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S2 E12 What Would You Try If Approval Was Not Required · Get It Got It Girl: Midlife Rebuild

• 0:35
  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to Get It Got It Girl.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_01: This is where we talk midlife, reinvention, and creating the life that you love.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_01: We're figuring it out together, girl.
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  SPEAKER_01: So let's get into it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Have you ever been excited about something?
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you decided to make a change in your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you want to start a business, write a book, go back to school, change careers, get healthier, or simply do something you've always wanted to do.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_01: You're excited.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're thinking about the possibilities.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can almost picture what it might look like.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then you tell somebody.
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  SPEAKER_01: Instead of encouragement, you get questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why would you want to do that?
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  SPEAKER_01: Do you really think that's going to work?
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  SPEAKER_01: Isn't it a little late to be starting something new?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or perhaps they don't even say anything particularly hurtful.
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  SPEAKER_01: They just look at you like they don't quite understand.
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  SPEAKER_01: And suddenly that excitement you had starts to disappear.
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  SPEAKER_01: You start questioning yourself, maybe they're right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it is a silly idea.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you should forget about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just forget about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Girl, if you ever experience that, we're talking about it today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I want you to consider something.
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  SPEAKER_01: What if your dream doesn't need everybody else's approval before you give yourself permission to pursue it?
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_01: Once again, what if your dream doesn't need everybody else's approval before you give yourself permission to pursue it?
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_01: Let's talk about why other people's opinions can affect us so deeply.
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  SPEAKER_01: How to handle the self-doubt and how to keep moving towards something you want without needing everyone around you to understand it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's start with something important.
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  SPEAKER_01: Most of us want to feel supported by the people in our lives.
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  SPEAKER_01: We want our friends to be happy for us.
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  SPEAKER_01: We want our families to encourage us.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when we get excited about something, it's natural to want to share that excitement with the people we care about.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's nothing wrong with that.
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  SPEAKER_01: The problem begins when we start using other people's reactions to determine whether our dreams are worth pursuing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can have an idea that generally, genuine, genuinely excites you.
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  SPEAKER_01: You've thought about it, you've considered the possibilities, and you want to give it a try.
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  SPEAKER_01: But then somebody expresses doubt, and suddenly their opinion becomes more important than your own.
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  SPEAKER_01: You start looking at your idea through their eyes instead of your own.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes without realizing that you abandoned something you wanted because somebody else couldn't see what you saw.
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  SPEAKER_01: But here's something to remember.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone else's inability to understand your vision doesn't automatically make your vision wrong.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know why?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because people see things through their own experiences, fears, expectations, andor their beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone who has never started a business might not understand why you want to start one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone who values stability above everything else might not understand why you want to change careers.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone who always followed a particular path might struggle to understand why you want a different one.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then sometimes people just genuinely want to protect you from disappointment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Their concerns may come from a good place.
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  SPEAKER_01: But their perspective is still just one perspective.
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  SPEAKER_01: It isn't the final decision about what you're capable of doing.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can listen to people without handing them the authority to decide your future.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that brings us to something else we need to talk about.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, I'm not going to tell you to ignore everybody.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's not very realistic, and it isn't necessarily wise.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes the people around us notice things we haven't considered.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yes, sometimes they ask important questions that help us make better decisions.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're planning a major financial commitment, changing careers, or starting a business, you should absolutely think through the practical details.
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  SPEAKER_01: Can you afford it?
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  SPEAKER_01: What do you need to learn?
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  SPEAKER_01: What are the risks?
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  SPEAKER_01: What's your backup plan?
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  SPEAKER_01: And those are raised reasonable questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: The what is your backup plan?
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  SPEAKER_01: That has helped me at least have a backup plan.
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  SPEAKER_01: But you know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: There's a difference between somebody helping you think through a decision and somebody making you feel foolish for wanting something different.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_01: Useful advice helps you see your opinions more clearly, but discouragement makes you feel as though you shouldn't even try.
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  SPEAKER_00: Useful advice might sound like, have you considered how you're going to pay for it?
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  SPEAKER_01: Disencouragement might sound like you always come up with these ideas.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why don't you just be realistic?
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  SPEAKER_01: One invites you to think, but the other one can leave you feeling as though you have to defend your right to want something.
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  SPEAKER_01: Here's what I want you to remember.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to reject every concern somebody raises.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can take the useful parts and consider them carefully and still make your own decision.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can adjust your plan without abandoning your dream.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can acknowledge a risk without deciding that failure is inevitable.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can acknowledge a risk without deciding that failure is inevitable.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you can appreciate someone's concern without agreeing with your, you know, they don't agree with your collision.
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  SPEAKER_01: Excuse me, conclusion.
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  SPEAKER_01: Tongue tied.
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  SPEAKER_01: Listen with your open mind, but make your decisions with your own values, circumstances, and goals in mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's how you build confidence in your own judgment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's talk about what happens after somebody's reaction gets in your head.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you're ready to take the first step.
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  SPEAKER_01: Then you hear that little voice.
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  SPEAKER_01: What if I fail?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if I look ridiculous?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if I'm too old to start something new?
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  SPEAKER_01: And the dreaded, what if people think I'm foolish or crazy?
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  SPEAKER_01: What if I put all this effort into something and it doesn't work?
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  SPEAKER_01: You know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: Those questions can be powerful and difficult.
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  SPEAKER_01: The difficult thing about self-doubt is that it often sounds like we're simply being sensible.
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  SPEAKER_01: We talk and tell ourselves we're being realistic, we're being careful, we're thinking things through, and sometimes that's exactly what we're doing.
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  SPEAKER_01: But sometimes we're using those questions to protect ourselves from the possibility of disappointment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Personally, I know failure of success.
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  SPEAKER_01: That was a big one for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: When you're used to being a certain way, you're you're afraid because it's uncomfortable and it's unfamiliar.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because trying something new means accepting that, you know, we might not know what we're doing at first.
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  SPEAKER_01: We might make mistakes.
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  SPEAKER_01: We might need to change direction or pivot.
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  SPEAKER_01: We might discover that the first plan wasn't the right plan.
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  SPEAKER_01: And nobody particularly enjoys feeling inexperienced, especially when you're used to being capable and independent.
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  SPEAKER_01: But here's the thing: you don't have to feel completely confident before you take the first step.
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  SPEAKER_01: Confidence often grows through the experience.
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  SPEAKER_01: You try something, you learn a little, you make an adjustment, you try again.
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  SPEAKER_01: Eventually, something that once felt intimidating becomes familiar.
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  SPEAKER_01: And even when something doesn't work out the way you expected, you gain information.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you didn't fail, you learned something.
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  SPEAKER_01: Something that you didn't have before.
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  SPEAKER_01: You learn what works for you and what doesn't.
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  SPEAKER_01: And what you might do differently next time.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this is big.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is not a wasted effort.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's learning.
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  SPEAKER_01: And learning is a part of growing.
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  SPEAKER_01: So instead of asking yourself, what if I failed?
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  SPEAKER_01: Try asking a different question.
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  SPEAKER_01: What could I learn by giving this a genuine try?
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  SPEAKER_01: And instead of asking, what if people think I'm foolish?
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  SPEAKER_01: Ask yourself, will I be happy with my decision if I let other people's opinions make it for me?
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, those questions don't guarantee success.
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  SPEAKER_01: But they can help you make decisions based on what matters to you rather than what you're afraid other people might think.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to announce every dream.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's another thing I want us to consider.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes we share our plans prematurely before we've even had an opportunity to develop them.
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  SPEAKER_01: We tell people about the idea when it's still fragile.
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  SPEAKER_01: We try to explain what we want to do before we've even figured out how we're going to do it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then we find ourselves answering questions, defending decisions, and trying to convince people that something we haven't even started is going to work.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: That can become exhausting.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here's a suggestion.
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  SPEAKER_01: Give yourself permission to work on a dream privately before you invite other people into it.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to announce every goal.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to explain every decision that you make.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to tell everyone, you know, what you're planning before you're ready.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can just research quietly.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can take a class.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can practice a new skill.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can save money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can work on a project a little at a time.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if somebody asks, oh, what are you working on?
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  SPEAKER_01: You can simply say, Oh, I'm exploring a few things right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'll share more when I'm ready.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't even have to say, I'll share more when I'm ready.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or just say, oh, I'm exploring some things right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, just working on a few things.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's a complete answer.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't owe everybody a detailed explanation of your plans.
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  SPEAKER_01: And remember, keeping something private doesn't mean you're ashamed of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes that privacy gives you the room to think, to experiment, and learn without feeling as though you have to report your progress to anyone.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can share when you're ready.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can ask for advice from people whose judgment you trust.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can celebrate your milestones with people who genuinely support you.
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  SPEAKER_01: But you get to choose who has access to that part of your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't need an audience for every stage of your growth.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes the best thing you can do for a new goal is to give it room to grow.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, girl, let's make this practical.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because you know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's one thing to say we shouldn't let other people's opinions control us.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's another thing to know what to do when we start doubting ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here are the four things that you can try.
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  SPEAKER_01: First, get clear about why you want what you want.
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  SPEAKER_01: Before you worry about what other people think, ask yourself, why is this goal important to me?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why does it matter?
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  SPEAKER_01: What am I hoping to create?
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  SPEAKER_00: What would it make possible?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why are you interested in pursuing it?
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't need to justify your answer to anybody else, but understanding your own reasons that can help you stay grounded.
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  SPEAKER_01: It can help you stay grounded when other people have different opinions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, second, this is very helpful.
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  SPEAKER_01: This was one of my personal favorites.
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  SPEAKER_01: Break the dream into a small manageable action.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to figure out the entire path today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's say you want to write a book.
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  SPEAKER_01: You could spend 15 minutes outlining a chapter.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you want to start a business, you could research what it takes to get it started.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to change careers, you could investigate one training program or take a class.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's going for a 10-minute walk.
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  SPEAKER_01: Choose something small enough that you can actually do it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Then do that one thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: You do not need to prove that your entire dream will succeed before you're allowed to begin.
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  SPEAKER_01: And third, be intentional about whose advice you seek.
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  SPEAKER_01: Not everybody is the right person to advise you about every decision.
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  SPEAKER_01: For example, if you're considering a business, I would seek information from people who understand business.
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  SPEAKER_01: Somebody who's a couple steps ahead of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're changing careers, talk to some people in the field that are familiar with what you want to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're working towards a personal goal, consider speaking with someone who can offer thoughtful, honest feedback without making you feel small.
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  SPEAKER_01: Look for people who can ask difficult difficult questions while still respecting your ability to make your own decisions.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to find somebody that agrees with everything you say.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need people who can help you, you know, think clearly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And forth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep one small promise to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is especially important when self-doubt starts creeping in.
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  SPEAKER_01: Cause it will, and that's normal.
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  SPEAKER_01: It will creep in.
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  SPEAKER_01: Choose one action you said you would take and follow through when you reasonably can.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you said you would spend 10 minutes working on your project.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you planned to research an opportunity.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you decided to try something that makes you a little nervous.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Not to prove anybody wrong.
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  SPEAKER_01: I laugh because that's me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Not to show the world that you can.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do it because you want to build a relationship with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: A relationship where your goals and your commitments matter.
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  SPEAKER_01: Every time you take a thoughtful step towards something important to you, you give yourself another opportunity to trust yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're trusting your judgment.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that trust can grow over time.
• 19:49
  SPEAKER_01: I want to spend a moment talking specifically to the women listening who are in midlife.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you spent years doing what was expected of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you built a life around responsibilities, your family, your career, or needs of other people.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you look around now and realize that some of the things you want have changed.
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  SPEAKER_01: You want to explore something new.
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  SPEAKER_01: You want to use your creative side.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or you just want to feel more independent.
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  SPEAKER_01: You want to make time for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: You want to discover or even rediscover some interest that you had that you never had the opportunity to pursue.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or maybe you simply want your days to feel a little different.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then, oh boy, that little, little voice creeps in.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it asks whether you're too old, whether it's too late, or whether you should just be satisfied with what you already have.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, let me offer you a different perspective.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can at the same time appreciate parts of your life and still want something different.
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  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't have to be either and/or.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can have that at the same time.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can be grateful for what you've experienced and still be curious about what's next.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can love the people in your life and still need time and space to explore your own interests.
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_01: And we all hear about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Fill up your cup first, and then you're more likely to, it's easier actually to fill up somebody else's cup.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're there for them.
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  SPEAKER_01: Otherwise, you can develop thoughts of resentment because, oh my gosh, I didn't get to do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: I wanted to take a bath.
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  SPEAKER_01: I really needed to relax.
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  SPEAKER_01: And maybe you didn't do that, and you just pushed forward and you didn't take the time for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: Take the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: Those aren't contradictions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Really doesn't mean you have to stop being curious about what else might be possible.
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  SPEAKER_01: You also don't have to make a dramatic change to prove that your life is changing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes a new chapter just begins with a class or a hobby.
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  SPEAKER_01: A new routine.
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  SPEAKER_01: A creative project.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or just a decision to spend your time differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's about building something slowly.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes you explore an idea and discover that it isn't right for you after all.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's okay too.
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  SPEAKER_01: The goal isn't to chase every dream that crosses your mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: The goal is to give yourself permission to consider what matters to you, make thoughtful decisions, and take action when you decide something is worth pursuing.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to live according to somebody else's timeline, and you don't have to convince everybody that your next chapter makes sense.
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  SPEAKER_01: You just have to be willing to consider what you want it to look like.
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  SPEAKER_01: The reignited challenge.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right, reignited girls, let's bring this conversation back to you.
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  SPEAKER_01: I have a little challenge for you this week.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to think about one thing you wanted to do, but have been talking yourself out of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't have to be a huge goal.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe there's a project you've been thinking about, or there's a skill that you'd like to learn.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you want to try something new or make a change in your routine.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_01: Or spend more time doing something that makes you happy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Whatever it is, just write it down.
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  SPEAKER_01: Write it down, and then I have two questions for you to ask yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do I generally want this or am I trying to meet somebody else's expectations?
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  SPEAKER_01: And number two, what's one small step I can take toward it this week?
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to announce it.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to tell everybody about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't even have to know exactly how it's going to turn out.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just identify that first step and decide when you're going to take it.
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  SPEAKER_01: This isn't about proving that you're capable of doing everything you imagine.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's about giving yourself the space to decide what matters and the opportunity to act on it.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you'd like to share, I'd love to hear from you.
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  SPEAKER_01: What's one thing you've been thinking about doing that you'd like to give yourself permission to explore?
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  SPEAKER_01: You can share it in the comments or simply keep it in your journal.
• 26:25
  SPEAKER_01: You can send me a message and I will keep it private.
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  SPEAKER_01: Either way, let this be the week you stop automatically talking yourself out of something just because it feels unfamiliar.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, before we wrap up, I want you to remember three things.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can listen to other people's opinions without letting those opinions make your decisions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Two, you can take useful advice without abandoning something that matters to you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And three, you can work toward a goal without needing everybody else to understand it first.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your dreams don't come with a guarantee, nobody's do.
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  SPEAKER_01: But you can approach them thoughtfully, learn as you go, and decide for yourself whether they're worth pursuing.
• 27:23
  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to have everything figured out.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't need to be fearless.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you don't need everybody cheering you on before you begin.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes you just need to give yourself the go-ahead to take the next step.
• 27:43
  SPEAKER_01: And remember, we're not here to prove anybody wrong.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're not competing with other people.
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_01: We're here to build the lives that feel right for us.
• 27:57
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for spending time with me on Get It Got It Girl.
• 28:01
  SPEAKER_01: If this episode helped you, just share it with one of your friends that maybe you think this might help them too.
• 28:09
  SPEAKER_01: And if you're ready to keep working on your next chapter, remember reignite a girls challenge.
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  SPEAKER_01: Choose one thing you want to explore and take one small step toward it this week.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to change everything overnight.
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  SPEAKER_01: You just have to be willing to begin.
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  SPEAKER_01: Until next time, girl, keep believing that there's room for something new.
• 28:31
  SPEAKER_01: Keep making choices that reflect who you are and what matters to you.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_01: And give yourself the go ahead to go ahead and build the life that you love.
• 28:43
  SPEAKER_01: Get it, got it, girls.