the sun, being out like and it's it never left me, you know.
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  Speaker 4: So I think those you know, in our pain and our discomfort and our, there is always something to find that we can take from it, you know talking about healing from IBS or endometriosis and I'm like but what are you grateful for?
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  Speaker 3: they're like what?
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  Speaker 4: but gratitude changes your energy, changes your vibration and where energy goes, energy flows right and sometimes it can be really annoying for somebody to say it can, it can, and I understand how annoying that can be.
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  Speaker 4: In fact, I'm just saying it to somebody.
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  Speaker 4: Today I was like I know, I know it's easy for me to say, but like, try not to worry too much until you know what the result is.
• 7:27
  Speaker 3: There's some medical issue going on, um, but it's annoyingly true it is it is, and it's such an easy one to do, but people don't understand what gratitude is.
• 7:38
  Speaker 3: So for a long time I would hear gratitude, gratitude, journaling.
• 7:42
  Speaker 3: So you know, I'd get out my journal I'm thankful for, for the day, I'm thankful for this, but it didn't mean anything.
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  Speaker 3: It was going through the motions.
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  Speaker 3: Gratitude is something that should really evoke emotion.
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  Speaker 3: If you don't feel something deeply for it, that's not gratitude, that's just you doing it.
• 7:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's um.
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  Speaker 4: It's a bit like when I talk about human design with people.
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  Speaker 4: I say you can't just know it.
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  Speaker 4: It's not something that you just hear write down and go oh, I'm this.
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  Speaker 4: You've got to understand what that means.
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  Speaker 4: Like how does that feel in your body?
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  Speaker 4: And it's exactly the same thing.
• 8:12
  Speaker 4: You're exactly right.
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  Speaker 4: I mean I've got millions of facts right next to me here.
• 8:18
  Speaker 4: Um, you know, I've got loads of them, but you're right, I was like, oh yeah, I'm grateful, this I'm grateful that it's just like.
• 8:24
  Speaker 4: It's a waste of time if you don't feel it, so now I don't do that.
• 8:28
  Speaker 4: Actually I don't do journals anymore.
• 8:30
  Speaker 3: Just go through my day and feel into what I can feel grateful for yeah, let's turn this to human design a little bit, because no one's spoken about on the podcast.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like it was all the rage and some people know what it is and some don't.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm the person that you were speaking of.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like I'm a two, four generator.
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  Speaker 3: Do I know what that means?
• 8:49
  Speaker 3: No, haven't dug into it at all.
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  Speaker 3: So for those that are like, what the hell is human design?
• 8:56
  Speaker 3: What is human design in a nutshell?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, human design is essentially the science of your aura, is essentially the science of your aura which sounds super woo-woo and a little bit nuts, and I would agree with you, right, I, I was.
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  Speaker 4: I, as I was saying, I was a reluctant person to human design.
• 9:13
  Speaker 4: It piqued my interest because I quite like weird things.
• 9:16
  Speaker 4: Um, and somebody said something to me.
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  Speaker 4: I was like, oh, that's a bit like me.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not into horoscopes really.
• 9:22
  Speaker 4: I'm not into astrology really, apart from the part of that that's.
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  Speaker 4: You know, human design isn't astrology, but there are astrological parts to it, so I sort of very reluctantly got into it.
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  Speaker 4: Um, so what it basically means is how you're designed to.
• 9:36
  Speaker 4: Your energy is designed to show up in the world.
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  Speaker 4: So when you look at a chart of human design, on the right side it has your personality side and on the left side it has your design side.
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  Speaker 4: Your personality side, when somebody does your reading, will be the part that you recognize.
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  Speaker 4: So you go oh yeah, that's me.
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  Speaker 4: So when somebody says what star sign you're on, you go oh yeah, I'm a scorpio.
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  Speaker 4: That means I'm a bit reddit.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I'm a bit fiery.
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  Speaker 4: I get it.
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  Speaker 4: It's a bit like that, like you'll go oh yeah, that bit sounds a bit like me.
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  Speaker 4: But the design side you won't recognize and the reason that I didn't get into human design immediately and was just like, yes, I'm in is a, that's not the type of person I am, but b?
• 10:08
  Speaker 4: I didn't recognize myself and it was just like this is who you are.
• 10:12
  Speaker 4: And I'm just like, no, it's not, that's not me at all.
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  Speaker 4: But I kept getting pulled back to it.
• 10:18
  Speaker 4: And then I did a course here and a course there and I read some books and blah, blah, blah as do, because I'm a 4-1 and the one energy is very much thirst for knowledge, constant need for things to learn and research, and so I just started playing with it, like it really is an experiment.
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  Speaker 4: So when somebody says you're a generator, so you're a generator, I'm a generator too.
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  Speaker 4: In fact, we're 46% of the population.
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  Speaker 4: A generator just means that you are designed to do life through what lights you up, like.
• 10:48
  Speaker 4: If it doesn't light you up, it's not for you and there's no gray area.
• 10:52
  Speaker 4: It's either a hell yes or a hell no, and what happens is is that our mind talks us into things that we think we should because it looks good on paper.
• 11:04
  Speaker 4: So what human design is is learning how to feel the end you know, feel what's right for you in your body and take less notice of what your head's saying.
• 11:14
  Speaker 4: Basically, that's it, and your chart tells you how your energy flows within your body, how you're designed to use it personally, professionally, um, like, like.
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  Speaker 4: There's one type, like the projectors in human design.
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  Speaker 4: Projectors aren't designed to go, go, go, go go.
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  Speaker 4: They haven't got.
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  Speaker 4: We call it sacral energy, so generators have something called sacral energy and in your centers, in your human design.
• 11:41
  Speaker 4: So if you're familiar with chakras, it looks a little bit like that, but there's nine areas instead of the ones just up and down.
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  Speaker 4: So when you look at your centers, they're either full up, colored in or they're not colored in.
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  Speaker 4: If they're colored in, it means you have consistent access to that.
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  Speaker 4: So, as a generator, you have consistent access to sacral energy, which just means it's like a duracell, it's like a battery pack.
• 12:03
  Speaker 4: We have the energy.
• 12:05
  Speaker 4: We're like the workers, the grinders, right so true, it doesn't mean we should.
• 12:10
  Speaker 4: So generators historic, you know, generationally have people pleasing um, they, uh, they do for other people.
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  Speaker 4: They are the workhorses.
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  Speaker 4: We can just keep going, but we can only really keep going if we're plugged into something that lights us up.
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  Speaker 4: But what we do is we people please.
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  Speaker 4: So we spend too much time doing for other people, or too much time doing what we think we should do and very little time doing what we actually want to do, and therefore we feel drained of energy.
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  Speaker 4: So if you think about the perfect analogy to describe it, imagine an electric car.
• 12:46
  Speaker 4: An electric car is plugged into a charger and when it's plugged into the charger, it feeds the energy.
• 12:52
  Speaker 4: So in this case of a generator or a manifesting generator, when you're plugged into something that you love, it gives you energy.
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  Speaker 4: Therefore you can keep going.
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  Speaker 4: If you were to plug that same car into a tree, you would have energy for a while and then it would start to diminish.
• 13:03
  Speaker 4: But if you keep going, you were to plug that same car into a tree, you would have energy for a while and then it would start to diminish, but if you keep going, you end up burnt out.
• 13:10
  Speaker 4: And so that's basically it.
• 13:11
  Speaker 4: So each type has an energy type, how you're designed to use your energy in your life, in your business, and it goes very deep which we haven't got time for.
• 13:21
  Speaker 4: But essentially all you need to know essentially when you're first looking at human design is what's your energy type and how are you designed to use it.
• 13:27
  Speaker 4: And that's all actually you need to know in the beginning and it's all you need to start playing with, because the rest of it is pointless if you're not doing that bit yeah, so people get very overwhelmed.
• 13:41
  Speaker 4: It's a lot of information it is is a lot.
• 13:44
  Speaker 4: There's a lot out there, but you know, I think this ties into health and that's what I want people to recognize too Hugely because imagine if you are a projector, for example, you don't have and you have an illness that makes you feel very tired and yet you're still trying to operate in the way that everybody else does.
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  Speaker 4: So projectors are, you know, a minority, so they're surrounded by sacral beings surrounded by.
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  Speaker 4: We're not conditioned in the universe, in the world, to be a projector, so projectors feel they lean very much into sheds.
• 14:17
  Speaker 4: So if you are have an illness that sort of depletes your energy, you, more than anyone else on the planet, needs to protect it like it's the, the holy grail.
• 14:28
  Speaker 4: Your energy is like priceless, it's like gold dust, and it doesn't mean you don't have any, it just means when you've got it it's really efficient.
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: So it's about it's.
• 14:39
  Speaker 4: I mean, I say to all projectors intentional rest is your action, like you know it's it's, and and I you know you'll triple your output if you rest more.
• 14:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, which I always tell people.
• 14:55
  Speaker 3: Rest is one of the most productive things you can do, especially when you're dealing with health issues absolutely 100 well, and then even tying it back to a generator, for instance.
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: And for those listening that are like Absolutely 100%, that's very like that's a recipe for creating health issues.
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: If I'm doing something for other people, I'm not doing things that light me up.
• 15:26
  Speaker 3: That that's a piece of health, and I don't think people recognize it.
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: It's like, no, what supplements can I take and what diet can I do, and tell me what my labs mean?
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: But I'm like, well, where's the daily joy?
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: Where are the things that light you up?
• 15:38
  Speaker 3: What are you on this planet for?
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: What's your purpose?
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: Purpose, and if you're doing something for someone else all the time, yeah.
• 15:45
  Speaker 4: And also, what's it?
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: What's what you people have to remember as well is like if you imagine your energy is like a gold thread pulling you from your solar plexus, right, you're from your gut, and the thing that lights your energy type up and the things that are aligned for you.
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: This is about alignment, and people ban that world word around like it's, you know, everywhere, but no one really, you know, very few people understand what that actually means.
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: Alignment is tough.
• 16:09
  Speaker 4: Alignment is not flowy and cupcakes and rainbows all the time, because what alignment has to look like is saying yes to something that's for you and no to something that might affect people that you care about.
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: You know, saying I don't want.
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: You know I don't want to go to the party.
• 16:28
  Speaker 4: I don't have to give you an explanation, I just don't want to go because my energy isn't safe, and then having to go, oh, you know, deal with all that yeah, but you'll.
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: You'll like it once you get there and we'll be really fun.
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: So alignment isn't easy, because sometimes it can feel quite lonely because you're doing what's right for you and people aren't used to doing that around you.
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: Everybody's used to trying to please everybody else, because we're all trying to people please each other.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: If everyone just pleased themselves, it would be a much better planet, right?
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: But if you think about your energy as the flow and the breadcrumb of your alignment and success and whatever that means to you, so it's like following that breadcrumb and that coil that you know that that gold thread into what's right for you will show.
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: It's like the yellow brick road in the wizard of oz.
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: It's like following what feels good to you and trusting that the right, because everything is on the other side of that.
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: People are like I want this, but I'm going in this direction Instead of dropping into the body and feeling what feels right for me.
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: Is this a yes or is this a no?
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: And if it's a yes, even if that seems bonkers, even if it looks like on paper, this is perfect, but this feels better.
• 17:45
  Speaker 4: Having the courage is the right word to pick that over.
• 17:51
  Speaker 4: The good on paper option is challenging because you've got everybody else going.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's more sensible.
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: That will you know.
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: That makes more sense.
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: It might do to you yeah, but it doesn't to me how many people go into the wrong career field because their parents told them I mean.
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: The thing is, this is everybody on the planet, including me, because we're conditioned, and so in human design we look at empowerment and disempowerment.
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: So you can have a defined center, for example, but you can be super disempowered in it, and that disempowerment comes down to the conditioning.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: So each element of your human design has an empowered version and a disempowered version.
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: You know the light and the shadow, essentially, and when I looked, the thing that actually nailed human design for me was I recognized my shadow self, like she was my twin sister.
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: You know, I read all the disempowerment and I was like, oh my god, that's me, hello me in my 20s, like hello, you know, in my 30s, like I just started to recognize all this disempowerment.
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: I thought, well, if I recognize this, that must mean that the flip side is also available for me too, and that's what sort of really got me into it and and why I ended up, you know, being a reader and using it in my business, because it's like a journey back to yourself, and by yourself I mean the version of you that you were before all the shit got in the way and that's healing.
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: That's yeah.
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: Um, let's go here for a minute and see where it takes us.
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: You mentioned dropping into yourself and feeling, and this is something I tell my clients too, and they hate it.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: They really hate it.
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: What does it mean?
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: Well, and I'm like, well, what does your gut tell you?
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: What does your intuition tell you?
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: I might give you some options.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: Right, I don't just work with clients and say, well, what do you think we should do?
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: But there are moments where I'll say I feel a couple of options, but what feels right to you And're like I don't know, because we've gotten so disconnected from our bodies.
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: And I'm gonna ask you you know we didn't discuss this in advance, guys, this is totally off the cuff, but do you like?
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: How do you teach someone to learn how to get back into their body?
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: because it's a skill, it's a skill and it's a skill I didn't have, um, and it's a skill that I didn't have um, and it's a skill that I have had to learn and I still have to consciously connect to that and it's a bit okay.
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: The way I'll describe it is what I start with.
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: If I'm doing this with a client, um is I'll pick up two.
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: I'll give you two examples.
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: I don't know if anyone, if this is a podcast I'm picking up two crystals everyone for those who can't see and I'll go look at this, which one, which one?
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: Don't think which one, and I'll go that one, and then I'll just keep picking things up, I'll say which one, which one, and so that feeling of it's just that.
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: I don't have to explain it, I don't know why.
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: There doesn't have to be a reason, it's just that.
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: And when you, and even if you think about what you want for dinner or if you're getting a takeaway, which one, don't think about it, just which one, this one.
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: So it's that instant, it's the instant knowing.
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: And the thing is, I say to people, you know, every single time, you actually know, you just have, you're so used to making decisions with your mind and your head that that's where you, you go after that initial feeling, but that initial feeling is there and it's a bit like um.
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: So I have a bad knee and a bad shoulder at the moment, and so what I'm doing when I'm walking my dog is I'm focusing on the other knee.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: I'm not focusing on the knee.
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: That hurts.
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: I'm going to put my energy into the knee.
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: That doesn't hurt, because where energy goes, energy flows, and that's me connecting my mind to my knee.
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: Also, when I'm working out I think the gym is always a good example for so many things when I'm working out, I'm focusing my energy on the area of the body that I'm working.
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: I'm not anywhere else.
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: So it's about thinking of that and thinking of your body.
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: And it's not that you don't use your mind because you are connecting your mind, my body.
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: It's about just knowing that every single human being on this planet knows your body, knows just.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: Are you ignoring it?
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: Are you not not witnessing it, not giving it space?
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: It's like and I'll give you an example when you're talking or discussion with your partner, or you're having a bit of an argument with your partner, or you're having a bit of a moment with a child or whatever, and they say something and you know instantly they're either telling a fib or they're saying thank you.
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: But you know, we know, we know, and so it's just really bringing that knowingness into all of our lives, every single area.
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: Do I want an apple or a pear?
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: I want a pear.
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: It's not a think, it's an I just that's what I want.
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: So if you think in that context of like it's just what you want, without any preconceptions, any story, any judgment, any shoulds, if you took all that away and actually said what do you want?
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: And also, I think there's so much conditioning, especially with women around.
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: We're not taught to desire, we're not taught to want, we're not taught to put ourselves, so we're so conditioned to put everybody else's considerations before our own.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: And that's selflessness.
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: I hate that word.
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: I I love selfless acts of kindness.
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: I hate a woman described as selfless because to me that's just a woman who has consistently put every single person ahead of herself.
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: Um, so for me it's not a compliment.
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: Um, you know, we're so conditioned to do that that we have forgotten to want or to know what that looks like.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: When I first started my first business, which was a network marketing business, years ago, my first question always was to new members, team members I was like what do you want, and I would say nine out of 10.
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: But I, oh my God, no one's ever asked me that before.
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah god, no one's ever asked me that before.
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not selfish, it's not um greedy, it's not wrong.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: So a good question that another mentor that I work with says, if it wasn't wrong, no one would judge you and you couldn't get in trouble.
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: What would you want, um?
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: And just being able to say I want that.
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: This happens with money, it happens with what you want in your relationships, it happens in what you want just on a day-to-day basis, like just getting into the habit of feeling what you actually want and being able to voice it.
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: That is life-changing in itself.
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: It is and it's a practice.
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: That's the thing.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: It's intuition, whatever we want to call it.
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: Like you said, it's a knowing, but there's so many aspects of our lives where we could use that, you know, instead of asking for outside help, because that's the thing, it's always.
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: Well, what do I take for this and what do I do for this?
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: Yes, I want to to guide you, but what do you feel in this moment?
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: What you know, and people have stepped out of that and I'll.
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: I'll own it too, even from a business lens.
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: I've had so many different business mentors because I stopped asking myself what I wanted.
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: I stopped asking myself what felt right.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: Let me just rely on you.
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: You tell me what to do.
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: You can run my business, but they didn't know me and my desires and it's it's the same in every aspect our health relationships.
• 25:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think also from an energetic perspective, like in the past.
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: When I first started in on the online space, I was constantly I was very attracted to masculine energy women because I thought I had this thing that I didn't have, and it was just because I was quite disempowered in my masculine um, and well, I was disempowered in both, but it was just like help.
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: You know, my neediness back then was just sort of help me.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: I don't know what I'm doing like without understanding that I'm perfectly smart enough to figure it out and also to find people who are not there to, and also to find people who are not there to put themselves on a pedestal but to work with me.
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: Like that's why I'm very, you know, with my clients.
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: I'm very it's very client led.
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: I'm not.
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: I'm doing this with you.
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: This is not me sat on an ivory tower saying, oh look how great I am.
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: Like this is just like I understand.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: I'm very good at reflecting, I'm very good at connecting dots.
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: You can't see the label when you're inside the bottle, and so that's the same for me.
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: I have to have people to be able to see me in the way that you can't see yourself.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: So I think everybody needs a coach, everybody needs a mentor.
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: But this concept of I don't know you do it's just sometimes a really scary thing to say you do, because what if you're wrong?
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: But you're never wrong.
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: If you listen to yourself, it might look wrong and it might feel wrong for a bit, but ultimately it's guiding you to the end result that you're actually after.
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and then that goes back to the where your energy go, or where your attention goes.
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: Your energy flows.
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the same, like even the speaking about the business, mentors and, again, anything else.
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: If I'm solely focused on what's not going well, if I'm focused on you know, I can't run this business on my own.
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: Or, like you said, if I'm only focused on the knee, that's not working well.
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: We're just going to continue to get that yeah, and I think as well that if, like, it was so conditioned, nowadays, it's more than ever for instant gratification.
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: I mean, I I literally, at the beginning of this year, totally cancelled the thing I've been promoting for the past four months, because I got there and I thought I don't want to do this.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: I don't want to do it and this is a long thing, I'm not and I just stopped as I'm not doing it and I completely changed it and when I did that, the the clarity of what came through, what actually I was supposed to be doing, was overwhelming.
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: Like and and I've got more done in this past.
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: So it's like your energy is, if you could see it, it it needs to be, it needs to flow like water, like water will find a way.
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: Your energy will find a way if you allow it to, and when we don't, we'll go.
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: You know, go down a path like for me, canceling that thing, and like this I was earning no money and it was just like right, what am I doing?
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: I trust I trust that energetic, that energetic pull more than anything in the world.
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: I trust it.
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: But let me tell you that was November last year, just happening now I've had November.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: December and most of January in that no woman's land between decision and faith.
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: So it's not always going to happen straight away.
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: You're not going to get into gratification just because you've got into alignment.
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: It's still going to.
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: You still need some space for it to self-actualize and to manifest, if you want to use that word.
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: Um, but you know like you know, you know, you know.
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: It's that trust piece that's so hard.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: And you're right, we actually just talked about that on an episode and I use the analogy of we want to Amazon Prime our health.
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: We just want something in a day I'm like, well, that doesn't work that way for anything.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: You're not going to manifest the you know partner of your dreams tomorrow and, yes, miracles happen, but for the most part, we need to get away from that thing.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: You're not gonna manifest the you know partner of your dreams tomorrow and, yes, miracles happen, but for the most part we need to get away from that but what is a miracle like it's?
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: it's assuming that miracle means instant.
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so true.
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: It doesn't.
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: You know, miracle is, I believe, a miracle is a shift in perception.
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: You get to have a quantum leap every day in your perception if you choose that and if you're open to that and if you're willing to receive it.
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: A miracle is just, I mean, I've gone from feeling like down on the floor to ecstatically high in a moment, just from a shift in perception.
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: I think that's what a miracle is.
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be winning the lottery or getting up from the wheelchair and walking, because that's what we've been sold, but that's what a miracle is.
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: But a miracle is a shift in perception, the ability to choose joy, the ability to choose alignment, the ability to choose something that is in alignment with you in a moment-to-moment basis, and the impact of that and the compound effect of that over time.
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: There's your miracle, but it's the big miracles are created by the tiny miracles that happen step by step every day.
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: And it's not, you know, it's not as entire, you know, enticing, and it's not sexy and it's not, as you know, awe-inspiring.
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: But the truth of the matter is, is that we are human beings and, yes, we have connection to source and our spirit and our energy and those things pull us, but we are in co-creation with that.
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: That's it, and the stories that we're telling ourselves about anything in our lives is the only thing holding us back from that miracle so true, we could do a whole episode on stories and I could talk about that one all day.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: Yes, um, so I'm curious what does it look like to work with you?
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: Like if someone comes to you, who comes to you, and what do you do?
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: So I generally work with women, and this sort of happened very organically.
• 31:28
  Speaker 4: I genuinely work with 40 plus women, and the reason for that is because I think I am one for one.
• 31:35
  Speaker 4: I also think that something very magical happens at the age of late 30s, early 40s.
• 31:39
  Speaker 4: I think a woman gets to a point where she's like, oh, no one's no one.
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: No, the thing that I thought was going to happen isn't happening.
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: Maybe that's because I'm not putting myself first, maybe that's because I'm not taking the action that I need to take, and maybe the reason I'm not doing that is because of all the stories I've got from the last four decades.
• 31:59
  Speaker 4: And so I tend to work with women who know that there is something more available to them.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: They know that they are capable of more, but they just also understand.
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: They're at a point where they understand that their shit's in the way, and what I'm obsessed with is helping a woman find her tapestry, that is, the tapestry of her human being, and so we can own it, look at it, love it and move.
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: So it's my.
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: My main program is called making it happen mastery.
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: It is a eight week intensive.
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: I only do 10 spaces at a time where we just go into you, we do human design meant there's basically eight phases.
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: We go through all that, you get all that and then we implement.
• 32:50
  Speaker 4: So then you move into a group and then there's weekly accountability, there is love, there is more human design stuff, there is um and everyone's working towards it, whatever it is, and for some people that's a business, some people that's a's a book, some people it's health, wellness, balance, whatever.
• 33:07
  Speaker 4: So I'm just obsessed with that and I'm obsessed with small actions over time.
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: I'm just obsessed with my hashtag is like just today.
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: Just today, I'm going to take this little bit of action.
• 33:21
  Speaker 4: Just today I'm going to say I love you, to me, just today.
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: I'm not going to commit.
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: I'm going to take this little bit of action.
• 33:25
  Speaker 4: Just today I'm going to say I love you, to me, just today.
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: I'm not going to commit, I'm not going to overcommit to the next year, and we actually work in 90-day cycles in the program.
• 33:32
  Speaker 4: So for the next 90 days we're just todaying and then we reset every week and we bring the things that are coming to the table from all the work we've done about knowing what that looks like.
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: And then we see what.
• 33:51
  Speaker 4: Because the thing is, you can I'm obsessed with you can't just come into a program, get to know all your shit, get into a moment where you feel like you've healed it, and then you go out into the world.
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: I'm here for the world bit.
• 34:00
  Speaker 4: I want to be there for the out into the world bit.
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: I'm less interested in this.
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: I'm more interested in okay, I went to do this today and I didn't do it.
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: Okay, why?
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: Let's work through that?
• 34:11
  Speaker 4: Oh, that's why.
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: Okay, let's move tiny, tiny moments.
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: I want to be there for that.
• 34:16
  Speaker 4: That's what I'm obsessed with.
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: Because, oh my god, and this is just my own journey Like I've realized that I mean, I've been, I've been building my business since 2012.
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: I have failed so many times and got back up so many times and it's that, and I've actually come to enjoy that process.
• 34:34
  Speaker 4: It's really just understanding that that's what life is, that's what success looks like and I'm using inverted commas with the word success because you know it's defined by you.
• 34:45
  Speaker 4: But that's what I do.
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: I'm in your corner, like my definition of a coach is.
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: I am in your corner.
• 34:54
  Speaker 4: I'm there to you know, hold you accountable to your greatness to call you out on your bullshit when it's there with love and celebrate the shit out of you when you make it it yeah, whatever it is, there's so many things yeah yeah, well, how does someone find you?
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: I'm obviously I'm gonna have this in the show notes, but yes, um, oh, and I also do all the human design stuff, um readings and all the things, um, so I'm just, uh, at all.
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: Woman empowerment on instagram.
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: Um, I'm charlotte pridmore on facebook.
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: Very simple, um, I'm not going to give my website because it's currently being redone so totally fine, it is charlottepridmorecom, so it's very simple, just my namecom.
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: Um, yeah, that's it beautiful, very simple.
• 35:47
  Speaker 3: Well, thank you so much for this conversation.
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: You guys know everything will be in the show notes below.
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: Um, and, as always, leave us feedback, message us on instagram, let us know what you want us to talk about.
• 35:59
  Speaker 3: All the things amazing thanks for having me.
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: Thanks for listening.
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: All right, everyone, we'll see you on the next episode.