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How to Fall in Love With Yourself — For Real This Time | EP 282 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  I
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  wanna
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  tell
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  you
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  something
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  I've
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  never
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  quite
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  said
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  like
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  this
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  before.
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  I
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  didn't
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  find
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  self-love
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  in
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  a
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  book
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  and
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  an
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  affirmation,
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  or
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  even
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  a
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  vision
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  board
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  or
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  a
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  weekend
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  retreat.
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  I
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  found
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  it
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  in
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  the
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  middle
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  of
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  the
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  hardest
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  season
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  of
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  my
• 0:21
  life
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  When
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  my
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  mom
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  made
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  her
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  transition
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  and
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  I
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  had
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  to
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  figure
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  out
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  who
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  I
• 0:27
  was
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  without
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  the
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  woman
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  who
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  knew
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  me
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  better
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  than
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  anyone,
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  I
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  stumbled
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  into
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  myself
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  and
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  what
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  I
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  found
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  was
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  someone
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  worth
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  falling
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  completely
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  in
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  love
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  with
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  today.
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  I
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  wanna
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  help
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  you
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  find
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  her
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  too.
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  So
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  get
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  comfy
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  because
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  this
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  one
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  is
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  super
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  personal.
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  Before
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  we
• 0:48
  get
• 0:48
  into
• 0:48
  it,
• 0:48
  make
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  sure
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  you're
• 0:49
  subscribed.
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  These
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  episodes
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  are
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  designed
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  to
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  work
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  together,
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  and
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  if
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  you're
• 0:54
  ready
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  to
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  move
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  differently
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  this
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  season,
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  you'll
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  want
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  access
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  to
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  all
• 0:58
  of
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  them.
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  Okay,
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  let's
• 1:00
  get
• 1:00
  into
• 1:01
  it.
• 1:03
  Welcome
• 1:04
  back
• 1:04
  to
• 1:04
  the
• 1:04
  series,
• 1:05
  unavailable
• 1:06
  for
• 1:06
  Self
• 1:06
  Abandonment,
• 1:08
  a
• 1:08
  series
• 1:08
  for
• 1:09
  women
• 1:09
  who
• 1:09
  are
• 1:09
  done
• 1:10
  negotiating
• 1:11
  with
• 1:11
  themselves.
• 1:12
  This
• 1:13
  is
• 1:13
  for
• 1:13
  the
• 1:13
  woman
• 1:14
  who's
• 1:14
  confident
• 1:15
  enough
• 1:15
  to
• 1:15
  disappoint
• 1:16
  because
• 1:16
  self-trust
• 1:17
  is
• 1:18
  now
• 1:18
  the
• 1:18
  new
• 1:19
  standard
• 1:20
  here.
• 1:20
  Confidence.
• 1:21
  It's
• 1:21
  more
• 1:22
  than
• 1:22
  a
• 1:22
  feeling,
• 1:23
  it's
• 1:23
  a
• 1:23
  belief
• 1:24
  formed
• 1:25
  through
• 1:25
  action,
• 1:25
  practice,
• 1:26
  and
• 1:27
  repetition.
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  It's
• 1:28
  what
• 1:28
  you
• 1:28
  do.
• 1:29
  When
• 1:29
  it
• 1:29
  would
• 1:29
  be
• 1:30
  easier
• 1:30
  to
• 1:31
  explain
• 1:31
  yourself,
• 1:32
  perform
• 1:33
  or
• 1:33
  betray
• 1:34
  what
• 1:34
  you
• 1:34
  already
• 1:35
  know
• 1:36
  is
• 1:36
  true
• 1:37
  for
• 1:37
  you.
• 1:38
  So
• 1:38
  if
• 1:38
  you
• 1:39
  are
• 1:39
  ready
• 1:39
  to
• 1:39
  stop
• 1:40
  abandoning
• 1:40
  yourself,
• 1:41
  just
• 1:42
  to
• 1:42
  keep
• 1:42
  the
• 1:42
  peace
• 1:43
  you
• 1:43
  are
• 1:44
  in
• 1:44
  the
• 1:44
  right
• 1:45
  place.
• 1:48
  Hey,
• 1:48
  hey,
• 1:48
  hey,
• 1:49
  friend.
• 1:50
  Welcome
• 1:50
  back.
• 1:51
  I'm
• 1:52
  gonna
• 1:52
  be
• 1:52
  a
• 1:52
  little
• 1:53
  different
• 1:54
  today.
• 1:54
  A
• 1:54
  little
• 1:54
  more
• 1:55
  open,
• 1:55
  a
• 1:55
  little
• 1:56
  more
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  raw,
• 1:57
  because.
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  This
• 1:58
  episode
• 1:59
  is
• 1:59
  not
• 2:00
  just
• 2:00
  a
• 2:00
  teaching
• 2:01
  for
• 2:01
  you,
• 2:02
  it's
• 2:02
  a
• 2:02
  testimony
• 2:03
  for
• 2:04
  me.
• 2:05
  If
• 2:05
  you've
• 2:06
  been
• 2:06
  with
• 2:06
  me
• 2:06
  through
• 2:07
  this
• 2:07
  entire
• 2:08
  unavailable
• 2:09
  for
• 2:09
  self
• 2:09
  abandonment
• 2:10
  series
• 2:11
  from
• 2:11
  episode
• 2:12
  2
• 2:13
  74,
• 2:13
  all
• 2:14
  the
• 2:14
  way
• 2:14
  up
• 2:14
  to
• 2:14
  here,
• 2:15
  first
• 2:15
  of
• 2:15
  all,
• 2:16
  I
• 2:16
  just
• 2:16
  need
• 2:17
  you
• 2:17
  to
• 2:17
  know
• 2:18
  how
• 2:18
  incredibly
• 2:20
  proud
• 2:21
  of
• 2:21
  you.
• 2:21
  I
• 2:22
  am,
• 2:23
  we
• 2:23
  have
• 2:24
  done
• 2:24
  real
• 2:25
  work
• 2:25
  together.
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  The
• 2:26
  kind
• 2:27
  that
• 2:27
  changes
• 2:28
  how
• 2:28
  you
• 2:28
  see
• 2:28
  yourself,
• 2:29
  the
• 2:29
  kind
• 2:30
  that
• 2:30
  really
• 2:30
  sticks.
• 2:32
  And
• 2:32
  if
• 2:32
  you're
• 2:32
  new,
• 2:33
  a
• 2:33
  welcome
• 2:34
  friend.
• 2:36
  Go
• 2:36
  back
• 2:37
  and
• 2:37
  start
• 2:37
  from
• 2:37
  episode
• 2:38
  2
• 2:39
  74
• 2:39
  when
• 2:40
  you
• 2:40
  can.
• 2:40
  But
• 2:41
  today,
• 2:41
  stay
• 2:42
  right
• 2:42
  here
• 2:43
  because
• 2:43
  what
• 2:44
  I'm
• 2:44
  about
• 2:44
  to
• 2:44
  share
• 2:45
  is
• 2:45
  for
• 2:46
  you
• 2:46
  too.
• 2:46
  In
• 2:47
  this
• 2:47
  episode,
• 2:48
  how
• 2:48
  to
• 2:48
  fall
• 2:49
  in
• 2:49
  love
• 2:50
  with
• 2:50
  yourself
• 2:51
  for
• 2:51
  real
• 2:52
  this
• 2:52
  time.
• 2:53
  and
• 2:53
  I
• 2:53
  know
• 2:54
  exactly
• 2:55
  how
• 2:55
  to
• 2:55
  do
• 2:55
  that.
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  So
• 2:56
  let's
• 2:57
  get
• 2:57
  into
• 2:57
  it.
• 2:58
  I
• 2:58
  need
• 2:59
  to
• 2:59
  take
• 2:59
  you
• 2:59
  back
• 2:59
  with
• 3:00
  me
• 3:00
  to
• 3:00
  one
• 3:01
  of
• 3:01
  the
• 3:01
  hardest
• 3:02
  seasons
• 3:03
  of
• 3:03
  my
• 3:04
  life,
• 3:05
  the
• 3:05
  day
• 3:06
  my
• 3:06
  mom
• 3:07
  made
• 3:07
  her
• 3:07
  transition
• 3:08
  to
• 3:08
  heaven.
• 3:09
  Now,
• 3:09
  if
• 3:10
  you've
• 3:10
  been
• 3:10
  rocking
• 3:11
  with
• 3:11
  me
• 3:11
  for
• 3:11
  a
• 3:12
  while,
• 3:12
  or
• 3:13
  even
• 3:13
  from
• 3:14
  the
• 3:14
  very
• 3:14
  beginning
• 3:15
  of
• 3:16
  this
• 3:16
  podcast,
• 3:17
  you
• 3:18
  know,
• 3:18
  my
• 3:18
  mom
• 3:19
  is
• 3:19
  one
• 3:20
  of
• 3:20
  my
• 3:20
  signature
• 3:21
  stories
• 3:22
  because
• 3:22
  she
• 3:23
  is
• 3:23
  truly
• 3:24
  woven
• 3:24
  into
• 3:25
  everything
• 3:26
  I
• 3:26
  do,
• 3:27
  everything
• 3:27
  I
• 3:28
  teach.
• 3:28
  Everything
• 3:29
  I
• 3:29
  am,
• 3:30
  she
• 3:31
  made
• 3:31
  her
• 3:32
  way
• 3:32
  to
• 3:32
  heaven
• 3:33
  and
• 3:33
  took
• 3:33
  a
• 3:33
  piece
• 3:34
  of
• 3:34
  my
• 3:35
  world
• 3:35
  with
• 3:36
  her,
• 3:36
  and
• 3:37
  what
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  didn't
• 3:38
  expect
• 3:39
  in
• 3:39
  the
• 3:39
  middle
• 3:40
  of
• 3:40
  that
• 3:40
  grief,
• 3:41
  in
• 3:41
  the
• 3:42
  middle
• 3:42
  of
• 3:42
  learning
• 3:43
  how
• 3:44
  to
• 3:44
  breathe
• 3:45
  without
• 3:46
  her
• 3:47
  was
• 3:48
  that
• 3:48
  I
• 3:48
  would
• 3:48
  also
• 3:49
  have
• 3:49
  to
• 3:49
  learn
• 3:50
  who
• 3:50
  I
• 3:50
  was
• 3:51
  all
• 3:51
  over
• 3:52
  again.
• 3:52
  Now
• 3:53
  today,
• 3:54
  I
• 3:54
  can
• 3:54
  tell
• 3:55
  you
• 3:55
  it
• 3:56
  wasn't
• 3:56
  because
• 3:57
  I
• 3:57
  didn't
• 3:57
  know
• 3:57
  myself,
• 3:59
  but
• 3:59
  back
• 3:59
  then
• 4:00
  I
• 4:00
  absolutely
• 4:01
  felt
• 4:01
  like
• 4:02
  I
• 4:02
  didn't
• 4:03
  know
• 4:03
  myself.
• 4:04
  And
• 4:04
  I
• 4:04
  really
• 4:04
  wanna
• 4:05
  be
• 4:05
  clear
• 4:05
  about
• 4:06
  that
• 4:06
  because
• 4:07
  at
• 4:07
  that
• 4:07
  time,
• 4:08
  I
• 4:08
  felt
• 4:08
  so
• 4:09
  lost
• 4:09
  that
• 4:10
  I
• 4:10
  felt
• 4:10
  like
• 4:10
  I
• 4:10
  didn't
• 4:11
  know
• 4:11
  myself.
• 4:12
  But
• 4:13
  now
• 4:13
  sitting
• 4:14
  in
• 4:14
  a
• 4:14
  completely
• 4:15
  different
• 4:16
  space
• 4:17
  and
• 4:17
  a
• 4:17
  completely
• 4:18
  different
• 4:19
  relationship
• 4:19
  with
• 4:20
  my
• 4:20
  grief.
• 4:21
  I
• 4:21
  know
• 4:22
  that
• 4:22
  it
• 4:22
  wasn't
• 4:23
  that
• 4:23
  I
• 4:23
  didn't
• 4:24
  know
• 4:24
  myself,
• 4:25
  it
• 4:25
  was
• 4:26
  that
• 4:26
  I
• 4:26
  didn't
• 4:27
  know
• 4:27
  myself
• 4:28
  at
• 4:29
  that
• 4:29
  particular
• 4:30
  stage
• 4:31
  of
• 4:31
  my
• 4:31
  life.
• 4:32
  In
• 4:33
  that
• 4:33
  season
• 4:34
  without
• 4:34
  her,
• 4:35
  because
• 4:36
  here's
• 4:36
  something
• 4:37
  I
• 4:37
  had
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  face
• 4:38
  in
• 4:39
  that
• 4:39
  grief.
• 4:40
  I
• 4:40
  had
• 4:40
  been
• 4:40
  treating
• 4:41
  my
• 4:41
  life
• 4:42
  like
• 4:42
  a
• 4:42
  community
• 4:43
  project.
• 4:44
  I
• 4:44
  would
• 4:44
  ask
• 4:45
  my
• 4:45
  mom
• 4:45
  what
• 4:46
  I
• 4:46
  should
• 4:46
  do.
• 4:46
  I'd
• 4:46
  ask
• 4:47
  my
• 4:47
  friends.
• 4:48
  I
• 4:48
  checked
• 4:48
  the
• 4:48
  temperature
• 4:49
  of
• 4:49
  every
• 4:50
  room
• 4:51
  before
• 4:52
  I
• 4:52
  made
• 4:53
  a
• 4:53
  decision.
• 4:54
  I
• 4:54
  outsourced
• 4:55
  my
• 4:56
  own
• 4:56
  knowing
• 4:57
  to
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  people
• 4:58
  that
• 4:58
  I
• 4:58
  loved
• 4:59
  because
• 5:00
  their
• 5:00
  voices
• 5:02
  felt
• 5:02
  safer
• 5:03
  than
• 5:03
  my
• 5:03
  own.
• 5:04
  And
• 5:05
  when
• 5:05
  my
• 5:05
  mom
• 5:06
  went
• 5:06
  to
• 5:06
  heaven,
• 5:07
  That
• 5:08
  primary
• 5:08
  voice
• 5:09
  went
• 5:09
  with
• 5:10
  her.
• 5:11
  And
• 5:11
  for
• 5:11
  the
• 5:11
  first
• 5:12
  time
• 5:12
  in
• 5:12
  my
• 5:13
  life
• 5:14
  I
• 5:14
  had
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  go
• 5:15
  within,
• 5:16
  not
• 5:16
  because
• 5:17
  I
• 5:17
  wanted
• 5:17
  to,
• 5:18
  but
• 5:18
  because
• 5:19
  I
• 5:19
  had
• 5:20
  to.
• 5:21
  And
• 5:21
  you
• 5:21
  know
• 5:22
  what
• 5:22
  I
• 5:22
  found?
• 5:23
  When
• 5:23
  I
• 5:23
  got
• 5:23
  quiet
• 5:24
  enough
• 5:25
  to
• 5:25
  finally
• 5:26
  hear
• 5:26
  myself,
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  found
• 5:28
  a
• 5:29
  woman
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  had
• 5:30
  never
• 5:30
  fully
• 5:31
  met.
• 5:31
  It
• 5:32
  was
• 5:32
  through
• 5:33
  grief
• 5:33
  counseling
• 5:34
  and
• 5:35
  journaling.
• 5:36
  I
• 5:36
  started
• 5:37
  to
• 5:37
  see
• 5:37
  my
• 5:38
  own
• 5:38
  thoughts
• 5:38
  clearly
• 5:39
  for
• 5:40
  the
• 5:40
  first
• 5:40
  time,
• 5:41
  not
• 5:41
  filter
• 5:42
  through
• 5:42
  anyone
• 5:43
  else's
• 5:43
  lens,
• 5:44
  just
• 5:45
  mine.
• 5:46
  It
• 5:46
  was
• 5:46
  through
• 5:47
  gratitude,
• 5:48
  not.
• 5:48
  Just
• 5:49
  for
• 5:49
  what
• 5:49
  was
• 5:49
  around
• 5:50
  me,
• 5:51
  but
• 5:51
  for
• 5:51
  myself,
• 5:53
  for
• 5:53
  everything
• 5:54
  I
• 5:54
  had
• 5:54
  done,
• 5:55
  everything
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  had
• 5:56
  survived,
• 5:58
  everything
• 5:58
  I
• 5:58
  was
• 5:59
  still
• 5:59
  doing
• 5:59
  in
• 6:00
  the
• 6:00
  middle
• 6:01
  of
• 6:01
  the
• 6:01
  hardest
• 6:02
  chapter
• 6:03
  of
• 6:03
  my
• 6:03
  life.
• 6:04
  And
• 6:05
  somewhere
• 6:06
  in
• 6:06
  that
• 6:06
  quiet
• 6:07
  somewhere
• 6:07
  between
• 6:08
  the
• 6:08
  grief
• 6:09
  and
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  journaling
• 6:10
  and
• 6:10
  going
• 6:10
  within,
• 6:11
  I
• 6:12
  realized
• 6:12
  something.
• 6:13
  I'm
• 6:14
  a
• 6:14
  pretty
• 6:14
  dope
• 6:14
  chick
• 6:17
  And
• 6:17
  I
• 6:17
  really
• 6:18
  mean
• 6:18
  that.
• 6:18
  I
• 6:19
  looked
• 6:19
  at
• 6:19
  myself
• 6:20
  like
• 6:20
  really
• 6:21
  looked
• 6:21
  at
• 6:21
  myself
• 6:21
  and
• 6:22
  I
• 6:22
  thought,
• 6:22
  I
• 6:23
  am
• 6:23
  actually
• 6:24
  proud
• 6:24
  of
• 6:24
  who
• 6:25
  I
• 6:25
  am.
• 6:26
  And
• 6:26
  the
• 6:26
  biggest
• 6:27
  shift
• 6:28
  of
• 6:28
  all
• 6:29
  I
• 6:29
  realized
• 6:30
  I
• 6:30
  could
• 6:31
  trust
• 6:31
  myself
• 6:32
  to
• 6:32
  make
• 6:33
  the
• 6:33
  right
• 6:33
  decisions
• 6:34
  for
• 6:34
  me,
• 6:35
  not
• 6:35
  my
• 6:35
  mom,
• 6:36
  not
• 6:36
  my
• 6:36
  friends,
• 6:37
  not
• 6:38
  my
• 6:38
  committee.
• 6:39
  But
• 6:39
  me
• 6:40
  and
• 6:41
  every
• 6:41
  time
• 6:42
  I
• 6:42
  went
• 6:42
  within
• 6:43
  and
• 6:43
  got
• 6:44
  an
• 6:44
  answer
• 6:45
  and
• 6:45
  that
• 6:46
  answer
• 6:46
  turned
• 6:47
  out
• 6:47
  to
• 6:47
  be
• 6:47
  right,
• 6:48
  I
• 6:48
  made
• 6:48
  a
• 6:48
  deposit
• 6:49
  into
• 6:50
  something.
• 6:50
  I
• 6:51
  didn't
• 6:51
  even
• 6:51
  have
• 6:51
  a
• 6:51
  name
• 6:52
  for
• 6:52
  it
• 6:52
  yet.
• 6:53
  It
• 6:53
  was
• 6:54
  self-love,
• 6:55
  not
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  hashtag
• 6:56
  version
• 6:57
  and
• 6:57
  not
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  face
• 6:58
  mask
• 6:58
  version,
• 7:01
  the
• 7:02
  kind
• 7:02
  that
• 7:02
  stabilizes
• 7:03
  you
• 7:04
  from
• 7:04
  the
• 7:04
  inside
• 7:05
  out,
• 7:06
  the
• 7:06
  kind
• 7:06
  that
• 7:07
  holds
• 7:07
  you
• 7:08
  when
• 7:08
  nobody
• 7:09
  else
• 7:09
  can.
• 7:10
  The
• 7:11
  kind
• 7:11
  that
• 7:12
  once
• 7:12
  you
• 7:12
  find
• 7:13
  it,
• 7:13
  makes
• 7:14
  you
• 7:14
  completely
• 7:15
  unavailable
• 7:16
  for
• 7:16
  abandoning
• 7:17
  yourself
• 7:18
  ever
• 7:19
  again.
• 7:20
  So
• 7:21
  let
• 7:21
  me
• 7:21
  give
• 7:21
  you
• 7:21
  the
• 7:22
  real
• 7:22
  definition
• 7:23
  of
• 7:23
  what
• 7:24
  self-love
• 7:24
  actually
• 7:25
  is.
• 7:26
  The
• 7:26
  one
• 7:26
  I
• 7:27
  wish
• 7:27
  somebody
• 7:28
  had
• 7:28
  given
• 7:28
  me
• 7:29
  before
• 7:30
  grief
• 7:30
  had
• 7:31
  to
• 7:31
  teach
• 7:31
  me.
• 7:32
  Self-love
• 7:33
  is
• 7:33
  not
• 7:34
  just
• 7:34
  a
• 7:35
  feeling.
• 7:36
  It's
• 7:36
  not
• 7:36
  something
• 7:37
  you
• 7:37
  wake
• 7:37
  up
• 7:37
  with
• 7:38
  one
• 7:38
  day
• 7:38
  fully
• 7:39
  formed.
• 7:40
  It's
• 7:40
  a
• 7:40
  practice
• 7:42
  a
• 7:42
  daily.
• 7:43
  Sometimes
• 7:44
  very
• 7:44
  inconvenient,
• 7:46
  often
• 7:47
  uncomfortable
• 7:48
  practice
• 7:49
  of
• 7:49
  choosing
• 7:50
  yourself
• 7:51
  even
• 7:51
  when
• 7:51
  it's
• 7:52
  hard.
• 7:53
  Especially
• 7:54
  when
• 7:55
  it's
• 7:55
  hard,
• 7:56
  and
• 7:56
  here's
• 7:56
  the
• 7:57
  part
• 7:57
  that
• 7:57
  really
• 7:58
  shifted
• 7:58
  something
• 7:59
  deep
• 7:59
  within
• 8:00
  me.
• 8:00
  Self-love
• 8:01
  is
• 8:02
  not
• 8:02
  about
• 8:02
  feeling
• 8:03
  good
• 8:04
  about
• 8:04
  yourself
• 8:05
  all
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  time.
• 8:06
  It's
• 8:06
  about
• 8:07
  being
• 8:07
  committed
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  yourself
• 8:08
  all
• 8:08
  the
• 8:08
  time.
• 8:09
  Feeling
• 8:10
  good
• 8:10
  about
• 8:10
  yourself
• 8:11
  is
• 8:12
  weather.
• 8:12
  It
• 8:13
  changes.
• 8:14
  Some
• 8:14
  days
• 8:14
  the
• 8:15
  sun
• 8:15
  is
• 8:15
  out
• 8:16
  and
• 8:16
  you
• 8:16
  feel
• 8:17
  like
• 8:17
  the
• 8:17
  absolute
• 8:18
  moment.
• 8:20
  Some
• 8:21
  days
• 8:21
  it's
• 8:21
  stormy
• 8:22
  and
• 8:22
  you
• 8:23
  can't
• 8:23
  even
• 8:23
  remember
• 8:24
  a
• 8:24
  single
• 8:24
  thing
• 8:25
  that
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  like
• 8:26
  about
• 8:26
  yourself.
• 8:28
  But
• 8:29
  commitment.
• 8:30
  Commitment
• 8:31
  is
• 8:31
  the
• 8:31
  foundation.
• 8:32
  It
• 8:33
  stays
• 8:33
  regardless
• 8:34
  of
• 8:35
  the
• 8:35
  weather.
• 8:36
  Self-love
• 8:36
  says
• 8:37
  I
• 8:37
  am
• 8:38
  having
• 8:38
  a
• 8:38
  moment
• 8:39
  today
• 8:40
  and
• 8:40
  I
• 8:40
  still
• 8:41
  deserve
• 8:41
  to
• 8:42
  be
• 8:42
  treated
• 8:42
  well
• 8:43
  by
• 8:43
  others
• 8:44
  and
• 8:44
  by
• 8:45
  myself.
• 8:46
  Self-love
• 8:47
  says
• 8:47
  I
• 8:47
  made
• 8:48
  a
• 8:48
  mistake
• 8:49
  and
• 8:50
  I
• 8:50
  am
• 8:50
  not
• 8:50
  going
• 8:51
  to
• 8:51
  punish
• 8:51
  myself
• 8:53
  into
• 8:53
  the
• 8:53
  ground
• 8:54
  over
• 8:54
  it.
• 8:55
  Self-love
• 8:56
  says
• 8:56
  I
• 8:56
  trust
• 8:57
  myself
• 8:58
  even
• 8:58
  when
• 8:59
  it's
• 8:59
  scary.
• 9:00
  No
• 9:00
  one
• 9:00
  agrees,
• 9:01
  and
• 9:02
  even
• 9:02
  when
• 9:03
  I'm
• 9:03
  doing
• 9:03
  it
• 9:04
  all
• 9:04
  alone.
• 9:05
  Now
• 9:06
  that
• 9:06
  last
• 9:07
  one,
• 9:07
  that
• 9:08
  last
• 9:08
  one
• 9:08
  created
• 9:09
  such
• 9:10
  a
• 9:10
  shift
• 9:10
  in
• 9:11
  my
• 9:11
  life
• 9:12
  because
• 9:12
  the
• 9:12
  moment
• 9:13
  I
• 9:13
  stopped
• 9:13
  outsourcing
• 9:14
  my
• 9:14
  knowing,
• 9:15
  the
• 9:15
  moment
• 9:16
  I
• 9:16
  started
• 9:17
  trusting
• 9:17
  the
• 9:17
  answers
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  found
• 9:19
  when
• 9:19
  I
• 9:20
  went
• 9:20
  within
• 9:22
  everything
• 9:22
  stabilized.
• 9:23
  Not
• 9:24
  because
• 9:25
  it
• 9:25
  got
• 9:25
  easier,
• 9:26
  but
• 9:26
  because
• 9:27
  I
• 9:27
  had
• 9:28
  something
• 9:28
  solid
• 9:29
  underneath
• 9:30
  me
• 9:31
  and
• 9:31
  that
• 9:31
  was
• 9:32
  myself.
• 9:34
  I
• 9:34
  wanna
• 9:34
  give
• 9:34
  you
• 9:35
  a
• 9:35
  practice
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  take
• 9:37
  with
• 9:37
  you,
• 9:37
  because
• 9:38
  that's
• 9:39
  what
• 9:39
  we
• 9:39
  do
• 9:39
  here.
• 9:40
  We
• 9:40
  don't
• 9:40
  just
• 9:41
  feel
• 9:41
  it,
• 9:41
  we
• 9:42
  build
• 9:43
  it.
• 9:43
  This
• 9:44
  is
• 9:44
  the
• 9:44
  stable
• 9:45
  framework,
• 9:46
  six
• 9:47
  ways.
• 9:48
  Self-love
• 9:49
  shows
• 9:49
  up
• 9:50
  as
• 9:50
  stability
• 9:51
  in
• 9:52
  your
• 9:52
  real
• 9:53
  life.
• 9:54
  The
• 9:54
  s.
• 9:55
  Speak
• 9:56
  to
• 9:56
  yourself
• 9:56
  like
• 9:56
  someone
• 9:57
  you
• 9:57
  love.
• 9:58
  It
• 9:58
  starts
• 9:58
  right
• 9:59
  here,
• 9:59
  friend,
• 9:59
  with
• 10:00
  the
• 10:00
  voice
• 10:00
  inside
• 10:01
  your
• 10:01
  head.
• 10:02
  How
• 10:02
  do
• 10:02
  you
• 10:02
  talk
• 10:03
  to
• 10:03
  yourself
• 10:03
  when
• 10:03
  you
• 10:04
  fall
• 10:04
  short?
• 10:05
  Make
• 10:05
  a
• 10:05
  mistake,
• 10:06
  or
• 10:06
  when
• 10:06
  you
• 10:07
  look
• 10:07
  in
• 10:07
  the
• 10:07
  mirror.
• 10:08
  And
• 10:09
  this
• 10:09
  isn't
• 10:10
  your
• 10:10
  best
• 10:10
  day,
• 10:11
  because
• 10:11
  I
• 10:12
  promise
• 10:12
  you
• 10:13
  the
• 10:13
  way
• 10:13
  you
• 10:14
  speak
• 10:14
  to
• 10:14
  yourself
• 10:15
  before
• 10:15
  this
• 10:16
  work,
• 10:16
  you
• 10:17
  would
• 10:17
  never
• 10:17
  speak
• 10:18
  to
• 10:18
  somebody
• 10:18
  you
• 10:19
  love
• 10:19
  like
• 10:20
  that.
• 10:20
  Self-love
• 10:21
  changes
• 10:22
  the
• 10:22
  voice,
• 10:23
  not
• 10:24
  pretending
• 10:24
  everything
• 10:24
  is
• 10:25
  perfect,
• 10:25
  but
• 10:26
  to
• 10:26
  the
• 10:26
  voice
• 10:27
  of
• 10:27
  someone
• 10:28
  who
• 10:28
  believes
• 10:29
  in
• 10:29
  you,
• 10:30
  even
• 10:31
  when
• 10:31
  you're
• 10:31
  struggling
• 10:32
  to
• 10:32
  believe
• 10:32
  in
• 10:32
  yourself.
• 10:34
  And
• 10:34
  that
• 10:34
  voice
• 10:35
  goes
• 10:35
  from
• 10:35
  being
• 10:36
  your
• 10:36
  worst
• 10:37
  critic
• 10:38
  to
• 10:38
  your
• 10:39
  biggest
• 10:39
  cheerleader.
• 10:40
  It's
• 10:41
  kind.
• 10:42
  It
• 10:42
  says,
• 10:42
  I
• 10:42
  made
• 10:42
  a
• 10:43
  mistake.
• 10:43
  I'm
• 10:43
  learning
• 10:44
  and
• 10:45
  I'm
• 10:45
  still
• 10:46
  worthy.
• 10:47
  T
• 10:48
  trust
• 10:49
  your
• 10:49
  own
• 10:50
  knowing.
• 10:51
  This
• 10:51
  one
• 10:51
  is
• 10:51
  so
• 10:52
  personal
• 10:53
  for
• 10:53
  me,
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  I
• 10:53
  think
• 10:54
  it
• 10:54
  might
• 10:54
  be
• 10:54
  personal
• 10:55
  for
• 10:55
  you
• 10:55
  too.
• 10:56
  Going
• 10:56
  within
• 10:57
  is
• 10:57
  a
• 10:57
  practice.
• 10:58
  It
• 10:59
  feels
• 10:59
  very
• 11:00
  unnatural
• 11:01
  at
• 11:01
  first
• 11:01
  friend.
• 11:02
  Okay,
• 11:02
  so
• 11:02
  listen,
• 11:03
  let's
• 11:03
  just
• 11:03
  normalize
• 11:04
  that
• 11:04
  when
• 11:04
  we
• 11:05
  do
• 11:05
  new
• 11:05
  things,
• 11:06
  it's
• 11:06
  gonna
• 11:07
  feel
• 11:07
  uncomfortable.
• 11:08
  We
• 11:08
  have
• 11:09
  to
• 11:09
  practice
• 11:10
  in
• 11:10
  order
• 11:11
  to
• 11:11
  get
• 11:11
  comfortable.
• 11:12
  So
• 11:13
  it's
• 11:13
  gonna
• 11:13
  feel
• 11:14
  unnatural
• 11:15
  at
• 11:15
  first,
• 11:16
  especially
• 11:16
  if
• 11:17
  like
• 11:17
  the
• 11:17
  old
• 11:17
  me,
• 11:18
  you
• 11:18
  spent
• 11:19
  years
• 11:19
  outsourcing
• 11:20
  your
• 11:20
  decisions
• 11:21
  to
• 11:22
  the
• 11:22
  people
• 11:22
  you
• 11:22
  love.
• 11:23
  But
• 11:23
  every
• 11:24
  time
• 11:24
  you
• 11:25
  trust
• 11:25
  yourself,
• 11:27
  even
• 11:27
  in
• 11:27
  the
• 11:27
  smallest
• 11:29
  slightest
• 11:29
  way,
• 11:30
  you
• 11:30
  make
• 11:31
  a
• 11:31
  deposit,
• 11:32
  you
• 11:32
  tell
• 11:32
  yourself,
• 11:33
  my
• 11:34
  instincts
• 11:35
  matter.
• 11:35
  My
• 11:36
  voice
• 11:36
  counts.
• 11:37
  I
• 11:37
  can
• 11:38
  be
• 11:38
  trusted.
• 11:39
  And
• 11:39
  those
• 11:40
  deposits,
• 11:41
  they
• 11:41
  compound
• 11:43
  until
• 11:43
  one
• 11:44
  day
• 11:44
  you
• 11:44
  realize
• 11:45
  you
• 11:46
  don't
• 11:46
  need
• 11:46
  the
• 11:46
  committee
• 11:47
  anymore
• 11:47
  because
• 11:48
  you
• 11:49
  have
• 11:49
  got
• 11:50
  you.
• 11:51
  The
• 11:51
  A
• 11:52
  in
• 11:52
  stable
• 11:53
  is
• 11:53
  allow
• 11:54
  yourself
• 11:55
  to
• 11:55
  receive.
• 11:56
  We
• 11:56
  are
• 11:57
  excellent
• 11:57
  givers
• 11:59
  and
• 11:59
  terrible
• 12:00
  receivers,
• 12:01
  myself
• 12:02
  A
• 12:02
  compliment
• 12:03
  lands
• 12:04
  and
• 12:04
  we
• 12:04
  deflect.
• 12:05
  Someone
• 12:05
  offers
• 12:06
  to
• 12:06
  help
• 12:06
  and
• 12:06
  we
• 12:07
  say,
• 12:07
  no,
• 12:07
  I've
• 12:08
  got
• 12:08
  it.
• 12:08
  Someone
• 12:09
  treats
• 12:09
  us
• 12:10
  well
• 12:10
  and
• 12:11
  we
• 12:11
  wait
• 12:11
  for
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  catch.
• 12:13
  But
• 12:13
  here's
• 12:14
  what
• 12:14
  I
• 12:14
  learned.
• 12:15
  When
• 12:15
  you
• 12:15
  cannot
• 12:16
  receive,
• 12:17
  you
• 12:17
  are
• 12:18
  capping
• 12:18
  your
• 12:19
  own
• 12:20
  capacity
• 12:20
  for
• 12:20
  love,
• 12:21
  and
• 12:21
  that
• 12:22
  includes
• 12:22
  self-love.
• 12:23
  So
• 12:24
  let
• 12:24
  the
• 12:25
  compliment
• 12:25
  land
• 12:26
  say
• 12:26
  thank
• 12:27
  you
• 12:27
  and
• 12:27
  nothing
• 12:27
  else.
• 12:28
  Let
• 12:29
  someone
• 12:29
  help
• 12:30
  you.
• 12:31
  Let
• 12:31
  yourself
• 12:31
  be
• 12:32
  seen.
• 12:33
  Receiving
• 12:33
  is
• 12:34
  not
• 12:34
  a
• 12:34
  weakness.
• 12:35
  It
• 12:35
  is
• 12:35
  wholeness
• 12:37
  and
• 12:37
  it
• 12:37
  is
• 12:38
  an
• 12:38
  act
• 12:38
  of
• 12:38
  self-love.
• 12:40
  The
• 12:40
  B
• 12:41
  is
• 12:41
  boundaries
• 12:42
  as
• 12:42
  an
• 12:43
  act
• 12:43
  of
• 12:43
  self-love,
• 12:44
  Every
• 12:45
  boundary
• 12:45
  you
• 12:46
  set
• 12:46
  says
• 12:47
  one
• 12:47
  thing,
• 12:48
  I
• 12:48
  matter
• 12:49
  enough
• 12:50
  to
• 12:50
  protect,
• 12:51
  not
• 12:52
  as
• 12:52
  a
• 12:52
  wall
• 12:53
  or
• 12:53
  punishment,
• 12:54
  or
• 12:54
  even
• 12:54
  as
• 12:54
  just
• 12:54
  a
• 12:55
  declaration.
• 12:56
  And
• 12:56
  here's
• 12:56
  what
• 12:57
  I
• 12:57
  want
• 12:57
  you
• 12:57
  to
• 12:57
  know
• 12:57
  about
• 12:58
  boundaries
• 12:59
  and
• 12:59
  stability.
• 13:00
  The
• 13:00
  more
• 13:00
  consistently
• 13:01
  you
• 13:01
  hold
• 13:02
  them,
• 13:02
  the
• 13:03
  more
• 13:03
  grounded
• 13:04
  you
• 13:04
  feel
• 13:05
  because
• 13:05
  you
• 13:05
  stop
• 13:06
  being
• 13:06
  at
• 13:06
  the
• 13:07
  mercy
• 13:07
  of
• 13:07
  what
• 13:08
  everyone
• 13:08
  else
• 13:08
  brings
• 13:09
  to
• 13:09
  you.
• 13:10
  You
• 13:10
  have
• 13:11
  a
• 13:11
  standard.
• 13:12
  And
• 13:12
  that
• 13:12
  standard
• 13:13
  holds
• 13:14
  you
• 13:14
  steady.
• 13:15
  Boundaries
• 13:16
  aren't
• 13:16
  the
• 13:16
  end
• 13:17
  of
• 13:17
  love.
• 13:18
  They
• 13:18
  are
• 13:18
  the
• 13:18
  beginning
• 13:20
  of
• 13:20
  self-love.
• 13:21
  L
• 13:22
  let
• 13:22
  go
• 13:23
  of
• 13:23
  who
• 13:23
  you
• 13:24
  were
• 13:24
  performing.
• 13:25
  Now
• 13:25
  listen,
• 13:26
  a
• 13:26
  lot
• 13:27
  of
• 13:27
  us
• 13:27
  have
• 13:27
  been
• 13:27
  performing
• 13:28
  a
• 13:28
  version
• 13:29
  of
• 13:29
  ourselves
• 13:29
  for
• 13:29
  so
• 13:30
  long
• 13:30
  that
• 13:31
  we
• 13:31
  lost
• 13:32
  track
• 13:32
  of
• 13:32
  the
• 13:32
  real
• 13:33
  one,
• 13:35
  The
• 13:35
  version
• 13:36
  who
• 13:36
  didn't
• 13:37
  edit
• 13:37
  her
• 13:37
  opinions
• 13:38
  before
• 13:39
  she
• 13:39
  shared
• 13:39
  them,
• 13:40
  the
• 13:40
  version
• 13:40
  that
• 13:41
  took
• 13:41
  up
• 13:41
  space
• 13:42
  without
• 13:42
  apologizing
• 13:43
  the
• 13:43
  version
• 13:44
  that
• 13:44
  knew
• 13:45
  what
• 13:45
  she
• 13:45
  wanted,
• 13:46
  and
• 13:46
  she
• 13:46
  said,
• 13:46
  so
• 13:47
  self-love
• 13:48
  requires
• 13:49
  letting
• 13:50
  the
• 13:50
  performance
• 13:51
  retire,
• 13:52
  not
• 13:52
  in
• 13:53
  a
• 13:53
  big,
• 13:53
  dramatic
• 13:54
  moment.
• 13:55
  In
• 13:56
  the
• 13:56
  small
• 13:57
  daily
• 13:57
  decisions
• 13:58
  to
• 13:59
  be
• 13:59
  a
• 13:59
  little
• 13:59
  bit
• 14:00
  more
• 14:00
  yourself,
• 14:01
  to
• 14:01
  say
• 14:02
  what
• 14:02
  you
• 14:02
  actually
• 14:03
  think,
• 14:04
  to
• 14:04
  stop
• 14:05
  shrinking
• 14:05
  so
• 14:06
  others
• 14:06
  can
• 14:06
  feel
• 14:07
  comfortable.
• 14:08
  I'm
• 14:08
  talking
• 14:08
  about
• 14:09
  the
• 14:09
  real
• 14:10
  unedited,
• 14:11
  unapologetic,
• 14:12
  fully
• 14:13
  expressed
• 14:14
  you.
• 14:15
  She
• 14:16
  is
• 14:16
  so
• 14:16
  much
• 14:17
  better
• 14:17
  than
• 14:18
  any
• 14:18
  performance
• 14:19
  you
• 14:20
  could
• 14:20
  ever
• 14:20
  give.
• 14:21
  And
• 14:21
  finally,
• 14:22
  e.
• 14:23
  Every
• 14:23
  day
• 14:24
  is
• 14:24
  a
• 14:24
  recommitment,
• 14:25
  and
• 14:26
  this
• 14:26
  is
• 14:26
  such
• 14:27
  an
• 14:27
  important
• 14:28
  step
• 14:28
  because
• 14:28
  self-love
• 14:29
  is
• 14:29
  not
• 14:29
  just
• 14:30
  something
• 14:30
  that
• 14:30
  you
• 14:30
  set
• 14:31
  up
• 14:31
  one
• 14:31
  time
• 14:32
  and
• 14:32
  it
• 14:32
  runs
• 14:32
  on
• 14:32
  autopilot.
• 14:33
  Self-love
• 14:34
  is
• 14:34
  not
• 14:35
  a
• 14:35
  destination.
• 14:36
  It
• 14:36
  is
• 14:36
  a
• 14:36
  daily
• 14:37
  recommitment.
• 14:38
  You
• 14:39
  will
• 14:39
  have
• 14:40
  days
• 14:40
  where
• 14:41
  you
• 14:41
  nailed
• 14:41
  it
• 14:42
  and
• 14:43
  days
• 14:43
  where
• 14:43
  old
• 14:44
  patterns
• 14:44
  creep
• 14:45
  on
• 14:45
  back
• 14:45
  in
• 14:46
  and
• 14:46
  on
• 14:46
  those
• 14:47
  days,
• 14:47
  the
• 14:47
  most
• 14:48
  loving
• 14:48
  thing
• 14:49
  you
• 14:49
  can
• 14:49
  do
• 14:50
  is
• 14:51
  not
• 14:51
  beat
• 14:51
  yourself
• 14:52
  up.
• 14:52
  It's
• 14:53
  just
• 14:53
  to
• 14:54
  recommit.
• 14:55
  To
• 14:56
  kindly
• 14:57
  say
• 14:57
  to
• 14:57
  yourself,
• 14:58
  I
• 14:58
  see
• 14:58
  what
• 14:58
  I
• 14:58
  did.
• 14:59
  I
• 14:59
  understand
• 15:00
  why,
• 15:00
  and
• 15:01
  I
• 15:01
  choose.
• 15:02
  Again.
• 15:03
  Every
• 15:03
  day
• 15:04
  is
• 15:04
  a
• 15:04
  new
• 15:04
  opportunity
• 15:05
  to
• 15:05
  choose
• 15:06
  yourself,
• 15:07
  not
• 15:07
  perfectly,
• 15:08
  just
• 15:09
  intentionally.
• 15:10
  That
• 15:11
  is
• 15:11
  self-love,
• 15:12
  that's
• 15:12
  stability.
• 15:13
  That's
• 15:13
  what
• 15:14
  makes
• 15:14
  you
• 15:14
  completely
• 15:15
  and
• 15:15
  utterly
• 15:16
  unavailable
• 15:17
  for
• 15:18
  self
• 15:18
  abandonment.
• 15:19
  Okay.
• 15:20
  Okay.
• 15:23
  A
• 15:24
  friend.
• 15:24
  Relief
• 15:25
  is
• 15:25
  real,
• 15:25
  but
• 15:26
  relief
• 15:26
  alone
• 15:27
  does
• 15:27
  not
• 15:28
  create
• 15:28
  change.
• 15:29
  What
• 15:29
  most
• 15:29
  women
• 15:30
  notice
• 15:30
  is
• 15:31
  that
• 15:31
  without
• 15:31
  a
• 15:31
  system
• 15:32
  to
• 15:32
  return
• 15:33
  to
• 15:33
  those
• 15:34
  old
• 15:34
  patterns
• 15:35
  resurface
• 15:36
  And
• 15:36
  self-doubt
• 15:36
  starts
• 15:37
  running
• 15:37
  the
• 15:37
  show
• 15:38
  all
• 15:38
  over
• 15:39
  again.
• 15:39
  The
• 15:40
  main
• 15:40
  character
• 15:40
  Momentum
• 15:41
  Builder
• 15:41
  was
• 15:42
  created
• 15:42
  for
• 15:42
  that
• 15:43
  exact
• 15:44
  gap.
• 15:44
  It
• 15:45
  helps
• 15:45
  you
• 15:45
  build
• 15:45
  momentum
• 15:46
  from
• 15:46
  self-love,
• 15:47
  not
• 15:48
  pressure.
• 15:49
  So
• 15:49
  alignment
• 15:50
  becomes
• 15:50
  something
• 15:51
  you
• 15:51
  live
• 15:52
  day
• 15:52
  by
• 15:52
  day.
• 15:53
  This
• 15:54
  is
• 15:54
  for
• 15:54
  the
• 15:54
  woman
• 15:54
  who
• 15:54
  wants
• 15:55
  to
• 15:55
  stop
• 15:55
  relying
• 15:56
  on
• 15:56
  motivation
• 15:57
  alone
• 15:58
  and
• 15:58
  starts
• 15:58
  moving
• 15:59
  with
• 15:59
  steadiness.
• 16:00
  If
• 16:01
  that
• 16:01
  sounds
• 16:01
  like
• 16:01
  you,
• 16:02
  the
• 16:02
  main
• 16:02
  character
• 16:03
  Momentum
• 16:03
  Builder
• 16:04
  is
• 16:04
  waiting
• 16:05
  for
• 16:05
  you
• 16:05
  below.
• 16:09
  You
• 16:09
  know
• 16:09
  what
• 16:09
  I
• 16:09
  love
• 16:10
  most
• 16:10
  about
• 16:10
  this
• 16:11
  work?
• 16:11
  It
• 16:12
  doesn't
• 16:12
  just
• 16:12
  stay
• 16:13
  in
• 16:13
  your
• 16:13
  earbuds,
• 16:14
  it
• 16:14
  moves
• 16:15
  into
• 16:15
  real
• 16:16
  life,
• 16:17
  into
• 16:17
  your
• 16:18
  journal,
• 16:18
  into
• 16:18
  your
• 16:19
  mirror,
• 16:20
  into
• 16:20
  the
• 16:20
  quiet
• 16:21
  decisions
• 16:21
  you
• 16:22
  make
• 16:22
  when
• 16:22
  nobody
• 16:23
  is
• 16:23
  watching.
• 16:24
  So
• 16:24
  let's
• 16:25
  get
• 16:25
  into
• 16:25
  yourself.
• 16:26
  Love
• 16:27
  two
• 16:27
  step.
• 16:28
  Think
• 16:28
  of
• 16:28
  it
• 16:28
  as
• 16:29
  me
• 16:29
  getting
• 16:29
  the
• 16:29
  party
• 16:30
  started
• 16:30
  and
• 16:30
  then
• 16:31
  you
• 16:31
  keep
• 16:32
  it
• 16:32
  going
• 16:34
  in
• 16:34
  whatever
• 16:35
  way
• 16:35
  feels
• 16:36
  most
• 16:37
  aligned
• 16:37
  for
• 16:37
  you.
• 16:38
  Step
• 16:39
  one,
• 16:39
  the
• 16:40
  journal
• 16:40
  move.
• 16:41
  I
• 16:41
  know
• 16:42
  some
• 16:42
  of
• 16:42
  y'all
• 16:43
  listen.
• 16:43
  You
• 16:43
  might
• 16:44
  even
• 16:44
  have
• 16:44
  had
• 16:45
  a
• 16:45
  shiver
• 16:46
  run
• 16:46
  down
• 16:46
  your
• 16:46
  spine
• 16:46
  when
• 16:47
  I
• 16:47
  said
• 16:47
  journal.
• 16:49
  I
• 16:49
  know
• 16:50
  everyone
• 16:51
  is
• 16:51
  not
• 16:52
  like
• 16:52
  an
• 16:52
  A
• 16:53
  student
• 16:53
  when
• 16:53
  it
• 16:53
  comes
• 16:54
  to
• 16:55
  journaling,
• 16:56
  but
• 16:56
  hear
• 16:56
  me
• 16:57
  out
• 16:57
  on
• 16:57
  this,
• 16:57
  because
• 16:58
  journaling
• 16:58
  has
• 16:59
  so
• 16:59
  many
• 17:00
  incredible
• 17:01
  benefits,
• 17:02
  especially
• 17:03
  if
• 17:03
  you
• 17:03
  have
• 17:03
  a
• 17:04
  hard
• 17:04
  time
• 17:05
  separating
• 17:05
  yourself.
• 17:06
  From
• 17:07
  your
• 17:07
  thoughts
• 17:08
  or
• 17:08
  getting
• 17:09
  clear
• 17:10
  on
• 17:10
  your
• 17:10
  thoughts
• 17:11
  or
• 17:11
  feelings,
• 17:12
  it
• 17:12
  is
• 17:13
  such
• 17:13
  an
• 17:13
  amazing
• 17:14
  reflection
• 17:15
  tool
• 17:16
  that
• 17:16
  really
• 17:16
  just
• 17:17
  helps
• 17:17
  to
• 17:17
  give
• 17:17
  you
• 17:18
  clarity
• 17:19
  on
• 17:20
  who
• 17:20
  you
• 17:20
  are,
• 17:21
  what
• 17:21
  you
• 17:21
  think,
• 17:21
  what
• 17:22
  you
• 17:22
  feel.
• 17:23
  And
• 17:23
  it's
• 17:24
  an
• 17:24
  incredible
• 17:24
  stress
• 17:25
  reliever
• 17:26
  because
• 17:26
  when
• 17:27
  you
• 17:27
  can
• 17:28
  stop
• 17:28
  ruminating
• 17:29
  on
• 17:29
  things
• 17:30
  and
• 17:30
  allow
• 17:30
  them
• 17:30
  to
• 17:31
  live
• 17:31
  someplace
• 17:32
  else
• 17:32
  and
• 17:33
  not
• 17:33
  just
• 17:33
  rent
• 17:33
  free
• 17:33
  in
• 17:34
  your
• 17:34
  mind,
• 17:35
  that
• 17:35
  is
• 17:36
  just
• 17:36
  one
• 17:36
  of
• 17:36
  the
• 17:37
  many
• 17:37
  gifts
• 17:38
  that
• 17:38
  journaling
• 17:39
  can
• 17:39
  to
• 17:40
  you.
• 17:40
  So
• 17:40
  trust
• 17:41
  your
• 17:41
  journal
• 17:42
  does
• 17:42
  not
• 17:42
  have
• 17:43
  to
• 17:43
  become
• 17:43
  your
• 17:44
  college
• 17:44
  thesis.
• 17:47
  Even
• 17:47
  just
• 17:48
  a
• 17:48
  few
• 17:48
  minutes
• 17:49
  every
• 17:49
  day
• 17:50
  makes
• 17:50
  a
• 17:50
  massive
• 17:51
  difference
• 17:52
  over
• 17:52
  time.
• 17:53
  So
• 17:53
  grab
• 17:54
  your
• 17:54
  journal
• 17:55
  and
• 17:55
  write
• 17:55
  out
• 17:55
  this
• 17:56
  prompt
• 17:56
  with
• 17:57
  zero
• 17:57
  editing
• 17:58
  and
• 17:58
  zero
• 17:59
  filtering.
• 18:00
  Who
• 18:01
  am
• 18:01
  I
• 18:01
  in
• 18:02
  this
• 18:02
  season
• 18:04
  and
• 18:04
  what
• 18:04
  do
• 18:04
  I
• 18:04
  love
• 18:05
  about
• 18:05
  her?
• 18:06
  Hmm.
• 18:07
  I
• 18:07
  love
• 18:07
  this
• 18:07
  so
• 18:08
  much.
• 18:08
  Not
• 18:09
  who
• 18:09
  you
• 18:09
  were,
• 18:10
  not
• 18:10
  who
• 18:10
  you're
• 18:10
  becoming,
• 18:11
  but
• 18:12
  who
• 18:12
  you
• 18:12
  are
• 18:13
  right
• 18:13
  now
• 18:14
  today.
• 18:15
  Let
• 18:15
  yourself
• 18:16
  be
• 18:16
  surprised
• 18:17
  by
• 18:17
  what
• 18:18
  comes
• 18:18
  up.
• 18:19
  Let
• 18:19
  yourself
• 18:19
  be
• 18:19
  proud
• 18:20
  of
• 18:20
  what
• 18:21
  you
• 18:21
  find.
• 18:22
  Step
• 18:23
  two,
• 18:24
  the
• 18:24
  mere
• 18:24
  declaration.
• 18:26
  Take
• 18:26
  one
• 18:26
  true
• 18:27
  thing
• 18:27
  you
• 18:27
  discovered
• 18:28
  about
• 18:28
  yourself
• 18:29
  in
• 18:29
  that
• 18:29
  journal
• 18:30
  entry.
• 18:31
  Just
• 18:31
  one
• 18:31
  thing
• 18:32
  that
• 18:32
  you're
• 18:32
  proud
• 18:32
  of,
• 18:33
  or
• 18:33
  one
• 18:34
  thing
• 18:34
  that
• 18:34
  made
• 18:34
  you
• 18:35
  think,
• 18:35
  wow,
• 18:36
  she's
• 18:36
  actually
• 18:37
  pretty
• 18:37
  amazing.
• 18:38
  And
• 18:38
  I
• 18:38
  want
• 18:38
  you
• 18:39
  to
• 18:39
  take
• 18:39
  that
• 18:39
  one
• 18:39
  thing
• 18:40
  and
• 18:40
  say
• 18:41
  it
• 18:41
  out
• 18:41
  loud
• 18:41
  to
• 18:41
  yourself
• 18:42
  in
• 18:42
  the
• 18:42
  mirror.
• 18:43
  Look
• 18:43
  yourself
• 18:44
  in
• 18:44
  the
• 18:45
  eyes,
• 18:46
  mean
• 18:46
  every
• 18:47
  word.
• 18:48
  And
• 18:49
  then
• 18:49
  when
• 18:49
  you're
• 18:49
  done,
• 18:50
  say,
• 18:51
  I
• 18:51
  love
• 18:51
  you.
• 18:52
  Yes,
• 18:53
  to
• 18:53
  yourself
• 18:54
  out
• 18:54
  loud
• 18:55
  in
• 18:56
  the
• 18:56
  mirror.
• 18:57
  And
• 18:57
  then
• 18:58
  when
• 18:58
  you're
• 18:58
  ready,
• 18:59
  take
• 19:00
  your
• 19:00
  next
• 19:01
  right
• 19:02
  aligned
• 19:02
  action
• 19:04
  for
• 19:04
  you.
• 19:05
  Only
• 19:05
  you
• 19:06
  know
• 19:06
  what
• 19:07
  that
• 19:07
  is,
• 19:07
  and
• 19:08
  the
• 19:08
  fact
• 19:08
  that
• 19:09
  you
• 19:09
  know
• 19:10
  that
• 19:10
  is
• 19:11
  self-love.
• 19:13
  Ooh,
• 19:14
  friend,
• 19:15
  let
• 19:15
  me
• 19:15
  pour
• 19:16
  into
• 19:16
  you
• 19:16
  real
• 19:17
  quick.
• 19:18
  Let's
• 19:18
  just
• 19:18
  pause
• 19:19
  for
• 19:20
  a
• 19:20
  second.
• 19:21
  Put
• 19:21
  everything
• 19:21
  down.
• 19:22
  Just
• 19:22
  be
• 19:23
  here
• 19:23
  with
• 19:23
  me
• 19:24
  for
• 19:24
  a
• 19:25
  moment
• 19:26
  because
• 19:26
  you
• 19:27
  may
• 19:27
  be
• 19:27
  in
• 19:27
  a
• 19:27
  season
• 19:28
  right
• 19:28
  now.
• 19:29
  That
• 19:30
  feels
• 19:30
  like
• 19:30
  too
• 19:30
  much.
• 19:31
  Maybe
• 19:32
  you
• 19:32
  are
• 19:32
  grieving
• 19:33
  something.
• 19:34
  A
• 19:34
  person,
• 19:35
  a
• 19:35
  relationship,
• 19:36
  a
• 19:37
  version
• 19:37
  of
• 19:37
  yourself
• 19:38
  you
• 19:38
  thought
• 19:38
  you'd
• 19:38
  always
• 19:39
  be.
• 19:40
  Maybe
• 19:40
  you
• 19:41
  feel
• 19:41
  like
• 19:41
  you
• 19:42
  don't
• 19:42
  know
• 19:42
  who
• 19:42
  you
• 19:42
  are
• 19:43
  in
• 19:44
  this
• 19:44
  chapter,
• 19:45
  not
• 19:45
  because
• 19:46
  you've
• 19:46
  never
• 19:47
  known
• 19:47
  yourself,
• 19:48
  but
• 19:48
  because
• 19:49
  this
• 19:50
  season
• 19:51
  is
• 19:51
  new
• 19:51
  territory
• 19:52
  and
• 19:53
  the
• 19:53
  map
• 19:53
  you've
• 19:54
  been
• 19:54
  using
• 19:55
  doesn't
• 19:55
  cover
• 19:56
  this
• 19:56
  ground.
• 19:57
  I
• 19:57
  need
• 19:58
  you
• 19:58
  to
• 19:58
  hear
• 19:59
  this
• 19:59
  like
• 19:59
  it's
• 19:59
  the
• 20:00
  only
• 20:00
  thing
• 20:01
  that
• 20:01
  matters
• 20:01
  today.
• 20:03
  Getting
• 20:04
  lost
• 20:04
  in
• 20:04
  a
• 20:04
  season
• 20:05
  is
• 20:06
  not
• 20:06
  the
• 20:06
  same
• 20:07
  as
• 20:07
  losing
• 20:08
  yourself.
• 20:09
  Sometimes
• 20:10
  life
• 20:11
  strips
• 20:11
  away,
• 20:12
  everything
• 20:12
  familiar,
• 20:14
  so
• 20:14
  you
• 20:15
  have
• 20:15
  no
• 20:15
  choice
• 20:16
  but
• 20:17
  to
• 20:17
  go
• 20:17
  within
• 20:18
  and
• 20:19
  what
• 20:19
  you
• 20:19
  find
• 20:19
  in
• 20:19
  there
• 20:20
  when
• 20:20
  you
• 20:21
  get
• 20:21
  quiet
• 20:22
  enough,
• 20:23
  when
• 20:23
  you
• 20:23
  journal
• 20:24
  long
• 20:24
  enough,
• 20:25
  when
• 20:25
  you
• 20:26
  sit
• 20:26
  with
• 20:26
  yourself
• 20:27
  long
• 20:27
  enough,
• 20:29
  is
• 20:29
  someone
• 20:30
  remarkable.
• 20:31
  Someone
• 20:32
  who
• 20:32
  has
• 20:32
  survived
• 20:33
  everything
• 20:35
  that
• 20:35
  tried
• 20:36
  to
• 20:36
  stop
• 20:36
  her.
• 20:37
  Someone
• 20:38
  who
• 20:38
  kept
• 20:38
  showing
• 20:39
  up
• 20:40
  even
• 20:40
  when
• 20:40
  it
• 20:40
  was
• 20:41
  hard.
• 20:42
  Someone
• 20:43
  who
• 20:43
  is
• 20:43
  braver
• 20:44
  and
• 20:44
  stronger
• 20:45
  and
• 20:45
  more
• 20:45
  beautiful
• 20:47
  than
• 20:47
  she
• 20:47
  has
• 20:48
  ever
• 20:48
  given
• 20:49
  herself
• 20:49
  Credit
• 20:49
  for
• 20:50
  that
• 20:51
  woman.
• 20:52
  She
• 20:52
  is
• 20:52
  worthy
• 20:53
  of
• 20:53
  falling
• 20:54
  completely
• 20:55
  in
• 20:55
  love
• 20:56
  with,
• 20:57
  and
• 20:57
  the
• 20:57
  journey
• 20:58
  to
• 20:58
  find
• 20:58
  her,
• 20:59
  even
• 21:00
  when
• 21:00
  it
• 21:01
  starts
• 21:01
  with
• 21:01
  grief
• 21:03
  or
• 21:03
  loss,
• 21:04
  even
• 21:05
  when
• 21:05
  it
• 21:05
  starts
• 21:06
  with
• 21:06
  the
• 21:06
  hardest
• 21:07
  chapter
• 21:08
  you've
• 21:08
  ever
• 21:09
  lived.
• 21:10
  That
• 21:11
  journey
• 21:12
  is
• 21:12
  the
• 21:12
  greatest
• 21:13
  love
• 21:13
  story
• 21:14
  of
• 21:15
  your
• 21:15
  life.
• 21:16
  It's
• 21:16
  your
• 21:17
  story
• 21:18
  with
• 21:19
  yourself.
• 21:20
  I
• 21:20
  found
• 21:21
  self
• 21:21
  love
• 21:21
  in
• 21:22
  the
• 21:22
  middle
• 21:23
  of
• 21:23
  missing
• 21:24
  my
• 21:24
  mom.
• 21:25
  And
• 21:25
  I
• 21:25
  want
• 21:26
  that
• 21:26
  for
• 21:26
  you
• 21:26
  too.
• 21:27
  Not
• 21:27
  the
• 21:27
  grief
• 21:28
  part,
• 21:29
  but
• 21:29
  the
• 21:29
  discovery
• 21:30
  part,
• 21:31
  the
• 21:32
  going
• 21:32
  within
• 21:33
  the
• 21:34
  realization
• 21:35
  that
• 21:35
  you
• 21:36
  can
• 21:37
  trust
• 21:37
  yourself,
• 21:38
  that
• 21:38
  you
• 21:38
  are
• 21:39
  proud
• 21:40
  of
• 21:40
  yourself,
• 21:41
  that
• 21:41
  you
• 21:42
  exactly
• 21:43
  as
• 21:44
  you
• 21:44
  are
• 21:45
  in
• 21:45
  this
• 21:45
  season,
• 21:46
  on
• 21:46
  this
• 21:47
  day.
• 21:48
  You
• 21:48
  are
• 21:49
  someone
• 21:50
  worth
• 21:51
  choosing
• 21:52
  every
• 21:53
  single
• 21:54
  day.
• 21:55
  Mm.
• 21:55
  I
• 21:56
  love
• 21:56
  you,
• 21:56
  friend.
• 21:57
  I
• 21:57
  really
• 21:57
  do.
• 21:59
  Okay,
• 21:59
  so
• 21:59
  let
• 22:00
  me
• 22:00
  gather
• 22:00
  myself
• 22:01
  for
• 22:01
  a
• 22:01
  moment.
• 22:01
  Okay?
• 22:04
  Let
• 22:04
  me
• 22:04
  remember
• 22:04
  that
• 22:05
  I
• 22:05
  am
• 22:05
  your
• 22:05
  coach.
• 22:06
  Here's
• 22:06
  what
• 22:06
  I
• 22:06
  want
• 22:07
  you
• 22:07
  to
• 22:07
  do
• 22:07
  this
• 22:07
  week.
• 22:09
  Make
• 22:10
  sure
• 22:10
  that
• 22:11
  you
• 22:11
  take
• 22:11
  a
• 22:11
  moment
• 22:12
  to
• 22:12
  use
• 22:13
  that
• 22:13
  journal
• 22:13
  prompt,
• 22:14
  who
• 22:15
  am
• 22:15
  I
• 22:15
  in
• 22:15
  this
• 22:16
  season
• 22:16
  and
• 22:16
  what
• 22:17
  do
• 22:17
  I
• 22:17
  love
• 22:17
  about
• 22:17
  her?
• 22:18
  Not
• 22:18
  who
• 22:18
  you
• 22:19
  were,
• 22:19
  not
• 22:19
  who
• 22:19
  you're
• 22:20
  becoming,
• 22:20
  just
• 22:21
  who
• 22:21
  you
• 22:21
  are
• 22:22
  right
• 22:23
  now
• 22:23
  today.
• 22:24
  Write
• 22:25
  it
• 22:25
  out.
• 22:25
  Let
• 22:26
  yourself
• 22:26
  be
• 22:27
  surprised
• 22:27
  by
• 22:27
  what
• 22:28
  comes
• 22:28
  up,
• 22:29
  and
• 22:29
  then
• 22:29
  pick
• 22:30
  one
• 22:30
  letter
• 22:31
  from
• 22:32
  the
• 22:32
  stable
• 22:33
  practice.
• 22:34
  And
• 22:35
  use
• 22:35
  it
• 22:35
  intentionally
• 22:36
  this
• 22:36
  week.
• 22:37
  Just
• 22:37
  one
• 22:38
  one
• 22:39
  daily
• 22:39
  act
• 22:40
  of
• 22:40
  building
• 22:40
  your
• 22:41
  foundation.
• 22:42
  because
• 22:42
  in
• 22:43
  the
• 22:43
  next
• 22:43
  episode
• 22:44
  we're
• 22:44
  gonna
• 22:44
  close
• 22:45
  out
• 22:45
  the
• 22:45
  unavailable
• 22:46
  for
• 22:46
  self
• 22:47
  abandonment
• 22:47
  series.
• 22:48
  And
• 22:48
  that
• 22:49
  episode
• 22:50
  is
• 22:50
  the
• 22:50
  declaration.
• 22:52
  It
• 22:52
  is
• 22:52
  the
• 22:52
  celebration,
• 22:54
  it's
• 22:54
  the
• 22:55
  send
• 22:55
  off
• 22:56
  this
• 22:56
  series,
• 22:57
  and
• 22:57
  you
• 22:58
  deserve,
• 22:59
  you
• 22:59
  have
• 23:00
  done
• 23:00
  the
• 23:00
  work
• 23:01
  every
• 23:01
  single
• 23:02
  episode,
• 23:02
  and
• 23:02
  next
• 23:03
  time
• 23:03
  we're
• 23:04
  celebrating
• 23:04
  that,
• 23:05
  so
• 23:05
  make
• 23:05
  sure
• 23:06
  you
• 23:06
  are
• 23:06
  subscribed.
• 23:07
  So
• 23:08
  episode
• 23:08
  2
• 23:08
  83
• 23:09
  comes
• 23:09
  straight
• 23:10
  to
• 23:10
  you.
• 23:10
  You
• 23:11
  don't
• 23:11
  wanna
• 23:11
  miss
• 23:11
  a
• 23:12
  finale.
• 23:12
  and
• 23:13
  if
• 23:13
  this
• 23:13
  series
• 23:14
  has
• 23:15
  moved
• 23:15
  something
• 23:16
  real
• 23:17
  in
• 23:17
  you,
• 23:18
  please
• 23:19
  share
• 23:19
  it.
• 23:19
  Leave
• 23:20
  a
• 23:20
  review,
• 23:21
  tell
• 23:21
  a
• 23:21
  friend,
• 23:22
  because
• 23:22
  there
• 23:23
  is
• 23:23
  a
• 23:23
  woman
• 23:23
  somewhere
• 23:24
  who
• 23:25
  needs
• 23:25
  to
• 23:25
  find
• 23:26
  this
• 23:26
  show.
• 23:27
  And
• 23:27
  you
• 23:27
  might
• 23:28
  be
• 23:28
  the
• 23:28
  reason
• 23:28
  that
• 23:29
  she
• 23:29
  does.
• 23:30
  Feel
• 23:30
  free
• 23:31
  to
• 23:31
  drop
• 23:31
  me
• 23:31
  a
• 23:31
  comment
• 23:33
  and
• 23:33
  share
• 23:33
  one
• 23:34
  thing
• 23:35
  you
• 23:35
  love
• 23:35
  about
• 23:36
  who
• 23:36
  you
• 23:36
  are
• 23:36
  in
• 23:37
  this
• 23:37
  season.
• 23:37
  I
• 23:37
  really
• 23:38
  wanna
• 23:38
  celebrate
• 23:38
  you
• 23:41
  And
• 23:41
  remember,
• 23:42
  being
• 23:42
  confident
• 23:43
  enough
• 23:43
  to
• 23:43
  disappoint
• 23:44
  might
• 23:45
  be
• 23:45
  the
• 23:45
  most
• 23:46
  loving
• 23:46
  thing
• 23:47
  you
• 23:47
  ever
• 23:47
  do
• 23:48
  because
• 23:48
  every
• 23:49
  time
• 23:49
  you
• 23:49
  choose
• 23:50
  alignment
• 23:51
  over
• 23:51
  attachment,
• 23:53
  you
• 23:53
  strengthen
• 23:54
  the
• 23:54
  belief
• 23:55
  that
• 23:55
  you
• 23:55
  can
• 23:55
  trust
• 23:56
  yourself.
• 23:57
  The
• 23:57
  moment
• 23:57
  you
• 23:58
  reconnect
• 23:58
  to
• 23:58
  your
• 23:59
  standard
• 24:00
  self-trust
• 24:01
  deepens.
• 24:02
  Go
• 24:03
  within
• 24:04
  friend.
• 24:05
  Trust
• 24:05
  what
• 24:05
  you
• 24:06
  find,
• 24:06
  and
• 24:07
  fall
• 24:07
  in
• 24:08
  love
• 24:08
  with
• 24:08
  yourself
• 24:09
  in
• 24:09
  real
• 24:10
  time.
• 24:11
  Stay
• 24:11
  unavailable
• 24:12
  for
• 24:12
  self
• 24:12
  abandonment,
• 24:13
  and
• 24:16
  I'll
• 24:16
  see
• 24:16
  you
• 24:17
  in
• 24:17
  the
• 24:17
  next
• 24:17
  episode.