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The BIG DEUCE DEUCE! · Sistas IN Sync

• 0:23
  SPEAKER_05: Hey y'all, what's up, what's up, what's up?
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_05: This is your girl Ashley.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_05: What's up, y'all?
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_05: This is Diamond.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_05: And you are tuning in to yet another episode of Sisters in Sink, episode 22.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_05: We are back.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_05: Welcome, welcome in.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_05: What you gotta say, girl?
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_05: The deuce deuce.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_05: The 22.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_05: Okay.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_05: Let me find out.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_05: Listen, why you that's that's a line from the gang gang.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_05: Do you gang gang?
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_05: I mean that's why.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_05: I'm from the deuce.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_05: When you say deuce, deuce I'm talking about that.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_05: Shout out James Fox.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_05: So that's his favorite song.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_05: Yes, so we are back another week.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_05: We have a lot of things to talk about.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_05: We're gonna get into the sports world, honey, the black lesbian drama, hair culture, target, Iran, wedding venues, diarrhea, bea.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_05: But first, I would be remiss before we get into mental health check-in.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_05: I would be remiss to not congratulate my girl, my co-host of this wonderful show, Miss Diamond Benjamin.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_05: Girl, tell the people what you have achieved, Fanny.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_04: Yes, y'all.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_04: This is so exciting.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_04: So I woke up this morning to an email from Black 40 Under 40 Awards in Nashville, class of 2026, uh saying that I was nominated for uh one of the Black 40 under 40 awards.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_04: And I'm just so excited.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_04: I'm so excited.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_04: And I have no idea who nominated me, but whoever you are, I really appreciate you and I thank you for thinking so highly of me.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_04: And um, Black 40 under 40 awards, this particular organization highlights uh black, young, black um entrepreneurs, individuals who are in leadership, education, um, just black men and women who are making a change in Nashville, who are dedicated to mentorship, leadership, and creating the new era and just all things empowerment for the city of Nashville.
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_04: So I just I'm so honored, especially, you know, as a woman who's I'm not from Tennessee, but I have been in Tennessee now going on close to 15 years.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_04: And I just I feel really just honored and I'm just so excited, and I am going to make sure that I go in and um while I'm on spring break, I'm gonna go ahead and do the application because once you get nominated, there is an application process.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_04: So I am going to fill out everything, record my video because there's a um two to three minute video um that they want recorded, and I'm gonna do all of that and submit by the deadline.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_04: Um, but just to be nominated and to be thought of as someone in the community who has and who continues to empower others and lead others and be on that front line of, you know, just mentorship and making sure that the young people of the next generation are where they need to be in the greater Tennessee area.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_04: I'm just I'm super, super excited.
• 4:06
  SPEAKER_04: So I am trying to figure out, I did ask the guy like who nominated me.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_04: I would love to thank them.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_04: Um, but until I figure out who the particular individual is, whoever it is, I just thank you.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_04: Thank you so much for thinking of me.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_04: Yep.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_05: Girl, we have a change maker in the midst of the same training.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_05: And I think it's so important to, you know, not outside of just congratulating you, it is so rewarding to be in the midst of somebody that does so much, that works so hard, that gives so much back to our community, not just being the wife and the mom, but there's so much more to you in that.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_05: You're an administrator, an educator, you know, you're out there in the community, you show your face, you give back, you volunteer.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_05: So to be celebrated, to be seen, to be validated, I think that is so important.
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_05: And we are gonna keep y'all um updated every step of the way of her process, being 40 under 40.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_05: Congratulations again.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_05: I'm so proud of you.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_05: Thank you.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_05: Thank you.
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_05: That's that's that's an amazing thing.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_05: And you know, I think, you know, having the talks that we've had outside of the pod, I know this this last, the last six months have kind of been a doozy.
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_05: It's been a lot.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_05: So I think if anything, you definitely deserve that.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_05: That's kind of, I feel like that's the way of the universe giving you a kiss.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_05: Like, yes, it's you'd have been through the transition.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_05: You've questioned, like, is this where you're supposed to be?
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_05: Clearly, you're where you're supposed to be.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_04: Mm-hmm.
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_04: There is definitely feeling like that, you know, as I've expressed to the pod, and you, you know, I've just recently moved to Nashville, you know.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_04: So to live in the area now, that is a requirement to live in the area.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_04: And I just recently moved to Nashville, even though, you know, I have been serving in the community for several years as an administrator and as a teacher, uh, before becoming an administrator, just to know now that I'm, you know, working and living in the Nashville community.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_04: And I think too, and like I told Ashley too, you know, even with the creation of Sisters in Sync, like making sure that I touch on our platform as well, as being a space to um shine light on millennial women who are just living everyday lives and don't get a chance to be showcased or to be spotlighted.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_04: I think is such an amazing thing as well.
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_04: Um, we have to continue to make sure that black and brown people have those platforms.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_04: And I think Sisters in Sync is, of course, one of those platforms.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_04: So I definitely I will be name-dropping, okay, and promoting uh because what we do here, I feel like what we do on our platform and the platform of the Family Reunion Network is something that is very much needed, you know, behind is like not just the glitz and the glamour or like celebrity talk and bullshit.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_04: Like it's real, real shit, everyday life things that we talk about.
• 7:17
  SPEAKER_04: And so I want to make sure that I showcase my family, um, family reunion network, you Ashley on Sisters in Sync, and just making sure that our brand, like people know, like if they know about Diamond Benjamin, they're gonna know about our brand as well.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_04: So I'm just super, super excited.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_04: Really excited.
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_05: You know, it's team when you see no two fingers touching.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_05: Congratulations, sis.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_05: Well, since we're talking about your nominations and all that good stuff, outside of that, how are you feeling?
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_05: What has your mental health been like this last week?
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_05: Ooh, baby.
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_04: I am on spring.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_04: Yes.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_04: I am on spring break.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_04: Spring break is springing and breaking.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_04: Um, I am enjoying everything about my spring break.
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_04: I am not going anywhere.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_04: I don't have any plans.
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_04: Um, I did, you know, I did ask, you know, a couple of my co-workers who, because now I live out here, you know, they do little brunch and stuff like that.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_04: You know, I asked a few people like, hey, are y'all getting together?
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_04: Is there anything that you guys are doing over the break?
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_04: And, you know, I might do something like that, you know, this upcoming weekend.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_04: But there's just nothing major, you know.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_04: I don't have any plans.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_04: And I'm gonna tell you.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_04: I gotta invite you to my birthday dinner.
• 8:42
  SPEAKER_04: Yes, yes.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_04: You know, I just I just really wanted a break.
• 8:47
  SPEAKER_04: Like I didn't, I didn't bring my laptop home.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_04: I took everything off of my phone that was on my phone related to work.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_04: And like, I just really wanted to unplug.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_04: I wanted to enjoy the new house, enjoy the family.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_04: And so I'm in a really, really good space right now.
• 9:06
  SPEAKER_04: I feel like I've been able to really um just reignite or recharge.
• 9:15
  SPEAKER_04: That's the word.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_04: I feel like I'm recharging over this break.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_04: And I haven't even, I haven't even had anxiety of thinking about what's to come when I return to work.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_04: I'm kind of just like, bitch, whatever's there is gonna be there.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_04: And we'll think about it on the 16th.
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_04: But it's just been really good.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_04: I feel really good right now.
• 9:36
  SPEAKER_04: I'm looking at myself right now in the camera and I'm like, bitch, damn, your like eyes, like your face is glowing.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_04: Like, damn, like work, work is bad, like work and stress, y'all will really fucking like burn your ass out.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_04: Like it will.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_04: And so, um, and we'll get into this in just a second, but um, I was just thinking about national rest for black women.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_04: And I mean, just unplugging is so necessary.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_04: And I know a lot of us don't get to do that because everyone does not work in the field of education like me.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_04: And so, you know, most people are like, bitch, I don't get no spring break.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_04: Like, I only get a break if I use my PTO or whatever.
• 10:21
  SPEAKER_04: But bitch, use that PTO.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_04: Like, use it, use it, you know, do what you do what you can, even if it's not an entire week off.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_04: But we have got to start prioritizing our physical and mental health because yo, work and everyday life will kill you.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_04: And like I said, I'm looking at myself right now and I'm like, damn, bitch, like, dang, this how you look when you don't wake up at uh, you know, 6 a.m.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_04: every morning.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_04: Like, dang, that's nice.
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_04: Or when you can drink the amount of water that you need to, because you're not busting your ass trying to get to a meeting or answer email.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_04: So just man, but yeah, I'm feeling great.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_04: I'm feeling great.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_04: How you doing, sis?
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_05: Oh girl.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_05: Uh it's I'm in such a weird conundrum.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_05: So I technically I believe that the new year starts when spring starts, March the 20th.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_05: I've always felt that way.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_05: So I feel a cycle shift.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_05: Um, my birthday is on Saturday.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_05: I don't give a fuck about it.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_05: If it was up to me, I just would have spent all day by myself um out the house just doing something.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_05: Everybody was like, girl, we should do a birthday.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_05: I don't want to go to the club.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_05: I don't wanna.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_05: So I think what I'm gonna do, obviously I have a little birthday dinner scheduled in Clarksville, this little Italian restaurant, it's nothing bent major.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_05: Hell I don't even want nobody dressed up, wear a cute graphic team.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_05: I'm wearing a graphic team.
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_05: Call it, call that shit a day.
• 11:59
  SPEAKER_05: Um, hang out with the girls there.
• 12:03
  SPEAKER_05: Um, I might take myself to the movies and be by myself, have some alone time.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_05: But I just I don't like I was telling my friend P, shout out to Portia.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_05: I was on the P, I said, listen, like everything I want, I can't buy.
• 12:17
  SPEAKER_05: I can't go out and buy a partner.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_05: I can't go out and buy a healthy marriage.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_05: I can't go out and buy a new job opportunity or buy a new apartment, my own space.
• 12:29
  SPEAKER_05: I can't go out and buy, shit, I can't even go out and buy a good dick and down session.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_05: You know what I'm saying?
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_05: So it's just like I there's nothing else I want.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_05: I've traveled around the world twice.
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_05: Um I my car's almost paid off and I'm satisfied.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not a big car person, so I don't care about getting cars.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_05: My phone's almost paid off.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_05: I I'm using this bitch till it falls apart.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_05: I'm working on my debt, so I'm not even really treating myself to concerts this year.
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_05: Um I don't you know I do want to pledge it to a sorority finished grad school, but that's gonna come a little later.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_05: But like there's nothing else tangible that I want.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_05: So I'm just in a I'm feeling off about my birthday.
• 13:19
  SPEAKER_05: I'm I'm just not looking forward to it.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_05: Um mental health-wise, the job has been horrible.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_05: Um we're losing people left and right.
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_05: Management is disgusting.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_05: Um days is really toxic work environment.
• 13:44
  SPEAKER_05: And it was, and today a conversation happened and I have this stuck in my head about it.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_05: So where I work in my little as a company we suck ass, but in my cute little section with the six of us, the six black women were all under this one guys, and we all do a certain job, and I love our I love our little bubble.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_05: And long story short, um, one of the young ladies that's that basically helped me get hired, me and her have been best friends since high school.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_05: And there was a situation that came and she made a joke about me and two other of us being mean, and I've she was like, We're the meanies of the office.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_05: And I was just like, Well, I'm not mean, you know, and she didn't mean it in a way that hurt my feelings, but I was just like, I have changed.
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not as nice or open as I used to be.
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_05: I'm still respectful and cordial and speak, but I really feel like life just kind of it does change you.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_05: Like, first of all, I was always told I was too nice.
• 14:44
  SPEAKER_05: It's still a lot of shit I don't say that I keep inside out of respect for other people or just having a peace of fucking mind.
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_05: But now I'm a lot more vocal than what I used to be.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_05: Um dating and dealing with niggas have done a number on me.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_05: Um And I don't know, the world was just ass.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_05: So, no, you and then it's I think that's part growing up too, but you know, I'm just like, damn, do people see me as a mean black girl?
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_05: You know what I'm saying?
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_05: The mean, dark-skinned big black girl that's just say what she wants to say.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_05: Then on the other part, it's like if I don't say nothing at all, that'll be an issue too.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_05: So I don't know.
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_05: I that kind of it didn't mess me up, but it just, I just kind of sat there with it.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_05: I'm like, well, damn, is that how people perceive me?
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_05: Because it's just like now, being ther almost 32, I can just say I'm basically by the time you listen to this, I'll be 32.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_05: Being 32 years old, it's just like I don't have a tolerance of bullshit and dumb shit.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_05: And I feel like being a millennial is such a unique experience because you're in the middle.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_05: You're dealing with older people who the reason why we're in this mess of a world that we're in is because of y'all motherfuckers, because of the boomers.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_03: Yep.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_03: That's right.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all fuck the world up.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all expect millennials to teach y'all every fucking thing.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_05: Like when it comes to just work stuff or technology, or when it comes to different, it's just like, show me this, show me.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_05: I'm just like, oh my fucking God.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_05: Or, you know, y'all don't know how to talk to millennials, or y'all think y'all can talk to millennials, how y'all, no, just because I'm 20, 30 years younger than you, you're not gonna talk to me like I'm crazy.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_05: We do the same fucking job, we're getting paid the same.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_05: But then you have to deal with dumb motherfucking Gen Z.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_05: People my brother them age, and they just so fucking dumb.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_05: They don't have the common sense.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_05: God gave a doorknob.
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_05: They don't know how to tell analog time.
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_05: They can't count money, the bulk of them.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_05: They don't have, they don't know how to, it's like just common sense stuff.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_05: They don't have thought processes.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_05: They don't lit like you can tell them, like for instance, I I have a I know somebody, and she was just like, Yeah, you know, I'm just like, well, if you did it like this and you know the results of that, why would you do that again?
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_05: Or why would you not why why did you not think to see it this way?
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_05: Oh, I don't know.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_05: They're so lackadaisical, they don't take shit serious.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_05: And there are no problem-solving skills.
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_04: Like problem solving skills does not exist.
• 17:27
  SPEAKER_05: Yes, that's what I'm saying.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_05: That's what I'm saying.
• 17:31
  SPEAKER_05: The thought process is not there, and honestly, it stresses me out.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_05: Uh there's a lot of people in the military that are millennials, but there's a lot of people coming into the military that should say, we fucking, excuse me, y'all busy on TikTok making jokes and shit.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all live in the fucking military.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_05: We cooked.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_05: We are fucking cooked.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_05: And we're gonna talk about that later, but it's just like, y'all have no problems.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all skin, y'all lazy.
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_05: Like, you know, oh I ain't, I'm not working out.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_05: Bitch, I worked seven days a week for four years straight.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_05: Didn't complain.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_05: I was able to hold my head high, pay my bills, because I was I was living in an apartment in Nashville with a roommate.
• 18:09
  SPEAKER_05: Um, I did what I had to fucking do.
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_05: They don't know how to do that.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_05: They want.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_05: And then it's just like they have luxury taste, but don't got money.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_04: There you go.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_04: Or the or the um the get out and get it mentality.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_04: And I think that's what really boggles my mind, you know, is that there's no, if I want this, I have to put in the work.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_04: And for me, and like for me and K-Ron, like I tell everybody, you know, me and K-Ron got married at 19 and 20 years old.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_04: He was in the military.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_04: We literally came to Tennessee with his car and garbage bags of clothes and had no idea where we were gonna live.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_04: We assumed that we were gonna stay on post, and they were like, uh, y'all don't have no kids, y'all gotta go on the wait list.
• 19:01
  SPEAKER_04: And so right then we had to like take a list of apartments and figure it out, you know.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and so to think now and see where we are, you know, K Ron has his own trucking business.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_04: I am an assistant principal.
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_04: We live, you know, in a nice home, in a nice area.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_04: We both have cars and, you know, like all of these things.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_04: We have kids, but nobody sees the how we got from zero to now a hundred.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_04: You know, nobody is like taking the time to see like the waking up early in the morning, the studying my ass off, like how I got those several degrees, you know, how I was working at JCPenney and going to Austin P and you know, being student teacher.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_04: Like nobody is taking that shit into account.
• 19:56
  SPEAKER_04: And I and I've, you know, I think about my sisters who are 24, they're 10 years younger than me, and I'll never forget the day, I'll never forget this.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_04: And I think I've said it before, but one time I had got into a car accident in my neighborhood, and I was on my way to work, and I pulled out at the stop sign and hit this lady who was coming, didn't see her ass, and got into a fender bender.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_04: And, you know, called my boss, was like, yo, I'm come still coming, da-da-da-da-da.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_04: And my sister was like, You still went to work?
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_04: She was like, diamond.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_04: And I swear she was so serious.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_04: She was like, they don't like going to work.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_04: They will call off of work for a broke nail.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_05: Bitch, I've been at work, then we'll be through.
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_04: She was like, I would have just gone back home.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_04: That's crazy.
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_04: She was like, that is so crazy that happened to you.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_04: I would have just gone home.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_04: And I'm like, but I can't though.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_04: Like, I can, I still have a job and like things happen to you every day.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_04: Like shit happens, and you still have to keep going and you still have to rock with that shit, you know?
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_04: But her mindset was very much like I would stop and go to sleep, like go home and go to bed and just call it quits for the day.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, huh?
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_04: That is the mindset of that generation.
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_04: There's like no problem solving skills.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_04: I can remember trying to have no one, nothing.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_04: I can remember being in classrooms, you know, teaching, and the kids would be like, my computer died.
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_04: And I'm like, what are you asking me?
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_04: Is there a question there?
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_04: Is there a question like put plug the motherfucker in?
• 21:52
  SPEAKER_04: And I always, I will always, when they would come to me saying stuff like that, I'm just like, is there a question?
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I think I need a charger.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_04: Okay, so now I need you to phrase that and come up to me and say, hey, Miss Benjamin, my computer died.
• 22:08
  SPEAKER_04: Do you have a charger?
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_04: Like it's just like these are the conversations that you have.
• 22:14
  SPEAKER_04: And so I definitely, you know, understand where you're coming from.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_04: It is like, ooh, scary shit.
• 22:23
  SPEAKER_04: Scary.
• 22:24
  SPEAKER_04: But to your point too, Ashley, I feel like life, like when you say, I don't view you as a mean person.
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_04: Like, I feel like people who really know you, and of course, like your coworker, your friend who said that I'm saying she's sure she said that in a joking way.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_04: And I think life though will make you harden you, unfortunately.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_04: Life will harden you and harden those edges that once were smooth and let people get away with shit.
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_04: Over time, you just become hard and you are quick to clap back and nip shit in the butt because at our age, we don't have time for bullshit.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_04: We just don't.
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_04: We just don't have time for it.
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_04: We're at a really critical point right now where we're trying to like a lot of us are wearing our whole our whole families on our backs every day.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_04: Mm-hmm.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_04: And making decisions that's gonna either like make or break our family, and we're trying to break generational curses.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_04: Motherfuckers just don't have time.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_04: Mm-mm.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_04: To be giggly and like, hee hee.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_04: Like, ain't shit is really not funny.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_04: It's just like, you know.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_05: It's really not shit funny.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_05: This ain't the same 30s as our parents.
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_05: Like, bitch, we in a full-on fucking war.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_05: Gassed and went up damn near a dollar in five fucking days.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_05: Bitch, gas is eight dollars and like 30 cents in California.
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_05: When I tell you I wouldn't be going nowhere, I'll be skating on the motherfucking friend.
• 23:58
  SPEAKER_05: Kick push.
• 24:00
  SPEAKER_05: Kick push, bitch.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_05: Get me get a skateboard.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_05: But no, like, I don't know.
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_05: It's just I think the last thing with my mental health too is just and I know I've said it before, but to be, to not be in the you couldn't have told me when I was 18.
• 24:19
  SPEAKER_05: When I was 18, I would be where I'm at now at 30 uh 32.
• 24:27
  SPEAKER_05: I'm just like and it's so weird.
• 24:30
  SPEAKER_05: Like I know I'm a grown-up.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_05: I pay taxes, I have to go to a fucking job that I can't stand.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_05: But it's like, am I grown?
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_05: Like this is what then uh But that's but see that's the part like being mad at the generation for y'all really fucked this world up.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all really did.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
• 24:56
  SPEAKER_05: Like we can't even buy homes.
• 25:00
  SPEAKER_05: You know what I'm saying?
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_05: It's just it's it's a weird.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_05: So it's just I don't know.
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_05: I get like this around my birthday.
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_05: I get in this headspace every year before my birthday.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_05: I haven't really, I would say I really haven't last year was was cool.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_05: Like my friends celebrating me.
• 25:16
  SPEAKER_05: But like a good birthday where I've gotten like where I've been in a space where I've gotten like everything I've wanted.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_05: I don't think I've had like a decent birthday since like 20.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_05: So it's been almost 10 years.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_05: It's just like, yeah, the biological time clock, and you feel like you're running out of time.
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_05: But then again, it's just like, bitch, I wouldn't dare have a kid right now.
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_05: It's too expensive.
• 25:42
  SPEAKER_05: But then it's just like I want at least one.
• 25:45
  SPEAKER_05: I only want one anyway.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_05: But then it's just like, I'm not finna be no fucking statistic.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_05: I've ran my whole life and trying to not be a statistic.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_05: I don't know.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_05: So it's just all these thoughts.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_05: But like what you said about how your health can be affected by stress and not resting.
• 26:04
  SPEAKER_05: I have um, I have a autoimmune disease now because of that.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_05: I you know, so it's just like I'm trying to fix my skin, you know.
• 26:14
  SPEAKER_05: I'm dealing with the best feature, the only good feature I have on my body is my legs.
• 26:20
  SPEAKER_05: I might have a big fucking upper portion, but I have some nice fucking legs.
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_05: My left leg, the entire, my entire left leg is bruised the fuck up.
• 26:32
  SPEAKER_05: And now it kind of looks like I have vitiligo spots.
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_05: So it's dark as fuck, but now it's vitaligo dub.
• 26:39
  SPEAKER_05: Then my other leg, for whatever reason, I'm suffering from ingrowns like crazy.
• 26:44
  SPEAKER_05: So it's all spotted up, and I'm just like, I'm not showing my legs this fucking summer.
• 26:49
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not doing that shit.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_05: So it's just, I don't know.
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_05: I'm just, I'm over it.
• 26:55
  SPEAKER_05: I really don't know how to feel.
• 26:57
  SPEAKER_05: I'm just like, this ain't it's not to say you walk around every day want to be happy, but I'm not happy.
• 27:05
  SPEAKER_05: I don't know what to do about it.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_05: I don't know how to feel and I'm just like, what the fuck am I even here for?
• 27:13
  SPEAKER_05: I can't even get fucked.
• 27:15
  SPEAKER_05: Like, it's so many things that's just like this ain't it.
• 27:20
  SPEAKER_05: You know, I whatever.
• 27:22
  SPEAKER_05: But that's where I'm at mentally, and I miss my fucking therapist.
• 27:28
  SPEAKER_05: I'm gonna probably send her an email.
• 27:32
  SPEAKER_05: Oh, the baby's crying.
• 27:34
  SPEAKER_01: That's my side.
• 27:35
  SPEAKER_05: Um, so yeah.
• 27:37
  SPEAKER_05: So let's get into the show.
• 27:39
  SPEAKER_05: That uh and that wraps up this episode of No, I'm kidding.
• 27:43
  SPEAKER_05: Um as the world turns on this episode of Gunning Light, bitch, Dynasty Hope.
• 27:51
  SPEAKER_05: Um okay, so it's a lot of drama going on between Amy Luciani and her soon-to-be, I assume, ex-husband Dwight Howard and his ex-verse read.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_05: Did you want to get into that?
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_05: Ooh, child.
• 28:07
  SPEAKER_04: I think we all seen that uh video of homegirl in the car with the bag of white stuff.
• 28:15
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, I gotta say this.
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_05: How they take the kid and not take the coke, bitch, you had half a brick and you put it on camera.
• 28:22
  SPEAKER_05: I thought she had the little pellets in her hand.
• 28:24
  SPEAKER_05: I'm just like, well, she's only a coke residue on her hand.
• 28:27
  SPEAKER_05: I don't know how coke works.
• 28:29
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not a crackhead.
• 28:30
  SPEAKER_05: So I was just like, okay, when she pulled out the bag, I was appalled.
• 28:35
  SPEAKER_05: Bitch, my flabbers were ghastly.
• 28:38
  SPEAKER_05: I was clutching my invisible pearls.
• 28:41
  SPEAKER_05: I said, is this a bag of cocaine?
• 28:43
  SPEAKER_05: Like a half a brick.
• 28:46
  SPEAKER_04: Casually.
• 28:46
  SPEAKER_04: The bag sent me my husband to.
• 28:49
  SPEAKER_05: Did you do any of that cocaine, ma'am?
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_04: It was a lot.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_04: Like it was a lot to take in.
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_04: When the bag appeared, I almost threw my phone.
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_04: I said, she cannot be serious right now.
• 29:03
  SPEAKER_04: Uh the tears, the, I mean, it was it was a lot to unpack.
• 29:09
  SPEAKER_04: And then she was talking about how he was coaching the son to lie on her.
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_04: It was just it was a lot to unpack in a short video clip.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_04: It was so much there.
• 29:22
  SPEAKER_04: And I'm just like, damn, where is Wendy Williams when you need her?
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_05: Bruh.
• 29:29
  SPEAKER_05: When I say Kevin Hunter, bitch, the the things that you've done and the price that you will pay, I feel like Kevin Hunter destroyed Wendy Williams so bad, like mentally, she checked out.
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_05: She gave that man her life.
• 29:41
  SPEAKER_05: And he was over a bit part of her life and he tried to destroy her.
• 29:44
  SPEAKER_05: Like, I fucking miss like her or hate her, Wendy Williams is the reason why we have the neighborhood talk, the shade room.
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_05: The reason why there's tea and that.
• 29:55
  SPEAKER_05: Wendy Williams is a pioneer.
• 29:57
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all wasn't listening when Whitney Houston threatened to go up there and beat her up.
• 30:02
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all wasn't listening when she said, Denial is a river in Egypt.
• 30:06
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all wasn't watching.
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_05: Listen, y'all been watching when Wendy Williams show, hi you do it.
• 30:11
  SPEAKER_04: How you do it?
• 30:13
  SPEAKER_05: I love Wendy.
• 30:14
  SPEAKER_05: Oh, I missed my girl.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_04: Oh, she would've ate that up.
• 30:18
  SPEAKER_04: It's so much though that she would have ate up in the last.
• 30:21
  SPEAKER_04: I just feel like fucking shit, six months to a year, she would have ate up.
• 30:25
  SPEAKER_05: She would have ate Diddy up.
• 30:26
  SPEAKER_05: She was one of the first people in the industry years ago that said that man is a gay man and that he drugs women.
• 30:34
  SPEAKER_05: Oof, baby.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_05: I would have loved to see how she reacted to R.
• 30:37
  SPEAKER_05: Kelly.
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_05: I still laugh.
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_05: Like when you posted that thing, I still be hollering.
• 30:43
  SPEAKER_05: I don't know how to hog type people.
• 30:44
  SPEAKER_05: Why would I hog type?
• 30:46
  SPEAKER_05: Like, sir.
• 30:48
  SPEAKER_05: Please, uh Robert.
• 30:50
  SPEAKER_05: And then Gail, Robert.
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_05: Robert.
• 30:55
  SPEAKER_05: Girl.
• 30:56
  SPEAKER_05: Any caboodle.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_05: Um I want to say everybody needs to apologize to Royce Reed.
• 31:04
  SPEAKER_05: She deserves a mega apology.
• 31:05
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, Royce, let's just take it back.
• 31:10
  SPEAKER_05: We know Royce Reed from the original basketball-wise, when it was Royce, Shawnee, Evelyn, Jennifer, Tammy, and Malaysia.
• 31:23
  SPEAKER_05: Those were the original.
• 31:24
  SPEAKER_05: Yes.
• 31:25
  SPEAKER_05: Right?
• 31:25
  SPEAKER_05: Yes.
• 31:26
  SPEAKER_05: We know Royce Reed.
• 31:28
  SPEAKER_05: She has the mean dance that people be using on Instagram.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_05: She used to be a cheerleader for the NBA, and that's where she met Dwight Howard.
• 31:37
  SPEAKER_05: They had kids together.
• 31:38
  SPEAKER_05: And like, she told, like, hey, that is a gay man.
• 31:41
  SPEAKER_05: He was doing drugs and he almost ruined my career.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_05: He had me blackball, but everybody thought Royce was the bitter baby mama.
• 31:48
  SPEAKER_05: She was lying.
• 31:48
  SPEAKER_05: Whoop-de-woop-de-woo.
• 31:50
  SPEAKER_05: Mm-hmm.
• 31:51
  SPEAKER_05: Now, but this isn't the first time that he's had these allegations about he's had sexual allegations put up against him from other men.
• 32:00
  SPEAKER_05: This motherfucker is a menace.
• 32:02
  SPEAKER_05: So now, you know, it's always, I can change him, I can change him.
• 32:07
  SPEAKER_05: Angel Johnny, you should have just stuck with Mozzie at this point.
• 32:12
  SPEAKER_05: But now you crying about your kids being taken away when Joe Howard got Royce's kids taken away.
• 32:18
  SPEAKER_05: Because of his position, and first of all, nigga look like a black giant, jolly green giant.
• 32:23
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, he has stature, he has money, and we know what that brings, and he's a fucking man.
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_05: That's right.
• 32:30
  SPEAKER_05: So they can always make the woman look like the crazy person in the situation.
• 32:33
  SPEAKER_05: But I, you know, I feel for her, but at the same point, I don't.
• 32:39
  SPEAKER_04: And I I think women have to stop villainizing the ex and the baby mother and all of that stuff.
• 32:50
  SPEAKER_04: Like, yeah, you know, we gotta remember that it it takes two, of course, in a relationship, but stop making them the villain and just thinking that these men are perfect and that nothing of what the woman is saying is is is like just thinking that it's all untruths, especially when your ass won't bear.
• 33:11
  SPEAKER_04: You were not in their home, you don't know what the hell went down, you know?
• 33:16
  SPEAKER_04: And so, I mean, I think about the K Michelle situation with uh Toya.
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_04: That's the first thing that I think of.
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_04: You know, that's the first thing that I think of.
• 33:27
  SPEAKER_04: And when that when that whole situation was going down with what's his name?
• 33:31
  SPEAKER_04: Memphis, whatever.
• 33:32
  SPEAKER_04: Memphis.
• 33:33
  SPEAKER_04: Yes, and he was hitting the hell out of K Michelle, beating the dog shit out of her, and so and no, and everybody wanted to call K Michelle bitter, liar a liar, she was crazy.
• 33:44
  SPEAKER_05: Um, and she's trying to ruin Toya's relationship.
• 33:48
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, I'm I ain't gonna say that that was ugly.
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_05: But what what has she been?
• 33:56
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, who is Toya to ruin?
• 34:02
  SPEAKER_05: Oh, all right.
• 34:04
  SPEAKER_04: Like, girl.
• 34:06
  SPEAKER_04: And women love to say this too.
• 34:08
  SPEAKER_04: The new woman always loves to say, well, it must have been something she was doing, because that's not the man I know.
• 34:16
  SPEAKER_04: Bitch, that's not the man you have seen yet.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_05: Like, girl, you still in the honeymoon phase.
• 34:22
  SPEAKER_05: Like, let's let's not act like you've seen all sides of this man.
• 34:26
  SPEAKER_05: That's why it's just like I don't understand how people, but I don't know if this is just a me thing or maybe I'm a girl's girl, but I pattern recognition is real.
• 34:35
  SPEAKER_05: Half of the time with these niggas, they have a history of doing the same thing.
• 34:41
  SPEAKER_05: And Amy, I'm gonna get on you.
• 34:43
  SPEAKER_05: I think Amy saw status because Dwight Howard was an NBA player.
• 34:48
  SPEAKER_05: I think, you know, because we had known her before, but it's just like I think she feels like she had, you know, more, what's the word for?
• 34:59
  SPEAKER_05: More importance because who she was married to.
• 35:02
  SPEAKER_05: I'm just like, girl, Dwight Howard, he's had one too many gay allegations on him, one too many abuse allegations on him.
• 35:10
  SPEAKER_05: Even his son, him and the son, him and Royce Reed shared together basically said, I hope you can help.
• 35:16
  SPEAKER_05: And honestly, Dwight Howard looks like he's his face looks like he's on drugs.
• 35:22
  SPEAKER_05: Allegedly.
• 35:23
  SPEAKER_05: You know, I don't want a bitch to sue me, but he looks like he, you know what I'm saying?
• 35:29
  SPEAKER_05: Because I feel like his face, I compare pictures of him from like, granted, we're not talking about aging, but just looking at his face from like maybe five to eight years ago to now, I feel like under his eyes look a lot darker.
• 35:42
  SPEAKER_05: His face look, he's already a very in-shape and skinny dude.
• 35:46
  SPEAKER_05: But I think his face kind of looks more stuff.
• 35:48
  SPEAKER_05: So I don't know.
• 35:50
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not, I'm not a doctor, so I can't diagnose or say somebody's on drugs or saying that this, but I just I hate when we as women, we have to do better without villainizing the next woman.
• 36:02
  SPEAKER_05: That's right.
• 36:03
  SPEAKER_05: Because instead of villainizing her or saying worse, but you should have been talking, girl, what do I expect from this motherfucking man?
• 36:09
  SPEAKER_05: What do I need to know?
• 36:11
  SPEAKER_05: Mm-mm.
• 36:13
  SPEAKER_05: So, you know, we wish all parties the best of luck.
• 36:17
  SPEAKER_05: Royce, I never doubted you, you've kept the same story for almost the last 20 years.
• 36:22
  SPEAKER_05: Um, I've always been a Royce Reed fan.
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_05: Love her now.
• 36:26
  SPEAKER_05: She didn't take Evelyn's shit.
• 36:28
  SPEAKER_05: No.
• 36:28
  SPEAKER_05: Did you share?
• 36:30
  SPEAKER_05: Oh, listen, and she was one Royce and OG was like the only two that could, and Tammy, but I don't count Tammy, but like I would say the underdogs, Royce and OG really put Evelyn in their places.
• 36:43
  SPEAKER_05: Um so I've always loved Royce.
• 36:47
  SPEAKER_05: Amy, you know, I pray that you learn from this situation.
• 36:50
  SPEAKER_05: I pray that you get your child back.
• 36:52
  SPEAKER_05: I pray that, you know, you heal from this.
• 36:56
  SPEAKER_05: And Dwight, you just need to be who you are, bruh.
• 36:59
  SPEAKER_05: And if you are delving and divulging in drugs, you need to get help.
• 37:04
  SPEAKER_05: God too much.
• 37:05
  SPEAKER_05: He's giving you too many chances.
• 37:07
  SPEAKER_05: It's gay athletes.
• 37:08
  SPEAKER_05: It's gay niggas, I heard.
• 37:10
  SPEAKER_05: What Quinn de Brunson said, niggas be gay.
• 37:12
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 37:12
  SPEAKER_04: 2026, come on about that closet, baby.
• 37:16
  SPEAKER_04: Just come on out.
• 37:17
  SPEAKER_04: And and shoving shit up your nose allegedly ain't gonna help the fact, you know, that you are playing, quote unquote, for the other team.
• 37:28
  SPEAKER_04: If you are, no pun intended.
• 37:30
  SPEAKER_04: But yeah.
• 37:30
  SPEAKER_05: That's a really good pun.
• 37:32
  SPEAKER_05: The nigga does play the sports.
• 37:33
  SPEAKER_05: I said, I like that.
• 37:35
  SPEAKER_05: Come on, girl.
• 37:36
  SPEAKER_05: Education coming in the work.
• 37:40
  SPEAKER_04: Just come on out.
• 37:41
  SPEAKER_04: Come on out, baby.
• 37:42
  SPEAKER_04: Let that flag fly, okay?
• 37:45
  SPEAKER_01: Be who you are for your pride.
• 37:50
  SPEAKER_05: Well, on to the next relationship.
• 37:53
  SPEAKER_05: And we're helpful, we're gonna hop into another LGBTQIA situation where we have to address Choice Brown, Auntie Nay, and YD.
• 38:02
  SPEAKER_05: So if you're an older millennial, you're like, who the hell are these people?
• 38:06
  SPEAKER_05: Choice is the daughter of Tabitha Brown.
• 38:09
  SPEAKER_05: So that's your business.
• 38:10
  SPEAKER_05: That Tabitha Brown.
• 38:12
  SPEAKER_05: Auntie Nay is an influence, she's a twin, but she's also an influencer in her own right, and she's in the sports world.
• 38:18
  SPEAKER_05: She does a lot of dancing, very positive.
• 38:20
  SPEAKER_05: I love Auntie Nae.
• 38:21
  SPEAKER_05: I love Choice.
• 38:22
  SPEAKER_05: And I like YD too.
• 38:24
  SPEAKER_05: I follow all three of these content creators.
• 38:26
  SPEAKER_05: YD is a teacher.
• 38:29
  SPEAKER_05: I think she, I know she's a Delta Simith.
• 38:32
  SPEAKER_05: She is based out of, I think, Colorado.
• 38:36
  SPEAKER_05: Um, she does a lot with sports.
• 38:38
  SPEAKER_05: Like, I think she's into coaching.
• 38:40
  SPEAKER_05: She also has her own business.
• 38:42
  SPEAKER_05: But anyway, let's get into the T.
• 38:45
  SPEAKER_05: So YD and Choice were a couple.
• 38:49
  SPEAKER_05: They broke up and Choice moved on super fast to Auntie Nae.
• 38:55
  SPEAKER_05: And they waited a second because they were showing little subliminal hits and throwing little subliminal like clues out to each other that they were dating, but people didn't, you know, they didn't think that they were because they weren't sure how they meshed together and they never seen them together.
• 39:10
  SPEAKER_05: But Quiadez is kept Auntie Nay's sister Janae Sims, gave it away, and then there was another lesbian couple, that's an older lesbian couple that was around them too that said, yeah, we've seen them together.
• 39:21
  SPEAKER_05: Great.
• 39:22
  SPEAKER_05: So they made it um social media official.
• 39:28
  SPEAKER_05: And YD was not happy about it.
• 39:30
  SPEAKER_05: She came out and basically said she found out like we did that Choice moved on in another relationship.
• 39:36
  SPEAKER_05: And yeah, she wasn't happy about it.
• 39:39
  SPEAKER_05: And she alluded.
• 39:40
  SPEAKER_05: Now she didn't say that there wasn't, she said that there was no infidelity that went on, but she basically alluded that the timelines crosswise.
• 39:49
  SPEAKER_05: So if I have to give a verbal example, I'll use Diamond and her husband, knock on wood, but they're a married couple.
• 39:56
  SPEAKER_05: Let's just say Diamond and Kron get divorced.
• 40:05
  SPEAKER_05: You're gonna be like, that's fast.
• 40:09
  SPEAKER_05: Were you dating?
• 40:11
  SPEAKER_05: You know, were you talking to this person?
• 40:14
  SPEAKER_05: So that's kind of what she alluded to.
• 40:16
  SPEAKER_05: But here's the thing.
• 40:17
  SPEAKER_05: Well, first, before I give my two cents, it got really messy, right?
• 40:23
  SPEAKER_05: Uh DV, domestic violence allegations got thrown out, cheating, um, dating for social side, a lot of things got brought out.
• 40:34
  SPEAKER_05: But I want to get your thoughts first, sis.
• 40:36
  SPEAKER_05: Go ahead.
• 40:37
  SPEAKER_05: What you think?
• 40:38
  SPEAKER_05: So here's the thing.
• 40:41
  SPEAKER_04: Um you made a good point before we hopped on to when you're dating someone, I think people get a lot of shit confused when you are dating someone and you are, you know, going from, I don't want to say going from relationship to relationship, but when you break up with someone, why not?
• 41:07
  SPEAKER_04: You know, why not um because really the the purpose of dating is really to get to know some, get to know people to to try and find your forever love.
• 41:21
  SPEAKER_04: And so how are you going to do that if you do not continue to make yourself available?
• 41:28
  SPEAKER_04: And so I know a lot of people are gonna say, well, Diamond, you know, you got to give your your time, give yourself some time to heal, things like that.
• 41:37
  SPEAKER_04: But everyone is different, you know, everyone is different.
• 41:40
  SPEAKER_04: Some people need longer time than others.
• 41:43
  SPEAKER_04: Um, I found myself judging someone like this not too long ago, but it was a different situation, and I had to pull back.
• 41:51
  SPEAKER_04: Um, it was an individual that I knew um we had worked together a while back, and you know, her husband passed away, you know, um, and he's passed on now.
• 42:06
  SPEAKER_04: I would say it's been probably about shoot close to three years, four years, something like that.
• 42:13
  SPEAKER_04: But anyways, at the beginning of this year, she remarried.
• 42:17
  SPEAKER_04: And um, I remember having a conversation with her.
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_04: We had ran into each other when we were holiday shopping, and I was asking her, like, how was she doing and everything?
• 42:28
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and she was telling me, you know, this was before she had gotten remarried, and she was telling me that she was beginning to, you know, finally grapple with being without her husband.
• 42:42
  SPEAKER_04: And so I remember when I saw the post of her, you know, she had gotten remarried, I was like, damn, that was fast.
• 42:49
  SPEAKER_04: But then I had to step back and go, well, Diamond, because we can always say, well, what if I was in it, if I was in that situation, um, I, you know, people are so quick to say that.
• 43:02
  SPEAKER_04: If I was in that situation, you know, mm-mm, I would never, you know, I would never get remarried or I would wait longer than that.
• 43:11
  SPEAKER_04: You don't know.
• 43:12
  SPEAKER_04: You truly do not know.
• 43:14
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and then for this particular woman that I'm talking about, my old co-worker, uh, she had been with her husband, like they were together since they were like young, young, you know?
• 43:26
  SPEAKER_04: And so they have they had kids together.
• 43:31
  SPEAKER_04: They thought they would be like, I know he's talking about.
• 43:34
  SPEAKER_05: I'm gonna text you.
• 43:35
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I'm gonna text you.
• 43:36
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, and so the husband, I think he died of some type of cancer.
• 43:40
  SPEAKER_04: And so I was just like, damn, like fuck.
• 43:44
  SPEAKER_04: And then something else like that happened to me as well.
• 43:47
  SPEAKER_04: I had another teacher associate whose husband was fatally killed.
• 43:54
  SPEAKER_04: He was a farmer, was fatally killed um in a farming accident.
• 44:00
  SPEAKER_04: Um Jesus.
• 44:02
  SPEAKER_04: And uh not too, not too long.
• 44:06
  SPEAKER_04: I would say maybe a couple of years, she found someone.
• 44:11
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and they had just had a baby.
• 44:13
  SPEAKER_04: She found someone, fell in love, and he, you know, took her under his wing and her daughter, and they've been married ever since.
• 44:22
  SPEAKER_04: And so I just we gotta stop judging people.
• 44:26
  SPEAKER_04: We don't know these people, what's going on?
• 44:29
  SPEAKER_04: Everyone is different.
• 44:30
  SPEAKER_05: I think it's important too to know that none of these people were married to each other.
• 44:35
  SPEAKER_05: So when people break up, they don't owe you shit.
• 44:36
  SPEAKER_05: That is the owner.
• 44:38
  SPEAKER_04: And that is the biggest thing that I want people to think of too is like when you're out here dating, I'm sorry, but shit, shit is fair game.
• 44:46
  SPEAKER_04: Like, we are dating.
• 44:47
  SPEAKER_04: We are, you know what a lot of people say, single till married.
• 44:51
  SPEAKER_04: And I mean, that's just the reality of the situation.
• 44:54
  SPEAKER_04: That's basically true.
• 44:58
  SPEAKER_05: That's the reality.
• 45:00
  SPEAKER_05: Like, you know, I I've heard, you know, lesbians move on quite fast anyway.
• 45:07
  SPEAKER_05: So, you know, it's just like, that's just was meant to be dope, but it's just like I don't.
• 45:13
  SPEAKER_01: You're, you're, you're, you're, you know, you're Ashley, you're you're making fun of lesbians.
• 45:19
  SPEAKER_05: Girl, I'm about to be on y'all team.
• 45:20
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not making fun of y'all.
• 45:22
  SPEAKER_05: Oh shit.
• 45:22
  SPEAKER_05: Um, I'm so sick of niggas, I don't know what to do.
• 45:26
  SPEAKER_05: Um, no, but it's just, I really hope that, and and I want to ask some nuance of this conversation.
• 45:34
  SPEAKER_05: So YD has lost her mother and her grandmother.
• 45:36
  SPEAKER_05: She's going through a lot of things.
• 45:39
  SPEAKER_05: Toys has always been just young wild and freak.
• 45:41
  SPEAKER_05: Love that for her.
• 45:42
  SPEAKER_05: Auntie Nay seems like a very hard person.
• 45:44
  SPEAKER_05: And again, we don't know these people behind closed doors.
• 45:47
  SPEAKER_05: But from how it's presenting, I just think maybe YD needs to take some time to heal.
• 45:52
  SPEAKER_05: And that's why you have close friends.
• 45:55
  SPEAKER_05: When people tag you with shit, just be like, yeah, I see, and then move on.
• 45:58
  SPEAKER_05: Because I would, you have sorority sisters, you have friends, call them.
• 46:02
  SPEAKER_05: Don't come to the internet with certain things because people, even if, let's just say six months come down the line, we find out everything YD was saying was true.
• 46:10
  SPEAKER_05: Let's just say for shits and giggles, but social media have already painted a picture of you.
• 46:15
  SPEAKER_05: Mm-hmm.
• 46:16
  SPEAKER_05: Based off of how you handle certain situations.
• 46:18
  SPEAKER_05: So I really wish people would take their relationship problems or lack thereof off the internet.
• 46:25
  SPEAKER_05: Yes.
• 46:26
  SPEAKER_05: Like, especially when people are involved.
• 46:29
  SPEAKER_05: I sit up here all day and cry about, oh, I don't have a man, I'm sad.
• 46:33
  SPEAKER_05: But then, you know, there's actually not another man actually that, but then I can't be mad if, you know, oh, you're a miserable, desperate bitch.
• 46:43
  SPEAKER_05: If that's what I'm giving.
• 46:45
  SPEAKER_05: Now, do I have the right to do that?
• 46:47
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
• 46:47
  SPEAKER_05: But people also have the right to react and make their own opinions because that's what social media is like an asshole.
• 46:52
  SPEAKER_05: Everybody got one and everybody has their own opinion.
• 46:54
  SPEAKER_05: Everyone in different situations differently.
• 46:57
  SPEAKER_05: And I just think it's important.
• 47:00
  SPEAKER_05: I wish we can go back to a time and have the shame and wherewithal to act like how we did before social media existed.
• 47:08
  SPEAKER_05: Yes.
• 47:09
  SPEAKER_05: Those times are lost.
• 47:10
  SPEAKER_05: I just miss when the only drama you had on social media was who your top eight was and did not piss nobody off.
• 47:16
  unknown: Yes.
• 47:17
  SPEAKER_05: That shit, like, why you took me out your top eight?
• 47:20
  SPEAKER_05: Like, what's gonna well, like, how was you cool?
• 47:22
  SPEAKER_05: But um, I wish everybody peace in the situation.
• 47:26
  SPEAKER_05: I pray choice and T Na are happy and they stay happy for however long they're together.
• 47:30
  SPEAKER_05: And if they break up and Choice chooses to move on again, that's hey, that's her parody.
• 47:35
  SPEAKER_05: Yep.
• 47:36
  SPEAKER_05: And did but see how and I want to bring this up too, and want to hear your thoughts on it, because I know we have different thoughts on it.
• 47:45
  SPEAKER_05: Um, choice, and I think a lot of people have a a um, because I've seen half in there on her sign, I seen half it in there call this girl every type of whore.
• 47:56
  SPEAKER_05: She moves on to quit.
• 47:57
  SPEAKER_05: Choice dates how white women are taught to date.
• 48:01
  SPEAKER_05: Choice is dating the right way.
• 48:03
  SPEAKER_05: She dates how black girls were not.
• 48:05
  SPEAKER_05: Ooh.
• 48:07
  SPEAKER_05: We're not socialized to have options.
• 48:10
  SPEAKER_05: We're socialized to struggle, to do the ride and die mentality.
• 48:14
  SPEAKER_05: We're socialized to stay in the relationships and marriage.
• 48:17
  SPEAKER_05: It boy, it goes all the way back to our great-grandmothers and our and our friends, our cousins, our mother to stay in relationships that they're not happy in.
• 48:26
  SPEAKER_05: Versus, you know, I went to a PWI.
• 48:31
  SPEAKER_05: You every fucking week at the frat parties, oh, Kaylee got somebody new.
• 48:37
  SPEAKER_05: Okay, bitch.
• 48:38
  SPEAKER_05: That's her boyfriend this weekend.
• 48:40
  SPEAKER_05: She's doing what she's doing until she finds the right suitor that's right for her.
• 48:45
  SPEAKER_05: Yep, that's right.
• 48:46
  SPEAKER_05: And I think that's what's triggering a lot of black people, and particularly it gives internalized black woman racism.
• 48:52
  SPEAKER_05: It gives internalized massage in the war.
• 48:54
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
• 48:55
  SPEAKER_05: With us.
• 48:55
  SPEAKER_05: And I think a lot of the older ones can't understand that either.
• 48:58
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah, yeah.
• 48:59
  SPEAKER_05: So I I want to sense them like teach your daughters how to date.
• 49:03
  SPEAKER_05: Teach them how to settle for bullshit.
• 49:05
  SPEAKER_05: I don't give a damn what you think your daughter's value is.
• 49:08
  SPEAKER_05: You tell her what she's worth.
• 49:10
  SPEAKER_05: Amen.
• 49:12
  SPEAKER_04: So I think that's the same, you know, all that Lori Harvey hate.
• 49:16
  SPEAKER_04: I think that's the that's the same thing.
• 49:19
  SPEAKER_04: That is the same.
• 49:19
  SPEAKER_05: And they call they jokingly call Choice Brown the Lori Harvey of the lesbians.
• 49:25
  SPEAKER_04: And I think that goes back to the to the book that I told you that I was reading, the fuck uh monogamy book.
• 49:32
  SPEAKER_04: And in that book, you know, the author, she speaks about how in the black community, like what you were just saying, Ashley, like we are taught to be so sexually um, oh, what's the word?
• 49:45
  SPEAKER_04: Not repressed.
• 49:46
  SPEAKER_04: Repressed.
• 49:46
  SPEAKER_04: Yes, so sexually repressed, um, that these things are just taboo.
• 49:52
  SPEAKER_04: You should not speak of them.
• 49:54
  SPEAKER_04: Uh, I mean, she even broke it down to like new beaches, you know, where you'll see all these white people, you know, living free and being nude at these beaches, but black people are just like, oh my God, you know, we can't, we can't do that, or we can't, you know, be liberated or feel liberated to act on our, you know, sexual, um, just a way just to feel free, you know, in that way.
• 50:21
  SPEAKER_04: And I think that goes back to Ashley, what you were saying.
• 50:24
  SPEAKER_04: It's that mentality of, I know as far as women, that don't be fast, don't be acting fast, you know.
• 50:32
  SPEAKER_05: But then we have a whole generation of kids that's that HIV is spreading rapid in.
• 50:39
  SPEAKER_05: STDs are spreading rapid because we don't talk to our kids about shit.
• 50:43
  SPEAKER_05: So they're out there learning, making horrible fucking mistakes, or they're just not listening because, again, like we said, they have no problem-solving skills or no critical thinking skills.
• 50:53
  SPEAKER_05: Yep.
• 50:54
  SPEAKER_05: They and they don't listen.
• 50:56
  SPEAKER_05: Of course, that's every generation that comes out before young kids don't listen.
• 50:59
  SPEAKER_05: Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
• 51:01
  SPEAKER_05: But on a grand scale of things, we think if you talk to your kids about birth control sex, it's gonna make them do it.
• 51:08
  SPEAKER_05: I've been on birth control, well, consecutively, I was for a minute, but I got on birth control when I was 18.
• 51:15
  SPEAKER_05: I didn't have sex.
• 51:16
  SPEAKER_05: I was a virgin until two weeks before my 27th birthday.
• 51:21
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, we didn't make me we have got to change that narrative about the don't speak on it, don't be out here acting fast.
• 51:31
  SPEAKER_04: Like, no, like sex is a natural part of life.
• 51:37
  SPEAKER_04: And we have to teach our kids to be vocal about that.
• 51:43
  SPEAKER_04: And when you're ready, we will do what's necessary to prepare you for that next step in your life.
• 51:50
  SPEAKER_04: I mean, but yeah, and then back to the whole Lori Harvey shit, and um, this young lady that we're talking about, like, fuck, like you're young and you're dating.
• 52:02
  SPEAKER_04: That's okay.
• 52:03
  SPEAKER_04: It's okay.
• 52:04
  SPEAKER_04: And like I said, some people they get over relationships a little bit faster than others.
• 52:11
  SPEAKER_05: Mm-hmm.
• 52:12
  SPEAKER_05: And then, Lino, I think too, that boils down to black women and femininity.
• 52:17
  SPEAKER_05: Like, why can't I read the post, this black girl is real cute, she was young, she was 23, 22 years old.
• 52:24
  SPEAKER_05: And I always try to encourage the young black girls.
• 52:26
  SPEAKER_05: I'm like, congratulations, little sis.
• 52:28
  SPEAKER_05: Auntie, proud of you.
• 52:29
  SPEAKER_05: Keep doing it.
• 52:30
  SPEAKER_05: You know, you look pretty.
• 52:31
  SPEAKER_05: I every time I see a post from a young black woman, I try to engage.
• 52:35
  SPEAKER_05: So, any black woman really, but and particularly the young ones.
• 52:39
  SPEAKER_05: She posted a picture of herself in like this real cute little pink dress.
• 52:43
  SPEAKER_05: She had her hair done, her nails done, and she was like, taking myself out on a date.
• 52:47
  SPEAKER_05: I'm feeling soft and pretty today.
• 52:50
  SPEAKER_05: There were so many men and other women who were triggered by her.
• 52:54
  SPEAKER_05: You're not soft and pretty.
• 52:56
  SPEAKER_05: You, you know, you're not, you know, you lie to it.
• 52:59
  SPEAKER_05: So y'all wonder why, and you black women are not allowed to rest in their femininity.
• 53:03
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all don't treat us like women.
• 53:05
  SPEAKER_05: We can't talk about sex.
• 53:06
  SPEAKER_05: We're, we're, we don't hold the traditional femininity role.
• 53:09
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all get upset when men want to treat us and when we treat each other.
• 53:12
  SPEAKER_05: So it's just like sex is the divine feminine.
• 53:16
  SPEAKER_05: Without sex, you niggas wouldn't be here.
• 53:18
  SPEAKER_05: You other women wouldn't be here.
• 53:20
  SPEAKER_05: And as quiet as it's kept, the older that I get, I learn how much about sex and the women, the role that women play in sex is so wrong.
• 53:29
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, women, we have a higher sex drive than men.
• 53:34
  SPEAKER_05: Didn't realize that till men talk about it a lot more, but we really walk the walk.
• 53:41
  SPEAKER_05: Being in my 30s, going like, you know, I I don't know what it is, bitch.
• 53:46
  SPEAKER_05: You turn 30.
• 53:47
  SPEAKER_05: I feel like some days all I can think about is just flashbacks.
• 53:51
  SPEAKER_05: Um, you got a lot of the young boys in our, you know, in our age group are younger.
• 53:55
  SPEAKER_05: Why you niggas 32 with erectile dysfunction?
• 54:00
  SPEAKER_05: It's so many young boys.
• 54:01
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all watch too much porn, y'all take them gas station honey packets.
• 54:05
  SPEAKER_05: Like, bruh, one round, I'm ready to go.
• 54:09
  SPEAKER_05: I think porn and the access to so many like sexual images is killing sex.
• 54:15
  SPEAKER_04: Um, porn.
• 54:18
  SPEAKER_05: Damn.
• 54:19
  SPEAKER_05: I mean, the way you can get it.
• 54:20
  SPEAKER_05: You can scroll on Twitter and Instagram and see pornography.
• 54:23
  SPEAKER_01: Jesus.
• 54:26
  SPEAKER_05: Or like, I think too for so long, porn uh not porn, not pornography.
• 54:34
  SPEAKER_05: I think for so long, sex has always been seen as something to please the man.
• 54:39
  SPEAKER_05: You know how many women have walked around not sexually satisfied?
• 54:44
  SPEAKER_05: Even the men that they're married to, I think that's fucking nuts.
• 54:47
  SPEAKER_05: Like, even with me, I lucked out.
• 54:50
  SPEAKER_05: Well, I didn't luck out because my first partner's a fucking nut case.
• 54:54
  SPEAKER_05: But like, the sex-wise, first of all, Lynth Girth, he was a fucking eater.
• 55:02
  SPEAKER_05: He was, he made sure every time I got mine, and the motherfucker was a stallion.
• 55:09
  SPEAKER_05: We was fucking like rabbits.
• 55:11
  SPEAKER_05: There was not one time where we met up and had sex with each other, where one, it was it was short, and we went more than two fucking rounds each time.
• 55:20
  SPEAKER_04: Well, I've never understood how women sit back and don't express to their partner that they aren't pleased.
• 55:31
  SPEAKER_05: I mean, but think about it.
• 55:32
  SPEAKER_05: You know how niggas act when you don't give them a number in public?
• 55:35
  SPEAKER_05: They be ready to kill.
• 55:36
  SPEAKER_05: Some men, men do not take look, okay.
• 55:40
  SPEAKER_05: We're deviating from the topic, but this is the stuff that needs to be talked about.
• 55:43
  SPEAKER_05: Men do not take rejection well.
• 55:45
  SPEAKER_05: That's true.
• 55:45
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
• 55:47
  SPEAKER_05: Some women aren't even in safe and some women are not in safe environments to even tell their men they want fucking flowers, let alone to sit up there and say, nigga, you not sexually satisfying me.
• 55:57
  SPEAKER_05: The dick is trash.
• 56:00
  SPEAKER_05: And I don't fake, stop fake moaning for these niggas.
• 56:03
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not doing shit.
• 56:04
  SPEAKER_05: I was literally my so my second partner, girl, one time we was having sex, and I sat, I didn't say shit the whole time.
• 56:11
  SPEAKER_05: You didn't know it wasn't good.
• 56:14
  SPEAKER_05: Oh.
• 56:16
  SPEAKER_05: He was mad, but guess what?
• 56:18
  SPEAKER_05: 30 minutes, you fucked this shit out of me.
• 56:20
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah, nigga, that's what you do.
• 56:21
  SPEAKER_05: Because that shit wasn't good.
• 56:22
  SPEAKER_05: It was ass.
• 56:24
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not finna be sitting there with you.
• 56:25
  SPEAKER_05: I know I got good stuff.
• 56:26
  SPEAKER_05: And I perform.
• 56:28
  SPEAKER_05: I ain't no pillow presumption.
• 56:30
  SPEAKER_05: No, bitch.
• 56:33
  SPEAKER_05: You get you gonna get you getting some grade A out of me, bitch.
• 56:36
  SPEAKER_05: I'm getting grade A out of you.
• 56:38
  SPEAKER_05: Or this is done.
• 56:39
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 56:40
  SPEAKER_05: And sex is important.
• 56:41
  SPEAKER_05: And then it's just like two.
• 56:44
  SPEAKER_05: I was talking to one of my other friends about this because she's she's a bigger woman.
• 56:47
  SPEAKER_05: We look a lot alike.
• 56:49
  SPEAKER_05: And people just don't think, you know, if you're not attractive or or if you're not who society needs attractive, you shouldn't be talking about sex, or you don't deserve to be sexually satisfied.
• 56:59
  SPEAKER_05: As quiet as it's kept, y'all pretty ones.
• 57:01
  SPEAKER_05: I hear from because a lot of the niggas that y'all be with be coming in my inbox.
• 57:05
  SPEAKER_05: Because they're not sexually satisfied with y'all.
• 57:07
  SPEAKER_05: So it's just like people need to have, people need to be honest about what they like.
• 57:12
  SPEAKER_05: They need to verbalize it, and they need to have sex with people they actually fucking like.
• 57:16
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, Jesus, have mercy.
• 57:18
  SPEAKER_05: And men date for other men.
• 57:20
  SPEAKER_03: That shit is so much.
• 57:26
  SPEAKER_03: That shit is so fucking childish.
• 57:29
  SPEAKER_03: That is so immature.
• 57:32
  SPEAKER_03: So immature.
• 57:33
  SPEAKER_03: Cause yeah, like you said, what the fuck?
• 57:34
  SPEAKER_03: Go fuck him and then go fucking fuck your friends.
• 57:38
  SPEAKER_03: Fuck out my damn inbox.
• 57:40
  SPEAKER_03: One thing too that That's KJ.
• 57:43
  SPEAKER_03: That's KJ.
• 57:44
  SPEAKER_05: That's him.
• 57:45
  SPEAKER_05: I hear KJ at my bedroom door, y'all.
• 57:50
  SPEAKER_05: I I'm of the firm belief.
• 57:52
  SPEAKER_05: I think 80% of men, especially black men, I feel like 80% of black men sexually they're attracted to women if they're straight.
• 58:03
  SPEAKER_05: But emotionally I think a lot of black men are a lot more attracted to their friends.
• 58:07
  SPEAKER_05: Mmm.
• 58:08
  SPEAKER_01: Jesus.
• 58:11
  SPEAKER_01: Wow.
• 58:12
  SPEAKER_01: That's just what I think about that.
• 58:15
  SPEAKER_01: Mmm.
• 58:22
  SPEAKER_05: Well, girl, okay.
• 58:24
  SPEAKER_05: This is gonna be short and sweet.
• 58:25
  SPEAKER_05: Diarrhea Bia, come to the forefront.
• 58:27
  SPEAKER_05: Oh, yeah.
• 58:29
  SPEAKER_05: Alright.
• 58:29
  SPEAKER_05: Megan the stallion was getting her hair done.
• 58:33
  SPEAKER_05: And she was listening to Pretty and Petty.
• 58:36
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all know what Pretty and Petty is.
• 58:38
  SPEAKER_05: That is a song Cardi B Annihilated BN.
• 58:44
  SPEAKER_05: And um, name 5B, a song's gun pointed to your head.
• 58:50
  SPEAKER_05: You did.
• 58:51
  SPEAKER_05: And Megan laugh like she was like, why would you say, bitch, I laughed.
• 58:55
  SPEAKER_05: And the song came out six months ago.
• 58:56
  SPEAKER_04: So still laughing.
• 58:58
  SPEAKER_04: We're still laughing.
• 59:01
  SPEAKER_05: Bia took it upon herself to post that whack ass Bigfoot song by MAGA Minaj and allude and make jokes about, you know, that's why your mom and dad is dead.
• 59:12
  SPEAKER_05: And she posted the Gail interview clip.
• 59:15
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, I wouldn't say I had sex with Tori Lane's either.
• 59:17
  SPEAKER_05: Ew, yeah, yeah.
• 59:19
  SPEAKER_05: Talking about Bia, bitch, people still can't name five years off.
• 59:23
  SPEAKER_05: Shut the fuck up.
• 59:24
  SPEAKER_05: Still can't.
• 59:24
  SPEAKER_05: I really see.
• 59:26
  SPEAKER_05: I don't know what it is about me being a Pisces season as a Pisces, but bitch, I am so petty.
• 59:32
  SPEAKER_05: That next day, I would have got Clarence from Cardi.
• 59:35
  SPEAKER_05: Hey, pretty and petty remix.
• 59:37
  SPEAKER_05: And killed your motherfucking ass.
• 59:39
  SPEAKER_05: Because you're not touching Megan.
• 59:40
  SPEAKER_05: Honestly, no female rapper right now is touching.
• 59:43
  SPEAKER_05: It's a lot of niggas that's not touching Megan lyrically.
• 59:46
  SPEAKER_05: So shut the fuck up, you elongated face ass bitch.
• 59:50
  SPEAKER_04: And just accept it.
• 59:52
  SPEAKER_04: It just accept it.
• 59:54
  SPEAKER_04: Like that shit was insane.
• 59:57
  SPEAKER_04: Like she just fucking killed you.
• 59:59
  SPEAKER_04: Like, like this shit is still funny.
• 1:00:01
  SPEAKER_04: It's gonna continue to be funny.
• 1:00:03
  SPEAKER_04: And she fucking ripped your ass on that fucking song.
• 1:00:07
  SPEAKER_04: And just accept it.
• 1:00:08
  SPEAKER_04: I really would not even have given it any more air time.
• 1:00:13
  SPEAKER_04: Like I feel like she did worse by trying to like go at Megan.
• 1:00:17
  SPEAKER_04: You you making it, you blowing it up even more.
• 1:00:19
  SPEAKER_04: Now we back.
• 1:00:20
  SPEAKER_05: Fucking go start fucking playing that shit again.
• 1:00:23
  SPEAKER_05: I listened to Pretty and Patty five times at work today.
• 1:00:27
  SPEAKER_05: In a row.
• 1:00:28
  SPEAKER_04: It's like sometimes just like with Drake and Kendrick, like sometimes you have to just own you have to just own that shit that you got smoked.
• 1:00:38
  SPEAKER_04: Like your ass is just was was you were murdered.
• 1:00:41
  SPEAKER_04: You were murdered on the track, you lost, and just walk away.
• 1:00:45
  SPEAKER_04: Just walk away and it's not defeat.
• 1:00:48
  SPEAKER_05: Literally, like, because you couldn't walk away, you got your ass whooped.
• 1:00:52
  SPEAKER_05: You got your ass tongue fool Kenny Karate child for a year straight.
• 1:00:56
  SPEAKER_05: L after L after L.
• 1:00:58
  SPEAKER_05: So much so your career, even that album that you dropped, nothing has saved your fucking career.
• 1:01:04
  SPEAKER_05: And bitch, you suing hoes.
• 1:01:06
  SPEAKER_05: And here's the thing, Bia, let's not be, let's, let's not throw rocks behind your hand.
• 1:01:11
  SPEAKER_05: You, Emily B, who, bitch, you gotten your teeth busted out by Fabulous, a nigga who don't want you that you still chasing behind.
• 1:01:19
  SPEAKER_05: And Hazel E, the 40-plus-year-old who's gonna date Blueface once he gets out, who's uh who's just a fucking bird.
• 1:01:28
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all was laughing at Megan when she got shot initially.
• 1:01:32
  SPEAKER_05: So I don't understand why y'all don't realize everybody that ever talks bad about their girl or messes with her, look at the trajectory of their life.
• 1:01:41
  SPEAKER_05: It turns up bad for them.
• 1:01:43
  SPEAKER_05: Her ancestors, her mama, them, and and Cardi, another one, bitch.
• 1:01:47
  SPEAKER_05: Stefan fired, gone, Cards.
• 1:01:51
  SPEAKER_05: Cardi's all Cardi said was, good luck.
• 1:01:56
  SPEAKER_05: So leave these women alone.
• 1:01:57
  SPEAKER_05: But Bia, you don't want.
• 1:01:58
  SPEAKER_05: I hope Megan paid this bitch.
• 1:02:00
  SPEAKER_05: Does Megan is on Broadway?
• 1:02:01
  SPEAKER_05: She has a song on a hot billboard, number 67, the BBB remix.
• 1:02:07
  SPEAKER_05: She got duck and donuts deals.
• 1:02:10
  SPEAKER_05: She has a tequila line.
• 1:02:12
  SPEAKER_05: Megan got too much going on.
• 1:02:13
  SPEAKER_05: We're worried about long face, diarrhea be a girl, please.
• 1:02:16
  SPEAKER_05: Mm-hmm.
• 1:02:18
  SPEAKER_05: Next caller.
• 1:02:21
  SPEAKER_05: All right, sis.
• 1:02:22
  SPEAKER_05: I'm gonna tackle this one and mute my mic because this was something that got added on, honey.
• 1:02:28
  SPEAKER_05: Um yeah.
• 1:02:30
  SPEAKER_04: Yes, hair culture.
• 1:02:31
  SPEAKER_04: Who's talking about it?
• 1:02:32
  SPEAKER_04: Lord Jesus.
• 1:02:34
  SPEAKER_04: Um, so moving to Nashville, of course, we all know when we move, especially as a black woman, you have your specific spots for eyebrows, nails, and toes, your hair.
• 1:02:52
  SPEAKER_04: And so moving from Clarksville, coming to Nashville, I immediately start, you know, reaching out to uh black co-workers of mine, like, hey, do you have um someone in the area who can do locks?
• 1:03:08
  SPEAKER_04: I asked, you know, someone in the area who can braid KJ's hair.
• 1:03:13
  SPEAKER_04: Like I immediately have to like nail these things down.
• 1:03:16
  SPEAKER_04: And so found someone for KJ's hair.
• 1:03:20
  SPEAKER_04: It was a um uh young lady who is a long-term substitute at the high school for the um for the school, the academy that I work for.
• 1:03:33
  SPEAKER_04: And so she came by, braided KJ's hair, beautiful, awesome.
• 1:03:38
  SPEAKER_04: When it came to my hair, though, I immediately was like hit with deposit.
• 1:03:45
  SPEAKER_04: Now, first of all, out here for locks anyway in Nashville, the price done already went up about, I would say about$40,$40,$50.
• 1:03:55
  SPEAKER_04: It's already, especially for my length of hair.
• 1:03:58
  SPEAKER_04: And so we're talking about wash, retwist, and style.
• 1:04:03
  SPEAKER_04: So already folks are telling me that the price is gonna be close to$180,$160,$180 for that.
• 1:04:14
  SPEAKER_04: And they need a deposit.
• 1:04:16
  SPEAKER_04: And I'm like, okay, you know, you mean like$25 deposit,$15 deposit?
• 1:04:24
  SPEAKER_04: No, they won't have up front at the time of booking.
• 1:04:28
  SPEAKER_04: I'm like, well, damn.
• 1:04:31
  SPEAKER_04: You know, and I completely understand that as an entrepreneur, you have to make sure, especially times like this, you have to make sure that your book is solid, your client book, your, you know, appointment book is good to go.
• 1:04:49
  SPEAKER_04: And so I'm sure that is very frustrating when you say, okay, to this person, your appointment is 10 o'clock tomorrow, and then they don't show up.
• 1:04:58
  SPEAKER_04: Now that's the spot that you could have had for someone else.
• 1:05:01
  SPEAKER_04: Completely understand it.
• 1:05:03
  SPEAKER_04: But you need half up front, half of it, and then, like Ashley, like you were saying, so then I'm made to, of course, that's gonna be put towards the service when I get it done, but then you also expect for me to give you a tip as well.
• 1:05:19
  SPEAKER_04: And so I was just like, well, damn, like the prices already went up because I'm out here in a major city now in Nashville, and um, and you want me to give you half, and I'm expected to tip.
• 1:05:32
  SPEAKER_04: Then I have kids as well, you know.
• 1:05:34
  SPEAKER_04: So anything could happen.
• 1:05:36
  SPEAKER_04: One of my kids could get sick.
• 1:05:38
  SPEAKER_04: I'm not gonna send you half, and God forbid something does come up, and I can't go, and now I'm out of that 60 bucks, 60, 80 dollars.
• 1:05:49
  SPEAKER_04: So, no.
• 1:05:50
  SPEAKER_04: So I had to make that trip back to Clarksville.
• 1:05:55
  SPEAKER_04: I found someone, it's actually um my friend Tiffany, it was her stylist.
• 1:06:00
  SPEAKER_04: Who does her hair because my original stylist, she wasn't available for the rest of March.
• 1:06:04
  SPEAKER_04: And so I went to this young lady.
• 1:06:07
  SPEAKER_04: Um, shout out to Talia off of what is that, 101st, um, out there in Clarksville.
• 1:06:14
  SPEAKER_04: She has a salon.
• 1:06:15
  SPEAKER_04: So shout out to her.
• 1:06:16
  SPEAKER_04: But she got me in and she did not need a deposit.
• 1:06:20
  SPEAKER_04: And so I had to make that, I had to make that hour drive to Clarksville to get my hair done.
• 1:06:23
  SPEAKER_04: Cause I'm like, damn, I can't do it.
• 1:06:25
  SPEAKER_04: I can't do it.
• 1:06:26
  SPEAKER_04: I cannot give you half up front.
• 1:06:28
  SPEAKER_04: And like I say, God forbid, having kids, something happens, and now I'm out of that money.
• 1:06:32
  SPEAKER_04: I just I can't.
• 1:06:33
  SPEAKER_04: So but damn, the deposit shit is insane.
• 1:06:38
  SPEAKER_04: Oof.
• 1:06:41
  SPEAKER_05: I can't.
• 1:06:43
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah, hair culture has changed very rapidly.
• 1:06:48
  SPEAKER_05: And I think we're the last age group to experience shit.
• 1:06:52
  SPEAKER_05: You can go$45 to get your hair washed, trimmed, blow-dry, flat iron, an extra$30 you can get in a relaxed turn color light.
• 1:07:02
  SPEAKER_05: And you just go in the salon, you sit there and do it.
• 1:07:04
  SPEAKER_05: And then it's just like, I don't know.
• 1:07:07
  SPEAKER_05: I feel like because capitalism and social media came into play, it's not even so much as about the joy of doing hair or the health of hair.
• 1:07:16
  SPEAKER_05: Everybody just looks at it as a business of social media gripe.
• 1:07:21
  SPEAKER_05: So it's a lot of women out there that don't.
• 1:07:23
  SPEAKER_05: I call them wig warriors.
• 1:07:25
  SPEAKER_05: I f I feel, you know, I feel like when a lot of black women get older, they experiment with short hair because they live the life they want to live.
• 1:07:33
  SPEAKER_05: I don't know what we're gonna do when we hit our 50s because nobody in our age group knows how to cut.
• 1:07:40
  SPEAKER_05: They don't know how to do nothing but slap a wig on.
• 1:07:43
  SPEAKER_05: Damn.
• 1:07:45
  SPEAKER_05: Think about it.
• 1:07:46
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah most of the women that you know that cut the hell out of hair are 40 and up.
• 1:07:51
  SPEAKER_05: Yes.
• 1:07:53
  SPEAKER_03: That is true.
• 1:07:54
  SPEAKER_05: They don't like the girl who does my hair now, who keeps her woman natural hair, she does a great job.
• 1:08:01
  SPEAKER_05: She specializes in like natural hair, but it's just like even then, like, you have a lot of stylists that really don't know how to take care of the hair that grows out of our scalp.
• 1:08:10
  SPEAKER_05: They can braid you down.
• 1:08:13
  SPEAKER_05: A lot of the, and even with the wig warriors, a lot of them don't even know how to do sew-ins.
• 1:08:18
  SPEAKER_05: Nope.
• 1:08:18
  SPEAKER_05: So what am I paying you for?
• 1:08:21
  SPEAKER_05: To put a wig on, get the same little hot comb glue.
• 1:08:24
  SPEAKER_05: I don't want no glue.
• 1:08:26
  SPEAKER_05: I don't want that shit in my head.
• 1:08:29
  SPEAKER_05: And then it's like, as much as I love bright braiding, it got so expensive.
• 1:08:33
  SPEAKER_04: I can't even imagine.
• 1:08:34
  SPEAKER_04: Because it was expensive when I was getting it done uh over 10 years, but it's been like 12, 12, almost 13 years now.
• 1:08:42
  SPEAKER_04: I can't even imagine how much braids cost right now.
• 1:08:44
  SPEAKER_05: The average cost of just regular, regularly medium box braids, running you at least 280 to 300.
• 1:08:55
  SPEAKER_05: That's not including tip.
• 1:08:56
  SPEAKER_05: Sometimes that's not including hair, because you have some girls that don't have hair.
• 1:09:00
  SPEAKER_05: You have to provide the payment and the hair.
• 1:09:02
  SPEAKER_05: So I know the last time I got a set of like braids done, I think it was when I got my Senegalese, my long twist.
• 1:09:11
  SPEAKER_05: I paid like$300.
• 1:09:12
  SPEAKER_05: They lasted for a grid, but it's like, yeah, girl.
• 1:09:16
  SPEAKER_04: I didn't even you back in the day, I didn't even used to pay that much for fucking micros.
• 1:09:23
  SPEAKER_05: Oh, hell no.
• 1:09:24
  SPEAKER_05: Nope.
• 1:09:25
  SPEAKER_05: And then I think too, a lot of people look at hairstylists.
• 1:09:28
  SPEAKER_05: You remember hairstylists kind of used to fall in line of the working class.
• 1:09:33
  SPEAKER_05: I forget, I I don't remember like the name of the collars, like blue, white.
• 1:09:37
  SPEAKER_05: I don't remember the definition, but I remember people that were hairstylists or barbers fell in line with bankers or teachers, or nowadays most of these hairstylists want to be BBL influencers or strippers.
• 1:09:52
  SPEAKER_05: It's it's all about lifestyle.
• 1:09:54
  SPEAKER_05: So if I'm charging$500 a head for subpar work, but I can still maintain the payment on my bins.
• 1:10:01
  SPEAKER_03: That shit is cool.
• 1:10:02
  SPEAKER_05: It's about the lifestyle.
• 1:10:03
  SPEAKER_05: It's about gain, like most of the hairstylists that's famous are known because of their clientele, not necessarily their work.
• 1:10:11
  SPEAKER_05: Jonathan used to be known for his hair.
• 1:10:13
  SPEAKER_05: He's known for fighting and being on baddies.
• 1:10:14
  SPEAKER_05: Yep.
• 1:10:15
  SPEAKER_05: Cliff has his his hair stuff going on, but it was all a kind of like everybody has a gimmick to nobody got grown, everybody got a gimmick and nobody got grown hands.
• 1:10:25
  SPEAKER_04: There's a light-skinned man who's an influencer who cuts hair.
• 1:10:29
  SPEAKER_04: I can't think of his name, but he recently came up in the blogs that he got some allegations and shit about him, I guess, sexually assaulting somebody or some shit.
• 1:10:38
  SPEAKER_05: Oh yeah.
• 1:10:39
  SPEAKER_05: This the nigga that he, so he has an OnlyFans and he records porn on porn hood.
• 1:10:44
  SPEAKER_05: He used to film haircuts with DL niggas on the low, filming them and he buttons ass naked.
• 1:10:51
  SPEAKER_05: So he's cutting their hair and they sucking him off.
• 1:10:55
  SPEAKER_05: If that's the same guy.
• 1:10:57
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my god.
• 1:11:00
  SPEAKER_05: Bruh, cut the fucking hair.
• 1:11:04
  SPEAKER_05: Are we really doing this?
• 1:11:06
  SPEAKER_05: Am I eating twat for a damn so and girl?
• 1:11:09
  SPEAKER_05: Get the fuck.
• 1:11:10
  SPEAKER_05: Damn.
• 1:11:11
  SPEAKER_05: What is going on?
• 1:11:13
  SPEAKER_05: I just wish black people would get back to their roots.
• 1:11:16
  SPEAKER_05: I really do.
• 1:11:17
  SPEAKER_05: Jesus.
• 1:11:17
  SPEAKER_03: Punished.
• 1:11:18
  SPEAKER_05: And then just punishment.
• 1:11:21
  SPEAKER_05: Big back.
• 1:11:24
  SPEAKER_05: All right.
• 1:11:26
  SPEAKER_05: Target boycott.
• 1:11:28
  SPEAKER_05: It was reported as of today.
• 1:11:29
  SPEAKER_05: Pastor Jamal Pryant came out because the needs were met.
• 1:11:34
  SPEAKER_05: The target boycott is not over.
• 1:11:37
  SPEAKER_05: Bitch.
• 1:11:37
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, I'm not, I've never really been in Target shop like that.
• 1:11:40
  SPEAKER_05: But the bigger question is who appointed you as a delegate of the black community?
• 1:11:44
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, ain't nobody really fucking with black Christians right now.
• 1:11:47
  SPEAKER_05: A lot of you hoes around religious psychosis as it is anyway.
• 1:11:51
  SPEAKER_05: I want to read a tweet.
• 1:11:52
  SPEAKER_05: Shout out to Booker Squad, Booker Squared, excuse me.
• 1:11:56
  SPEAKER_05: To clarify, Minneapolis activists Nikema Levy Armstrong, Jelani Hussain, and Monique Cullers-Doty led the first Target Boycott.
• 1:12:06
  SPEAKER_05: They will not end it until DEI is restored.
• 1:12:08
  SPEAKER_05: Because let's not forget, Target still doesn't have DEI in their stores.
• 1:12:12
  SPEAKER_05: Tamika Mallory, Jamal Bryant, and Nina Turner led the Target Fast Boycott with these demands.
• 1:12:18
  SPEAKER_05: One, honor$2 billion pledge for black businesses.
• 1:12:22
  SPEAKER_05: Two, deposit$250 million in black banks.
• 1:12:26
  SPEAKER_05: Three, support 10 HBCUs, which HBCU stands for Historical Black Colleges and Universities.
• 1:12:34
  SPEAKER_05: Four, restore DEI.
• 1:12:36
  SPEAKER_05: One, the so demands one through three were met.
• 1:12:39
  SPEAKER_05: So Target Fast ended their boycott, but there still is a boycott.
• 1:12:44
  SPEAKER_05: And nobody's shopping.
• 1:12:45
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not shopping there.
• 1:12:46
  SPEAKER_05: And then it's just like, nope.
• 1:12:47
  SPEAKER_05: This is why I say, like, with black celebrities, sometimes I never can take y'all seriously because y'all don't stand for shit but money.
• 1:12:53
  SPEAKER_05: Mm-hmm.
• 1:12:53
  SPEAKER_05: That's it.
• 1:12:54
  SPEAKER_05: Like, it's like y'all are black capitalists.
• 1:12:57
  SPEAKER_05: Because again, if this would have been me, it's like, nigga, we said all four of these demands need to be men.
• 1:13:03
  SPEAKER_05: But we've been doing without Target for this long.
• 1:13:05
  SPEAKER_05: I can still do without fuck Target.
• 1:13:07
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all shit is high.
• 1:13:09
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all clothes don't fit my body.
• 1:13:12
  SPEAKER_05: There's other places I heard to shop.
• 1:13:14
  SPEAKER_05: Mm-hmm.
• 1:13:15
  SPEAKER_05: And again, who made you the black delegate?
• 1:13:17
  SPEAKER_05: We didn't have a meeting.
• 1:13:18
  SPEAKER_05: We didn't roll the motherfucker in.
• 1:13:20
  SPEAKER_05: Fuck Target.
• 1:13:22
  SPEAKER_05: I'm not.
• 1:13:22
  SPEAKER_05: I'll never shop at Target again.
• 1:13:24
  SPEAKER_04: Nope, won't catch me there.
• 1:13:25
  SPEAKER_04: Well, he went all up on the Breakfast Club making his little announcement that we can all go back.
• 1:13:31
  SPEAKER_04: And I'm like, what?
• 1:13:34
  SPEAKER_04: What?
• 1:13:34
  SPEAKER_05: And then half of the niggas that's celebrating as quiet as cap.
• 1:13:37
  SPEAKER_05: You bitches was still shopping to Target anyway.
• 1:13:40
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all, y'all fucking got got by that stupid Daisy Duck Daisy Duck said.
• 1:13:45
  SPEAKER_05: Bitch, please.
• 1:13:51
  SPEAKER_05: I wanna give a shout out.
• 1:13:55
  SPEAKER_05: Respect to the law, humidal.
• 1:13:58
  SPEAKER_05: Um Iran.
• 1:14:03
  SPEAKER_05: I love Elon, I love you.
• 1:14:07
  SPEAKER_05: If you call me, I will do cultural change.
• 1:14:10
  SPEAKER_05: I can make you some copper greens.
• 1:14:11
  SPEAKER_05: Uh I can give you the address to the White House.
• 1:14:14
  SPEAKER_05: I can even, you know, you wanna you need some other hair tonight?
• 1:14:18
  SPEAKER_05: I got you.
• 1:14:19
  SPEAKER_05: I don't want that motherfucker to know.
• 1:14:21
  SPEAKER_05: Iran, the prime minister, told Tom Lamas.
• 1:14:25
  SPEAKER_05: Tom Mamas asked him, like, hey, are you ready for if America comes on Iran Tsar?
• 1:14:31
  SPEAKER_05: Prime Minister looked at him with a smile, we're ready for them.
• 1:14:34
  SPEAKER_00: Mm-hmm.
• 1:14:39
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all thought that I said earlier, with this new army, and let's, that's a whole nother topic.
• 1:14:46
  SPEAKER_05: The reason why I'm so passionate about the military, I have a father who's retired in the military, I had a brother that served, and I worked for the military for years.
• 1:14:53
  SPEAKER_05: I've I've grown up in military communities, and I currently live in one.
• 1:14:56
  SPEAKER_05: I kind of know how this shit works.
• 1:14:58
  SPEAKER_05: And I used to do finance for the military.
• 1:15:02
  SPEAKER_05: We're fucking cooked.
• 1:15:03
  SPEAKER_05: These soldiers are so soft, they don't, they don't, even the military is different from when K Ron was into.
• 1:15:09
  SPEAKER_05: The shit that they get away with is fucking crazy.
• 1:15:13
  SPEAKER_05: But all that being said, if we were to go to war right now, I wouldn't, I don't have faith.
• 1:15:18
  SPEAKER_05: Even if our military was serious, Iran had all these years to prepare.
• 1:15:24
  SPEAKER_05: And then I just think people are tired of white people globally.
• 1:15:28
  SPEAKER_05: People are tired of America and all the atrocities that they've caused.
• 1:15:32
  SPEAKER_05: And what I think will be automatic grounds, what if the entire Middle East band together and fought the fuck out of America?
• 1:15:44
  SPEAKER_05: Because again, you don't know what Iran has planned.
• 1:15:46
  SPEAKER_05: Nope.
• 1:15:47
  SPEAKER_05: Not truthfully.
• 1:15:50
  SPEAKER_05: US is brought because we're literally, we take orders from fucking Israel, the country that has 10 million people.
• 1:15:55
  SPEAKER_05: We have states in the United States that have 10 million people.
• 1:16:00
  SPEAKER_05: So I don't know.
• 1:16:01
  SPEAKER_05: I just, I hate that Trump said, you know, deaths are inevitable.
• 1:16:05
  SPEAKER_05: People are gonna have to die.
• 1:16:06
  SPEAKER_05: Put your big, tall, freaky looking ass son out there to go die.
• 1:16:09
  SPEAKER_04: That shit was so, ugh.
• 1:16:11
  SPEAKER_05: Like I just It was fucking disgusting.
• 1:16:13
  SPEAKER_05: White, first of all, Congress told you no.
• 1:16:16
  SPEAKER_05: The fact that you're not in jail and riding under federal prison says a lot about white privilege.
• 1:16:22
  SPEAKER_05: Had Obama even did that, they would have snatched that nigga off the air in handcuffs.
• 1:16:28
  SPEAKER_05: This motherfucker should be in jail.
• 1:16:30
  SPEAKER_05: And I just, it's it's crazy how we're finna lose so many unnecessarily young lives for no fucking reason.
• 1:16:37
  SPEAKER_05: No, no reason at all.
• 1:16:39
  SPEAKER_05: But again, white people, this y'all war, because Iran already said they're gonna leave Black America's law.
• 1:16:44
  SPEAKER_05: Respect to the law.
• 1:16:45
  SPEAKER_05: Like I said, if this shit does come on U.S.
• 1:16:47
  SPEAKER_05: soil, I'm really gonna say my black ass in house.
• 1:16:50
  SPEAKER_05: And let's be clear.
• 1:16:52
  SPEAKER_05: Y'all, gas and went up a fucking dollar damn near.
• 1:16:56
  SPEAKER_05: Gas is so expensive.
• 1:16:57
  SPEAKER_05: And this shit is only beginning.
• 1:16:59
  SPEAKER_05: You know how hot gas is gonna be by the end of the, by the time summer gets here, I'm I am terrified with gas fin look like.
• 1:17:06
  SPEAKER_05: That is a giraffe's ass, okay?
• 1:17:08
  SPEAKER_05: Hi, giraffe's pussy.
• 1:17:10
  SPEAKER_05: Do you hear me?
• 1:17:11
  SPEAKER_05: Hotter than a jalapeno's coochie outside.
• 1:17:14
  SPEAKER_05: Shout out to Adele uh Gibbons from Beauty Shop.
• 1:17:21
  SPEAKER_05: You remember how like when we were in World With Iran, gas was like$5.
• 1:17:24
  SPEAKER_05: You remember when we had that recession?
• 1:17:26
  SPEAKER_05: Yes.
• 1:17:26
  SPEAKER_05: It's finna give, baby.
• 1:17:28
  SPEAKER_05: When I say I'm gonna be, I'm gonna pull out my skates, I'm gonna buy me a bike, bitch.
• 1:17:33
  SPEAKER_05: We it ain't then we go into Nashville for the weekend.
• 1:17:36
  SPEAKER_05: Girl, let me come, let's call who having a movie night.
• 1:17:38
  SPEAKER_04: Yep.
• 1:17:39
  SPEAKER_04: I know anybody, I know anybody from Clarksville coming to see me.
• 1:17:42
  SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna have to um get real local.
• 1:17:45
  SPEAKER_04: I'ma have to uh FaceTime.
• 1:17:49
  SPEAKER_05: That's all I can afford is to FaceTime.
• 1:17:51
  SPEAKER_05: That's it.
• 1:17:52
  SPEAKER_05: Um, yeah, it's it's it's it's warming up, it's getting bad, but like it's so the conundrum of being a black American in this states, I have loyalty to my people and their struggles, not this fucking country, and the imperialism and colonialism and the capitalism that comes with it.
• 1:18:10
  SPEAKER_01: Amen.
• 1:18:12
  SPEAKER_05: So I don't give a damn.
• 1:18:17
  SPEAKER_05: I give a damn for them soldiers, I give a damn for them people who want to lose people, and they're even talking about bringing back a draft.
• 1:18:24
  SPEAKER_05: And that affects my brother.
• 1:18:27
  SPEAKER_05: That affects any man under the age of 35 that's healthy that can do it.
• 1:18:34
  SPEAKER_05: Jesus Christ.
• 1:18:36
  SPEAKER_05: So it's just a lot.
• 1:18:41
  SPEAKER_05: But last topic, I want to read and talk about a story based out of Florida.
• 1:18:48
  SPEAKER_05: I saw this story initially on TikTok, and then after TikTok, I went to Instagram and scrolling, I saw it again, so I was like, I want to talk about this.
• 1:18:57
  SPEAKER_05: This is Per Neighborhood Talk.
• 1:18:59
  SPEAKER_05: Ty Henson spoke with News Six about the devastation she's been experiencing since she lost her fiance, William Coney.
• 1:19:07
  SPEAKER_05: Months before they were set to tie the knot in the spring.
• 1:19:11
  SPEAKER_05: Okay, let me read that again.
• 1:19:12
  SPEAKER_05: I read that Chip Choppity.
• 1:19:14
  SPEAKER_05: Ty Henson spoke with News 6 about the devastation she's been experiencing since she lost her fiance, William Coney, months before they were set to tie the knot in the spring.
• 1:19:23
  SPEAKER_05: Sounds better.
• 1:19:24
  SPEAKER_05: William unexpectedly passed away with days before Thanksgiving, leaving Ty to have to cancel all of their wedding plans.
• 1:19:31
  SPEAKER_05: Ty was able to get all of her deposits back except for the$7,600 deposit towards their venue at Crystal Ballroom in Lake Mary, Florida.
• 1:19:40
  SPEAKER_05: Ty claims the owners of the venue told her it was non-refundable with no exceptions, and that Ty agreed to this when she signed the contract.
• 1:19:49
  SPEAKER_05: Ty acknowledges that she signed the contract, but feels that the venue should show some type of sympathy and humility given the unfortunate circumstances.
• 1:19:57
  SPEAKER_05: I called the venue two days after he passed away to make them aware this wasn't like a cancellation.
• 1:20:03
  SPEAKER_05: This was a person dying.
• 1:20:04
  SPEAKER_05: Her suggestion was maybe you could do a memorial here on your wedding day.
• 1:20:08
  SPEAKER_05: Bitch, first of all, I don't want to be in that motherfucker.
• 1:20:12
  SPEAKER_05: This this venue crystal ballroom in Lake Mary, Florida, you ought to be a fucking shamed of yourself.
• 1:20:17
  SPEAKER_05: I pray you never get none of the bookings.
• 1:20:19
  SPEAKER_05: I pray you bitches be shut down.
• 1:20:21
  SPEAKER_05: And I pray to God y'all have the business that y'all deserve because that was fucked up.
• 1:20:26
  SPEAKER_05: This man died.
• 1:20:30
  SPEAKER_04: It's he died.
• 1:20:33
  SPEAKER_04: Disgusting.
• 1:20:34
  SPEAKER_04: I believe Charlemagne last week or week before last gave them the donkey of the day.
• 1:20:40
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I remember him talking about it on the Breakfast Club.
• 1:20:42
  SPEAKER_04: It's just disgusting.
• 1:20:44
  SPEAKER_04: It just goes back to like we are so fueled as a society by money, money, greed, greed that we just don't give a fuck no more.
• 1:20:55
  SPEAKER_04: Like this woman was about to get married.
• 1:20:58
  SPEAKER_04: Like this was gonna be her husband.
• 1:21:00
  SPEAKER_04: Why the fuck would you ever think that she now, I'm pretty sure, like they probably picked this place together to be married at?
• 1:21:07
  SPEAKER_04: You know, they probably walk through the venue together and plan this wedding wedding day together and for him to be taken.
• 1:21:14
  SPEAKER_04: Now you want her to go in there and have his, you wanna suggest to this grieving woman that she now have his memorial service there?
• 1:21:23
  SPEAKER_04: Bitch, are you fucking slap in the face?
• 1:21:26
  SPEAKER_05: The way I just would have gone up there and cleared that motherfucker out Swiss cheese, because what is you, what is you talking about?
• 1:21:32
  SPEAKER_05: First of all, oh, it just was so insensitive.
• 1:21:37
  SPEAKER_04: Very, very much so.
• 1:21:38
  SPEAKER_04: And I'm gonna tell you about when we talk about people like that last straw, that could have really been that woman's last straw where she really could have said, you know what, I'm not even about to go back and forth with you.
• 1:21:52
  SPEAKER_04: Don't worry about it.
• 1:21:53
  SPEAKER_04: And she could have pulled up on that ass and blasted that motherfucker, and wouldn't nobody be having no wedding in that bitch.
• 1:22:00
  SPEAKER_04: Then you shut down permanently.
• 1:22:03
  SPEAKER_04: So now what?
• 1:22:04
  SPEAKER_04: When do we draw the line and just go back to being humans?
• 1:22:09
  SPEAKER_04: Human beings and saying, you know what?
• 1:22:11
  SPEAKER_04: Fuck what you signed.
• 1:22:13
  SPEAKER_04: That is so sad.
• 1:22:14
  SPEAKER_04: I'm so sorry that happened to you.
• 1:22:16
  SPEAKER_04: Ma'am, of course you can have your money back.
• 1:22:19
  SPEAKER_04: When do we get back to that?
• 1:22:20
  SPEAKER_04: Or just being good human beings?
• 1:22:25
  SPEAKER_05: Cause it ain't like, you know, we broke up and I'm can't.
• 1:22:29
  SPEAKER_05: No, this man literally passed away.
• 1:22:34
  SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
• 1:22:35
  SPEAKER_05: Uh, y'all do what y'all gotta do.
• 1:22:38
  SPEAKER_05: Negative reviews, block them, don't fucking go there.
• 1:22:42
  SPEAKER_05: Fuck them.
• 1:22:43
  SPEAKER_05: And I was reading their um, I was actually reading some of the reviews on their page.
• 1:22:49
  SPEAKER_05: Some of them, a lot of the reviews saying how unprofessional they were.
• 1:22:52
  SPEAKER_05: Even like, and I'm not talking about, you know, since this story broke.
• 1:22:56
  SPEAKER_05: I went back and was reading reviews from like 2021 prior to COVID.
• 1:23:01
  SPEAKER_05: People were saying how terrible they were.
• 1:23:06
  SPEAKER_01: Wow.
• 1:23:07
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah.
• 1:23:13
  SPEAKER_05: I'm just ugh.
• 1:23:15
  SPEAKER_05: I, the young lady, Miss Ty, I pray for her sanity.
• 1:23:21
  SPEAKER_05: I pray to God for her peace.
• 1:23:25
  SPEAKER_05: I I couldn't imagine losing the love of my life, but then to lose the love of my life while planning the happiest, most important event of your life.
• 1:23:34
  SPEAKER_05: That's that has to be heartbreaking.
• 1:23:36
  SPEAKER_05: So I just pray that she gets the love and supports that she needs and that life is just good to her because I I just couldn't imagine.
• 1:23:44
  SPEAKER_05: I it's so I watched a story that was similar to this.
• 1:23:47
  SPEAKER_05: This young man did this amazing proposal to his girlfriend in the art museum.
• 1:23:52
  SPEAKER_05: She literally died that night leaving the drunk driver hit her and killed her.
• 1:23:57
  SPEAKER_05: So, I like you said, it costs nothing to be kind to somebody.
• 1:24:04
  SPEAKER_01: Jesus, can we just get back to being decent human beings?
• 1:24:09
  SPEAKER_01: I agree.
• 1:24:13
  SPEAKER_05: Well, Bookie Bat, that has been our show.
• 1:24:16
  SPEAKER_05: Yes, yes, yes, yes.
• 1:24:19
  SPEAKER_05: We came back with a vengeance.
• 1:24:21
  SPEAKER_05: This was a good show.
• 1:24:23
  SPEAKER_04: Um, you got anything to add, my love?
• 1:24:26
  SPEAKER_04: I do.
• 1:24:26
  SPEAKER_04: I want to dedicate uh this episode um to a cousin, one of my cousins out in um Lyndon, Alabama, Demopolis, Alabama, um, folks out in Huntsville, um, also folks out I'm trying to uh Montgomery, Alabama.
• 1:24:48
  SPEAKER_04: So that area of mine, um, I want to dedicate this episode to um my cousin, Ashley Jenkins.
• 1:24:56
  SPEAKER_04: Ashley Jenkins um was taken away from us.
• 1:25:00
  SPEAKER_04: She passed.
• 1:25:01
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and so her funeral will be this Saturday down in Alabama.
• 1:25:06
  SPEAKER_04: I don't think I'm gonna make it.
• 1:25:07
  SPEAKER_04: Um, but Ashley was only 24, same age as my sister's.
• 1:25:12
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and she was dealing with some health issues, um, and she passed away at home alone.
• 1:25:19
  SPEAKER_04: Um, I believe in her sleep, I believe it was a seizure.
• 1:25:24
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and so I just want to dedicate this episode to her.
• 1:25:28
  SPEAKER_04: Um, I want to just tell my family down there in Alabama that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
• 1:25:34
  SPEAKER_04: Um, Ashley is also a twin.
• 1:25:36
  SPEAKER_04: She has a twin sister, Amber Jenkins.
• 1:25:39
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and so Amber, I want to say to you too um that I'm wrapping my arms around you.
• 1:25:45
  SPEAKER_04: I can't even imagine um losing the one that you came into this world with.
• 1:25:50
  SPEAKER_04: Um and so, and also Auntie Jennifer, all of y'all down there, my cousins.
• 1:25:56
  SPEAKER_04: Um, I'm praying for y'all.
• 1:25:58
  SPEAKER_04: I love y'all.
• 1:25:58
  SPEAKER_04: So I just want to dedicate this episode to you.
• 1:26:01
  SPEAKER_04: And like I said, um I don't think I'm gonna be able to make it to Alabama.
• 1:26:05
  SPEAKER_04: I wish I could, but you and my thoughts, you and my prayers, and Ashley, um, me and you, we just had a conversation um on Facebook.
• 1:26:14
  SPEAKER_04: It was like a week, I believe, before you had passed.
• 1:26:17
  SPEAKER_04: And um, we talked about how we wanted to get together and see each other, not knowing that I wouldn't be able to do that the next week that you would be taken from us.
• 1:26:28
  SPEAKER_04: And so um I love you.
• 1:26:30
  SPEAKER_04: Um, I'm thinking about you, and I hope you sleep well, sleep easy.
• 1:26:36
  SPEAKER_04: Um, and like I said, once again, to my family um down in Alabama, my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
• 1:26:45
  SPEAKER_04: So this goes out to Ashley.
• 1:26:49
  SPEAKER_05: Rest in peace, Ashley.
• 1:26:51
  SPEAKER_05: May your soul be content on the other side, and may, you know, we wrap our hands, our love, um, our support to your family.
• 1:27:05
  SPEAKER_05: Um, that has to be such a tough thing.
• 1:27:08
  SPEAKER_05: All right.
• 1:27:09
  SPEAKER_05: Rest in peace.
• 1:27:10
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 1:27:10
  SPEAKER_05: Rest in peace.
• 1:27:11
  SPEAKER_05: Um, and we will end the show on that.
• 1:27:14
  SPEAKER_05: Um, we love y'all.
• 1:27:15
  SPEAKER_05: This has been the episode, Susan and Sink, and we dedicate this to Miss Ashley.
• 1:27:20
  unknown: All right.
• 1:27:21
  SPEAKER_04: Love y'all.
• 1:27:22
  SPEAKER_04: Bye.