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Confidence Doesn’t Start as a Feeling — How It’s Built When You’re Uncomfortable | EP 274 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Welcome
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  to
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  the
• 0:05
  new
• 0:06
  series,
• 0:06
  unavailable
• 0:08
  for
• 0:08
  Self
• 0:08
  Abandonment,
• 0:10
  a
• 0:10
  series
• 0:10
  for
• 0:10
  women
• 0:11
  who
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  are
• 0:11
  done
• 0:12
  negotiating
• 0:13
  with
• 0:13
  themselves.
• 0:14
  This
• 0:14
  is
• 0:14
  for
• 0:14
  the
• 0:14
  woman
• 0:15
  who's
• 0:15
  confident
• 0:16
  enough
• 0:16
  to
• 0:16
  disappoint
• 0:17
  because
• 0:18
  self-trust
• 0:19
  is
• 0:19
  now
• 0:20
  the
• 0:20
  standard
• 0:21
  here.
• 0:22
  Confidence
• 0:22
  is
• 0:23
  more
• 0:23
  than
• 0:23
  a
• 0:23
  feeling.
• 0:24
  It's
• 0:24
  a
• 0:24
  belief
• 0:25
  formed
• 0:26
  through
• 0:26
  action,
• 0:27
  practice,
• 0:28
  and
• 0:28
  repetition.
• 0:29
  It's
• 0:29
  what
• 0:30
  you
• 0:30
  do
• 0:30
  when
• 0:30
  it
• 0:30
  would
• 0:30
  be
• 0:31
  easier
• 0:31
  to
• 0:31
  explain
• 0:32
  yourself,
• 0:33
  perform
• 0:34
  or
• 0:34
  betray
• 0:35
  what
• 0:35
  you
• 0:36
  already
• 0:36
  know
• 0:36
  is
• 0:37
  true
• 0:37
  for
• 0:37
  you.
• 0:38
  So
• 0:38
  if
• 0:38
  you
• 0:39
  are
• 0:39
  ready
• 0:39
  to
• 0:39
  stop
• 0:40
  abandoning
• 0:40
  yourself,
• 0:41
  just
• 0:42
  to
• 0:42
  keep
• 0:42
  the
• 0:42
  peace
• 0:43
  you
• 0:43
  are
• 0:43
  in
• 0:43
  the
• 0:44
  right
• 0:44
  place.
• 0:49
  If
• 0:50
  confidence
• 0:50
  feels
• 0:51
  inconsistent
• 0:52
  right
• 0:52
  now,
• 0:52
  it's
• 0:52
  not
• 0:53
  because
• 0:53
  you're
• 0:53
  broken,
• 0:54
  it's
• 0:54
  because
• 0:55
  you
• 0:56
  are
• 0:56
  in
• 0:56
  training.
• 0:58
  If
• 0:58
  you
• 0:58
  hear
• 0:59
  one
• 0:59
  episode
• 1:00
  in
• 1:00
  this
• 1:00
  whole
• 1:00
  series,
• 1:01
  let
• 1:01
  it
• 1:02
  be
• 1:02
  this
• 1:02
  one
• 1:03
  because
• 1:03
  confidence
• 1:04
  isn't
• 1:04
  built
• 1:04
  when
• 1:05
  you
• 1:05
  feel
• 1:05
  ready.
• 1:06
  It's
• 1:06
  built
• 1:06
  when
• 1:07
  you
• 1:07
  move.
• 1:08
  Even
• 1:08
  when
• 1:08
  it's
• 1:09
  nowhere
• 1:09
  in
• 1:09
  sight.
• 1:10
  Today
• 1:10
  we're
• 1:11
  talking
• 1:11
  about
• 1:11
  how
• 1:11
  confidence
• 1:12
  is
• 1:12
  built
• 1:13
  through
• 1:13
  action,
• 1:13
  not
• 1:14
  certainty,
• 1:15
  and
• 1:15
  how
• 1:15
  to
• 1:16
  reconnect
• 1:16
  with
• 1:16
  the
• 1:16
  version
• 1:17
  of
• 1:17
  you
• 1:17
  who
• 1:17
  already
• 1:18
  knows
• 1:19
  how
• 1:19
  to
• 1:20
  move
• 1:20
  without
• 1:21
  guarantees.
• 1:25
  Hey,
• 1:25
  friend,
• 1:26
  I'm
• 1:26
  so
• 1:26
  happy
• 1:27
  you're
• 1:27
  here.
• 1:27
  Confident
• 1:28
  and
• 1:28
  empowered
• 1:29
  women
• 1:29
  exist
• 1:30
  for
• 1:30
  women
• 1:30
  who
• 1:30
  wanna
• 1:31
  feel
• 1:31
  grounded
• 1:32
  in
• 1:32
  who
• 1:32
  they
• 1:32
  are
• 1:33
  while
• 1:34
  they
• 1:34
  grow
• 1:34
  into
• 1:35
  who
• 1:35
  they're
• 1:35
  becoming.
• 1:36
  Here
• 1:36
  we
• 1:37
  talk
• 1:37
  about.
• 1:37
  Self-love,
• 1:38
  self-trust,
• 1:39
  discipline
• 1:40
  without
• 1:40
  burnout.
• 1:41
  Emotional
• 1:41
  safety,
• 1:42
  boundaries,
• 1:43
  confidence,
• 1:43
  and
• 1:44
  showing
• 1:44
  up
• 1:44
  consistently
• 1:46
  in
• 1:46
  a
• 1:46
  way
• 1:47
  that
• 1:47
  actually
• 1:48
  last.
• 1:49
  This
• 1:49
  isn't
• 1:49
  about
• 1:50
  hustling
• 1:50
  or
• 1:51
  proving
• 1:51
  yourself.
• 1:52
  It's
• 1:52
  about
• 1:52
  building
• 1:53
  a
• 1:53
  life
• 1:54
  that
• 1:54
  feels
• 1:54
  aligned
• 1:55
  and
• 1:55
  sustainable.
• 1:57
  If
• 1:57
  you
• 1:57
  are
• 1:57
  looking
• 1:57
  for
• 1:58
  conversations
• 1:58
  that
• 1:59
  support
• 1:59
  your
• 1:59
  nervous
• 2:00
  system
• 2:00
  and
• 2:00
  your
• 2:01
  goals,
• 2:01
  you
• 2:02
  have
• 2:02
  found
• 2:02
  your
• 2:02
  new
• 2:02
  favorite
• 2:03
  podcast.
• 2:04
  Subscribing
• 2:05
  just
• 2:05
  means
• 2:06
  you
• 2:06
  don't
• 2:06
  have
• 2:06
  to
• 2:06
  navigate
• 2:07
  these
• 2:07
  seasons
• 2:08
  alone.
• 2:09
  This
• 2:09
  space
• 2:09
  is
• 2:10
  here
• 2:10
  to
• 2:10
  support
• 2:11
  you
• 2:11
  as
• 2:11
  you
• 2:11
  evolve,
• 2:13
  and
• 2:13
  I
• 2:13
  couldn't
• 2:13
  be
• 2:13
  happier
• 2:14
  to
• 2:14
  connect
• 2:15
  with
• 2:15
  you
• 2:15
  here.
• 2:19
  Hey,
• 2:19
  hey,
• 2:19
  hey.
• 2:20
  Welcome
• 2:20
  back
• 2:20
  to
• 2:21
  Confident
• 2:21
  and
• 2:21
  Empowered
• 2:22
  Women.
• 2:23
  This
• 2:24
  is
• 2:24
  a
• 2:24
  new
• 2:24
  series
• 2:25
  called
• 2:25
  Unavailable
• 2:26
  for
• 2:26
  Self
• 2:27
  Abandonment
• 2:28
  for
• 2:28
  the
• 2:28
  woman
• 2:29
  who
• 2:29
  is
• 2:29
  done
• 2:29
  negotiating
• 2:30
  with
• 2:30
  herself
• 2:31
  confident
• 2:32
  enough
• 2:32
  to
• 2:33
  disappoint
• 2:34
  because
• 2:34
  self-trust
• 2:35
  is
• 2:35
  now
• 2:36
  the
• 2:36
  new
• 2:37
  standard.
• 2:38
  Confidence
• 2:38
  isn't
• 2:39
  something
• 2:40
  you
• 2:40
  wait
• 2:40
  for.
• 2:41
  It's
• 2:41
  something
• 2:42
  you
• 2:42
  choose,
• 2:43
  especially
• 2:44
  when
• 2:45
  it's
• 2:45
  uncomfortable.
• 2:46
  Every
• 2:46
  time
• 2:47
  you
• 2:47
  overexplain
• 2:48
  yourself,
• 2:49
  shrink
• 2:49
  your
• 2:49
  standards
• 2:50
  or
• 2:50
  ignore
• 2:51
  what
• 2:51
  you
• 2:52
  know.
• 2:52
  You
• 2:53
  teach
• 2:53
  yourself
• 2:54
  not
• 2:54
  to
• 2:54
  trust
• 2:55
  you.
• 2:55
  So
• 2:56
  think
• 2:56
  of
• 2:56
  confidence
• 2:57
  like
• 2:57
  a
• 2:57
  bank
• 2:57
  account
• 2:58
  that
• 2:58
  already
• 2:59
  exists.
• 3:00
  You
• 3:00
  don't
• 3:00
  earn
• 3:01
  confidence,
• 3:01
  you
• 3:02
  access
• 3:03
  it.
• 3:03
  Every
• 3:03
  time
• 3:04
  you
• 3:04
  take
• 3:04
  action
• 3:05
  before
• 3:05
  you
• 3:06
  feel
• 3:06
  ready,
• 3:07
  you
• 3:07
  plug
• 3:08
  back
• 3:08
  into
• 3:08
  yourself.
• 3:09
  Every
• 3:10
  time
• 3:10
  you
• 3:10
  avoid
• 3:11
  the
• 3:11
  thing
• 3:11
  you
• 3:12
  know
• 3:12
  you
• 3:12
  need
• 3:12
  to
• 3:13
  do,
• 3:13
  that
• 3:14
  connection
• 3:15
  gets
• 3:15
  interrupted.
• 3:16
  And
• 3:16
  then
• 3:17
  we
• 3:17
  have
• 3:18
  the
• 3:18
  nerve
• 3:19
  honey.
• 3:20
  To
• 3:21
  wonder
• 3:21
  why
• 3:22
  confidence
• 3:22
  feels
• 3:23
  low.
• 3:23
  It's
• 3:24
  not
• 3:24
  because
• 3:24
  it's
• 3:25
  gone.
• 3:25
  It's
• 3:26
  because
• 3:26
  we
• 3:27
  are
• 3:27
  just
• 3:27
  temporarily
• 3:28
  disconnected
• 3:29
  from
• 3:30
  it.
• 3:30
  The
• 3:30
  moment
• 3:31
  you
• 3:31
  move
• 3:31
  again,
• 3:32
  confidence
• 3:33
  comes
• 3:33
  back
• 3:33
  online.
• 3:34
  So
• 3:34
  if
• 3:35
  you're
• 3:35
  ready
• 3:35
  to
• 3:35
  stop
• 3:36
  betraying
• 3:36
  yourself
• 3:37
  just
• 3:38
  to
• 3:38
  keep
• 3:38
  the
• 3:38
  peace,
• 3:39
  let's
• 3:39
  talk.
• 3:40
  by
• 3:41
  definition,
• 3:42
  confidence
• 3:42
  is
• 3:43
  a
• 3:43
  feeling
• 3:44
  or
• 3:44
  belief
• 3:45
  that
• 3:45
  one
• 3:45
  can
• 3:46
  rely
• 3:46
  on
• 3:46
  someone
• 3:47
  or
• 3:47
  something.
• 3:48
  It's
• 3:49
  a
• 3:49
  firm
• 3:50
  trust.
• 3:51
  Now,
• 3:51
  here's
• 3:51
  my
• 3:52
  philosophy,
• 3:52
  and
• 3:53
  if
• 3:53
  you
• 3:53
  take
• 3:53
  nothing
• 3:54
  else
• 3:54
  from
• 3:54
  this
• 3:54
  episode,
• 3:55
  take
• 3:56
  this
• 3:56
  friend.
• 3:57
  Confidence
• 3:58
  is
• 3:58
  conditioning.
• 4:00
  You
• 4:00
  don't
• 4:00
  wait
• 4:01
  to
• 4:01
  feel
• 4:01
  confident.
• 4:02
  The
• 4:03
  feeling
• 4:03
  comes
• 4:04
  later.
• 4:05
  The
• 4:05
  belief
• 4:07
  is
• 4:07
  what
• 4:07
  comes
• 4:07
  first.
• 4:08
  You
• 4:08
  train
• 4:09
  it,
• 4:09
  you
• 4:09
  practice
• 4:10
  it.
• 4:10
  You
• 4:10
  condition
• 4:11
  yourself
• 4:12
  for
• 4:13
  it.
• 4:13
  Just
• 4:13
  like
• 4:14
  strength
• 4:14
  or
• 4:15
  endurance
• 4:15
  training.
• 4:16
  Self-trust
• 4:17
  works
• 4:18
  the
• 4:18
  same.
• 4:19
  Confidence
• 4:19
  grows
• 4:20
  through
• 4:20
  repetition
• 4:21
  and
• 4:21
  discomfort,
• 4:23
  not
• 4:23
  motivation.
• 4:24
  So
• 4:25
  let's
• 4:25
  talk
• 4:25
  about
• 4:25
  why
• 4:26
  so
• 4:26
  many
• 4:27
  of
• 4:27
  us
• 4:27
  think
• 4:28
  confidence
• 4:28
  is
• 4:28
  just
• 4:29
  a
• 4:29
  feeling
• 4:29
  in
• 4:29
  the
• 4:30
  first
• 4:30
  place.
• 4:31
  Because
• 4:31
  we've
• 4:31
  been
• 4:32
  taught
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  associate
• 4:33
  confidence
• 4:34
  with
• 4:34
  how
• 4:34
  we
• 4:34
  feel
• 4:35
  in
• 4:35
  our
• 4:35
  body.
• 4:36
  Calm,
• 4:37
  certain,
• 4:37
  grounded,
• 4:38
  but
• 4:38
  those
• 4:39
  feelings,
• 4:40
  they
• 4:40
  don't
• 4:40
  show
• 4:40
  up
• 4:41
  first.
• 4:41
  They
• 4:42
  come
• 4:42
  after
• 4:43
  we've
• 4:44
  moved.
• 4:45
  We
• 4:45
  mistake
• 4:46
  the
• 4:46
  result
• 4:47
  for
• 4:47
  the
• 4:47
  requirement,
• 4:48
  so
• 4:49
  we
• 4:49
  sit
• 4:49
  there
• 4:50
  waiting
• 4:51
  to
• 4:51
  feel
• 4:51
  confident
• 4:52
  when
• 4:52
  confidence
• 4:53
  is
• 4:53
  actually
• 4:54
  something
• 4:54
  that
• 4:54
  gets
• 4:55
  built
• 4:55
  through
• 4:56
  action.
• 4:57
  Your
• 4:58
  nervous
• 4:58
  system
• 4:59
  is
• 4:59
  designed
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  signal
• 5:00
  safety
• 5:01
  after
• 5:02
  repetition,
• 5:03
  not
• 5:04
  before.
• 5:05
  So
• 5:05
  when
• 5:05
  something
• 5:06
  is
• 5:06
  new,
• 5:07
  your
• 5:07
  body
• 5:07
  doesn't
• 5:07
  feel
• 5:08
  confident,
• 5:09
  it
• 5:09
  feels
• 5:09
  alert,
• 5:10
  high
• 5:11
  alert
• 5:11
  to
• 5:11
  be
• 5:11
  exact.
• 5:13
  And
• 5:14
  then
• 5:14
  we
• 5:14
  misinterpret
• 5:15
  and
• 5:15
  mislabel
• 5:16
  that
• 5:17
  alertness
• 5:18
  to
• 5:18
  mean
• 5:19
  I'm
• 5:19
  not
• 5:19
  confident
• 5:20
  yet.
• 5:20
  But
• 5:21
  alert
• 5:21
  doesn't
• 5:22
  mean
• 5:22
  incapable.
• 5:23
  It
• 5:24
  means
• 5:24
  unfamiliar.
• 5:26
  Confidence
• 5:26
  isn't
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  absence
• 5:27
  of
• 5:28
  sensation,
• 5:28
  it's
• 5:28
  the
• 5:29
  ability
• 5:30
  to
• 5:30
  stay
• 5:31
  connected
• 5:31
  to
• 5:31
  yourself.
• 5:32
  Through
• 5:33
  the
• 5:33
  sensation.
• 5:34
  That's
• 5:35
  why
• 5:35
  confidence
• 5:36
  feels
• 5:36
  like
• 5:36
  a
• 5:37
  feeling
• 5:37
  later
• 5:38
  because
• 5:39
  familiarity
• 5:40
  creates
• 5:41
  safety.
• 5:42
  Confidence
• 5:42
  isn't
• 5:43
  built
• 5:43
  when
• 5:43
  things
• 5:44
  feel
• 5:44
  safe.
• 5:45
  It's
• 5:46
  built
• 5:46
  when
• 5:46
  things
• 5:46
  feel
• 5:46
  unfamiliar
• 5:48
  and
• 5:48
  you
• 5:48
  stay
• 5:49
  anyway.
• 5:50
  Discomfort
• 5:51
  does
• 5:51
  not
• 5:52
  equal
• 5:52
  danger.
• 5:53
  Discomfort
• 5:54
  is
• 5:55
  a
• 5:55
  training
• 5:55
  signal.
• 5:56
  The
• 5:56
  goal
• 5:57
  isn't
• 5:57
  to
• 5:57
  eliminate
• 5:58
  discomfort.
• 5:59
  The
• 5:59
  goal
• 6:00
  is
• 6:00
  to
• 6:00
  stay
• 6:01
  long
• 6:01
  enough
• 6:02
  for
• 6:02
  discomfort
• 6:02
  to
• 6:03
  become
• 6:03
  familiar.
• 6:05
  That's
• 6:05
  how
• 6:05
  confidence
• 6:06
  forms.
• 6:07
  We
• 6:07
  misinterpret
• 6:08
  discomfort
• 6:09
  to
• 6:09
  mean
• 6:10
  that
• 6:10
  we
• 6:11
  need
• 6:11
  to
• 6:11
  stop
• 6:12
  or
• 6:13
  procrastinate,
• 6:15
  but
• 6:16
  really
• 6:16
  it's
• 6:17
  just
• 6:17
  an
• 6:17
  invitation
• 6:19
  to
• 6:20
  get
• 6:20
  comfortable.
• 6:21
  So
• 6:21
  if
• 6:21
  confidence
• 6:22
  feels
• 6:22
  inconsistent
• 6:23
  right
• 6:23
  now,
• 6:24
  it
• 6:24
  doesn't
• 6:25
  mean
• 6:25
  you've
• 6:25
  lost
• 6:26
  it.
• 6:26
  It
• 6:26
  means
• 6:27
  you're
• 6:27
  conditioning
• 6:28
  yourself
• 6:28
  for
• 6:29
  a
• 6:29
  new
• 6:29
  level,
• 6:31
  new
• 6:31
  environment,
• 6:32
  new
• 6:32
  reps,
• 6:33
  new
• 6:33
  confidence,
• 6:34
  a.
• 6:34
  All
• 6:35
  inviting
• 6:36
  you
• 6:36
  into
• 6:37
  a
• 6:37
  deeper
• 6:37
  level
• 6:38
  of
• 6:38
  confidence.
• 6:39
  Nothing
• 6:40
  has
• 6:40
  gone
• 6:40
  wrong
• 6:41
  as
• 6:41
  long
• 6:42
  as
• 6:42
  we
• 6:42
  are
• 6:43
  alive,
• 6:43
  friend.
• 6:44
  We
• 6:45
  are
• 6:45
  gonna
• 6:45
  keep
• 6:45
  entering
• 6:46
  new
• 6:46
  stages
• 6:47
  and
• 6:47
  new
• 6:48
  phases
• 6:48
  of
• 6:48
  life,
• 6:49
  new
• 6:49
  ground,
• 6:50
  new
• 6:50
  territory,
• 6:51
  new
• 6:52
  spaces
• 6:52
  we've
• 6:53
  never
• 6:53
  occupied
• 6:54
  before,
• 6:54
  and
• 6:55
  every
• 6:55
  new
• 6:55
  level
• 6:56
  requires
• 6:57
  a
• 6:57
  new
• 6:57
  level
• 6:58
  of
• 6:58
  confidence.
• 6:59
  So
• 7:00
  instead
• 7:00
  of
• 7:00
  misinterpreting
• 7:01
  this
• 7:02
  as
• 7:02
  something
• 7:03
  being
• 7:03
  wrong
• 7:03
  with
• 7:04
  you,
• 7:04
  which
• 7:05
  side
• 7:05
  note
• 7:06
  is
• 7:06
  often
• 7:07
  an
• 7:07
  old
• 7:08
  default
• 7:08
  setting
• 7:09
  that
• 7:09
  we
• 7:10
  can
• 7:10
  update.
• 7:11
  Just
• 7:11
  recognize
• 7:12
  it
• 7:12
  for
• 7:13
  what
• 7:13
  it
• 7:13
  is.
• 7:14
  You're
• 7:14
  in
• 7:14
  a
• 7:14
  new
• 7:15
  territory
• 7:16
  and
• 7:16
  you
• 7:16
  are
• 7:17
  being
• 7:17
  invited
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  grow.
• 7:19
  Now
• 7:20
  I
• 7:20
  wanna
• 7:20
  invite
• 7:20
  you
• 7:21
  to
• 7:21
  remember
• 7:21
  a
• 7:22
  time
• 7:22
  you
• 7:23
  were
• 7:23
  confident.
• 7:24
  Yes.
• 7:25
  You
• 7:25
  think
• 7:26
  back
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  a
• 7:26
  time
• 7:27
  when
• 7:27
  you
• 7:27
  knew
• 7:29
  you
• 7:29
  were
• 7:29
  that
• 7:30
  girl.
• 7:31
  Yes.
• 7:32
  Yes.
• 7:32
  Friend.
• 7:33
  Cue
• 7:33
  Alexa
• 7:34
  to
• 7:34
  play
• 7:34
  Eve.
• 7:35
  Who's
• 7:35
  that
• 7:35
  girl?
• 7:38
  That
• 7:38
  was
• 7:38
  you.
• 7:41
  And
• 7:41
  listen,
• 7:42
  it
• 7:42
  wasn't
• 7:43
  because
• 7:43
  everything
• 7:44
  was
• 7:44
  perfect,
• 7:45
  it
• 7:45
  was
• 7:45
  because
• 7:45
  you
• 7:45
  trusted
• 7:46
  yourself.
• 7:47
  When
• 7:48
  were
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  fearless?
• 7:49
  Scrappy?
• 7:50
  When
• 7:51
  were
• 7:51
  you
• 7:51
  willing
• 7:52
  to
• 7:52
  figure
• 7:52
  it
• 7:52
  out
• 7:53
  as
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  went
• 7:53
  along?
• 7:54
  I
• 7:55
  worked
• 7:55
  with
• 7:55
  a
• 7:55
  client
• 7:56
  who
• 7:56
  reminded
• 7:56
  me
• 7:57
  of
• 7:57
  this
• 7:57
  so
• 7:58
  powerfully
• 7:59
  years
• 8:00
  ago,
• 8:00
  she
• 8:01
  was
• 8:01
  couch
• 8:01
  surfing,
• 8:02
  performing
• 8:03
  music,
• 8:03
  chasing
• 8:04
  her
• 8:04
  dreams.
• 8:05
  No
• 8:05
  guarantees,
• 8:06
  no
• 8:07
  safety
• 8:07
  net.
• 8:08
  And
• 8:08
  she
• 8:09
  was
• 8:10
  confident,
• 8:11
  not
• 8:11
  because
• 8:12
  life
• 8:12
  was
• 8:12
  easy,
• 8:13
  because
• 8:13
  trust,
• 8:14
  couch
• 8:14
  surfing,
• 8:15
  very
• 8:15
  dangerous
• 8:15
  game,
• 8:20
  but
• 8:20
  despite
• 8:21
  that
• 8:21
  wild
• 8:21
  and
• 8:21
  crazy
• 8:22
  adventure,
• 8:23
  she
• 8:23
  trusted
• 8:24
  herself.
• 8:24
  Now,
• 8:25
  her
• 8:26
  life
• 8:26
  felt
• 8:26
  more
• 8:27
  stable,
• 8:28
  but
• 8:28
  she
• 8:29
  felt
• 8:29
  less
• 8:30
  confident,
• 8:31
  and
• 8:32
  the
• 8:32
  breakthrough
• 8:32
  wasn't
• 8:33
  learning
• 8:33
  something
• 8:34
  new.
• 8:35
  It
• 8:35
  was
• 8:35
  remembering
• 8:36
  who
• 8:37
  she
• 8:37
  was.
• 8:38
  She
• 8:38
  didn't
• 8:38
  need
• 8:38
  more
• 8:39
  confidence.
• 8:40
  She
• 8:40
  needed
• 8:40
  to
• 8:40
  tap
• 8:41
  back
• 8:41
  into
• 8:41
  the
• 8:41
  version
• 8:42
  of
• 8:42
  herself
• 8:42
  who
• 8:43
  already
• 8:43
  knew
• 8:44
  how
• 8:44
  to
• 8:44
  move
• 8:45
  through
• 8:45
  uncertainty
• 8:46
  and
• 8:46
  know
• 8:47
  that
• 8:47
  she
• 8:47
  could
• 8:48
  trust
• 8:48
  herself
• 8:49
  to
• 8:49
  be
• 8:49
  okay.
• 8:50
  So
• 8:51
  go
• 8:52
  back
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  the
• 8:52
  2010
• 8:53
  version
• 8:54
  of
• 8:54
  you.
• 8:54
  Okay.
• 8:55
  Was
• 8:55
  that
• 8:56
  the
• 8:56
  year
• 8:56
  for
• 8:56
  you
• 8:57
  or
• 8:57
  was
• 8:57
  it
• 8:57
  another
• 8:58
  year?
• 8:58
  You
• 8:58
  know,
• 8:59
  the
• 8:59
  one,
• 9:00
  that
• 9:00
  version
• 9:01
  of
• 9:01
  you
• 9:01
  who
• 9:01
  didn't
• 9:02
  overthink
• 9:02
  everything,
• 9:03
  who
• 9:03
  figured
• 9:04
  it
• 9:04
  out
• 9:04
  as
• 9:04
  she
• 9:05
  went,
• 9:05
  who
• 9:05
  trusted
• 9:06
  herself
• 9:07
  to
• 9:07
  land
• 9:07
  on
• 9:08
  her
• 9:08
  feet,
• 9:09
  and
• 9:09
  even
• 9:09
  if
• 9:10
  she
• 9:10
  wasn't
• 9:11
  sure
• 9:11
  if
• 9:12
  landing
• 9:12
  on
• 9:12
  her
• 9:12
  feet
• 9:13
  was
• 9:13
  even
• 9:13
  gonna
• 9:13
  be
• 9:13
  the
• 9:14
  first
• 9:14
  option.
• 9:17
  She
• 9:17
  trusted
• 9:18
  in
• 9:18
  God
• 9:19
  source
• 9:19
  universe
• 9:21
  that
• 9:22
  she
• 9:22
  was
• 9:22
  gonna
• 9:22
  be
• 9:23
  just
• 9:23
  fine.
• 9:24
  That
• 9:24
  version
• 9:25
  of
• 9:25
  you
• 9:25
  still
• 9:26
  exist.
• 9:28
  Listen
• 9:28
  to
• 9:28
  me
• 9:29
  with
• 9:29
  your
• 9:29
  whole
• 9:30
  heart
• 9:31
  when
• 9:31
  I
• 9:31
  say
• 9:31
  this.
• 9:32
  And
• 9:32
  if
• 9:32
  you're
• 9:33
  already
• 9:33
  thinking,
• 9:34
  I
• 9:34
  don't
• 9:35
  know
• 9:35
  that
• 9:35
  I've
• 9:35
  ever
• 9:36
  felt
• 9:37
  confident.
• 9:38
  That's
• 9:38
  okay,
• 9:38
  friend.
• 9:39
  Let's
• 9:40
  write
• 9:41
  her
• 9:41
  now.
• 9:42
  Let's
• 9:43
  write
• 9:43
  that
• 9:43
  chapter
• 9:44
  now
• 9:44
  to
• 9:44
  be
• 9:45
  played
• 9:45
  on
• 9:45
  repeat.
• 9:47
  What's
• 9:47
  the
• 9:47
  story
• 9:48
  you
• 9:48
  wanna
• 9:48
  tell
• 9:49
  about
• 9:49
  the
• 9:49
  confident
• 9:50
  version
• 9:51
  of
• 9:51
  you?
• 9:52
  How
• 9:52
  does
• 9:52
  she
• 9:52
  move?
• 9:53
  What
• 9:53
  does
• 9:54
  she
• 9:54
  do
• 9:54
  when
• 9:54
  she's
• 9:55
  uncomfortable?
• 9:56
  How
• 9:56
  does
• 9:56
  she
• 9:57
  treat
• 9:57
  herself
• 9:58
  when
• 9:58
  she
• 9:59
  doesn't
• 9:59
  have
• 9:59
  all
• 9:59
  the
• 9:59
  answers?
• 10:01
  This
• 10:01
  is
• 10:01
  how
• 10:02
  confidence
• 10:02
  gets
• 10:03
  trained,
• 10:04
  not
• 10:04
  by
• 10:05
  waiting,
• 10:06
  but
• 10:06
  by
• 10:06
  choosing.
• 10:08
  You
• 10:08
  don't
• 10:08
  wait
• 10:09
  to
• 10:09
  become
• 10:09
  her.
• 10:10
  You
• 10:10
  live
• 10:11
  as
• 10:11
  her
• 10:12
  now
• 10:13
  through
• 10:13
  your
• 10:13
  choices.
• 10:14
  Confidence
• 10:15
  is
• 10:15
  built.
• 10:16
  One
• 10:17
  uncomfortable
• 10:17
  decision
• 10:18
  at
• 10:18
  a
• 10:18
  time.
• 10:19
  So
• 10:19
  here's
• 10:20
  your
• 10:20
  practice.
• 10:21
  Do
• 10:21
  the
• 10:22
  one
• 10:22
  thing
• 10:22
  before
• 10:23
  you
• 10:23
  feel
• 10:23
  ready,
• 10:24
  stay
• 10:25
  present
• 10:25
  through
• 10:25
  the
• 10:26
  discomfort.
• 10:27
  Let
• 10:27
  familiarity
• 10:28
  do
• 10:29
  its
• 10:29
  thing
• 10:30
  that's
• 10:30
  conditioning.
• 10:34
  Hey
• 10:34
  friend.
• 10:35
  Most
• 10:36
  women
• 10:36
  don't
• 10:37
  struggle
• 10:37
  with
• 10:37
  understanding
• 10:38
  what
• 10:38
  they
• 10:38
  need.
• 10:39
  They
• 10:39
  struggle
• 10:40
  with
• 10:40
  staying
• 10:41
  connected
• 10:41
  to
• 10:41
  it.
• 10:42
  The
• 10:42
  Main
• 10:43
  Character
• 10:43
  Momentum
• 10:44
  Builder
• 10:44
  was
• 10:44
  designed
• 10:45
  to
• 10:45
  solve
• 10:46
  just
• 10:46
  that.
• 10:47
  It
• 10:47
  supports
• 10:48
  you
• 10:48
  in
• 10:48
  choosing
• 10:49
  from
• 10:49
  self-love
• 10:50
  consistently,
• 10:51
  even
• 10:51
  when
• 10:52
  life
• 10:52
  gets
• 10:52
  busy
• 10:53
  or
• 10:53
  your
• 10:53
  energy
• 10:54
  dips
• 10:55
  out
• 10:55
  on
• 10:55
  you.
• 10:56
  Over
• 10:56
  time,
• 10:57
  that
• 10:57
  consistency
• 10:58
  becomes
• 10:59
  momentum.
• 11:00
  The
• 11:01
  kind
• 11:01
  that
• 11:01
  changes
• 11:02
  how
• 11:02
  you
• 11:02
  show
• 11:02
  up
• 11:03
  across
• 11:03
  your
• 11:03
  life.
• 11:04
  You'll
• 11:04
  find
• 11:05
  it
• 11:05
  linked
• 11:05
  below.
• 11:06
  And
• 11:06
  now
• 11:07
  I
• 11:07
  wanna
• 11:07
  show
• 11:08
  you
• 11:08
  how
• 11:08
  to
• 11:08
  start
• 11:09
  choosing
• 11:09
  yourself
• 11:10
  in
• 11:10
  real
• 11:10
  time.
• 11:14
  Now
• 11:14
  listen,
• 11:15
  we
• 11:15
  already
• 11:15
  know
• 11:16
  confidence
• 11:16
  is
• 11:17
  not
• 11:17
  gonna
• 11:17
  build
• 11:17
  itself,
• 11:19
  and
• 11:19
  it
• 11:19
  doesn't
• 11:20
  grow
• 11:20
  from
• 11:20
  insight
• 11:21
  alone.
• 11:22
  It
• 11:22
  grows
• 11:23
  from
• 11:23
  what
• 11:23
  you
• 11:23
  do
• 11:24
  next.
• 11:25
  Everything
• 11:26
  we
• 11:26
  talked
• 11:26
  about
• 11:27
  today
• 11:27
  comes
• 11:27
  back
• 11:27
  to
• 11:28
  one.
• 11:28
  Thing,
• 11:29
  staying
• 11:30
  connected
• 11:31
  to
• 11:31
  yourself.
• 11:32
  So
• 11:32
  I
• 11:32
  wanna
• 11:33
  show
• 11:33
  you
• 11:33
  exactly
• 11:34
  how
• 11:34
  I
• 11:34
  do
• 11:35
  that
• 11:35
  in
• 11:35
  real
• 11:35
  life.
• 11:36
  This
• 11:36
  is
• 11:37
  the
• 11:37
  self-love
• 11:37
  two
• 11:37
  step
• 11:38
  I
• 11:38
  come
• 11:38
  back
• 11:39
  to
• 11:39
  anytime.
• 11:40
  Confidence
• 11:41
  feels
• 11:41
  inconsistent
• 11:42
  and
• 11:43
  I
• 11:43
  wanna
• 11:43
  invite
• 11:44
  you
• 11:44
  to
• 11:44
  try
• 11:44
  it
• 11:44
  too.
• 11:45
  This
• 11:46
  self-love.
• 11:47
  Step
• 11:47
  is
• 11:47
  the
• 11:48
  Reconnect
• 11:49
  and
• 11:49
  Move
• 11:49
  Method,
• 11:50
  because
• 11:51
  confidence
• 11:51
  isn't
• 11:52
  built
• 11:52
  by
• 11:53
  feeling
• 11:53
  better.
• 11:54
  It's
• 11:54
  built
• 11:55
  by
• 11:55
  staying
• 11:56
  connected
• 11:56
  to
• 11:56
  yourself
• 11:57
  and
• 11:57
  choosing
• 11:58
  movement.
• 11:59
  Anyway,
• 12:00
  step
• 12:01
  one,
• 12:01
  reconnect
• 12:02
  to
• 12:02
  yourself.
• 12:03
  This
• 12:03
  step
• 12:04
  is
• 12:04
  key
• 12:05
  before
• 12:05
  you
• 12:06
  try
• 12:06
  to
• 12:06
  feel
• 12:07
  confident.
• 12:08
  This
• 12:09
  step
• 12:09
  is
• 12:09
  all
• 12:10
  about
• 12:10
  self
• 12:11
  connection,
• 12:12
  not
• 12:13
  self-talk.
• 12:13
  When
• 12:14
  confidence
• 12:14
  gets
• 12:15
  shaky,
• 12:16
  the
• 12:16
  instinct
• 12:17
  is
• 12:17
  to
• 12:17
  fix
• 12:17
  yourself,
• 12:18
  psych
• 12:19
  yourself
• 12:19
  up,
• 12:19
  or
• 12:20
  wait
• 12:20
  until
• 12:20
  you
• 12:20
  feel
• 12:21
  ready.
• 12:21
  Instead,
• 12:22
  I
• 12:23
  want
• 12:23
  you
• 12:23
  to
• 12:23
  do
• 12:23
  this.
• 12:24
  Whip
• 12:24
  out
• 12:24
  your
• 12:25
  journal
• 12:25
  'cause
• 12:26
  here
• 12:26
  are
• 12:26
  some
• 12:26
  entries
• 12:26
  for
• 12:27
  you.
• 12:27
  What
• 12:28
  do
• 12:28
  I
• 12:28
  know
• 12:29
  right
• 12:29
  now?
• 12:30
  Even
• 12:30
  if
• 12:31
  I
• 12:31
  don't
• 12:31
  feel
• 12:31
  certain?
• 12:32
  What
• 12:33
  would
• 12:33
  I
• 12:33
  do
• 12:34
  if
• 12:34
  I
• 12:34
  trusted
• 12:35
  myself
• 12:36
  instead
• 12:37
  of
• 12:37
  my
• 12:37
  fear?
• 12:38
  Which
• 12:39
  version
• 12:39
  of
• 12:40
  me
• 12:40
  has
• 12:41
  handled
• 12:41
  uncertainty
• 12:42
  before?
• 12:44
  And
• 12:44
  then
• 12:44
  this
• 12:44
  is
• 12:45
  your
• 12:45
  new
• 12:45
  mantra.
• 12:46
  You
• 12:46
  can
• 12:46
  say
• 12:46
  it
• 12:46
  out
• 12:47
  loud
• 12:47
  or
• 12:47
  internally
• 12:48
  if
• 12:48
  you
• 12:49
  like.
• 12:49
  this
• 12:49
  step
• 12:50
  right
• 12:50
  here
• 12:50
  prevents
• 12:51
  self
• 12:52
  abandonment.
• 12:53
  Step
• 12:54
  two,
• 12:54
  move
• 12:55
  with
• 12:55
  yourself,
• 12:56
  not
• 12:57
  away
• 12:57
  from
• 12:57
  yourself.
• 12:58
  This
• 12:59
  is
• 12:59
  where
• 12:59
  confidence
• 13:00
  gets
• 13:00
  conditioned.
• 13:02
  You
• 13:02
  choose
• 13:03
  one
• 13:03
  aligned
• 13:03
  action.
• 13:04
  It
• 13:04
  could
• 13:05
  be
• 13:05
  one
• 13:06
  conversation.
• 13:07
  You
• 13:07
  know,
• 13:08
  the
• 13:08
  one
• 13:08
  that
• 13:08
  you've
• 13:08
  been
• 13:09
  meaning
• 13:09
  to
• 13:09
  have
• 13:09
  with
• 13:09
  that
• 13:10
  friend
• 13:10
  that
• 13:10
  you've
• 13:10
  been
• 13:11
  avoiding.
• 13:12
  Or
• 13:12
  maybe
• 13:12
  it's
• 13:13
  one
• 13:13
  boundary,
• 13:14
  one
• 13:15
  solid
• 13:16
  boundary.
• 13:16
  You
• 13:17
  finally
• 13:17
  set
• 13:18
  with
• 13:18
  that
• 13:19
  family
• 13:19
  member
• 13:20
  you
• 13:20
  know,
• 13:20
  the
• 13:20
  one
• 13:21
  who
• 13:21
  has
• 13:21
  crossed
• 13:22
  dang
• 13:22
  near
• 13:22
  every
• 13:23
  boundary
• 13:23
  and
• 13:24
  will
• 13:24
  turn
• 13:24
  it
• 13:24
  any
• 13:25
  which
• 13:25
  way
• 13:25
  but
• 13:26
  loose.
• 13:29
  Or
• 13:29
  maybe
• 13:30
  you
• 13:30
  just
• 13:30
  take
• 13:31
  one
• 13:31
  step
• 13:32
  forward,
• 13:32
  one
• 13:33
  honest
• 13:34
  move.
• 13:35
  Not
• 13:35
  to
• 13:35
  feel
• 13:36
  confident,
• 13:37
  but
• 13:37
  to
• 13:37
  stay
• 13:38
  connected
• 13:39
  while
• 13:39
  you
• 13:40
  move
• 13:41
  and
• 13:41
  to
• 13:42
  anchor
• 13:42
  in
• 13:42
  that
• 13:43
  new
• 13:43
  belief.
• 13:44
  Confidence
• 13:45
  comes
• 13:46
  back
• 13:46
  online
• 13:48
  when
• 13:48
  I
• 13:48
  move.
• 13:49
  This
• 13:49
  is
• 13:49
  how
• 13:50
  you
• 13:50
  anchor
• 13:50
  in
• 13:51
  the
• 13:51
  belief
• 13:52
  of
• 13:52
  confidence
• 13:53
  that
• 13:53
  it
• 13:53
  comes
• 13:54
  back
• 13:54
  online.
• 13:55
  When
• 13:55
  I
• 13:55
  move,
• 13:56
  you
• 13:56
  don't
• 13:57
  rush,
• 13:57
  you
• 13:58
  don't
• 13:58
  perform,
• 13:59
  you
• 13:59
  don't
• 13:59
  override.
• 14:00
  You
• 14:00
  move
• 14:01
  with
• 14:02
  yourself,
• 14:03
  not
• 14:03
  against
• 14:04
  yourself.
• 14:04
  And
• 14:05
  this
• 14:05
  is
• 14:05
  the
• 14:05
  step
• 14:06
  that
• 14:06
  builds
• 14:06
  trust
• 14:07
  through
• 14:07
  repetition.
• 14:09
  When
• 14:09
  you
• 14:09
  reconnect
• 14:10
  to
• 14:10
  the
• 14:10
  best
• 14:11
  of
• 14:11
  you
• 14:11
  and
• 14:12
  move
• 14:12
  from
• 14:13
  that
• 14:13
  place
• 14:14
  that
• 14:14
  my
• 14:15
  friend
• 14:15
  is
• 14:15
  main
• 14:16
  character
• 14:17
  energy,
• 14:18
  Now
• 14:19
  lemme
• 14:19
  pour
• 14:19
  into
• 14:20
  you
• 14:20
  right
• 14:20
  quick.
• 14:21
  If
• 14:21
  confidence
• 14:22
  feels
• 14:22
  shaky
• 14:23
  right
• 14:23
  now,
• 14:24
  I
• 14:24
  wanna
• 14:24
  remind
• 14:25
  you
• 14:25
  of
• 14:25
  this.
• 14:26
  You
• 14:26
  are
• 14:26
  not
• 14:26
  behind.
• 14:27
  You
• 14:27
  are
• 14:27
  not
• 14:27
  broken.
• 14:28
  Discomfort
• 14:29
  isn't
• 14:30
  danger.
• 14:31
  It's
• 14:31
  a
• 14:32
  training
• 14:32
  signal.
• 14:33
  You
• 14:33
  are
• 14:34
  standing
• 14:34
  on
• 14:35
  new
• 14:35
  ground
• 14:36
  and
• 14:36
  new
• 14:37
  ground.
• 14:37
  Always
• 14:38
  ask
• 14:38
  us
• 14:38
  to
• 14:38
  build
• 14:40
  new
• 14:41
  trust
• 14:42
  within
• 14:42
  ourselves.
• 14:43
  So
• 14:43
  don't
• 14:43
  rush
• 14:44
  yourself.
• 14:45
  Don't
• 14:45
  pressure
• 14:45
  yourself
• 14:46
  to
• 14:46
  feel
• 14:47
  ready.
• 14:47
  Just.
• 14:48
  Stay
• 14:49
  with
• 14:49
  yourself.
• 14:50
  That's
• 14:50
  how
• 14:51
  confidence
• 14:51
  comes
• 14:52
  back
• 14:52
  online.
• 14:53
  Not
• 14:53
  all
• 14:54
  at
• 14:54
  once,
• 14:55
  but
• 14:55
  one
• 14:55
  step
• 14:56
  at
• 14:56
  a
• 14:56
  time.
• 14:57
  You
• 14:57
  don't
• 14:57
  need
• 14:58
  to
• 14:58
  become
• 14:58
  someone
• 14:59
  new
• 14:59
  to
• 14:59
  be
• 15:00
  confident.
• 15:01
  You
• 15:01
  just
• 15:01
  need
• 15:01
  to
• 15:02
  stop
• 15:02
  leaving
• 15:02
  yourself
• 15:03
  when
• 15:04
  things
• 15:04
  feel
• 15:05
  uncertain.
• 15:06
  You
• 15:06
  might
• 15:07
  feel
• 15:07
  uncertain
• 15:08
  when
• 15:08
  it
• 15:08
  comes
• 15:09
  to
• 15:09
  sharing
• 15:10
  your
• 15:10
  voice,
• 15:12
  actually
• 15:12
  expressing
• 15:13
  yourself,
• 15:13
  sharing
• 15:14
  your
• 15:14
  ideas,
• 15:15
  sharing
• 15:15
  your
• 15:15
  thoughts
• 15:16
  and
• 15:16
  opinions
• 15:17
  you
• 15:17
  might
• 15:18
  feel.
• 15:19
  Very
• 15:20
  uncertain
• 15:21
  when
• 15:21
  it
• 15:21
  comes
• 15:22
  to
• 15:23
  saying
• 15:23
  no
• 15:24
  and
• 15:24
  really
• 15:25
  meaning
• 15:25
  it.
• 15:26
  You
• 15:26
  might
• 15:26
  even
• 15:26
  feel
• 15:27
  uncertain
• 15:27
  about
• 15:28
  saying
• 15:28
  yes
• 15:28
  to
• 15:29
  something
• 15:29
  that
• 15:29
  you
• 15:30
  know
• 15:31
  is
• 15:31
  good
• 15:31
  for
• 15:31
  you,
• 15:32
  but
• 15:33
  you
• 15:33
  know
• 15:33
  that
• 15:33
  it
• 15:34
  comes
• 15:34
  at
• 15:34
  the
• 15:34
  cost
• 15:35
  of
• 15:36
  letting
• 15:36
  go
• 15:37
  of
• 15:37
  someone
• 15:38
  that
• 15:38
  you
• 15:38
  love
• 15:38
  or
• 15:39
  care
• 15:39
  about.
• 15:40
  It
• 15:40
  is
• 15:40
  okay
• 15:41
  to
• 15:41
  feel
• 15:42
  the
• 15:42
  discomfort
• 15:43
  of
• 15:43
  uncertainty.
• 15:45
  You've
• 15:45
  handled
• 15:45
  uncertainty
• 15:46
  before.
• 15:47
  This
• 15:48
  isn't
• 15:48
  new.
• 15:49
  It's
• 15:50
  familiar,
• 15:51
  and
• 15:51
  if
• 15:51
  confidence
• 15:52
  feels
• 15:53
  inconsistent,
• 15:54
  it
• 15:54
  doesn't
• 15:55
  mean
• 15:55
  you've
• 15:55
  lost
• 15:56
  it.
• 15:56
  It
• 15:56
  means
• 15:57
  you
• 15:58
  are
• 15:58
  leveling
• 15:58
  up.
• 15:59
  The
• 15:59
  version
• 16:00
  of
• 16:00
  you
• 16:00
  who
• 16:00
  knows
• 16:01
  how
• 16:01
  to
• 16:01
  figure
• 16:01
  it
• 16:02
  out.
• 16:02
  She's
• 16:03
  still
• 16:03
  here.
• 16:05
  She
• 16:05
  didn't
• 16:05
  disappear.
• 16:06
  She
• 16:07
  just
• 16:07
  hasn't
• 16:07
  been
• 16:07
  invited
• 16:08
  forward
• 16:09
  yet.
• 16:10
  You
• 16:10
  don't
• 16:10
  lose
• 16:10
  confidence.
• 16:12
  You
• 16:12
  disconnect
• 16:13
  from
• 16:13
  it,
• 16:13
  and
• 16:14
  the
• 16:14
  beauty
• 16:14
  is
• 16:15
  confidence
• 16:16
  comes
• 16:16
  right
• 16:17
  back
• 16:17
  online.
• 16:18
  The
• 16:18
  moment
• 16:19
  you
• 16:19
  stop
• 16:20
  abandoning
• 16:20
  yourself,
• 16:22
  the
• 16:22
  moment
• 16:22
  that
• 16:23
  you
• 16:23
  stop
• 16:24
  allowing
• 16:25
  everyone
• 16:25
  else's
• 16:26
  comfort
• 16:26
  to
• 16:26
  come
• 16:27
  before
• 16:27
  your
• 16:27
  own.
• 16:29
  This
• 16:29
  doesn't
• 16:29
  make
• 16:30
  you
• 16:30
  selfish
• 16:31
  or
• 16:31
  self-centered.
• 16:32
  Now
• 16:33
  more
• 16:33
  than
• 16:33
  ever,
• 16:34
  it's
• 16:34
  time
• 16:35
  to
• 16:35
  be
• 16:35
  self
• 16:36
  connected.
• 16:37
  Self-love
• 16:38
  looks
• 16:39
  like
• 16:39
  staying
• 16:39
  with
• 16:40
  yourself
• 16:40
  even
• 16:41
  when
• 16:41
  things
• 16:41
  get
• 16:41
  uncomfortable
• 16:43
  But
• 16:43
  every
• 16:43
  time
• 16:43
  you
• 16:44
  choose
• 16:44
  yourself,
• 16:45
  even
• 16:45
  in
• 16:46
  small
• 16:46
  ways,
• 16:47
  you
• 16:47
  remind
• 16:48
  your
• 16:49
  body,
• 16:50
  I
• 16:50
  can
• 16:50
  trust
• 16:51
  me,
• 16:52
  and
• 16:52
  that
• 16:52
  trust,
• 16:53
  that's
• 16:54
  confidence.
• 16:55
  So
• 16:55
  connect
• 16:56
  back
• 16:56
  to
• 16:56
  yourself,
• 16:57
  love
• 16:58
  yourself
• 16:58
  a
• 16:58
  little
• 16:59
  more,
• 16:59
  and
• 17:00
  watch
• 17:00
  your
• 17:00
  confidence
• 17:01
  come
• 17:01
  back
• 17:02
  online.
• 17:03
  Stronger
• 17:03
  and
• 17:04
  steadier
• 17:04
  than
• 17:04
  ever.
• 17:06
  Now,
• 17:06
  this
• 17:06
  right
• 17:06
  here,
• 17:07
  friend,
• 17:07
  I
• 17:07
  really
• 17:08
  want
• 17:08
  you
• 17:08
  to
• 17:08
  take
• 17:08
  this
• 17:09
  with
• 17:09
  you.
• 17:09
  Confidence
• 17:10
  doesn't
• 17:11
  come
• 17:11
  from
• 17:11
  being
• 17:12
  self-centered.
• 17:13
  It
• 17:13
  comes
• 17:14
  from
• 17:14
  being
• 17:14
  self
• 17:15
  connected
• 17:16
  and
• 17:16
  anyone
• 17:17
  who
• 17:17
  tries
• 17:18
  to
• 17:18
  convince
• 17:18
  you
• 17:19
  that
• 17:19
  you're
• 17:19
  being
• 17:19
  selfish.
• 17:20
  It
• 17:21
  is
• 17:21
  just
• 17:21
  because
• 17:22
  they
• 17:22
  benefited
• 17:23
  from
• 17:23
  you.
• 17:24
  Not
• 17:24
  expressing
• 17:25
  your
• 17:25
  voice,
• 17:26
  not
• 17:26
  saying
• 17:27
  what
• 17:27
  you
• 17:28
  need,
• 17:28
  not
• 17:28
  honoring
• 17:29
  what
• 17:29
  you
• 17:30
  need.
• 17:30
  They
• 17:31
  benefited
• 17:31
  from
• 17:32
  you,
• 17:32
  putting
• 17:33
  them
• 17:33
  first.
• 17:34
  And
• 17:34
  now
• 17:34
  that
• 17:35
  they
• 17:35
  see
• 17:35
  that
• 17:35
  being
• 17:36
  taken
• 17:36
  away,
• 17:37
  it's
• 17:37
  got
• 17:37
  them
• 17:38
  shocked
• 17:38
  and
• 17:38
  shook
• 17:39
  if,
• 17:42
  But
• 17:42
  even
• 17:42
  though
• 17:43
  in
• 17:43
  those
• 17:43
  moments
• 17:44
  you'll
• 17:44
  feel
• 17:45
  some
• 17:45
  discomfort,
• 17:46
  it
• 17:46
  does
• 17:47
  not
• 17:47
  mean
• 17:48
  shy
• 17:48
  away.
• 17:49
  It
• 17:50
  means
• 17:50
  stand
• 17:51
  true.
• 17:53
  Every
• 17:53
  time
• 17:53
  you
• 17:53
  choose
• 17:54
  yourself,
• 17:55
  even
• 17:55
  when
• 17:55
  it's
• 17:55
  uncomfortable,
• 17:56
  you
• 17:57
  build
• 17:57
  the
• 17:57
  kind
• 17:58
  of
• 17:58
  confidence
• 17:58
  that
• 17:59
  can't
• 17:59
  be
• 17:59
  shaken
• 18:00
  so
• 18:00
  just
• 18:01
  remember
• 18:01
  when
• 18:02
  you
• 18:02
  start
• 18:02
  to
• 18:02
  feel
• 18:03
  uncomfortable.
• 18:05
  Stay
• 18:05
  in
• 18:05
  it
• 18:05
  with
• 18:06
  yourself
• 18:07
  because
• 18:08
  this
• 18:08
  is
• 18:08
  the
• 18:08
  moment
• 18:09
  for
• 18:09
  you
• 18:09
  to
• 18:10
  reconnect
• 18:11
  to
• 18:11
  the
• 18:11
  best
• 18:12
  of
• 18:12
  who
• 18:12
  you
• 18:12
  are
• 18:13
  and
• 18:14
  operate
• 18:14
  from
• 18:15
  that
• 18:15
  place
• 18:16
  because
• 18:16
  the
• 18:16
  moment
• 18:17
  you
• 18:17
  reconnect
• 18:18
  to
• 18:18
  yourself,
• 18:19
  confidence
• 18:20
  returns.
• 18:21
  So
• 18:22
  stay
• 18:22
  unavailable
• 18:24
  for
• 18:24
  self-abandonment
• 18:25
  and
• 18:25
  you
• 18:26
  do
• 18:26
  that
• 18:26
  by
• 18:27
  having
• 18:27
  a
• 18:27
  strong
• 18:28
  belief
• 18:29
  in
• 18:29
  your
• 18:30
  confidence
• 18:31
  and
• 18:31
  knowing
• 18:31
  that
• 18:31
  when
• 18:32
  you
• 18:32
  take
• 18:32
  action
• 18:33
  and
• 18:34
  choose
• 18:34
  yourself
• 18:35
  on
• 18:35
  repeat,
• 18:36
  your
• 18:36
  confidence
• 18:37
  shows
• 18:37
  up
• 18:38
  aloud
• 18:38
  and
• 18:39
  proud.
• 18:42
  Ooh,
• 18:42
  friend.
• 18:43
  All
• 18:43
  that
• 18:43
  main
• 18:44
  character
• 18:44
  energy.
• 18:45
  Okay.
• 18:48
  I
• 18:49
  am
• 18:49
  loving
• 18:50
  this
• 18:50
  new
• 18:50
  series,
• 18:51
  and
• 18:51
  I
• 18:51
  can't
• 18:52
  wait
• 18:53
  to
• 18:53
  meet
• 18:53
  you
• 18:54
  in
• 18:54
  the
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