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Hypnosis to Reframe Trauma as a Lucky Escape · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's. Adam here.
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  And in today's episode of The Hypnotist, you're going to be
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  listening to a hypnosis session. That was created.
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  For a client that was in the aftermath of quite.
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  A severe assault which they. Found very traumatic and the
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  repercussions of that assault affected where they were living,
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  their ability to earn an income and lots of other things
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  happening in their lives. And not only were they dealing
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  with this kind of feeling of vigilance and on edge, but also
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  the anticipatory fear of, well, what does this mean for their
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  future? How do they sort themselves out
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  in different circumstances? And mainly they were holding on
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  to feelings of sadness, but also anxiety.
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  And that's very natural. I think humans aren't meant for
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  let's say. Life.
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  Changing in an instant and that can happen in very different
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  ways in this. Case it was.
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  An assault. In a different case, it could be
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  losing a job. In another case it could be
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  losing a relationship. But these things where it feels
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  like a rug pull from beneath your feet and everything changes
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  instantly can be very, very unsettling.
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  When I was. Speaking to the client about the
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  way they were describing the assault, I couldn't help but
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  feel that it could have been a lot worse and it's very
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  difficult working with a client where they've been on the
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  receiving end of something unjust, unfair and horrible.
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  To start. Communicating or it could have
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  been much worse because that they can feel to the client.
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  That you're diluting. Or demeaning their experience.
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  But at. The same time there can be ways
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  of communicating that in a way that the client can get to a
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  place. Where they agree.
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  That it could have been worse. When you get to that place,
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  trauma can be reframed as a lucky escape.
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  And in this particular case, one of the things the client did is
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  called a hotline for help. And one of the things that the
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  actual advisor said on the hotline, this is how people end
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  up getting killed. So the client already had a
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  reference point from someone impartial that yes, indeed, it
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  could have been much worse. And that gave me the ability to
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  frame what happened as a lucky escape.
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  Now, you can't change the past, but you can change the meaning
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  that you give to events. So in this you're going to hear
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  two key things. The therapist listening will
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  pick up on a technique which is normally used for phobias.
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  It's an element of stage disassociation and rewind
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  technique or fast phobia cure. But in this case it was helpful
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  because the clients were having intrusive thoughts about things
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  they just experienced. So there's.
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  That that's the. Second part.
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  Of the. Session.
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  The first part uses an induction based in nature, but there's a
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  metaphor there that could enable the client to accept this idea
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  that something can be horrible, unpleasant and at the same time
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  it could have been much worse and therefore maybe it was a
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  lucky escape. So there's a bit going on here
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  if you have been on the receiving end.
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  Of a serious. Assault or something illegal?
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  Obviously. Weren't your options, and it
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  might be that getting the police involved or some form of
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  external, let's say body may be very helpful in your situation
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  depending on what the situation is.
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  This isn't designed to do those things.
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  This is designed to help release an element of the emotion
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  connected to the thing. But please bear in mind it was
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  created for an individual with very specific circumstances.
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  Hopefully this will be beneficial for you.
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  But at the same time, if you feel like a more bespoke session
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  would be helpful, there will be a link in the show notes where
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  you can schedule that free consultation call.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and I won't say enjoy the
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  session, but see if it enables you to reframe something
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  traumatic for you, perhaps in a new way, maybe even a lucky
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  escape. So relax and experience this
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  session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in a slow, deliberately long breath,
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  allowing it to go in through your nose, into your lungs,
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  giving you a feeling of clarity. And as you exhale, allow
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  yourself to release whatever needs to be released.
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  So you're breathing in a sense of resourcefulness and exhaling
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  whatever needs that thing to be let go.
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  And don't be surprised if you breathe in deeper and longer,
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  and as you exhale, you just allow that outward breath to
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  carry on for a few seconds longer than it normally would.
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  Breathing in for longer, breathing out for longer,
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  breathing in resourcefulness and exhaling Anxiety, worries,
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  tension, perhaps even sadness. Whatever needs to be released,
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  allow it to be released. And it doesn't have to be
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  released all in one go. Consider this a transfusion,
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  breathing in the resources you need, slowly displacing what you
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  need to release. So each breath gives you more of
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  what you need and releases that which you don't.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become, the more you notice tension,
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  perhaps around your jaw, forehead, neck or shoulders.
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  To just let go. That's it.
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  And I want you to use the power of your imagination to imagine a
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  lake. And not just any lake, but a
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  lake in nature, beautiful nature that is picturesque.
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  I want you to imagine that to begin with, the lake is choppy,
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  unsettled, almost like there's waves on the lake.
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  And maybe these waves represent an unsettled feeling, chaos.
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  If you think of trauma as the ripples, there was an event that
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  caused those ripples. See it all on the surface of the
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  lake and imagine being by the side of the lake.
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  But notice something interesting.
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  The deeper you breathe in and the longer you breathe out, the
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  more this choppy water seems to calm.
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  I want you to see storm clouds, grey dark clouds in the sky.
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  But as you breathe in deeply and release the breath, the clouds
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  seem to be dissipating. The waves seem to be quietening.
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  I want you to keep doing this. Deep inward breaths.
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  Long outward breaths until there are no waves on the surface.
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  The surface of the lake is still and the sky is blue skies and
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  sunshine. And when you get to that point
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  of blue skies and still waters, let me know about nodding your
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  head. Deeper you breathe, the more
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  relaxed you become, and the more relaxed you become.
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  That's it. The lake becomes still, the sky
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  is blue and you can feel the sunshine on your skin.
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  And somewhere nearby, I want you to see a fisherman with a
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  fishing line, and you can see it going into the lake.
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  And I want you to get a sense that that fisherman has an
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  agenda. It is no friend of the fish.
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  He wants to catch the fish and eat the fish.
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  But it puts something desirable on the end of that hook,
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  something that seems harmless, enjoyable, wonderful.
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  Imagine seeing that bait and the hook under the surface of the
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  water. And just imagine briefly feeling
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  like a fish, seeing that desirable bait and thinking it's
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  totally fine to take this bait, and in doing so feel that you're
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  trapped or caught, maybe even the sensation of the hook
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  piercing your skin, and feel a legitimate, natural sense of
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  panic. The line is now coercing you,
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  drawing you closer to the fisherman, and the fisherman
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  does not have your interests at heart.
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  I want you to feel as you're being reeled in, it feels like
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  there's an escape. I want you to get a sense
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  there's an opportunity and you take it and you wriggle off that
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  hook. Something undesirable happened,
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  but it could have been so much worse.
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  I want you to get a sense that you are now free in the lake and
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  feeling traumatized by what's happened, but at the same time
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  grateful that there's another chance.
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  And then imagine standing on the side of the lake, seeing the
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  fishermen looking frustrated that they nearly got what they
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  wanted, but it didn't go to plan.
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  Allow this metaphor of a fisherman and a fish to mean
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  whatever you want it to mean. See the fisherman leaving empty
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  handed, leaving the lake, not gutting what they want, and now
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  you're just left on the side of the lake on a sunny day, a still
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  lake. But somewhere nearby the side of
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  the lake is a door not connected to a building.
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  A door with a door frame just hovering there by the lake.
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  It seems odd. Why would a door just be next to
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  a lake, not connected to anything?
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  And I want you to imagine standing in front of the door,
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  looking around, seeing that it's just nothing behind the door.
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  But imagine opening the door. And as I count from 5:00 to
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  1:00, you will imagine opening the door and walking into the
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  door and realizing that this is a portal to your own private
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  cinema. Breathing in #5 just imagine
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  putting your hand on the handle of the door 4.
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  Turning the hand or three opening the door, 2 walking
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  through the door and one closing the door behind you and you're
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  no longer by a lake. You are now walking into your
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  own private cinema. But this is a state-of-the-art
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  cinema, no one there but you. And this cinema has not one
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  screen but three screens. I was making it like a panoramic
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  IMAX kind of cinema, but it's not 3 separate screens, one on
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  the left, one in the middle and one on the right, all of it
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  equal sizes. Find the most comfortable chair
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  you can find in this cinema with the perfect view of all three
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  screens. And when you find the right
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  chair, let me know about nodding your head and allow yourself to
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  sink into that chair. Feel so deeply relaxed, a
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  wonderful feeling of relaxation. And I want you to notice
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  something. The left hand screen is you,
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  seeing you at your most resourceful, joyful, light,
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  free, optimistic. See that version of you on the
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  left hand screen, knowing you can do whatever you want and
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  know that's true because it happened.
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  You felt that way. And then on the right hand
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  screen, see yourself one year from now, not surviving, but
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  thriving, living the best life you've ever lived, believing in
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  yourself, full of confidence and courage, but also able to
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  establish boundaries to keep you safe.
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  No dependency. See yourself in that future
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  where you have created a life that's good for you and the
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  people you love the most. As you breathe in and breathe
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  out. Notice the middle screen is
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  blank. Deliberately so, because the
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  middle screen represents an unpleasant moment, something
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  perhaps traumatic, stressful, undesirable.
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  But we're not going to look at that screen from the cinema,
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  we're going to go all the way up to the projector booth.
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  So allow your physical body to stay in that chair, but imagine
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  what it would be like to be the person in the projector booth
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  seeing the cinema screens from a different perspective.
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  But from the projector booth, you can also see yourself
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  relaxed and comfortable in that chair.
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  So you know it's not you in the booth, just your perception.
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  And then what I'd like you to do is imagine playing on that
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  middle screen, that moment that was traumatic, but you will see
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  yourself like an actress on that screen.
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  It isn't you. It's a representation of you.
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  And all I want you to do is to think of a moment that was
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  unpleasant, triggering, traumatic in some way, and see
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  someone looks like you being portrayed on screen.
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  And I want you to imagine playing it forward, knowing that
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  like any movie, you can distort time and perception.
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  You're observing it, and you're seeing it like it's happening to
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  someone else. Imagine playing it from the
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  beginning to the end, but allow the end to be when you feel that
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  the trauma has passed. The end is where you are safe,
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  calm and comfortable, and just play it forward, perhaps once or
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  twice, just to know that you know the structure of that
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  memory. And when you've seen it, let me
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  know by nodding your head. But now we're going to do
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  something unusual now that you know the sequence of the movie.
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  I want you to start at the end and imagine you've got one of
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  those old remote controls where you can rewind things, and just
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  imagine seeing the whole movie happening backwards.
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  It starts at the end, and it goes backwards to before the
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  moment even happened, and therefore it ends when you're
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  fine. So just imagine watching it
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  backwards and when you've seen it in reverse, let me know about
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  nodding your head and then jump back to the end.
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  You're still in the projector booth, still just watching.
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  And make it happen backwards, but this time twice as fast.
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  And again skip back to the end. Watch it backwards three times
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  as fast. Maybe it's so fast it's a blur,
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  or maybe the voice is the sounds.
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  It all feels high pitched because when sounds increase
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  speed, the pitch goes up. Squeaky voice is all happening
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  backwards. That's it.
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  And when you know exactly what happens backwards, then I want
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  you to pause it at the end and imagine stepping into the screen
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  now, feeling in your own body, but now from a first person
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  perspective. Imagine it all happening
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  backwards, feeling like you're talking backwards, driving
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  backwards, walking backwards, moving backwards.
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  It all happens in reverse from a first person perspective.
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  When you get to the end, which is the beginning, then jump back
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  to the end and make it even faster.
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  You're in your own body. Emotions will happen in reverse.
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  Any tightness in your chest or your gut, any twisting happens
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  in reverse. It's all happening backwards.
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  That's it. Jump back to the end and I'm
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  going to make the sound. And as I make that sound, just
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  imagine it all happening backwards at the same speed.
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  Whooshed. Jump back to the end and then
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  whooshed all the way to the beginning.
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  And one final time whooshed. But this time, as you go
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  backwards, find yourself not at the beginning of the memory, but
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  find yourself in the body of you at that left hand screen feeling
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  so resourceful. You're at the end of that movie
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  and all the way back was to now find yourself in a place of pure
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  resourcefulness, feeling light, free, joyful feeling in a good
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  place and just scan your body and notice then certain feelings
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  that may have been there recently seem to be melting
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  away. You feel free and more relaxed
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  that the sympathetic nervous system is dialling down and the
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  parasympathetic nervous system is dialling up.
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  Let's try it one more time. In the moment of trauma and
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  whooshed back in that resourceful state back in your
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  body when you felt great. And now jump back to the
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  projector booth. And this time let's decide how
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  you would have wanted that traumatic moment to have been.
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  We can't change the past, but we can change emotional
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  associations. So imagine seeing it from the
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  projector booth, playing forward the way you would have wanted it
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  to have been. Maybe see yourself being more
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  assertive, making different decisions, having clearer
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  boundaries, making different choices or behaviours.
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  But notice how resourceful you look in this middle screen.
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  Now you're reminded of that version of you in the left hand
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  screen, but now in the middle screen.
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  And by harnessing these resources, observe it happening
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  the way you would have wanted. And this is just your
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  imagination. In your imagination, the fish
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  being caught by the fisherman could jump out of the lake and
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  punch the fisherman in the nose before going back in the lake.
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  Just your imagination. That's Zen.
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  So allow yourself to make what happens in that middle screen
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  doesn't have to be logical, feasible, even possible.
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  It's what you want it to be, to feel free of that memory, that
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  moment. Maybe the tables turn.
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  Maybe something happens where you foil their plan before it
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  even happens. What if you need to see?
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  Allow it to see and just keep changing the scenario until you
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  find one that emotionally resonates with you.
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  Feels like yes, if that happened, that would be amazing.
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  And then play it forward. And if when you're playing it
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  forward, you feel admiration, respect, perhaps even a sense of
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  pride of that version of you in that middle screen, let me know
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  by nodding your head. Play it forward just a few times
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  just to get a sense of the structure.
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  And when you feel like you know the structure of that new movie
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  in the middle screen, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And then take it back to the beginning and then drift.
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  From the projector booth. Into the screen and you are now
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  stepping into your body, but now living it the way you would have
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  wanted it to have been. And notice the feelings of
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  resourcefulness within. Calm, confident, strong,
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  decisive, Whatever the resources you needed most, feel them.
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  They're not there logically, they're there emotionally.
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  Harness them and then feel like you're living that moment the
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  way you would have wanted it to have been, feeling resourceful,
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  powerful. And when it gets to the end,
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  jump back to the beginning and just do it a few times until it
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  really feels like you're updating your neurology,
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  creating new associations, a new meaning perhaps, and what you
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  feel is happening the way you would have wanted it to.
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  It feels like an experience rather than a thought.
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  Let me know by nodding your head.
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  And then feel that as a result of this new meaning, this new
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  association, this helps you become that version of you one
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  year from now, thriving. So now move into that third
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  screen, your future and feel how good it feels to be thriving,
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  not just surviving, not settling.
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  Feel like you're living your absolute best life on your
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  terms. Feeling, in a strange way, that
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  you can be grateful for the past because it forged this new
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  version of you. 500 years ago, the strongest and most desirable
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  swords were the ones that were beaten and forged in fire to
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  become strong and powerful. I want you to feel in that
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  future, what if your moments of adversity didn't break you, they
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  made you. I want you to get a sense of
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  feeling that you have unlocked something powerful within you
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  and then drift back to the projector booth and now see that
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  all three screens are seeing you.
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  Confident and resourceful. See a moment of the past where
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  you were at your very best. See the middle screen where
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  you're rewriting history on your terms and see yourself in the
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  future, thriving. Imagine stepping into any one of
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  those moments, the past, the present, and the future, and it
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  all feels great. And then imagine floating down
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  from the projector booth, back in your body in that comfy chair
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  in the cinema, also seeing that all three screens from a
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  slightly different angle. Show yourself resourceful,
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  empowered and living life the way you choose.
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  It's time to leave this cinema. But you leave knowing that what
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  if something horrible that happened was a lucky escape?
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  And what if that lucky escape was meant to happen?
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  To take your life to a new level, a level of thriving that
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  you've never experienced yet. And I want you to feel that your
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  life is moving in an optimistic, positive direction.
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  And as you leave the cinema, you walk out of a door and find
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  yourself by the side of a lake, feeling that you're not quite
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  the same person that arrived at the lake.
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  The clouds are now blue skies, the rough waters are now still,
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  and perhaps you feel lighter, stronger, more optimistic than
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  you did before. Stop to leave that lake and as
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  you do so, take a deep breath in through your nose and out
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  through your nose. Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle
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  your toes. Start to calibrate with the here
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  and now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456.
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  More alerts 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you for listening to The
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