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Bestie Edition: Party Girls to Housewives · Mom Gone Mild

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Hey guys, it's Lex, your host of Mom Gone Mild.
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And today I have the pleasure of having my bestest, bestest,
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bestest friend ever, Nina. Hello.
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Applause, applause, applause. Hi Nina, how are you today?
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Hi, I'm good. So Nina and me have been friends
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for about how long? I think it's over 20 years.
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Definitely over 20 years, yeah. So me and Nina.
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So I have always talked about Nina because she's the person
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that I knew and see me growing up.
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So she was my bestie, and we've remained best friends ever
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since. And so, yeah, there's actually a
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trend now, Nina going around. I'm sure you've heard of it.
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I know you guys have 2016. And oh, boy, yeah, that was 10
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years ago. Can you imagine?
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Which is so wild. Right.
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Yeah, I know. So 10 years ago I was 26.
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How old are you, 28? We were wild though, kinda so
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but a good wild. You know, we had our fun and now
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we're both grown ass women that are married and yay.
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Well technically we're not really newlyweds, but we have
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been, you know, we got married what, a couple years ago and
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then you guys did too. So she got married first, then
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me. Yeah, we just celebrated our two
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years in December. Oh yeah, you guys will be in.
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February. Yeah, right, right.
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So, yeah. So you want to talk about how we
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met or? Yeah, I don't remember exactly
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like what day or what month even, but I do remember.
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I want to say it was like, I feel like we were at the pier.
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Yeah, I think we were like in Santa Barbara I.
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Think Santa Barbara and like, I remember like my uncle from
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another country was out here to like meet you.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. And your mom, yeah.
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But I remember it being like, like a gloomy day.
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Yeah. And I.
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Remember setting the mood, guys, She's setting the mood.
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Yes, it was a gloomy. So I wasn't so romantic.
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How it was going to have what was going to happen, yeah.
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That's true. I was kind of nervous meaning
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you because I was like, they were like, oh, there's someone
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there that's your age, which was Nick.
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But then they're like then he has an older sister and I was
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like, oh, that's cool. Like I mean, I didn't really
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want to meet a boy my age, but I was like obviously more excited
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to meet you. I was like, hopefully she likes.
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Me. You know what's funny too is
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like, I remember almost kind of being like, I don't know if I
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want to meet this girl, like. I don't, I feel like most people
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say that about me, but it was the end of loving.
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Me. I didn't know you, but it was
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because I was so used to at the time.
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Yeah, being the only like a granddaughter.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because yeah, you know, if
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people don't know we're cousins by marriage.
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Yes. Oh, yeah, Sorry, I totally
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skipped that part. You guys are probably like, why
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are these two formally meeting? Like are the other guys?
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Yeah. Are they like eloping or what's
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going on here? No, no, no.
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Sorry guys like through. Yeah, little black story.
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Rollback, Rollback. Yeah.
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So I get, you know, like I was like, oh, I'm the only girl now,
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There's gonna be another girl. So I think part of me was, you
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know, I was 16. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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So I was just kind of like, who is this girl that I was a
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little? 14 year old and I was like, I
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hope I make a friend today. Yeah, and.
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Then, like, we met and then I don't even really know how it
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happened. Maybe I just kept going over to
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the house. Yeah.
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And we just naturally, yeah, started our friendship and yeah.
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And I thought she was so cool because she had like a pool.
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I mean, I had a pool too, but it was like a fun pool.
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And then she had like a trampoline and it was just like
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super fun. And then I always, I was young,
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don't forget, I was super obsessed with her brothers, boy
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or not, boyfriends, friends, boys that are friends.
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Anyways, I was 14. I was silly.
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So yeah. But I love going over and I just
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remember like her mom was so awesome and we would call her at
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work to make sure we can eat snacks.
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We literally like, I think you'd call the secretary and be like,
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can I get? To That's funny because my
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brother and I were just talking about this and we were like, Oh
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my God, we're so sorry, mom, every time we called you at
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work, you know, we were bothering you because it's not
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like it went straight to her. It went to.
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Yeah, I went to like a secretary.
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Yeah, Yeah, yeah. We would do that.
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We would call about like, hey, what do we got that we can make,
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Yeah. And I for some reason, I just
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thought of this like these little chicken sandwiches that
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you would have and we would freaking tear those up too.
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Yeah, they're Costco. I don't know why else.
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And I remember that but. Oh my God.
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So pretty much that's how we met.
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And then, like, she was older than me.
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So, you know, we went to the same high school.
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She was there for I think like a year and then graduated, right?
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Yeah, you were a freshman when I was a senior.
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Senior. So you started with Nick?
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Yeah, exactly. Sorry, I don't know if we're
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name dropping or not, but yeah. Famous Nick.
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No, I'm just kidding. So yeah, it's your brother.
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I know, I know. He was pretty popular back then.
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It was actually really good for me, to be honest, because I
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didn't know no one. So I kind of like latched onto
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him and I was like, can I be your friend?
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And thank goodness. Thanks, Nick, if you're
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listening, you were such an awesome.
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Friend, how to make your redemption?
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Oh my gosh, that's right. So someone I I was like, hey, so
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like, what's the cool thing to do and see me?
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And she's like, hey, you know, I'm like in color guard and I'm
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like, oh, OK, cool. Never heard of it.
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Literally this was the first time because at private school
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we don't have that stuff. So I joined and then like that
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year she like I bounced. Yeah.
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She's like, oh, I don't like it. I'm leaving and I'm.
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Like, but I still showed up to support you.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. But let's not talk about the cow
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pants, OK? OK.
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They made us wear cow pants. Yeah.
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How do you think that we were? Girl, it's hard to like think of
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everything though cuz I literally was going through my
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phone trying to find pictures just to see like where was I at
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in my life at that point? Yeah, and I don't have very many
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pictures, so I'm guessing I was still in my, you know, taking
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pictures with a camera era. Yeah, and I really feel like a
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lot of our photos are like on Photobucket and like Myspace
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and. They're there.
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They're like hidden from there's.
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Somewhere. It's somewhere in the web I
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guess. Yes, but from what I saw and
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what I can remember, it was like a lot of Vegas tricks.
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Yeah, we were. Well, definitely.
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You were really into Vegas. I would go along and it was just
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like super fun. I feel like we had so much fun.
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We used to go to like clubs and day clubs was kind of like not
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like a new thing, but really popular back then.
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I just remember, Oh my gosh, standing in line getting like,
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what are they called the promoters number 0.
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Gosh, and every time you got a promoters number, you were so
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cool. Yeah, yeah.
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And then? Like, but then he had like 100
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other girls. So it's kind of that was kind of
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crazy. But like I was just talking to
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my other friend and we were talking about like going to
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Vegas and I was like, Oh my gosh.
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Like, the only thoughts I have about Vegas is, like, day
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parties, clubs. And she's like, girl, there's
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like shows and like, restaurants.
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And I'm like, Oh yeah. But at the time, that's, you
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know what we did. I mean, if I were to go back
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now, it'd be like, I'm going for the shows.
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I'm going to go eat at the best restaurant.
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But at that time, we were like, no, we gotta get on the Dre's
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list. No, we gotta go.
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Oh my eyes, she's name dropping. Oh.
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Sorry, we gotta go this place. Gotta go to that place.
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Yeah. You know, it was all about what
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was in the moment, and that's where we were going.
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Oh my gosh. I feel like we have so many
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memories and I literally sometimes I feel like I mix all
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the memories together. Yeah, like I remember like we
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were just talking about, it was like I think around 2016, maybe
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a little earlier. But when we went to that one day
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club, by the way, we have like our own language.
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So I'm sorry. We would just look at each other
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and start laughing because I feel like we both know each
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other so well. But you know what trip I'm
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talking about with with Jess. Yeah.
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Yeah. OK, So that trick was crazy.
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And when I mean crazy, I mean like, probably I should have
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been like, admitted stop. No, no, actually, yeah, yes.
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That night was like, yes, so I do you remember it?
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Was it like surrender? I want to say it was somewhere
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down there. Yeah, it was like somewhere down
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there, it was like we went out, all three of us.
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And of course we're it's Vegas. We're drunk.
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And back then I had no chill. Like I did not know when to
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stop. I just kept going and going and
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going and going until like it was too late, you know?
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So you want to tell that story? Well, I'll tell like.
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From yeah, I want to know like your point of view and then I'll
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tell you my point. Of view.
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So we did. We went to that club and we got
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in because your friends weren't there.
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So we got bottle service. We were having a good time.
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And then I think you had mentioned you were going to the
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bathroom and I wasn't, you know, maybe I should have gone with
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you, but I wasn't too worried about it since it was literally
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like right there. And at one point I was like,
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wait, I'm like, where is she? I feel like she's been missing,
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like, gone too long. And I mentioned something to
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just. And she was like, I don't know.
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And then somehow we found out that you had gotten kicked out.
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So I think that may have been one of the last text messages.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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So first thing we did just. And I, we left, if I remember it
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correctly, I think we had gone to the hotel first to look for
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you. And then we're like, well, we
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might as well change if we have to go find her.
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So we changed real quick. And then that's when we started
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walking the strip. And then I don't know how all of
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a sudden you were like right there and like you had a couple
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helping you, like you had the lady on one side, the guy on the
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other. And I was wearing.
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His you were wearing his flip flops and you and Oh my gosh,
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I'm dying. Like we're like, what the heck
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happened? I remember like we were kind of
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mad. No, no, like they were like so
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upset. I mean, obviously I had ruined
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the night first of all, because what?
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This is what happened. So I fell asleep and then like,
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I went to the bathroom and when I was going to the bathroom,
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they were like, hey, you have to leave.
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And I was like, hey, I don't have shoes.
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They're like at the table and they're like, no, you have to
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leave. And for some reason I, well, I
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didn't have any other choice. I forgot where we were staying.
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I, you know, like the strip literally only goes two ways.
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And I went obviously the wrong way because I ended up at the
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stretch this year. I met this couple.
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Honestly, I feel like there were swingers, but that has nothing
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to do with this. But it was very weird situation.
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So they were like, oh, we'll walk you back.
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And like, I remember it was so weird.
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I had no shoes. So the guy was like, well, I'm
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wearing sandals and socks so you can borrow my sandals.
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And I was like. What?
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The OK, whatever. So I used his sandals and then
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we, I think we actually went made it back to the room.
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That's how we found you guys. I don't remember, like how we
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found each other. I think it was actually at the
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strip. Yeah.
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Like we were walking. We were like walking past these,
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right? Yeah, we.
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Were walking down because we were like, well, let's just go
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this way. Yeah, this is the shortest way
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to go first before we adventure off to the other way.
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And that's what happened. You guys were walking this way.
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We were walking that way. And.
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And yeah. And I remember too, like at
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first, I first saw the guy and I was like, what are you doing?
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Yeah, yeah. I was like, no, no, no, they're
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helping. I understood the story about it,
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all right, all right. Honestly, thank you to that
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couple because that was so dangerous.
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Like now I think I was like, you know, back then we used to dress
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like literally wearing nothing and then I had no shoes.
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I mean, it was a mess. It could have been way worse so.
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Thank you to that couple. Thank God.
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Like, yeah, yeah, but got you. And yeah, you would think that
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this is where the story ends and I just fall asleep.
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No, it gets really bad. So I guess I was super upset.
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I feel like I still wanted to go out.
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That was a problem. I.
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Didn't that's again, I don't remember.
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I don't remember what triggered you, what triggered me, but all
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of a sudden I was like jumping on the bed and I was like, yes,
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no, this is. Like we're red.
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Like I thought you were possessed.
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I will never ever get that image out of my head.
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Like, I traumatize you guys. Yeah.
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And Jess, like she she fights back with me, but she was like,
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not at my level because my level was extreme, but she was yelling
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at me. And I just remember like, OK,
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I'm just going to go to sleep. And then the next day we went to
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like. I'm going home.
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I'm going home right now. I'm going to call my dad and I'm
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going home. And I was like, Oh my God, I
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like stop. Anyways, it was Vegas.
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Then I think the next day we went to like a pool party.
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Yeah, like, like, like, like we woke up and like refresh, reset.
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I'm back to normal. Yeah, anyways, so that we
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finished the weekend off. Good.
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It was a really fun weekend overall.
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But yeah, I definitely had a little session moment.
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Yeah. So that was kind of crazy, but I
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feel like, honestly, back then we were both pretty wild.
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So like, I mean, it was kind of like the norm for me to be like,
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I don't know, I guess like angry.
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Not to be like you, like that night was something.
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I wish we had it on video like my head spinning.
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But you know, you were never like that.
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That crazy? Yeah, like, I mean like
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possessed. Yeah.
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Yeah. So let's see, taking back to
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2016, I know that we used to go to like a club all the time,
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Couture. Not all the time girl, like 2-3
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times. Felt like more but yeah, so I
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don't know. I don't know time stamps or
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anything I. Know, I know.
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I'm not like a person to like remember.
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Like, Oh my gosh, I feel like there's so many people that I
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know that are like, do you remember back in 2005 when you
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needed? I'm like girl, I don't even
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remember from yesterday what happened.
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It was a Tuesday, September 14. Yeah, three.
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Yeah, Exactly. Exactly.
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So what do you think has changed the most?
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Obviously a lot has changed the most since then, but like, what
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do you think has definitely changed the most?
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I mean, we've seen each other through 20 years basically.
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So a lot has changed. I mean, we grew up together, you
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know. So what do you think has
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changed? I mean, like you said, we've
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known each other for so long. I feel like we've seen each
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other go through our stages, you know, and I would have to say, I
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mean, just the maturity level, you know?
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Yeah. Has gone way up.
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Yeah. You know, I don't know, just.
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Like I OK, yeah, I get what you mean.
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Like definitely we have matured. Obviously, you know, we had to
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grow up just like being married and all that stuff.
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We had to go through things for us to be where we are.
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Yeah. I mean, the things that we
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honestly have gone through, it's like, I don't even want to talk
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on here about it because it's like crazy, right?
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No, just like crazy nights that we've had, just like how we
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ended up. But yeah, I'm just glad that
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we're at this like, moment together where we have both
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grown and like, both like. Yeah.
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Because, I mean, there was a time where we didn't talk for a
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little. Yeah, that's true.
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No, that's true. Yeah.
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And then we reconnected and I feel like since we reconnected,
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that's when it was like, you're never getting rid.
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Of me exactly. Yeah, I'm always gonna be here.
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Yeah. You know, And I feel like that
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was another major thing that we had to go through to be like
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where we are today. Definitely, yeah.
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Because there are some friendships that, you know, you
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go through like, a lot and it's just like, you don't get back to
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where you were. But our friendship, I feel like
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we went through what we did and actually it brought us close.
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Yes. Now we talk every day and it's
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just like, I can't imagine. Like I like text her husband.
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Like is she OK if it's like 2:00 and she hasn't texted me?
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And then he's like, she's not feeling well.
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She's sleeping. And I was like, oh, OK, sorry to
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bother you, but it's just so funny.
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Like I don't know. I'm just like, I even tell Randy
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I'm like, Oh my God, I don't think she's OK.
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And he's like, it's literally like 2:00.
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You just haven't heard from her. She's probably working or
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something. I'm like, no, something's wrong.
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I can tell. Oh boy, like I can tell him like
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uh oh something up because I didn't have like 10 memes sent
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to me. Oh yeah, if you're my friend and
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I don't want to hear, this is what I can't stand because you
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do this to me too. My other friend doesn't.
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You sent this to me on blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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I don't care if I sent it to you.
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Laugh again. It's hilarious.
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It will always be hilarious. But yes, I do send about
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probably if you're my best friend, like 20 a day.
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If you're my friend, I'll send you like 5.
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If you're like even acquaintance, I'll send you like
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one. Wow, just so you know, I'm
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around. Just gets one.
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Hey, at least I'm thinking about you, yeah.
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No, for real. So yeah, I have a question.
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Like obviously like it sounds like I was like the craziest,
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but I feel like so were you. So who do you think was more
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like unhinged? One hint.
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Yeah, I would say you. Really.
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Because that's funny. I would say you, I'm good.
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Whatever. Anyway.
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I think it just goes back to that night of you being
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possessed. OK, that was one night.
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I know, I know, I know, I know. Honestly, we have both done our
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fair share of craziness for sure.
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Yeah, it's her anyway. OK All right.
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So we kind of talked about, like the past.
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I kind of want to bring it to, like, the future.
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OK. I don't know, like, how is it
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like being married and like being in this stage of life now?
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It's crazy. Yeah, yeah, definitely.
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There is a point where I did not want to be married.
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I wanted like that to be that big successful head person in
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charge, which you still can be. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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But like, my main thing was like that.
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And then I got into my 30s. And then there's nothing wrong
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with waiting, you know, later on in life.
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Because I always say this, I feel like in every episode.
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But honestly, please live your life and then get married.
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Yes, because I don't have regrets.
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Definitely live my life like I did.
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I wild out, you know, for sure. But yeah, I think once I turned
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30, that was like a big birthday for me.
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And that's when I realized, you know what, I do want to share my
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life with someone. You know, I do want a partner to
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do life with and yeah, it only took me moving across country to
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meet that person. That's true.
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I know. I remember I was so sad.
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I was like crying at the airport.
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I like called out sick that day when I dropped you off, like
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you're like when it happened. Yeah, when you move, like when I
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dropped you off at the airport cuz she used to live with us.
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But it was so funny. I was like, hey, like 5 minutes
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before going in I was like, I can't make it.
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And they're like, what? And I was like, yeah, just too
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much is going on right now and I need a mental health day.
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And I like, cried all day and watch movies.
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And poor Randy. He's like, what the heck is
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going on here? Trust me, it was hard.
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It was like a really, really hard decision to make.
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Yeah. But there were just things that
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were happening and I was like, you know what, I'm like, I need
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to go. Yeah.
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But yeah, I know. I mean, that's where I met,
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obviously met Kevin. And he has like, pretty much the
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same back story. Where his mom and stepdad moved
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to Florida. You know, my parents moved to
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Florida and that's why I even went there.
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And so I had moved there in March of 2021 and he moved there
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in June of 2021. Our parents lived 2 minutes down
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the street. Yeah.
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That was wild. When she told me I was like,
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what the? So it was just really crazy and
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really fast and it was like, whoa, is this like really
22:46
happening right now? You know, it was like, for so
22:49
long I didn't want it. And then I felt like for a
22:52
little while there, I was like, OK, yeah, I'm ready.
22:54
Like I'm ready to find my person.
22:57
And then I move and it's like bam, bam, bam.
23:00
Yeah. You know, we meet each other,
23:03
then we get engaged. Oh, I moved in like I think 5
23:06
months after and then we got engaged and then the following
23:11
year we got married. Yeah, it was just like it was
23:13
very, very fast. Yeah.
23:15
So like talking about going fast, I mean, I wouldn't know
23:20
because Randy took forever to propose, but like, so do you
23:25
have like any advice for people that are kind of going through
23:28
that now? Because I have a lot of friends
23:29
that obviously like they haven't been married and stuff.
23:32
So do you have any like advice of like waiting so long?
23:35
I mean not long, but you know what I mean.
23:36
Waiting like. So just get engaged or like
23:40
waiting to like find that person.
23:42
Oh, yeah, no. I mean, it's crazy because
23:45
everyone's like, oh, it's gonna happen when you least expect it.
23:49
You know? I heard that a lot.
23:51
Yeah, I heard that a lot. And.
23:54
And it did. And like, I was on the dating
23:57
apps. Nothing ever worked out.
24:00
I was always so afraid. Yeah.
24:03
To like, go and actually meet. Someone.
24:06
Yeah, Yeah. And then that's honestly How I
24:12
Met my husband. I decided to take a chance.
24:16
Yeah. So yeah, I mean.
24:20
So what was your first impression when you saw his
24:22
photo? Really.
24:24
That's. You know what?
24:26
The very first time I saw him, I scrolled the other way.
24:33
I don't remember if it was right or left.
24:35
It was him. I I don't.
24:36
I don't remember. Like honestly, I'm like, do you?
24:38
I don't remember at all. And he knows this.
24:41
Yeah. And like, how he came surprise
24:45
Kevin, and then somehow, like, he popped up again on my thing.
24:51
And I I don't know. I don't ever judge a book by its
24:57
cover because I thought he was something.
25:01
He looked like a douche. Yeah.
25:03
When I first saw one of his pictures and I was like, eh, But
25:09
then I was like, fine, whatever, I'll message him back.
25:14
And then as we started talking more than, that's when I was
25:19
like, OK. And then it was just so weird
25:22
how we started, like so many things in common, and then
25:26
finding out that's how we found out that our parents played
25:31
pickleball. Yeah, yeah.
25:32
I mean, when she told me I was like, wow, this is like all
25:35
lining up like a move. Yeah, but then.
25:38
Again, I feel like honestly, where you live, it's a small
25:42
town, so it's a little. Yeah, it's super small.
25:44
It's not as wild, but still like the coincidences were kind of
25:48
crazy. It's yeah, like he moved.
25:50
Around the same time, you guys moved there around the same
25:52
time. And so my dad had even told my
25:55
mom when he met Kevin, not knowing who Kevin was.
26:00
Yeah, like this kid, he's single.
26:03
He seems really nice. I think, you know, he'd be a
26:06
good fit for Christina and Daddy.
26:10
So I'm just kidding because there's so many like, you know,
26:17
familiar, like, you know, like coincidences, all that, whatever
26:20
you want to call it. I was just like, OK, like, let
26:22
me go ahead and meet the kid, you know, and.
26:26
So it was the. Best first date I've ever been
26:31
on. What did you guys do?
26:32
We went. We went to dinner with you.
26:42
Oh boy. No, we went to dinner.
26:44
It's this place called Squid Lips which.
26:47
By the way, if you know her and you go visit her, they talk
26:50
about squid lips probably like. Not anymore.
26:53
Not. Anymore, but they used to.
26:55
I remember you guys were like talking about buckets of.
26:58
Drinks. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
27:00
We would get the like they had like these buckets of like
27:03
different mixed drinks and we would share them.
27:06
Yeah, yeah. You know, it wasn't like 1 to,
27:08
you know, for each of us. It was just for us to share to
27:11
try it out. But yeah, he so anyway.
27:13
You they have never taken me, but each time they used to talk
27:16
about it, I'm like, all right, sounds fun.
27:18
And they're like, let's go to captain.
27:21
What it was. I'm like, Oh my gosh, I've been
27:23
here like 1000 times. I love that.
27:25
Place, Yeah. I know, but every time I heard
27:27
about the squid lips I was like. OK, we'll take you to square
27:29
lips one time. I personally, it's not my yeah,
27:33
it's not my first choice, but he really liked it at the time.
27:37
So he, yeah, that's where he took me on our first date.
27:40
And then I remember he was like wearing cowboy boots with his
27:45
jeans and everything. I got muscle luck.
27:51
That's a very different taste, and that's perfectly fine.
27:54
I like Kevin, he's a great addition.
27:57
And I just remember he was like, I don't know, he was so sweet.
28:00
He was such a gentleman and we just, I was like so nervous
28:05
because I'm like, Oh my God, what if I run out of things to
28:08
talk to him about? Yeah.
28:10
And, and our conversation just flowed.
28:14
And then after that he was like, oh, did you want to go anywhere
28:18
else? And I had mentioned Captain had
28:21
the. Sandbar.
28:22
Oh my God, I love that. And so then shout out to that
28:26
place we went. Yeah, shout out we went.
28:29
We got a drink and we were just having such a fun time laughing
28:33
and right then and there I knew I was like, I think this is
28:38
gonna be it. Like I love that.
28:40
He's gonna be like, I just had this feeling.
28:42
Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah, so I met him what, at
28:46
3435, so you know. The timing is right every time.
28:54
Exactly. Yeah, Yeah, that's awesome.
28:56
So basically if you're like around that age or you're even
29:00
older and you're like, still like, where is my guy?
29:03
Like, I know I feel like I say this all the time, but it's
29:06
like, when the timing is right, you'll find that person.
29:09
Yeah. It's so true.
29:11
I believe that there is someone out there for everyone.
29:16
Yeah. You know, like you're a person.
29:18
It is out there. Yeah, definitely.
29:21
Yeah. So I.
29:21
Agree, but I get it. I mean, you know, there's times
29:24
where you're like, I'm never gonna meet the person, like I'm
29:26
already this age, blah blah blah.
29:28
But no, it will happen. Yeah, no, for sure.
29:31
I love that. Yeah, I love happy endings.
29:35
Well, it's not an ending, but I mean, you know, I was like,
29:38
goodbye. No, I'm just kidding.
29:40
So what would you, I think about this all the time.
29:44
I think I told you, but I'm like, what advice would you give
29:47
yourself now to the person you were back like in 2016, ten
29:53
years ago? Don't worry.
29:55
Yeah, everything's gonna be OK. OK, Bob Marley.
30:00
Don't worry. Just kidding.
30:05
Yeah. No, honestly, like everything's
30:10
gonna work out because it's supposed to, you know, just have
30:14
faith it's it's going to be OK. Yeah, yeah.
30:19
So my advice would be like, don't get a tongue piercing.
30:25
That was awful. I don't know what I was
30:27
thinking. My gosh, that was the most
30:29
painful thing ever. And obviously I was telling.
30:32
Yes, it was. I cried.
30:33
I remember, like, I was like eating like a Slim Jim.
30:36
That's all I want afterwards. I mean, no, the piercing itself
30:40
was not, the after was. It was after.
30:44
It was a month. Yeah.
30:46
Gosh, I remember my mom. Oh my.
30:49
Gosh, my dad's like RIP it out or I will, and I'm like my mom.
30:52
Wants to go grab my tongue. Yeah.
30:55
Like thinking it was fake. No, it's not.
30:57
That's not real. I'm like I.
30:59
Can just imagine your mom doing that.
31:03
But yeah, so definitely just like another advice I would give
31:08
obviously the tongue thing, but just like just be honestly easy
31:14
on yourself. There's so much time to like,
31:17
grow and like. Exactly.
31:18
You know, just so much that you have to experience in life and
31:22
it's OK if you don't get it all right away.
31:24
I mean, right now I'm 36 and I'm still learning.
31:28
You know, it's like every age you have like something to learn
31:32
about and it's just like, just be easy on yourself.
31:34
Don't be hard. It's like honestly, like you
31:37
said, everything will work out and don't worry.
31:40
Don't worry. Like it.
31:42
It may be the worst time in your life.
31:44
Yeah, yeah. But just don't worry.
31:47
It's going to work out. Yeah.
31:49
Yeah. Definitely.
31:50
So what do you think is like the hardest part about marriage that
31:54
no one really told you that kind of like surprised you?
32:01
I don't know, because I'm, I mean, for me, I think the
32:03
hardest part was or is like figuring out what you're going
32:08
to make for dinner every night to be.
32:11
Honest, literally, that. It drives me nuts every night
32:13
right here. What's for dinner?
32:15
Every night, What's for dinner and the thing?
32:16
Is too is like I enjoy cooking. Don't get me wrong, I like to
32:20
cook. I love baking too, but it's
32:24
like, OK, what are we going to have tonight?
32:26
Are we going to do this? Are we going to do that?
32:28
And then so you get home from work and then you got to like,
32:31
you know, get everything ready. And it's like, I don't know, for
32:37
me that's like an issue because I guess it's, it's like for me,
32:43
if I were to go home and like if I was not married, I would just
32:47
make myself something super. Quick.
32:48
Yeah, definitely. But I agree, you know, it's like
32:51
you want to be able to cook a meal, you know, and yeah, have a
32:55
nice little sit down dinner and. Yeah, so.
32:59
So that's the hardest part. That's the hardest part.
33:01
And you know what? No one told me about it so.
33:03
Yeah, I mean, honestly, if you're single right now and
33:06
you're going to get married, you might as well start writing
33:08
recipes in a book. Go take those cooking classes,
33:11
yeah? For sure.
33:12
No, I love cooking now. It's crazy.
33:14
Like I'll always do like my little, like my favorite.
33:17
Yeah. I feel like I'm getting better
33:19
because when I first started, the dishes were horrible.
33:23
But you know, I had such a sweet husband that he would lie to me,
33:26
but then I would taste him like this.
33:29
Is gross. But he's.
33:32
Just being supportive. And he's a very supportive
33:35
husband. I know.
33:36
What's the best part about being married?
33:40
The best part is having that person that you can go home to,
33:48
you know, I mean, obviously, like I have my best friend.
33:51
I have my parents. You know, I have my brother and
33:53
stuff, but this is just on another level.
33:56
Yeah. So it's someone I can go to.
34:00
And like, honestly, just, I could be an idiot.
34:05
I can, yeah, just be here. Yeah.
34:08
I can just be myself around, you know?
34:14
And yeah, I just, yeah, that's what I enjoy.
34:18
OK, so I think personally the best part, it's a huge thing.
34:23
Like I have like a built in best friend that like we like
34:27
obviously we hang out every weekend.
34:29
So I have something like something to do every weekend
34:32
with him and that's fun. But I also feel like I guess
34:36
this kind of falls into it. But someone that I know I'm
34:40
always safe with like yes, let's say like we're at a party, we
34:44
don't want to go out. We just like look at each other
34:46
and we're like, we know like we're so comfortable with each
34:50
other now that it's like literally like he's like just my
34:53
other half. And I know it's so cliche to say
34:56
exactly like that's just like my safety, like my safety.
34:59
Like I have my family. Of course I love them, but like
35:02
this now is my family, you know what I mean?
35:04
Like this is my core and it's like I have everyone else I love
35:08
so much, but just it's nice to just have that one person that
35:11
you can rely on that even if you're having the worst day.
35:14
Like I mean, obviously sometimes they get Moody, but you know, no
35:19
one's perfect. I get Moody too.
35:21
But like at the end of the day, that person is just going to
35:24
have your back. And that's like a huge.
35:25
Thing and then you're like each other's, like cheerleaders,
35:28
yeah, you know. Exactly.
35:30
Yeah. And then like when one is kind
35:31
of down, the can lift them up. So that's pretty good.
35:35
I love that. Yeah, I would say that is the
35:37
one good thing. You know, if I'm having my off
35:42
days, especially like with my anxiety, yeah, it's like, I
35:46
already know I can tell Kevin like look, I'm not feeling good,
35:50
this blah, blah, blah. And he's like, OK, what do you
35:53
need? Do you want me to go grab you
35:54
something to eat or do you want this or, you know, it's like he
35:59
makes sure that I can feel safe and grounded again.
36:07
So yeah, that's. That's a huge thing.
36:09
And you know, I'm like super about like mental health,
36:12
putting your, you know, every that should be like priority.
36:15
I feel like, to be honest. So I'm glad that you kind of
36:17
brought up anxiety because like when I'm feeling anxious, like I
36:20
feel like I can just like talk to him or I don't have to talk
36:23
to him. And that's the best part because
36:25
he knows to feel my vibe. And yeah, I mean, yeah.
36:29
He like looks at me and he's like, let me see your eyes.
36:32
And I look at him and he's like, what's wrong?
36:34
I'm like, how do you know it will stop?
36:37
And that's just like the other level, I guess, that now like
36:39
we've achieved because, you know, we have each other, we
36:42
have our family, but it's just so awesome to have a partner in
36:45
life. Yeah.
36:46
So that's really exciting. And that.
36:48
All right, so now that we have done the marriage part, of
36:53
course, now is the next part. You know, I have.
36:56
I talked to you guys about my struggles with, you know,
37:00
getting pregnant and staying pregnant.
37:03
I talked about my loss. And you can actually listen to
37:06
that in episode. I think it was like 4.
37:10
But you know Nina now, you know she's going through her own
37:14
thing. I don't know, Nina.
37:16
You want to talk about it a little.
37:17
Whatever you feel comfortable. With yeah, yeah, sure.
37:20
So my husband and I, we've been trying.
37:24
It'll be two years in April, OK. And you know, it's, it's been a
37:30
struggle. It's been very emotional because
37:34
there have been months where it's like, oh, maybe I am and
37:39
then it's not, obviously. So yeah, I've gone had tests
37:46
done. So before, you know, we're
37:50
looking into possibly doing some type of IVF treatment.
37:57
But before we dive into that, we told ourselves that we'd give
38:00
each other a few more months, probably hit that two year mark
38:04
first, Definitely just to try naturally.
38:07
I've done a lot of research. I've read a lot of threads on
38:12
Reddit about it, too, you know, And a lot of women go through
38:18
this and, you know, it's like right when they're about to
38:22
start doing IVF. Yeah, yeah.
38:24
It's like they get pregnant. Yeah.
38:28
So, yeah. And then this is another thing
38:31
where everyone's like, oh, it'll happen when you stop thinking
38:35
about trying or trying. Yeah.
38:38
So there's been one months where I'm like, OK, don't think about
38:41
it. We're not trying.
38:42
Yeah. But it's honestly that is like
38:44
so much easier said than done. It is, you know what I mean?
38:47
I mean, like just kind of bringing it back to like,
38:49
obviously now that we're married, you're like, it happens
38:52
when it happens. It's meant to be.
38:54
But we struggled getting into this part.
38:57
So the next part of our chapter, yeah.
39:00
I mean, it's a lot of people, I'm gonna be honest, go through
39:04
it. And it's like something I feel
39:06
like is so like not talked about.
39:08
I don't know why it's like, I feel like like if you're
39:11
struggling or you know, like you should talk about it because it
39:15
could help other people. Maybe it actually relieves some
39:18
stress on you because I feel like sometimes when I bottle
39:20
stuff in, it kind of gives me anxiety.
39:23
I kind of like start getting panicky, but like even like, you
39:26
know, when I told my story, I had someone reach out to me and
39:30
literally it was like the same story, you know, but like, and
39:34
then I had another girl reach out to me.
39:36
She had like her, I think she had like a tube taken out.
39:40
She had her over here move. So they've been struggling for a
39:43
long time too. And I just feel like we need to
39:45
normalize, you know, that it doesn't always happen for
39:48
everyone. And it's so crazy because when
39:51
we're young, like that's our biggest thing is like, don't get
39:54
pregnant, don't get pregnant, don't get pregnant.
39:56
And then it's like, I feel like, you know, obviously some are
39:58
very blessed. So like it just happened.
40:01
But like the majority of people, it just it's not that easy.
40:05
You know, Yeah, No, Yeah. No, it's not.
40:08
And, and I, I guess I was delulu because I thought, you know, I
40:14
feel like we're going to, you know, try right away and I'm
40:17
going to get pregnant right away.
40:18
And my whole thing was like, I don't want to, you know, it
40:22
sounds really bad, but I didn't want to until we had gone on our
40:26
honeymoon, you know, So then a part of me is like, well, man,
40:31
maybe we should have started trying sooner or who knows,
40:34
maybe we would, you know, still be in the same place that we are
40:38
now. So, yeah, I just, it's, it's a
40:41
lot of, I guess I have to be patient.
40:46
I have to have faith. Yeah, 'cause you know, I'm just
40:49
trying to put it out there, be positive, like it will happen.
40:52
Yeah, I'm willing. One way or the other.
40:55
Yeah, yeah. One way or the other, it'll
40:56
happen. But yeah, it's just like this
41:00
like roller coaster of emotions, yeah, that you go through.
41:05
Of. Course, Yeah.
41:06
And it's funny because it's like when, when I was young, one of
41:12
my friend's moms, like would always tell us like, if you guys
41:18
do it. You're gonna get pregnant,
41:20
right? I know that's when I'm pregnant.
41:22
Like, why then? Right away?
41:23
So worried. So yeah, sorry.
41:26
Yeah, like. Terrified, but it's just so
41:28
crazy. Like I mean, honestly, I hear
41:31
your story, you hear everyone's story and it's just like, I hate
41:34
to say it because it's just like so cliche, but like it.
41:38
I feel like honestly, when everything does align, you know
41:41
it happens and even if it doesn't happen, you know, you go
41:44
to get help and you know, one way or the other.
41:48
I mean, I don't know if you're comfortable, but have you guys
41:50
talked about like adoption or do you guys want to do the IVF and
41:53
then? Do adoption, Yeah, we want to
41:55
try the IVF process first. I mean, I know there's like
41:59
other things we can do, but yeah, we would rather go that
42:05
route first and then if not, we'll probably, you know, go on
42:09
to that Next up. So we haven't really talked
42:13
about that just because we haven't even taken that next
42:16
step. Yeah.
42:16
No, no, of course. Yeah.
42:18
So but you, you know, like, that's good that you guys are
42:21
going to still try to do naturally, but you guys are open
42:25
to other things because that's a huge thing too.
42:28
I know like, some people they like, are like die hard, like
42:31
just, you know, they want to do it the natural way, which I
42:33
understand, you know. Yeah.
42:35
But I mean, at least you guys are open.
42:37
Yeah, to other possibilities. Yeah.
42:39
So that's awesome. Yeah, so.
42:41
You know, just know that you're not alone in your struggle and
42:45
there's so many other people that do go through this, you
42:49
know, and I know it. I feel like it's kind of hard
42:52
because you know, like knowing you go through this, like it's
42:56
kind of hard because I'm like, oh, I feel sometimes bad, like
42:59
sending photos or. Anything and I'm just like a
43:01
whole. And I and obviously that's me.
43:03
Like, yeah, me. Because I'm like, who even
43:06
thinks like? That me.
43:08
But yeah, no, not at all. Yeah.
43:11
You know, like I love Axel and I'm so glad I finally got.
43:16
To Oh my gosh, I know he's almost six months Yes, and he's
43:20
big. He's a he's a bird boy.
43:23
He wears plus size. Dad, stop it.
43:27
No. But yeah, no.
43:28
But honestly, you and Kevin are such a good couple.
43:31
And I'm just like, really happy. Like, maybe this is a good time
43:34
to just really make your relationship the best it can.
43:38
Yeah. Because honestly, once that kid
43:40
comes, I mean, you've seen how it is like, you have to drop
43:42
everything. And it's like, Jace, you know,
43:45
it's a lot. But I hope you guys, you know, I
43:49
know. I hope so, too.
43:49
It happens in any way that it's meant to be.
43:52
Yeah, yeah, I know it will. I just.
43:54
Yeah, I'm impatient. I'm already, you know, pushing
43:58
40. Like almost there.
44:00
Who cares? Yeah, I'm like.
44:03
It doesn't matter. So yeah, we were both like, all
44:06
right, it's time to start, you know, eating healthier.
44:09
And healthy, yeah. Yeah, like let's just be more
44:13
conscious about, you know, what we put into our bodies and start
44:18
working out again. And yeah, that way we're
44:22
prepared for. It awesome.
44:23
Yeah. I really think that that's a
44:25
great idea and I should probably follow that advice as well.
44:30
Yeah, no, I got to start. 1st. All right, you go first, tell me
44:36
how it is and then I'll start. I like the results.
44:41
So anyways, just to kind of end this episode, I just want to say
44:46
thank you so much for being here.
44:48
And I know like sometimes she gets a little anxious and it was
44:51
a lot for her, but I'm so proud of her and just we are proud of
44:56
me. Yeah, I'm proud of you.
44:59
No, I am. I want to tell you like I am so
45:03
proud of who you've become. Yeah.
45:06
You are such a great mom seeing you with.
45:09
Axel, stop. She doesn't make me cry.
45:11
These past two days. Yeah.
45:15
Oh no, girl. Like, you know, I just and now
45:19
doing the podcast, Yeah. And I know it's going to, like,
45:23
help a lot of people. All right, well, once again,
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we're so happy to have you here at Mom Gone Mild.
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And, you know, we have gone through so many UPS, so many
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downs, heart breaks, chaos, happiness.
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We're both each other's maid of honor.
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And. And yeah.
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And honestly, if you're still in that crazy party girl era, hell
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yeah. Have fun.
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Enjoy it because it doesn't like.
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Well, hopefully it doesn't last forever, but oh boy, we're not
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judging, but. I'll probably go back to my
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party girl. Yeah, once I'm in like my 60s.
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Yeah, I was actually thinking, I was like, when I'm older, I
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definitely. Want to like?
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That like girls trip and just like, go on jet skis and do the
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crazy. I mean, hopefully at that age I
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can still do all that. You will.
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Yeah. But I'm excited for the future.
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And yeah, I love you and have a good one, guys.
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As always, we drop on Mondays at 6:00 AM Pacific Time, and you
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can always binge episodes one through 4 on Spotify, Amazon and
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Apple Podcasts. And of course, episode 5, which
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is on YouTube. Have a great week.