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Fasting For Mom's With Christin VanHouten | Faithful Fitness · Faithful Fitness With Coach Alex VanHouten

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  Speaker 1: Hey, faithful, welcome to the Faithful Fitness Podcast. In a moment,
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  Speaker 1: my dad, coach Alex van Houghton, will help you honor
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  Speaker 1: God by making the most out of the body God's
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  Speaker 1: given you. Today you can expect truth from the Bible,
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  Speaker 1: tools from science, being guidance for everyday life. So listen closing,
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  Speaker 1: get ready, let's get one percent better today.
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  Speaker 2: Hey faithful, Coach Alex here, grace in peace to you.
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  Speaker 2: Last week we stepped outside the walls. We talked about
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  Speaker 2: why this message faith, fitness and stewardship has to reach
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  Speaker 2: beyond the church, into culture, into systems, and into conversations
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  Speaker 2: that most people don't expect. But this week we come
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  Speaker 2: right back home because it's one thing to talk about
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  Speaker 2: the mission out there, and it's another thing to actually
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  Speaker 2: live it in your body and in your own house.
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  Speaker 2: This conversation is with my wife, Kristen van Houghten, and
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  Speaker 2: what you're about to get to hear is simple, but
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  Speaker 2: it's not easy. We talked about fasting, We talked about discipline,
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  Speaker 2: We talked about what it actually takes to train your
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  Speaker 2: body so it doesn't get in the way of your obedience.
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  Speaker 2: Because here's the truth. If your body is undisciplined, it'll
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  Speaker 2: interrupt your prayers, it'll weaken your focus, and it will
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  Speaker 2: quietly pull you away from the very things that you
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  Speaker 2: say matter most to you. That's not condemnation, that's reality.
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  Speaker 2: In Scripture, you see this over and over again. When
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  Speaker 2: the people of God needed clarity, when they needed breakthrough,
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  Speaker 2: when they needed to hear from the Lord, they didn't
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  Speaker 2: just think differently. They fasted, they humbled themselves. They brought
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  Speaker 2: their bodies into alignment with their prayers, not to earn anything,
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  Speaker 2: but to remove interference. And that's what this episode is
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  Speaker 2: all about, not perfection, not performing, but training your body
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  Speaker 2: so it becomes a servant, not a distraction. So as
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  Speaker 2: you listen, I want you to wrestle with this question,
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  Speaker 2: where is my lack of discipline quietly interfering with my
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  Speaker 2: obedience to God? Sit with that, and if this message
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  Speaker 2: is stirring something in you, if you realize that you
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  Speaker 2: don't just need more information, but you need structure, community
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  Speaker 2: and training. That's exactly why Faithful Fitness exists. Right now,
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  Speaker 2: have to figure this out alone. Check out the link
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  Speaker 2: in the show notes. All right, without further ado, it's
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  Speaker 2: time to dive in. What's up faithful coach Alex van
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  Speaker 2: Hotten here, I'm super excited to be doing another episode
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  Speaker 2: of Faithful Fitness with my lovely wife. She didn't run screaming. Yay,
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  Speaker 2: it was like a month ago, right, No more, maybe
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  Speaker 2: more than a month ago. Okay, Well, we have a
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  Speaker 2: lot to talk about today. We're going to be talking
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  Speaker 2: about my new book is published. Are you so excited?
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, You're not as excited as I am, But
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  Speaker 2: I'm so excited. She's very excited too, She's just more
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  Speaker 2: reserved than I am. But we're going to talk more
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  Speaker 2: about that in a bit. We have some stuff to
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  Speaker 2: talk about with regard to the shred. So you still exist,
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  Speaker 2: I do.
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  Speaker 3: I'm shredded, shredded.
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  Speaker 2: You shredded. I'm very proud of you. You kicked button
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  Speaker 2: tich names. That was good. All right, So I want
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  Speaker 2: to talk about your shred though, because people hear from
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  Speaker 2: me a lot about fasting and exercise and nutrition from
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  Speaker 2: a man's perspective, but you went through the shred and
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  Speaker 2: you've done it before, yeah, and from a lady's perspective,
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  Speaker 2: things are a little different. And so I want to
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  Speaker 2: talk to you about your experience shred, but also what
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  Speaker 2: kind of results your body gave you? What was hard
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  Speaker 2: about it? What was easy about it? So I'm just
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  Speaker 2: going to start with a very simple question. Fasting, what
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  Speaker 2: the heck like? It's not easy. It's not easy, and
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  Speaker 2: it's particularly challenging for a female's body. And I know
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  Speaker 2: for you you've seen me fast I mean days, well, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and like how long ago, like since we've been married,
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  Speaker 2: of fasted on and off. So so you have not
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  Speaker 2: always fasted, and you've had two kids, you've breastfed them,
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  Speaker 2: you have worked, you've done all the stuff. Can you
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  Speaker 2: talk about your fasting experience and how that culminated and
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  Speaker 2: what you were able to do in this shred?
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  Speaker 3: Well, in our lives, fasting became a topic worth conversation
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  Speaker 3: about four years ago to date for you, Bennett was
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  Speaker 3: about three at that time, I felt like my body
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  Speaker 3: had stabilized a little bit, and we just started that
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  Speaker 3: discipleship group and we went through celebration of discipline. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: so probably my first swoop of fasting was in celebration
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  Speaker 3: of discipline. It was an inward spiritual discipline that were
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  Speaker 3: called to do to glorify the Lord. And I would
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  Speaker 3: say at that time, I don't think I fully believed
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  Speaker 3: I could do it, and so I really didn't try it.
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  Speaker 3: I just thought that's not for me. Men can do that.
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  Speaker 3: I probably took some scripture out of context to justify
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  Speaker 3: that belief i'd created for myself. But two years ago
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  Speaker 3: when the shred became something two.
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  Speaker 2: Years yea, it was about two years ago that I
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  Speaker 2: created the first protocol and ran everybody through it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and so I did the beginner shred and that
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  Speaker 3: was fourteen hour fast. It's like I can do fourteen
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  Speaker 3: hour fast, like just eat at six and don't snack
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  Speaker 3: after and then I can break my fast breakfast at eight.
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  Speaker 3: And so I started with fourteen hour fasting and the
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  Speaker 3: long fasting there's at sixteen or eighteen sixteen. Sixteen sixteen
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  Speaker 3: wasn't too bad. And so I feel like I journeyed
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  Speaker 3: over a couple of years time where I just kept
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  Speaker 3: adding two hours each time, and that helped my body
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  Speaker 3: learn that I could do it, learn that it would
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  Speaker 3: be okay. And it's like exercise, right. I had to
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  Speaker 3: flex that muscle within me to prove to myself that
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  Speaker 3: I could do it. Yeah, and then during this shred,
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  Speaker 3: I've done it before, but I now can go twenty
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  Speaker 3: four hours without food and that's just crazy to me
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  Speaker 3: to even think that I could do that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, that's a big deal because they've heard from
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  Speaker 2: me before. But I've said it to you as well,
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  Speaker 2: a woman of child bearing age, So if you haven't
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  Speaker 2: started menopause yet, then you haven't someday and it'll be intense.
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  Speaker 2: But if you haven't started menopause yet, then then your
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  Speaker 2: hormonal system responds to going without food differently based on
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  Speaker 2: your cycle, but also based on your stress level and whatnot.
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  Speaker 2: And I've always said to women of child bearing age, hey,
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  Speaker 2: you know, be cautious about fasting now that it's bad
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  Speaker 2: for you. It's going to be harder for you to
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  Speaker 2: create a discipline of fasting than for instance, myself. My
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  Speaker 2: hormonal system is going to respond to fasting about the
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  Speaker 2: same way, no matter what I don't have a cycle.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have I don't have these ebbs and flows
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  Speaker 2: of my internal system telling my body what to do
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  Speaker 2: with my food, and so, like I've always said to you, like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: if you're going to fast, you know, listen to your
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  Speaker 2: body and don't worry if it doesn't work the same
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  Speaker 2: way as mine.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I think I learned that too, like cycles four
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  Speaker 3: weeks and not to go down that rabbit trail. But
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  Speaker 3: I know two weeks out of the month, I can
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  Speaker 3: fast for twenty four hours much easier than the other
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  Speaker 3: two weeks. And on those two weeks, I give myself
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  Speaker 3: so much grace and I give myself permission that if
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  Speaker 3: I'm not feeling good, like the sake of our household
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  Speaker 3: and the piece within, it is not worth me checking
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  Speaker 3: a box to say I fasted twenty four hours this week.
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  Speaker 3: But then there are times where I'm just guided in
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  Speaker 3: my head I'm gonna do it. I'm determined, and that's
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  Speaker 3: where I'll do my bone broth and that will help me.
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  Speaker 3: It's that twenty hour mark that I know I've hit,
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  Speaker 3: I've made the switch, and I know the next four
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  Speaker 3: are going to be the hardest four hours of the
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  Speaker 3: twenty four hours. But that's where on those times I
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  Speaker 3: would prefer to keep going without carbs, and I'll give
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  Speaker 3: my body the sodium and the protein it needs to
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  Speaker 3: help me make it those last four.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and the shred. We do a lot of physical,
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  Speaker 2: disciplinary measures to teach our body. Yeah, but at the
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  Speaker 2: end of the day, you wanted to learn how to
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  Speaker 2: fast because, like you said at the very beginning of
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  Speaker 2: the story, it's a spiritual practice. It's something that you
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  Speaker 2: can see throughout scripture. You can see it in response
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  Speaker 2: to prayer. You can see it in response to grieving.
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  Speaker 2: You can see it in response to seeking the Lord
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  Speaker 2: communally for things that well, he calls a fast, spiritual
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  Speaker 2: leaders call a fast. And so the shred, my heart
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  Speaker 2: in the shred one is to help people understand how
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  Speaker 2: they can teach their body how to burn fat as
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  Speaker 2: a fuel source. That's a health and fitness thing. It's
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  Speaker 2: something you can totally do that can create good adaptations
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  Speaker 2: for you. But my heart also is our physical body
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  Speaker 2: can become an impediment to doing spiritual things. And if
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  Speaker 2: it's like, Hey, I have something really deep I want
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  Speaker 2: to pray about, I should fast. But if I've never
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  Speaker 2: cultivated the ability to fast. Yeah, you're just going to
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  Speaker 2: be hungry and have a headache and be lightheaded and exhausted,
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  Speaker 2: Like how like how deep are your prayer is going
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  Speaker 2: to be? Yeah, you're just going to be like I'm fasting,
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  Speaker 2: I'm really miserable and I can't remember what i was
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  Speaker 2: praying about.
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  Speaker 3: God speaks to me, but I'm so distracted. I don't
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  Speaker 3: think I'm going to be able to hear you right now.
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  Speaker 2: So for me to, I'm so proud of you, Like
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  Speaker 2: that makes me really happy that you've been able to
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  Speaker 2: cultivate that and also that that well, I mean it's
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  Speaker 2: taken years. I think you've been very two years.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's good. And I think it's worth noting
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  Speaker 3: that in the Shred you have three fast during your week,
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  Speaker 3: too short and one long supermanageable, depending on if you
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  Speaker 3: do the beginner or the veteran. I feel like I've
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  Speaker 3: always just camped out as a beginner.
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  Speaker 2: You can begin as long as you like.
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  Speaker 3: I'm always beginning, and so within those three fast during
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  Speaker 3: the week, I will be very honest and let you
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  Speaker 3: know it's not all spiritual, like I'm not setting aside
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  Speaker 3: all the time. I need to pray during those days.
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  Speaker 3: It is a physical discipline that day. On my longer days,
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  Speaker 3: I try so hard to look at my week and
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  Speaker 3: see that, Okay, I can go twenty four hours on
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  Speaker 3: this day during this week, because the schedule schedules are
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  Speaker 3: always different, right, So I decided at the beginning of
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  Speaker 3: the week which day will be my long fast, and
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  Speaker 3: on that day, I'm going to make sure that it
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  Speaker 3: is my spiritual discipline that day. But not every fast
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  Speaker 3: during a week, especially when you're hitting three, can be
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  Speaker 3: all spiritual. Sometimes it's just disciplining our flesh today.
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  Speaker 2: True story, And in Hebrews it tells us that discipline
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  Speaker 2: is not pleasant while we're doing it, but it will
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  Speaker 2: yield the fruits of righteousness to those who have been
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  Speaker 2: trained by it. And that's super true sometimes, And I mean,
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  Speaker 2: you could relate this to working out, but fasting is
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  Speaker 2: another discipline on that front. Sometimes you fast and it's
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  Speaker 2: an amazing experience. You're like, I'm so close to God
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  Speaker 2: right now, my prayers are clear. I can see his
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  Speaker 2: fruit and even even His kingdom all around me. And
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  Speaker 2: I've always I don't know if you notice this, when
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  Speaker 2: I'm two or three days fasted. I'm always right on
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  Speaker 2: the edge of happy tears, you know, like some things
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  Speaker 2: just just really hit me in a positive way, and
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  Speaker 2: I can see God's goodness and I'm even tearing up
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  Speaker 2: just talking about it. But sometimes when I fast or
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  Speaker 2: when I exercise, it's I mean, it's just I'm doing
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  Speaker 2: this because I said I was going to do it,
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  Speaker 2: and it's not not particularly enjoyable. I wouldn't tell you
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  Speaker 2: that I felt necessarily any closer to God at the time.
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  Speaker 2: Or and again, some workouts I really enjoy and I
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  Speaker 2: have great experiences and they're deep, prayerful things. I'm like
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  Speaker 2: great in some of them. It's like this is awful,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm doing it. Yes, I'm doing it, like and
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  Speaker 2: that's the wind like check, and sometimes the check is
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  Speaker 2: a very redeeming thing. I did. I said what I
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  Speaker 2: was going to do. Yes today, Yeah, well, I'm proud
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  Speaker 2: of you for doing what you said you were going
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  Speaker 2: to do.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks. I also feel like I worked so hard to
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  Speaker 3: get here that like, just because we're not shredding, I
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  Speaker 3: can't stop doing it because, oh my goodness, Like I'm
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  Speaker 3: sure you could lose some of the ability if you
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  Speaker 3: just stopped.
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  Speaker 2: Well, like the spirit of the shred isn't that you
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  Speaker 2: live shredded all the time. You know, like like you know,
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  Speaker 2: fast three days a week and eat only nutrient dense
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  Speaker 2: foods and like hit ninety minutes of cardio. I think
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  Speaker 2: that was for the beginner Ladies protocol, Like it's not
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  Speaker 2: that you do that every week, It's that you take
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  Speaker 2: one the adaptations from the shred and that those are
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  Speaker 2: things that you can appreciate going forward. Like, as an example,
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  Speaker 2: if my body gets better at burning fat as a
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  Speaker 2: fuel source, and I can transition from burning a mixture
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  Speaker 2: of carbohydrates and fats to burning just fats and my
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  Speaker 2: body learns how to do that seamlessly, I can do
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  Speaker 2: that all year. At any point that I want anything
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  Speaker 2: that I that I want to pray about and fast about,
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  Speaker 2: I can do that. Or let's say I just missed
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  Speaker 2: breakfast today because it was a crazy day. Then by
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  Speaker 2: three pm, I'm not starving and my head's not burning
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  Speaker 2: and exhausted. I'm gonna be fine. I'm gonna have a
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  Speaker 2: great dinner and it won't be a problem.
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  Speaker 3: Just like me, Yes, Shay, what time was at one o'clock?
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, oh my gosh, I don't think
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  Speaker 3: I eat.
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  Speaker 2: I forgot to eat, and that happens. And if you're
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  Speaker 2: forgetting to eat all the time, you should make sure
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  Speaker 2: you get enough nutrients. But it's not an impediment to you.
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  Speaker 2: You build some grit with that. But you can take
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  Speaker 2: practices from the Shred and go, mmm, this was really
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  Speaker 2: good for me. I'm going to keep doing this thing.
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  Speaker 2: And for some people it's that ninety minutes of cardio
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  Speaker 2: for instance, Like, hey, it's not that hard to get
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  Speaker 2: thirty minutes three times a week. I will make space
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  Speaker 2: to get that each week because that's a good thing
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  Speaker 2: to do. Like even the American Heart Association would tell
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  Speaker 2: you nine minutes of cardio three days a week if
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  Speaker 2: you want to be healthy, do that that. Just do that.
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  Speaker 2: They don't teach weight training.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, as long as it's nice outside, it's very simple.
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  Speaker 2: Right. Yeah, when it's snowy and icy, that's a little
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  Speaker 2: bit different, right, But anyway, so you can take those things.
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  Speaker 2: So the spirit of Shred you can do both of
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  Speaker 2: those things. You can carry those adaptations, but you can
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  Speaker 2: also take those behaviors that were useful to you and
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  Speaker 2: now that you've experienced you like I know what that
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  Speaker 2: feels like. I know how to do it, and I
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  Speaker 2: can do it as long as I want. Yeah, is
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  Speaker 2: there anything from the Shred that decides the fasting thing,
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  Speaker 2: because yeah, we've talked about that a lot. Anything from
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  Speaker 2: the Shred that you're like, it was hard for me
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  Speaker 2: to do that every day or every week or whatever,
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  Speaker 2: but I've carried that forward. Well.
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  Speaker 3: I would say the three days a week of exercise.
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  Speaker 3: I don't love exercise. I think I might have said
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  Speaker 3: that last time. I don't love it, but I do
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  Speaker 3: it because my body has to have it with my back.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, if I don't have it, I'm asking you
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  Speaker 3: to help me more often than I should. But I
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  Speaker 3: have made it a discipline that no matter what, I'm
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  Speaker 3: getting my three exercises in during a week. And I've
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  Speaker 3: done that since the beginning of the year, and I'm
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  Speaker 3: just I'm proud, I'm thankful, and I don't plan to stop.
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  Speaker 3: But in the past I'd easily be like I'd look
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  Speaker 3: at my week like I'm looking at next week and
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  Speaker 3: I'm already like, when am I getting my three exercises
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  Speaker 3: in this week? I'm gonna make it happen. But I mean,
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  Speaker 3: it just takes the mindful awareness that I want to
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  Speaker 3: do this and I know it's.
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  Speaker 2: Good for me, and I like that that's a checklist
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  Speaker 2: item for you, Like, Hey, this week, I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: get three in because a lot of people can overcomplicate exercise.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not saying there's not science to it and stuff,
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  Speaker 2: but sometimes you just need to get your three sessions
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  Speaker 2: in this week, whether it's cardio or weight training or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: But you said something there, and my audience doesn't know this,
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  Speaker 2: but Kristin has sculliosis, so her spine isn't as straight
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  Speaker 2: as it needs to be for her to operate like
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  Speaker 2: a normal human with a normal back. Right. So, and well,
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  Speaker 2: it's a big deal for you because if you don't
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  Speaker 2: take good care of that, it will hurt you. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: one hundred percent. And throughout our entire relationship, there have
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  Speaker 2: been times where not that you weren't trying to take
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  Speaker 2: care of yourself, but something was askew. Either either you
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  Speaker 2: had to be on your feet too long, or maybe
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  Speaker 2: this is a very busy season, you weren't able to
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  Speaker 2: lift weights like you normally do, or or maybe you
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  Speaker 2: were pushing Bennett and the stroller too often. Whatever, But
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  Speaker 2: that your hips and your shoulder and your neck and
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  Speaker 2: your knees or whatever else they because of that curve.
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  Speaker 2: They told you, hey, we're not okay and you need
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  Speaker 2: to fix something. And so many people wrestle with that,
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  Speaker 2: but they don't always know that this relates to Hey,
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  Speaker 2: I if I were able to get my exercise in,
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  Speaker 2: I would see less of these episodes. It's not going
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  Speaker 2: to be perfect, but I would see less of this
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: pain in my life. Would you say that avoiding pain
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: is one of the reasons you're willing to exercise, even
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: though you don't always enjoy it.
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: It's probably the only reason I do fair enough, Yeah,
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: I mean because if my back's not strong and my
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: core is not as strong as it can be, it
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: will always be my weakest link. But I'm not gonna
• 17:41
  Speaker 3: bend well, I'm not gonna squat well. I'll do things
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: that will just injure me way faster. But because I
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: have those muscles, which gives me the stability, I know,
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: I'm in way less pain than I should be.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: Well, and as a husband, I'm really grateful for that
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: because I know I don't know how this works scientifically speaking,
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: but I know that if you're in pain. I would
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: rather me be in pain, Like I'm going to worry
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: about you all day long because because you're you're like
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: you're a part of me, and I would rather deal
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: with with my own pain than to see you in pain.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: And so like, there's only so much I can do
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: to help you, know, like I'm pretty good with my hands,
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: and I can massage your neck, and I can stretch you,
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: I can do all kinds of stuff to help ease
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: your pain. But you have to do your part exactly.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: And so like, I'm so grateful as a husband that
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: you say, you know, hey, I've got this issue. It's
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: not easy to deal with. Sometimes it would be way
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: more convenient if I didn't have to deal with it.
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: But I'm going to do my part to make the
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: most of this, and that that's a blessing to me.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: I know you're not in here lifting weights, thinking like
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: I'm loving my husband so well right now, she's not.
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: She hasn't thought of that, but unless you do, but
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: that would be nice. But I'm I know that like
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: when when you're taking good care of yourself that way,
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: it makes me feel loved that I don't have to
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: worry as much about you so thank you get it.
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: You keep her out in the workouts, I'll keep doing them.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: There's so many things I could say. So the shred's done. Yes,
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: And during the shred there was some things that you
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: gave up because they're not nutrient dense, but you like them,
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: and well that's important. So can you give us, like
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: your top three things that when the shred was done,
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: you're like, Okay, this needs to re enter my nutrition cycle.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: I don't have to like go overboard, but but I
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: missed these things. What are those top three things?
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: Wow? I know them so bad.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: I know you do.
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: Well. The first thing I did was get a cheeseburger
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: and onion rings sprim rovers. It was so stinking good.
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: Diet coke. Love my diet coke, but I only have
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: one a week, but on the shred I got none
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: in a week, and then recy cups. Those are my
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: top three.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: I could have told you that, but it was better
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: coming from That's cool. That's cool. It makes me think
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: of Gabriel running into his room the other day when
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: you're like, does anybody have chocolate?
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Well, spining for chocolate, and then it brought me a
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: Snickers bar and I was like Okay, that's good. And
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: Gabriel brings me a snicker. So I was like, you win,
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: and he's like.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, our ten year olds having a hard time scorn
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: points with mom right now. So he's like, yeah, I
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: go like I win. It was a big one too.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: It was a big RecA cup.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: It was a normal sized rec cup. But Jesus, it
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: was only No, it was just my one cup. That's
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: all I needed.
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: Oh, I thought he brought you four. I need to
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: teach that boy, all right, I was being good, Oh
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: you are. I just gotta teach him to score more
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: brownie points with mom.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: This is it?
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: Well, then you should have a stash of recy cups
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: in your closet.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: I can't do it for him. I can't do it
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: for him. No, this has to be on him. It's
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: we'll talk about that later anyway. So, uh, I feel
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: like we've we've really really gotten through the shred. Yeah okay,
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: So what was the effect on your body? You fasted
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: ate like a boss, you met all your exercise.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: Goold my results?
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what was what was the effect on your body?
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: How?
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: How did it feel like? If you so any changes?
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: What were the changes?
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: Like?
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: What were the effects on you.
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I refuse to take the pictures, but just it's
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: okay if you do. I don't. But on the scale,
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: let's see what it was it nine pounds of fat.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: Nine pounds of fat loss.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: In four weeks, I know, and you're like a bit person.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah that's impressive.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't want to get back on the scale.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: Post cheeseburger scale weight.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: I weighed out after that cheeseburger you did?
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: You did those nine pounds of fat include.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: I don't think I anat dinner that though. Oh it
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: was so full, And I think physically weak ones always
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: pretty easy because you're excited and you're like, I'm going
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: to be so disciplined. Week two is hard for me.
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: I don't know why. Week two is like I'm really
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: doing this, Like do I really should? I really? I
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: could back out now it'd be lasier. So week two
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: is hard. But by week four I felt so good,
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: very clear headed, very high energy, and then overall just
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: just feeling accomplished. Es something for you to know that
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: I stuck with it. One. I didn't cheat once because
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: I've done a shred where I don't I really shouldn't
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: say I even did the stress really didn't do well. Yeah,
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: I kind of shredded. I don't even think it weighed
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: on that one.
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: So, but you were just supporting me. You're like, I'm shredding.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: I'm shredding. I think I quit posting after two weeks. No, overall,
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: I love the Shred. I will always do it. It's
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: so good.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: Well, so we're talking about something that happened in the past. Yeah,
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: but we do this twice a year, and so our
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: next shred is going to be for the summer. We
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: usually do it in May, and we call it the
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: Summer Shred.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: I do I think it was just twice a year.
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: We do three a year.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: No, we do two a year.
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: Oh, we don't do it at the end of the year.
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: That's the grow Challenge, a very different game, lots of
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: carrot cake and lifting. Oh. But so we do the
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: shred twice a year. And if you aren't on our
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: newsletter already, you can find the subscription in the show
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: notes below. And then when we do the shred, you'll
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: get all the information you need for it. And we'd
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: love for you to join us because I'll be shredding,
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: you'll be shredding.
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, right before summer. Perfect time perfathe and suit time.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: That's right.
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: One thing you did this time that was so good
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: that I don't think you've done it before, but you
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: got to keep doing it was you did the prep time.
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: How many days of prep?
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: We did? Five? Five prep days.
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: And that's so important because especially if this is a
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: big change for you, going in on day one without
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: any prep is not really setting you up for success.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: And so just that little bit of buffer to get
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: people's minds wrapped around it, to clean out the fridge
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: or the pantry, if you need to to do your
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: meal pleaning and get to the grocery store to make
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: sure we day one, week one is going to start
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: up all for you is super important. I think back
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: to when we when I led people through Detoks. Yeah,
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: we had it was a two week detox. There was
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: a whole week of prep because like, if you're sugar
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: dependent or caffeine dependent, you will not enjoy those furst
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: few days. So we got to keep that prep time
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: in there.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I think that's a good point. And
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: we did, like we looked through our pantry to find
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: things that hey, these these aren't shred foods, and if
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: they're a p you got to get them out either
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: either get them out or like for our kids, we
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: put gram crackers on a certain shelf and that's the
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: kid's shelf and we don't have to worry about gram
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: crackers when we're looking in the pantry for for different
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: things and just stuff like that. Are planning out the fasts,
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: like she was talking about, like there was a prep
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: day to answer questions about fasts and also to look
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: at your calendar and say, hey, what days this week
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: make the most sense.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: It's going to work.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: So yeah, it was. It was.
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: The goal is not to fill like crap the whole time.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: That's not a goal. But if you don't do any
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: of that prep work, it's probably going to be a
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: lot harder than it could be.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: Right, And if your body learns to burn fat as
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: a fuel sources doesn't have to make you feel bad. Yeah.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: So anyway, the links for in the show notes, for
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: being a part of the newsletter, you'll get all the
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: communication when we do our next shred. Would love for
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: you to join us on that.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: I can do it, you can do it.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: I'm so proud of you. You're so cool. All Right,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: So I want to talk about what we just did
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: because you have taken a new position in our company.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: I have promoted her, or she promoted herself. I guess
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: to our shipping manager, you're our residence shipping manager. We
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: just got all of these Faithful Fitness copies in, yeah,
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: big boxes of books for all the pre orders, which
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: thank you if you were a pre order that that
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: was such a cool experience. But we got all these
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: boxes in and we wanted to make sure that our
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: pre orders got the Faithful Fitness devotional on well before
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: day one of the Faithful forty challenge. So we have
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: a new challenge. It goes every March and every October.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: It's not really new, We've been doing it. It's just
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: new to do it with the actual devotional. Yeah, like
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: in our hands. Last time we had to do it
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: like the I'm the anyway, it wasn't as cool. I
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: don't I don't like to read electronically. I prefer to like,
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: you know, feel it and see it. Okay. So anyway,
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: so we got all those out in an afternoon. Yeah, like, well,
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: thank goodness, she knows what she's doing because I was
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: over there signing stuff. But she was like slapping labels
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: on things and making sure they got out and one
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: of them have a return to us. And I've gotten
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: quite a few texts and messages that are like I
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: got my book. Yeah, So I there's all kinds of
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: things we can talk about here, but one of the
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: things I wanted to talk about, because this isn't going
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: to be the last time we talked about this book,
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: but I wanted to talk about your experience in me
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: writing this thing because I'm kind of ADHD and I
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: mean I'm not diagnosed, but like Ridlin would make would
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: would make me much more focused, and it was hard
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: for me to write this. And I've been talking to
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: you about writing a book. I've started like seven of
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: them at this point. I've been talking to you about
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: writing a book since I don't know how long. It
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: was a whole life, our whole life, our whole long life,
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: I mean, our whole marriage, right, Like.
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: That's what I mean, our life.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we're almost eleven years in.
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I just remember when we were first together
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: and you always woke up earlier than me. Still do,
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: but I'd wake up often and you were writing, and
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: I'd just come cuddle up beside you and let you
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: finish writing. Until I was ready to talk. But You've
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: always been a writer. That's just part of who you are.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: You write all the time. Fun fact, he writes me
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: a letter every year, and so on our anniversary I
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: get like a ten page letter recapping the year and
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: any sweet little love notes you want to write me
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: throughout the year. You're a writer, and that's just part
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: of who you are and it always has been. And so,
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: like you said, right now, on your laptop, you probably
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: still have six books that have been started. And so
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: I just remember you've always been like, I'm going to
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: write a book. I just don't know which book it'll be,
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: like which one will be the first. And then the
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: Lord just made it so clear to you that this
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: would be your first. And once that revelation came, there
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: was no stopping you.
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, oh gosh, I was insufferable. Like it sounds nice, but.
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: We've had time to process.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: I don't know if you know what it feels like,
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: but all I can explain it is like something bouncing
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: around in your head, stealing your bandwidth. And I get
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: irritable when that's the case. And so like I've mean,
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: like I have to go get this out, being like yeah,
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: I'm being snippy and snooty and annoying and whatever, and
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: she's like, go get it, go right, leave us alone,
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: go right, and and I'm I'm just I've said this before,
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: but I'm so grateful for you on that front, because
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: like I just needed to go write it down. I
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: needed to go get it out of my heart and
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: my mind. And then in order to do this, this
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: wasn't like a like go write it down once thing.
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: I had to make this a discipline. So I decided
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: prayerfully to set aside Thursdays. So Thursdays in my writing day.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: I'm going to help you get the kids ready for school,
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: and then I'm out and I don't I'm not going
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: to talk to anybody. My phone's going to be on
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: airplane mode and which is which is can tents, but
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: like like it's going to be on airplane mode, and
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: then I'm going to write and then I will come home.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: Like what was that like for you as a wife?
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: Because you supported me? But also I mean sometimes you
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: got to get ahold of your husband and sometimes like
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's a book, like right it next week?
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: Well, no, I think I think back, and I'm sure
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: I wasn't as gracious as I could have been in
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: the whole process. But I think back to the first
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: day you went to write. We talked so much, and
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: so I'm sure we just came to the conversation that
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: Thursdays are what's going to work best for our house.
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: I'm sure we made that decision together. It's just I've
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: slept a lot since then. But I remember the first
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: day you came home and you were just beaming with
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: joy and excitement because you're like, I did it. I
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: mapped out all forty days. Like it was like you
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: and the Lord downloaded and you had all forty days.
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: You knew the four pillars, and you knew your people
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: for the pillars, so like you didn't write it all out,
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: but had a pretty solid rough draft outline of what
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: it was going to look like. And as your wife,
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: when your husband is so excited and you can just
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: see the passionate and like you're like, I I got
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: your back one hundred and ten percent whatever this needs
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: to look, like like I'm here for it, whatever cost.
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: It's gonna be the sacrifice, like it's just gonna be
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: worth it. Because you were just so excited and I
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: was so excited to support that. I'm sure there was
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: some harder Thursdays in there because fun fact, he does
• 31:36
  Speaker 3: not allow text messages. He decides when he's gonna look
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: at his text messages. And this is still him today,
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: Like even yesterday, I texted you a screenshot of something
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: that he needed to address, and I was like, I
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: just texted you. I need you to look at cause
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: I know if I didn't do that, it'd be hours
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: before you actually looked at the text message.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: True story.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: So he's never ignoring it. He's likely just not looking
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: at us.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: I think I need a phone just for her. This
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: is the Christen phone. If that one gets a text,
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: we'll look at that immediately.
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: There. Get all those flip phones.
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be a cool my burner phone,
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: my wife's burner phone. We could have some moment that.
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: You have to peck it like three times.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: That's good, Okay, fun, that's funny. So I did want
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: to ask you about another aspect of this whole book thing.
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: I'm a I'm a new author. I'm unknown basically, like
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: I guess I'm known now, like I have a name
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: on the book now, but I didn't have that before.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: And so this was my first time publishing anything. It's
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: not like a publishing company called me up and was like, hey,
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: we love your work, We're going to pay you X
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: dollars to publish this blah blah blah. So so I
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: connected with a company that helps me publish a book,
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: like helps me design prints, it, like own some of
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: the things that as a new author I just had
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: no clue about. And you know, writing's writings like this
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: much of writing a.
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: Book that was the revelation and all of that.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: But we had to spend money on this, like this
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: was this was something that as a household we had
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: to say, hey that I mean, this is going to
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: be an investment. It's it's going to be a while
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: before this investment even realizes and maybe it never will.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: And we had to talk about that as a couple
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: and say this is worth investing in. Can you tell
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: me about what that experience was like as a wife too,
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: because I mean it's a big project and you're way
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: more stingy with money than I am, Like, like she
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: will wait a week to buy something because she knows
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: it's going to have fifty percent off, which is a
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: smart thing to do, but when I need to buy something,
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: I just go buy it, and.
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  Speaker 3: That's not even how much it cost.
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I need it. So there's that. But so
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: so f from husband to wife, like, what does that?
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: What did that whole process look like for you? Because
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: I saw it, and I understood the price tag, and
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: I understood what I was investing in. But that's a
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: hard thing to articulate to your wife who's already making
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: sacrifices for you to go actually write the dang thing.
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  Speaker 3: Well, thankfully, we've been together long enough that we know
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  Speaker 3: how to handle money conversations. Because I am pretty frugal
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  Speaker 3: with spending. I'd prefer it to be in the bank
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: then to invest in. But again, we've just cultivated open
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: and honest conversation with each other so well that even
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: the hard conversation when the price tag was discussed and
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: I had to wrestle with am I okay with this? Ultimately,
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: I think you helped me understand all the pieces that
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: went into it to give me the piece that my
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: heart and mind needed to commit to it. And so
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  Speaker 3: I wouldn't say some switch flipped in me. We just
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: had enough conversation and enough honesty to where I could
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: bring you my concerns. I think also you really respected
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: me in it because you shopped around with several of
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: them were as some more and more expensive to a
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: point where I wasn't as comfortable. But it's likely we
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: met in the middle, which is what we always do.
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  Speaker 3: And so through that you gave me the assurance and
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: piece of it. But I'm so thankful we did it,
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: and I have full confidence that this will be a blessing
• 35:36
  Speaker 3: for many and our household.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, And like that's I think that's one of
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: the hardest things about running a business is that as
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: a as a couple, whether or not you're involved in
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: a decision, all of our business decisions affect you. Yeah,
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: and our kids and our household and whatnot. And and
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: you know, she would tell you, and I would tell you,
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: even though she's the stingy one about money, that nothing
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: we've done as a household is to make a bunch
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: of money. It's to be a good steward with what
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: God's given us and to use the resources He's brought
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: to us, to invest them well, to build good things,
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: and also to just not be unwise with them. And
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: so I have a different idea in my mind about
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: how that works, and you have a different idea in
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: your mind about how that works. But marriage is if
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: God's in the middle of it. We take both of
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: our perspectives and we bring them together. And I'm always
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: so grateful that if it feels to me, if I'm
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: honest with you and you're honest with me, especially about
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: your feelings and your thoughts and vice versa, that we
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: come up with a better solution to an issue than
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: we could have by ourself. So like I wouldn't have
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: you knowing me, I would not have shopped around if
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: I didn't have to talk to you about this, Like
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: I would not have shopped around. I've been like, oh,
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: found this a good publishing company, five stars, Like here's
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: the cost, great, let's do it. It's Greateah, it's great.
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: And what's funny. I don't know if I told you
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: this or not. The final number that we came to
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: was it was the middle of the road, but it
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: was actually one of the most expensive packages that because
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: I called them and was on their mailing list, they
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: sent me marketing for forty percent off, and it ended
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: up being a middle priced package by the end of it.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: Because I didn't move on the top tier thing I
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: was interested in, and so the just the wisdom of knowing, Hey,
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: my wife's involved in this. I want her, I want
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: her opinion. She has a different perspective than I do.
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: It's our household, our money. We're trying to figure out
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: what best to do with it. Just that process alone,
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: even if you didn't have an opinion about which package
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: was best, just that process alone got us a better
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: deal as a household, which is really cool. One of
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: the reasons that the book looks so good.
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it does. It looks great.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So I wanted to I could talk to you
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: for a long time. As you know, we'll probably talk later,
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: but I can see both of our backs are like, hey,
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: it's time to be done sitting on this. So but
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: did I did want to offer you guys something and
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: thank you for hanging out with us and doing this.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: So I've been signing these. I've been signing them, and
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: my shipping manager here has been making sure they get
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: to everybody in a timely maner. We're almost competitive with Amazon, and.
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: I really think we are.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: Maybe one day.
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, Amazon so fickle, it could be five days.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: That's two that they could be like Hey, we're on
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: back order. We're three dayship, three day shipping. Yay PayPal.
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: But so so I've been signing these as as copies
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: to sign and send individuals who are supporting the book,
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: who are interested in reading it and whatnot. And so
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: I actually want to do a giveaway where we give
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: this book away a signed copy right here. But it's
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: it's really special because you guys have just heard a
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: little about what it's been like to be my wife
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: through this process, and so she has agreed to sign
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  Speaker 2: this copy as well, and we're going to give that
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: to somebody. She goes, I didn't write it. They're not
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: gonna think it's that special. You're very special. Your name
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: deserves to be here just as much as mine does.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: Only it would be confusing because they'd be like, which
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: part of this did Kristen write?
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: And ya don't want me to write anything?
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: Your writing style is different. But it's good. It would
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: be cool maybe someday, maybe someday hashtag relationship goals. But anyway,
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: we're going to give this copy away with her signature
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• 39:39
  Speaker 2: to do to do this whole giveaway thing. All The
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: instructions are in the show notes, but basically step one
• 39:46
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• 40:35
  Speaker 3: All right, I'll do it.
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: I'm so excited. Our moms are going to be like,
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: I'm getting that copy, all right, post it mom, all
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• 40:48
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• 40:50
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• 40:54
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• 40:57
  Speaker 2: to say in closing before we end our official number
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  Speaker 2: two podcast with the shipping manager and CEO of Faithful Fitness.
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  Speaker 3: Off the top of my head, because we didn't prop
• 41:11
  Speaker 3: this question, I would just give his audience a big
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  Speaker 3: thank you. Your support to my husband means the world.
• 41:20
  Speaker 3: Your support to my husband blesses him, the community, our family,
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: and without you guys, he wouldn't be able to passionately
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: pursue what the Lord's laid on his heart to do.
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: Thank you for that. On that note, she didn't know
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: I was going to share this, but I just like,
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: just before this podcast interview, like an hour ago, I
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: just had the opportunity to speak with about thirty five
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: students middle school up to high school around the country.
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: Because of my connections in the health and fitness world.
• 41:53
  Speaker 2: I got to speak to them about exercise science and
• 41:56
  Speaker 2: what's really cool is a lot of those kids I had,
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: some from India, some from France, some from Argentina have
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: no clue what walk of life they're in, but they
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: researched me and they found all my stuff on YouTube
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: and during our conversation, there's a big giant cross in
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  Speaker 2: the background, and I got to talk to them about
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: how our belief changes the physiology of our body, and
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: they had some amazing questions. And so I want you
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: to know, just as our audience and as a supporters
• 42:22
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• 42:26
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• 42:28
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• 42:33
  Speaker 2: us to plant those seeds. Good call. Yeah, all right, guys,
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: this has been coach Alex van Houghten and my lovely wife,
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: registered dietitian, shipping manager, mother extraordinary Kristen van Houghten. All
• 42:45
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  Speaker 2: until next time. Train hard, but pray harder.
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