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#218: Fitness Over 40: Why Mindset is Your Most Important Rep · The Hotmomz Lifestyle Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Casey here, Hot Mom's Lifestyle.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna do a little vlog while I drive to the beach after the gym.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: Those of you that's been around for a while, well, if you're new to my work, uh professional fitness model, health expert, comma-informed fitness, 17 years, in the game, all the shit, right?
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: 3,000 positive case studies.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: That's just because we stopped counting at that, to be honest.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: Because what the fuck.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, it's gonna be just like a really honest vulnerable, what's what's on my mind and what what I've what um what's not happened to me, what I've gone through and what I've come out realizing.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: Once I get through this, I can't see.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: Um let's see, let me pull out here.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: Boy, that sun is no joke right there now.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: Let me tell you about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: So I went I went pro in 2012.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_00: Pro um what that means is this.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_00: And it wasn't in some like pro uh, this wasn't a like all natural and in a fucking school gymnasium.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: This was a really big show.
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  SPEAKER_00: This was back before the WFF um is as big as it is now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there that meant that they had a really big show in Kansas City you had to travel to.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_00: They they were there in Canada, and everybody from around the world would come there because they wanted to be associated with the WBF.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh World Beauty Uh Fitness Federation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I was it bodybuilding or beauty, but it was more of like muscle meets fitness model versus uh, you know, the muscle that looks very uh emaciated, manly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's some some people like that, but you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, that's what I wanted to be.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, I want to be a fitness model, that's that's the look that I want, and let me let me go do that.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: So the road to to that was interesting because I I had to lose a lot.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: Not in WFF, I had to get my ass kicked in all the wrong federations.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_00: Literally, I was in my mind, I'm like, these girls get on stage, they look good on stage, but then did you see them two weeks after?
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: Have you seen them in their offseason?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, that to me was an inspiration.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: To me, that was a f that was a poser.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, that was, you know, okay, anybody can do that, right?
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_00: But like, who are you outside of that?
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's what I valued was the lifestyle.
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_00: And so WBF kind of rewards that um, you know, the fitness model vibe.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: So I was just in the gym, and the gym that I go to, I'm a I'm a I'm a member of the fuck this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I go to a lot of different gyms.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: This one I went to because it has a certain hip abduction machine that I really like that works your upper shelf.
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_00: And but if anytime, you know, I'm talking and you really want to work with me, head to the link in my bio and just click there.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: Start with the Hot Mom's Lifestyle, it's great.
• 2:45
  SPEAKER_00: Everything's in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm in the gym and I'm listening to mindset stuff because music just wasn't hitting today.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: And I I felt kind of like, you know, I woke, I I went to bed late last night at 10:30, because uh I stopped taking melatonin and some nights I can go to bed before 10.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_00: Last night I stayed up, I was a little wired, you know.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: I stayed up, I was doing like um, I don't know, I was just wired.
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_00: Um I how my body was in like just threat mode from the day before and I was just wired.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: And so I finally went to bed about 10:30, which for me is fucking late.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I could just feel in the gym, you know.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sitting there, I'm on the lap machine, I'm on the pull down, and it just, you know, I don't do any caffeine.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: I don't do caffeine, I don't do pre-workouts, I don't do Adderall, I'm just sober as a fucking, I don't know what, like, what's wrong with me, right?
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: But seriously, that's not my story in the past.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: Used to, I would, you know, have to do Adderall and fucking ventee coffees and everything.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: But that's what got me in um straight adrenal fatigue and thyroid, fucking low thyroid and all that stuff.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I go to the gym, you know, 40 years old, total dysuretomy, all the things.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_00: Got kids at home, I got a real life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Heavy shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you don't know me, those of you that sit there and you just whatever, whatever, and maybe it's easier for her.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I have a past, alright?
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um, this is how do you think, how do you think I'm a fucking trauma-informed coach?
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm embodied, bitch.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't this wasn't a learn from a book.
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  SPEAKER_00: Therefore, I'm in the gym, I'm sitting there and I'm just like kind of honestly like thinking like a loser.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like just kind of like loser mentality.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, like I'm tired.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um man, I wish I felt different.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I just I just kind of was feeling uh just not the way I wanted to feel when I'm in the gym, especially, you know, working back, baby.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: You know, getting I love working back.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I and I noticed this lady in the gym, she was older, she was dancing, and I was like, hell yeah.
• 4:41
  SPEAKER_00: Used to I would judge people like that because it would embarrass me, but now I was like, I wonder what she's listening to.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever, let it pass.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: Sitting on the bench on the lap machine, I start going heavier, start getting kind of warmed up, and I was like, you know, I'm gonna switch to mindset work.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_00: And I start listening, I start working on my mindset, and something in me just activates.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, I'm thinking, I'm thinking, I'm thinking, you know, I'm starting to work out, working out, and then I do I get on my back stuff, and I start doing pull-ups, and the lady that was dancing and her friend, she came over and she goes, We weren't talking about you, we were uh girl, we were fangirling because you just did pull-ups and you did, you know, your back, and we we want to back like that.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: And I said, Yeah, man, I said, I I I'm a I'm a trainer, I teach you know, women, uh the biggest thing I can tell them is to train your back, train your lats.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: And um what what else did she say about the pull-ups?
• 5:35
  SPEAKER_00: And I said, Yeah, I used to could do ten.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: And she said her goal was one, and I was like, Yeah, I used to want to, I used to could do ten, and then you know, life happened, uh, hysterectomy, babies, this business, you know, losing myself, and I can do about five now.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: And she looked at me like this, and then I kind of felt like a certain way because I used to could do ten.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: Now I was 114 and you know, none of the other shit was in the in the way, and I start noticing I have excuses, right?
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_00: I have excuses of why the pull-ups didn't happen.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: I noticed that I'm like, that's what losers do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Losers say why they can't do things or why something's harder for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a loser mentality, by the way.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_00: And then I realized, okay, Casey, you you're fucking now now we know you've been sitting here thinking all this other shit was off, and really you just stopped putting the reps in with your mindset because I'm gonna tell you something.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody talks about this, uh, but it is the most fucking important thing when it comes to weight training.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I'm gonna tell you right now, you're gonna find everything you want in life in the gym.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna find every fucking thing you want in getting yourself healthy.
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you want to know what the future looks like?
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like, are you going to the gym?
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because look in the mirror, like whatever you see in the mirror right now, today, is what your future is gonna look like.
• 6:51
  SPEAKER_00: So, and and the good news is that you can change that.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: You can change that.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: People think that it's it's being perfect on a fucking diet and all this shit.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna tell you right now, if your mindset is in a winning mindset, and it's not the fake kind of like I'm gonna win whatever, whatever, and not do anything.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not I'm not talking about that.
• 7:08
  SPEAKER_00: But it's like if your mindset's right, it doesn't matter what odds are against you.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you, like I shouldn't be successful on paper because of where I came from, the things that I've been endured in life, um many people wouldn't have made it to this point.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_00: I'm serious.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: How?
• 7:28
  SPEAKER_00: It's I have a fucking success-winning mindset, and now looking back and over the 17 years, I see now how women specifically sought after me, paid me over other, you know, online personalities and coaches, and and then I realized I'm like, I stopped putting the fucking reps mind mentally.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I used to be really, really, really all in on mindset.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't I didn't fucking look at Instagram and see what people were fucking posting and where they were and traveling to, and I didn't give a fuck what other people were doing at all.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: All I gave a shit about was me fucking killing the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just lay in the gym, fucking taking my photos, doing my fucking thing, you know, like winning.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's that's my mindset was so I I was reading books.
• 8:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um you know what I'm saying?
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_00: And I stopped doing all that.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I can sit here and say, oh, you know, I I had kids, we had loss, we had um life, right?
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_00: That's all circumstantial.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: What that was was I didn't have the capacity, is what that meant.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't have the capacity in the nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't regulated.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: Regulation is not calm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Regulation is the ability for life to fucking life on you, and you're always staying within yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Meaning when you've had babies, when you have bad news, when your parents, you know, you get a cancer diagnosis, when your house burns fucking down and you almost die in the middle of the night, uh, when your business explodes and goes from you know$200,000 years to two million dollar years in you know, eight months, can you still show up to the fucking gym?
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  SPEAKER_00: Can you still eat and sleep?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if not, you're losing your fucking self.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there is nothing in this world worth losing yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing, not even your kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're not worth losing yourself because who the fuck is gonna take care of them?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's gonna teach them?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the problem is women have gotten, we're all too it's too soft.
• 9:36
  SPEAKER_00: There's a sickness with women and unfulfillment, there's an illness, and we have to hold each other accountable.
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  SPEAKER_00: And some of you are gonna really not like what I have to fucking say, but you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: I can give a shit because I was I liked who I was before I gave a shit about how you felt.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_00: Because how you feel is your job, it's not my job to manage that.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes discomfort is the doorway to change, and sometimes it, you know, the truth's gonna piss you off, but it's also gonna set you free.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_00: Alright?
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: So I'll be your fucking Huckleberry on that one.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: So women women have this innate thing to want to nurture and care about everybody else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just like me, like I fell into it.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to, I cared about how you felt, you know.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: I got to a point where I didn't want you to feel as bad about yourself.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't want and you already feel bad about yourself, you already feel good or bad about yourself.
• 10:37
  SPEAKER_00: Who am I?
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: God, like I mean, yes, God, but yeah, I think all of us are, but you know, it's like we have to stop managing other people's emotions because when I started to manage how you feel and how you receive me online and whatever, my my coaching, my edge dulled a little bit.
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I think this happens to a lot of us, but I noticed that's what happened is because I dulled.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: I dolled.
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  SPEAKER_00: I stopped doing the sharpening of the mind.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I stopped putting in the fucking reps in the mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything is controlled here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even the nervous system.
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: Everything is controlled here, and our brains are millions of years they're old.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: And their only job is to keep us safe, not happy, not fit, not healthy, but safe.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes safe looks like staying in bed scrolling.
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes safe feels like avoiding signing up for the program.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes avoidance, you know, it's it's avoidance.
• 11:33
  SPEAKER_00: That's what safety is to your brain, but it's really not safe because now you're overweight, you've you've been avoiding the scale, you're not looking at your numbers, you're not making the calls, you're not, you're not, everything's dipped, and you're sitting there saying, Oh, kids are doing this, or I'm moving, or this happened.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_00: Those are all excuses.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the sign that your capacity needs to increase, there needs to be boundaries set.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_00: There needs to be hardcore fucking boundaries set because you can't even do the fucking basics, which is eat, go to sleep on time, and get enough rest, and get in the fucking gym in the morning.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: If you can't do those three things, you really gotta take an inventory on your life right now.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: Who's gonna do it?
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: Uh-da-da.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: Get out of that martyr shit, get out of that victim shit, get out of that loser shit.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm telling you right now, your worst fear is gonna come true.
• 12:25
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna come true if you don't fucking get if you don't get up, if you don't change shit, if you don't get sick and tired of your shit.
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_00: You've gotta get sick and tired of your shit.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: Something's gotta flip the switch.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're like me, I'm kind of tired.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: I'm kind of tired of it being done violently.
• 12:42
  SPEAKER_00: I I just did a prayer the other day.
• 12:43
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, can we just kind of start learning things gently instead of going through painstaking, grueling, bloody just suffering over a decade to learn the lesson?
• 12:55
  SPEAKER_00: Can we?
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I don't know, can we?
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: Casey, can we?
• 13:00
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, I'm gonna put in the reps.
• 13:02
  SPEAKER_00: Now I see that mindset is the most important, mental health is the most important health that there is because mental health, mental, determines how you're gonna show up, when you're gonna show up, and just if you're gonna show up at all.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_00: Now, is it harder for some people?
• 13:19
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I think that as a human being, we all have the same emotions to what degree, what spectrum, what end, where are we in the season of life?
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_00: You know, we're gonna have different tools and resources.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I love what I do is we have those tools and resources.
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm gonna tell you right now, you gotta sharpen your fucking mind because women have fallen.
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_00: Women have gotten to the point where we care so much about everybody else's emotional state and how they feel, and if they're being treated fairly and all this stuff that we lose ourselves, and the bodies look like shit, and we've just fallen into normalcy.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: That's a disease.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: And then you end up in midlife saying you've got period menopause.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: Really, you're just unfulfilled, you haven't gone for it, your mind is is weak, you you're back in that loser mentality, and I'm here to snap you the fuck out.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_00: Like, get up, get up, keep going, let's go, let's go.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, if you don't feel like it, if you don't have the energy, get the fuck up anyway.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: Man, do you know how sick I've been?
• 14:22
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you don't.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're just judging the shit out of me right now because it makes you feel better at night, helps you feel better about your shitty situation.
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_00: Man, I've I've been in really shitty situations.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like, didn't want to be here situations.
• 14:36
  SPEAKER_00: You have got to get your ass up.
• 14:39
  SPEAKER_00: You've got to hire support, you gotta do something, you got to make yourself move.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_00: You got to stop hiding behind the kids and your work and whatever the fucking else and taking care of your parents and being a martyr and a victim and a woman.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_00: Because this is the part of women, womanhood that's wounded.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: We're all feeling the same fucking ways, alright?
• 15:00
  SPEAKER_00: Everybody, you you gotta do your own shadow work, you gotta do your own fucking work.
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_00: But you're the mother, you're the savior, you're the father, you're the everything inside of you.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: So this thing today was just me coming on here, like A, I'm calling myself out.
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: I realized that when I felt like I lost my edge, I did.
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_00: It doled a lot because I started giving a shit about how you felt.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_00: I started giving a shit about how you felt.
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_00: And um, that's not I can deeply care about you without caring about how you feel because how you feel is your job.
• 15:34
  SPEAKER_00: I know what your potential is.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: My job is to make sure and help you to reach that potential.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I'm here on earth is to A remind you who the fuck you are and help you to attain that how you feel about me or your situation or how you feel is not my fucking job, that is yours.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: I give you the tools for that so you can master your emotions because if you can't master and control your emotions and feel your emotions without detonating your plan, then you're out of control.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: No wonder life feels so fragile and everything's just based on circumstantial.
• 16:10
  SPEAKER_00: Your power is based on circumstances instead of internal power.
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: That's not real power.
• 16:15
  SPEAKER_00: So take heed, nobody's coming to save you.
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_00: She just doesn't understand whatever.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: Get out of that wounded shit.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like, get out of that shit.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: Because whatever you put off at me is all with inside of you, and it's gonna make your situation worse.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: So I wouldn't do it if I were you.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: Alright?
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: Take all that that take all that energy, get your ass in the bed tonight, 410, and get up early and work out.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what to I made it easy for you.
• 16:38
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• 16:40
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• 16:41
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• 16:44
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• 16:50
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• 16:53
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• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: Help, I'm new to this, I'm feeling this way.
• 16:59
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• 17:04
  SPEAKER_00: Alright?
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: So let's get it.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: Leave all your excuses, but but what did shut up.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_00: I don't give a shit about them.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_00: Worrying about it, you know, bitching about it, it's not gonna change your situation, has it ever?
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: So what's next for you?
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: Stop avoiding.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: What are you avoiding?
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: Stop avoiding it.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: And what's next?
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_00: Let's move forward.
• 17:26
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• 17:32
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• 17:35
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• 17:37
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